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Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
Why all the travel photos?
Posted: 10/4/2017 3:52:31 PM

Does posting all travel photos make someone seem more interesting or does it put you off?

You know, the obvious answer to all this is that people tend to take more pictures when travelling.
So do their friends.
Often the pictures are of them looking rested, brightly lit, dressed nicely so they end up being the pictures they like.

This tends to result in them having pictures to post that were taken when travelling.
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
women's sexuality has come along way.
Posted: 8/23/2017 2:39:54 PM

If a guy has sex with 10 women in a week he is considered a stud, or sowing his oats, or masculine. If a woman were to do the same, even today, she would be labelled as a slut or unclean. The price of sexism for you.

Sorry, but the truth is, even guys with a lot of partners are usually not respected either. Ever hear of phrases like "man-whore"?, "man slut"?, "player"? and so on...
Sure he may be a "stud" to his young high school or low life buddies but in truth, "stud" is actually a sarcastic compliment for most...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 135 (view)
Am I being made to feel less than a woman for lack of 'assets'?
Posted: 7/9/2017 12:52:39 AM

because I am average looking

Honestly, I think you're quite attractive....
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 23 (view)
Love spells that work
Posted: 7/2/2017 1:04:14 AM

the love spell worked and the guy I wanted is constantly calling me

Yes, but what is he calling you?
Let's see, joins POF just in time to get a dating tip from a psychic... YOU should have been a psychic...!

By the way, your profile might be more believable if it said blonde hair like in the profile picture....
not black....
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
Love spells that work
Posted: 7/2/2017 12:58:03 AM

with any other psychic

Yeah, they're all nuts... even worse, are the poor gullible fools that believe in them.
Anyone ever hear of a psychic winning the lottery....? I thought not.....
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
Would you be captain save a hoe
Posted: 5/19/2017 1:50:56 AM

If you began dating someone and really started to fall for them, could you accept them being an escort?

No, I wouldn't accept that. There are just too many potential issues from it...
Not the least of running into a previous "client"... Then there's the issue of potential disease.
I won't sleep with a woman unless she's been tested (at least a month after she's been with anyone else or testing is pointless).
Now if she had been an escort and had completely dropped that lifestyle (and had been out of it for a year or so at least...) and had been thoroughly tested I might consider dating her. Would it become a long term relationship? Probably not.... There would have to be a lot of positives there for me to look at her as a potential life partner....

Then too, many people start out doing things like escort, stripping, swinging... Everything is great for years, then change their lifestyle and end it all.... Unfortunately, a lot of the time it crops up down the road... Regrets, depression... problems with new partners...
Having been in that situation with someone, I'll never do it again...

Is saying "no I'm not seeing anyone else" wrong? If I'm legitamely not "dating" anyone else..

Ummm it's a bit of a grey area. You may not be having a relationship with the person, but you are having physical sessions.... Guys are not usually too keen to be double dipping, so if you're sleeping with one or more persons, you have to let any person you want to have a serious relationship with know this...

know that my future boyfriend or husband would have to have money

That sounds more like you want a long term client than a boyfriend/husband... Or at least a sign of you looking at being unable to separate real relationships with paid ones... Not a good sign....

When would you say is the appropriate time to tell someone like that?

There's no good time to have that conversation. In all honesty, if I dated someone a couple of times and was getting serious and I found out after I was getting serious. I'd most likely drop the whole relationship and move on... I might not even say why I'm ending it... Probably say some generic thing like it's "just not working out..."
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 39 (view)
Why not an Over 60 forum ?
Posted: 2/28/2017 7:22:26 PM

I think people over 60 prolly date wayyyyyyy more than younger age groups do..

Not surprising...
Chances are no little ones at home unless they borrowed them from their adult children for a few nights...
No job to get up for in the morning...
No one is going to tell them what to do or anything like that...
Older people do tend to sleep less....
Lot's of time to date and party....
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
Just learned she is pregnant with another man's child!
Posted: 2/28/2017 7:19:05 PM

You're dealing with someone who's clearly made a lifetime of making poor decisions. Unprotected sex with tons of men who ditch her once she's pregnant. Rinse and repeat.

