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 Author Thread: Would you date someone who is mentally ill??????
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 113 (view)
 
Would you date someone who is mentally ill??????
Posted: 10/4/2015 11:28:23 PM
I have anxiety and on meds. My girlfriend is on meds for depression. We have been dating over 2 years. It's never been an issue. It's by far the best relationship I've ever been in
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Catfish-y Photos?
Posted: 6/10/2015 4:52:07 AM
Op Athletic and staying fit is important as you socially do drugs. Profile looks fake
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Ever love someone, but could not live with or plan a future with him or her?
Posted: 1/10/2015 11:36:58 PM
Took me a long time to realize it but being in love with someone does not mean you should be in a relationship with them. There are so many aspects to a relationship. Love is only one and its not enough on its own
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Guys and Custody Court Perception - What MAYBE can help
Posted: 11/9/2014 8:12:55 PM
I know divorce can be crazy and it sounds like the guys needed a lawyer to guide them. I know why I was getting divorced any female my now ex talked to even most without know any facts would say take everything he has. Pathetic attitude
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 74 (view)
 
P2P.. Really?!!? Not that desperate
Posted: 11/9/2014 7:51:25 PM
Well it seems about half the time I goto store or gas station people beg for money. At least she was offering something in return
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
abusive men and the next man
Posted: 9/26/2014 10:37:30 PM
If what you say is true they have shelters for people with such problems. You are in no way ready for a new relationship
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Not walking your date to her door
Posted: 9/13/2014 11:55:05 PM
I don't recall a first date ever ending at her house. It seems to always end at a restaurant or my house. Not sure what that means
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Blocked after she said she wants to meet
Posted: 7/2/2014 9:27:36 AM
Also it sounds like you are talking about the meet me feature. It doesn't mean a thing. Ignore those
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Long Term Dating
Posted: 6/21/2014 7:50:04 PM
Im not resenting waiting. I can't say for sure how i will feel down the road but I think I will be ok.

