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 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Did I Blow It?
Posted: 5/12/2013 5:43:23 PM
Did you blow it, yea? By the way, those animals didn't know you had made a "promise", but, she sounds pretty shallow as well, one semi bad experience and she bales totally from the site, you didn't miss out on much IMO.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Is he inlove with me?
Posted: 5/12/2013 5:34:10 PM
It's way too soon to start obsessing about the L word, 2 months is nothing, you have a strong attraction and are increasingly close, that doesn't mean you two are really in love. Have you guys even had an argument yet? have you found out the things about him that bother you ?- trust me, there will be things. If you two had been going out for a year or more, I could maybe see your point, go out, have fun, and see where it goes.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Trying to understand...I know stop right lol
Posted: 5/7/2013 9:42:31 PM
Honestly, you sound kind of boring, try drinking more, especially if he orders a second or third one, you're on a date not an interview, have some fun, smoke if you want to, swear a little, tease him, whatever.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Too pushy
Posted: 5/7/2013 9:34:09 PM
When you asked him if he wanted to get together and he said "I'll let you know", that meant he didnt want to, period. No if's ands or buts. Were you pushy? ahh, not for a real relationship, in a real relationship people talk about that on mondays, but , the pushy part was not getting the hints. I know it's hard, us guys have heard the same things many times, you just tell yourself " maybe she really is busy, maybe she really is interested, etc", but deep down you know better.
He should have told you the truth, but likely was keeping you in reserve.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 18 (view)
 
What does it mean when he says.....
Posted: 4/11/2013 11:34:36 PM
He means exactly what he says, he likes you, want's to hang out(date), and would be agreeable to a sexual relationship, but he is in fact wounded, and on his guard, and you will have to be very, very compatible before he will jump feet first into another relationship.
What he said was the truth, and not a bad thing. You should see where it goes, instead of rejecting it.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 10 (view)
 
why do do many men not have a profile pic and so many that do not smile?
Posted: 4/11/2013 11:27:53 PM
Cmon, almost all guys have a picture, no one would contact them(or respond) without it. Seems like a whole lot of woman dont though.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Hey Guys ! Give me a honest profile review Please:)
Posted: 4/9/2013 9:33:11 AM
Your profile looks great, at 18 you shouldnt even be here, your pretty, active, and look fun, no reason to try dating here. save that for the distant future.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Would you judge?!?
Posted: 4/9/2013 9:28:03 AM
25 years ago is ancient history. that means she's in her mid 40's, hopefully she still has it, if anything it would be a positive not a negative. Kinda astonishing that anyone would even think about "judgeing" someone for what happened 25 years ago when she night have been a teenager, quite frankly only a headcase or control freak would do that.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 18 (view)
 
why would guy go thru such trouble?
Posted: 4/7/2013 11:49:39 PM
Has it occurred to you that he might have had his beer goggles on that night? He danced with you, he kissed you, he asked for your number(and gave you his),when it comes to the bar scene, that doesn't really mean much.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 2 (view)
 
why would guy go thru such trouble?
Posted: 4/7/2013 2:49:22 PM
All you guys did was dance for a little bit, you never even had a date, did he take your number or you just his? Sounds like he didnt really want to see you and that's why he left. Very little chance he was texting his son all that time by the way. One dance does not a relationship make, sorry.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 8 (view)
 
What Are Your Thoughts?
Posted: 4/7/2013 12:25:40 AM
Alright, lets get down to it, dont start with your career, especially if you are changing it, no reason at all to say you are a fan of diversity and ability, all that meaningless crap means nothing on a dating site. I know you're trying to say your a good hearted person, but that's not the way to do it. A little too specific on the music tastes, no one is going to reject you(or embrace you )because you like celtic music. Finally , you have a whole bunch of spelling errors, looks sloppy, especially from someone who's pursuing that MBA in your 40's. Finally, you are apparently rather heavy, that's a big problem, best to put up a body shot so guys know exactly how heavy.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Profile too outdoorsy?
Posted: 4/7/2013 12:06:38 AM
Your profile looks pretty good to me, very interesting that you like hairy white guys, I thought asians hate body hair?
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Meet me feature.
Posted: 4/5/2013 11:28:29 PM
The meet me feature is a joke, almost none of those expressing that desire will even have glanced at your profile. if you really have an interest in a guy, send him a message, dont use meet me and then sit around for a week wondering.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 12 (view)
 
