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 Author Thread: being a single father and finding someone is so hard.why?
 angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 144 (view)
 
being a single father and finding someone is so hard.why?
Posted: 5/14/2012 11:31:44 PM
I am a single mother, i was married now divorced with a beautiful 12 year old . I just came back to this site today after my friends told me its time for me to get out there again since i have had a date in years lol and me personaly would love to date a single father.... they know what its like trying to date when you are a single parent. They know what real love is there is no greater love then the love for your child. They understand that your child will always come first. Im close to hitting 40 and with a 12 year old im not sure if id want to do the baby thing again at this point so dating someone with kids would prolly be more ideal. Sure it might be a bit of a challange at times if a child is sick or something comes up but as a single parent they will be a lil more understanding. Im not saying people with no children wont be as understanding but it is easier from my experience. When me and my ex divorced i dated a single father and a guy who wasnt. i felt less quilty for canceling plans or changing times with the father he was very understanding as he was more understanding and had done that a few times as well .. the single guy seemed to be ok with everything untill i need to find a sitter or she sick cuz i couldnt just get up and go. What about people with jobs that take alot of thier time or have to be on call all the time is thier job an issue as well cuz you cant just go at the drop of a hat? and if anyone ever thought of my daughter as baggage that would be the last time i ever talked to him. Single people have baggage too and sometimes its even worse then so called single parent baggage. ok my rant is over lol
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 281 (view)
 
I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 9/15/2008 9:41:33 AM
I admit i prefer men younger i dont mind men a few years older. I have always dated younger guys the youngest was 4 years younger which i dont have a problem with, my ex husband was only a year and a half younger but still.. I only dated one guy who was older and he was only a year older and he treated me like crap.

In my profile i say i want a guy 27 - 40 and im 35 tomorrow. I want a guy who enjoys the things i like to do for ex: most guys over 40 dont like going to the bars to dance and i love dancing. I want a guy who will be out on the floor with me all night not watching from the bar lol. I dont look 35 either and most guys who approch me are younger they think i look like im 28 lol which i dont mind at all lol Most (not all) guys over 40 look older then they are.... i dont wanna date a guy who looks like he can be my dad lol

Also my ex husband is getting remarried in nov to a girl 8 years younger then him so if he can do it why cant I lol

Also to the guy who said this.....
the nice in shape girls in their 30's into their 50's become alot more horny than they were when they were younger.

Its not just the "nice in shape girls" some of us not so in shape girls in thier 30 are like that too for your information lol
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Its Saturday night and your home alone--what do you do?
Posted: 9/14/2008 7:52:52 AM
Usually i would make some popcorn and watch a few of my many dvd's i have a bit of an addiction when it comes to movies lol Or i would come online and visit a few sites see whats going on in cyber world.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Been single for too long
Posted: 9/7/2008 10:18:51 AM
I been single for almost 4 years now. At times im fine with it at time its depressing... like now my b-day is in a week and a half and it always seems to get more depressing during your birthday or holidays. I was married and after the seperation/divorce i had 2 bf's that only lasted 7 months total and a few guys who i was getting to know but nothing was there within the first 2 years then after the last guy dumped me 2 days before xmas i havent even been on a date lol I was kissed once in 4 years by a friend of a friend who drove me home but he just wanted sex and i wasnt going there lol Some days i think maybe im not looking at the right people or in the right places but then i think i dont want just anyone so i deal with no one. I do have some standards afterall lol If i am to be with someone again it will happen at some point i hope lol Born again virgin isnt something i want to be forever lol

Good luck
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Ex wife announced a potential move
Posted: 3/12/2008 8:23:03 AM
My first question is why cant he move there to be with her? I personally think your wife is heartless.... Why would she do that to her child?

In my divorce papers we have stated that i cant move more them 50 miles from my city. So that he can still see her on a regular basis... She loves her dad and see him all the time i wouldnt even think of taking her so far that she wont get to see him... It would break my heart to see her missing him...but thats just me. Thats why i dont date guys who are to far from where i live i dont want to have to deal with that unless he is willing to move here to be with me.

I say fight for it. Good luck!
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Sweet guy, low income OR abusive guy, high income
Posted: 3/11/2008 9:31:55 AM
I would take the sweet guy over the other any time. As long as he makes enough money that hes not with me hoping i can support him or pay for everything lol Even if that means he works at McDonalds
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 21 (view)
 
very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/12/2007 10:52:07 AM
Thank you veintapperiam!!!! You understand exactly where i was coming from when i started ths topic.


I know for myself, it IS a turnoff when a guy tries to push my head towards his penis when I'm enjoying exploring other parts of his body. I KNOW it's an incredible sensation for a man, but trust me... we WILL get there! It's just that not all women have porn star appetites and want to shove their faces into your pubes right off the bat!


Exactly!!!! I love to explore and trease my man and going down there is usually one of the last things i do cuz i know thats what hes dieing for me to do. lol

I agree I like him to see what im doing as well and if hes holding my hair up etc i dont mind that as long a hes not using it to push me down farther etc. I like looking up at him while doing it so i can see his facial expressions as well.


