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 goodquestion
Joined: 6/29/2005
Msg: 219 (view)
 
How Many Ladies Use Sex Toys
Posted: 5/17/2018 2:41:17 AM

If a person enjoys intimacy with no need for all the props or without props and likes them on occasion- preferring just those things for intimacy it is a big turn off- yes i enjoy someone i love who is being their natural/worse appearing self i would hope to be enjoyed natural/worse appearing self also-
Intimacy is not a porno-with stage makeup and props-(besides we only see men"s ten to twelve inches in the porn- so if you fit that bill look for the porn queen of your dreams or pay for a prostitute they are professional)
sometimes props,staging-role playing etc- adds excitement and fun-sure-not all the time not looking to be a clown who never gets a day off from the fun house , you'd be seeing a movie all right , stephen kings "IT" lol
viagra for non-circulatory penile engorgement is as lube for vaginal dryness and or atrophy- age changes shit


Where is the.................. LIKE BUTTON LIKE BUTTON LIKE BUTTON LIKE BUTTON LIKE BUTTON LIKE BUTTON LIKE BUTTON LIKE BUTTON LIKE BUTTON LIKE BUTTON LIKE BUTTON LIKE BUTTON LIKE BUTTON Age may change things but things can still be fun........................
 goodquestion
Joined: 6/29/2005
Msg: 218 (view)
 
How Many Ladies Use Sex Toys
Posted: 5/17/2018 2:35:48 AM

etc-men if you use too much pressure while masturbating same thing a typical vagina cannot replicate a gripping adult males hand...


Not to be funny I am living proof. If I were to diagnose myself it is pretty much the problem. Such as at my age it will now exist for the rest of my life and you learn to work with it. But there is no question it is true. I only have a problem completing that is all , but is workable. It is probably more relevant than known. It is not the worst thing though to deal with.
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Msg: 188 (view)
 
Womens views on FWB???
Posted: 4/30/2018 3:53:39 AM

Pulling out is just as effective as typical condom use basically.


{ off Topic } As stated by other posters this method is as false as the day is long. I just can't believe people believe this works. Most guys and women that are lets say fooling around, there bodies are already gearing up for sex even if it does not go that far. Everyone is different but most guys that are already involved being that they are more likely wet if you want to use that word is enough to get a woman pregnant much less engage in intercourse and decide to pull out at the right time. At that point it is already to late. You may have already started the process before you pulled out with whatever little bit of pre c$m has already been floating around. It is a fact I just do not get how people think this pull out method works.
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Joined: 6/29/2005
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Possibly getting into a FWB situation
Posted: 4/29/2018 3:35:29 AM

Maybe it is a scam, but so what? Maybe it is not. Invite her to meet for ice cream at Baskin Robins or somewhere for pizza. That is very inexpensive and takes up very little of your time. If she shows up and you like her, then or later invite he to your home. Unless she is an ax murderer (1 change in a 100 million) it is not possible that knowing your name and where you live can harm you. If by chance she asks for money, tell her that right now your finances are such that you don't have it, but you might be about a spare a ten ($10) if that would help.

If you end up buying a pizza and giving her $10 then she disappears, so what? That is less that going on date and buying a girl dinner, after which she doesn't want to go out with you. Therefore, take a chance, you are not going to be out any money or much of your time if she is not legit.


This is a very legit response. Although there are many ways to go about it, as everyone is an individual you have no idea until you meet.



Be mindful of using protection and be careful about STDs.


I could not have put it better myself. This is right at the top of the list with safety! Cause given the circumstances, it is almost impossible to predict what is going to happen but if the opportunity arises that is one are to be very concerned about.
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Msg: 254 (view)
 
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 1/20/2017 7:51:18 AM

Wow, what a ridiculous post. You don't like women having a sexual past before you came along because it might ruin the fantasy that you own her in every way? WHat does love have to do with her sexuality and body image being secret from other people? If a girl has slept with 100 men, how does it make her less loving? Less honest? Less Loyal? Less caring? Less funny? Less ANYTHING?? No. It makes her a normal human being that isn't playing into the misogynistic ownership fantasy. She is MINE!! Sorry... no she isn't. You are involved in a relationship with an independent human being who had every right to a life before you. Not having had sex before is not an indicator of the ability to love. Jesus.... where do these answers come from???