As far as updated my profile I did try to edit that but I guess they added new stuff and unless I update stuff regarding dating it won't let me edit. Im not updating dating stff when Im not here for that and my profile is hidden anyway. I get zero emails so its a non issue to me and my girlfriend knows Im on the forums
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Long Term Dating
Posted: 6/21/2014 11:25:57 AM
You may want to read the beginning of my post which states my profile is set to hidden. You have to have a profile to post.
Dunno where the 2 months thing came from or saying we are not in love. Im not sure you read my post at all.
I thought it could be a discussion about long term dating before living together. I don't know all the ins and outs or possibilities. Other peoples success or failures. Why to or not to long term date. I thought it could be people coming up with their own thoughts. As I stated another failed at my attempt to start a interesting discussion. My bad. Not a dig deal
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Long Term Dating
Posted: 6/21/2014 9:36:47 AM
I thought the forums were here so people could discuss interesting topics. There doesn't seem much new here. Most stuff is the same old same old or someone makes up some thing to get people fuming and flame them. This isn't my first attempt to try and start what I thought was an interesting topic and it turns into finger pointing. I have nothing to prove to anyone here. If you choose to believe I have some issue or issues then so be it.
I did state in the last post she knows I want to move to my property and if we stay together would be willing to move with me after her kids are out of school. My property is in a desired location. I will not sell it. I think I got a deal on it and haven't seen anything else even close to what it is, which is what I wanted.
No one is talking marriage at the current time. No one has thrown down a gauntlet. We have stated our intentions. We have both accepted each others intentions. Its not a piss or get of the pot point. We are both happy.
Her school district is very good and she wants her kids to stay in that district. She made that clear and if I tried to talk her into changing her mind I would be a jerk in my opinion.
Moving around is expensive and I see it as a waste of money. I cannot live with her at least at this time. She currently moved back in with her parents because she saw renting as a waste when her kids goto their dads frequently and when they do she stays at my house.
As I have stated in the past I think some people on here a wound a little tight. Try taking deep breaths and relax a little lol.
I guess I can chalk this up as another failure to start an interesting topic. Maybe I shall try again sometime
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Long Term Dating
Posted: 6/21/2014 8:41:44 AM
We actually live close. She wants her kids to finish school where they started thats why she doesn't want to move away. I don't want to move to her district because my house is paid off and to sell it then move to her area for a few years then move again to or near my property I don't see as a good financial decision. I live in Ohio. my property is in Kentucky about 2 and a half hours away.
Some have read to much into my statements there is no hidden meanings just what I said. I am happiest I have ever been with a relationship. I have no issues with us not living together. I would like us to live together at some point. When I don't know.
Getting my property was a dream come true. I have decent amount of land and a cabin. You can say its me being selfish but then is everyone that follows their dreams selfish? I guess that could be a whole topic in itself lol.
We know where each other stands. I believe I actually communicate very well with her. We talked in the possibilities per say. We have not said we want to spend our lives together but we have talked in how things might go if we did as in she could move with me closer to my property after her kids are finished with school. I have explained my dreams of my property and she understands. She has explained her commitment to her kids and I understand.
The six years doesn't bother in the sense that things are not progressing fast enough. I don't want to live with her at the moment. I feel I made poor choices in the past, moving to fast, ignoring elephants in the room and such. I am fine with it moving slower. Getting to know each other and realizing just cause you love someones isn't enough to be together. It takes a lot more. I think I am on a rant now lol. I am happy now. Saying 6 years out loud if you will sounds like a long time but in truth all it is at this point is a number. I have been at the same job 17 years. It sounds like a long time when I say it but its also just a number. I am living in the now but I do think about the future which I believe is what you are supposed to do. Im just thinking about it though, not dreading it not fearing six years just throwing it out there.
Well I probably missed something but I tried to fill in the blanks
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Long Term Dating
Posted: 6/20/2014 10:39:29 PM
As I was saying in my first post I dont intend on moving to her district. Its not far but I have property south. When I move it will be in that direction
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Long Term Dating
Posted: 6/20/2014 10:23:19 PM
She has only expressed I be understanding and patient
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Long Term Dating
Posted: 6/20/2014 10:21:55 PM
No more kids are in our future. She does want to be married again, not saying it has to be me just in general. Im not totaly sure on marriage but not against it. I do want to live with the woman I am with
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Long Term Dating
Posted: 6/20/2014 9:24:46 PM
Disclaimer first, I hid my profile before you had to be a paid member. I am not here to debate my profile and I will not.
Why I am here is because I have been dating a woman over a year. No real issues which is odd for me cause I was starting to think I was the common denominator.
I don't have kids and she has three. Her youngest is twelve. Her kids started school in the district they are in, I live in another. She wants them to finish school in the same place which I am fine with. I was in 7 schools by seventh grade.
I don't intend to move to her district which means for another six years we will not live together assuming we stay together.
It seems like a long time to just date, if for no other reason I have not had success in relationships. I was married for about three years but half the time we were split.
Im curious on others thoughts and or experiences.
I have been at the same job for 17 years and it boggles my mind that its been that long so yes I can commit to things.

Let the annihilation lol
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Does POF uses BOTS?
Posted: 6/19/2014 7:42:23 AM
I had the same experience with match as hawking. Also when I had my profile hidden they emailed me saying I had hundreds of new views so I should join. This happened twice. I complained to them and they deleted my account
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Quick meet first time.Good or bad idea?
Posted: 6/5/2014 9:27:46 AM
Sounds like op is onto something with parking lot meeting. It would weed out lots real quick. I have to say I never new a parking lot was so dangerous for so many. Must be terrifying just walking outside.
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
What would be the perfect first meeting?
Posted: 5/20/2014 6:56:10 AM
Well op your number 4 you can get very easy. Its called speed dating.
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Have you dated someone with the same name as an ex?
Posted: 4/2/2014 4:11:17 PM
I have dated to Jennifer's and a odd situation with a third Jennifer so I try to stay away from girls named Jennifer now
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
He is always online should I be concerned?
Posted: 4/1/2014 2:44:15 PM
Um how can there be more screw ups online than in the real world. I'm pretty sure all the people online are in the real world or is someone not telling me something lol
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Asking a guy why he is not interested?
Posted: 12/12/2013 3:16:24 PM
This kind of pushing is what caused me to block the only girl on here that I have blocked. She sent 4 messages over different times and I never answered any. Then the 5th message she stated that she had sent 2 or 3 messages and wanted to know why I wouldnt respond since we had so much in common and she was very attracted to me.
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
At what point is it considered harassment?...
Posted: 12/9/2013 7:19:01 PM
I can't speak to your local laws but here is how my local law works. If you have made it clear to him not to contact you then its harrasment if he does. I went through this and called the cops. They took a report and had a warrant on the person. When they found them they arrested them and set a court date. You should call the cops. They will tell you the local laws
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 116 (view)
 
single pregnant mother
Posted: 11/12/2013 2:21:00 PM
I bet when he child is 10 people will still respond like the op asked this morning not years ago geesh
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 157 (view)
 
