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 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Negativity
Posted: 2/18/2013 12:10:39 AM
met a lot of people in the past who were more negative than anything else they had nothing to nice to say about anyone including me. it got to the point where i stopped talking to them blocked deleted and everything else.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 110 (view)
 
Interracial Dating
Posted: 2/4/2013 10:11:13 PM
msg 128, my weight has nothing to do with meeting white men in the past. thats always been the lamest excuse to tell anyone what does weight have to do with it? preference is one thing but being a general shallow ***hole is another. if someone has an issue with me about something, they need to say so upfront and not tell me later as if i am suppose to read their minds! nobody on this planet reads minds so we all need to have effective communication. the past white guys i met didnt have good communication skills, is that my fault? no. it is not my problem if they didnt want to communicate with me.

weight is not equal to confidence never has never will be. ive seen big men get dates, big women get dates, a toothpick chick get a date, etc. coming across like an ***hole will never get u a date it will only attract the ones who r like you.

sweetheart, your a typical . one i would NEVER date that's for sure. i dont find many black men to be all that and everything else under the sun. i find a lot of them to be annoying most of them come from town if u ask me with their white man bullshit etc like i care to hear that 24/7! i wouldnt be interested in a blk guy who is hung up on jim crow like my mother still is no thank you. i can find better outside "my race" and i did. he is not black (thank god) not white but puerto rican i love my bf for who he is. why r u still single? i wonder why. ive seen enough dumb ignorant black men i dont have the time of day to waste my time on id rather spend time with quality people. gee i wonder why some black women still **** about u men not doing what u should be doing. id tell any black chick go the distance, find better, u will be happier when u find better.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 105 (view)
 
Interracial Dating
Posted: 2/4/2013 11:32:12 AM
i hated meeting white guys who never thought about dating outside his race. to me, he was uneducated and had no idea what culture is. in my own experiences, the ones i met were taught the wrong things about people of any race and believed the shit either from their friends or parents and couldnt seem to have a mind of their own. that bothered me because here they are contacting me but their the ones with the race or people issues not me!

ive had white guys ask me the dumbest questions about what black people like/eat/drink/sex/etc i hate those questions. i am not an ambassador to blacks nor would i ask you to be an ambassador to your own race i speak for myself you are talking to me not 50 different black people. i had more white guys who knew nothing about people contacting me wanting a date or fling and they told me they had this "stereotype checklist" to see if i or any other woman falls into it and this will prove something to him on how each race acts according to them and i better behave on the meeting! a lot of swear words came out of my mouth. when i was single, i was looking to find european men to date unlike most american men who r still hung up on race. dont get me wrong, yea, there is racism in europe too. they are more tolerable than americans ever will be.

i met a european guy who lived in the state i live in and didnt know what happen to him after we talked on the phone. the state i live in barely has any europeans to begin with so that was like a needle in a haystack. in my past profiles, i have put will not date black men only interracial dating. i used to put white or asian men only just depends on who i was wanting to meet. i had tons of emails from black/mexican men on my choice of words in my profiles i told them u didnt meet my standards and that i have a right to like what i like and they hated that!

id prefer if someone who is racist to state that on their profiles that way those who want to date outside the race will know that ur a racist and i dont have to worry about sending you an email. ive had tons of racist contacting me even KKK/neo nazis wanting to meet and greet like the hell i would do that! ive had blk men who contacted me telling me i need a blk man so i can feel like a complete nubian queen wtf??!?!? i told them there is nothing african about us never will be and stop hinting that we r all african. i am not a nubian queen unless i am in the land of africa and i am not gonna be your queen either! he cursed me out to a T calling me a sell out and trying to be white, yep, been called that all of my life!

also, i prefer if someone puts in their profiles that they only date certain races or dont date outside the race. i hate playing these guess who/what games and hate trying to read people's minds as to what they like and dont like. so in the past, the most of my emails came from white guys more than any other race out there. i cant stand the ones who wont approach another non white woman in public but has no problems doing it on the internet. i used to ask them u still care about what others think? older than me and still want people's approval. if u have no issues contacting me online, lets say we want to date exclusively, how r u gonna treat me in public? since u cant approach non white women in person? if ur gonna treat me in public like a friend or embarrassed to be seen with me, then we dont need to date simple as that.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 667 (view)
 
Women with multiple cats - sign of mental illness?
Posted: 2/4/2013 10:52:34 AM
i agree with msg 666
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 664 (view)
 