I could not have said it better. I have read most of these posts and it seems to me we need to learn the difference between ,,,"woman" and "women"
 goodquestion
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Msg: 21 (view)
 
He cheats on his gf with me
Posted: 11/5/2016 12:34:17 PM

I have this weird ability to remember some profile faces and stories on POF*. I am pretty sure this OP (under a different user name) had the forum going crazy last Jan or Feb. She started a thread about her live-in boyfriend physically abusing her. Many people responded.


I recognized her the minute I saw her picture you are absolutely right about prior posting.
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No sharing
Posted: 7/1/2015 4:52:54 AM
It was just the opposite with me. I was with a woman who said that. I knew this was strictly a FWB arrangement and so did she as she started it but I was to naive to understand what she meant. We never did the dinners or movies. She did have kids but when she did not have them , or made arrangements for them to be watched it was just tv and sex nothing else. When she said she did not share I did not under stand because I did not consider it exclusive in the way some other type of relationship would develop other than what was going on. Eventually she wanted more and from the beginning I knew there would be nothing more and it was understood on both sides but some times this happens with FWB arrangements. It lasted for 6 to 8 months and at the end she was just using me because i would not be exclusive so it ended real fast. It can get confusing.
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Msg: 112 (view)
 
Has Porn Effected peoples Sex lives
Posted: 5/23/2014 10:06:27 AM
I think porn makes guys jerk off too much and they have nothing left to share with a real woman.

This simply is not true I am glad that you just think that and have no facts to back it up, as I have read that in many relationships this is normal once in a while and that once in a relationship it still goes on, I am talking with out porn though. However if a man is going to be away for a couple weeks or maybe months because they are serving this country to think they are going to stop looking at porn and carrying on by them self's is out of this world. It is far better than cheating unless you are the type that would consider that cheating but that is a whole norther topic.

Also porn is not about a romantic loving caring relationship, which is what most of us want.

This is true and I think everyone knows this as porn does not demonstrate any type of romance ,but that is not to say that once in a while sex can't be just sex with out romance as long as you are a couple. I am not talking about sleeping with everyone.
 goodquestion
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Msg: 42 (view)
 
Sex after a long dryspell
Posted: 2/19/2014 4:29:26 AM
If you are a man, please do not jerk off within 24 hours of when you actually know , you may be with a women.
If you are a women, I suggest sticking a dido in yourself at least 3 times a week to keep your vaginal open and not closing down.

What is the purpose for a guy not to masturbate 24 hours ahead of being with a woman after a dry spell. This is not accurate at all if you know the chemistry about men. After a dry spell a man is apt to orgasm almost right away when being with a woman. As for a woman I do and can not speak to what would be appropriate. Unless the both of you are going to engage in oral sex which can be fun and great for play that might change things as most men do not orgasm that way according to what I have read here in the forums. Where as oral sex is one of the only way women can orgasm, not all but experience has taught me as well as reading the forums on POF as well.
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Msg: 71 (view)
 
Morals and Masterbation!!!!
Posted: 11/1/2013 8:41:42 AM

"God made masturbation a sin but put man's arms within reach of his**** what a moron he must be."

What about women never mind all the rif raf lets talk real life women's hand are well with in reach of there vag*na I would think it goes for both sexes as it is an equal world.
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Msg: 130 (view)
 
What makes sex bad for you?
Posted: 7/13/2013 3:55:18 PM
a day of bad sex beats a good day at work.

This sounds like the stories fishermen give about a bad day of fishing is better than a good day at work.
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Msg: 656 (view)
 
Sleeping naked
Posted: 3/10/2013 7:13:19 AM
The thing about sleeping naked is - what if there is an emergency, like a tornado, or a fire, or a truck runs through your bedroom wall, or someone breaks in, or, or, or - do you REALLY want to be on the news naked? hahaha. Just kidding, sort of - I think the situation dictates. If you are with someone and can't keep your hands off each other, better with no clothes to get in the way.

