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 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 40 (view)
 
was he using her or did he want a relationship?
Posted: 2/7/2013 2:39:47 AM

he poisoned the water by tipping off his live-in girlfriend and let her do all the dirty work

BECAUSE HE was the live-in(moocher) and wanted her to be his new residence until a better offer would come along...
and she would only be the temporary "better offer...or not"...this is the way of a 'good playar'.....and yes..the women DO enable themselves to be played....
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Behaviors of men
Posted: 2/15/2009 11:58:17 AM

swtthang2008 on 10/16/2008 110 PM
Subject: Behaviors of men
Message: Funny you say that. He told me he'd been married but had been divorced for 4 months when I met him


I have a good one that tops any ever thought of...which is...my ex told me when we first met...he had"just got a divorce.Go check it out at the courthouse!"..sounded good so if I had checked it out..would have found it true...BUT he FAILED to add that it was from wife number 3 and he was CURRENTLY MARRIED to wife number 4! And.....I didn't even find all the information about that until divorce papers came right before I became wife number 5 !!! ...which was the day AFTER he turned 24 yrs old!!!

He was divorced from wife number 7 the last my ex-in-laws informed me....and living out of his car.....poor "playa" ......
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
 
why do we go back?
Posted: 2/15/2009 11:42:46 AM

.... time brings back memories of the love once shared....
reconciliation brings back memories of why we ran away!!!!


unless there was a misunderstanding because one "loves" by "committee"...listens to others who don't know all the facts and draw their conclusions upon falsehoods...then the reconcilliation can be good..to clear up unfinished business...or can settle it and depart...still either way the relationship will be "reconcilled in agreement" ...no wondering why on either side...and you can't UNLOVE.....you can put it aside and let it go on it's way....

 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 106 (view)
 
G-spot fun!
Posted: 9/12/2008 9:17:02 PM
Can we get some more testimonials in here?


yep...and even though I posted here earlier...now I have had both the lecture and the lab and it is WONDERFUL!!! I found my own G-spot...but having a b/f find and repeat is the best of all......minimum of 6 times in a row...and OMG....didn't know I was a gusher....that warm feeling of "Here it comesssssss" can not be described with enough praise for the lover who brings it on...and oh me...again...and again.....lost count on morning before leaving for airplane....but left a 27" to 30" "spot" on bed....consider it a trophy! He helps me get to that "almost here" feeling by informing me when my "pillow of pleasure" has filled up again and is about to erupt!!! Too bad I left him with "carpel tunnel" cause 20 times was my goal...met it several times....lol.... We would have to rest sometimes so I could catch my breath...but man oh man...yes it does make me horny and can't wait till chores are done so we can go "Baptize" the sheets!....and when you are retired...chores dont have a schedule!!! lol!
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 147 (view)
 
Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 9/2/2008 10:57:52 AM
Intelligence can be further broken down to "street smarts"..."book smarts"...and "common sense".....and of course "emotional intelligence" which without causes MANY relationships of all kinds to fail...
But..."general..overall intelligence" is VERY SEXY"! The largest sex organ of all is THE BRAIN...some just don't know how to use it....
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 852 (view)
 
Long hair on older women
Posted: 6/28/2008 9:58:02 PM
my dear....these are your words...heed them...
certainly a personal choice indeed...........still others refuse
LIKE YOU!
to even attempt to understand



I now have long hair and it does look better than the short"old woman" haircut did... I wonder though...why you comment so much ...yet can't even post a picture of yourself....do you have hair of any kind???
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
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My Work, My Man
Posted: 6/28/2008 9:35:27 PM
Beaming...this is the most important line of all...and the most beautiful...if only it could be experienced by everyone.....I did experience it once....and dream of experiencing it at least once more while I can......
Embraces all that I am, as a woman and a human being. And accepts me.


I so long to be safe....protected by someone who loves me....and understands me...and accepts me for who I am.....unconditionally....
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
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High divorce rates in the US
Posted: 6/6/2008 11:15:47 PM
Most people who "marry" are in love with "love" or the idealistic verson of it...then reality hits and so they do not stay to work out something they didnt take slow enough to work on in the first place....There are also lots of marriages of "convenience"...I had a couple of those...when it is not convenient anymore...they split...no long term marriage/committment like in the old days...even when women had it bad...they still stayed...Today even if they have it "good"...they dont stay since the grass looks greener on the other side.....I sometimes wish "marriages" were brokered and had to stay that way for 10 yrs...but had to be "engaged" for at least 3 yrs to see if the "match was really there....astrologically...emotionally...family /socially matched or no marriage...lol...not so many divorces then...but under certain circumstances...divorce should be allowed...just not over puny reasons!!!
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Meds...I need some advice
Posted: 4/10/2008 9:10:28 PM
As, an adult would you date someone who was still taking it? or who just got on it?



