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 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Handjobs only...
Posted: 10/2/2012 2:11:42 PM
That’s nothing. When I was 16 I glued together every page of my father’s comprehensive Playboy collection inside of two weeks. Fortunately no centerfolds got pregnant in the process.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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everyone knows someone
Posted: 10/2/2012 2:03:46 PM
I met my wife online - not on POF. I’d estimate 150 e-mails, 40 meets, 20 dates and two ‘relationships’ attributable to online dating before we met. It requires more ‘activity’ than IRL dating but it has it’s advantages - one of them being that you have a larger network to work with.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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acting in adult films
Posted: 10/2/2012 1:50:33 PM
If you’ve had offers and have chosen not to do it - you have reservations. What I wanna know, is exactly how much does a person have to pay you to get over your reservations and what are you doing next week?

Of course, I’m only asking because a friend of mine wants to know...
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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My cousins wife is hot!
Posted: 10/2/2012 1:44:07 PM

Can we see a pic??


Right. Inquiring minds want to know. Besides, if I’m gonna give morally questionable advise to anyone I need to know how strong the motivation is....
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Ex wants fwb
Posted: 10/2/2012 1:29:52 PM
She’s not into you. Live with it. But I’d be doggoned if I would miss the chance to grudge fvck that ass a time or two..
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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First date in 2 years
Posted: 10/1/2012 2:51:36 PM
Skiing, hockey and swimming would fill a whole lot of hours for me. You'll be fine.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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those big flat screens and decorating
Posted: 10/1/2012 12:32:59 PM
Most of our TVs are small enough to fit in a standard armoire or reside in non-public rooms (ie basement den), but we did have that problem in our great room and the only solution we could come up with was to have a guy a build a cabinet large enough to hide it. I don’t know why there isn’t a market for TV cabinets - or built-ins. Perhaps some folks want them to be seen?
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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anyone ever considered traveling the country as a homeless person?
Posted: 10/1/2012 10:09:19 AM
As a (much) younger man I traveled solo a lot. Backpack and bicycle mostly. Often in other countries. No fallback, no credit card, no exit plan. Found work when I needed it and moved on. My only grievance was that there is a lot you can’t do without money: trains, planes, ferries, museums, coffee on the terrace, shoes (you can only sew them together so many times) - they all cost money. Bicycle is really the way to go, it gives you a sense of independence and a 100 mile day will put trouble a long way behind you.

I slept in a lot of ditches, on beaches, in train stations, at construction sites, stayed with people I didn’t know and couldn’t speak to. Washed up in creeks and backroom sinks. I remember spending a week with an English guy who claimed to have been ex FFL and some runaway convict type on a beach near Antibes and then springing for train fare into Paris. I woke up on the train (you never get good sleep) surrounded by a bunch of commuters as we went through the ‘burbs of Paris, and the poor woman next to me was holding a handkerchief to her nose and looking at me like I’d just crawled out of the sewer. It wasn’t glamourous but it was the only method of travel that was available to me at the time.

Generally people were decent. Farmers were usually kind enough to let me camp on their back forty. Mechanics helped fix my bike gratis. Never had a problem with the authorities. And only once did I get the feeling that someone was stalking me.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Ghost adventures
Posted: 10/1/2012 9:39:17 AM
I don’t know who said it so I can’t attribute - but: “I only believe in ghosts at night.”
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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housekeeping question
Posted: 10/1/2012 9:36:49 AM
I often de-clutter but I rarely dispose. I have clothes and travel brochures from the 80s. I have every tax return I’ve ever filed. I have bins of old shoes I almost never wear. I tend to re-organize my junk when I run into a storage problem. At the same time I prefer visual neatness so stuff doesn’t last very long on my desks. Sort it, file it, store it. My problem is usually space. Thank God for large basements, sheds and three-stall garages.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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What to do with the Warrior Class
Posted: 10/1/2012 8:23:13 AM
Igor: I think, in your effort to make sense of a very messed up period in our history and ongoing lives, that you have cobbled together a bunch of mismatched, unrelated, and some outright false things.