I can't believe this thread has come back up. It has been a while since I have started it.I think the above answer is great especially the ending. However it seems more people in the U.S.A have a problem being caught naked especially by themselves, and somehow justify it that as long as they are with a partner it now becomes justifiable. I could say the same thing about being in the shower and a truck runs through the wall and now you are exposed naked as well. Now if in the shower with a partner and the same thing happens does that make it any different. it almost seems like a double standard.
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Msg: 18 (view)
 
Is the human body inherently obscene?
Posted: 2/23/2013 4:55:48 PM

When my daughter was in year 4, she had a 'boy friend', they got sent to the office to see the principal, because after school one day - he waited outside her classroom and gave her a peck on the cheek to say goodbye for the weekend.
It was ridiculous, and I went to the office to talk to them about it.
They said it was sexual harassment,
I said it was sweet.

I have always been open and honest with my children, we didn't use pet names for their body beyond the age of 5 (and prior to that, we called them "giblets" - none of those super cutesy "pee pee" or "wee wee" crap...)
and I also had 2 boys, who knew that they could play with their 'giblets' in the bath tub, or bedroom -- but, not in public.

--anyone who has had a boy, knows the number of times I had to say "leave your giblets alone... Do you need to pee?"

I now have 3 some-what well adjusted young adults, who have no major issues about sexuality.
They actually come to me and talk about things that bother/interest them, as I will answer them honestly.

There is nothing obscene about the human body.

I like this response I wish they POF had a like button.
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Msg: 8 (view)
 
Making love to an older man.
Posted: 2/15/2013 10:07:56 AM
Has he had his prostate checked? It controls erection in a way. Prostate issues can cause erection issues

I stand corrected if I am wrong, however the sole function of the prostate gland is to produce fluid to mix in with everything else to create semen and has nothing to do directly with having an erection. Testosterone level would come way before the prostate. Unless the prostate had major problems it should have nothing to do with erections.
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Msg: 160 (view)
 
Masturbation...How much is Too Much???
Posted: 10/5/2012 6:03:59 AM

I do have a sense of humour in regards to these jerk off addicts.

now it is an addiction some men you meet up with I am glad I do not fall into that catagory.


This is actual reality.

this is not true by any means most men at our ages have many health problems that cause issues in this department never mind self abuse.


A guy told me on the phone that he was in the "mood for a threesome". I replied and told him , "to use both hands instead of one hand" to have his ideal of a threesome. Get real.

I would try to find a real guy sounds like three out of three now have failed where are you meeting guys like this I am glad I do not fall into this bracket.
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Msg: 158 (view)
 
Masturbation...How much is Too Much???
Posted: 10/5/2012 5:53:42 AM

If they jerked off that day, no matter what their age, they could NOT get it up for me.

That sounds like it just pertains to the men you have met but not all men are like that I assure you speaking from experience, not trying to brag or anything but it has not been a problem with me, not being able to get it up, and not being able to climax is two different things. Most men can get it up but can't finish for a second time but only some.


In answer to this post, if you, so called men intend to try to have sex with an actaul girl/woman on the same day that you jerked off, you will NOT be able to perform, no matter what age you are

This was answered in the above answer.


Get a real life. I wish I could, with real attractive men who do NOT waste theirselves jerking off before meeting a live attractive woman as me.

That is a very bold statement (waste themselfs ) (live attracive woman like me) (Get a real life ) stating they waste themselfs is like saying women that do not participate in oral sex just waste a guys time and miss out on some of the real fun and pleasure sex brings between two people.


I think most guys jerk off way too much.

based on what information or study, and what about the rest of the guys that do not fall into (most guys


There was one guy, that I was actually interested in. We met. He said that " I looked better than my photos and that he would definely see me again" . It was only a meeting, no sex attempts were involved. I called him a couple of times after that. Eventually he sent me 2 photos of him jerking off. What a waste.

that wasn't a waste he was a complete moron to send pictures in the first place.
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Msg: 7 (view)
 
Guys- kiss after oral foreplay?
Posted: 7/17/2012 5:42:55 PM
Lets be real I would kiss her if I came or did not what is the big difference I am with a woman not another guy this is the age old debate that has been put to death where most guys in the heat of the moment would kiss there woman either way but will not admit it lets be real. The deposit or pre cum came from me , I suppose everyone will say that is gay like all the other threads on this subject .which is just not true
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Msg: 15 (view)
 
Gay dudes blowing up your profile?
Posted: 7/13/2012 7:17:50 PM

All right, just guys answer me here.

