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 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 148 (view)
 
Do nice guys finish last?
Posted: 8/17/2018 8:57:41 AM
(Women with high self esteem I try to find ways to lower it. If I can't then I just move on to the next one.)

I see this type of behaviour fairly regularly in Datingland. Easy to spot a control freak and end contact with them.

Surprises me how the people with low self esteem do not realize that trying to put someone down who has high self esteem is a big tell.

Glad they do though as it tells me early on not to bother dating them.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Does being single stop you from doing what you want?
Posted: 8/11/2018 3:49:52 PM
(They feel that they have to be with someone to do something.)

People like that creep me out. (A lot!)

About a year after I was widowed, I decided I could wait for meet someone to travel with or I could go by myself. Going by myself was the best decision I ever made. First few year I travelled across Canada, then for the last 19 years I have travelled internationally, and own a home in the Caribbean. If I had waited to meet someone to travel with I would still be waiting to start my adventures.

Too numerous to count are the times I would start dating someone, and hear the words as soon as we are in a relationship you will stop travelling.

No being single would stop me from doing what I want with my life, which scares the hell out of me.

Today, I can not image having to take another"s opinion into consideration for travel plans or buying new car, selling a home etc.

Colour me Team Single.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 68 (view)
 
Lame topic
Posted: 8/9/2018 2:46:28 PM
I consider the idea of women being treated as, or thinking that they are princesses or queens to be an insult to an intelligence person.

Fluffy people makes me want to swat them like mosquitos.

Stamp out fluffy heads!
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Chronic Illness? A deal breaker or not?
Posted: 8/8/2018 6:53:16 AM
(and the real point....is that people with high blood pressure or diabetes, can lead a very active life.)

Exactly.

(My very fit and athletic 8 year old grand daughter could fit into size 2 jeans.)

And so can this fit and active older lady who has had high blood pressure since she was 20.

I get tired of the uneducated who spout that people with high blood pressure would not have it if they were not overweight.

(careful now....your Blonde is turning Green w/ envy!!)

And others in this thread.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Chronic Illness? A deal breaker or not?
Posted: 8/7/2018 4:10:24 PM
(Excess weight contributes to getting these diseases, so people can lose weight to get rid of some illnesses, and then you can potentially get off of meds:)

So Newyorker58 can you fit into my size 2 jeans?

I have had blood pressure issues since I was 20. Have been on bp meds for decades. Takes a split second to take my med daily. Issue solved.
How stupid to think my bp is an issue!
I would laugh my ass of at anyone who thought they would not date me because of it.

Due to a surgeons error, I was told I would be dead before my 30th bday. I have lived to more than double that bday. My family doctor and friend, used to to say anybody can be hit by a bus today and die.

Guess what? No one who has wanted to date me has ever asked me if I have health issues.

I was the primary caregiver for my late husband who died at 38. Being his caregiver is the thing I am most proud of in my life.

Would I sign up to do the same thing for a stranger who wanted to date me?..............no way!
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Shedding the nice guy.
Posted: 8/7/2018 3:54:25 PM
( so called nice guys are actually up their own poopdeckers with overinflated sense of entitlement and expect women to like them because they think themselves to be nice.)

The above covers all that needs to be said on this topic.

Enough already!
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 13 (view)
 
How serious do people believe Reality TV like the Bachelor(ette)?
Posted: 8/7/2018 3:51:11 PM
Bachelor(ette) bored me to tears for the couple of episode I watched part of.

Now Big Brother (Canada or US)...................I confess to being a superfan.
Team Tyler and Sam!
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Independent Don't Need A Man; Seeks - Husband =>> What Gives?
Posted: 8/4/2018 10:39:22 AM
(Seriously, the older women seem to want marriage even MORE than the young women.)

I had a good marriage, but years spent single, living alone has left me never wanting to cohabitate again. As soon as I explain to a man who asks to date me that cohabitation is never going to happen, they move on. Which is ok with me, if that man is looking for a wife.
My single female friends range from 40 to 80. Not one of them wants to remarry.

Strange that you are experiencing older women who want to remarry. I do not understand their thinking either.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Modern dating
Posted: 7/17/2018 9:52:37 AM
("In these modern times of apparent equality)

How is your post about equality?
If it was, both the woman and the man would be doing all the things you list when dating each other.
Which in many cases is exactly what happens when dating.

