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 Author Thread: Once we get over 45, how kinky do we get?
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Msg: 39 (view)
Once we get over 45, how kinky do we get?
Posted: 4/17/2012 3:01:07 AM
Recently, a mutually satisfying union ran it's course. We apparently reached above and beyond that which either of us ever expected to reach with any other accepting adult. My married 22 year union never reached near the the same electrifying stage as my post-divorce companionship did for whatever reason. I feel fortunate that I experienced nearly the same unfettered free-willed union that I did back in the free-wheeling 60's~ '70's. I feel fortunate for being able to literally "let it all hang out" once again. It was SOOOOO worth it.
"Kink" is only a matter of acceptance and allowance...and mutual enjoyment.
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Msg: 217 (view)
Posted: 4/4/2012 2:40:17 AM
Ah! You're back!!!
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Msg: 1200 (view)
Haiku Connection - Part IV
Posted: 11/1/2011 1:51:32 AM
I sure got the time
unemployment insures space
retirement time?
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Msg: 1190 (view)
Haiku Connection - Part IV
Posted: 10/30/2011 3:43:23 AM
Eureka moment
enlighten a new moment
clarifies the day
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Msg: 51 (view)
Generalizations of women and men
Posted: 10/23/2011 3:08:48 AM

I’m familiar with the other forums. You are free to check out whatever forum you wish to.

Thank you.
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Msg: 1152 (view)
Haiku Connection - Part IV
Posted: 10/23/2011 2:41:12 AM
nonetheless we thrive
even we that don't believe
live a life of good
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Msg: 1102 (view)
Haiku Connection - Part IV
Posted: 10/17/2011 3:00:17 AM
just let go, have fun
casting caution to the wind
basking in the glow
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Msg: 17 (view)
dating for 1st time
Posted: 10/17/2011 2:30:23 AM
Really, when men claim kissing and cuddling as their preferred criteria, it screams "I'm looking for a boody call" and many women would prefer a true one-on-one exclusive relationship or at least the potential for one.

Hummm so if a guy is sexually interested in you some of you ladies feel as if there is no potential for a one on one exclusive relationship...interesting...

Not at all, "many"--not a sweeping generalization, of people seek basically a one-on-one sexual relationship, some (gasp) seek a one-on-one mutually exclusive relationship after a mutually comfortable period of time before they fvck. In both these instances the decision is made within minutes of meeting face-to-face, but "some" seek a "getting acquainted" time frame before indulging in sex. Both genders desire someone to find them sexually attractive, period, without that--unless you live by a highly restricted code (religious, strict parenting, whatever), the attraction has to be there. Yes, that attraction is indeed fueled by sexual attraction.

ex: Would a profile read better if a man claimed that they were packing 12 inches and could eat pvssy all night? Sure, but women could view that as an invitation solely based on an expected booty-call and decide accordingly. Some might see it as not viewing women as an individual that just might want a "friend" or companion as the end result, not just as a means to scratch the itch. We all know how to scratch that itch.

IMO, women see too many men as a "potential" without a moderate grace period to really see it through. Sure, that initial glow/honeymoon period is delicious, but one that has the "potential" to cause unpleasant gas...
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Msg: 221 (view)
gold diggers in orange county/south california!! any good ones left??
Posted: 10/17/2011 1:20:15 AM

Doesn't seem fair to me that I'm handing out money to a girl who crams a vibrating wand on her clit, and all I can do is watch. Your thoughts please.

Supply and demand?
No one puts a gun to anyone's credit card to buy such offers, regardless of where or who makes these offers. It's all up to the viewing masses to pay to play. ...or not.

This topic, IMO, was referring to a geographic genre of women (specifically the OC) who expect/want some form of reparation for sexual favors, knowing full well that a "relationship" would not be the desired result, if at all.