I would like to ask you this question:

I know of kids that WEAR GLASSES , you know those things that COVER YOUR EYES AND AREN'T NATURAL when you can not focus clearly. As, an adult would you

date someone who was still
WEARING THEM?
or who just got
THEM?
Does this constitute for them being crazy as adults or having major issues? Im a little leary now......
because I have not asked the doctors why they have to have anything to help them focus.


ADD/ADHD is the result(the name describing attention defficent disorder with /without hyperactivity) of chemicals in the brain in unbalanced proportions that allow the person to focus on activities at hand without attending to all distractions within hearing,viewing,tasting,touching, or even speaking without misfirings of the neurons. Compare it to the above substitutions and then you can answer your own question......as well as other people who are afraid of anything they have little knowledge about!
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Raw and emotionally exposed....Dear Diary thoughts
Posted: 3/23/2008 6:04:50 AM
Weeping Willow…..

I cannot sleep......the smell of the rain as well as the sound of the crackling swish blowing the heavenly tears upon my windows and walls and roof between me and the world outside.....that world which I seemed to be excluded from.....but not safe and secure from it either...

I rained my own tears.....felt the wetness run down my cheeks....onto my pillow...silently....no thrashing like the sounds from outside....but thrashing inside my being just as fiercely......

With a craving as intense as any desired food which is out of reach...I tasted the delicious satisfaction for only a brief moment before I realized it was not a taste at all...just another unfulfilled craving....out of reach also....not to be in my diet of life's pleasures...

Of the senses which create our completeness when imbibed, the mind lets the body think it is feeling the touch of another....the warmth of the body…the firmness of being held....security...serenity...calm with the safety of being swaddled with love.....

But it is not there....missing...empty...void…a cavern...dark and deep where the vacuum of despair begins to call out to anyone who may hear the silent cries....and care enough to lend a temporary caress...hug...kiss as gentle as if not to disturb a sleeping newborn by the new mother with her fragile new life dependant upon her....

I cry....I hurt....I am now the weeping willow whose branches sway in the wind...unbreakable like a strong Oak standing firm and making a statement of "Here I am... savor my strength!", or the towering Elm with leaves on branches providing shelter from the sun saying,"Come rest in the shade I provide", or any tree bearing fruit to sustain new life and old... not one which is beautiful with flowers all can admire, but an unit of nature ...out of place...no usefullness determined, except to appear to be weeping...for all the others who know not how to express the purposelessness felt..... and yet is a beauty unto it's own....

I am the weeping willow......


..... ......
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Seeing someone for the first time in a different STATE! Need advise
Posted: 3/22/2008 1:17:08 PM
update on post made here on 2-19-07 by me.....


I shall be going for it because I feel safe...and I will enjoy all the sightseeing plus PERHAPS find my one and only......who knows?????


Meeting someone out of state? Mine got COLD FEET !!! He had no contact AT ALL for 10 days prior to departure scheduled! Then sent message as follows:"I'm ok. Moving on."

So I can not give advice.....because mine never happened after all...It was all a DREAM!! Distance makes the imaginary expectations we have painfully real that they are only expectations...and distance makes them only more expensive in time and $$$..... meeting for first time is hard wherever it occurs if only across town....so make sure it is as real as can possibly be detected....unless you want the big whammy of a heartbreak and expenses!!!
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 173 (view)
 
for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor?
Posted: 3/2/2008 6:43:15 PM
bucsgirl...you said it very clearly and to the point....depends on what you are looking for! That is the key ingredient!
I was left by my last husband because my $$$ ran out! I never had that much to begin with...but after surviving being run over by an 18 wheeler and getting a settlement, and then "finding a new romance" I was blind to the "gold digging" situation...and when I announced that I was not going to pay for groceries any more or stuff since he quit working...suddenly he left for greener pastures ....so yes $$$$ always plays a part in it....the reason why differs though.
As long as two people can agree on whatever the money arrangement is comfortable for them...then it is all ok...if not mutually agreeable and UNDERSTSTOOD ....then it is only a problem waiting to happen!

 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 94 (view)
 
Scientists' row over G spot nears a climax
Posted: 3/2/2008 12:29:22 AM
OMG>>>>>I can't believe all this controversy still....you peeps...the g-spot in the female is the same as the prostrate in the male! There have been other threads on this subject that has quoted and explained the "sameness" of this organ...and the "explosive orgasims" for both males and females...As far as "evolution"....the thought that age of the female would "evolve" into having a "g-spot" is hilarous....does a male 's prostrate evolve as he gets older????Does his penis suddenly begin to be more than a urinary tract when he gets a hard on and not before????What is there in our body is there! How it is stimulated and the feelings (and ejaculations produced or not) comes with understanding what you are dealing with. People!!!! Learn the male and female anatomy....it was made for procreation and for RECREATION! Enjoy...discover...explore...learn and teach...and oh me oh my...what pleasures you shall find!!!!

