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 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 41 (view)
 
SCAMMERS
Posted: 12/8/2016 5:04:26 PM
Oh, I don't think they are very sophisticated at all. The most recent one that I found claimed to be from a place here that is 99% French speaking, yet the profile was all English with would just never happen in that place. Duh! Not only that, the profile pic was a woman wearing a see through dress on a 30 year old body while claiming to be 58 years old. While there are a lot of good looking women out there near 60, I have yet to see any posting pics flashing their body parts.....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 39 (view)
 
SCAMMERS
Posted: 12/8/2016 6:11:08 AM
I figure POF is getting a lot better at detecting scammers. Lately a couple of too good to be true profiles popped up on my matches list, only to vanish within 24 hours. The scammers are obviously not too good at generating fake profiles.....

Either that, or its their method of creating a fake profile, get a few offline contacts, then delete the profile.
 rearguard*2
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Msg: 27 (view)
 
Pre-nuptial agreements and how they apply to mature relationships
Posted: 11/29/2016 3:01:05 PM
Well, I can't say that I agree with your ladder view of relationships. I think that successful relationships are intrinsically creative endeavours that depend on the motivations of the people involved. Granted that each person may well perceive some benefit to themselves in the relationship, and that may drive their motivation at least in the early stages, but I think that both parties create, or try to create, their own version of heaven within the relationship, and any perception of hierarchy declines in importance.

What you value is what is created, which is the result of the separate motivations of the partners to the relationship.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
SCAMMERS
Posted: 11/29/2016 11:39:47 AM
We abandoned punishment for crimes about 2 centuries ago and replaced it with a system of micro-management that prescribes an infinitely fine array of penalties that are supposed to balance the pain against the crime. Its all a make work project that we (collectively) feel is more humane that the 3 historical punishments of humiliation, chastisement and death. Of course, we have also vastly expanded the range of criminal behaviour to feed the hugely expanded judicial system and those who depend on it for a living. Today we have all kinds of crimes with no victims, like drug possession, the criminalization of which has had virtually no effect on anything except taxation levels.

Unfortunately, the minute details of any crime do matter. Worse, its evident from the false conviction rate, that knowing what actually happened is very difficult.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
SCAMMERS
Posted: 11/29/2016 9:07:01 AM

Who is Karla?


Karla is a lovely young woman who murdered her sister and another woman with her sometime boyfriend, lied about her involvement, managed to get a deal from the courts before evidence hidden by her legal team came out, served he sentence, changed her name, and lives happily in the suburbs with a new husband and children.
 rearguard*2
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Msg: 22 (view)
 
Pre-nuptial agreements and how they apply to mature relationships
Posted: 11/29/2016 9:02:30 AM

would think you are old enough (experienced) to understand that "looks" themselves is not the most important thing in a relationship


Indeed I do think you have a point, however, I do not believe that attraction, which is entirely a personal trait, can be excluded from the parameters of a new relationship. I doubt that anybody goes after someone they find unattractive, although the attraction may be something more than purely physical.

If someone is physically attractive, whatever that may mean, I would suspect that they would receive a larger number of offers than someone who is not. Hence, if they are somehow determining that these offers are all unacceptable, can they be really looking for a relationship? Generally in life you are not really exposed to that large of a population of suitors, and it typically does not take more than a few months to connect if that is what you are looking for.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Pre-nuptial agreements and how they apply to mature relationships
Posted: 11/29/2016 6:00:45 AM
If you are going to marry, make certain she is worth more than you are. No problem with a divorce.

Its all about money, you know!

One question popped into my mind: If you notice people on a site like this for many years who say they are actively looking for a relationship, and they appear to be reasonably attractive, can they really be looking for a relationship? Strikes me that is should take less than 5 years to find someone to cuddle up with at night.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 52 (view)
 
REJECTED!!!
Posted: 11/24/2016 9:49:39 AM
Oh, okay. I had not realized what an insulting individual she is. I have not been the object of her affections in the past. Thanks for the heads up.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
 
REJECTED!!!
Posted: 11/24/2016 8:13:03 AM

I don't think you've been paying attention very well.