Agreed here.
It's one thing if a woman (or a man) has made a bad decision in life. It's the (as you put it) "Rinse and repeat" part.
He is clearly dealing with a woman who seems incapable of learing from her mistakes other than learning how to make them consistently...

I'd be out of there so fast....
Too much drama
Too much potential for financial loss too....
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
Friends with an ex? Need advice
Posted: 2/23/2017 11:07:07 AM

Will it prevent us from not moving on as quickly if we weren't friends?

A lot of men will not date you if you are still friends with an Ex. Stay friends with an Ex, and anyone you date has a good chance of having to meet the Ex.
Not too many guys are going to want to meet the guy who you've been sleeping with prior to them... unless of course they have no long term plans for you themselves... for that matter, finding you're still friends with an Ex may make the new guy decide at that point not to have long term plans for you...
The Ex can also be the one who sabotages your new relationships both directly and indirectly...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 655 (view)
When women say there are no decentguys is what they really mean...
Posted: 2/15/2017 8:45:34 PM

I'd be interested to know how old this woman was, and also what advice she was given.

No idea of her age, but the advice was as follows:
" Very Confused Lady
Sounds like you’re talking yourself into a breakup.
Since your guy is so “amazing,” you’re likely pretty terrific yourself; but I don’t hear any confidence in being able to talk to him about why you feel the connection isn’t still there.
Relationships do normally move from passionate phases through busy, more independent periods.
Perhaps your house “project” is a symbol of both of you having become more distracted by work, projects, ambitions, etc.
Time to discuss this together, rather than canvass your sister and others, and definitely not to just run.
Tell him what you feel, without blame. Ask what he feels, and listen.
Relationship work isn’t all romance, or all dissection either. If the emotions are still there, it’s worth giving it another chance and seeing what each of you can do to feel closer again. "
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 648 (view)
When women say there are no decentguys is what they really mean...
Posted: 2/14/2017 11:57:26 PM

What the mean when they say there are no decent guys is

I read this in the advice column in a local newspaper...

I think I want to break up with my partner of six years, but I’m unsure whether it’s the right decision. I don’t even know how to break up (I’ve always been the one that gets dumped) without hurting his feelings.
He might know it’s coming, as we haven’t been the same for a while. We just don’t have that same connection anymore.
We’ve owned a house together (though it’s all in his name) for a year, but we’re not living in it, as it’s more of a project.
He’s an amazing man and has always treated me well. He’s good looking, earns a really good wage, is thoughtful and caring, which is why I’m so scared to leave.
What if I never find anyone as amazing again? Also, the thought of someone else having what I could have with him terrifies me.
I still want to be a part of his life — his family is like mine too, but I’m worried that everyone will disown me and the breakup will be final.
My sister and a close friend just think I’m being silly. Yet I’m just not happy right now, feeling sick and worried daily.

And the moral of the story is, even when a woman finds a decent guy, it's still not good enough...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 57 (view)
Why are some men so clueless when it comes to STDs?
Posted: 2/9/2017 11:20:09 AM

So, how about it, all you Men?
How many of you will/won't don the "love glove"?
Inquiring minds want to know.
Ladies too, since some of the men have found them to be not so "careful".
As for me -- I would insist.

The thing is... condoms don't protect against a lot of STDs...
•HPV (human papillomavirus)
•Genital herpes.
Can all be acquired even though condoms are used...
Many people will have oral sex without a condom then insisit on a condom for intercourse, which is reasonably close to pointless at that point...
Everyone fears AIDS, yet few are aware that among women, HPV can lead to more deaths per year than AIDS

In 2013 (the most recent year numbers are available)—
•11,955 women in the United States were diagnosed with cervical cancer.*2
•4,217 women in the United States died from cervical cancer

•An estimated 1,859 women died from HIV or AIDS during 2013.
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 203 (view)
If a woman admits to 10 lovers, she's probably had 30
Posted: 2/5/2017 5:04:17 PM

No one really tells the truth about this sort of thing to another lover

I always told the truth when I was asked.
Why not? In most cases the truth comes out eventually... I never had to try and remember a "made up number"...
If a woman I was dating wanted to know then I feel she has a right to enough information to make an informed decision.
The only reason for not telling seems to me to be guilt over the numbers or they're afraid the other person will leave once they know the count.
They leave, they leave....
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 56 (view)
Phukking TATTOOS!!!
Posted: 1/21/2017 1:56:03 PM

mostly because as much as I hate needles, I simply can't fathom how people can let a stranger draw on them with permanent ink

In a weird way letting a stranger draw on them may be preferable...

