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 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 287 (view)
 
yes or no? Friends with benefits!
Posted: 9/1/2010 8:12:35 AM
^^^^ You're getting wrapped up in semantics. It is a relationship, one called an FWB. It's just not a Relationship!

> http://www.mercatornet.com/articles/view/prisoners_of_the_pill/

Interesting reading, so backatchya, Alchemischief: http://socialpathology.blogspot.com/2006/07/germains-daughters.html
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 119 (view)
 
online dating statistics.
Posted: 8/6/2010 7:16:50 AM

Ya know... Why even have a profile if you're not serious?

They make you have one in order to participate in the forums. Or even just to look around, judging from all the women's profiles I see where the headline is something really non-committal like "Just Looking..." or "Just curious to see what's out there".
 ColonelIngus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 24 (view)
 
45+ and not ever having a relationship more than 10 years
Posted: 7/14/2010 9:51:05 AM

i am curious as to why/how someone would go all these years w/o even one relationship that survived 10+ years.

Did it ever occur to you to simply write them and ask what the h__ is wrong with them?

I mean, if you're all into learning and evolving. Maybe you can report back to us on the results of your research.
 ColonelIngus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Is this world going nuts?
Posted: 6/23/2010 10:54:45 AM

I was thinking the same thing. Like adding "convicted felon".


I always start my conversations with women with "my parole officer says...".

Chicks are twisted. And not just on the breeding-better-predators count. Always have been, always will be.

In that sense technically the world isn't going nuts.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
 
4 Small Moves That Score Big!!!
Posted: 5/2/2010 10:05:13 PM
Yup, May 2009 issue of Cosmo, in the "Cosmo For Your Guy" section.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
 
looking for FRIENDS, not friends FIRST and then see where it goes....
Posted: 4/16/2010 2:54:30 PM
Grkboy, while I totally see where you're coming from, you need to stop taking those labels so literally and familiarize yourself with the simple concept of what's called a "sh1t test", which you seem to have failed without hardly trying.

For example "then see where it goes..." is just code for you having your way with them.

Really, women aren't lawyers - quite the contrary - and it's usually safe to go, at least at first, with the idea that what they say they want really isn't what they want, and vice versa.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 237 (view)
 
rich man poor man and how they treat you
Posted: 4/8/2010 2:25:27 PM
^^^^ And if he wasn't spending much on her (but could), he would have been CHEAP!


I hoped they and their money had a happy life together

And they probably did.


Do not allow him to buy anything for you...do not allow him to pay for the date/trip/whatever.

Preach it to the masses, sista!
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 83 (view)
 
:fustrated: :verymad: Why women don't respond emails?
Posted: 4/6/2010 1:21:04 PM

As a matter of fact, after you send an email, delete it. Then it will save you frustration of what other people are doing.

Forget that. Delete the email before you send it. That'll send `em the right message.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
 
their last relationship was with someone who was married...deal breaker?
Posted: 4/5/2010 10:59:44 AM
Cool!!

Is this the thread where everyone gets to posture about how much better they are than all those other people who aren't as good as them?

Aren't super-heroes supposed to be out fighting crime, or something?
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
What the girl is thinking about shy guy
Posted: 4/5/2010 10:34:20 AM
why don't you let your sack drop ?

Is this some sort of ice climbing lingo?

How do you know my "sack" isn't saggy enough already? Maybe that's what makes me a shy guy in the first place.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 148 (view)
 
Picky
Posted: 4/5/2010 10:26:19 AM
^^^ Maybe you're not really picky and just suffer from a lack of imagination instead.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Arranged marriage? - Is there a possibilety for you?
Posted: 4/5/2010 10:14:39 AM
^^^^ Don't worry, I'm sure the demand for 50 y.o. women to take part in arranged marriages is nil in those cultures that practice it.

