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 Author Thread: Intimidated by high numbers in the members favorites lists
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Intimidated by high numbers in the members favorites lists
Posted: 1/5/2010 8:06:59 PM
Yep I've been here so long that I've actually made FRIENDS...how shocking that I like to stay in contact with them...even if only by dropping the occasional note, just as they do with me. Some I've met IRL & others I haven't yet. Big deal. Who cares why there's a list be it long or short? Oh & those friends? They've been there for the good & the bad. We've shared sorrow & joy. And I've even virtually attended a few weddings of some who have met on this site. So get over being intimidated & afraid & jump on into the pond.
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
So who is really serious about meeting up on this thing?...
Posted: 1/5/2010 7:54:59 PM
^^^just keep looking in here or plan an event yourself I guess

I've met some wonderful men here on PoF & nothing ever ended badly. Met a few creeps too. Hang in there & it'll happen. Plus the friends you can make along the way is a treasure.
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 109 (view)
 
New to Maryland
Posted: 1/5/2010 7:49:23 PM
Kinda new to Maryland....moved back after many years away. Spent time traveling & just moved from Florida.
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
northwestern maryland
Posted: 1/5/2010 7:46:28 PM
Anyone from here want to plan something? I've had some great events in the past when I lived in Florida
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Ex wants me back after 13 years
Posted: 12/30/2009 6:58:45 PM
I'd suggest some serious counseling for yourself & together before committing to him again.
And yeppers, he needs to be tested...as do you unless you've been celibate for 13 yrs.
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 10 (view)
 
What's love got to do with it?
Posted: 10/17/2008 6:27:37 PM
Sheesh what does your sis think love is OP?
All fireworks & fluttery tummies?

 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 26 (view)
 
I Thought I Knew You
Posted: 10/11/2008 9:51:33 AM
I look at it this way OP...

You really should always put your best foot forward...

However if you can't handle my worst then you don't deserve my best

Great thread too OP!
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 840 (view)
 
Would you Canadians move to the U.S,Would you Americans move to Canada if you met someone on here?
Posted: 9/21/2008 6:08:54 PM
Third world countries are NOT the only immigrants to the US. Get real.

We all love our countries & instead of fighting we should be discussing the TOPIC.

I would go for a 6 month split myself. That way nobody has to feel like they're leaviing family behind or go threu the drama of giving up their country.
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Am I wrong?
Posted: 9/21/2008 1:27:02 PM
You can't have it both ways OP...
You wanted him to be honest...he is & now you're angry.

I guess he didn't keep his part of the bargain right?
To be lonely & miserable without you?
To pine away until he became a mere shadow of his former self?

You chose to stay home & not date while ya'll were broken up. He chose to date. Deal with it.

Oh and don't ask the question if you're pretty sure you won't like the answer!
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Success stories 174 pages long
Posted: 9/21/2008 1:21:23 PM
So wouldn't we all love to be a part of that happy 10%?
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Raised in a children's home
Posted: 9/21/2008 1:12:43 PM
The best thing I can suggest is for you each have individual counseling & to go to couples counseling also. I realize it's a spendy thing but if you love her it's worth it.
Perhaps your family could be included also, to rebuild that relationship?
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 471 (view)
 
Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 9/21/2008 1:00:33 PM
My dogs get dental care & treats that keep their breath fresh,teeth are brushed daily,are bathed weekly & brushed daily. They receive parasite preventatives. They have been trained not to lick in the face unless invited...I never do but I have friends that do...I clean their feet after using their litterbox (the 2 small dogs & yes if treated like a dog even small ones are real dogs) & clean the feet of my larger dog before he comes back in the house. And yes the small ones do sleep in my bed. All 3 are crate trained.

Now the man who can clean himself after a bowel movement so he doesn't have "tracks" in his shorts, has fresh breath, wipes his feet before entering the house, is obviously regularly groomed & refrains from insulting me before ever (if ever) meeting me may be fortunate enough to get invited to my home for an overnight.

I do have children & when they needed to they were welcome to sleep with me no matter what I was engaged in at the time. They came first.

Why do I have dogs? They teach us to love unconditionally. They entertain us. They protect us. They believe we are always wonderful & desire to always be with us. They never insult us. They bring joy, contentment & better health.
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 47 (view)
 
WHY DO ALL THE GOOD LOOKING WOMEN IN FL SMOKE?
Posted: 9/19/2008 4:04:21 PM
I bathe daily
My dogs bathe weekly
I even remember to brush my teeth!

Think about why you're here & maybe you won't be so critical...