"These" non-sexually oriented dating websites do not allow web camming, but that doesn't stop anyone from exchanging or viewing off site.
It's all about choice.
Where and what one posts.
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Msg: 2471 (view)
First Line, Last Line (Part Deux)
Posted: 10/15/2011 1:47:30 AM
all I want is for something to just function
said a man that I totally acknowledge his condition
needing to complete an act to his sense of junction
to acknowledge his sense of fruition

too many men rely on their "ardor"
to sustain a sense of their allure
many hold much too much to attain
what really defines their means that retain
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Msg: 1692 (view)
8 Line Poetry Stanzas - Use Last Line 4 First Line
Posted: 10/15/2011 1:31:22 AM
just hoping we don't run out of rope
till the new "thing" takes hold
is this great new high all the dope?
or one we want to fill the mold.

what seems so promising might not be a defect
one shouldn't totally dismiss
a connection that just might be correct
one that could provide total bliss.
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Msg: 64 (view)
What's your favorite Disneyland ride?
Posted: 10/15/2011 12:51:51 AM

My favorite ride is, "Big Thunder Mountain".

Yeah, I have a cousin who works there and still won't talk about the deaths that happened last year.
I love the place and would ride them all if I went there.
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Msg: 215 (view)
gold diggers in orange county/south california!! any good ones left??
Posted: 10/15/2011 12:47:43 AM
oh, I diggers don't exist across the nation, only in SoCal. Or was the OT referring to "any good ones left in OC or SoCal?" Mm, define a "good" gold digger. lol!

This topic is so done. A guy can't score and blames a whole geographical area for his shortcomings?
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Msg: 934 (view)
Haiku Connection - Part IV
Posted: 10/1/2011 3:42:41 AM
a wee bit longer!
as she struggled to climax
length or mastery?
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Msg: 882 (view)
Haiku Connection - Part IV
Posted: 9/25/2011 7:35:51 AM
Hi Anna^^
randomly to cope
surviving how is the key
I hope to learn now
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Msg: 29 (view)
Generalizations of women and men
Posted: 9/25/2011 5:39:30 AM
Here's a simple scenario that totally cracks me up:
"He/she emailed me three times. Therefore it must be "true love", this initial contact MUST mean a true connection and a true love & exclusive committed relationship, one that follows the joint trip to pick out a China pattern.

Just cruise the forums to read these "assumptions" and all the subsequent replies to these gender generalizations.
Whatever the manipulations, they are there year after year.
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Msg: 13 (view)
Generalizations of women and men
Posted: 9/18/2011 11:10:14 AM
Sorry, I was half asleep when I posted that. You admitted that you are new to the site and you seem to have taken my explanation as a personal slam. It wasn't.

Another poster responded thanking you for starting a new thread on a subject that has been done many times before. ("Who wants to sift through 500+ posts in a thread that started 6 years ago that contains nothing but generalizations.? Thank you for starting a new thread. Even if it is thread bashing.") There are many other forums on this site, believe me when I say that there are very few "new" topics, so redundancy is hard to avoid.

Next time you start a new thread or happen to see a new thread, you'll see that a drop-down box will appear under the original post with options to vote to have the new thread deleted for various reasons. This "box" stays visible for a certain length of time allowing others to vote it off the forums. Past that time frame (an hour, two hours??) the "box" disappears and the new thread is either still there or has been deleted altogether. Sometimes one will start a new thread and later come back and not be able to find it because it was pulled for whatever reason.

I hope I was clearer this time.
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Msg: 7 (view)
dating for 1st time
Posted: 9/18/2011 10:45:49 AM
^^So right Match, so very right.
At my age, upgrading is not an option, so the standard package will have to do.
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Msg: 817 (view)
Haiku Connection - Part IV
Posted: 9/18/2011 3:02:58 AM
calling out your name
imagining your sweet touch
bringing a home run
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Msg: 109 (view)
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 9/18/2011 2:18:00 AM
^^^NEVER assume Natgoat.............never assume..........
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Msg: 5 (view)
dating for 1st time
Posted: 9/18/2011 2:12:22 AM
IMO men who immediately claim their status as a "good kisser" or list cuddling as an "interest" turn me off. But, I am of the post-60 group who still seeks a man with all parts in working order, or those that are aware of other "options".

Many women would prefer men that just approach them on a "get-to-know-you" basis, one not based on a sexual level initially.

Really, when men claim kissing and cuddling as their preferred criteria, it screams "I'm looking for a boody call" and many women would prefer a true one-on-one exclusive relationship or at least the potential for one.
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Msg: 10 (view)
Generalizations of women and men
Posted: 9/18/2011 1:32:37 AM

That is partially why the forums at this website are so boring and inactive. Who wants to sift through 500+ posts in a thread that started 6 years ago that contains nothing but generalizations.?