Women with multiple cats - sign of mental illness?
Posted: 2/4/2013 12:26:29 AM
cant believe this conversation is still going on lol. i dont know why most people hate cats i love them i love any animal out there. its been a very very long time since i had a dog and would love to have one in the future. if we as people keep using things as excuses or to put blame on other ppl just because you dont like xyz then think about why your gonna be always single for life....
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Is it now cool to be gay/bi?-This is BULL!!
Posted: 2/4/2013 12:21:16 AM
interesting. i never understood being gay is a trend it is not a fashion thing and hate it when ppl treat it like it is. if these ppl want to be part of some trend, they should go join a click if u ask me.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/4/2013 12:18:21 AM
i hate when guys say women need to know how to give a good bj what does that have to do with the relationship? i hated bjs in the past and still dont do it that much to my bf because of really bad experiences. if a man cant live without a bj, then he has issues or he needs to find a woman who enjoys it too. i do agree i have met guys in the past who didnt have a clue about giving oral to women yet they claimed they knew how. they also said it was nasty but they expected a bj and not do shit for you.

i do agree there are tons of free info online and books you can buy on sex that will help and give you ideas....
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Girlfriends break-up with me because I want kids and they don't
Posted: 10/24/2012 2:27:30 AM
i dont want kids at all. when i was single, i blew off guys and women who wanted kids or had kids, i told them from the beginning that i have no interest in kids and it is a deal breaker for me, no i do not hate kids. i told them growing up, there's wasnt many kids in my old neighborhood i was used to hanging out with the young adults in their 20s, my two siblings being in their 20s at that time same with their friends. i am still used to that then befriending someone who has kids or dating someone who has kids.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Scary Experience- Thoughts?
Posted: 10/21/2012 3:23:27 PM
im laughing at that guy's response! can not believe he called you money hungry or whatever needing a free meal! i have gotten that before but i chose a place that wasn't too expensive nor too cheap and i got called a meal whore! i was trying to be helpful towards this one guy i met long time ago and he was so unappreciative. he refused to pick a place and had issues trying to get to my side of town not that hard use a damn map! i was at fault for everything according to him wtf?!?

this is why "dating" is so hard because u have too many unappreciative people with a lot of unresolved issues that they think u should read their minds or something! i would block his ass and move on dont tell people where u work just tell them the kind of work you do...
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Do I have too many relationship requirements?
Posted: 10/21/2012 3:17:38 PM
when i was single. people would tell me my standards were too high. the meetings i went on with the jerks, there were no kind of chemistry more drama than anything else. very very few there were chemistry. i mean expect someone to be intelligent, funny, supportive, etc someone i can get along and spend the rest of my time with. if some ppl call that too much then i gotta wonder why they are dating, ya know?
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 52 (view)
 
FFM Threesomes - how did you convice them?
Posted: 10/9/2012 12:54:59 AM
came close in the past never happen. the ppl who initiate wanting a 3sum are always the ones who back out at the last minute making themselves sound so superior! i was ready to do this one 3sum with a cpl in high school, never happen told me i was too young. i was 15, he 17 and she was 18 how is that 2 young? close in age! i hated the fact the girl had a kid that did bother me.

i would do a 3sum with 2 girls i dont know any open minded sexual women to do it with. there was no trust more drama than anything else. after that, i dropped the idea.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 96 (view)
 
Why Does Our Society Look Down On Unemployed Men So Much?
Posted: 10/9/2012 12:50:15 AM
i think i read in some of the previous posts that someone said there are plentiful of jobs and shouldn't be hard to get a job then go on a date. i don't know what plentiful jobs this person is talking about not sure what sources they read or heard, maybe something from fox news who knows. if jobs are so plentiful, everybody should be employed and not losing their homes daily.

where i live it is not great whether u have a degree or not, experience or not. just cuz we are hearing 7.8 unemployment is suppose to make everybody jump up and down i still dont believe those numbers just manipulated if u ask me. it is still hard to get a job at supposedly 7.8%.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Porn And Unrealistic Expectations
Posted: 10/1/2012 10:33:07 PM
i would say it can. i hate what i see in porn foot fetish, golden showers, eating someone's shit, rape porn, screwing animals, blowjobs, cumshots/facials, 10 in dicks, and most of all fisting! does not turn me on one freakin bit and hate it! when i was single, i met a guy who was in his 20s a terrible idiot claiming he was so great in bed. we got into a verbal fight about what we did in the bedroom pointing fingers and what not.