 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Power Plays
Posted: 2/28/2008 11:21:21 AM
Travis says it the best of all when he said:
1. No one has any control over you but what you give them
2. No one can make you do, feel or think anything you don't want to. All they can do is try to limit your options.


 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
What is the most embarassing story you have about 'toys' ?
Posted: 2/27/2008 1:26:01 PM
Hi op....
this is embarassing but endearing also.....
Since I live in a very small remote town, and my daughter lives in a large metro city, her access to such stores are much better than mine....I had told her(we do have a close relationship ) that my replacement version of "The Magic Wand"just wasn't what I wanted but had not a clue what would be better...(Her father gave me The Magic Wand for a Valentine's gift so he could keep his girlfriends happy and I could make myself happy...lol)...anyway....she took me downtown to a shop her friends own...and it is one where you can pick up the merchandise and feel the power...or not...the touch of the covers which you can not tell online...lol....etc...and when I had chosen something(with 5 speeds ) and we went to check out, as I was paying, my daughter said...."Oh by the way...this is MY MOTHER!" and the clerk couldn't count the change out correctly...so I just said...keep it!....lol...quite a hoot!!!
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Seeing someone for the first time in a different STATE! Need advise
Posted: 2/19/2008 11:45:10 AM
Hi and I am in the same situation...sorta....

My guy lives several states away....but wants to meet for LUNCH only to see if we want to take it further...He will provide the airline travel and pay for any travel costs I have to get to the airline(I am 90 mi from the nearest airport!) We have been chatting online(not here) since July....
HE SAID I should stay in a hotel (by myself) IF we spend more than a few hours together on the LUNCH date.
This is a very refreshing and gentlemanly thing to do! I do feel much better about it...

He is "my prince"! We are renewing a relationship that someone jealous tried to break us apart...but when feelings are allowed to take the time necessary, then the whole situation is much better!

And, a word of caution, on the news a few days ago....a 36 yr old mom was shot(her 12 yr old was IN THE HOUSE!) when she met someone from online...and he even came to her!!! and SHOT HER>>>>DEAD!!! So....meeting "from the net" is very tricky....especially when there is great distance.....

I shall be going for it because I feel safe...and I will enjoy all the sightseeing plus PERHAPS find my one and only......who knows?????


 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 1143 (view)
 
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/18/2008 12:17:12 AM
Older WOMEN are into MEN...younger...same age or older....but MEN.....

Younger guys....like you....need to look for gals......younger would still be older than you...cause you are still a boy.......and girls always date boys older than they are in order for the boys to be even close to the girl's age of maturity.......

so hun...dry behind the ears before asking for a date with a WOMAN!
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Does Friends first ever really work?
Posted: 2/17/2008 11:42:19 PM
I think it does...mainly because you have to be friends to be lovers...otherwise it is not "lovers".....it is "lusters".....it's the length of "friendship" and the depth that can "mature" into love...then even into" eros" instead of staying at "agape".....true "eros" usually has a "chemical" ignition...but a smouldering ash can burst into flame if kindled just right...and a burning flame can be smothered with out passion of "agape"...otherwise...lust is lust.....wham bam...thank you mam...next?
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 1108 (view)
 
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/8/2008 11:27:43 PM
and just why is
not older like 65, but between say 30-45 if therye good looking
the age given of 65 as if it's a zombie???
Do you mean a certain amount of years older than you??? You do get older every year you know and someday 65 may be younger than you! and much better looking then too! ....... says a 65 year old woman....Duh!
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
should i wait?
Posted: 2/8/2008 9:30:32 AM
op,
as I was informed once, your gut tells you that you are being played...listen to it!
Secondhand handouts are not are not firsthand quality....you get what you wait for....

and "losing you"?...sure he doesn't want to lose "another on the side"...or the front, or back, or where ever he has the others either....
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 173 (view)
 
stronger women live hard lives 2
Posted: 2/5/2008 10:36:56 PM
The following poem is by Bird on a Wire
He wrote it in response to the poem
Princess of Yore

With his permission it is reposted here
We women must realize we are already "queens" in our own right....
***********************************************************
Fairy tales

Locked up in the tower
No ladders or stairs
The princess reflected
And long grew her hair
Self inflicted isolation
She threw away the key
Swore she wanted to be alone
Never again to be free
Many suitors came calling
She spurned all who came
Her heart had been broken
But every man was to blame
She had been deceived
Not once but twice
Never again she swore
Would she be spurned thrice
All men where vipers
Their tongues forked and pointed
Their speech was shallow
Their promises disjointed
She had waited for a king
She had ended up with a knave
She very nearly allowed
Herself to be enslaved
Then one morn
Several years thereafter
She woke up from the past
To face the hereafter
She heard laughter
She heard joy
She heard songs in the breeze
She heard a lute and a harp
That played melodies that teased
Lightness and dance again filled the air
This promise the princess to herself did swear
No more time would be lost
No more time would be spent
On false hopes and false dawns
Now she would repent
She would ask for forgiveness
From herself and move on
With no more time to squander
She would sing her own song
She did not need wizards
She did not need kings
For she realised at last
She was already a Queen
Come all who would listen
Come all to join in
No more time to waste
For that would be a sin