Thank you for starting a new thread. Even if it is thread bashing. ;)

A positive comment is not thread bashing in my book. Thanks.
I'm not sure how I expect anyone to respond. I didn't really formulate it well. I guess I trust in peoples resourcefulness and good intentions.

Often "new" threads are pulled or voted off the island because they are redundant in topic matter.
Often old threads get answered to and "revived" months and years later because the subject still remains a valid topic no matter the year it was originally posted. Often the moderators will pull a thread and "remind" the poster that it is redundant and to do a "search" in the future pertaining to a subject and to respond to a post already on the forums.

Apparently, your "new" thread made it past the timeline where others can vote to delete a new thread if it gets noticed as being redundant or as a previous poster considered it "bashing" as I assume they meant gender bashing.

All new threads have the potential to get voted off the forum by several options if others respond and vote on it within a certain timeline. It's nothing personal, just that some will notice and respond and decide to try to contain redundant topics that have been posted over and over and over....
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Msg: 57 (view)
is watching porn at an adult video store a form of cheating?
Posted: 9/18/2011 12:22:18 AM
It's only cheating if watched away from home, if watched IN your home, no.
BUT, if watched on Sundays and every other day ending in "Y", yes, watching porn is a form of cheating...excluding midget porn and certain porn videos involving two or more girls and a cup.

Sorry I couldn't be a better source of help, but there are just too many darned rules!!!!
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Msg: 21 (view)
How long would you date someone before you would expect to be exclusive?
Posted: 9/17/2011 6:59:11 PM

However, he told me in the beginning that he didn't want to rush into anything too quick, so he has continued to date on here.

He has told me that he isn't and wouldn't date with anyone else besides me

Not to sound mean, but WHICH is it?
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Msg: 20 (view)
How long would you date someone before you would expect to be exclusive?
Posted: 9/17/2011 6:53:15 PM

Just let him do what he needs to do for now?

Those no "letting" anyone do things, people will do as they please, regardless if you're exclusive, married, or joined-at-the-hip.

As I've said over and over in forums like these, unless TWO people say it OUT LOUD to each other to agree to being exclusive, NEVER EVER assume that you are.
I often get replies from others that say couples should never have "that talk", that secure couples "just know" and by voicing their commitment it some how weakens or will jinx a relationship by casting doubt. IMO: bullsh!t.

You know that old quaint saying about ASSuming.........

I have to agree with a few others here, you sound needy and placing your hopes way too high.

how long before you would expect to be exclusive?

Again, there should be NO expectations of anything, there are no guarantees. He already told you that he's not ready for a commitment at this time. He's already told you he will continue to date others.

His sweet words are most likely to keep you as an OPTION.
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Msg: 366 (view)
How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/20/2011 1:16:53 AM
so harm, no foul.

Go forth and stake your claim, enjoy whatever comes your way with total disclosure and acceptance. With that you will live your live on your own terms, as it should be.
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Msg: 38 (view)
Gettting no where with this site?
Posted: 8/20/2011 12:16:51 AM

We are probably socialized by movies and TV and our parents to imagine it has one and only one form. Then we watch foreign movies and see other possibilities. Then we meet other people find it easier to invent new possibilities.

Perhaps, allowing that some don't necessarily need to "invent" possibilities to connect with any viable person that they just plain "click" with in reality. Attraction is met on many levels, regardless of the origins of the 2 involved. The 2 main men in my post-divorce dating life were very different from both me and themselves, yet they both melded and blended deliciously with my personal background. At least they both spoke and understood my brand of English, such as it is.

And thank you for the kind words (I think:)

Honestly, accept my respects.
Why do you suspect my well wishes as other than...well wishes?
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Msg: 364 (view)
How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/19/2011 11:54:17 PM
^^^lord luv ya phill34, "mature older women" in your range would be in their 30's.
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Msg: 34 (view)
Gettting no where with this site?
Posted: 8/18/2011 4:13:49 PM

I had an unusual encounter with Clint, or someone close to Clint many years ago.