( risk being reject by letting the man, know she is interested and be persistent in getting him to date her>)

Who in their right mind persists in trying to date someone who does not want to date them.

Learning to accept rejection is part of life.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 4 (view)
 
What dating mode are you in?
Posted: 7/13/2018 12:27:45 PM
6 and 9

he he.........................................................
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 171 (view)
 
Why do girls stop replying?
Posted: 7/2/2018 10:55:07 AM
(No, I believe what he's saying is, there are times when these "preferences" can get REALLY stupid. I don't give a shit what anyone says, when a woman starts demanding a man like her favorite football teams, TV shows, and NOT own a *small* dog because she thinks it's "weird", that's an insufferable and irrational twat who deserves to be alone as much as people who refuse to better themselves.)

I totally agree. I certainly was not referring to such petty things. I foolishly thought others were not referring to stupid things either. Hence my comments.

(Yes, she has the RIGHT to cling to these "preferences" for dear life. Everyone gets it. Believe me, they really do. But she also needs to shut her whiny piehole when no one wants her stupid ass.)

However, if her preferences are reasonable, she would not whine about people she does not want, not wanting her.

Imo, it is people who whine because they can not have their pick out of everyone they want, who should just learn and accept that everyone will never want them. Concentrate on those who do you want.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 167 (view)
 
Why do girls stop replying?
Posted: 7/1/2018 3:16:36 PM
(sometimes "expanding or adjusting the strike zone" a little bit)

When I have done that, I have ended up asking myself just wth I was thinking.

Then trying to come up with an excuse that would not hurt the other person to make sure I never had to see them again.
Lesson learned........not my type is not my type.

Adjusting your strike zone can end up making your realize yet again that you just can not settle with less than you want and be happy.

Self esteem is a wonderful and freeing attribute.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 147 (view)
 
Why do girls stop replying?
Posted: 6/30/2018 2:06:15 PM
( Some women might have more success if they were less rigid and judgmental about their long list of requirements and dealbreakers. They reject men that could be potential matches because of a few inches, he doesn't have a college degree, he has a picture of himself with a woman etc.)


Let me get the straight. You think women would be successful if they accepted men they do not want.
Why would you think that either men or women do not know themselves well enough to know what they want.

Maybe women stop replying to you because they come to realize you think you know what is better for them than they do.
Nobody likes a controller.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 167 (view)
 
When is it ok to say I love you?
Posted: 6/23/2018 7:41:59 AM
(an old bag is a sour, dour person who tries to pee on other people's rainbows. TRIES.)

No, just trying to be logical.

(so ur waiting (gleefully) 4 CBGB to come in & say "we broke up" etc?)

No. I prefer people are happy with their lives.

(How dare u assume CBGB is w/ this woman out of fear, perhaps u r projecting ur own pov onto him.)

I said some people. Deal with what I posted not what you assume I mean.

I have no problem with people finding love.

I do have a problem with Drama Queens and Drama Kings who spend their lives chasing the attention as they crave, but can never get enough of.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 154 (view)
 
When is it ok to say I love you?
Posted: 6/22/2018 1:17:18 PM
Once a flake, always a flake.

Old Canadian Proverb.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 141 (view)
 
When is it ok to say I love you?
Posted: 6/22/2018 7:47:34 AM
(^The misogynists & the old bags who love them must be fuming bec. ur happy CGBG.)

No, we are just waiting for reality to surface.

Sad that people can not be happy unless they are part of a couple.
Fear of being alone makes many love being in love more than reality.

ps.......Everyone will be old one day. Insulting older people who do not agree with your way of thinking says a lot about you. Are you going to be able to handle being old and all that goes with it?
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 115 (view)
 
When is it ok to say I love you?
Posted: 6/17/2018 7:29:38 AM
(I told my wife I loved her after 4 dates and I really was.)

9 times out of 10 it does not work that way.

I too knew I loved someone quickly whom I would still be married to if he had not died.
I did not rush to say I love you but waited till I knew he was what I thought he was.

However, when someone quickly tells me he loves me, I think desperate to be in love with being in love.

The people who fall in love with just about everyone they date scare me badly.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 83 (view)
 
Ex won't leave me alone... restraining order?
Posted: 6/16/2018 2:38:07 PM
OMG! I am having flashbacks of Natalie.