First hug lasted longer than 4 or 5 seconds?
Posted: 4/5/2013 12:16:48 AM
lts not a cultural thing, he's a creep. You dont begin a date with a long sensual hug, you end one...if you really hit it off.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 4 (view)
 
First hug lasted longer than 4 or 5 seconds?
Posted: 4/4/2013 11:21:57 PM
So he lied by 12 years on his age, that's pathetic, what's with the business card? Is that the new thing, should I have some made up? Ahh, you learned a lesson, we're not all like that, I would call him back and say they have this new thing called "google" and it says he's an old man, and see what he says.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Is There Something Wrong With My Profile?
Posted: 4/3/2013 10:18:05 PM
You say things like "I'm not religious, but I do believe in god" and then you just toss out negative stuff like "dont push your opinions on me" out of the blue, what's that about? Talk about what you like and what you want, dont have even one negative comment in your profile. A whole lot of women make the mistake of putting negatives throughout their profiles, such as "not a game player, not into hook ups, not into this or that", guys read that and all they see is baggage.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 6 (view)
 
What am I doing wrong
Posted: 4/3/2013 10:05:47 PM
Really bad photo's for a 30 year old, they make you look much older, try saying something related to something in his profile, that cant hurt, but frankly you need some help with your profile.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Do all women over 50 cringe when they hear the word SEX !!
Posted: 4/3/2013 9:54:14 PM
Looks like this thread really touched a nerve with alot of women, I guess I really dont understand why, alot of guys are out of marriages with little or no sex and simply dont want to go down that road again. Now I can see not bringing it up right off, and I understand the implication that if you pay for everything, you are owed something is nonsense, but when you start messaging, talking and meeting someone, the subject should be brought up, instead of avoided. We're in our 50's, we're not saving it for anything, sex is part of a relationship, just as much as shared interests, traveling, bowling or dining out.

There seems to be a genuine paranoia out there, that if some guy in his 50's asks a woman in her 50's about sex, he's after one thing. The thought that there's a whole army of old guys out there looking for 1 night stands with 50 + women is just ridiculous, if they were really after that, they would be going after the younger women(guys know that, why dont women?). Quite frankly, guys in their 50's know they're running out of time, they dont want to waste weeks or months getting to know someone who dislikes or refuses that part of a relationship. Let the barrage of criticism begin.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Just Curious
Posted: 4/3/2013 7:58:58 AM
What you need to understand is that there are lots and lots of desperate people here who DO fall for that crap, you've never even met him and he want's a picture of your mouth(not your face, but your mouth), cmon, you know what that's about, and then you played along. What he's doing works alot more than you can imagine, you might be smart enough to figure it out, but alot of woman either aren't, or appreciate the attention.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Well here I am
Posted: 4/3/2013 7:47:16 AM
You may want to lower your expectations. Your profile is fairly boring(sorry), coffee and bookstores are just not a big draw for most, and since you dont even hint at your lack of passion in your profile, any contacts you do get are likely to be very uncomfortable for both of you.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 15 (view)
 
She is not satisfied with what I make. Should I continue this relationship?
Posted: 4/2/2013 9:02:02 PM
The money thing will only get worse, a lot worse, as time goes by, dump her.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 7 (view)
 