So even if you were all for it, it wouldn't matter -- except to the extent you'd possibly be in the role of arranging other people's marriages.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Arranged marriage? - Is there a possibilety for you?
Posted: 4/2/2010 11:52:51 AM
--where we have arranged divorces.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 214 (view)
 
rich man poor man and how they treat you
Posted: 4/2/2010 11:50:42 AM
^^^^ You gals really know how to pick `em!
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 209 (view)
 
rich man poor man and how they treat you
Posted: 4/1/2010 8:56:32 PM
^^^^ Are you saying then that the gummint is going about it all wrong, because it always seems their solution to everything -- the path to happiness -- involves spending more of someone else's money on something?
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 68 (view)
 
Mensa? anyone?
Posted: 3/31/2010 11:01:39 AM
^^^^ Uhm, but the OP was asking for anecdotes.

Obviously it would not be strictly Mensa-esque to draw sweeping and rigid generalizations from these, though certain trends due tend to emerge, whether or not they're flattering or entertaining or whatever.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Avoiding Issues and getting your Man to Commitment in a Relationship!
Posted: 3/29/2010 6:02:01 PM

Besides, you understood what was said just fine;

I deny that accusation in its entirety.

Really, it was so convoluted I bailed as if some crazy person had tried to engage me in conversation in the grocery store checkout line.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Mensa? anyone?
Posted: 3/29/2010 5:55:47 PM
^^^^ Definitely sounds like way more fun than when I went to something they were putting on once down here in The Springs.

I met a hermit who lived in a cave way back in the mountains when I was about ten. Now you've got me wondering if he was a Mensa member...
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 122 (view)
 
What does a guy do that's in his 30's and looking for a relationship but not well off?
Posted: 3/29/2010 3:40:27 PM

What does a guy do that's in his 30's and looking for a relationship but not well off?

Haven't read the whole thread, but has anyone suggested learning a little Game?
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 126 (view)
 
Bachelor's Degree superiority complex...
Posted: 3/28/2010 5:25:37 PM

It's no coincidence that a relatively larger proportion of people without significant college experience tend to be insular in their outlook and lacking awareness of other cultures and ways of life, or downright xenophobic, racist or tending to exhibit a strong in-group / out-group type mentality.

Maybe you missed it, but the OP is saying that it's the people with "significant college experience" who are exhibiting the "strong in-group / out-group type mentality", who are "insular in their outlook ", and all that other Bad Stuff.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Avoiding Issues and getting your Man to Commitment in a Relationship!
Posted: 3/28/2010 5:10:02 PM
^^^^ That's all really twisted... And not consistent with the idea that men are so utterly simple we should all count our lucky stars they know how to tie their shoes. They certainly don't seem capable of such double- and triple-think psycho-out manuevers. I mean, I could barely even follow all that without my head spinning.

But I think you're right: relationships work best when the man basically does what the woman wants, even better if he can read her minds to know what she really wants him to do without her having to do anything. Which is why relationships, and thus commitment, aren't very attractive to men anymore -- I mean, unless she's the one who's that way, and then he has to flip around and want all that stuff just to frustrate her and show he's a controlling and possessive jerk who can't handle this, that and the other thing.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Geeky scientist type - slower at relationships?
Posted: 3/27/2010 7:41:53 AM

I met a guy rom another site.

Is that some sort of computer science joke?

Like there's "gal ROM" and "guy ROM"? Wondering which kind is in my `puter...

Elgalawaat is correct: it has nothing to do with his profession or anything else other than - wait for it - HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Avoiding Issues and getting your Man to Commitment in a Relationship!
Posted: 3/27/2010 6:58:51 AM

...and what happened to number 10?

It would have over-taxed their widdle bwains?

Personally, I would have kept it to three or four. "Girl game" is much less advanced than guy game.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Why do guys look and not even say hello?
Posted: 3/21/2010 10:24:33 AM
If people ain't comin' to the ballpark, how ya gonna stop `em?