Obviously Natalie 2.0 just want to wallow in the drama.

Have at all the drama you want OP!
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Ex won't leave me alone... restraining order?
Posted: 6/9/2018 8:33:40 AM
(I'm not the one starting the drama though. )

Can you not see that you are enjoying and playing into the drama just as much as he is?

If you were not, you would not be obsessing about the situation.

Find an activity to focus your mind on.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Ex won't leave me alone... restraining order?
Posted: 6/8/2018 4:39:52 PM
( it was just nonsensical and comedic. It's sad.)

No! It is total unnecessary drama.

Try living in a drama free zone.

ie. Grow up!
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Disabled Parking Space.
Posted: 6/8/2018 2:49:11 PM
As per Min. of Transportation Ontario

This permit, issued to an individual, entitles the vehicle in which it is displayed to be parked in a designated disabled parking space * the permit must be displayed on the dashboard or sun visor and can be moved from vehicle to vehicle .

The permit is only issues to one person and is not registered to a vehicle.

It would be nice to see more people who have not been issued a permit but use spot anyway get fined.
A public shaming would like printing their names in newspapers or on social media would be just reward.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Has #Metoo invaded online dating?
Posted: 6/8/2018 2:36:46 PM
(I bet you get hit up all the time with offers for sex.)

That is the first thing you say in a message and you do not understand why women would not like that.
Wow just wow.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Disabled Parking Space.
Posted: 6/7/2018 6:44:09 PM
Yes, kind of like overweight parents and their overweight children getting choice parking sports just because they have kids.
Total nonsense.

In order to maintain the highest quality forums you are restricted to having no more then 2 of the last 10 posts on a thread.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Disabled Parking Space.
Posted: 6/6/2018 8:31:34 PM
Thanks for your compliment Vannili.

(In Indiana, temporary permits have an expiration date on them, permanent ones do not.)

Maybe time for places that do not put expiries on permits to change their system.

I would hope the fine for using a person who has died permit is large.

Do the permits have the persons name who it was issued to clearly showing?
If the permit was in a mans name and a woman was driving, it should be a dead give away.
Pun intended.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Disabled Parking Space.
Posted: 6/6/2018 7:23:20 PM
(So my 16 years widowed friend she renew the "permit" that was hang on the mirror,every year ? How can she do it ? )

Good question!

Renew an accessible parking permit
You will need to renew permanent and subject-to-change accessible parking permits every 5 years.

You will receive a renewal notice 3 months before your permit expires.

Permanent
If your disability is permanent, you do not need to be re-certified by your healthcare practitioner.

As per ontario.ca
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Disabled Parking Space.
Posted: 6/6/2018 3:48:04 PM
From
ontario.ca/page/get-accessible-parking-permit


Get an accessible parking permit
How to get an accessible parking permit. Accessible parking permits are issued to a person or business and not a vehicle. Permit holders must have been in the vehicle and the permit displayed on the dashboard in order to park in an accessible parking space.

Only people with certain health conditions can apply for an accessible parking permit. Read the eligibility requirements below before you apply.

To apply for an accessible parking permit, there are 2 parts to the application form:

Part A – to be completed by the applicant
Part B – to be completed by your health care practitioner

Permits have name to person they were issued to and an expiry or and renewal date.

Each province or state would have slightly different rules but basically the same.

Vannali your friends need a slap. Good for you for expressing that this is not acceptable behaviour and illegal.

PS The trend to specially marked parking spaces at malls for people with children in not legal and can not be enforced.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Ex won't leave me alone... restraining order?
Posted: 6/3/2018 2:09:06 PM
You are courting drama.

If you want the drama to stop, stop fueling the fire.

So he is talking to the friends......not your problem! ld
Why you would care leads only to you are enjoying this.

Stalks you at work.................dial 911.
Wait.........you are enjoying the drama.

Seriously........................Enjoying the drama or end it.

My guess is the drama is addictive to you.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 91 (view)
 
50/50?
Posted: 6/2/2018 8:20:17 AM
If you want a 50 50 relationship, pick a partner who is your equal. That has always worked for me.

I am an alpha who being an alpha would only get into a relationship with another alpha. Maybe being alpha means it would never have occurred to us that being anything other than 50 50 was possible for us.

If people worry about giving more than they are getting, why are they in the relationship in the first place?