he told me he wanted a slut like he sees in porn! omg, red flag! i said u can hire a prostitute/porn star or find a whore who is willing to do anything and anybody! ooh he was hot when i said that lol. i told him im not mimicking anything in porn unless i am getting paid a lot of money to do it! he said well, my exes were such sluts that did everything i wanted in porn and had no problems doing it. omg, another red flag! i said then u need go back to "those sluts" to get ur freak on if that's what u truly want and desire.

he called me every name in the book and that ended the conversation to the point i blocked him for good! he told me how he hates me i said u only met me for one damn day! talked to u for a week online, u asked if i wanted to me i said yes, and now u hate me?!? lmao

yep, i met guys like him in the past with their unrealistic expectations of sex and used porn as an excuse! i see nothing but abusive sex without romance just pure mean guys in porn talking to the women like they are stupid or something. ive been called a prude but u will not disrespect me in bed!
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Why Does Our Society Look Down On Unemployed Men So Much?
Posted: 10/1/2012 10:26:20 PM
i agree with msg 5. however, it is still not easy to get a job in this economy whether you have experience, no experience, education or not, etc an employer doesn't have to hire you and has many reasons why they will not. i live in AZ really high unemployment nothing here but crappy jobs always that when the economy was good! if anybody is unemployed, ask them if they are searching their heart out to find employment and if you find, they would rather be sitting at home watching tv and eating candy then move on.

i do agree if you are unemployed, you should not be dating at all. that puts the date into a position of paying for you all the time when he/she is not obligated to do, it is different if they offer to pay for you. if you can, find a job somewhere be warn you may be going through hoops and bs like i am going through in applying and interviewing, then once u get a stable job then worry about dating if u choose too.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Best Friends
Posted: 10/1/2012 10:20:30 PM
my ex friend got mad cuz i got a bf and she broke up with hers not my problem! she should have been happy for me we talked a lot on the phone b4. she wanted to hang out with me which i had no problems and would have told my bf that this would be girl time for us. b4 she went to cali, she lived 29 minutes from me in another city. she was borrowing her mom's car as she didn't have one of her own yet.

she had soooo many excuses as to why she couldnt meet me in the city i live in and she used to live in. i told her its a 29 minute drive i didnt mind meeting her half way in a neighboring city by me since i was taking the bus back then. she agreed but never followed through something was just not right. she was working, expecting me to pay her gas for her mom's xterra of $80 for a full tank excuse me?!? i know she loves xterras but complained to me how working at payless did not pay a lot and doesnt cover the bill for an xterra....ya think?!

why was i suppose to pay for her gas an entire 80 bucks for a full time? i told her id give her 20 she better come up with the rest! i called her out saying you have no problems spending time with H and S since they are not far from you but not me. it has always been that way in our meaningless friendship how she can push me away to be with these 2 girls whom i went to school with and never liked. why was i suppose to bend over backwards for her?

it got out of hand by her calling my bf a loser i could have easily let her dirty laundry out. she is a slut claims she is not a slut but when u mention sex, she talks about it endlessly like it is no tomorrow a guy would say sounds like a slut if she likes sex that much and shes a psychotic idiot to boot! after that, i ended the friendship well meaningless friendship of 10 yrs and i felt even freer than i ever have before in my life! i was not upset, just had me thinking alot about her and how she was narcissistic like my parents. i don't miss her one bit!

so, you should tell your friend how you honestly feel. she is giving u short answers which u dont know what she's thinking or feeling so ask to meet her and talk to see what is really going with her.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 112 (view)
 
Open Relationships: The best of both worlds
Posted: 9/17/2012 11:59:47 PM
someone in here said ppl who do open relationships are trying to convince themselves to have the best of both worlds and have their cake and eat it too. really? what about men who have affairs and keep it in the dark? a married man wants his wife and mistress, isn't that eating his cake too? how about if he is so unhappy with his marriage work it out with his wife and if that dont work, then get a divorce? then he can date/**** whoever he wants!

thats like saying its different for a man to cheat no its not still lying. if you are saying open relationships are just lying to themselves about having their cake and eat it too make it so that anyone who is married and cheating behind their spouses' backs that they can not have the best of both worlds make it fair.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 17 (view)
 
My date has his friend meet up with us on 2nd date. Tacky - yes or no?
Posted: 9/17/2012 11:52:21 PM
yea happen to me in the past they were jerks with or without their male friends. i saw their true colors early on and sometimes i saw it later on it was nothing serious we were not dating but i didnt like being led on.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 92 (view)
 