Just to let you know for the future you cant just specify by the rules for one gender to answer. The forums are open for both genders to answer.
 goodquestion
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Msg: 25 (view)
 
how would you respond?
Posted: 7/8/2012 1:14:22 PM
Two words... "Press... Charges!" Guess what... Non consensual sex is rape... even if you didn't know you weren't consenting to it. If someone put a blind fold on me and told me to pound them as hard as I could and I took of the blindfold to see a pig once I was done... I would consider that a forced sexual act.

Guess what, this is trickier than that the above statement. It infers you let them put the blindfold on and told you to pound them as hard as you could and then took off the blind fold to see a pig once you were done....and then state "I would consider that a forced sexual act". Again guess what you left out the point where they had a gun to your head to force you or put you into a position of where it would become a forced situation or suffer what may happen if you don't. The mere fact you let them put the blindfold on and then"told you" to pound them as hard as you could and you do, is not a forced sexual act as you could say no as it was just asked of you. If anything I see animal cruelty charges coming from it, not as a joke but the way the law works.

It would be no different in my mind if someone tricked me into getting a BJ from some gay guy.

This is the direct opposite here from your statement above, as now you are not the aggressor but the receiver. You are no longer doing any pounding that you did not have to do in the first place, you are merely on the receiving end of a horrible trick that is not funny at all, and quite possibly might just be looked at as a prank by law enforcement only because you were engaged from the beginning and a willing participant and this does not fall into the likes of hurting someone with bodily contact or brutal force providing it did not escalate to that once the blind fold was removed. This is a very tricky play on words as well as if it were really playing out and I don't think it would end as most of the posts have stated.
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Msg: 16 (view)
 
eating own cum
Posted: 6/23/2012 2:12:33 PM
If you like swallowing a mouthful of salty snot, sure go for it.

Yes N....D.... please tell us how you know the taste and texture of both products. Inquiring minds are wondering how someone would know this unless they have sampled some, maybe you might want to drink some pineapple juice and watch your diet, or maybe tell your partner to !
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Msg: 48 (view)
 
Morning Erection
Posted: 6/21/2012 5:34:46 PM

goodquestion, is this the same blood test that they would take in a routine check-up,

No it is not however if you tell your doctor who is ordering the test some general practitioners will just mark it down or check the appropriate box on the blood work sheet. What I would do is tell him as hard as it is what your symptoms are , low sex drive, feel , tired things asscociated with low T as they call it. Some General practitioners will handle it while some will want to send you to a uroligist or at least do the blood work and see what the results are and if the testosterone comes back low then refer you to a urologist. To answer your question no they do not run that test on normal blood work. They also run at the same time a PSA test that goes with the testosterone test which gives them a good working tool that shows how the dells are so to determine as to prostate cancer and what is happeneing.

I would ask them to do it if you are tired no erections low sex drive and just not focused in general. There is studies out there that say low T can be mis diognosed for clinical depression because Low T in some guys will present the same symtoms. Talk to your doctor and I am willing to bet he will give good advice on the subject.
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Msg: 6 (view)
 
Sexual Prime
Posted: 6/21/2012 10:12:05 AM

I feel like a freak because my friends usually are at the 20/25 mark but I fall short.

Those are some serious numbers for that age range not that there is anything wrong with it but that is a good number of partners at that age.
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Msg: 45 (view)
 
Morning Erection
Posted: 6/21/2012 9:15:38 AM

goodquestion, I am not sure how new the testosterone pellets really are, as I read about this in 2009. How expensive is it if you don't have insurance to cover it?

I am not sure as to price and as far as being new 2009 would still be considered new as many doctors are not using them. Glad to here you are able to negotiate with a doctor as meds can get quite pricey. I am on medicare because I am disabled and they covered the procedure so I would think it is not as expensive as any of the gels.