The OP clearly needs some women's magazine crap such as this: "How to Get a Guy to Hit on You" (http://www.bettyconfidential.com/ar/ld/a/How-to-Get-a-Guy-to-Hit-on-You.html)

In line with what MrSoloLobo said, I'm sure most guys never had any clue they were obligated to say hello to some woman just because they looked at her.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 114 (view)
 
Why when women get over thirty their more horny?
Posted: 3/21/2010 7:54:07 AM

The sex drive is controlled to a large degree by testosterone which would be relatively higher at that point.

The last part of your statement is not true. Testosterone is the precursor to estrogen, therefore a woman's testosterone levels are highest in her early twenties. By age 45 the level is about half as much as they had then, as only half of their testosterone is produced in their ovaries (the other half, from the adrenal glands, is approximately constant). Presumably women in their thirties are part way down the curve of decline.

If women in their thirties are "more horny", it's due to psycho-social factors not testosterone.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
What are the Consequences of a 50/50 ratio of Males to Females ?
Posted: 3/16/2010 2:04:06 PM

I'm speculating, but my question is, does every child have exactly a 50% chance of being male?

No, more boys are both conceived and born.

Worldwide there are about 104-107 boys born for every 100 girls, and more boys don't make it from conception to birth; though the exact number is elusive, some have suggested the conception ratio may be 115-120.

There are about a dozen or more factors which have been found to influence the sex ratio at birth (race, age of mother, birth order, etc.), so there's an extensive literature on the subject.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 181 (view)
 
Never been married, no kids. Is this a red flag?
Posted: 3/15/2010 10:55:36 AM
If it weren't for marriage, men and women would have to fight with total strangers.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 67 (view)
 
What does Friends First really mean?
Posted: 3/10/2010 8:03:26 PM
So now "friends first" is code for those who think they're special, and think they really know what's going on, and the secret key to relationship success?

I knew there was a reason my gut instinct from the start was to avoid such people like the plague.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Why are some men are all for sex buddies but not girlfriends?
Posted: 3/10/2010 6:22:48 PM
^^^^ One can imagine how it would work if they gave women a checkbox option for their profiles... 99% would choose "respectable" over "disrespectable". So I think you need to find the word which really describes what you're trying to get at, and "respect" isn't it.

All you're doing (along with others) is trying to put yourself up on a pedestal while complaining that all those "loose" and "easy" girls are ruining it for you self-proclaimed "good" girls.

That's why threads like this always get compared to nice guy / bad boy threads.

Face it, competition is inevitable and no one's going to come along and rescue you by locking up all those "disrespectable" women so men have to accept whatever terms you want to impose on them.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
 
What if..........
Posted: 3/8/2010 2:02:59 PM

What if it was men that carried the children to term and gave birth?

What would be different?

We'd be seahorses and not people?
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Do you think putting Widow/Widower on your profile makes you a target for being taken advantage of?
Posted: 3/8/2010 1:46:30 PM

We had something special together that is almost impossible to describe. Now my quest is to find that someone special so that we pick up from where [we left off]

Eeeeww! That's creepy, expecting some doppelganger to appear and effortlessly fill in the vacated role with perfection. It's impossible for any real person to live up to that.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 56 (view)
 
What does Friends First really mean?
Posted: 3/8/2010 1:35:16 PM
These so-called Friendship First friendships are not really friendships at all.

If they were, women would be initiating them roughly 50% of the time and doing about half the work necessary to susain them, but they're not doing that.

These are really sexless dating relationships. They say "friendship", but what they actually mean is they want you to date them, take them out and foot the bill. If they feel you have prospects, they will continue with you; otherwise, they just don't call or do much of anything else which would constitute holding up their end of the plank. The whole thing is based on the guy's sexual attraction and the woman holding him at bay with some vague implied promise of eventual "reward" while the chump keeps persuing her, all as a testament to how "into" her he is.

Such relationships bear little resemblance to friendship other than the fact that no actual sex is happening. In real friendships there is almost always absolutely no prospect of things ever becoming sexual.

So the whole thing is based on a euphemism (calling it "friendship"), which effectively means it's based on a big lie about what's really going on.