Open Relationships: The best of both worlds
Posted: 9/17/2012 1:32:13 AM
interesting. i don't know why this topic is still going. i agree with msg 77 and 76. like i said before, if you don't want to do an open relationship, then don't do it just find someone who is mono. if you want someone who wants an open relationship like you fine that person simple as that. why is there still a discussion? like someone else said in relationships, you have to make relationships work. the prob is most people don't want to talk in relationships, it is easier to break up or sit in silence etc. that is why a lot of people are still single we should all look much deeper at ourselves in terms of a relationship and what we want out of it. then, we won't have divorce rates that are high or the numbers are reduced.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 220 (view)
 
Do women like men with long or short hair?
Posted: 9/8/2012 10:13:23 PM
in the past, i was one of those girls who listened to her friends on guys with long hair was a no no. then, as i became adult, i started to think for myself. when i met my bf, he had long hair and i loved it! he just recently cut it, how it is short (boo) and shaved his beard so he can get a job. i had an ex friend who felt guys with long hair were either gay or secret women in disguise lol thats how she felt.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Why do guys lose interest in me so quickly?
Posted: 9/8/2012 10:09:09 PM
i used to ask myself this question long time ago. i used to call guys nonstop i mean they told me to call them but refused to answer their phones. hell broke lose if i didnt answer my phone! they kept me hanging while i was calling them like a nut wanting attention i got even with them later on. if he is interested, he would make time for you.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 35 (view)
 
She dumped him because he preheats the oven
Posted: 9/5/2012 7:10:10 PM
omg that had me laughing! ahhh yes, i have met both women and men like her dumping people for such petty-ass reasons and then they wonder why they can not get a damn date! i remember steve harvey told this girl on anderson cooper's show (she did the same exact thing beyond picky) that she was setting herself up for loneliness because of her picky stuck up attitude. he said there are dealbreakers you should have that you dont want a relationship but something so petty and silly is not a dealbreaker. his comment to her was really intriguing to say.

u should have came out and said it how she is a picky ass **** who will never get a damn date until she tones it down! i have seen many online profiles where people talk about how they are so picky either finding a date or making friends that is a real turn off and deal breaker for me that's legitimate! who would write that in a profile? better to know now rather than later! she must have issues or something she cant seem to deal with anything in life....
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 233 (view)
 
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 9/3/2012 10:45:28 PM
oh god eww. i hated cum on me and still do to this day never let my bf cum on my face. to me, it just stinks! yep, i remember past guys told me i am so prude and what not, if i dont want it on me then i dont whats wrong with that? i dont like cumshots in porn i find it to be gross but thats my opinion
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 87 (view)
 
Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 9/3/2012 10:42:34 PM
oh god, such a huge turn off!!!! i hated in the past, i would get emails from them and within 5 minutes it is about sex. they always told me how i hated sex or dont wanna talk about it. i didnt say i hated sex i have no interest in talking about sex if we have no connection whatsoever or you don't find me attractive at all. i remember one guy i was talking to kept talking about sex all damn day, i minimized the IM box until he was done talking.

he thought i left which i didn't i just didn't respond to him. he asked if something was wrong, i said yea u talking about sex all damn day and u don't know how to make conversation on anything. every time i said that to every guy online, they immediately blew up, cursed me out, called me every name in the book, and stalked/threaten me. if i wanted to go out with someone, my interest is not about what you have done in the past sex wise i dont care if i wanted to know i would ask dont volunteer info to me!

a lot of times, i just ended the conversation or if it got that bad, i just blocked them. i dont have time to waste ask me about sex later on if we r dating but not while we just met.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 432 (view)
 
Never been married, no kids. Is this a red flag?
Posted: 8/7/2012 1:46:06 AM
msg 435,

yea i agree how couples really dont talk to each other or make things work anymore its sad. why be in a relationship when both sides won't communicate and fix things? i never understood that.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 418 (view)
 
Never been married, no kids. Is this a red flag?
Posted: 8/5/2012 11:27:39 PM
msg 401 i agree most women wouldn't agree with you but i do. with the economy, too many screws loose and raising kids in this world now is not a good idea. ppl turning around using guns on each other its too damn crazy. i have met idiots in the past who had no idea how to treat people or put their loved one first before anything else and its really sad. ppl should look into their childhood fix it b4 they get into relationships.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Why do guys even bother going on dates when they seem instantly bored/burned out
Posted: 8/5/2012 5:58:54 PM
yep when i was single used to ask myself that all the time. its a waste of time to ask someone out when you (the guy) is already bored out of his mind or disinterested its like why am i here? if they dont know what they want then they should just say so
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
is todays life making it harder to find friends?
Posted: 8/1/2012 7:45:14 PM
i agree i can barely find people to make friends. i am young and not interested in hanging around with women and kids that is not my style/interest. i don't know why i kept meeting nice women who have kids and i make excuses as to why i couldn't hang out with them. i don't want to hurt their feelings but i have a life and it's not to babysit their kids or me having to sit there daily listening to what their kids do and didn't do.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 150 (view)
 