Someone I know is single, and she has a fair number of Tats, some in rather intimate places, all done by her Ex... as her Ex is well known for being a tattoo artist, she's finding it difficult to find a new relationship because no guy really wants to be reminded of her Ex, every time he looks at her artwork.
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 228 (view)
Our aging bodies
Posted: 1/14/2017 5:56:40 PM

Having a foot injury 2yrs ago and being less mobile made me feel really old.

Yeah. I can understand that. I've been limping for 2 weeks and I already feel frustrated with it...
Foot injuries can really get to you as you get older...
Broke my ankle a few years back... that was bad enough... but as we get older we heal slower....
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 249 (view)
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 1/14/2017 5:52:28 PM

No guy gives a rats ass how many you've been with, They just don't want to hear about it

In a lot of cases the guy doesn't care...
He might not want a long term relationship with her, so why would he care where she's been or what she's done?
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 199 (view)
If a woman admits to 10 lovers, she's probably had 30
Posted: 1/14/2017 5:48:51 PM

I'm no mathematician, but barring DIY and non-human contact, in the end it breaks even doesn't it?

How does it break even...
Some people have had lot's of partners, others have had very few...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
Players are more successful with women.
Posted: 12/28/2016 7:02:23 PM

Being a player is a self defense mechanism.

For some, it's the thrill, the game...
Or simply just being in the right place at the right time...
Players are often the guys who learned how to do the right things at the right time... the EXPERIENCE you talked of...
But that means learning how to talk to women...
Being comfortable around people...
Flirting without even being aware of it..
Knowing how to behave in public, how to dance, to socialise.... how to dress...
Being able to walk away if she's not going to work out...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 35 (view)
Phukking TATTOOS!!!
Posted: 12/9/2016 2:07:00 PM

I've seen some beautiful work.

I've seen some really nice tats...
But most are not all that good... I've even had a few people ask to use one of my sketches for a tat... and I nod, say "Ok" and then I walk away wondering what the hell are they thinking...?

I've dated a few women with Tats, some of which were tattooed to hide surgical scars and such...
So i'm not opposed to them or in favour of them...

But in the long run, they get to be really boring as hell to look at night after night...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 34 (view)
Phukking TATTOOS!!!
Posted: 12/9/2016 2:03:13 PM

Usually it's unidentifiable purple smudge.

I dated a girl like that...
Very pretty and athletic... her body was toned and no fat...
She had a tat on her hip at the bikini line...
It looked like a purple tree.. or a brocoli.... no idea...
She told me what it was at one time, but I really couldn't see it...
After we separated I forgot what it was she said it was...

Looking at a few nude photos of her, I still can't make out what it's supposed to be...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 33 (view)
Why are some men so clueless when it comes to STDs?
Posted: 8/14/2016 1:34:52 PM

The sad thing is that "safe sex" is an oxymoron. Safe practices aren't really all that safe.

The fact is even the best intentions can lead to STD's... and the worst....

My G/F used to be a swinger. She caught two STD's while swinging... yet used a condom all the time. Her EX, ended up with HIV, by then, they weren't having sex with each other so much as with other partners. She didn't get it, but there was 6 months of rigorous testing and retesting to be sure. Her Ex died just a few years ago, almost exactly 10 years to the day he was diagnosed. He hadn't bothered to tell his new wife what was wrong with him until he was admitted to hospital near the end. Meanwhile, he had kept on swinging.

