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 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 100 (view)
 
LONG DISTANCE CONTACTS FOR OVER AGE 50
Posted: 2/10/2016 10:09:22 AM
Well, there are lots of instances of LD relationships that form and work out just fine. If everyone thought that LD was not workable, soldiers, sailors, expat workers, mail order brides and many, many other scenarios would be in total despair. Of course, they are not.

Its easy to fall in love with a LD partner. Just a little harder to bring it to fulfillment. But that will depend on what the parties really want.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
POF image shows up on nasty site
Posted: 2/5/2016 6:34:58 AM
Many just post a picture of whoever and use it for years. Huge numbers of the pictures on dating and other sites are no resemblance to the real life owners of the accounts.

I used to post pictures until they started to come back to me as other people.

You can always ask a person to send a photo via some other method, like a junk email account. Lots of options, really, and no need to fear contacting those without photos.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
POF image shows up on nasty site
Posted: 2/4/2016 2:18:49 PM
The instant you put your pic on a public site, it is available to everybody and will be used by people for anything.

People used to be able to exchange images privately on this site but the owner decided that at least men should be blocked from doing that. There is no way you can get rid of anything you put on the web, ever.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 278 (view)
 
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 1/29/2016 12:08:55 PM
The only cutoff age is the age where you decide to give up!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 271 (view)
 
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 1/27/2016 7:12:50 AM

You have to draw the line somewhere,


Well, you don't have to draw a line anywhere, you do because you think that there is such a thing as a relationship that is forever and that you, in particular, will be around forever. Of course, neither idea has any validity as you should already have realized from your own life experiences.

The only thing you achieve by drawing aline somewhere is the elimination of huge numbers of possibly wonderful people with whom you might have a truly wonderful life experience, even if it does not or can not last forever.

Yes, we all dream of an ideal partner, but we usually decide they are ideal long after we have met them, and in my experience, age never really affects our happiness. What affects our happiness is how we and our partners interact together. People in love don't change their minds as time goes on simply because a partner ages, at least most people don't.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 269 (view)
 
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 1/27/2016 6:06:59 AM
Its my observation that age does not really affect a mans interest in woman, but that age does affect a woman's interest in men.

As long as you want a man, there will be loads of them that are ready to step up to the plate.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Diasppointing
Posted: 1/22/2016 10:54:26 AM

I'm wondering , if your spouse cheated on you would your first response be "that's okay, I don't OWN you".


Well, it was many, many decades back, she did, I divorced her. Not because I owned her, but because I did not see the need to live with someone who screwed around.

Ever since, my personal policy has always been to get a woman out of my life if she screwed someone else other than me. Again, nothing to do with owning them, simply because there are a huge number of other women out there who will be happy to be with me and not screw around. Why waste time on one that is not happy and doesn't want to be with me?

If a woman wants to screw someone other than me, he/she can take over providing the benefits to her life that a relationship with me provides, and I can then focus my attention on someone else who is appreciative and values our relationship. Nothing at all complex there.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Diasppointing
Posted: 1/22/2016 9:43:19 AM

I'm sorry you're having trouble with the intricacies of the English language.


Well thanks for your concern. I don't really think I have trouble understanding English. There is no doubt in my mind that the context of this dicsussion, where a woman is berated for her behaviour with respect to "someone else's man", is based on the idea of possession in the sense of ownership, not reference.

If not, there would be no point to the criticisms, as in "screwing some random person", which is, in my opinion, a perfectly natural and normal behaviour for anybody.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Diasppointing
Posted: 1/22/2016 9:35:17 AM

It's odd the the wording bothers you more than the deed.


Its not the wording, its the concepts. The deeds are what they are. Strictly speaking, if there ever could be a valid idea of someone being someone else's (man/woman) simply because they are screwing, then the instant a partner strays, they no longer are someone else's whatever.

Believe it or not, men are not led astray by lascivious women. The men are astray already, and happen upon willing partners.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Diasppointing
Posted: 1/22/2016 9:05:43 AM

...screwing another woman's man ...


Interesting concept. Men are somehow owned by women they have sex with! I wonder where that idea came from.