Thanks Bird....
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Do you have a cam? Do you MMOL?
Posted: 2/5/2008 10:21:24 PM
well peeps...out of 19 replies...1 might if long distance relationship, 2 do, and rest said either no way or how disgusting.....

Thanks for the answers....good to know it's not as prevelent as some would have you think!


 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 121 (view)
 
If you are over 50, would you rather marry same age or younger?
Posted: 2/5/2008 4:15:17 PM
oh Dave!



OTOH...as a woman, when I am over 50, what do I want? I think I'd go for a man younger than me



But that depends if a younger guy wants to be with an older woman who he will have to cart around in a wheelchair not to mention she will be all wrinkly and grey.


just what older women do you know anyway?...younger men and older women are best fit for "rematching" after divorces when BOTH are over 45...the man ages REAL FAST and the woman has already aged and is slowing down on aging...matter of fact...after menopause...there is a resurgance in sex drive and so the woman needs a younger man if back on the market!!!!

If I had aged with my man...then it wouldn't matter his age...I would love him even if he had to Viagra it up...but as for getting back into the playground...younger guys are the only way to go for me...and I am 65! and because of my genetics...I may be around a long time (my mom is 95 and aunt 101) and I don't want to out live several "older"men...nor meet and marry in time to "take care of them" and get no care for me!!!
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Do you have a cam? Do you MMOL?
Posted: 1/30/2008 3:24:57 PM
With the cam so easy to use now in IMs, do you MMOL?
(my term for Mutual Masterbation On Line) ...
It seems that this is the "jump the gun" question on IMs...just barely beyond the Hi, My name is......Why do men think if a girl's pic is with a cam, she is willing to do MMOL? And to "show themself" as if it's a prize?

 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
What is "dating material"?
Posted: 1/29/2008 2:20:33 PM

you arent dating material but they still think youre attractive enough to get with.


Dating is dating....checking each other out...but for what reason? What changes when you are no longer "dating material"?
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Poems, Quotes and Sun Sign Advice---
Posted: 1/29/2008 1:11:53 PM
Why have one woman when you can have many
Oh I do so love Betty, Pammy, Judy and Jenny
We can't understand why we can't get true mates


sounds like my 2nd husband????er...one I married...and did that when I was 27 and he was 24+one day....and I was his wife #5....!!!


But we don't really like to spend time on new dates


oh he did...only married to rest! got all his.? loving??.....from his dates....last I heard #7 had left him......but that was 20 yrs ago...who knows how many he "married" to rest.....and live off of them while resting......


oh yes...those Aries! quite full of themselves!
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 55 (view)
 
ADHD, medicating kids..
Posted: 1/29/2008 12:19:31 PM
angelpyke
"Oh ....and to be clear...I am not referring to MY daughter....if she were medicated....I would NEVER get her out of bed!!!!hehehe!"

is funny because my daughter was diagnosed with ADD(not ADHD) and only AFTER she was on Ritlin could I get her out of bed! I could shake her, yell at her, use a wet cloth on her, and drag her literaly out of bed and she would still be very groggy....She was not getting rest when "sleeping" because her mind could not stop at night..(like mine.. still goes 90 miles per min...yet body crawls......I am ADD and Chronic Fatigue)
Psycharist also suggested she drink a Coke before bedtime...the caffine that is a stimulant acts as a downer to those of us with "speeding brains"....
And I "inheirited"ADD from her...lol...meaning she was diagnosed first..then me...and I went to psycho/neurologist for her because she was having "misfirings" and thought perhaps an episode of epilipsy was occuring...(I am also a Special Education teacher) Incident to cause this was: she would shower and tell "Mom, the shower just gets faster and faster and I'm moving faster and faster too...but it doesnt stop!" Her brain was firing faster than normal and it scared her to no end...she was actually coming in and out of consciousness because of the brain mis-firing like epilesy does.
And this Dr. also shared the farmer/hunter theory with clients/patients at lectures he gave to to the public on how to handle ADD/ADHD in children/adults.
He also was doing research on Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and the cause/effects of Epstein Barr and cytomeglavirus in it.
I agree with the posters who have kids or themselves who KNOW the difference it makes on medication when it is correctly diagnosed....I also know from an educators view dealing with parents who think medication is bad for it.
I was prescribed Dexadrine back in the 60's for weight loss, and actually focused better and didn't know why....now I understand...I take/took Ritlin, then Adderal ( Ritlin and dexadrine salts combination) and it does help me attempt to complete tasks better....but also behavioral aids like a daytimer help with "structuring" my day....The old quote about "Want something done? Give it to a busy person!" is because they are good at multi-tasking....be they farmers or hunters!
And "hyper-focusing" is tuning out everything except that which is being concentrated upon!....that is why some kids(or spouses) don't hear you, they are "focused" on something else...and opposite but in ADD, you are either "focused" or hear everything around you...anything that moves or makes a sound, or change in temp, or touches you, or any senory perception is ultra heightened...thus the "Hunter" attributes!