Hmmmm
One was an alcoholic
The other was a pothead

Must be nice to just be bothered by a little smoke
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Wheres all the singles hiding?
Posted: 9/19/2008 3:58:41 PM
Branch out to surrounding cities/towns OP
Especially this spring LOL
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Where are all the artists at?
Posted: 9/19/2008 3:56:44 PM
that can be fun true

But I do agree that being able to express yourself artistically is an asset
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 104 (view)
 
Orgasms make you live longer?
Posted: 9/19/2008 3:54:10 PM
OMG! I imagine I'll be dead by Sunday since I haven't "had any" for quite awhile now
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 113 (view)
 
Is the internet actually causing us to be single?
Posted: 8/30/2008 10:51:36 PM

You said it....

I'm sorry but I have met too many wonderful people on this site that have become great friends to take this too seriously. If you're not getting answers then change the way you write in the first place.
I get so many emails that just say: Hi Please show more initiative than that!
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 109 (view)
 
Is the internet actually causing us to be single?
Posted: 8/30/2008 10:32:16 PM
Guys are the same way about us cuties...they still want the stunner & do the same thing with IM & email as the women. That's what is keeping people single. After all who doesn't want that good old eye candy? So keep writing to them...
Ignore all the nice people then complain...
Not to say everyone is like this...just many.
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Ultimatums
Posted: 8/30/2008 10:10:12 PM
Ultimatums aren't always about being a control freak...
Take my ex, I did give him one: choose........ drugs & cheating or your family

Sometimes they ARE appropriate...
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
People w/ Grown Children: Would you ever marry again?
Posted: 8/30/2008 8:46:04 PM
It would take a very very special individual to get me to marry again...

As for what I'd leave the kids...I have already given them the best of me...my love, time & guidelines for a happy life...
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Does Saying I Love You first wreck the relationship?
Posted: 8/27/2008 6:34:06 PM
Sheesh you were honest & so was the other person...
Ya want them to lie so your feelings don't get hurt or what?
Not everyone progresses at the same speed, right?
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Can you have sex with a man and not be together, but still be friends?
Posted: 8/27/2008 6:31:59 PM
It's called FWB (Friends With Benefits)
Been around for awhile now
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 133 (view)
 
Would you open you marriage to save it?
Posted: 8/27/2008 6:29:16 PM
Well my ex tried that on his own...
Didn't save ours
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 48 (view)
 
engaged so soon?
Posted: 8/25/2008 3:54:09 PM
My last proposal was 3 months after we met...
The marriage lasted 16 yrs...

The next time I won't say yes so quickly
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 36 (view)
 
an old friend
Posted: 8/25/2008 3:52:35 PM
Oh yeah OP your kids are going to learn a lot from you.
Stay with an abuser because it's easier & it's ok to cheat...really, if you're loney, sad, being abused. etc.
And the kids DO know...my ex had a cheating wife...their 8 yr old son knew about it...
And yours are beginning college? Please...
You're a prime example of why women like me end up divorced...
Too eager to try on something new & bedammned to how it affects others...
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 94 (view)
 
Just found out my boyfriend is married!
Posted: 8/24/2008 3:39:51 PM
Personally I was glad that I was told when my ex cheated...
Wouldn't you like to know if it was your husband?
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 43 (view)
 
do I have baggage?
Posted: 8/24/2008 12:12:28 PM
Nope no baggage here...I just use a paper bag for my trash
The other stuff is a myriad of experiences...some to be treasured & others to be learning points
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Just found out my boyfriend is married!
Posted: 8/24/2008 12:09:34 PM
OMG...background checks background checksbackground checks background checks
background checks bacbackground checks background checkskground checksbackground checks background checksbackground checks background checks

Call him, tape it, play it for his wife
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Being compared to the ex.....
Posted: 8/18/2008 4:13:59 PM
Too bad...might have spiced things up

If it happens again...it will continue to happen
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Should I be the only responsible party in this matter?
Posted: 8/18/2008 3:02:48 PM
Yeah it's awful to be pulled over for a 2007 sticker in 2008
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Being compared to the ex.....
Posted: 8/18/2008 2:59:56 PM
It doesn't get any better. This behavior will continue (in my experience) a minimum of 16 yrs.
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Getting your ex back
Posted: 8/18/2008 2:58:56 PM
Looks to me like you still have an issue with BEING HONEST with him. I'd work on that first. If you can't be honest with him about this then forget it. I know it may be hard but you hurt him in the past so this news will either thrill him, give him a good LOL, give him a chance to hurt you back.

Also I have to agree...don't say you'll do anything at all...sheesh! He may ask you to tattoo his name on your forehead
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 76 (view)
 
Who initiates sex more within your relationship
Posted: 8/16/2008 7:35:43 PM
Depends on whether or not the batteries are fully charged...
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 37 (view)
 
When you're mad or hurt, who do you want comfort from?
Posted: 8/16/2008 7:32:40 PM
My dogs...
They're always willing to let me cry on them
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Ever get a song stuck in your head...?
Posted: 8/16/2008 7:31:35 PM
OMG don't get me started! As in...I'm likely to be the one that will post lyrics just to get songs stuck in your head
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 67 (view)
 
goodbye thudpucker..you will be missed !
Posted: 8/16/2008 3:00:07 PM
Goodbye to you my wonderful friend

Thanks for letting me know Di. I've been so busy that I've been almost completely out of touch.

