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 Author Thread: What the heck????
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 31 (view)
 
What the heck????
Posted: 9/30/2008 4:49:22 PM
Ron9 - you go boy that is exactly what you should do.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 30 (view)
 
What the heck????
Posted: 9/30/2008 4:45:53 PM
Leave his stupid ass alone! Thank God you got rid of him before anything really did start up and you moved to NE for nothing. He is so full of crap when he said he found something out about you. It was just a ay to get rid of you and you should be happy about it. Go slowly with the next guy you meet on here until you know for sure he is not a liar also. Guys I don't mean to say you are all like that but by reading all the forums you don't stand in the number one spot.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 48 (view)
 
29 years old and never been on a date.
Posted: 8/18/2008 4:34:02 PM
A friend of mine had the same problem and people thought she was stuckup or wicked shy so they left her alone. She did seek treatment and turned around her whole life. If yo feel you just can't do it then go talk with someone and real soon.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 270 (view)
 
Lying about ages
Posted: 8/18/2008 4:30:36 PM
I totally agree not to lie but it works both ways. Men do just as much as women do. I do have to disagree though that you would be able to guess everyone's age by their picture. I am 60 but could pass for 75 and my girlfriend who is also 60 could pass for 40. Do you ask them right out how old they are - maybe you should so you won't be disappointed. I ould have no problem telling some guy that was 60 and his picture looked like hewas 25 - then I would be suspicious. It seems to me that you are very superficial and only want "pretty" girls. Good luck at the ole simming hole
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
 
What would you do ?.
Posted: 8/16/2008 4:36:41 PM
What should you do tell her ta ta, goodbye, see ya later, toodles or however you say it. She is only going to leave you again without so much as a glance backwards. This chickie just wants to be friends and that's it.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
another one bites the dust.......
Posted: 8/12/2008 4:55:58 PM
notchuraverage1 - you go girl. I happen to watch the Maury show and every single woman on there is a "ho" or so says their boyfriends. But yet when the guys come on and have 12 other children running around - what are they? I think it is a double stqndard and will always remain that way. I guess that puts you guys in the "ho" category also. Why should you be able to go out and do whatever you want and sleep with 40 girls but yet the women are no good - uh look in the mirror guys
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
another one bites the dust.......
Posted: 8/12/2008 4:49:36 PM
Too bad you are so young for me. I would scoop you up in a minute. Sex lasts for a while but love and friendship last a lifetime. Sex is over-rated anyway - lol Believe me you will find someone with some morals still left.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Is it best to break up with him?
Posted: 8/10/2008 4:47:21 PM
I would of packed his stuff the minute he told me what he was going to do. It was somewhat childish of you though to put a blg on my space knowing that she or someone else that knew him would read it. Get rid of him now and get yourself a man that wants to be with you and your daughter for good. He is a total loser and you are allowing him to be.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Are there any good men left?
Posted: 8/10/2008 4:41:03 PM
Your proposal was outstanding - you get the job
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/2/2008 4:36:17 PM
FixedHeart - You took the words right out of my mouth
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/2/2008 4:34:56 PM
Hey that's not fair to us older women. At our age our mind wanders a lot so we wouldn't even know we were being made love to normally never mind the mind! Are you a hypnotist by any means?
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Feeling a little hopeless
Posted: 7/30/2008 4:35:22 PM
Honey you are only 18 and you will many other "girlfriends" before finding the right one. I think your first love is always special but to tell you the truth I think you scared her off. Number one never date a good friend because it just ever work out. You end up loosing a boyfriend\girlfriend and there is never any going back to being friends. Yo have a lot to experience in your life and love will come in time - you must be patient. You always think that your first love is your last but time heals everything. Good luck and I bet in a few months you will be writing saying you have a girlfriend.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Dating an Alcoholic
Posted: 7/29/2008 4:36:13 PM
Coastergal - it sounds like y9u think every women who is an alcholic should get pregnant. You also cannot take them to a place where there is no drinking - believe me they will have it with them or find it just as fast as you can turn your head. She needs help but only if SHE wants it.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Dating an Alcoholic
Posted: 7/29/2008 4:30:15 PM
Have her call AA right away - she is a classic alcholic! With all the information that is out there you should know that it is a disease but can be overcome. Whatever you do - do not let her make it your fault because she will. I had to learn the hard way that I was not responsible for anyone's drinking problem and they always blame the person they are closest too for drinking. She really needs to find a sponsor ASAP no matter what she says. Don't believe her if she tells you she will stop next Monday - it aint gonna happen without professional help. My advice - if she doesn't get help say bye bye
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 52 (view)
 