I agree with Igor on this point but would add that your (the OP’s) perception of history is also mistaken where you say:


Should we be teaching our next generation to be more like those of the 40's, 50's and 60's when our great war machine was built of reluctant heroes instead of thrill seekers looking for a chance to kill.


I’m opposed to the trend of calling anyone in uniform a ‘hero’.

There were as many of the warrior class in the 40s and 50s as there are now. Human nature hasn’t changed in the last century. It isn’t about the circumstances or the hype. In fact it was the same in Socrates time - which is why he labeled an entire class of people as ‘warriors’.


It's the numbers who WANT to be shot at that worry me. Why do we have so many guys who want to go kill for any reason. And risk being killed themselves, most likely by someone who has never seen toilet paper.


Some folks like to test their mettle. Some have a higher tolerance for risk and conflict. Some are proud and want to be perceived as warriors. Some think they are immortal.


I was enlisted in the Navy myself. Army intelligence, logistics support, etc. are all sane positions.


The guys on the line don’t understand REMFs either.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Porn And Unrealistic Expectations
Posted: 10/1/2012 7:19:11 AM
Well, I can’t speak for everyone else, but I gotta say - when my wife drops her panties I hear a tinny disco soundtrack in the background.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Life should be enjoyed not annoyed
Posted: 9/28/2012 1:13:13 PM
I’ve been accused of having too many hobbies. I like to DO stuff. It makes me feel fulfilled. But even cooler than doing a thing I love - is doing a thing with someone I love who also loves doing that thing. Life doesn’t get any better than that.

The hard part is finding a balance between the doing, the relationship(s), and the work it takes to bring it all together. It’s a lifelong project.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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when and where appropriate to kiss after first few dates.
Posted: 9/26/2012 9:07:46 AM
I don't you're alone in this OP. But I am interested to hear what you think an "appropriate" transition from first passionate kiss to bedroom should be...
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Museum dates - a game of Follow Me?
Posted: 9/26/2012 8:59:17 AM
I’m assuming he invited you and chose the place. And I’m also assuming he had an interest in the exhibits, i.e., he was more familiar with the place and subject matter than you. If so, he was thoughtless, and even rude, and you don’t want to date him anyway.

But, I also believe you were quick to leave without making a real effort to address the situation. And I tend to agree with Halcyon, some kind of low-key, ‘hey this isn’t working for me can we go somewhere else’, or ‘it’s been fun but I’m going home’ would have been in order.

Activity dates usually suffer from an imbalance in comfort levels. One person is inviting the other to participate in an activity they are better at or more familiar with and that person is really functioning in a dual capacity (host/guide and date), and has an obligation to see that the other person isn’t hung out to dry. This is always true but it’s especially true while courting. I like to be adventurous and physical, my wife less so. When we participate in my activities - skiing, sailing, whatever - I tone it down a few notches and we do things at her level. In the case at hand he should have stuck with you. After all, it was first and foremost a date, not a field trip.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Some mothers do av em
Posted: 9/21/2012 9:29:27 AM
To be fair, back when the world was young and I was online dating, I’m sure there was a time I went on 5 or 6 consecutive ‘meets’ and then never saw those people again. Point being you shouldn’t take it personally OP. People aren’t compatible for a lot of reasons and you just have to expect that you’re not going to be compatible with most of them.

That said, I don’t think I ever broke off contact without an explanation of some kind (regardless of how weak), and it seems strange to me that half of the guys who contacted you broke off communication without so much as a howdoyoudo.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Interesting article about obesity and health
Posted: 9/21/2012 9:14:56 AM

However my point is that some folks live large
and do OK with it.

How and why would be good to know.