To you Thudpucker, a friend whose wit, thoughtfulness & wisdom will live forever in our hearts & minds.

It's amazing how close we grow from time spent here. I'm so glad to have known this fine man & proud to have called him friend.

As a "tribute I post the first emoticon you ever sent me
And I post the last:

R.I.P.
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Working Retail Hours or non 9-5'rs
Posted: 3/24/2008 7:43:10 PM
I go to college, work & then there's the kiddo & pets so I have whaked hours too. But if I want to I can find time for someone I care about
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Ok very confused just need a little advice
Posted: 2/18/2008 4:48:35 PM
He's still married & the OP needs some sympathy...
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Sex Drive
Posted: 2/18/2008 12:58:37 PM
eazk you need to read the OPs profile! That says everything there is to say about his level of commitment to his lady.

Hi Indy!

Look, both sexes mess up & both can fix it but not so long as he's on here trolling for a bar fly!
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 23 (view)
 
At what age do we lower our standards on dating?
Posted: 2/9/2008 1:53:40 PM
OP just be happy your spouse lowered hers
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Have you ever dated or would you date/marry a perfectionist?
Posted: 10/17/2007 2:30:48 PM
I am one but don't expect it anyone but myself and only in certain areas...
Like doing the absolute best I can at work, college & being a Mom.
Nobody can be perfect but I've been told that by demanding the best from myself that's what I am.
So big deal...
It just means whoever I'm with gets the best I have to offer.
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 40 (view)
 
The instant shut down.
Posted: 10/13/2007 6:05:13 PM
I won't settle for what I know early is NOT right for me...
I fail to see the need to pursue anything when guys write to me that have no smokers...
Why did they write to start with?
If already knowing from their profile that it won't work why should it be pursued?
And yes, I DO read their profiles...

It's not an instant shut down...
It's common sense...
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 16 (view)
 
girlfriend hacks into boyfriends email account
Posted: 10/13/2007 6:00:28 PM
I don't see why this thread was needed...
Sheesh get rid of her!
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 178 (view)
 
Would u re-locate if asked by someone u were serious 4?
Posted: 9/17/2007 2:13:16 PM
Well, yes but that wouldn't be the only cosideration.
Things such as where I'd live, work, etc enter in to that decision.
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 1021 (view)
 
Mail order brides
Posted: 9/17/2007 9:06:34 AM
Nobody wants to appear vulnerable...
So we all act/post like a bunch of hard asses...

How many of us watch all those "looking for love" shows?
I think they're kinda silly myself...

They wouldn't be on tv unless they got the ratings & let's face it they do get them!

Also, JMO, but isn't THIS a bit like the mail order bride anyway?
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 1019 (view)
 
Mail order brides
Posted: 9/17/2007 8:35:42 AM


Ok let me be totally honest here:

I'd be a lousy mail order bride because I'd like a relationship full of love, passion, joy, fun & honesty
I'm just a sap by todays standards ok?

If it makes you happy then go for it guys!
Chase your dreams until you find them...
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 300 (view)
 
Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/17/2007 8:29:41 AM
Brains vs brawn manerider?
I agree with that...

I don't seek out younger men but I am polite when they contact me...
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 1017 (view)
 
Mail order brides
Posted: 9/17/2007 8:21:52 AM
All you have to do is read some of the male profiles & you'll know why the pajority of them are looking overseas...
Read their posts & you have the rest of the story...

However, there was a time when the mail order bride was very popular...
She would move to the wild, wild west/islands/the yukon, etc.
And yes, most of the time marriage was immediate...

I lived what I thought was an old-fashioned marriage for almost 17 years...
Until we had a disagreement:
He had a girlfiend & I disagreed...

Can I give that kind of trust again?
I truly hope so...

Do I abhorr the men seeking a mail order bride?
No

Is it crazy to seek one?
No
Hey my family about had a collective stroke when they found out I'm online!
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 180 (view)
 
WHY ARE PEOPLE AFRAID TO FALL IN LOVE NOWADAYS???
Posted: 9/17/2007 8:09:02 AM
Ever hear of the saying: burned once twice shy?
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 298 (view)
 
Why do young men think older women are interested in them?
Posted: 9/17/2007 8:07:10 AM
I find it amazing that this topic has constantly come to the fore front!
Has anyone else noticed that there are no threads on older men chasing after younger women?

BTW although I AM older I am NOT old...
My MOTHER is old...

All the way back to Bible days women have married younger men...
When a son of the home died hs widow would marry his younger brother (if there were no sons from the first marriage)...
There were times that there was a large age difference...

So don't "cry out" that this is a new phenomenon, it isn't...

Check your history...(Plantagenets for example)...
 
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