Well, I do realize there is a lot of not quite kosher stuff that goes on on this and other sites, but Baby's comment implies I am some kind of pervert and wierdo, which will undoubtedly tarnish my otherwise good reputation, probably irretrievably. There are quite a few people who have known me over the years, and none of them would have reason to utter a slur like that.

Lies about age, weight, height, education, location, interest, and phony pictures only hurt the people who engage in such stuff. Slandering someone else is entirely at another level. Anyone who would do such a thing should really be blacklisted from the site, IMO.

At the very least, it shows that they are really and truly unconscionable liars and deserve no respect.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 47 (view)
 
REJECTED!!!
Posted: 11/24/2016 7:16:33 AM

He sent me pics too, but they weren't of his face :


That is a complete boldface lie, Baby. Makes me what kind of a wierdo you actually are. I have never been in contact with you in any way.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 40 (view)
 
REJECTED!!!
Posted: 11/23/2016 7:29:16 AM
Oh dear! It appears that POF has implemented XSS cross site scripting on the login page! Big borther is watching.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Who is the moron who puts the random pics of women up on top of the message page?
Posted: 11/21/2016 12:56:30 PM
Actually, the pics are quite random unless you log in. Amazingly, POF can't tell your sex or preferences if it doesn't know who you are. A real limitation.

On the other hand, if you do log in, all you get are the pics of those you already dated and were rejected by.....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
REJECTED!!!
Posted: 11/21/2016 12:23:12 PM
So, a while back I was chatting casually with a woman when she asks for my pic. Well, I sent one. Immediately she replies don't contact me again, and deletes all the communications we had already rung up. Never said why.

I wasn't really devastated, just amazed. My pic wasn't that bad....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Pre-nuptial agreements and how they apply to mature relationships
Posted: 11/4/2016 11:59:50 AM
I suppose it depends on the local laws. Pretty well everywhere in Canada, except Quebec, common law is recognized and as little as 3 months is sufficient to affect pension entitlements and asset division. I can't speak for the US, but a lot of our ideas about "fairness" in marriage and relationships do originate down that way.

I too have experience with this situation...
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Pre-nuptial agreements and how they apply to mature relationships
Posted: 11/4/2016 7:59:54 AM
Well, many women and men are quite happy to split up and leave the assets of their ex alone, but that is not always the case, and in many places the laws are quite specific about community of property. Unfortunately, the risks are enormous, and regardless of the law, a judge may impose settlements that are a reflection of the personal views of the judge, something that can strip you of a lot of your assets. Most really wealthy people go for pre-nups of one sort or another to avoid being impoverished by the legal system.

You should be aware that simply living with someone for a few months will expose you to legal liabilities, and if you are a relatively normal person in the economic sense, the legal costs to defend yourself may themselves be unaffordable.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Email addresses as last poster?
Posted: 10/31/2016 11:03:06 AM
Looks like the series is available on the TBS web site until tomorrow...
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Email addresses as last poster?
Posted: 10/31/2016 10:49:04 AM
Yeah, well, when I was about 45 someone came to the door and asked if I was my son's grandfather. Really, I didn't look that bad...
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Email addresses as last poster?
Posted: 10/31/2016 10:46:54 AM
Go to www.tvfool.com and get the channel reception plot for you location. You may be able to get everything you want for free, except the "specialty" channels like porn and some sports...
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Email addresses as last poster?
Posted: 10/31/2016 10:37:45 AM
You might ant to look at over the air broadcasting. Most places have good free broadcast coverage. Some people I know get 80 channels near major urban centers.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Email addresses as last poster?
Posted: 10/31/2016 10:35:27 AM

suggestions welcome on how to tape programs on cable.