I'm very thorough about testing. I would get tested before and after each relationship. I wanted a clean bill of health so no one could come after me and say "hey, you gave me.... "
There are too many things you can get even with a condom. Condoms really only protect the area in contact with the condom. Too many people don't realise that if you have oral sex without a condom, you might as well not bother using it for intercourse either....
Condoms are better than nothing.... but they are not a miracle preventative....
I know far too many condom babies to ever trust them....
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 64 (view)
Now you're done with the jerks?
Posted: 8/7/2016 12:47:21 AM

The inference that women want only jerks and bad boys is their way of rationalising the whole thing of being rejected

Oh give me a break...
Look I'm in the position that I don't care if the woman wants a good guy or a loser... Most of the time she will still pick the loser.
I know a lot of great women... most of them are brought low by the guys they date...
They try to justify the guy....
They try to fix him...
But in the beginning they bought into the BS the guy offered... and in the long run, there ends up being another single mom....
It's funny but women justify getting with the "bad guy" or "loser" as opposed to the "nice guy"...
Yet, if guys were to turn around and say "Hey, I want the dirty, chronically unemployed, skanky slut, not the cute nice chick with a great job" they'd be laughed at for being idiots....
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 63 (view)
Now you're done with the jerks?
Posted: 8/7/2016 12:37:58 AM

Seriously, where do you and Mr. Church meet your women anyways?

Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
Now you're done with the jerks?
Posted: 8/2/2016 9:07:29 AM

but seems to like to go out and drink, party, etc.. Great! Well, they start dating -- but after they get established: She wants to shift gears and not go out to the even non-wild nightlife, and instead go out to the suburbs and hang out with her married friends, have drinks on a deck, and get into bed before midnight on the weekends. It's the trend that she's changing how she rolls from single->taken, wants him to follow suit.

Yeah, I've seen and experienced that. Funny thing is later on some of them turn and say "You never take me out anymore!"
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
Now you're done with the jerks?
Posted: 8/1/2016 2:38:08 PM

So these girls who wanted nothing to do with me, they'd rather date the guy who spends so much time in the gym that he starves his brain of oxygen and is just completely dumb, or be with people that the only thing in their life that they have to brag about is how much they just spent at the bar that night, or has to have the fast car, or is constantly ready to pick a fight with someone, you know those girls that keep going for that guy, that now suddenly, when they're in their 30s, with a couple kids, a crappy job, now they want a guy like me.... Why?

I have a few female friends like this...

One is currently having an affair behind her husband's back with an alcoholic drug using bisexual guy and can't even figure out why she's doing it....

Another is trying to land a guy at the bar. He's such a player and a complete ass even before he gets cross-eyed drunk...
She thinks he's "cute"

I walk in the bar looking good, dressed neatly and looking tidy. Women are polite but not interested. ( I don't care, I'm in a relationship ) Go in same bar on another night wearing all black and a leather jacket and boots, every woman in the place hits on me....

One of my friends keeps picking up the same kind of guys every new relationship. They could be brothers they're so much alike... Each relationship last long enough for her to get laid a few times then dumped... But apparently the problem is that "ALL" men are alike.... It's not HER!

One of my friends just recently dumped her boyfriend... I asked why. She replied "He was nice but...." The guy works steady, light drinker, not annoying or anything like that.... He's just apparently too nice...

Women date men thinking they can change them...
Men date women hoping they won't change....

I know far too many men who are raising some other idiot's( who was there in her past) kids...

Your Ex is not someone I wish to meet. Or hear about. It was so nice of you to leave all those picture of your wedding everywhere... And my, what big bed you had on your honeymoon..
Yes, your son does look like your Ex. Fascinating. Nothing like a reminder of the guy who was sleeping with you for these many years. Your child has NO genetic link to ME. Please do not expect ME to immediately bond with it. Your child has less in common with ME than your cat has. The cat at least will respond kindly to ME being nice to it...

But at the end of the day, the woman will tell you things like...

"The past is the past" - Really? Didn't you just say the other day, "My past is what made me as good as I am". Meanwhile I'm thinking "With a better past how awesome she might have been...."

"We all made mistakes!" - Yes that's true... I locked my keys in the car one day... That's a mistake... On the other hand sleeping with around 40 guys (can't remember the actual names or numbers) and had 3 kids by different fathers is bit more than a mistake... especially if they kept on doing it....