long nails....turn on?
Posted: 7/29/2012 2:11:12 PM
i love long natural nails i do not let them grow long where they curl and what not. they have been that way long since i was a kid, get it from my mom. ppl have found my nails to be disgusting while others loved my long nails. i do not need to put artificial nails on my natural long nails i told women that at least i got real nails unlike you where you have to pay extra money just to get fake long nails. my nails grow pretty fast.

my bf loves it when i run them up and down his back he finds it sexy!
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 78 (view)
 
open relationships
Posted: 7/29/2012 2:07:49 PM
it worked for us so ppl need to stop using generalizations/stereotypes do what is right for you and ur relationship nevermind other ppl's relationship make things work for you and your partner. other ppl dont feel open relationships is for them thats fine then they shouldnt do it but shouldnt tell others not to do it if they have no real experience doing it themselves. life is about experience i see more ppl wanna stereotype instead of using their own life experience to tell a story....
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 1871 (view)
 
can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers?
Posted: 7/29/2012 2:00:26 PM
msg 1879,

so we are doing drugs? i dont recall a plant being a drug. i know that info is coming from the DEA wrong source to listen too. americans will always believe lies than actually looking up the info. i have looked it up and became unbrainwashed did my own research and i started smoking pot at age 24 and im 26 now. no, i dont do drugs. drugs are prescriptions man made pills that does more harm to the body than a plant will ever do.

i use plants for my overall health and beauty regimes i dont use man made beauty products like most people do anyway. why is this topic still going? do not date someone who smokes weed if thats a bother for you simple as that or find someone who shares the same values of weed like you do. why do ppl insist on dating someone who smokes weed yet ****es about how it bothers them?

ppl need to do their own research and not believe anything the DEA says about marijuana. a plant that has been on the planet for centuries and your calling it a drug, this country really has gotten so dumb in over 40 yrs and keeps getting dumber and dumber.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 42 (view)
 
No job, no ambition and poor grammar... Is this the norm?
Posted: 7/29/2012 1:51:13 PM
another grammar nazi. i am a college graduate from 2 yrs ago and i do type short hand but i know how to type everything if i was not using short hand. it doesn't make me a dumb person although i have been called dumb on dating sites but i know i am not dumb. my resumes/cover letters do not have slang or short hand in it. i am still looking for a job and in the state i live in makes it impossible nothing but low paying jobs.

why do these women have low paying jobs? could be a number of reasons. maybe the last job they had did pay great until they lost it and had no choice but to take a low paying job to survive. right now, it's not easy to find anything worthwhile as everything out there seems to be low pay. if you are finding those who have no ambition, then yea dont waste your time with them. if u meet a woman who has a low paying, ask her what happen with her last job ask her questions to find out if she is wanting to better but cant because that job is paying her bills or she just wants to be lazy.

in this economy, we can not be judging why people have a low paying job and whatever you made b4 u got laid off, you will not find the same job with the same pay doesnt work that way anymore nobody gets paid the same salary again - you gotta work hard to earn it.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 102 (view)
 
Imaginary love triangle??
Posted: 7/22/2012 8:26:51 PM
i used to do that stuff when i was single just like you did. as for me, i am the kind of person who gets even whenever i can because i believe in karma an eye for an eye attitude. i have proved my point doing it and also backfired on me leaving me with guys stalking me all the time. u proved bobby is a loser and a hoe yet he claims he wants to hook up with u. i would just tell him u r not interested anymore and move on. i did this to guys i met in the past using fake profiles and it proved my point too i told him what i did and yes it got ugly and blocked them.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Why Do Only Married Men Hit On me?
Posted: 7/22/2012 8:22:08 PM

I've had too many married guys hit on me as well. I've told them to go home to their wives, it's not going to happen, etc. One guy I asked WHY he would even think of such a thing as cheating on the woman who'd just had his baby, and he said that all married guys cheat and all of his friends do it. It makes me feel sick and so sorry for all of these women.


omg! i remember when guys say that i cheat cuz my friends do and its the norm when married guys cheat! the prob is society promotes it as a fun thing to do. i hate when guys say well my friends do it. its funny how guys say we women are so brainwashed listening to our female friends yet when men cheat they always say my friends do it and its the norm. i dont know which is worse women listening to their female friends or men listening to theirs!