Well, if you have a VCR that still works.....
The other option is to use a computer and most channels have web sites with the most recent shows available for viewing.
Also, some cable boxes have composite video output you can record directly on a VCR.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Email addresses as last poster?
Posted: 10/31/2016 9:48:30 AM
If you are actually seeing email address on the forums main page, something is seriously wrong. This should never happen. That would be a security disaster and would be a cause for really worry if the site gave a darn about the forums, which it doesn't.

Anyway, its not a good idea to use your actual e-mail on a site like this. Get a junk mail drop address from somewhere and use that on internet sites.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 1095 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 10/26/2016 5:57:52 AM

Somewhere I read that for every single senior man there were like 3 single women....tough odds.


Yep, that is about my own experience. Its wonderful, actually....

However, a lot of the women are not particularly interested in starting up a new deep relationship with a man. They simply had enough with the last go round.

Of course, the same goes for a lot of men....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 199 (view)
 
Unread/Deleted
Posted: 10/25/2016 6:17:59 AM
Honestly, I feel sorry for women. I don't find men to be particularly attractive, and yet women appear to have strong opinions about male attractiveness. I really don't know why all women are not lesbians....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 67 (view)
 
you can find love in your 80's or 90's
Posted: 10/24/2016 12:06:33 PM
^^^ Depens....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 65 (view)
 
you can find love in your 80's or 90's
Posted: 10/24/2016 11:51:32 AM
Well, I can be soggy at times. With the hard rain we had over the weekend, I confess that I got soggy while out getting things set up for Winter. I dried out in front of the fire however. Worth it all, actually....nothing like stripping off your socks and warming the soles of your feet in front of the hearth, while drinking a hot toddy or two....

I did not think women still wore panty host. I doubt that men invented them, as getting them off a woman was always much more trouble than in the earlier days when women wore stockings and garters....

We men are dumb, but we do have our priorities straight.

Well, one priority, anyway.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 63 (view)
 
you can find love in your 80's or 90's
Posted: 10/24/2016 11:30:20 AM
^^^ Yes, I read your profile....unless you are into 4 inch heels, I am tall enough. Not tepid nor greasy, however...
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 61 (view)
 
you can find love in your 80's or 90's
Posted: 10/24/2016 11:16:05 AM
I have never gone on a dutch treat date with a lady, but if you feel that letting me pay would cause you to feel the need to somehow compensate me for your big mac, feel free to express your independence by not showing up. I could not live with myself if a woman I invited out paid for my dinner. To my way of thinking, the pleasure is always mine whether or not there is chemistry.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 194 (view)
 
Unread/Deleted
Posted: 10/24/2016 10:02:37 AM
^^^ True. But that applies to pretty well every thread, and if implemented would leave the forums even more boring than they are today.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 58 (view)
 
you can find love in your 80's or 90's
Posted: 10/24/2016 9:57:22 AM
Well, I suppose we could meet at the airport in Burlington for a romantic meal at the McDonalds. Just to see if there is any chemistry, you know...
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 56 (view)
 
you can find love in your 80's or 90's
Posted: 10/24/2016 8:54:44 AM
Yes, I do love Vermont as a place to visit. I used to spend quite a bit of time there before the border guards were armed to the teeth and began treating us a possible dangerous terrorists and illegal migrants. The US is a great place (despite what Donald tries to imply), but frankly, I can't imagine that many of us Canadians would want to actually sneak over the border to live there.

We love your tourist dollars up this way as well, particularly since they are worth so much more than our funny money....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 54 (view)
 
you can find love in your 80's or 90's
Posted: 10/24/2016 7:13:51 AM
^^^ Yes, well, I guess the 220 odd languages in Nigeria will be an easier row to hoe. I do hear, however, that Ajuba is almost never a pretty place. You may be surprised to learn that many of us Montrealers actually speak pretty fluent American......