"My past shouldn't affect us!" - Yes, until the point where I want you to perform (insert whatever sex act) and you won't ever do THAT again... Because some loser guy did it to you to the point you still have nightmares....

What's going on in the women's head on this?

Some, they finally mature... Most of them... too little too late... but still with a certain sense of entitlement...

Others realise that they fcuked up over those years and then go through depression and finally start to realise what they missed and try to make up for it by going for a do-over of some kind....

Some are just desperate....

and finally some are still just as nutty as squirrel poop and you're better off staying away....

Once had an Ex's new boyfriend tell me "I can see why you left her...."
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 88 (view)
Tattoos or No Tattoos?
Posted: 8/1/2016 1:55:28 PM
My friend has a few piercings on her face, the Tattoos, are on both arms, to her wrists, down both legs, shoulders and one foot....
so not so easy to cover....
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 85 (view)
Tattoos or No Tattoos?
Posted: 7/31/2016 3:59:09 PM

Sometimes having tattoos is a filter.

Often it is....
I have a very nice female friend with fairly large obvious tattoos...
She is truly a lovely lady, great personality, pretty good looking....

Her biggest complaints...
1...Cant land a serious job...
2...Guys she meets hit on her for sex only... they don't want a serious relationship with her....

My G/F has two tats...
One to hide large surgery scars... (which it really does quite well.....)
The other is in the traditional tramp stamp location...

I really don't have an issue with them... ( I have no tats myself) but it does get tiresome looking at the same picture over and over.... especially making out doggy style...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 61 (view)
maybe tattoo my belly orange with a ten inch long white area
Posted: 7/27/2016 9:08:51 AM

I think a tat should fit the person

Yeah because nothing looks worse that a Tattoo that is larger than the person...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 817 (view)
Genital Herpes
Posted: 7/19/2016 1:05:27 PM

That's great that you can afford it.

Here in Canada we just go to the doctor or clinic and the testing is free....
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
Why don't they come back?
Posted: 7/17/2016 6:18:46 PM
I'm an exception... dated, lived together, broke up, moved on...
Then got back together... and it's been working fine for years now.

The thing is, to get back together, you need to eliminate the things that were the issue the first time...
If there were a lot of issues, I can't see that happening... but if it was a specific thing, that no longer exists... maybe it will work....

For the most part, I don't stay in contact with Ex's.... I don't hate them or anything... just don't care....
I have heard through the grapevine some of my Ex's now wish they were still with me... Oh well....
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 370 (view)
Dicks are back in full force
Posted: 6/23/2016 7:20:38 AM

What would be "significant" and a "necessity"??

When I got involved with my current partner she disclosed that she was undergoing testing for HIV as one of her last partners had tested positive very close to the time they had split up. Although she had been married only once, they had been swingers as well... and then she had seen a few others after the marriage ended...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 359 (view)
Dicks are back in full force
Posted: 6/22/2016 5:28:53 PM

They ask the question because they are infantile, controlling and likely have some issues with a woman from their past. I haven't heard the word slut used since high school.

So then, why do women ask?
And if no one has used the word slut since high school, then how do women decide it's still slut shaming?

See, I don't understand all of this... I've been asked by lot's of women what my numbers are (were?)... For the most part, I've never bothered to ask unless something significant came up that kind of meant asking became pretty much a necessity...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 331 (view)
It's still a shameless slut looking for enough richards!
Posted: 6/21/2016 2:17:50 PM

And I won't lie but I will say "that's personal" or "that's none of your business".

Good plan... I'm going to say the same thing when people ask me my age... after all, why should I tell my partner how old I am...? Let them guess... especially for me, as I look like I'm a lot younger than I am...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 301 (view)
It's still a shameless slut looking for enough richards!
Posted: 6/20/2016 5:32:12 AM

I can figure it out without asking

As you suggest in your statement, the man is very likely to be given the answer he wants to hear which, may or may not, represent reality.

At one time I went out with a woman who told me her number and it was surprisingly low. Since I had known of her, and the people around her, I did comment on the number she gave me.... Her reply was priceless... "I don't count the mistakes and the one night stands."
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 295 (view)
Ot you could just be a dick
Posted: 6/18/2016 7:35:23 PM

So what HE wants trumps what I want? I don't think so,

So what YOU want trumps what he wants then?

