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 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Bald women
Posted: 6/7/2013 9:29:00 PM
I am balding due to stress which I have eliminated. There will be no wigs, hats, bandanas, etc on my head whether I am with someone or not. We all need to be accepted for who we are, not how we look. Disguising myself to please others goes against my grain and my being genuine. My head is held high.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 83 (view)
 
CRADLE SNATCHING
Posted: 6/7/2013 8:46:40 PM
If you're attracted to one another, that's all you need. I want someone vibrant, health conscious, and open minded. It's hard enough to find someone with those qualities to be concerned about age or, for that matter, race.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Separated for years, but still living with the wife...What gives?
Posted: 1/16/2009 9:31:55 AM
From hard experience, my 'rules' (if looking for serious relationship):
No 'separated' (must be divorcing if not already final)
2 years post break up

What's 'handsome' (unless you are referring to the total person) got to do w/ it????????????
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Seeking advice
Posted: 1/15/2009 8:16:49 PM
BlueLikeJazz is right on.

Good you ended it. Keep fishing; it's fine to wait for the reasonable and maintain your self-respect.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 23 (view)
 
What would you do if...
Posted: 1/15/2009 9:26:18 AM
Why not continue the relationship. It doesn't need to lead to anything other than a friendship and that's a valuable thing. That person may NEVER have sex (at least with me), but if they are likable, so what?
I once had a short-lived (very) relationship with someone who was impotent. I was told this after we started dating. He was really nice, but wanted a romantic relationship only. That was pre Viagra plus I was much younger, so I felt there was nowhere else to go but to end it.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 22 (view)
 
First Meeting Place
Posted: 1/14/2009 10:34:24 PM
Stuff like this makes it harder for the sincere.

After thinking about it, it did occur to me that what some have said: that he is married or "involved" (not so much, though, huh). One reason that comes to mind is that we would exchange emails 5-6 times/weekend days, but not those evenings. His hobby may be emailing, "playing" with women. And then when it comes time to meet, he sets it up so that he is "rejected" (1st meeting site being unacceptable for the woman). Then, he moves on to the next. Just a thought into a possible sick mind.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 16 (view)
 
First Meeting Place
Posted: 1/13/2009 8:24:27 AM
Actually, when dealing with people of a certain intelligence, I find it amazing that in 2009, such a suggestion would come from either side.

I believe it as a matter of a troll who may do this on a regular basis and gets enough comers that it pays off. He knows the right strings to pull, what to say, what to pretend to be in order to reel in the catch. It's sort of like a delivery service, without the pizza. I felt as if it was a request to bring a part of my anatomy for consumption. Tha that was all that was wanted or needed.

And yes, there were subtle control issues which, admittedly raised red flags. One, funny enough ,was that I was on POF after we started emailing and his being 'disappointed' that I was looking @ other men. So, I stopped signing on. Lo and behold, when I came back to POF, who's pic was lined up as someone who had recently been on site? I laughed..........
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
First Meeting Place
Posted: 1/12/2009 8:30:02 PM
That was MY point to him: suppose that I was the monster. Anybody can put another's picture on here, anybody can write lovely things, but suppose you decide to open your door to a nutjob...................
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
First Meeting Place
Posted: 1/12/2009 9:26:30 AM
There was no reason given for a private meeting. I was surprised because I had 1st suggested a short meeting in a public place. He responded about his place or mine. his next response was that we had shared so much in our emails (never phone, by mutual agreement as I work the phones all day & he said he did also) that many never do in years of being together. I still asserted that putting "face to words" might be best in a neutral place.

Now, when I look back, there were a number of clues (which did stay in the back of my mind). Guess, when 1 is seeking a sincere connection, you may be more vulnerable to trash. Lesson learned.