As what was said about testosterone and morning erections, you can have all the testosterone in you in the world and still not have morning erections. Everyone is different and supplements will have different affects on everyone as there are no two people alike.
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Msg: 42 (view)
 
Morning Erection
Posted: 6/21/2012 4:31:07 AM
I am on my way to the doctor this morning to find out the results of my T level. The stats are that men age 35 years or older ,37% will have a drop in T level. There are a couple different supplement on the market in the form of a gel you put on. It did work for me and then stopped. There is the new and latest medical break through which I have had the procedure two weeks ago and that is why we are checking the level. The procedure consists of very tiny pellets that are put in under the skin in one buttock side. There is one pellet for every month. I have eight of them to last eight months. This is like an IV drip. because it is inside your body it is suppose to be a lot more reactive just as an injection would be but more stable because they dissolve over time. I seemed to notice the difference with in a couple days. It takes less than ten minutes for the procedure. You can feel the pellets in under the skin as a bump but that is it. There is no stitches involved or anything. This type of procedure is going to put the other companies that make the replacement gel such as Androgel and testim out the window. As far as having it checked what happens is it is hard to notice when it starts to go away because you are so used to it and it goes away slowly almost like clogged arteries but once you have them fixed you realized just how bad you were. There is a lot more than sex drive that testosterone controls. Another way you can tell if there is low T, because everyone is different is the penis will shrink in size and stay that way almost as if you were to get out of cold water. When testosterone starts to enter the system again the penis starts to fill back out again. As far as free testosterone as mentioned in a previous post I have had that checked along with regular testosterone there did not seem to be a different test for it. It was all done in the same blood work up. Just remember there are many thinks that can cause low T other than science. The science behind it is that at age 40 the need to reproduce according to science goes down so the testosterone starts to slow down. However there is a difference between slow down and very low. I am on pain medication due to eight back surgeries and it is the meds that kill the production. I will report back after I come back from the doctors this morning because I am going to ask him some questions that I see have been soken about in previous posts.
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Msg: 4 (view)
 
Is it true that toe-sucking is.. unsanitary?
Posted: 6/20/2012 4:10:33 AM

There are people who find thier own bodies so dirty,they couldn't imagine doing to others what turns them on.
I think it's projection on thier part.

SEX IS DIRTY.

If you don't want to take the risk,go without it.

This is a very true statement.
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Msg: 12 (view)
 
Bad sex
Posted: 6/16/2012 4:54:22 PM

Maybe she is not aware of how to do things???? Some people especially shy ones can sometimes be timid about touching etc.. maybe she's just very submissive and needs you to direct her until she gets a feel of what you permit or like?

Maybe you could write her a letter with a scenario you would like to explore? Write down things starting with how excited you get by watching her shower and you come in and begin touching her. Then you feel her tracing her hands up and down your body as the water caresses you both. Something simple like that can really help. Then add on from there with telling how you fantasize about her doing oral on you and how she should do it to really turn you on in the shower together.
Move on to her drying you with a towel and she laying you down on the bed...kissing your lips and nipples then moving down towards your tummy lingering there all the while stroking you. Tell her how much she turns you on to watch her touch you because you get to focus on just looking at her doing things. Tell her shes beautiful to watch and you lie back soaking in her admiration of you. There is nothing wrong with that.
Shy people can sometimes not express things. Doesnt mean she sucks, not really.. she just needs coaxing.


I could not have said it better myself except I am to shy to be graphic like you worded it even though it really is not graphic. A person that is not shy would not understand what it is like to want to move closer. It would seem though that after a short while she would lose control and just go with the flow, I know that is what would happen with me. It might take a short time but that is what would happen.
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Msg: 28 (view)
 
Morning Erection
Posted: 2/4/2012 11:14:05 AM
There are many correct answers here but it is a well known fact that testosterone is at it's highest peak in the a.m. At age 35 or so in a healthy male testosterone starts shutting production down and progresses down a little from there every year. There are many things that also lend a helping hand in the down hill spiral though, pain medication, alcohol and many other things. The average number is around 400 if it is as low as in the two's it is to low and can affect a lot more than just sex drive.
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Msg: 12 (view)
 
Would you be offended....
Posted: 1/15/2012 8:57:33 AM
Would not bother me at all because we are talking about an open line of communication and being honest about things so there is no reason at all to be offended. You have to try to make the best of the experience and there's more than one way to do that.
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Msg: 87 (view)
 