I am disabled. Pearls before swine...
Posted: 7/29/2008 12:39:03 PM
ruby2sday06 - I agree with you. I don't put anything on my profile saying I am disabled and I am. Just as you I feel that if I think that the person I am talking with is about to get more serious then I will tell them. Be sure to tell them though before you are asked or are asking someone for a date. This way they can use their judgment without embarrassing you by saying no thanks or standing you up.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Played again...
Posted: 7/29/2008 7:55:09 AM
Only you can allow someone to play. Recognize all the signs before going out on a limb again. Why s it always the pretty girls. Is it because you think that no one would ever do something like that to you? I am not by any means trying to be hurtful but it seems that all of this "stuff" always happens to very attractive woman.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
dumped for committement issues - do i get back together?
Posted: 7/21/2008 11:44:43 AM
Get rid of her - she is just too much work. Are you nuts to stay with a woman who says that she might find someone else who is a closer match - match for what? I surely wouldn't want to be a match for her. She needs help and better get it fast. You pack your stuff and move out on her and watch how she cries that she wants you back - but please don't do it. When you have to work at love as hard as you then there is no love.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Whoops! Didn't see THAT coming....
Posted: 7/19/2008 5:01:45 PM
I don't think everyone on here is going to think your thread is funny. I don't think it is funny I think it is disgusting. Who cares if you clean your ears or your belly button - get your belly button pierced and that won't happen again. Thank God you didn't go any further down - then it would of been rated XXX
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 166 (view)
 
Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 7/19/2008 4:54:37 PM
It actually did happen to me. I was waiting at this bar\restaurant for this guy I met on line. I saw his pic but the great thing was he never saw mine. As this guy approached and asked if I was "so and so" I said no I am sorry I am waiting for my husband. He stayed around for a while and was asking other women who they were. I left right after that and laughed all the way home.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Dating an Alcoholic
Posted: 7/16/2008 4:16:36 PM
Let me just say one thing an alcholic will say and do everything - even blame you fortheir drinking problems. Don't listen it is only an excuse to keep it up. I know first hand what it is like to live with one. Please get her to an 12-step program or AA. If she refuses to go which she might try ad get to to at least have a sponsor. She will promise you she will never do it again and then like a sucker punch begin all over again. I know that it has been classified as a disease and if she does not get help now it will only get worse. Just remember one thing - you cannot help her - she has to help herself. I am sorry to say but I would tell her the truth and go about your business. It is total hell being with someone unless they want help. Good luck.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 78 (view)
 
Married men
Posted: 7/15/2008 4:29:24 PM
Did you meet him on this or any other site? I know you are supposed to put dow married but I just take it for granted when someoe puts "prefers not to say" that it is a dead give a way. Ask questions next time and come right out and ask him. If he is then so be it - at least you will know what do do "bye, bye" Look on his finger if there is no ring but a line or indent on it then be cautious. You can usually tell more in the summer because the ring finger is whiter than the rest of his hand. There are only a few things to look out for but just be aware and hopefully things will turn out great for you. Why are a lot of men like to lie about that - any answers guys on why you like to do that? Come on and be honest.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 735 (view)
 
He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:26:11 PM
P.S. You don't say what religion he is but then can always get married with a priest and whatever he is. My daughter married out of her religion and they had a beautiful ceremony with the priest and the rabbi there. Jeez if you love someone the Reverend Snore on Jerry Springer could marry them and they would be happy.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 733 (view)
 
He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:21:04 PM
Honey go one better - lose 40 pounds and get yourslf a new man. If he loves you it should be for yourself - let me ask you something does he look like Fabio?
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
 
are women willing to look past a mans flawed teeth.
Posted: 7/7/2008 3:53:12 PM
Take my word for it - get them fixed and right away. Lousy teeth means lousy hygiene. No one loves going to th4e dentist but you are way too young not to have nice teeth. Don't say you can afford it either - you can pay out for it. Go on line right away and find a dentist in your area you will be happy you did.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 311 (view)
 
Hi just had a date from hell....again
Posted: 7/6/2008 4:54:49 PM
Next time you go out just ask up front "who do you expect to pay" if he says you then say bye bye It will save you a few bucks plus you know ahead of time where you stand with him. Today women do pay for dinner but usually say it before you even walk out the door.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Heart broken by a secret jerk and walking contradiction
Posted: 7/3/2008 4:37:20 PM
OMG - this is in no way making fun of you but Jerry Springer had a girl on with the exact same problem and she wanted her boyfriend back. I mean even to the point of having her loose weight and then dumping her for his old girlfriend. Boy I guess there are a lot of men like yous then.