Its been made pretty clear that men can't own a woman, especially by women!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
 
So confused, why do men do this?
Posted: 1/21/2016 8:47:30 AM
Even women who are very well treated by their husbands get bored with them and lose interest in sex with them.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 324 (view)
 
3rd date really?
Posted: 12/8/2015 10:03:58 AM
What has always amazed me about the forums is how complete strangers ascribe all kinds of thoughts, characteristics, attitudes and beliefs to me.

I always have and continue to believe that sex is an important part of life, a natural and normal part of life and an enduring part of a relationship. What I don't believe is that it requires any particular set of rules about when and why it happens, and I don't believe that it is a commodity or currency for use in negotiating the power structure of a relationship.

I think that any lasting relationship will be based on many more factors that the simple act of sex, and I believe that focus strictly on the incidence and timing of sexual interaction is quite pointless if you have already had your family and don't want another one.

I can enjoy the company of a woman for who she is, and if it leads to a mutually enjoyable sexual relationship, so much the better. If not, I can still enjoy her company. Even if she has no physical appeal for me, I can still enjoy her company. People are, in my view, much more that a piece of tail.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 320 (view)
 
3rd date really?
Posted: 12/7/2015 11:50:26 AM
^^^Still at it 3 times a night, 7 nights a week are you?

Of course everyone is different. However, I did not suggest that people loose interest, only that it does not dominate every working moment as it did in the days of youth.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 317 (view)
 
3rd date really?
Posted: 12/7/2015 8:52:55 AM
What amazes me is that so many old folks ascribe any importance at all to sex. Its not a particularly novel experience, it has not major downstream consequences like children, and its already happened many thousands of times. Its commonly available in exchange for some minor investments in social courtesy, and for most people, its really of declining urgency. Its just a way of making someone feel good for a few minutes.

Bourbon is almost as good, and who agonizes over Jack Daniels?
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 250 (view)
 
3rd date really?
Posted: 11/28/2015 7:21:16 AM

I told two men on this thread how many men I slept with and both of them are mad as hell at me. ONE even suggested I was a slut... LOL. Yea.... Yall make me laugh. I don't have to lie. Getting laid is as easy as saying yes and laying down.


Wow! A dream come true! Sexy, horny, easy! Too bad I am so old and repulsive....:(

BTw, we have all had our share of partners at this age....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 239 (view)
 
3rd date really?
Posted: 11/27/2015 11:24:00 AM
A famous author once wrote: "The best lovers are the ones in your bed"

Everything else is more or less BS....:)
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 235 (view)
 
3rd date really?
Posted: 11/27/2015 10:24:55 AM

And I love how old men without a picture think they are handsome. SEEING IS BELIEVING.


Yeah, its pretty clear from your pic that there is a lineup around the block at your place.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Golddigging in the Minor Leagues
Posted: 11/26/2015 10:02:52 AM

If things are that bad in Montreal, then you need to relocate.


Things are never bad in Montreal.

If I ever did have a problem, it would be that there are way too many women available for fun and frolick in my life. That is what makes it worse!

Too much choice, so little time....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 216 (view)
 
3rd date really?
Posted: 11/26/2015 9:57:11 AM
Well, I have lots of female friends I don't have sex with and don't particularly want to have sex with. I could probably be persuaded if they wanted it.

What is complicated here? Men and women are drawn together because of sexual needs. There are loads of attractive members of both sexes at all ages. Get over yourself! You can find attractive sexual partners if you want. If you don't find any, change your social life until you do.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 213 (view)
 
3rd date really?
Posted: 11/26/2015 7:49:39 AM
If you don't want to have a sexual relationship, don't spend time running after a relationship with a person who does want sex. Have friends. Leave the sex to others.

If I don't want sex, I don't have to run after women, live with one, or spend time and money on them. Simple really.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Golddigging in the Minor Leagues
Posted: 11/26/2015 6:46:03 AM
Oh, its a lot worse than that!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Looking for Additional Hobbies to Enjoy
Posted: 11/26/2015 6:45:04 AM
Well, chasing the girls pretty well fills up the time if you are a single man. At least until one of them catches you. Thereafter, cleaning the garage pretty well covers it.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Do you have to be busy to be happy?
Posted: 11/10/2015 10:07:23 AM
Well, I am saying that you have to "settle" for the best you can get within your social network. Mr/Miss Perfect may or may not be in that circle, but they are not, you will never get them because you will never meet them. In the historical tribal environments that we spent millennia living in, the choice for living happily ever after was amongst maybe 10 to 20 possible candidates, and most people chose, then did the best they could to live happily ever after. So
me stats I have seen said that on average, people choose a mate that lives within a 2 mile radius of their home. Hardly likely that the perfect one meets that criteria.