It's not wiholding information, it's basically saying "I'll decide what questions to answer".

Which is fine. But the other person may decide that there's no point in staying. Especially if they are wondering "what else does she think I don't need to know..."

If asked "how many?" and I say "that's none of your business", there is nothing dishonest about that response.

Again the other person may decide to move on then.... or they may stay... at some point it may be one of the reasons why they end it further down the road...

The best answer is the one I read yesterday where they said "not enough". That's honest.

True it is honest. And I would assume the other person wants to sleep with more people and is not ready to settle down yet and I'd move on...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 75 (view)
Do you really want a THUG?
Posted: 6/18/2016 3:15:09 PM

And that is the mistake I see alot of women make. They want their "Bad-boy" to change. They will wait, and endure so much abuse and suffering, but in the end he will never change.

Women often see changing the guy as a sort of challenge.

Men often settle down with a woman hoping she won't change, and women settle down with a guy hoping he will change...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 283 (view)
Go ahead & ask dumb ass
Posted: 6/17/2016 11:12:34 AM

people who are worried about how many partners their partners had before them are "fu^ked up". But you know what, if you don't think you can handle the answer, don't ask the question.

That's YOUR opinion... See, the people to whom it doesn't matter will never understand the reasons to want to know/ask ... and the people that it matters to, will never understand why you'd not want to know...

I really don't think it's a big deal one way or the other to ask or to answer.
Honestly, I think it makes more sense for woman to ask about the number of past partners than for a man to ask. Men seem far more predisposed to moving on to new partner than women are... and a past history of that may be a good indicator of future behaviour...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 282 (view)
morals are retro
Posted: 6/17/2016 11:03:50 AM

I remember well the day my 2nd husband asked me a question and I answered his question.
He never said so, but I'm sure it was no coincidence that our sex life came to a screeching halt, from that day forward.
Be careful what you ask for.

Or alternatively discuss what matters to you beforehand so you can both make an informed decision to stay or go. That way there are no surprises down the road when it's too late....
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 262 (view)
morals are retro
Posted: 6/15/2016 3:13:16 PM

How insecure do people have to be to keep a count?

Keeping a count of your own number has nothing to do with being insecure.... Good grief !!!!!
It's not so much keeping count as being able to remember who I slept with... I guess I always felt anyone I have had sex with, was worth remembering.

I think it would be kind of sad if someone has fcuked people and they can't remember them...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 243 (view)
morals are retro
Posted: 6/14/2016 8:10:25 PM

I've not been asked this question but I have only dated mature men.

Maybe you dated men who didn't plan on staying with you so they didn't care....
Maybe you dated men who were afraid of the answer...
Maybe you dated men who were afraid of asking in case they get labelled...
Maybe you dated men who didn't want to be judged for asking...
Maybe you dated men who simply didn't care...
Maybe you dated men who had any number of other reasons not to ask...
But hey, I'm glad you were able to figure that they didn't ask because the men were "mature"....
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 231 (view)
morals are retro
Posted: 6/13/2016 8:18:30 PM

Starting to think that Men who have been shut down the most first to say slut.

Why does it seem that if a man wants to know, then he gets labelled, shamed, insulted, judged and such for asking - by women who say they won't answer because that's labelling, shaming, insulting, judging and such..

I've also pointed out that women often ask as well... if a woman asks a man about his numbers is it also slut shaming? judging?
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 64 (view)
Do you really want a THUG?
Posted: 6/13/2016 1:22:24 PM

The moment that you put a woman in a pedestal it the moment that you will never sleep with that woman.

I always try to put a woman on a pedestal... easier to look up her skirt then. lol

But it's true... There is a point where you have to draw a line in the sand even if it means she walks away... There will always be another woman to take her place if she does...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
NOT so glamous Glamour Shots
Posted: 6/13/2016 10:17:21 AM

And she's Really Sensitive about pictures of herself.