Kick him right in the butt and say bye bye. You don't need him and he is playing both you and the other girl. He wants his cake and eat it to. I am sure there are plenty of nice guys out there but this one kinda keeps me wondering how sane he really is. Who in their right might mind buys a girl a bed - don't they usually start of with flowers.

Well guys what do you have to say. All I read on here is what bums you all are. There has to be a few of you that are nice - hey by the way I need a new bed - lol
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Is my friend right?
Posted: 7/3/2008 12:45:57 PM
par6 - If you have been looking for 20 years then you definitely are looking in all the wrong places. Are you looking for younger women or women around your own age? If you are having trouble finding someone just remember the words to this song "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty woman your wife" Your old enough to know that looks isn't everything.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
A message for those with broken hearts.....
Posted: 7/2/2008 4:52:43 PM
Tonguetwister - Good oneand it's a true one!!! Please carry that thought with you everyone. Only you can make yourself miserable. If the guy\girl drops you or never calls again then it was meant to be. Don't moan and groan what you can't get back and don't make a fool of yourself by trying. That person is definately not for you and better to find out sooner than later. Just go on with your life. Watch Jewrry Springer and even he will tell you that if someone don't want ya then get over it.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 92 (view)
 
A few days datng - they say 'I miss you' is this a red flag?
Posted: 7/2/2008 4:32:05 PM
Look I have been married for 40 years and we still don't say I miss you - lol W3e do but it wasn't from the get go. You two have never met in person or even been on a date yet so ow in the world could he miss you. Is he pushing you into dating him or say things to you that you are uncomfortable with? Maybe he is just a lonely person. Have you seen a pic of him? If he doesn't have 3 eyeballs he might just be O.K. Keep talking to him and come right out and ask him that question "how the hell can you miss me when you don't really even know me" After 40 yeares I am still finding out stuff I never knew.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Is my friend right?
Posted: 7/2/2008 4:25:16 PM
Katietxgirl- Wait just one minute. You mean to tell me that you are listening to a woman who is divorced and now with a guy she has only known for 2 months and she is givig you advice. UH NOT. A relationship will come your way when you least expect it. Don't you dare give up any of your values just to get a guy. The "good" guys will search you out without yu having to ghrow yourself on anyone. Listen to your heart and not your friend.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 108 (view)
 
Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 7/2/2008 12:31:30 PM
Sturdavint - Your profile says you are looking for a woman yet men email you? It might have something with you being a profession sombie.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 107 (view)
 
Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 7/2/2008 12:22:52 PM
Calichick25 - Listen even women my age get the same thing. I got ONE IM message from a guy and after two sentences asked me if I liked guys that are hung. My answer to him was no thank you I like my guys alive. Gee guess what never heard from him again.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 312 (view)
 
Should a woman buy a round of drinks?
Posted: 7/1/2008 4:42:06 PM
Old fashioned - my grandmother's underwear she is. She is just cheap and thinks that men should pay for everything. O.K. so maybe 50 years ago when women didn't get paid all that well but today women are making six figurees and can well afford to buy not one but two rounds. I think she was just so surprised that you asked her that she got mad. When I go out I always try and buy a round. At least I offer and they say no that ain't a bad thing either - lol
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 36 (view)
 
confused,, how do i get my man back?
Posted: 6/30/2008 5:17:35 AM
You want you man back - try going on the Jerry Springer show - lol
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Question about married people and POF
Posted: 6/29/2008 4:33:24 PM
This site is what YOU make of it. No one can push you to date anyone on here if they didn't want to. Sounds to me that unfortunately your wife was looking. I am married atalked to many men but I let tyhem know from the start they I am not interested and if they pursue - I just cut them off. We all have choices and some of us are on here to chat believe it or not.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 66 (view)
 
The Process of Forgiving Ourselves After Being Abused
Posted: 6/29/2008 3:55:20 PM
My question is - is their a trained Psychologist or Psychiatrist on this site that actuall has a degree who could explain why we humans do what we do? We can all give our opinions on why we might but I think if we heard from a person who has all the knowledge of why we might answer this oe for us.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 588 (view)
 
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:17:48 PM
aperfectlifeforme - of course I would respond because the person could be thethe nicest one you might ever meet. A lot of people type fast or not too good and don't check their spelling after they answer a question. I myself tell that person to type in their answer in word, run the spell check and then copy and paste it back into this site. So far no one has had any negative thing to say to me about it.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 24 (view)
 