If you want a mate, you do settle, unless you are incredibly lucky. The actual choice is not simply yours. You simply agree with someone to try to make a good life for yourselves. If you are in love, you succeed. You never actually find the perfect person, only the perfect match.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 81 (view)
 
Do you have to be busy to be happy?
Posted: 11/10/2015 8:29:13 AM
Its all very well to decide what one wants. Practically, however, you can only meet a certain number of people in life, and unless you choose to accept one of those you meet, you will never find what you want. Its never likely that you will meet exactly who you want, but there will be lots who are more or less similar to your ideal.

Even if you could meet every other person on the planet, its not a sure thing that your hearts desire will be amongst them. Most people choose someone from their social circle and create a mutually acceptable life for themselves.

Its much easier to decline those who you know you don't want than to find the one that is perfect in every way you wish them to be.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Cant do this on POF....
Posted: 10/23/2015 9:20:09 AM
Oh, yeah. When you are over 50 you really want to be dating multiple women. Its just do much fun!

And there are so many opportunities! The phone never stops ringing! And dating is just so much fun, especially after you have spent years in a close and loving relationship.

I mean, who would not want to spend their time and considerable amounts of money running around with woman after woman, living with the uncertainty as to whether you will ever see one of them again, constantly sleeping (or not) in some place on the other side of the city, coming home on a cold Winter's night at way past your bed time, carefully controlling your conversation to keep your other encounters secret. Its a marvelous life.

I really don't know why anybody settles down with one person who you get along with, build a life with, form stable relationships with, don't have to worry about STDs with, sits beside you holding hands with you in the movies, helps you with family related events, and warms your common bed at night.

Good grief!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 1017 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 10/22/2015 11:07:47 AM

Perhaps the need is exceeded by the desire to not lower one's standards?


Doubtless. The operative word in my comment is "suffer". I am unwilling to sleep with just any woman simply because doing so grants the woman enormous power in my life. Its nothing to do with "suffering" however...
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 1015 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 10/22/2015 10:48:28 AM

I wouldn't mind solving a gal's dry spell :)


Well, I do know that there are great hordes of men ready to step up to the plate on that issue. So many, in fact, that I truly wonder why any woman would need to suffer a dry spell
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 1013 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 10/22/2015 9:56:59 AM
Good grief! 41 pages about what men 50+ want, and still no conclusion!

Well, my opinion is that what is wanted is a good friend who is willing to participate in the range of activities I like, a sexual partner, and who shows no signs of the crazies (like having 15 cats, belonging to animal rescue teams, or has a substance abuse problem).

I am generally happy in life, and she should be generally hap in life. I don't want to be a solution to anyone's problems! I want to be a creative partner in a mutually satisfying life.

As far as I can tell, there are great hordes of women in the immediate area who could fit the bill, if they so desired.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Geotags
Posted: 9/11/2015 9:34:54 AM
If you post anything on the internet, you have no expectation of any kind of privacy.

If you post a picture taken with any reasonable GPS enabled device, you are providing easily found location information to anyone who cares to examine the photo meta-data.

If you use the same picture for multiple purposes, Google will happily show anyone who searches your picture the scope of your life.

You might be surprised at the results of doing a google image search on your profile pic.....

Nothing you put on the net ever disappears for good. NOTHING!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 130 (view)
 
DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 9/9/2015 8:17:31 AM
There are a lot of young women who are quite happy to be with older men for all kinds of reasons, money being only one of them I have known cases where 18 year olds insisted on being with 60 year olds. Perhaps not for a long time, but certainly, according to them, a good time.

You can psycho-analyze the hell out of it, but the people involved generally could not care less about your opinions, and whatever their personal reasons for being in such relationships, its clearly their right to do so.

Personally, I can't figure out why any couple gets together and stays together, even although everybody is ready with an opinion.

Such relationships are not my personal preference, but then again, you are usually in a relationship that is related to who you happen to meet, not generally who you would like to meet.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 1626 (view)
 
Are 21st century, western women intimidating?
Posted: 9/4/2015 8:49:08 AM

ALL men are willing to give in return for this is the fact he is male. Nothing more.{/quote]

What an amazingly cynical and naive view of men and women. Indeed, men are attracted to the women they find attractive. I would presume that women are attracted to men that they find attractive. The man plus woman thing is a mutual support system. Relationships fail when the situation becomes something else other than mutual support.