We teach people how to treat us.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 23 (view)
 
b/c he could
Posted: 5/23/2018 1:42:34 PM
(Are you not familiar with the term "sociopath"?)

IMO, this is the mostly likely answer.

Over the decades, I have watched both male and female sociopaths wreck havoc again and again on a long list of partners.

I just think to myself that it must be a painful place inside their brains. I can not imagine how much it must hurt not a be able to feel emotion.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Any old excuse to not meet.
Posted: 5/18/2018 8:31:37 PM
("Your not my type".
And what type am I if you never got to meet and know me ?
I was married for 23 years and never really knew my wife, she was a real dark horse."

WTF?

23 years....................Holy Hell.

OMG. Nonsense, nonsense................................
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 422 (view)
 
Calling Kids baggage
Posted: 5/14/2018 4:20:31 PM
(Especially those who haven't the common sense to make their children their first priority. )

Balance is what is called for not trying to deal with the guilt caused by divorcing to be a martyr.

(If they are the natural parents I might agree but statistics prove single mothers up the chance of their children being molested by a huge percent when they bring another male into the home. Also, sometimes when parents divorce kids do better in a home with one parent, especially is there is substance abuse or other issues.)

Where does this many males molest and so many people have substance abuse issues come from? Certainly this is not the world most of us have lived in. If that is what you have around you, time to move your children away and introduce them to a better class of people.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 404 (view)
 
Calling Kids baggage
Posted: 5/14/2018 7:11:00 AM
(Something, children who come from a divorced home especially, need to know. They have already lost one parent, they don't need the other checking out.)

I once heard someone say that the best thing you can do for children is to love you spouse.
How would you be checking out from your child if you loved yourself as much as you love them?

(Being a good parent makes you a Martyr? Okey, dokey. Put down the crack pipe sista.)

Okay, you obviously need it explained to you. Children do better in a two parent home. A parent putting kids first often means an unhappy parent raising unhappy kids. Finding a balance for both the kids and adults is necessary for all involved.

Do not project your world of sistas with crack pipes on others. It makes you look bad.

More people need to think before having children. Being childless can be a good, satisfying lifestyle.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 398 (view)
 
Calling Kids baggage
Posted: 5/13/2018 5:52:57 PM
(our children come FIRST before any man, ALWAYS. Also they come first before YOURSELF and your sex drive.)

What does that teach children to grow into?

Matyrs do not make good parents.

In a real , solid relationship, the mate should have equal position to the children.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Chihuahuas rule
Posted: 5/13/2018 5:09:43 PM
Love your new profile pict. Purple.

I cannot ever remember being irritated with an animal.

(Loneliness is the new smoking.)

Seriously!!!???

If you are a lonely person, go help others or go into therapy.

There is no logic reason to ever be lonely unless a love one has died.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 19 (view)
 
They say they don't smoke but...
Posted: 5/8/2018 5:11:02 PM
(I can spot them pretty easily.)

Or so you think.

(Smokers typically have wrinkles around their mouth and upper lip. )

Have you ever heard of or learned about bone loss, especially in the jaw, especially in small women?
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Are you ready to sleep with these two?
Posted: 5/8/2018 2:37:15 PM
My dog does not fart in bed.

How many men can make that claim?

From posts on this website, I would guess there are several men who can not make that claim.

(I have never been in a relationship with a man who farted around me. I guess no farting in front of gf is a dying art.)
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 17 (view)
 
They say they don't smoke but...
Posted: 5/8/2018 2:32:17 PM
(She could have been a former sun worshiper, and her skin damage had occurred over the course of many years.)

Former????? This old wrinkled woman intends to worship the sun until the day she dies.
Need suns warmth to enjoy life. If I am not enjoying life, I might as well be dead.
Do not like my wrinkles................such is life.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
They say they don't smoke but...
Posted: 5/7/2018 5:00:38 PM
For the first time in a long time (read years), someone interesting looked at my profile. He smokes. My profile say will not date a smoker. Such is life.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 9 (view)
 
barking up the wrong tree
Posted: 5/7/2018 4:58:03 PM
Thanks Chicky.

My dog sleeps with me. When my bff s dog has a sleep over, I can not kick him off the bed (darn).

I remember a first date where he brought his dirty shih tzu. The little (dirty) monster demanded to sit on my knee............ew. No second date.