I have a question regarding Airline Pilots and dating
Posted: 6/18/2008 4:41:48 PM
Ratero-park-man - The reason these women don't like pilots is probably because they tried to seduce them and the polits wanted nothing to do with them. Most of them are also married and probably have girlfriends in every state. Same as captains f cruise ships - they have someone in every port is right. I have seen it with my own eyes.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Alternative lifestyles
Posted: 6/17/2008 4:37:36 PM
artzytype - I was a mother in the late 60's and surprisingly so a lot of my friends who did smoke stopped as soon as their children were born.. The not so funny part though was in those days you drank and smoked cigarettes while you were pregnant and that was O.K. - go figure.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 68 (view)
 
I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 4:26:42 PM
*dustie - As long as you don't have it available for everyone that stops over and your daughter is not in the home then do whatever but if she is anywhere in the house you would be a "bad mother"! My girlfriend feels the way you do and always had it out on the table and when her 6 and 10year old begain to smoke it also someone called the authorities and she lost her children. Remember is is NOT legalized yet! Does her father or anyone in your or his family know about your "habit"? If so I would be awfully careful and be looking over your shoulder - ya just never know.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Porn addicts are awful lovers.
Posted: 6/16/2008 4:41:51 PM
Can I ask one question - whre in hell are you meeting these guys - n front f X-rated stores?? I can see maye meeting one guy but sounds like you are a magnet for these types. Your are either making this stuff up just to post or you really have awful shitty luck! It just surprises me that you can't find one decent guy. Hey guys what do you say in defense????????????
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 32 (view)
 
My experience with a mentally ill woman.
Posted: 6/15/2008 4:33:49 PM
Loz Hunter - You go girl - good answer!!!!!!
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 30 (view)
 
My experience with a mentally ill woman.
Posted: 6/15/2008 4:15:15 PM
smellycat - Are you sure what you are describing didn't come out of some book you read? If not then I commend you on your writing ability - it was just like reading a love story and you couldn't wait for the end.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Is it really rude to ask a woman her age?
Posted: 6/11/2008 4:39:33 PM
blonde chickie - I think some of that blonde dye has gone to your brain. Some states the legal drinking age is 18
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Is it really rude to ask a woman her age?
Posted: 6/11/2008 4:25:00 PM
Let's put it this way. If a woman is 50 and looks 30 then by all means go right ahead and ask. but say it in a way that is flattering. If a woman is 50 and looks 80 keep your mouth shut!!!
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Need advice after breaking up
Posted: 6/8/2008 4:36:30 PM
Why can't you guys think with the head on your shoulders for once and not the head you were talking about. Yu think that is the answer to everything. Are you in a committed relationship? It's very highly unlikely if that is your answer to everything.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Great 1st date, then phones 5 mins before 2nd to cancel
Posted: 6/7/2008 4:50:06 PM
newmarketgirl - I agree with a few ofthe other answers people gave. He could be secretly married or he thought about "children" Some men get scared away when they hear that you have children because they are afraid of getting serious and then having an instant family. I have seen it so many times to friends of mine. Also I wouldn't give him the time of day if he ever did call back. He will probably only find another excuse when it gets near the time to meet again. My girlfriend went out with a guy that had excuses every single time they were supposed to meet but the last straw was when he called the day after and said he was sorry but his father has passed away. Come to find out a few weeks later (when I called his house) he father was still alive and kicking.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 144 (view)
 
Why are men so darn... respectful?
Posted: 6/6/2008 4:30:40 PM
MSTRKRFT - I am with you on this one. If she was "all that" and he was a hunk (of course in her story he would be like a prince charming). then sweat or no sweat (which I am sure he was also) things would of worked out differently but then there wouldn't be any kind of complaining would there
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 41 (view)
 
What is it about disability?
Posted: 6/4/2008 5:53:42 AM
canam miles - What the hell did you just say? You tried to use really big words and make it sound like you knew what you were talking about but after I read what you said it made no sense to me except for the part about HER giving off bad vibes.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 40 (view)
 
What is it about disability?
Posted: 6/4/2008 5:46:50 AM
Men are truly pigs aren't they. They think with their other head all the time. Guys use what is upstairs will ya. My answer to those ridiculous questions would be - "hell you ain't ever gonna find out". My disability is that I am legally blind and when a guy emails me and asks me to meet him I tell him I can't drive anymore because of my eyes. Guess what most times I never hear back from them or they will ask me to drive during the day - duh! Don't let it get you down - keep a smile on your face there is someone out there that will be a good "catch" for you!
 
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