and, ADD...we talk on and on and on...so better go for now or I will never stop...lol!!!

 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
When to pack it up and move on ????
Posted: 1/25/2008 11:32:45 PM
op.....you are his girlfriend when it is convenient for him and it makes you feel good to hear him say you are g/f.... only his close friends are all you have met??? Which friends? The ones that are in on the "let's see how long we can play this one along" joke you are becoming??? Move on now hun...you are only a big joke! Do you really want to be what others laugh at????:
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 841 (view)
 
Let an accomplished screenwriter rate your profile. C'mon. Try me!
Posted: 12/21/2007 12:10:55 AM
Pre-screen...post-screen....over screen, under screen....
I'll screeM if you don't screen and get me where I need to be....
.not getting any younger...but....the guys are.....



get me a or even better a guy of my own.
.for ONLY ME
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Eharmony record shattered couple talk on phone for 6 hours 49 min. by POF'ers
Posted: 12/18/2007 11:40:35 PM
On POF....

Instant messaged and then switched to phone.
Began at 7:50 pm and hung up phone as sun was coming up at 5:40 am for total time of 9 hrs and 50 min.... Was as if had 4 or 5 dates for topics discussed.....
In person face-to-face got canceled because of job, and 24/on 24 off stiffled future contacts, since was a 90 mi. one way drive....after several more IM/phone calls....decided to be "friends for now"......translation....no face-to-face...no real proof of chemistry to continue....... but marvelous while lasted......
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Home Alone For the
Posted: 12/18/2007 10:35:23 PM
OP...yes it's very hard...but it doesn't get any easier unless you get busy doing something for someone else as mentioned by others....but the big day itself is Jesus' Birthday..so I can celebrate that, but it is the whole season that is hard to deal with...on any of the Holidays....especially when it is celebrated by a couple...or mother and child, or etc......any advertisement that is a tear jerker only reminds me that I am alone...period.

I wrote a poem in the POEMS AND QUOTES thread under "Holidays", so I won't repost here, but it would fit good here too.

This year I will be even sadder since the only unconditional love I have is from my silver yorkie that (due to requests) I have to leave alone during the holidays when we are unseparatable daily. And when I arrive 2000 miles away, I will have to find my own way from the airport because my family is "too busy and that is too late to get you
on Christmas Eve." So, sometimes being alone with yourself, whom by now you should have learned to love because you deserve it, is better than to be with others who don't understand the pain you have.....especially since it has been 20 years since the "family tree" was put up with the special ornaments, and all the other memories are revisited since no new ones have replaced them yet.

Oh well...this too shall pass....hug someone and you both will feel better...
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
How to move on after so long?
Posted: 12/18/2007 9:52:11 PM
OP, I'm sorry to be so blunt, but did it ever occur to you, although you ignored many red flags , that you were not the only sucker he was licking? for instance:


Then, after a lot of mixed signals and him telling me that pretty much he doesn't want a relationship but if he does, he would come to me, I asked him the ultimate question whether he still had feelings for me or not. He never answered, tried to dodge the question.


Of course he would dodge the question! What would you have felt if he said,"Yes baby, you are the best one in my stable! If I had a relationship with any of my girls, I would probably choose you because you are so easy to fool." Would you be feeling the same way if he had put it in those words???? Well, hun...I just said it for him....now go out, head up, and let a good guy know you are available to give and receive love...not be a notch on a "player's" belt/bedpost....(depending on how much he got you to "fall" for him.).....)
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 102 (view)
 
at what age was sex the best?
Posted: 12/18/2007 1:08:05 AM
Heyyyyy..... as everyone seems to agree, older you are the better it gets....and although sleeping beauty here has missed a few years....I'm ready to go till least 95...and that's another 30 years!!!!

And I don't mind making up for lost time either....
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
:crying:Open My Eyes Today:crying:
Posted: 12/15/2007 10:39:23 PM
Lady....well spoken....

I feel the same emotions...but mine didn't love me...nor would ever use terms of endearment...was because I said "I love you" that I was dumped...but the tears are the same.... I posted a poem on it today..."Sweet Vidalia"... and this too shall pass...we just have to hang in there....