My dog gets bathed monthly or more if needed. Does yours?
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
barking up the wrong tree
Posted: 5/7/2018 12:27:02 PM
Yet another good reasons for each to have their own bedroom, or better still their own house.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Women Don't Know What They Want
Posted: 5/7/2018 12:23:07 PM
You picked your date. Might want to chat with person before meeting to try to avoid the folks with baggage.

Trust me >>>>> there are as many baggage carrying men as there are women.

Any talk of an ex and I am done with them.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 54 (view)
 
I hear spring is beautiful in the UK
Posted: 5/7/2018 5:59:06 AM
"Lots of stickers with cute animals and hearts.

People sure can be different. I am allergic to men who would send stickers or give children s toys to adults. People in love with being in love scare me badly.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 5 (view)
 
When is it ok to say I love you?
Posted: 5/4/2018 1:59:49 PM
If a man told me he loved me after only 4 dates. I would think either he does not know what love is, or he is desperate to find love and is willing to fake it hoping it will become love. I doubt I could ever take him seriously afterwards. I would want to wait for the dust to settle before even questioning myself as to if I was in love.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Do Girls like shy Guys?
Posted: 5/1/2018 5:01:31 PM
There's also a better chance that he'll be faithful.

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaat! Wow, just wow!



"Girls think it's cute and they feel happy when shy guys like them."

Personally, I find them high maintenance, which I do not want or need in my life.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 370 (view)
 
Calling Kids baggage
Posted: 5/1/2018 4:34:38 PM
I consider anyone whether adult or child, who works their butt off to cause drama to be potential baggage.

Therefore, they do not get to share my life.

Child free zone is my happy place. No point in telling potential dates anything different.
 Moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
THE great equilizer for us old farts?
Posted: 4/24/2018 4:00:54 PM
110% sure I do not want to and will not live with another person.

N0t lover and not same sex friend.

This is a fact that I bring you immediately.

That means that the most men are not interested in pursuing even a friendship with me.

Oh well.....................result I was looking for in first place.

If they need to have a live in relationship, it will not be with me.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 435 (view)
 
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 10/30/2017 5:27:49 PM
"You're crazier than a shithouse rat."

You wish.

Keep proving my point with your insults.

"especially when I saw how many people agreed with you."

Most people know what happens when they disagree with you. They just can't be bothered.

I can handle your insults especially because you are just proving my point.
Keep up the good work.


"especially when I saw how many people agreed with you."

So you would have been crushed if people spoke out and posted that they agreed. Sure you would.

Don't worry. This snowbird will be flocking off soon.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 432 (view)
 
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 10/30/2017 3:37:15 PM
"Holy f*ck, do you smoke pot, too??"

Sorry Boo. I have never done drugs in my life. I don't hide from reality.

"I corrected her on something she was incorrect about."

I agree, she was incorrect!

However, you are incorrect too often, but think it is okay for you to pull the same thing being incorrect, but can't deal with it when someone points out you are incorrect.

Never got over me saying you look like Boy George eh!. Never made a post to me till then. Someone saying you look like Boy George isn't the end of the world drama person.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 430 (view)
 
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 10/30/2017 3:13:41 PM
"Unfortunately, your consistently off the mark responses make it all too easy to cite either drunkenness or craziness as the culprit. "

Only to those who's ego cloud their judgement.

People don't kiss your butt, and then call bs on your crap, and you get your knickers get in a twist. Then you throw a tantrum, and say the same type of thing that you freak out at when it comes in your direction.

If you can't take being challenged. Don't challenge.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 428 (view)
 
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 10/30/2017 2:54:02 PM
" Formulating thoughts and ideas on things I never said or implied is a whole different matter."

Then stop doing that to others.

I don't go around calling people crazy or drunk to try to diminish them. You shouldn't either. I expect people to be better than that.

" I have no interest in doing my own maintenance, and this would be true whether I'm married or not. My husband has no interest in it, either. We pay people to do these things because we neither enjoy them nor are we good at them. It's a waste of our time and money to try to do them because our hourly rate is much higher than that of the person who fixes whatever needs to be done"

I hear you. Felt the same when I was working. Now that I am retired, I enjoy doing renovations etc. Partly because I can do many of those things and enjoy it, and partly because I enjoy the surprised look on faces when I can do it easily.
 
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