Are women with crappy cars a turn off?
Posted: 11/6/2013 9:21:17 AM
I don't care about what a woman drives. I was dumped over one of my cars though. Not sure she knew I had others. Ran into her years later. She was living in a dive apartment but she did have a really nice car. I had my own house. Guess it all depends on what matters to you
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
excuses when askin for a date
Posted: 11/6/2013 9:14:28 AM
I'm a little confused by your post. If you are only talking 10 min then asking them to meet its to soon. Anytime I've had a meet, the girl has suggested it when she was ready. Everytime I've asked if they agreed they bailed before the exact time and date has been set.
If you ask for a meet and they are busy I would imediately ask if there is a better time. If they don't come up with one move along
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 112 (view)
 
1st meeting
Posted: 10/17/2013 9:57:22 AM
I think all this shows that first meets are a good idea and work like they are ment to. If I meet a woman who feels entiltled to stuff because she is a woman then we are obviously not a match. Neither of us will be wasting our time on the other
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Unintentionally meeting someone on POF at a bar....has it happened to you?
Posted: 9/17/2013 2:43:31 PM
I believe I saw a woman from here at the grocery once, I high tailed it other way as fast as I could. She had messaged me 5 times and last time demanded to know why I had never replied back. She is the only person I have blocked on here
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Why so many pics taken sitting in cars?
Posted: 8/28/2013 7:33:33 AM
I have one because someone asked for a current pic while I was in my car. I tend to not like my pics and kinda liked it. Why do people have a need to over think everything lol
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Education matters?
Posted: 8/27/2013 5:32:45 AM
It cracks me up that some people think if you graduate college that makes you smart. There are plenty of dumd people with degrees. Case it point there has been talk on radio lately of a woman that owes over 100 grand in student loans and no marketable degrees and doesn't want to pay the loans back
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
A girl said I sound sad.
Posted: 8/22/2013 9:30:08 AM
I get that and did you just wake up. Its probably just the tone of your voice and the phone doesn't help. I still get it fro my dad fairly often on thephone. Did you just wake up? No why? You sound tired and groggy.
 patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Ladies, why am I not getting responses?
Posted: 6/15/2013 8:30:54 AM
I really think so many of these posts are fake, I think they like to get the regular posters feathers ruffled, sitting back munching on popcorn and laughing
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Criticism
Posted: 3/31/2013 10:07:44 AM
When my back problems started they were at their worst. A girl wanted to get back together at that time, I couldn't do much. Mostly laid on the couch. She ****ed and complained that I was no longer fun. We only lasted a couple days lol
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 3/30/2013 11:16:58 PM
I would start asking him things like does he want you to dress up. You should know him better ask him what he wants rather than why not
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 199 (view)
 
are some people not MEANT to be in relationships?
Posted: 3/30/2013 8:36:50 PM
I do wonder about myself. Not because of problems I've had growing up but im 42 and I've only been invoked for about 42 years of my adult life. I just wonder if im so used to being alone that im screwed. Plus im living my dream but that don't mean my dream fits with anyone else lol. I have no self pithy just wondering where I would fit and a girl would fit. Oh well I am very happy so that's what matters