That’s me. Or maybe almost me. I’m not Mr. Sta-Puff but I’m at least 30 pounds over my fighting weight and I’ve just come to accept that I enjoy the good life too much to ever get back to where I once was. Still, I rode two centuries so far this year, did three tris (usually finishing in the middle of my age group), ran a couple of 5ks, did the Ragnar Relay and a 2.5 mile open water swim challenge. I help coach the high school wrestling team and can still whoop many of the kids. But looking at me you’d never guess that.

I won’t claim to be an expert on the subject of “athletic” fat guys or health but I think the formula is: we used to be fit (gotta have the base), we still do stuff (and always have), we’ve been fortunate (medically speaking) and we eat healthy (albeit too much).

I think the people who suffer from fat-related health issues tend to be people who were never really active. They never developed that core organ and muscle base. They never learned to like healthy foods, and they never learned to enjoy the pain and suffering we call exercise. They’re not just fat, they’re saturated fat - through and through.

This could be equally true for unhealthy skinny folks. People who have always been thin, never really exercised and don’t eat healthy. They have no muscle tone, never worked cardio and have no desire to participate in athletic endeavors. They are essentially fat people with skinny bodies.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Interesting article about obesity and health
Posted: 9/20/2012 2:42:28 PM

So I think maybe we should lay off weight as the measurement of all things,
and focus on fitness.


I agree, but by the same token I don’t think that participation in an athletic activity should be proof of fitness Fat triathletes are a good example. Tris, particularly the sprint distances, are almost as much about technique and gear as they are about fitness. Swimming is hard for non-swimmers but it’s really a breeze for a swimmer to swim a sprint race at a relaxed pace and get a decent time. Ditto cycling. In fact, you’ll find old fat guys playing (at a moderate pace) sports which require gear and/or technique because they mastered that part years ago and they can substitute technique for strength, speed and endurance. You take that same fat guy out of his comfort zone and have him participate in some other activity and then you’ll see an old fat guy who isn’t so fit.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Some mothers do av em
Posted: 9/20/2012 1:59:02 PM
So...are you following up on these 'poofs', or are you dating passively? I mean, if you see them on FB do you contact them?
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Splitting household items when breaking up
Posted: 9/20/2012 1:45:00 PM
Seems easier just to let it go. If they mistakenly believe it was theirs you’re never going to convince them otherwise, and if they took it knowing it was yours they did it to get your goat - and why give them the satisfaction of being angry?
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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The two reasons why men propose
Posted: 9/20/2012 1:20:04 PM

... does anybody propose now days because they love somebody else and they want to spend the rest of their lives together?


Sure - but it was also the right thing to do AND I wanted to keep her for myself. We also had a common goal which we believe is enhanced by being married, namely we wanted to have children together.

I think it would be a mistake to try to pigeonhole the rationale for getting hitched. There are just too many variables. For instance under the rubric of ‘do the right thing’ you could have: 1) doing the right thing because I sincerely believe it’s the right thing, 2) doing the right thing because I think it expected of me by the community, and 3) doing the right thing because I think that she thinks it’s the right thing and I want to make her happy.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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I wanna sit next to u
Posted: 9/20/2012 9:51:38 AM
Depends on the view I suppose.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Wondering why women dont wear hose anymore
Posted: 9/20/2012 9:44:46 AM

I wear thigh highs 5 days a week. There are several brands that have a wide lace elastic at the top that stay in place well.


Luv those. Especially in white. There’s just something about that bare spot high on the thigh...
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Open Relationships: The best of both worlds
Posted: 9/20/2012 9:05:04 AM
Too much work! One woman is more than enough thank you.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Online dating working for you?
Posted: 9/5/2012 12:48:14 PM
Online worked for me. Met some good women, even a keeper. I did meet a few bottom feeders along the way and I like to think I WOULDN'T have met or dated them IRL - but that's the nature of online sites. Ya gotta take the good with the bad.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 9/4/2012 8:01:33 AM
It doesn’t do anything for me. I never understood how it’s a turn-on. In fact this porn-trend of finishing on her face (or anywhere else) is particularly UNsexy. It seems like a waste of valuable resources; willing woman, purty mouth - but no ... I'm gonna jerk off instead.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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men do you like it when women take control in bed?
Posted: 8/29/2012 8:58:45 AM
I’ve always thought that the phrase “take control” is oxymoron in terms. If you have control you probably started with it, and if you take the lead on a project but will relinquish control when it’s finished, the “control” you’re experiencing is really just acquiescence by the person(s) who is in control.