 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
The Holidays
Posted: 12/15/2007 9:49:55 PM
HOLIDAYS

Holidays come and go….and come again.
I watch others enjoy…and remember when…

Parties, loud gatherings, quiet relaxation with a cup of tea,
Hustle…bustle…Remembering the way it used to be.

“Hello! How are you?. Nice to see you again!”
Replying with smiles covering the aching pain.

That emptiness which only the lonely can know.
Expert at expressions hiding feelings so low.

What’s it like to have a hug for just no reason?
Why should we wait until the Holiday Season?

Sharing our blessings is what it should be about!
Caring for others who have been doing without.

I want! I need! Get it for me!
And when? And how?
Not then! But now!
Materialistic Prosperity!

When money is gone , then what will you do?
You hope there is someone who cares for you.

A time to appreciate the love of a friend,
Someone who knows where you have been.

So holidays may come and holidays may go,
Someone needs a friend, thought I’d let you know.

Let the sad times go away, a thing of the past
Give a hug today. Make the good feeling last.



 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Yesterday
Posted: 12/15/2007 7:28:41 PM
This is for those who have fallen prey to sweet talkers.
and we remember the yesterdays.......



My Sweet Vidalia

I touched you with my mind,
You touched me back in kind.

For us to be together, we set a time and place.
Carefully a date was made to meet me face-to-face

Who you were revealed to me, one layer at a time
Gave glimpses of a future that never would be mine.

And later I discovered, not a treasure did I find.
But, my Sweet Vidalia, it was only in my mind.

We chatted every day, sometimes once or twice,
But to dump me like you have, has fallen short of nice.

You dumped me none too gently, without a bit of pain.
Shrugged shoulders, and moved on…the more for you to gain.

Casting net upon the waters, calling out for “next?”
How can I warn the innocent, so they will not be hexed?

Oh you were good, so very good, among the very best.
You left me anticipating, but mistrustful of the rest.

And why did you dump me thus? What was it I had done?
I used the words ”I love you”, for use had you none!




 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
truth and love
Posted: 12/15/2007 5:19:28 PM
This is for those who have fallen prey to sweet talkers.



My Sweet Vidalia

I touched you with my mind,
You touched me back in kind.

For us to be together, we set a time and place.
Carefully a date was made to meet me face-to-face

Who you were revealed to me, one layer at a time
Gave glimpses of a future that never would be mine.

And later I discovered, not a treasure did I find.
But, my Sweet Vidalia, it was only in my mind.

We chatted every day, sometimes once or twice,
But to dump me like you have, has fallen short of nice.

You dumped me none too gently, without a bit of pain.
Shrugged shoulders, and moved on…the more for you to gain.

Casting net upon the waters, calling out for “next?”
How can I warn the innocent, so they will not be hexed?

Oh you were good, so very good, among the very best.
You left me anticipating, but mistrustful of the rest.

And why did you dump me thus? What was it I had done?
I used the words ”I love you”, for use had you none!
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Poems, Quotes and Sun Sign Advice---
Posted: 12/14/2007 4:46:48 PM
heyyyy you sags out there.....

I'm a leo...fire..with sag rising...more fire.....
looking for a sag of my very own....
.wow...fire...fire...fire and???
come on home!

am romantic...and poetic
comedy..and tradegy...
future hopes....yet to dream,
and my past.....old history.

age is just a number...
it gets bigger every year....
I'm shooting for one hundred,
and adventure filled too, dear!

I 'm an expert at flirting,
I really love to tease,
I've had my share of hurting,
Need you to love me please!

Other signs are welcome...
but you must consider this,
Leo's can be passionate,
determined by your kiss!

Don't try to fence me in,
Chinese sign is horse!
Butterflies are free,
both like me! Of course!

Purple is my color,
the one for royality!
I am the Queen of signs!
The lion!...yep that's me!

If you think that you can handle me
you're most welcome to try,
but here is fair warning given...
don't EVER to me LIE!

Don't let me scare you away
with all of my ranting!
This Leo does it all...
roaring...purring...panting!

 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 157 (view)
 
stronger women live hard lives 2
Posted: 12/13/2007 9:19:41 PM
This is an epic poem of a Princess, a deceptive Wizard, and a Prince
And the fate of the Princess in this segment
( and yes, true story in fantasy form)



Princess of yore, revelations more

The Wizard

Princess so bold, with stories untold
Neither meek nor mild, this former wild-child

Fell prey to a magical wizard whose whim
Made women to think he spoke only of them.

He played with women and stole their heart,
With no feelings of real at all on his part.

Proclaimed with pride a “Shadow Lover”
For in real life, could he be no other?

Like Shakespeare he spoke with florid illusion,
By reading comes one to erroneous conclusion.

Her heart she wished to give to another
But the truth of the matter, he could not bother

The Prince


Her prince spun fantacies for her every night,
She waited impatiently with impending delight.