Its hard to type from my phone and impossible. To correct
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Dealing with cigarette smoke
Posted: 3/25/2013 1:18:04 PM
I frebreeze my friend that smells of smoke when she comes over
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
The 'talks'
Posted: 3/24/2013 1:55:16 PM
I have had the talks thing before I ever heard of online dating so it didn't come from that. That being said it wasn't some drawn out complicated thing. Can't really say when we had it or how it went just kinda casual asking how the other felt and what they wanted
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Heartache is bad...but need advice
Posted: 3/13/2013 3:31:04 PM
The first post was vague and confusing. From there it go worse. You talk about divorce but say he isn't married. I have know clue what you are saying or even asking
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
STD check anyone?
Posted: 3/5/2013 6:15:29 PM
Start by putting on a sexy nurse outfit. The exam will work much better lol
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Second date, no kiss?
Posted: 3/4/2013 7:53:09 AM
I am pretty shy. If I think I am given the green light I will go for it although I don't think I am good at figuring it out. If the moment never seems right by the 3rd date I will go for a kiss anyway. I figure by this time if she wont kiss me we are wasting time going out
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Webcamming
Posted: 2/17/2013 7:47:32 PM
Um do webcams only work if the people don't have clothes on or something? I talked to a girl from here that had a webcam, I did not. We just chated nothing sexual. Is that a webcam violation???
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 137 (view)
 
Snoring... how do you deal with it??
Posted: 2/17/2013 7:41:19 PM
This was in 04 if he hasn't got medcal treatment by now he is probably dead
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Dating someone who didnt have a positive male role model growing up?
Posted: 2/17/2013 11:40:04 AM
My father was not a good role model. My sisters and brother have had a drug an alcohol problem since I can remeber. It led to one of my sisters death along with letting her health go and not doing anything about it. None of them has had much of a career and have struggled to have a place to live. Most people that meet them then me are amazed we are even related. It comes down to how you deal with lifes problems. You sink or you swim. Nothing is written in stone people in the same situations come out differently. I am by no means perfect but I think and my close friends and family think I am well adjusted.

There are kids that have had a good homelife as a child and still have major problems dealing with life. You never know how someone will turn out. I think a lot of the so called studies are done by people looking for a certain outcome, so they find things that fit the results they want
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Texting rules
Posted: 2/16/2013 8:27:51 AM
I thought there was an edit option?? There not their
Is it ironic I like texting but hate typing. Oh yeah everyone stop typing cause I don't like it ha ha
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Texting rules
Posted: 2/16/2013 8:23:22 AM
I see this as two different things. First there are no rules to texting. As far as the leaving you hanging that is about respect and nothing to do with texting. I have a pretty simple rule no call, no show and your gone. Its not cut and dry but thats the gist. If people don't respect you enough to not leaving you hanging then I don't waste my time. If someone says they are going to let me know or are coming over etc and blow me off, then they need a good reason or they are history. I have never seen that kind of behavoir get better as things go along just worse so unless it doesn't bother you I would listen to his answer but unless its a legit reason why he couldn't call or text and let you know like he said then see ya.

As far as texting I am so freakin tired of people who don't like to text tell people who do they should stop. Some people actually like to text, get over it. If you don't like it don't do it but stop telling other people they shouldn't do it just cause you don't. Get over yourself already you are not the ZAR of the world.

Now people that do text may do it in different ways than you and you just have to accept that the way they do may not be like yours. Some people will text throughout their day, some will only text when the are alone, some hardly text at all. Their are no rules just different ways
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
my horrible funny date story of the day
Posted: 2/16/2013 8:03:16 AM

She likes triangulated relationships. She needs you a 3rd point of the triangle to feel important. Drama is how she expresses her emotional needs like ATTENTION. Through attention she draws her self worth.....


Wow I think the explains everything with my last girlfriend. I never understood her game but thats it
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
being single on V-Day
Posted: 2/15/2013 9:50:29 PM
Just another day of not understanding women. Holiday + ex girlfriends birthday + the day her husband tried to kill her yet she left me to go back to him. The things that make you go hmm
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 109 (view)
 
Ever been turned on by a person's accent?
Posted: 2/15/2013 9:28:07 PM
Southern girl accent gets me every time
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Cheating...forgive?
Posted: 2/15/2013 9:25:47 PM
I have learned over time just the fact that I like someone is not a reason to be with them. What do they bring to the game? He has already done you wrong and you were about to break up with him anyway. What does he bring to the game? He messed up and wants to try again? If thats it move along
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 94 (view)
 
Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone???
Posted: 2/15/2013 9:01:50 PM
I am lucky I am living my dream. It kinda makes it tougher for a mate to fit in but oh well, I am definitely not complaining
 
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