Your profile is cute, but I suspect that the big gun and the hound of the Baskervilles will filter out quite a few of the Clinton supporters.....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 52 (view)
 
you can find love in your 80's or 90's
Posted: 10/24/2016 6:43:58 AM
^^^ Regrettably, only when I speak French.....:(

Mais, je pourrais en faire semblant....:)
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
 
you can find love in your 80's or 90's
Posted: 10/24/2016 6:27:25 AM
^^^ If you are looking for the love of your life, you should have driven up to Montreal. Loads of guys with cute French accents lurking in the bars and cafes ready to let you pay for their drinks and food, entertain you in cozy quaint hotels, cold water flats, historic walkups, and beautiful views of the magnificent river. A lot cheaper, really, and easy to run back across the border should you tire of any one of them.....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 191 (view)
 
Unread/Deleted
Posted: 10/24/2016 6:16:45 AM
I don't know, both women and men constantly reject advances in real life with casual ease, and when it happens, most normal people brush it off without a second thought. Why should the OLD scene be any different? My experience is you simply make continuous approaches, most lead to nothing, but some lead to heaven. Why agonize about it?
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 437 (view)
 
The board was much better with moderators
Posted: 10/12/2016 7:07:57 AM
Years ago these forums used to be loads of fun and interesting. These days, there is so little participation, that I doubt that there are either mods nor people interested in being mods.Miss Allison was a sad, crazy person, the likes of which I have not seen for years. Its pretty easy to spot who is who by the opinions they post, regardless of the handles they use.

As for IP and browser identification, unless you are really lazy, these days its trivial to do anonymous browsing and to make your IP invisible. Most browsers have a "private" mode, and some browser offer IP proxy. The only effective method of zapping someone is with their handle, and that is a waste of effort since you could create a new handle every 10 minutes, as we have amply seen.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
you can find love in your 80's or 120s
Posted: 10/12/2016 6:51:33 AM

Lots of handsome old men, I am betting they still can get it started


Yes indeed they can, but only a couple of times a year...:(
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
you can find love in your 80's or 120s
Posted: 10/11/2016 10:25:23 AM
Only drawback to old age is that there is less time for falling in love and less time for enjoying being in love.

Otherwise, because we men don't last as long as women, there are increasingly better chances of meeting someone, if you can last long enough.

And, of course, having a pension with survivor benefits increases your appeal!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 151 (view)
 
What's the Worst Date You Ever Had ?
Posted: 10/3/2016 9:44:56 AM
Feeding the trols is not the way to discourage them....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Met a real person less than 1 km from me but no good
Posted: 9/23/2016 7:38:40 AM
There is no real need for dating sites. For millennia the human race has steadily expanded without dating sites, and if they did not exist, it would continue to be so. Dating sites simply make more people unhappy because of the apparent choices they highlight.

Its just odd that so many perfectly normal people think they need a dating site to find a mate!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 133 (view)
 
What's the Worst Date You Ever Had ?
Posted: 9/22/2016 9:55:12 AM

Me I use these boards for entertainment only.


Really! That is all these boards really are, entertainment. Generally I have found that just about everything I read here reflects a bizarre life experience that I have not ever noticed manifest in real life.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Views on sex toys and place that sell them as a mature (experienced!?) person
Posted: 9/20/2016 8:52:58 AM
There are women out there who are "creepy". I have not met a lot, but definitely have met some.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Always friend zoned
Posted: 9/20/2016 8:37:26 AM
Does it really take more than one conversation to know if a relationship will go anywhere? I just don't get all the angst and consequent waste of time associated with the trepidation expressed. Good grief. The world is filled with people who want a relationship and positively exude the fact. No need to be deprived, ever.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 111 (view)
 
What's the Worst Scott You Ever Kicked ?
Posted: 9/17/2016 1:05:39 PM
Well, now. If we are going to get into the implications of peoples user names......
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Tried to post this on Ask A Guy...Harrassing older men
Posted: 9/17/2016 12:36:29 PM
Well, I can tell you that it happens pretty regularly if you happen to be anything close to a pretty boy. I think its more that men are cultured to brush it off, whereas in today's world, women are bombarded with encouragement to regard almost any form of sexual interest as "harassment", especially if it can further their own interests.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 108 (view)
 