There are all kinds of men and women out there. Lots of each cook, clean, take care of the kids, work to support the family and try to be appealing to their partners.

Indeed, I never really got the idea that I should support a woman per se. The ones I have had relationships with were all well educated and well paid, financially and socially independent, and generally quite attractive to me. Why should the relationship be anything but one of mutual support? Far as I can tell, my parents were in the same situation, in spite of the myths that abound that give rise to the kind of comments seen above.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Violence and Women
Posted: 9/3/2015 3:02:21 PM
We have already had a long discussion about rape and violence against women. Of course, in spite of the relatively infrequent nature shown by the statistics, people continue to want to develop the myth of the woman as a victim. Its true that many women do experience violence, and that is deplorable. For most women, however, it just does not happen, at least according to the statistics.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 918 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 9/3/2015 2:06:23 PM

I would ask if they are Filthy Rich :)


Is that like someone who has a lot of dirty money???
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
15,000 Gov. emails revealed - 1000's registered on Gov't. and military servers
Posted: 9/2/2015 11:54:58 AM
Ah, Cotter...

Its always been pretty clear to me that you are not a fan. Its also clear that you are not one of the smarter people on the site.

I still can't figure out why anybody listens to anything you say.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
15,000 Gov. emails revealed - 1000's registered on Gov't. and military servers
Posted: 8/29/2015 10:19:31 AM
Analysis of the data hacked show that of the 37 million accounts, only 12,000 were real women, 68,000 were fake female profiles probably generated by the site operators, and only a relative few accounts were active.

Be nice to know the actual statistics of other sites. My experience on POF is that only a small number of accounts are in current use, and that many who created accounts years ago just don't bother to close them down. Makes me wonder what the real value of the site is in business terms.

I also find it spectacular that millions of men actually pay up to interact with a hopelessly small number of real women. What a brilliant fraud!

I suppose that the god news is that, in general, women don't appear to have much interest in cheating, or if they do, they don't make use of web sites to find hookups.

Men, on the other hand, are scumbags......:)
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 1607 (view)
 
Are 21st century, western women intimidating?
Posted: 8/27/2015 7:40:42 AM
No point in worrying about the questions they add. Just reply with anything you feel will improve your chances.

Not only do I wear Crocs, I wear cheap imitations of Crocs.

Probably the reason my sex life is suffering...
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 241 (view)
 
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 8/25/2015 12:18:39 PM
People are always ready to accept the cult of personality basis of history. Of course, when one examines the details of almost any significant advance in human thought or art, you quickly see that that advance happened within a context of many other trials and trends that made the advance possible. Without the thousands of years of development of mathematics and the advent of technologies capable of delivering observations, none of the advances in modern physics would have happened.

Humans mark consensus about advances with things like the Nobel Prize, or other awards in other disciplines. Who gets the credit is determined by vote of one kind or another and while the myriad of failed efforts are rarely given credit, the fact that these failed efforts cleared the way for others to advance is, IMO, just as significant as the efforts that succeeded. Without the knowledge of the failures, time an effort would be wasted repeating needlessly the failures themselves.

Of course Einstein's insights did not coalesce out of a vacuum. There is no point in trying to qualify his achievements, as if he never existed, some other personality would have emerged and been credited with insights to the way forward. The idea of the atom was originally documented by Plato, and the ancient Greeks certainly knew about the problems of observation and the difficulties of the geometry of reality. These concepts have reached their current refinements thanks to many contributions over the millennia, and there is really nobody in particular that deserves all the credit to the exclusion of all the others.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 222 (view)
 
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 8/24/2015 12:44:51 PM

*Come to think about it all the free sites seem to be hook up orientated here-lol


Strange, in my years on POF I have received exactly zero propositions, and just about every profile I have read has indicated that the women are not here for sex!