Sorry but this begs to be asked: which was it, Clint or someone else?
Just seems that if one met such a high-profile public figure as Clint Eastwood that there would be no question as to who they actually met.

just askin'...

Kudos on your new current dating lady. She sounds lovely and a great match for you, GC.
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Msg: 2178 (view)
First line, Last line
Posted: 8/16/2011 6:43:36 PM
In a small bag tied with sailor's knots
do we hold our secrets, baggage or dreams
how about a penny for your thoughts
the bags hold something different for everyone it seems
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Msg: 2 (view)
Posted: 8/15/2011 4:44:12 PM
I have to agree with you, although if you do a search you'll find other threads addressing this and you'd be surprised how many would disagree with us. Of course, my kids are grown, but even then I don't post other people in my pics without their knowledge, let alone young children. I wouldn't involve my kids with my dating unless I was in a solid relationship, and then only on rare occasions.
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Msg: 131 (view)
bald guys
Posted: 8/14/2011 1:29:06 AM
^^sorry, D. Trump trumped himself right out of the equation with his EXTREME comb-over. His dome-covering could command a zip code of it's own in all the states he resides in!

Men, shave your impending bald head or not, really most women don't project what you might look like AFTER we've met you. IMO, bald can be sexy if it fits with the total man's persona, thinning hair can be sexy if it fits with the total man's persona.

This whole topic is idiotic in the sense that once you meet a man or woman, you can ONLY base all sense of attraction on their current condition. Either they trip your trigger or not.
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Msg: 3528 (view)
Terse verse..on a Nova hood...with a soothsayer...somewhere in the woods
Posted: 8/14/2011 1:07:58 AM
just when you think you're on top
your life is secure
receive letter that your head was lopped
throwing ALL into the unsure

seniority reigns
blind-sighted by the unimaginable
superseding all thought trains
of what what was never intangible

21 years of service
can only claim 14 years
not a minute has left me without feeling nervous
since receiving the lay-off news without many tears

my tears were few and clipped short
but a total shock nonetheless
blind-sighted by this tort
my constant reeling of this mess

options, yes there are some
none lucrative considering my current status
old but not enough to become
enabled to live in a comfortable stratus

I join the geriatric unemployed
with 2 months to consider
too few ideas and options to enjoy
while I try not to use my time a fritter

oy vey
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Msg: 9 (view)
equal opportunity
Posted: 8/7/2011 6:41:39 PM
I don't think it's about improving chances as much as it is about the law of averages.
I think that putting yourself out there and sending many messages is a means to hopefully eventually connect with someone receptive.
Where I sense the OP's frustration is in the fact that by sending many msgs hasn't produced his desired results. Perhaps/hypothetically he places too much hope in a profile that really interests him in that initial viewing and when they don't respond (for whatever reason) he feels rejected. No one likes to feel rejected.

*OP, are you making more than one attempt with a single target?
Maybe send up to two msgs and then move on if they don't respond.
*Do you send a nice short introduction or pour your heart out in the first contact?
IMO, keeping the first contact short is best, like Molly suggested, comment on one of their listed interests and go from there, that shows that you are responding to them and not only their pic.

Bottom line, and not the easiest thing to do, don't take this whole online-dating thing too seriously. Don't dwell on the process and lack of success. When you go out and meet up with someone that sparks your interest, take the plunge. NEVER rely solely on dating sites.
Take a chance and pay for a year on other sites where chances might be better. After all, when one pays, one likes to use their time wisely and seriously...usually. There are no guarantees.

Good luck.

btw, by my own admission, I rarely if ever make first contact, not because my email box is overflowing (far from it, it has cobwebs), but because I too have allowed myself to feel a sense of rejection to my unanswered emails--but only for a split second, but it can sting nonetheless.

some day....some day
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Msg: 7 (view)
equal opportunity
Posted: 8/6/2011 3:53:15 PM
When I said "we" I was referring to both genders. We are all very visual.
You might not know that this site doesn't enable one to see if someone has actually read our emails unless we are 1) paying "serious" members, or 2) pay a small fee to open that feature.
We used to be able to see right off if someone read our mail, so, how would you know that they just aren't regularly logging in?