Yes, words are only words; I'm completely over it. AND relieved!
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
First Meeting Place
Posted: 1/11/2009 5:46:07 PM
Well, I just felt that even though there seemed to be an awful lot of chemistry online, that the 1st meeting should be public. Actually, I did capitulate and say "ok", but it didn't materialize. Then after sleeping on it, was not so sure it was a good idea. I DO believe there were some power plays going on.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 1 (view)
 
First Meeting Place
Posted: 1/11/2009 3:14:50 PM
What has been most people's eperience as far as choice. I exchanged emails with someone from here very intensely for a couple of weeks. We were to meet yesterday. When I suggested a public setting, he replied that he preferred his place or mine. I balked at that, and gave him the reasons. Since then, he has been what I consider "cool", sending 1 very short email saying he was still interested, but busy doing laundry.
Has anyone else had such experiences?
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
we have not met yet but been talking on the phone and texting but now he will not answer my text
Posted: 1/11/2009 2:34:11 PM
Some good advice from both you, omatson, & ursula major. Everything's been not in person thus far: no foul, no gain, or whatever the saying is.
Most of us aren't looking for perfection, but when there seems to be a problem moving forward, just chalk it up. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and whether the nibbles come frequently or seldom, one needs to feel tthat things are reciprocal.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
whats wrong with me
Posted: 1/11/2009 2:21:02 PM
There's nothing wrong with you. But if the guy said he only wanted sex & friendship, then perhaps, if that wasn't your goal, you should not have gotten involved to whatever depth that you did. At least he seemed as if he was honest about it up front. It truly may have been the distance thing from the git-go.
Next time, make yur expectations guide you, rather than his.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 67 (view)
 
The Longer You Go Without
Posted: 11/12/2006 7:10:33 PM
mominatrix: so true!
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 66 (view)
 
The Longer You Go Without
Posted: 11/12/2006 7:08:47 PM
Gee, it really gets comfortable "without". There are no challenges, you can self indulge, don't have to compromise, find time to do so much without hassles. Almost too comfortable. If you refuse to settle, to waste your time just to "have" someone, anyone, you can get maybe TOO comfortable, unwilling to take risks or step outside of your safety zone. That's about where I am now.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 74 (view)
 
How important is it for your partner to be physically fit or in shape
Posted: 7/8/2005 4:47:43 PM
It's pretty important to me. That's mainly because I am lazy myself & would really like nothing better than to merge w/ the couch on a regular basis. But for the last couple of years, have been on a health kick: eating better, exercising regularly. Don't want someone who's a slave to the gym or very vain, just someone who will join me in good habits.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Re: How many is too many
Posted: 7/8/2005 4:20:51 PM
It probably depends on how long one's been in the game as to the number of past lovers being "too much".
For me, the only questions I ask are:
have you had sex w/ another guy
have you been practicing safe sex
have you ever been tested
Am willing to answer the last 2 myself. Momentary pleasure is not worth not having those cards on the table.
Otherwise, I'm of the opinion that the past is just that.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 46 (view)
 
does a guy not having a car affect a womans view on a guy?
Posted: 7/3/2005 7:59:57 PM
hiwayman,
Check the stats re women's earning. Yes, many more go to school now, but it's still a lopsided playing field when it comes to pay.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 35 (view)
 
does a guy not having a car affect a womans view on a guy?
Posted: 7/3/2005 6:13:09 PM
Well, it probably often stacks up that the man has a better paying job than the woman. Ergo, he needs to extend a little farther. When you tlak equality, it needs to be in all areas, not just men "saying" women are able to do the same when, economically, they aren't. So when a man chooses that argument, it can be looked on as a convenient ploy w/o looking at the bigger picture.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 31 (view)
 
does a guy not having a car affect a womans view on a guy?
Posted: 7/3/2005 5:22:36 PM
I would say the women are not "bitter", just that they are not fools. Anyone who's motive is to have someone drive him around doesn't make himself too attractive.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 27 (view)
 
does a guy not having a car affect a womans view on a guy?
Posted: 7/3/2005 4:54:35 PM
If I still lived in NYC, & the guy was a Manhattanite, not having a car wouldn't look srtrange. Where I live now, however, one can't be w/o 1 if they want to even get to work. Unless there was some physical problem why the person does not drive, it would be necessary. I'm of an age that, yes, your not having certain things speaks a lot about where you've been, where you're going, where you're at. Sounds harsh, but so be it.
I will say that there was a time in my life when men thought the type of car they had would get them women. I was never one of the ones impressed by that...............
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 1124 (view)
 