Pegging, from the woman's perspective
Posted: 1/13/2012 6:16:17 PM
Thanks I never knew that as well as never saw that before OT: is there a particular reason why to do that it is late and can't think straight thanks as you learn something new everyday.
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Msg: 141 (view)
 
Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft
Posted: 1/13/2012 8:19:40 AM

I enjoy riding as much as the next girl does(save a horse, ride a cowboy).. I will at times make sure Im not putting my weight on him.. and that I would make sure my feet are flat on the bed or floor in a squat position, hold onto his equipment while you slide up and down, pull it out, and push it in etc... He will stay hard everytime


Now thats what I am talking about feet flat on the floor or flat on the bed!!!!
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Msg: 83 (view)
 
Pegging, from the woman's perspective
Posted: 1/13/2012 8:10:22 AM
OT: can anyone please tell me why the topic of the thread has changed a couple of times to two or three different topic thread names and back or it just me it is on the last two pages of the thread, it goes from pegging from a womans perspective, to peg legs and the women who like them to the hurting the one you love back to the original topic, not quotes but simalar.thanks in advance.
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Msg: 34 (view)
 
Mutual Masterbation
Posted: 12/4/2011 3:55:38 PM

I am a woman and I am seeking a real man, who understands this and who is attractive and understanding enough to be with me, etc.

OT: this belongs in your profile

Most men jerk off too much to actually have real sex with real women.

While this is some what on topic this it is not a true statement at all, most of all it is defining a real women in the same way it is stating most men.
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Msg: 31 (view)
 
Cant finish
Posted: 12/2/2011 8:39:32 PM

This is where good communication comes in. If a woman lets a guy know it's ok and...Personally, I have no problem if a man needs to use his hand to finish himself off. I actually like watching a man do that.
Now don't you guys be messaging me offering to JO on a cam/video for me. I'm talking about a situation if I'm involved with the guy.

Thats what I call a real woman, I have had a couple women insist I not get involved that it is her job, and after the explaining and communication they still did not like the idea and said that is why they are there.
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Msg: 3 (view)
 
Eye Contact During Sex?
Posted: 12/2/2011 11:41:56 AM

Last night, I was enjoying some fun times with my FWB

maybe eye contact felt out of order because it is a FWB as you stated and not knowing maybe there is begining to be more there on her side. Eye contact is not that uncommon during sex depending what the mood is.
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Msg: 7 (view)
 
Cant finish
Posted: 12/2/2011 6:03:00 AM

No it isnt that unusual. I have known men with this problem. Do a google on retarded ejaculation. Most men with this problem can finish if it is by self pleasure, but cant seem to get there with a woman. That means it's a psychological thing. And also alot of masturbation could basically cause your member to prefer your hand. YOU might not prefer your hand, but your penis does. I'm not an expert, and dont mean to sound like one. It's just something i read, because I was with someone who had this problem. It was more stressful on him than it was me. I actually benefitted because he could last as long as I needed. But yea, there does come that time when he needs to finish too.

This is a very true and accurate answer.
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Msg: 160 (view)
 
advantages of casual sex vs. premarital abstinence
Posted: 11/19/2011 3:00:39 PM
ladyc4 congats on finally saying something for the topic changing to someones personal issues, it should never have changed and I even posted a few things as well knowing it was not on topic, wondering why it even got off topic so far. That also was a very good point on the tilte of the thread, I mean when you look how long this thread has been going and the posts seem to be very long some of them and is a very depatable topic I am glad someone finally brought out front the word advantages and the definition.
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Msg: 155 (view)
 
advantages of casual sex vs. premarital abstinence
Posted: 11/19/2011 1:03:30 PM
Don't forget that Judaism and Islam also place high value on the family unit and chastity.

I don't believe there is one religion that does not place a high value on chastity, regardless of the family unit.
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Msg: 150 (view)
 
advantages of casual sex vs. premarital abstinence
Posted: 11/19/2011 7:17:19 AM
Way too long a screed. Most people wont read it and as for abstinence before marriage, no guy will hang around long enough for that. Three dates and they either give it up or good bye baby.. That is reality....

Thats quite a statement blanketing every guy and three dates, don't count me in on that one., that is not reality in the real world for someone who is really looking for a relationship.