i never flirted with married men, they did with me. in my old ads, i dont know what it was that attracted married guys but i know what i wanted specifically and they tried to pass themselves up as single not when a woman claiming shes ur wife and is on your screen name! i remember one time, i had a shit load of emails from married men i couldnt believe it. they asked me why am i looking for a single person i said i dont want a married idiot! they got mad telling me i had daddy issues which is why i dont want a married guy lmao.

i remember i met quite a bit of married men who recently had babies and got the nerve to want to have an affair. if u were never happy to begin with, why did u have a baby? a question they could never answered. they told me ur ad is so awesome u talk like an older woman (this was when i was 18 early 19 yrs old) blah blah blah. if i wanted someone married, i would say so and they told me ur confused no i am not lol. there is nothing confused about me! i loved how they twisted things about me as if they have known me for a long time.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 48 (view)
 
How people get to a first meet. Deal breaker?
Posted: 7/22/2012 8:14:00 PM
i agree with msg 2. in AZ, you need a car to get around. we have a light rail and a bus system and they dont run all day/all night like the transportation system in the east coast do. here where i live, if you plan on meeting at night and u wanna stay out all night, u r screwed. i had issues like this when i was single and the fools i met, most of them expected someone with a car knowing i didnt have a car back then! some claimed it was fine that i didnt have a car yet really did **** later on why i didnt have a car. if u were fine with it, why r u complaining?

so, if ur date has an issue with ur transportation, then i wouldnt meet that person.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Why Do Only Married Men Hit On me?
Posted: 7/22/2012 1:56:53 AM
when i was single, i had tons of married ppl wanting to hook up with me. u r married really?!? i never understood why they were be sneaky and not expect their spouse to know i am not gonna be someone's secret and not gonna deal with drama. i hated when they contacted me i found ways to get rid of them if ur unhappy in ur marriage go fix it or get a divorce
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Can Someone Explain Dr Phil's Advice
Posted: 7/19/2012 12:20:45 AM

i agree. even though i'm not a big fan of dr. phil.
i would need an example..so i'll give one.
i knew a woman who was married to an abusive drug addict. and i do know how difficult it is to get free from an abusive relationship! but anyway, she would break up and go back with him countless times. she even divorced and remarried him! so i asked myself why would she do this? and i realized that her "reward"/payback was that she gained a lot of attention and sympathy from her family and friends. she absolutely needed that. to be strong and on her own would eliminate that whole "poor mary" thing that she had all her life..and she needs that.


I agree that example almost sounds like my mom except she still hasn't divorced my dad and she would probably remarried him too if he offered more money and a roof over head. she loves the attention that she gets from the family always re-asking the same questions about what she should do etc yet never wants to fix her problems...
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/18/2012 3:56:23 PM
lol i had this problem in the past way too much. so much drama worthless fools who didnt know how to prioritize and expected you to kiss their ass and do what they want when they want. a guy i met on yahoo chat long ago, contacted me not knowing im a relationship asking me if i wanted to meet him and his wife?! lmao i said i stopped talking to u for a reason and he said im sorry but i had issues back then i said you dont just disappear and not tell anyone whats going on yada yada. i remember who he was and told him im in a relationship i do not waste my time on ppl who cant keep their word etc and it blew up into a big fight.

then he started bringing up shit about me in the past, i said i moved on why can't you? he said we can all get together lmao i said what part r u not getting? i dont care i have no interest/use in you anymore if ppl in life can not keep their word on anything and you reappear months or years later, what else could you be hiding/lying about? if you can not face someone as to what is going on then ur not much of an adult imo. he got quiet when i said that then he proceeded to get angrier and angrier telling me who do i think i am etc? he threw in shit about my life i said ive acknowledged years ago that my life is still not where it should be and would like to improve as i dont disappear and reappear back to ppl months or yrs later like you do.

yea, it was a huge mess with that conversation. too many ppl have done that to me i have no time in them. i wouldnt call/txt him at all drop him move on he has time for u or anyone in his life - friends or family. if ppl are not interested in dating and do this disappear/reappear act then they should just say i have no interest in anything in life then it would make everybody's lives much better and we can weed out the fools better.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Not Willing to Put Equal Effort into Traveling
Posted: 7/18/2012 3:46:16 PM
i had this issue in the past. i told the fools i didnt have a car and used the bus i would go to places on the bus route. most of the guys i met offline had cars and some didn't. the ones who had a car, omg, it was like talking to high schoolers! one guy felt driving to my area which was 20 mins was "too far and i should go to his area." he failed to understand how that one particular bus route ended early during the m-f week and the weekend route was even worse! it's not rocket science, but he told me if i got stranded it's my problem and he wasn't gonna take me home.