The essence of friendship is that there is no one "laying down the law" (i.e., No Sex Allowed For Six Months) on the other person under ordinary conditions, not that there's no sex taking place.

"Friends First" is just a variation on the most common game played by women, which runs as follows:
Her: "Do you promise not to kiss me?"
Him: "I promise."
She wins either way. If he kisses her, he has broken his word and is no better than all the others. If he doesn't she can say to herself: "That wishy-washy eunuch didn't even try to kiss me."
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 39 (view)
 
New study on fertility...30 years old
Posted: 3/8/2010 12:20:55 PM

It's about perpetuating the species in underdeveloped countries.. not sure how that relates...

Huh? They looked at "one of the most isolated populations in the world" because "they're living a lifestyle that our ancestors lived and their fertility patterns are probably most consistent with our ancestors". That's how one gets at evolutionary questions, because we are adapted to an environment which existed several tens of thousands of years ago. I'd also note the following in the article: "The study also looked at ... a group of modern Canadians", so what you're saying isn't quite true.

...but after each ejaculation, they must literally replicate those cells, and each replication multiplies the chance for a DNA "copy error"— It like making a copy of a copy each time on a xerox machine.. Over time the quality drops.
Wrong again.

It's not like making a copy of a copy because gametes are not being used to produce the next generation of gametes, ad infinitum. Each cycle of spermatogenesis involves the division (not the "replication") of primitive spermatogonial stem cells into subsequent gametes.

In other words, I think you're totally confused about what's happening. "DNA copy error" doesn't enter into the process at all -- I think that's cancer where that happens.


Fact: The risk of schizophrenia doubles in children of fathers in their late 40s compared with children of fathers under age 25. Men 40 and older are nearly six times more likely to have offspring with autism than men younger than 30.

None of these "facts" imply cause and effect. Nor are they controlled for the age of the mother; i.e., fathers in their late 40s are more likely to have children by older mothers than fathers under the age of 25. Yet another reason to have as young a mother as possible.

"Heritability contributes about 90% of the risk of a child developing autism." - wikipedia
There are I think currently ten other theories aimed at accounting for the remaining 10% of the cause of autism, and truth is nobody knows what it is. Even among the "parental age" hypothesis there are half a dozen sub-hypotheses, and it's entirely possible the father's age has nothing at all to do with autism.


It's so funny how upset men get when you suggest that they aren't optimal for baby making after 40.

Project much?
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 294 (view)
 
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 3/8/2010 11:42:56 AM
Or maybe -- and I know it's heresy to say so -- there may be no "right person" for them.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Man-shy
Posted: 3/8/2010 11:16:42 AM

The expectation is that multiple rejections will eventually desensitize the person

The better route to desentization is to stop even caring. Certainly stop the pedestalizing. Heck, even stop regarding them as a human being. Start objectifying. It hurts a lot less to be rejected by an object than by another human you might care about.

I mean, if you have to go that route. You really don't. Without much effort you can get to the point where you care so little your attitude is "if she isn't hitting on me she must be really stoooopid... her loss; let her have the knuckle dragger who will hit on her, as that's what she deserves."
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 19 (view)
 
no communication no relationship
Posted: 3/7/2010 10:52:35 AM
OP, you just need to get him to recite the Man's Prayer:

I'm a man...

But I can change...

If I have to...

I guess...

 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Why do people search for The One?
Posted: 3/7/2010 10:46:54 AM

What I find funny are people who put in their profile: "I'm not looking for someone who is perfect. I'm looking for someone who is perfect for me." The translation of this is: "I'm looking for someone who is perfect." Somehow, they think putting in the "for me" part totally changes everything. Guess what. It doesn't change anything. Keep searching for that perfect person-for you.