I agree that sex should be sacred
but the young ones put it about easily and there is nothing new about that.

This is another blanket type statement that is simply not true.

You can set all the standards you like but it is up to the individual to work out their own moral code. I would rather be advocating safe sex as it is natural for human beings especially teen agers to want sex and have plenty of it.

I would tend to agree on this statement

It is the older age group of women that are spreading the stds as they are having unsafe sex because they cant get pregnant. SO irresponsible...

Again with a blanket type statement while it might be true about older women not being able to get pregnant that is not true for everyone just a conception for the most part. As for speading STDs I have not seen any studies that show or prove this one bit. This is and sounds like a personal thought or belief on your behalf. What about older men where do they fall in as for spreading STD's? Female and flirty you are definately not average,why not show atleast a full pic so it can be seen before one accuses someone else.People in glass houses should not throw stones by the way.
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Msg: 149 (view)
 
advantages of casual sex vs. premarital abstinence
Posted: 11/19/2011 7:06:17 AM
Good question

Your body type is not average by the way so why lie about it

It is not what would you call it atleast my pictures are clear and you could make an observation. You are listed as average and can't really see the picture because of clarity, me lie, atleast the pictures are clear, from what I can see of the picture posted average is average.

......and you sound very bitter about women in general.

Did you read my profile I would say no. bitter about women absolutely not. as stated I never make comments like that but when you have the pot calling the kettle black someone has to make a stand and by the way some one even commented that she was no skinny minni.

You are not going to find anyone genuine on a dating site and you should know that by now..... and making negative comments will only decrease the very slim chance anyway.... What you have quoted has no bearing on the topic of casual sex anyway... Just having a rant..

Right but it seems this thread got off topic anyway if you followed it closely especially when someone complains all they wind up with is someone they do not want ,what does that have to do with casual sex.
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Msg: 267 (view)
 
but WHY do guys love it when a girl swallows?
Posted: 11/19/2011 6:55:04 AM

...is what I do so bad??

Not at all, either way is fine with me, it seems most would not want the mess of it running all over but as some have said here and there messy sex is good sex.
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Msg: 141 (view)
 
advantages of casual sex vs. premarital abstinence
Posted: 11/18/2011 1:17:23 PM
No I have no idea what Im doing hence why Im on here. Im just confused you cant just get over a certain type. To me its hard to find a happy medium. I dont want a thin guy but I dont want obese and for all you jackasses here im not obese so shutit

I don't usually comment like this but you have a lot to learn young lady. I have read most of your posts. You need a tune up all around mainly in the mind. As you are no doll yourself and maybe you do not concider yourself one, and before you say a thing about me it is not me who is stateing I want this type and that type. Picking a type does not always work and what is funny is most people I have known that have said I only go for this and that usually fall for just the opposite and never know why.
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Msg: 102 (view)
 
advantages of casual sex vs. premarital abstinence
Posted: 11/16/2011 3:14:37 PM

If both of them had sexual experience, they would have realized they weren't a match and wouldn't have that problem or else they would have tried to deal with it before getting married and not gotten married if they couldn't resolve it. Just because both are virgins when getting married doesn't mean that neither would have any interest in doing something the other wouldn't like. The second woman I ever had sex with was a virgin when we started dating. We dated for 6 years and lived together most of that time. We were not very compatible sexually and it had nothing to do with any preconceptions based on experience. I found our sex life boring, so we rarely had sex after the first few years.

very well put....
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Msg: 101 (view)
 
advantages of casual sex vs. premarital abstinence
Posted: 11/16/2011 3:11:08 PM

I was just talking to a friend today who was a virgin but who's husband wasn't and he learned to enjoy a particular sexual practice before he was married and my friend finds it distasteful, painful, and it is against her religious beliefs, but she is afraid if she doesn't give it to her husband, he'll get it elsewhere. Now, if he ONLY had sexual experiences that he and his wife alone experimented with and practiced only those that they found mutually pleasurable, he would not have developed this insatiable appetite for something that is only enjoyed by one of the couple.