How Sincere is a 'Someone Wants to Meet You'?
Posted: 4/2/2013 7:41:17 AM
Almost none of those meet me's have actually read your profile, they just click yes or no on your picture. Sincere...no, is there a chance...I suppose.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Am I being catfished?
Posted: 3/31/2013 10:41:46 PM
Next time he says such and such a day doesn't work. say "that's ok cause any of the next couple days will work just fine", then see what he says, if he says he cant come there, say "no problem, I have a car". You will know really quick if he's a phoney or not. I know you will look a little desperate saying that any day, any time, is fine, but it will resolve your situation, one way or another.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Hmmm red flag ?
Posted: 3/31/2013 6:28:37 PM
You could just say you're a little surprised she would invite a man she's never met over to her house, and see what she says? It's possible it's a scam, more likely she is sad and desperate for affection/companionship.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Can me change??
Posted: 3/29/2013 10:41:40 AM
People can change, but he likely wont, he didn't just lie a couple of times, he displayed an ongoing pattern of lying, and decieving, I doubt if he was drunk all those times, dont waste your time with him.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 17 (view)
 
What's the deal?
Posted: 3/29/2013 10:38:30 AM
The deal is that if you wanted to go back to your previous arrangement, he's willing. Other than that he's not interested in you for anything more. pretty simple.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Where to begin...
Posted: 3/28/2013 7:44:37 AM
At least you got a date out of it, it appears he was only interested in sex and wont call back, you didn't want that kind of guy anyway. Bottom line is stand your ground, dont lower your standards, you did nothing wrong, he misrepresented himself, that's not your fault.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 2 (view)
 
I think I'm reading too much into it...
Posted: 3/27/2013 10:53:42 PM
What do you want to know, he's in a dry spell and wants to get over it. Pretty clear he lost interest when you wouldn't hook up in the bosses house. And yes, he will drive 2 hours to have sex, that's a given.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Responses...
Posted: 3/27/2013 7:28:23 AM
Do men really outnumber woman here 10 to 0ne? That's hard to believe, I thought women are the ones complaining that there are no good men out there? Anyway, no responses in normal, I've had one response to the handful of mssgs i've sent.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Bedtime rule Question for men
Posted: 3/27/2013 7:20:11 AM
If you got a job that started at 4:00 am, would he go to bed at 7? I doubt it, time to clue him in that marriage is a 2 way street.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 78 (view)
 
What you've learned about online dating after 90 days...
Posted: 3/26/2013 9:57:17 PM
What i've learned is that everyone seems to want someone younger. It's kinda depressing when the only ones that want to meet me are woman 5 -10 years older.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 12 (view)
 
is she lying?
Posted: 3/25/2013 8:48:33 PM
now a penis isn't exactly round, but since circumference equals diameter times PI 3.75x 3.14 = almost 12 inches around - which means you are math challenged as well as a prevaricator.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Need feedback: CHRISTIAN MEN ESPECIALLY!
Posted: 3/24/2013 4:22:09 PM
Way, way too long. you mentioned no sex before marriage and then say you want a man with a high libido, guys in their 40's with a high libido prob aren't gonna wait a couple years(not to mention how would either of you know if they have "issues"). The PHD thing may be a problem also, it almost sounds like you consider anyone without one to be "uneducated",most guys are just not impressed by stuff like that(especially later in life). Asking for a guy from 42 to 52 with a high education(big wallet), physically attractive and in good shape(guys in their late 40's with hard bodies are rare), who has a high libido but wont use it, is gonna be tough. Bottom line, shorten it up, lessen up on the self bragging and dont talk about what you dont want - you can eliminate those before you ever meet.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 3 (view)
 
take a look?
Posted: 3/24/2013 9:25:21 AM
main picture almost looks like you're hiding something. with your hand blocking part of your face,profile is fine however. the fact older guys are the only ones seemingly interested is normal. I'm 53 and the only ones responding to me are older women. Almost all guys want someone younger than themselves, just the way it is. I dont understand why simple greetings are bad, just say hi back and see what happens. Long, witty intros are really just blather from guys that are good at bs,ing.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Profile Makeover or Leave As Is?
Posted: 3/24/2013 9:12:50 AM
You may not be a used car, but we are all shopped like one here, just not sure why you asked for input if you refuse to consider it, dont understand why you would leave up a bad profile picture if a better one is right there(everyone tries to put up their best picture). It's almost like you don't want to meet anyone, but want to pretend you tried. Best of luck anyway.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Profile Makeover or Leave As Is?
Posted: 3/23/2013 7:45:38 PM
Saying you dont want fun or adventure is bad, most men want that in a woman,(especially at first). i agree the last picture is definitely better.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 10 (view)
 
looking for some suggestions?
Posted: 3/20/2013 7:11:06 PM
Your picture and profile look fine, you're only 20 though, I'm not sure but i bet hardly any 20 year old guys are here. could be wrong.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 13 (view)
 