So I think the question is more appropriately presented as, “men, do you like it when women initiate a sex act?”

To which my answer is, yes. But it’s rare and usually takes place in already sexually charged atmosphere. In fact I can only recall one occasion where a woman took me by the hand (literally and metaphorically) unexpectedly. Oddly she was one of the most mild-mannered people I ever dated.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Are the best relationships supposed to start out easy?
Posted: 8/28/2012 12:16:56 PM
24...24...where was I at 24...?

Not sure where you’re going with “rocky”. IME there are always hurdles: location, different backgrounds, dissimilar goals, personality quirks, language barriers, children ... I’m not sure I ever had a relationship that was seamless. The best ones were long on respect and tolerance.

The danger in evaluating a relationship on a short-term basis is that people overlook traits which might really be important, or which might become important later on. We are our own worst enemies when it comes to prioritizing critical characteristics (vs desirable ones), and the more ‘in love’ people are - the worse their perception seems to be.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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When Do You Tell Them Your Real Name
Posted: 8/27/2012 11:24:38 AM

….but google gave him a pass so it’s all good….never mind the rope, chains, duct tape and dried blood on the back seat of his car.


It's just a cranberry juice stain. Quit making such a big deal out of it...
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Ever had that one cool moment in your life?
Posted: 8/24/2012 2:30:53 PM
Truly cool - watching my wife learn to sail.

A “cool” moment - When my ex-wife’s attorney withdrew as her divorce counsel and said, “she’s stubborn.” lol. You’re telling me?!
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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When Do You Tell Them Your Real Name
Posted: 8/24/2012 1:51:57 PM
The spectrum would seem to vary from a couple of e-mail exchanges to half dozen dates. It’s interesting that many folks associate the best time to exchange information with a chronological event (second e-mail, third date, etc.), and not an emotional or psychological event (overcome by a winning smile, opened my car door, first time we shared a cigarette, after we did the deed, etc.), but I suppose some of that can be inferred from the fact that there was a second e-mail/meet/date.
_______


just googled myself….oooh, that was nice. :) Actually I found a hot pic of me…


Do share...


If I wanted somebody crawling up my ass, I'd go report myself to the FBI.


That’s fertile ground for a repartee - but I’d like to wait until we know each other better.


However, if the roles were reversed, I don't expect a woman to give me that level of detail. But I do think it is important for a man to provide as much info as they can to a date so they know what they are walking into.


Interesting. You do know that there roughly 100k women behind bars in the US at this very moment, and many times that number who were once incarcerated but are now available for dating? Just sayin’.


If I found out that a girl had been googling me etc before a first date I think it might put me of going on a date with them. Just seems a bit creepy to me.


Agreed. But as was pointed out in the other thread, the only way to prevent it is to keep your personal information private. And that would seem to be a real hurdle to dating.


On the Over 45 threads a guy on there wants to see ID to verify age, etc. I'm thinking that is taking things a little too far.


In this day and age that’s not much different than giving someone your true name. That and basic POF profile information will go along way.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Date a Blunt Woman?
Posted: 8/24/2012 10:00:02 AM

How would we define a women who is blunt while smoking a blunt?


A buzz kill?
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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When Do You Tell Them Your Real Name
Posted: 8/24/2012 9:51:07 AM
A due diligence check before a meet? Do I have a good old common-sense or stalking choice now?


Ah, common sense. Idk about everyone else, but back when the internet was young and I was online dating I know I struggled to sort the wheat from the chaff and met a lot of chaff along the way - despite what I like to think of as my superior common sense. Where common sense meets hope and romance one of the three seems to suffer.