I find this not very accurate, while in theory it may be true there is always the chance for one or the other to want to try something else. While you state had he not learned to enjoy a particular sexual practice before he was married is a big statement to make. How do you learn to enjoy a particular sex practice. It seems to me to indicate a lot more than not learning and not having a full sexuall relationship. While one believe may be valid the other is also valid as there may be plenty of women that would also enjoy this so called practice you speak of. Calling it an insatiable appetite I feel is very wrong. The fact also stands what if his wife were so inclined to want to participate in a so called sex act and the shoe is now on the other foot, and she steps outside or wants to get what she would like from outside the relationship. This debate has gone on for years and it also has been looked at from a far light for years. The fact that humans are humans will always stand as fact and not go away anytime soon. It works both ways. I believe in marrige for the long haul and once your in you are in, but do not believe in your so called above statement as to concerning the male gender being put fourth as a fault as if men want to do or participate in things some or most women do not.
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Msg: 4 (view)
 
Watching your partner have sex with someone else
Posted: 11/6/2011 9:00:36 AM
You won't get that from me 415 I have nothing against any of the negativity that goes on here. Just because it is not for me does not mean it is not for someone else. Everyone jumps to all these conclusions, and it is always the one with there hand in the cookie jar that is the first person to say I am against that and are the first one doing what they are against. Now if the thread lasts long enough I will get some of it to.
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Msg: 2 (view)
 
Watching your partner have sex with someone else
Posted: 11/6/2011 8:53:43 AM
Sorry not for me at all but what ever floats your boat. I don't condem it but like all the women say I am a one man woman, I am a one woman guy.
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Msg: 148 (view)
 
A question about Oral sex
Posted: 11/6/2011 6:58:38 AM

I am sure I probably replied here before. I totally agree that oral sex is totally gross.

Everyone is entitled to there opinion but I feel it is unfair to say it is gross. There are far more things that could be labled in that context that go on that would still not be conciderd that to some people. If it is not for you well then it is not for you. I would think other than straight sex this type sex would rank as number two right behind straight sex. There is a cerian dynamic that goes on during oral sex that just can't be replaced.
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Msg: 78 (view)
 
Need opinion please!!!
Posted: 11/6/2011 4:24:08 AM

Men on blood pressure meds or any meds, men who jerk off the day before being with a woman, men who drink too much can not get it up.

Lets not throw a blanket statement out over all men, not only is this far from the truth it definately does not apply to all men by any means. First off not all blood pressure meds are all the same and heve different affects with different gus. Tow as far as self service goes some guys do it because they usually get off so fast that if they do that they will last longer with there woman, never mind if they do it the day before . I would be more inclined to think that if they did it the day of. Three as for the drinking, if they get so drunk I would agree that it might happen but anyone who drinks that much would be a fool to want to attempt sex as you are so unstable how could you enjoy anything. While I said this does not apply to all guys not one of them affect me and I cant be the only gut that is like that. I would do a little fact checking before just throwing out statements with out facts.
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Msg: 6 (view)
 
Friends With Benefits
Posted: 11/5/2011 3:25:25 PM
I don't seem to be mean about this but you ask questions that might get a lot of attention especially when there is a thread already going about friends with benifits and it got you exactly what you were looking for attention but maybe not the type you are looking for. Now since you hid your profile and it can't be found that even tells us more about this so called picture. As one poster said not all us guys are dogs and will jump at free or sex on the spot. The guy who helped himself sounds like something he made up, or I think you made up. I mean really you need it on the spot !! Did you ask the guy who helped himself to atleast come over and maybe he would be able to go for another round, I mean who would not atleast try. Give me a break already.
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Msg: 39 (view)
 
advantages of casual sex vs. premarital abstinence
Posted: 11/4/2011 10:03:49 AM

Actually, there were 5-6 years between my divorce and my first date with another man. It was just a month or so after my ex got engaged that I met another man. My ex's new marriage divorced him before their 3rd anniversary.

I stand corrected I obviously read it wrong, however once you did meet a man what happened, while I feel bad you can see either way it is very easy to fall into not practicing what we preach.
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Msg: 17 (view)
 
Talking dirty during sex.
Posted: 11/4/2011 9:04:35 AM

i like it, it turns me on....i come from a catholic background and at first i was embarassed doing it

OT: if I may it says in your profile you are Jewish I know that does not rule out one side of your family but where does the catholic back round come from?
 
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