Actually, the "perfect for me" people are way worse, since they're looking for custom made perfection, rather than the mass-produced, generic variety.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 33 (view)
 
New study on fertility...30 years old
Posted: 3/7/2010 10:38:40 AM
But, but... "Old men chasing young women: A good thing" - http://www.scienceblog.com/cms/old-men-chasing-young-women-good-thing-14203.html

-Just had to interject at least one "pro" to go with all the "cons" of dubious quality being tossed out here.


...new research has revealed that aging sperm also carries higher risks of deformities just as eggs do.

Uhm, all sperm is the same age, since it was made, like, yesterday.
Not so with eggs, which are there at birth.

The recent efforts in some quarters to try and saddle men with some biological clock equivalent to womens is an epic fail. Older men have been having children for millennia, so if there was some huge problem it would have become apparent long before now.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 67 (view)
 
Never been married, no kids. Is this a red flag?
Posted: 3/7/2010 8:14:48 AM

I use to think this would play to my advantage, but after turning 40 I could see the table had been turned.
Any thoughts?

Yea, almost all women are suspicious of a man who doesn't have a track record of "putting out" in the fashion they desire. They want a man who is "easy" in this regard, since they aren't up to any sort of a challenge. But rather than admit this they go into ego defense mode and project all sorts of pathologies onto him, even though they usually don't even take the time to do a pre-diagnosis interview first.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Why do people search for The One?
Posted: 3/7/2010 7:45:06 AM

Why do people search for The One?

Because people of late have gravitated towards a “soul mate” model of relationships and marriage, one that privileges commonality of interests, emotional intimacy, and personal growth -- often at the expense of other goods long associated with these things, such as permanency, childrearing, and economic cooperation.

Online sites encourage the notion that "The One" is out there somewhere on the planet by giving one the opportunity to fill out a wish list of what they imagine to be their ideal, kinda like writing to Santa.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
 
User asks who is your friend in that photo with you!
Posted: 3/7/2010 7:27:12 AM

Ok, so have you ever clicked on a profile of a girl/guy to see a photo better. As you are clicking through the photo's...you are like damn! Who is the girl/guy in the photo with them.

Would you drop them a message asking them about their friend?


Yes.


Would you toss a few emails back and fourth and then ask them about their friend?

Only one email is required to ascertain if said friend/acquaintance falls in the "available" category, and if the person with the profile might be amenable to playing matchmaker.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Anorexia & Relationships
Posted: 3/2/2010 12:19:34 PM

"I need a return on my investment" stage...

The OP is never going to earn enough Good Guy Points to ever get anywhere close to break-even. Time to cut losses and fold the hand.

The problem with people in therapy is sometimes they actually get better, and with the change they don't want you anymore. Part of it is wanting to put that phase in their lives behind them.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Why did our fathers have it easier than us?
Posted: 3/2/2010 9:51:13 AM

Why did our fathers have it easier than us?

Because women once did as they were told, since it was in their interest to do so. They seem to have totally forgotten this. Men have always been the ones who bear the primary costs of marriage. That's why even in these post-liberated times women still want to get married. (No, not every single last one of them.) But they allowed the feminidiots to re-write all the laws so there is now no real reason for men to get married, or even to get near a "relationship" unless he has nothing to lose (and thus nothing to give). Perhaps our fathers stood by and allowed this to happen because they realized they'd been trapped and used to provide what someone else wanted.

At any rate, because it benefits her so much, it is a woman's responsibility to prove she is worthy of the privilege of becoming a man's wife and bearing his children, and safe for him to do so. It takes a rather strict upbringing to form a tiny female savage into such a lady. This used to be done as a matter of course, but today that form of upbringing is mostly a thing of the past: thus, marriageable women are becoming difficult to find.

The process is self-limiting, as the "modern" woman has on average less than 1.5 children, so they're losing out in the very simple darwinian contest of reproducing themselves to those who haven't "progressed" so much.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Living fearless over 40
Posted: 3/2/2010 5:23:31 AM
^^^^ Move to France.