Try being an "average" geriatric fat woman...
just my opinion.

apparently someone thought the OT was polarizing. oh well...........................................
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Msg: 2 (view)
equal opportunity
Posted: 8/6/2011 3:08:04 PM
If this were true, then why hasn't every single man that has viewed my profile followed through and made actual contact?
We are visual animals that just can't help but LQQK, but we don't always feel compelled to take the bait.
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Msg: 4 (view)
user profile age limit restrictions
Posted: 8/6/2011 2:59:59 PM
I honestly don't know if these are real users or as another poster said, but are "bots" the site uses as a ploy to trump up users to login. Not that I get many of these "want to meet you" msgs, I have looked to see if they've viewed me and it's never the case, unless every one that has was in stealth viewing mode, which I doubt.

If you've ever looked at the "meet me" page and clicked any of those pics out of boredom or true interest, I will assume that it generates the email?
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Msg: 2132 (view)
First line, Last line
Posted: 8/6/2011 12:15:45 PM
spun in the sun...rainbows ignite
water sprays glint
the colors so bright
cause me to squint
in the days sun light
on petals drops tint
the buds hold tight
as if guarding the mint
with all of their might
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Msg: 20 (view)
Gettting no where with this site?
Posted: 8/6/2011 6:24:33 AM
I already did.

You did flesh out your profile from before, giving more insight to you as a person.
It's only common sense that spreading your net wide would/might/should/could result in better results of contacting desirable contacts.

Invest for a year on some "paid" sites and see where your investment takes you. I have and had results of a mixed outcome, BUT, I would never compare my experiences with those of others. There are too many variables involved to compare side-by-side, obviously.
My experiences were positive.

You are young. Never rely on an online dating site solely for results, but as an added avenue.
Again, you being young, why the urgency?
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Msg: 150 (view)
How come some of you all have been on this site for more then 3 and 4 years
Posted: 8/2/2011 3:24:44 AM
Because I can.

Many of us return for the forums, and like you, because it's still free.
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Msg: 55 (view)
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 8/2/2011 2:47:24 AM

... a soft, firm, smooth, unblemished body wins hands over, over loose, flabby, wrinkled, scarred flesh.
There is nothing anyone can do as far as aging except try to take care of yourself, and most people don't do that very well. You do have to put more effort into it as you age. I hike and have seen a lot of people, men and women, in their 70's hiking who are in very good shape. No loose, flabby looking bodies there. Because they exercise regularly and probably eat properly. The real beauty, as far as physical, is in health, at least as far as what you can do, and imo it includes healthy skin. So many people do not take care of their skin. You can't keep your skin looking like it did in your 20's or 30's, but you can take care of it. I see a lot of people, like those hikers, who take good care not to be overweight and flabby, but they do nothing to protect their skin from the sun and elements. Doesn't make sense to me. But, it's about health, not youth. I've read where women are offended by someone saying "you look good for your age" instead of just "you look good." I can't see anything wrong with someone saying I look good for my age. It's a complement. Is it age related? I suppose, but we cannot get away from that. Growing older means we change physically. It's good to look well for whatever age you are. It shows you are healthy and taking care of yourself.

I 100% agree with you. I am one that fully acknowledges that I have NOT heeded the warning signs, nor have I taken enough retroactive measures to combat my present state of physical affairs. I am guilty 100%, with eyes wide open.
My words were reflecting my love of the beautiful human body that is flawless, both male and female. I admire and covet this form of human status.

an attitude which also has a big impact on our perceptions of "attractiveness"
One of the most essential things for me as far as attractiveness is intelligence. Without intelligence, a man is completely unattractive and unappealing, in fact, quite the opposite.

IMO, this can be attributed to both genders. The few men of my targeted geriatric dating genre
would never fall into the "beautiful physic" category as it has been their intelligence and compatibility that lit my fires into overdrive.
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Msg: 53 (view)
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 8/1/2011 7:13:42 PM
Define "beauty". Are we talking about the "inner" or the "outer"(surface) representation of beauty. I'm reading it both ways on here and at the same time I don't really sense an agreement between the genders.