This prince, this counselor, who gave others advice,
Whose voice she heard nevermore than twice.

He vowed never be loved nor love again,
Was fearful of causing others such pain.

The Betrayal

But being the princess’ object of devotion,
A cruel jealous plot the Bard set into motion.

He made a reply to the princess’ prose plea,
And signed as if from the prince, but t’was he.

The princess was shattered, then furious, broken hearted,
But the Bard, he just laughed , and then he departed.

The Princess

The Princess to her prince, she tried to explain
But t’was of no use. Was to be all in vain.


So the princess, sequestered in her tower so tall,
Dreams of being loved and loving most of all.

Will the prince ever forgive the misunderstanding?
Will he return to her without love be demanding?

He could still tell her fantacies, t’would be her delight,
She longs for his company with her every night.

He can roam daily both here and about,
But their conversation, she can’t do without.

Never met in person, but was planned for one day.
Even that dream must now pass away.

The princess looks both to the future and past,
On loves she has known, and none did they last.

Will there ever be one of her own to adore?
Toads, frogs to kiss, how many more?

Always a princess, never a queen….
Where is her man, her one, her king?



Princess of yore, revelations more……
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Share Your Broken Heart Poetry
Posted: 12/13/2007 8:53:36 PM
This is an epic poem of a Princess, a deceptive Wizard, and a Prince
And the fate of the Princess in this segment
( and yes, true story in fantasy form)



Princess of yore, revelations more

The Wizard

Princess so bold, with stories untold
Neither meek nor mild, this former wild-child

Fell prey to a magical wizard whose whim
Made women to think he spoke only of them.

He played with women and stole their heart,
With no feelings of real at all on his part.

Proclaimed with pride a “Shadow Lover”
For in real life, could he be no other?

Like Shakespeare he spoke with florid illusion,
By reading comes one to erroneous conclusion.

Her heart she wished to give to another
But the truth of the matter, he could not bother

The Prince


Her prince spun fantacies for her every night,
She waited impatiently with impending delight.

This prince, this counselor, who gave others advice,
Whose voice she heard nevermore than twice.

He vowed never be loved nor love again,
Was fearful of causing others such pain.

The Betrayal

But being the princess’ object of devotion,
A cruel jealous plot the Bard set into motion.

He made a reply to the princess’ prose plea,
And signed as if from the prince, but t’was he.

The princess was shattered, then furious, broken hearted,
But the Bard, he just laughed , and then he departed.

The Princess

The Princess to her prince, she tried to explain
But t’was of no use. Was to be all in vain.


So the princess, sequestered in her tower so tall,
Dreams of being loved and loving most of all.

Will the prince ever forgive the misunderstanding?
Will he return to her without love be demanding?

He could still tell her fantacies, t’would be her delight,
She longs for his company with her every night.

He can roam daily both here and about,
But their conversation, she can’t do without.

Never met in person, but was planned for one day.
Even that dream must now pass away.

The princess looks both to the future and past,
On loves she has known, and none did they last.

Will there ever be one of her own to adore?
Toads, frogs to kiss, how many more?

Always a princess, never a queen….
Where is her man, her one, her king?



Princess of yore, revelations more……


To be continued….P.S…. yes, the Princess is me….
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 89 (view)
 
What we missed ...last time!
Posted: 12/9/2007 12:58:46 AM
and tonight......

Looking at his picture…let weeping begin….
Tears of sadness for what
Should of …..
...... Could of….
..........Would of…..
...... have been....






gee...it hurts...but helps to put emotions into verse....
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 88 (view)
 
What we missed ...last time!
Posted: 12/8/2007 11:50:16 PM

The future is not ours to see
The past is whatever it was.
But the present is …
up to you and me.


well spoken.. gennegem.....true foreverafter
my twist is:

We cannot tell tomorrow.
Who cares what used to be...if it only causes sorrow?
What we have is here...and now...
the present for us to open.....but how?
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Softly Sensual...
Posted: 12/7/2007 2:13:46 AM

Lust, in its definition was mine to righteously abuse
To lure another heart with flattery’s distortion
Take advantage of what was mine, to sexually amuse
With a demanding lust, through amorous extortion



The above quote from "Taught to Love" by It's_me_again
inspires the following exclamation :

I Am My own Treasure Island


It was he who came in the early morning light,
whispering beautiful words to my mind,
when without forewarning and darkness of night,
he destroyed my future dreams , so unkind.

He stole from me hope he had earlier given,
his words easily flowed, so elequently spoken.
He cared not little for pain to me delivered,
nor that I now was shattered and broken.

Soft did he love me,once gently proclaimed,
but jealousy reared it's monstrous head,
and now his intentions of cruelty are blamed
for the new life within me like leeches have bled

Knew he not I longed to be his treasure
even tho earlier told would be his muse,
I suffer yet for his disposable pleasure
by the hand of man ,again, another abuse.