Under the new law there you'll be able to charge them all with emotional abuse. If you're clever, you might even be able to parlay those birthday cards into a big cash payout.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Do you find people trying to plan out your life shortly after meeting?
Posted: 3/2/2010 4:39:41 AM

I so often feel like my life is in the early stages of being hijacked.


Good description. What's happening is they're not looking for a human to have a relationship with, but rather an actor to play a role in a script they have in their heads of how a "relationship" should go.

Since you aren't privy to all the details of the script, you're constantly late for your cues, always messing up your lines, etc. The feeling is one of constant confused ineptitude. Naturally. You don't know what you're supposed to be doing. To you it's not even a relationship because you haven't explicity contracted to play the role whose dramatic ending likely is her walking down the aisle at her wedding.

Needless to say, I think this chick flick scenario is way more often a girl thing than a guy thing. The male version has a hot babe (or babes) swooning the moment the guy walks in the room or onto the big stage, but most guys figure out pretty early on that that ain't ever going to happen, that it's just a fantasy. In any event, the first scene in the script never even plays out, so the rest is pointless to try holding onto.

For guys, it's more like total improvisation from the get-go, all day every day. It's no secret there have never been any great improvisational jazz musicians who were women. They need their scripts and their many books of dating rules to follow. Without them they're totally lost.

I don't think you can get them to toss their scripts. So you either play your part or you don't. The latter is real easy, since they almost always have the guy making first contact, hitting on the her for a date, etc. as the opening scene, because that's his "job", his role in the script.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
80/20
Posted: 3/1/2010 8:26:41 AM
I think, as a permutation of Godwin's Law, it is inevitable that eventually a woman will come on this thread if it goes on long enough and state "I don't want perfect, I just want perfect for me".
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
players: do they ever focus on one person?
Posted: 2/28/2010 7:22:45 AM

Players ALWAYS focus on one person...THEMSELF...what they want, what they like...

Hey, somebody's gotta do it!!


players: do they ever focus on one person?

Yes, but only if they're part-time players.

Or maybe just not very good at being a player.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Hes Just Not That Into Me...
Posted: 2/28/2010 7:12:59 AM
I know I'm quickly turned off when I see she's fallen into that "He's Just Not That Into Me" BS. Huge red flag.

But it's fun to play head games with them, for example making it a point to call first, but also making it a point to not ask questions about her. Pretty soon they always blow a gasket and the smoke just pours out of their ears.


sort of had me scratching my head wondering if men really did think this way.

Uh, no.

We're not constantly doing relationship status monitoring like you gals have a tendency to do.
We'd rather be doing the relationship itself.


I'm sure there are a million explanations for these

Choose the ones that are most flattering and go with those.

If the guy is anywhere in the vicinity he's likely "into you" to some degree or another. Rather than standing aside and trying to figure out what that degree is, you should be getting pro-active and trying to increase his degree of interest if you dig him.
<img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>

His into-you-ness is not independent of what you do. If you're waiting for him to show "signs" of being "into" you, what's the result if he's doing the exact same thing, waiting for you to show signs that you're into him?
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 111 (view)
 
Top reasons a man leaves a woman?
Posted: 2/28/2010 6:44:39 AM
^^^^ Too bad they didn't show all that "strength and wisdom" before heading down the wrong path in the first place.

It is the strange feeling of bitterness which comes from failure that the martyr really enjoys. They rejoice in suffering, so for them "salvation" is a mixed blessing at best.
 colonelingus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
The Fibonacci numbers and their connection to the 'golden ratio'.
Posted: 2/27/2010 7:41:31 AM

Just one thing I want to add:

The golden ratio is _about_ 1.618

Actually it's an irrational number, an endlessly continuing series of digits. 1.618 is its 4-digit approximation.

That's right, the Fibonacci ratio is the (asymptotic) limit of the ratio of two consecutive numbers in an infinite sequence.

One other interesting or curious property of the Fibonacci ratio is that the reciprocal is the same number except for the lack of a "1" in front of the decimal place;
i.e., 1/1.618 = 0.618.
 
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