Must be your location. I should move there, I suppose.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 219 (view)
 
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 8/24/2015 8:17:08 AM
It has to be true that at some level every person participating in the dating scene is looking the improve their lives in some way, otherwise, they would not engage in the complexities of the hunt. The sought improvement could be economic, emotional or social, and its sort of arbitrary to draw a line along any of these dimensions and call it a red flag. Let's face it, if you bind with someone, it will involve a certain cost and benefit along any or all of these dimensions, so your perception of a red flag is just an expression of your own perception of the other with respect to your own values.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 216 (view)
 
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 8/24/2015 7:19:50 AM

If so, then oh dear. I had more respect for you than your post deserves


Well, I suppose we could discuss the basis of terms used in communication, however, I stand by my post. Like all of the scientific community that resulted in the long term development of what eventually became known as quantum physics, discussions between the participants resulted in steady advances in the knowledge of the various quantum phenomenon.

The basic point here is that "visibility" to a scientist is more precisely "observability". This is not a function of the human eye, it is function of experimental observation. The fact you can't see a virus with your bi-focal does not mean it is invisible.

Einstein is best known, in my humble opinion, for the theory of special relativity and for the e=mc2 equation, the latter being a scale factor relationship, not intrinsically related to quantum physics. Heisenberg is best known for the uncertainty principle, a basis of the development of the consequences of quantum physics.

There are, unfortunately or fortunately, many other views of reality in the world of physics, and the discussion will be ongoing for many years, in my opinion, before any firm conclusions crystallize about things like action at a distance. In some senses, the uncertainty principle is not different from Zeno's paradox, and while its elaboration has provided modern physics with many apparently deep insights, it remains somewhat unsatisfactory.

We should remember that 100 years ago physicists were still publishing papers about the aether, 50 years ago the (undefined) cosmic vacuum, and today dark energy. All theories, never observed. There is a lesson there.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 181 (view)
 
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 8/21/2015 1:06:01 PM

You also forgot about quantum physics.


Sloppy, sloppy, sloppy!

Einstein developed a theory about the structure of the space-time continuum. Quantum physics was developed by other people (Bohr, Heisenberg and a host of others).

Proposing a theory presents an opportunity for observations which will either confirm or invalidate the theory. Observations have so far confirmed Einstein's theory, but even he did not "believe" it in the sense of a religious belief. He died trying to solve the problems he recognized with his own theories.

Even allowing for your totally irrelevant and factually incorrect comment, many geniuses either were insane or became insane, where the label "insane" is a rather sloppily defined technical term that I did not use. People can be mentally ill without being "insane" in the vulgar sense.

To be quite clear, there are no reputable scientists that "believe" their theories in the sense that the religiously inclined "believe" in God, the Virgin Birth, Original Sin, etc. Scientists "believe" that a theory is a working explanation of an observed phenomenon, and then only until other observations are made which demonstrate that the theory is not complete or correct.

Religious enthusiasts and the mentally ill believe things for which no observations exist, or in many cases even possible, and refuse to change their minds even when faced with hard facts that prove their beliefs are erroneous.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 178 (view)
 
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 8/21/2015 10:14:57 AM
Nope. That is a form of mental illness, if they are illusory.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 174 (view)
 
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 8/21/2015 7:17:58 AM
I continue in amazement as to how the huge majority of humans can ardently believe in something for which there is absolutely no objective evidence, while refusing to believe in somethings for which there is an overwhelming abundance of evidence.

Oddly, belief in the unobservable that is not labeled religion is labeled mental illness.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 128 (view)
 
The board was much better with moderators
Posted: 8/18/2015 1:41:34 PM
^^^^^ Well, it sure sounds to me like you are racing in your group rides, and I would be the first to agree that quality machines can improve performance.

My point was that if testosterone is not an issue, there are plenty of main stream mass produced machines these days that will meet all of your needs. You don't need a carbon fibre bike to hit the bike path on a warm afternoon, or even to train up reasonably for pleasure cycling.
 rearguard*2
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Msg: 125 (view)
 
The board was much better with moderators
Posted: 8/18/2015 1:15:01 PM
Unless you race, spending a lot on exotic bikes to save a couple of pounds in weight it, to me, pointless. What I notice is that its getting harder to find mainstream bikes with drive components that will stand up for 30 to 40 years, a pretty common thing up until bike manufacturing moved to Japan and bike marketing became like running shoe marketing.....
 rearguard*2
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Msg: 115 (view)
 
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 8/18/2015 1:06:47 PM
Well, I see a lot of female profiles along the lines of +2 years to -20 years in their filters, and these ladies are over 60! I also know a few female profiles where the ages declared are -5 to -10 years below the actual age. I have not had occasion to study up much on male profiles, but my general conclusion is that age values, like "body type" values and pictures are highly unreliable indicators of the true situations of the people who set up the profiles.