Will I ever be treasure for someone to find
or fall for sweet words whispered in rhyme?
How can they be so thoughtless and blind
just to throw me away, time after time?

So I'll treasure myself, my thoughts,my dreams
to belong to another is thinking distorted.
Nor treated as trash in sexual schemes
through love's bittersweet surrender aborted.
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 1593 (view)
 
Watery emotion msg 49
Posted: 12/6/2007 4:14:23 PM
longte....

Will you walk with me in Sunshine?
Will you walk with me in Rain?
Will you look into my eyes?
Cause there you see my pain

Will you hold my hand in Summer
During a lightning storm?
Will you hold me as the wind howls?
To keep me safe and warm

Will you hold me when my cheeks
Are glistening with tears?
Will you hold me close at midnight?
To help allay my fears

Now I see you turn away
There's some things you wont do
But in your heart you know for sure
That I'd do them for you


Although this was written 1-30-05...it rings true for words I would say to a love who left me all alone....and you said"yucky...it didn't start out to be a sad one".....

but truth of love not returned is sad.....and so needs to be expressed...by someone.....and it is felt by many....

When words come to you ...don't repress them...you may be speaking for someone who can't put the words together to match their feelings...you have to speak for them...please don't be quiet.....speak....often....speak for us.
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Flirting
Posted: 12/6/2007 12:49:30 PM
Non-verbal communication! exactly! truth or dare??? who cares? it is inviting someone to engage with you.....for a moment...to share the same space in time....make a memory that may open doors for even more memories....It must be PLEASANT or it is NOT flirting.... a real flirt can read your "Stop at the door...it is not open for you", but they may persist and coaxe an invitation to enter your space...that is the flirting back......and yes ..practice...learn the body language...the nice inuendoes that cause a warm fuzzy feeling...an invisable hug....

If countries could flirt, there would be less if any wars....true diplomatic body language that send warm feelings...and who wants to fight against someone that makes you feel good????
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
One I wrote
Posted: 12/6/2007 12:25:59 PM
nice thinking...all we have is our mind and imagination to carry us through when reality is not real.....just imagined...kids do it when young...can we not now??? We need it more now since we have known "real" and kids have yet to experience "real life"....too bad we lost that 6th sense so young....but perhaps we regain it in our "maturity" when "real" dissapoints us...we always can have "imaginary friends"...or lovers....and they can/will do no wrong.....they are just right...whatever we need...they will provide....."REAL COMFORT"...like flesh friends...if they have not deserted us.....

Imagine on...my friend....imagine on...
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Rap II: The Truth Binds Us Together
Posted: 12/5/2007 6:31:51 PM
yep, my dear....that it does.....and then someone's trash is yet another's treasure..

and how I so long to be treasure...as of yet ...nothing but thrown away...time after time..
will someone ever look for me???ever find?

so I treasure myself....my thoughts...my dreams....live in my own world...
I am my own Treasure Island....

we are all alone.....sometimes with others.....sometimes not..
that is the truth that binds us together.....
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Softly Sensual...
Posted: 12/2/2007 12:35:06 PM
Awaken...my love...I'm here...

sunshine streaming through the window...warming your face...

awaken...toss back the covers....

ahh...your breasts burst forth from your night covering....

feel the warm sunshine upon them also?

May I touch them? Gentle caresses? Will you notice I am here?

Yes, that pesky fly! It is only I.....

bothering you to get a reaction...an action ...

acknowledge that I am here ... that I am near....


And you whisper to me in your mind,

"Yes, my shadow lover......I know..."
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Younger guys that prefer dating older women but not getting far?
Posted: 11/27/2007 12:49:00 AM
oh you sweet young thing..... any woman will be the "older woman" to you...you are just a babe...barely out of your mother's arms....even though it seems you have already learned "older women" are aged like fine wine...babe you are too young to drink the reallll fine stuff yet....
I do agree you don't need the grape juice of young girls....but start off with less of a difference in your age...and teach a younger woman what you admire in older women...maybe get her a mentor??? but you need to enjoy the things a young woman can give to you...before you turn 45 or more and look back for what you missed....lol....

A peer in growing can be a blessing in disquise...ever hear of Romeo and Juilet???She was not an older woman....but had they the wisdom and patience that takes time to acquire...they may have wanted to live...despite any "family/political" problems...

Your profile is written towards finding a peer...only in passing does it mention "age is not a factor"...

Best regards in your search
 1frantastic
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Whether For or Against-- Thank Canada for Hillary Clinton!
Posted: 11/25/2007 8:28:16 PM
Is that how it happened? oh man....now what???? Invite her to Canada...please!!!!!You can have Bill as a bonus......he's a nice submissive guy....
 
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