EDIT:


I'm pretty much an open book and figure if you didn't want someone finding out about something you probably shouldn't have been doing it


I don't have anything to hide - in fact I like to think that if folks googled me they'd be impressed, but like Stephen I would prefer to be in control of who knows what and when. And like Janet, my virtual life is an open book.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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When Do You Tell Them Your Real Name
Posted: 8/24/2012 9:43:38 AM
I give out my first name but not my surname initially nor my community.


But don’t they ask where you live? Location is such a critical factor when determining compatibility (and ease of those first dates).


I think I'll be sticking to my strategy otherwise there will be a lot of disappointed first meets.


lol. Or you bring a syringe and an enema bag just to test their reaction...


If I was convinced that she was a real woman...


I think that’s the crux of it. The question is, how do you get there? It seems to me that, at some point, a person has to make a decision to entrust the other with basic personal information (such as surname, location, occupation), at which point a savvy recipient has enough beta to find you virtually (and probably physically). How do you make that decision? Is it simply a matter of having a good vibe? Do you insist that they go first so you can verify their authenticity before you release your info? Or do you simply have faith in human kindness?

EDIT:


Well, maybe if they don't want to date me, they'll hire me instead ;)


Right. You know Janet, I have these crim sex charges that have been plaguing me...
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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When Do You Tell Them Your Real Name
Posted: 8/24/2012 9:09:09 AM

I'll give a woman my name after a first date, if we're going on a second date and she asks.


I wondered how you handled that.


When I used to meet people from here, I would give my first name only.


In some cases that would seem to be almost the same as telling them everything. Assuming your profile is accurate and you’re honest in your initial exchanges (what do you do, where do live, how old are you, what are your interests) you have already provided them enough information to find you. Just ask Abelian.


I give out my first name after a few email exchanges by the time we have exchanged phone numbers they know my last name as well.


That would seem to be a common practice. But I think some would argue that it isn't safe or prudent. See: "I googled your name and...".
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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What is a demanding woman?
Posted: 8/24/2012 9:01:36 AM
All of them?

Not that men are any better. But everyone has needs (and wants) and learns how to ask for them when they are young.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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When Do You Tell Them Your Real Name
Posted: 8/24/2012 8:52:12 AM
This is a spin off of a related thread: “I googled you and...”. In that thread people debated the realities and ethics of googling a prospective date’s name. One of the apparent conclusions was that, once you release information you can’t control how it is going to be used and you should expect that a prospective date will google you.

So, let’s say that - like many of us - you’re ‘findable’ once you release your name. And although you have nothing to hide, you’d prefer to disseminate personal information at your own pace as opposed to having someone google you. - You have decided that internet dating is advantageous and suitable for your purposes, but you realize that once you put it out there you have to expect that your prospective “Meet” or “Date” will run a few searches on you. What do you do? Not give out your name? Use a pseudonym? Use only your given name? At what point is it appropriate to let them know who you really are? And on the other side of the coin - do you insist on a name (so that you can perform a “due diligence” search) before a meet?

And I should probably add that, although I'm curious, I'm not personally vested in the issue as I'm simply a forumite and not here for dating.
 Consigliori
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Msg: 57 (view)
 