All this makes me fairly confident that the social engineering efforts of the site developer are based on a lot of completely false data, and so probably have no particular usefulness.

Personally, I don't think age, per se, is a critical factor in relationship success, however, I do believe that physical appeal can be a determining factor. As there are a large number of attractive (at least to me) women even over 70 out there, I can't really see where age comes into it at all, except for the fact that it is very unlikely that 30+ year relationships will develop between the over 50 set, for all of the obvious reasons.

You can still enter into relationships for a good time in your dotage, if not so easily for a long time....

Whatever happens, it is not going to be like when you were 20 something, driven by the desire to reproduce. At least for most of us...
 rearguard*2
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Msg: 63 (view)
 
Weird questions
Posted: 8/4/2015 7:24:24 AM
You people have such interesting lives. I just have to wonder where it all went wrong for me. I just never experience any of this stuff......
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 848 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 7/30/2015 1:42:00 PM
Exactly which man wants a woman he considers stupid?

What a ridiculous thread this one is....
 rearguard*2
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Msg: 221 (view)
 
It looks like POF has already made some changes.
Posted: 7/30/2015 10:12:15 AM
Aw, what a shame that the graphic has no explanation as to what the labels are supposed to mean. The graphic appears to me to be a classic case of range normalization of different populations for the purpose of displaying differences in the sub-populations within a global sample. Usually, the only conclusions to be drawn are about the distributions of the sub-groups, not their relative between group strengths. From that graphic, you can't tell anything about the "bigger picture". It does not allow anyone to discern which of the sub-groups is dominant in the sample. You don't know what the "bigger picture" actually is, except for perceptions based on your self declared prejudices.

The other thing about the graphic is that if anything, it displays conditional probabilities of incidences. Given an assault happened, and given that the assault had a sexual component, then its much more likely to be a man assaulting a woman. Of course, nothing is said about the probability of either the first given or the second given.

Sadly, the text of the article shows that the numbers of reported incidents for males and females is about the same. It also states the women are more likely to report than men. To me that says that its most likely that substantially more men are assaulted than women. Even if it is true that incidents are under reported by women, that would only amplify the situation.

I tend to believe that its intrinsically easier for men to sexually assault women, where "sexually assault" is defined as rape through various forms of penetration. That, in itself would explain the difference between male and female experience. Its a pretty meaningless distinction within the context of spousal violence discussed in the study. The implication in your analysis is that some forms of violence are more significant than others, something I do not see a justification for. Its just another attempt to sensationalize the idea of the woman as victim, the man as threat.

All your conclusions based on your analysis of the articles in question have no basis in what is presented in the articles. Its your beliefs. You are a preacher. No reputable analyst would support any of your conclusions.

Really, you would be hilarious were it not for the faddish distortions of the facts that this type of commentary produces.
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It looks like POF has already made some changes.
Posted: 7/28/2015 1:36:12 PM
Well, its clear to me that you do not have any reliable understanding of the English language. You are also prone to all kinds of truly bizarre conclusions.

I don't expect anybody to assault me, especially when it comes as a result of a third party action (i.e the security guard). Every time you post another twisted interpretation of something said, you dig yourself deeper into a hole.

If you had nothing to gain, why even continue the discussion? You obviously gain from your posting here. You may not be a technical politico, but you definitely don't like anyone questioning your ideas, and you definitely can't stop yourself from exuding ridicule and hostility while twisting the words of other posters.

You don't know what "most people believe" in real life. I am a pretty normal main stream individual and I don't believe anything you believe. You still can't show a single study supporting your position.

Where I live, a statistical majority of the population believes in a series of sacred myths, all of which have been proven false by their own intelligencia. It has not changed their beliefs one iota. The response when confronted by these facts is identical to your repertoire of responses. The studies are flawed, statistics don't prove anything, everybody knows what is really happening, the others are racists, blah, blah, blah. I have lived it all my life. Its boringly predictable. Its the reason this place has become a social and economic backwater. People prefer to live within a comfortable denial of reality rather than to confront life as it really is.

Its a fundamentally intellectually dishonest form of human behaviour.
 
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