i couldn't believe it! omg, that told me a lot about him and i wondered how he was like in relationships! i wasnt looking to date him but we ended up not meeting. i came up with different ideas to meet somewhere in the middle and he said 20 mins was too far! ppl like this i always wonder why they r still single and wonder if they have friends. he claimed he had no probs meeting friends that were an hour away yet im 20 mins from him yet he couldn't meet me!

traveling topic was a pain in the ass as most of them didnt wanna meet half way, wanting me to take the bus to other side of town, explaining how quite a bit of the bus(es) didnt run as late, etc and it was one big huge mess! near the end, they expressed how they hated people who took the bus. then, why did you ask if i wanted to meet up? i told them in the beginning i took the bus but then twisted it as if i never told them anything. if someone acts that stupid about meeting halfway or whatever, drop them you will save urself the headache/drama and that will explain what kind of person they are if you were in a relationship with them or friends with them....

all of my meetups have always been one-side sometimes i was lucky if we both agreed on something.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Woman who is attached to her Dog too much? Was dumping her was a ideal situation?
Posted: 7/15/2012 1:38:47 AM
her dog tried to attack you while kissing? that would have been it for me! the dog sees you as competition for "stealing her mate away." i love animals too but not the extent of loving an animal like she does omg sounds like a nut job! i would tell her go date/marry your dog probably wouldn't hesitate if you told her. she needs to put boundaries between a relationship and caring for her dog....
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 308 (view)
 
Never been married, no kids. Is this a red flag?
Posted: 7/14/2012 11:55:10 PM

Never married and no kids. Thats not a red flag thats smart. Good job man, you suceeded where everyone else has failed especially at your age.


i agree. of course, children should be wanted not used as a way to trap someone or needing a doll like most women seem to believe that's what a baby is for. anyone who is childless i'd tell them this continue with your career (if your not laid off) and enjoying life!
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 111 (view)
 
How to gently and respectfullly decline a date...
Posted: 7/13/2012 1:59:10 AM
good question. when i was single, i had guys asked me out on a "date" and i turned down a lot of them. i asked myself how do i do it politely? i tried my best to be as nice as i can. i hate persistence it is not cute nor flattering to me! i told one guy i was not interested and told him why. every time i turned a guy down, do you know how many times they called me a stuck up **** or rude ****? there were times i was not rude but polite other times i had to be rude so they'd get the point! i friend zone the guys i met in the past because i didn't click with them romantically, well a small number i did but they didnt feel the same way for me, and didnt make sense to date someone you dont like.

i figured if they have such a prob about it, its not my problem. they should deal with it and move on no point in arguing with someone who isnt interested
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Alienated kids, do they sometimes never come back?
Posted: 7/11/2012 2:18:27 AM

This does happen. Parental Alienation is all too common and is swept under the carpet and not talked about. Sad.


i agree very sad
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 48 (view)
 
Why does Society look down there nose and people who remain single
Posted: 7/1/2012 4:18:46 PM
ive seen society looks down on single people. i see nothing wrong with being single they don't have to worry about drama that was my attitude when i was single until i got into a relationship. if people are happy being single for whatever reason, they should be just that happy and not let other ppl tell them differently. live your life for how you want to live it not for anybody else

i think women should wait to have kids at 30 more mature 30 is when the brain is fully developed. i'm 26 i have never been thinking of wanting kids in my life ever. people felt i should have kids at this age i said im still a party girl, video gamer chick, etc no way am i gonna put my life on hold for a baby. i think for myself not for anybody else. hell, a lot of my hs classmates have kids galore! very few of them like me don't have kids im sure those probably want kids later on. they are shocked when they find out how i dont have kids i said why would a 26 yr old need a baby?

ppl are not going to try to mold me into something that society wants and i won't stand for that! i have my own free, independent thinking and can think for myself on what is best for me not them.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 16 (view)
 