IMHO...a soft, firm, smooth, unblemished body wins hands over, over loose, flabby, wrinkled, scarred flesh. That said, um, what's all this fuss about? We haven't evolved much over the centuries.
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Msg: 51 (view)
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 8/1/2011 6:31:58 PM
In regards to the responses on this page alone, let us not forget the beauty that some men over 45 see in a little bottle of blue pills.......
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Msg: 20 (view)
'Stayover relationships' -- Would they work for over 45s?
Posted: 7/31/2011 1:02:37 PM
not all want the same as you in a relationship.

Stick to your ideals. They are stellar.
Allow others to stick to theirs, as well.
"Ideals" rarely define the same for all.

Does it is really matter?
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Msg: 16 (view)
'Stayover relationships' -- Would they work for over 45s?
Posted: 7/31/2011 12:43:27 PM
Au contraire, ^^^ two can be in a mutually committed relationship in a situation like this. Agreeing verbally to a commitment is paramount in ANY relationship. Too many are afraid to "say the words out loud" afraid to invite rejection, but if you're rejected then you at least know where you stand and can CHOOSE the outcome.

Settling. How I detest that term, like we have the option ahead of time to even know we have "settled".

NO ONE is subjected to allowing a situation that is not to one's liking.
VOICE your expectations.
ACT on the outcome.
We all have the CHOICE to continue or curtail the situation we find ourselves in.

Never assume...anything.
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Msg: 14 (view)
ever seen a relative , friend , co-worker on a dating while searching it
Posted: 7/31/2011 12:13:07 PM
A couple of years ago I mentioned that I am on here to co-workers that said something about POF, the speed that their eyebrows rose was astronomical. lol
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Msg: 3513 (view)
Terse verse..on a Nova hood...with a soothsayer...somewhere in the woods
Posted: 7/31/2011 6:15:15 AM
what is it about the itch
and being one super old b!tch
never been one without the urge
hit 50 and had a ginormous surge
but then again an uncle did introduce
at an early age what can make me juice
how was I to know
that was only the beginning of the show
preoccupation was the way
to heighten my every day
yet the boys never really did know
how to give me that delicious glow
it was back to being my own best friend
do you sense here a trend?
after nearly 25 did I learn
that the ex didn't really turn
that little essential knob
to really complete the job
it took the one post-50 to nudge
what tastes better than any fudge
to my libido he awoke and spoke
rivaling any mind-altering toke
allowing this atheist to scream lord
to the light as I raced blindly foreword

here at 60 I wonder
libido comes/goes and I flounder
like a coaster never knowing
if next I'm rising or lowering
a most perplexing phenomenon
this new stage is a chameleon
one day feeling the rush
to abandon all and thrust
the other to wane and forget
that that I'm willing to forfeit

what is it about this itch
and how it affects this b!tch
I feel these newest planes
but it doesn't really explain
what I'm expected to know
in life's undertow
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Msg: 60 (view)
bald guys
Posted: 7/31/2011 3:59:40 AM

My Brother-in-law claims he rubbed all of his hair off on the head board.

Or from too many u-turns under the sheets.
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Msg: 6 (view)
Gettting no where with this site?
Posted: 7/31/2011 3:25:40 AM
This or any dating site should be used as an option, not as your only means of meeting someone to date.
Have you tried any "paid" sites for a change? You'll find flakes no matter the site, but I think when one has to pay the odds are better of meeting someone more serious.
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Msg: 11 (view)
'Stayover relationships' -- Would they work for over 45s?
Posted: 7/31/2011 12:47:22 AM
Simple answer: of course they would, as they always have.
Even though the OT addresses this via the cited articles regarding younger partners, she does pose the question to the over 45 crowd for their/our opinion. As a few above ^^ have noted, this is not a new trend. Although marriage is not always ruled out, for many it is not a goal, but a committed relationship is.

I've had the luxury of this style of "stayover relationship" that lasted for 5+ yrs and it suited our needs very well, because neither of us wanted marriage nor a 24/7 living arrangement. It might have to do with both being survivors of long term marriages that ended in divorce, where neither felt the need to find "replacement" spouses, but found themselves open to the idea of companionship and blessingly finding it. Even now, I don't feel the need to rush out and find a replacement for that relationship, but I am open to finding companionship again.

It's all about personal choice, preference, and acknowledgement. No big whoop.
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