Date a Blunt Woman?
Posted: 8/24/2012 8:03:42 AM
There’s a world of difference between someone who takes pride in being abrasive and someone who has the grace to word the same thought in a less offensive way.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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13 yr old son that is constantly testing me
Posted: 8/23/2012 2:41:42 PM
My experience with ‘yellers’ - and I don’t mean to disparage anyone - is that they expect an increase in volume and intensity to produce the desired result, and they lack follow-through. Although it requires a great deal of effort - and often some sacrifice - by the parent (like time), you can’t let misbehavior slide. Ever. There always has to be a consequence and you always have to follow through. The trick is to apply gradually escalating consequences and not go nuclear, because once you’ve applied slash and burn tactics you can’t back down and there is nowhere left to go. You also have to keep in mind that, although the child might say they don’t care about the consequences, they usually do, and more importantly, it sets the tone for future conflicts.
 Consigliori
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helmut or no skateboard?
Posted: 8/23/2012 2:22:21 PM
We have a 14 year-old who’s into bmx stunts. Ramps, jumps, tricks, you name it. It isn’t the sport I’d pick for him but that’s his interest - so we go watch the pros and make trips to the urban ramps. I pointed out that all the pros and almost all serious amateurs wear a lid. He said the helmets he had were dorky. And it was true. All we had ever bought him were cheesy wal mart helmets. Long story short I sprung for a $170 bucket and $40 in decals - all for a sport I don’t approve of. He wears it. It was a lot of money but it beats the heck out of paying an insurance deductible.
 Consigliori
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true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/23/2012 1:59:24 PM
Yeah...no. I see an awful lot of ugly people who seem to drown their loneliness in tv dinners and reruns. Don’t believe me? Take a walk through Wal Mart after midnight.
 Consigliori
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Definition of the word DATE
Posted: 8/23/2012 1:56:28 PM

Could mean anything ... to invites to secret sex groups in the community.


Only if you know the secret handshake...
 Consigliori
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motion in bed problem
Posted: 8/23/2012 1:53:11 PM
It could be a breathing thing. You need to learn to work at a VO2 level you can maintain. Try jogging - not only for the exercise but also because it teaches you to find your max aerobic threshold (aka rhythm) and hold it while maintaining a relaxed posture.
 Consigliori
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Msg: 57 (view)
 
Are women with crappy cars a turn off?
Posted: 8/23/2012 1:42:44 PM
The sexiest woman I have ever known drove a Vespa. I suspect she was the cause of many motor vehicle accidents and unrequited fantasies.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Your education
Posted: 8/23/2012 1:29:45 PM
Hey it's a dating site; puffery is an art form.


It's very uncommon in the sciences to get a master's degree first if one is planning to get a phd.


Folks might also get into a PhD program through other doctoral programs which aren’t technically masters degrees - a JD for instance. Then you have programs which some consider a PhD equivalent - an EdD or 'practical' degree for example -but aren't PhDs.

If it matters, ask.
 Consigliori
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Emotionally Unavailable = Scared
Posted: 8/23/2012 1:07:01 PM
Emotionally unavailable = Didn’t put me first fast enough.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Date a Blunt Woman?
Posted: 8/23/2012 12:59:10 PM
I thought you meant "blunt" as in: "rolling a blunt." Guess not.
 Consigliori
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privacy in a relationship??
Posted: 8/23/2012 8:51:02 AM

No normal adult needs to snoops like this on a regular basis. Why do you continue to date people you obviously can't trust?
If you have a reason to be that suspicious just follow your gut and end it, you're not married to these guys why are you so afraid to keep your dignity and walk.


What she said.

I've been married a long time and I've NEVER gone through my wife's phone or e-mail. (Children I hold to a different standard and I reserve the right to check up on the teenagers.) But I can’t imagine being in a relationship - or WANTING to be in a relationship - where I felt I had to monitor my partner’s actions.

I think you’re expecting too much OP. You don’t own your partners. You have no right to control them and you shouldn’t want to. You can’t change them. If you’re dating guys who want to move on - let them go. You don’t have to have a reason. You don’t owe them an explanation or have to prove that they are doing you wrong. There’s no reason to have to catch them at something and prove them wrong unless you’re doing it out of a sense of righteous indignation - and you don’t need that, you’re better than that. Just dump ‘em.
 Consigliori
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Road rage!
Posted: 8/23/2012 8:13:00 AM

why someone would create fictional reasons to justify road rage.


I think the post was an effort to shift the paradigm. Google "paradigm shift" for details.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Women and their best friends talk about....?
Posted: 8/22/2012 2:13:20 PM

I will never get why SOME men think thats all we think about.


Naturally we expect to be the first and foremost subject - after all, your lives revolve around us!
 
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