How Long would you wait to meet?
Posted: 7/1/2012 4:14:47 PM
i agree with msg 4. when it came to meet, it would be maybe a week or two. one time i didn't meet a person offline until a month later and it was horrible.
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Toxic Relationship? Why he wanted another guy to fuck me then loves me so much in one month?
Posted: 6/28/2012 6:37:56 PM
dump him he sounds crazy
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Profile lies - deal breaker or take it with a grain of salt?
Posted: 6/23/2012 2:25:12 AM
ooooh i loathe when ppl lie in their profiles so irritating! i remember meeting someone years ago who hated liars but was on himself! things about him i caught him in lies but he tried to say i lied about something which i didn't. lying is not cute, not sexy, and not adorable to win a girl/guy!!! it ends up losing that potential partner that u could be for life but those who lie always blame the one who finds out the truth!

ohh yes, i had my share of liars long ago. i told ppl in ads/profiles i was not born yesterday and dont lie either because i will find out the truth eventually! i always told them if u dont like liars and i lied, why even put u hate liars in your profile? sounds like a hypocrite to me!
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 103 (view)
 
Do pets make a difference when considering a profile
Posted: 6/22/2012 1:49:24 AM
i love animals and rather date someone who loves them too. if i was single, id make it clear to put in my profile if u dont like animals dont bother me id rather be honest! if someone doesn't like it, next! i do not have to change my profile just because u dont like it nor am i gonna put my life on hold!

"I'm a pet person. I volunteer at rescues etc etc etc. For the most part, I like animals more than people. I've seen the heinous things people do to animals. So yeah, I would date someone who owns animals. You can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat animals. If someone says to me "it's just a dog", we would not be compatible."

i agree!
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 118 (view)
 
Why the hate for Video Games?
Posted: 6/22/2012 1:39:30 AM
msg 51,

thanks! some of my games got damaged during our fire incident 2 yrs ago and need to go thru them to see which ones need to be replaced. what i learned now about dating (even though im in a relationship) is like i said cant judge people for their lifestyles and if a person continues to do that every single time, they will end up being single for life. i met some ppl offline in the past who didnt put their lives on hold because of their lifestyles because they had goals to accomplish.

in the past, if their lifestyles didnt suit me or i couldn't be a part of it for whatever reason, i felt we should part ways since we are not compatible or i do not have the time/finances to be part of your lifestyle. i remember meeting a guy long time ago who wanted to party all the time as i wanted to do the same thing but didnt have the money to spend at clubs (this was when i was under 21 but 18 yrs old). sad thing is he never took me to any parties/clubs since he invited me but wouldn't pick me up (didnt have a car and the party was way too far for me to get too). he was mad cuz i couldn't party all the time i said i do not have my own place like you do where you can come and go as u please. he got angry and stopped talking to me.

i would party all the time if i had the money and time. interests/hobbies require money and time: kyaking, fishing, hiking, etc since you gotta buy the equipment and stuff. i used to tell people in the past not everybody is gonna put their lives on hold. my mom and i still argue about me going out and staying out all night. she used to tell me in the past how i would never get a bf or hubby because i am never home. i told her at 18 yrs old, i am not looking for a bf or hubby id like to come and go as i please.

she said in my day, us women were not like that blah blah blah. ur generation is nothing but hoes who give it up for free as if her generation didnt but everything was hush hush back then. she said going out all the time is a hoe so is running in the streets i said running in the streets is a prostitute! she said ur not gonna get a hubby/bf if u r always out and i said fine with me does this look like a face that cares? i want someone who is outgoing like me and im not like u who puts my life on hold and still screams about another woman for the past 40- something years!
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Did I overreact?
Posted: 6/20/2012 3:34:56 PM
ive had guys say that to me and i was highly offended. i told them ur not all that skinny urself and held a grudge against them to the point i was like who r u again? oh im sorry, i dont know ppl like u. true story and stopped talking to them. the sad part is they never apologized for their comments expected me to get over it i said if ur gonna use humor that's fine but dont use it as a way to hurt my feelings. they didnt get it hence is why they r still single!
 blueceleste
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 6/20/2012 3:27:29 PM
i can relate as well. in high school, i didnt date but i wanted too because my moron of a mother claim i couldnt date at 16 it was 18 and that isn't true it was 16. good thing i didnt bring boys over because she would have scared them with no teeth and her rude nasty attitude towards people. i was called a lesbian back then because i didnt have a bf granted i do love women but i have a bf now. i would have loved to dated someone if that was an option for me in hs but it wasn't.

all my friends dated but me. i was always out having fun and playing video games still do to this day. no one in high school could prove i was a lesbian but only an ex friend of mine knew i liked girls just didnt have a gf. i barely had any crushes on anybody well maybe like 1-2 and never pursued it because i know what kind of humiliation i would get if i would have confessed.

so yea, i lacked a lot of experience from not dating back then and would have done online dating very differently if i had dates back then.
 
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