First messaging
Posted: 3/20/2013 7:02:13 PM
Been here a couple weeks and get no unsolicited mssgs, notice almost no one actually reads my profile either(1 a day), get quite a few "want to meets", but figure if they didn't view my profile they dont really want to, this is normal, right?
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Why no message response?
Posted: 3/20/2013 6:57:54 PM
Is it typical to get mssgs from woman out of the blue? Been here a couple weeks and have received none, I've sent two and got one reply.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Please review my profile
Posted: 3/19/2013 8:55:28 PM
I would use the second or 3rd pic as your main one.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Feedback on my profile
Posted: 3/16/2013 6:15:44 PM
That second picture is by far the best, use it as your profile picture, delete photos 3 and 5 and 6 (6 is horrible). Your weight will be a big problem(sorry), try to make yourself to sound as fun and spontaneous as possible to compensate. Saying that your life goal is to get married and have kids is not good either.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Honest Review Please!
Posted: 3/16/2013 6:09:44 PM
Way too much god stuff, I know you're religious but leave all that out, a single mention of your faith being very important is enough. talk about yourself and what you're looking for. That is my honest advice, no offence intended.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Please critique my Profile....thanks
Posted: 3/16/2013 6:03:02 PM
Your profile is fine, kinda boring though, almost all woman in their 50's say the stuff you do, nothing unique at all there. I would delete that last sentence about commitment, your looking to meet someone, commitment is way, way off. I know you're just trying to scare off the weirdo's looking for a fling, but that sentence would scare me off, thinking that if we dated 2 or 3 times you think I'm locked in.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Where is he?
Posted: 3/16/2013 5:52:56 PM
I see no reason why someone would take their profile down, it's not like we're swamped with msgs anyway. As to where he is, he probably decided that he wasn't gonna meet anyone through POF and got discouraged, he might or might not be back.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Need advice on a date and if hes interested
Posted: 3/16/2013 5:49:57 PM
You told him you dont have alot of time, that means it's up to you to let him know when, I would say "how about next sat(or the next one)" If you're interested in him, you can find the time.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Wait....what?
Posted: 3/13/2013 10:13:40 PM
I'm confused, did you actually send him nudies, or he only requested it?
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 375 (view)
 
Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 3/13/2013 10:05:15 PM
We're not afraid, we're just going to need some real strong hints that we're not wasting our time.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 16 (view)
 
I dont get it!!
Posted: 3/12/2013 8:17:03 AM
He brought up exclusivity to see where you were at, likely hoping you would say not yet, when you agreed, it scared him off. Just the fact that he said YOU should call him says alot.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Please review and help...
Posted: 3/10/2013 11:48:43 PM
You're overweight, and mention it, but dont actually show a full body shot to let guys know "how overweight", you need to do that, plenty of guys will be willing to do a 200 pounder but are afraid you are bigger. The black issue is obviously limiting your responses, blacks tend to like big woman, but I'm not sure they're gonna be looking for them here.
 miker1122
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 1 (view)
 
if you think the woman is alot hotter than you, should you bother trying to contact her?
Posted: 3/10/2013 11:38:20 PM
I'm pretty new here and quite frankly most of the matches, and "meet me's" are not very good, but there are some really good profiles here, I hesitate to contact them cause I figure why bother, she's probably getting dozens of mssgs, should I go for it? i guess my question is, do you really top shelf woman have any interest in normal guys?
 
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