Let ME analyze your profile for you
Posted: 7/1/2005 1:07:33 PM
ok, willing to take a shot. have had no bites.....................
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 4 (view)
 
DO YOU WANT A PERSON FOR JUST LOOKS?
Posted: 7/1/2005 1:04:25 PM
smilin,
you're too funny!
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
DO YOU WANT A PERSON FOR JUST LOOKS?
Posted: 7/1/2005 1:03:29 PM
I learned early in life that looks are just superficial. when you get to know someone who is endearing, no matter the gender, looks take a seat way at the back. Most people were taught "don't judge a book by it's cover" and that's so true.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 77 (view)
 
Interacial relationships
Posted: 6/27/2005 2:46:58 PM
Goodness, I've been dating whomever I was attracted to all my life. Don't think of the color, only how good the person is. There are too many other things to work on than to worry about color. My philosophy in life is not to pass up ANYTHING (food, people, music, etc) just because it's "different" from what I've known all along. I've made some great discoveries in all those area because I didn't "stick to my own kind". What a loss when we limit ourselves. If anyone outside the relationship has a problem with it, it's just that: THEIR problem.....................
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Acceptable age range difference?
Posted: 6/27/2005 2:21:42 PM
And for me, someone in their 20's would NOT qualify, charm or not. Anybody younger than my son (who's turning 29) is taboo. Something would be quite lacking..........
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 99 (view)
 
would you ever lie about ur age
Posted: 6/26/2005 10:52:10 PM
why not? not to impress, but because I can get away w/ it......................
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 14 (view)
 
elder ladies
Posted: 6/26/2005 10:31:02 PM
huh???????????????
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 187 (view)
 
So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better???
Posted: 6/19/2005 3:50:30 PM
I think that older men look for younger women because they can impress them easier than women their own age. The latter could call them on things, whereas the younger woman might not. I also belive that they think that older women have chips on their shoulders, are carrying too much baggage. But if one thinks like that [setting ups such expectations], then it will come true. Because no matter what the older woman says or does, somehow, it will fit that profile. sorry, we all have histories, and admittedly, some of us are more optimistic than others. Another reason is the "Hollywood" factor. Older women in entertainment are extremely disposable. Clint Eastwood can have someone in her 20's and there's not a step missed. No one wants to see him with a 70 year old woman. Thus, real life imitates fiction. Sad.
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 59 (view)
 
What age bothered you?
Posted: 6/18/2005 5:16:44 PM
Thank you, leafslady!
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 58 (view)
 
What age bothered you?
Posted: 6/18/2005 4:46:36 PM
you got that!
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 57 (view)
 
What age bothered you?
Posted: 6/18/2005 4:45:09 PM
approaching 50. Then, one night, about 3 am, I sat up in bed, and said, "if I don't turn 50, what's the alternative". Now, I start saying my next age a few months before the actual date, so can ease into it. It also gets me closer to retirement!
Don't feel, look, or think as I would have thought I would at this age
 ladeyday
Joined: 6/18/2005
Msg: 5 (view)
 
parting testimonial
Posted: 6/18/2005 4:30:43 PM
Sorry it was like taht for you, Rosalin. I'm an eternal optimist like bighoney. All I'm looking for is 1 man, so hopefully, he'll step up to the plate. This is a very nice site, for a free one. I appreciate those ads wwho say outright that they only want to play. There will always be the ones who get some kind of kick out of pulling tricks. We just have to be sure of what WE want, and not settle for less. Just hate to waste my precious time with fools, though......
 
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