There's a funny quirk about people when they see their pictures. Many people don't "like" their photo being taken because they never look good... and the reason is, people think they look like their reflection in a mirror. Left and right sides reversed. That's because much of our self-awareness comes from how we see ourselves in a mirror.
I've sometimes taken a batch of pics, then mirror flipped one or two before showing the person. More often than not, they prefer the flipped pics to the ones with the correct orientation.
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 217 (view)
all lines are blurred
Posted: 6/12/2016 4:26:53 PM

As long as the man has the same low or no experience with women

There does seem to be the assumption here that if a man asks, it's because he's hypocritical because he's got high numbers and wants a woman with low numbers.
My buddy has only been with 5 women his entire life. He's told me he wants a woman in the same ballpark as him a few higher or lower is not a problem for him. He just doesn't want a woman who has numbers in the high double digits or triple digits.

Personally I have no interest in a man who has an FWB,

I can understand that. Especially if they want to keep the "friend" around...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 31 (view)
NOT so glamous Glamour Shots
Posted: 6/11/2016 6:18:57 PM

Can anybody else suggest anything more -- short of dumping him, or confiscating his cell phone?

Since she is a photographer, maybe he is trying to emulate her.
One of the things about being a photographer, musician whatever is that you need to practice, practice and practice...
I think it would be a good idea to get him a better camera, better cellphone camera or whatever...
Then either get him some photography books or sign him up for a photography course...
Bad photographers are no worse than bad singers... except there is no picture equivalent for karaoke...
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 209 (view)
all lines are blurred
Posted: 6/11/2016 9:40:56 AM

His number of past partners isn't one of them. If we discuss it in a general sense, fine,but I am not going to be after him for names, numbers, or time-stamps.

Then so, because it doesn't matter to you, then it doesn't matter to everyone?
I've been asked for numbers by many of the women I have dated and oddly they asked me first. Some have been upset, some have broken up with me. I've always answered honestly because I think a woman has the right to make an informed decision. I've never rejected a partner because she has asked me. That would make no sense to me.

who observe each others actions as well as their words, can learn most of what they need to know

To a certain degree sure... but if you were to apply that logic to me you'd never know anything. I don't hangout with Ex's, some Ex's are dead. Many have moved, married, no idea in a lot of cases if they are dead or alive... I don't mention them, so short of asking me directly.
On the other hand, I've been in the situation before of walking into the bar with my partner and knowing she has slept with at least 5 of the guys in the place. So I suppose in some cases observing does impart information.
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 208 (view)
all lines are blurred
Posted: 6/11/2016 9:29:12 AM

Oh, I see it's one those words that MEN make up for the express purpose of sitting in judgment of women.

Oh, I see, it's like "player", "gigolo" "man-whore" and "man-slut" that WOMEN make up for the express purpose of sitting in judgement of men."
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 59 (view)
Do you really want a THUG?
Posted: 6/9/2016 4:22:01 PM

so why do you ladies want thugs?

I've always wondered this...

I'm 6 1/2 foot 250lbs...
I go out to a bar in a nice shirt clean, looking tidy, good mood and such, women ignore me...

I walk into a bar dressed all in black, unshaven and a little edgy looking, every woman in the place is trying to pick me up....

All I was in there for was a beer....
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
Profile photo, with more than one person
Posted: 6/9/2016 4:13:08 PM
I would just assume that I get both women and then use the fact that only 1 shows up as an excuse to not go for a second date... LOL
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 51 (view)
4 words that can ruin a date (for fun)
Posted: 6/9/2016 4:00:19 PM
Some real ones that I've experienced:

"My hubby's a biker" (turns out he was in the HA)

"I've slept with 144" (she was 19 at the time)

On a double date...
"I am not drunk!" (Followed by her throwing up over her girlfriend, who proceeded to throw up over her. My buddy and I got up and left them to it...)

"I have 5 kids!" (Oddly we did end up going out a few months later on....)

" I am a cop", (to be fair, she was trying to get rid of me... Lol)

"you got any coke?" (she wasn't thirsty...)

Met a girl in a bar with a suitcase...
"I can move in..." ( We weren't on a date, we had just met and she had just asked me if I lived alone)

"My brother was first"... (and yes, we were talking about our first sex experience....)
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