What's the Worst Scott You Ever Kicked ?
Posted: 9/17/2016 12:31:14 PM
Yes, indeed. The world is full of strange people. I do wonder, however, how it is that I have always managed to avoid them, while others appear to be constantly plagued by them.
 rearguard*2
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Msg: 105 (view)
 
What's the Worst Date You Ever Had ?
Posted: 9/16/2016 11:22:06 AM
Worst date I ever had was a first meet with a woman who I had no idea about. We met at a moderately nice restaurant. When she appeared, I realized that rather than being someone sportive, she liked to watch sports. Basically she was far too overweight to ever do any exercise, and I knew immediately she was not a match for me.

We had a nice meal and a lively conversation, which eventually got around to talk about future possibilities. I just said that I didn't see a future between us. She persisted. I was firm, thanked her for meeting me, paid the bill, and we each took our leave.

All the rest of the dates I have had were much better.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Tried to post this on Ask A Guy...Dating older men
Posted: 9/15/2016 6:23:25 AM
My point was simply that negative attitudes towards women are not age related, and BB's litany of woe is a shockingly clear example of the basic truth of my points.

Societies have always enacted laws, practices and norms that were and are inherently sexist, oppressive and discriminatory. Marriage laws in particular are in general onerous, and they have severe effects on men as well as on women. The laws of society reflect all kinds of motivations that were relevant at the time and in the place where they were enacted. Surprisingly, what are now considered onerous marriage laws were enacted at the time as a mechanism to protect women. The current fad up here is to enact laws that protect children, something hardly considered in prior eras.

The trouble with any system is that there will be negative, abusive side effects. This has nothing to do with age. It has to do with human selfishness.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Tried to post this on Ask A Guy...Dating older men
Posted: 9/14/2016 10:24:05 AM
When people talk about "older men" I really wonder what they mean. Anybody born after WW2 would now be 70 or younger, and even the 70 year olds would have lived through the 60s, free love, womens lib and all the modern "enlightenment" since. So, unless you are talking about men in their 80s or so, which is where you have to be to find someone with the "traditional" attitudes towards women, then there is no relationship between "older" and basically sexist views of the male/female relationship.

You can find men who think women are some kind of inferior beast of burden at any age, and with the possible exception of some semi-senile geriatrics, men who view women as equal partners at any age as well.

The "older men" stereotypes found here are myths. Its just men with crappy attitudes you all are talking about.
 rearguard*2
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Msg: 9 (view)
 
Tried to post this on Ask A Guy...Dating older men
Posted: 9/8/2016 1:50:26 PM

What's wrong with being in your sixties?
Something I should know?


Yep. Being in your sixties is followed by being in your 70s, and that fairly rapidly!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 354 (view)
 
The board was much better with moderators
Posted: 9/7/2016 6:44:45 AM
Personally, I always found it amazing that the site owner made such an effort to control every aspect of this site to conform to his personal view of what constitutes a valid human relationship. Of course, it was all pointless and resulted in a flood of fake profiles, false data on just about everything in the profiles, and all kinds of other tactics to get around the restrictions.

The internet itself was designed to get around any form of censorship. No surprise that the censorship here proved fruitless. Its been fruitless everywhere else as well.

Even more puzzling is the claims by the site to select "matches" for people. How can you determine a match for someone you have no verifiable truth data for based on an analysis of a data set riddled with lies and deception?

In the end, its all marketing, and about as valid as anything else you see in product advertising. Psyllium is actually a poison, but its touted as a healthful additive to breakfast cereals, which are themselves not particularly good for you. But, it sells.

Better with moderators? Perhaps for some, but probably less full of completely fake profiles.
 
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