If something isn't working for the person receiving, talk about it. I'd much rather have my partner tell me that what I'm doing isn't working for him, than I would have him ram his penis into the back of my throat because he wants it deeper than I'm going at the present time.


Couldnt have said it better myself.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Money Vs Personality....
Posted: 8/11/2007 10:24:02 AM
I agree with alot of you on this subject. Personalty is by far m important then money.

For me Its more personality then anything.... Does he make me laugh, do we have good conversaions without the awkward silent moments, do we have fun when we are together be it staying at home or going out. Of coarse I dont want a guy who has no money and is looking to me to mooch off of and to pay everything...but as long as he has enough money to support himself im fine with that.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Money Vs Personality....
Posted: 8/9/2007 10:19:17 PM
I did a search and didnt find anything so here goes....

This goes out to both men and women...

There are 2 cenerios:
1. You meet someone online or in person and your instantly attracted based on a pic/first glance. Then you start talking and find out they dont have a job or they do but its not a good paying job but they get along fine with what they have. They have a nice personality, great sence of humor and you get along really well.

2. Same thing reversed They are very attractive and make good money, have a good job etc but they lack in personality, you find them kinda dull and boring.

Do you continue to get to know them and see where things go or do you decide they are not for you?
Who would you go for someone with money or someone with a good personality?
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 20 (view)
 
very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/9/2007 4:37:39 PM

So my initial suspicion was correct - you saw one guy do it on a show that's not particularly realistic and incorrectly drew a blanket generalization about potentially all guys based on it.

OMG I never said all guys ... not even potentailly all guys I just saw the show and i know it had happened before to me and others i know so i wanted to ask why plain and simple
I am tired of trying to explain myself to you


That said, you've gotten your answer. Your initial interpretation of "guys" based on a TV show was incorrect. Multiple men have said this, and clarified their positions quite clearly.

Its not just based on a show i said that many times already as well.

This topic was asked for fun to see why some guy do that and I did get my answers. I got some good responces from men and women on this thread some said they did the hand on the head thing and for different reasons. some said they didnt but said why they figure some do,some even answered my other questions. I am glad i asked the questions i did.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 18 (view)
 
very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/9/2007 11:00:02 AM

You may not be stupid but you have a real reading comprehension problem.
No I dont actually and im really tired of you insulting me ... I heard what you said and I dont really care to hear your opinion anymore thank you
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 16 (view)
 
very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/8/2007 10:44:14 PM
wow lol
I kinda find it funny that you tell me not to watch the show when you must have watched it yourself for knowing so much about how it happened and the characters.





So if you're going to watch Sex & the City in an effort to understand men *in general*, you are going to get a very skewed perception of us - because the show only serves to highlight the negative in an effort to emphasize how difficult dating is in today's metropolitan world.

Thats not why i watch the show I watch it cuz i like it and its funny. I been single for almost 3 years believe me i know how hard it is to date in todays world.




What I said was, that since men *in general* on S&tC do a 'grab and ram', you cannot assume that men in real life, *in general*, do a 'grab and ram'.

Im not assuming anything thats why i was asking cuz i know for a fact that some men do so i was just asking why.




However, men probably do not perform the 'grab and ram' with as much frequency is apparently shown on S&tC, which is apparently very high or else you would not have felt the need to ask this question.

As far as I can remember only one guy on that show did it That was the episode i was watching the night before i posted this thread it made me curious as to why guys do it so i wanted to ask. plain and simple
I dont need for you to talk to me like im stupid im far from it thank you!
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Interested perhaps?
Posted: 8/8/2007 1:50:04 PM

We show interest, we're coming on too strong. We don't show interest, we're "just not that into you". Can't win, really

that depends on what type of thing your doing to show interest. If your asking for sex the first time you meet or planing your future after a few dates then yeah thats to much but telling the girl you had a good time and want to see her again is never to much. Girls like to know what your thinking exspecially when you first meet.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 15 (view)
 
very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/8/2007 1:38:55 PM

It is possible to visualize an act from a description, you know.

Yeah I know but thats not the point you said dont watch those shows etc it dont happen in real life blah blah but it does. Alot of the guys on this thread have admited they put their hand on her head for one reason or another....I bet at least 60% or more of guys put their hands on the girls head during that either cuz they dont have anything to do with thier hands, they want to play with her hair, or for guidance, or whatever. So it does happen in real life not just tv or movies.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Interested perhaps?
Posted: 8/7/2007 4:56:36 PM
I have had that happen before and it ended up beng just that. I even had them say the next day it was great meeting you, had a good time, we should do it again but never did. I think they just say what they think you want to hear so you dont ask then again lol Wish guys would just be honest... if i meet someone and afterwards decide maybe its not what i was looking for I tell him ... i dont be mean or rude but i let him know somehow.


Hey some people are ***holes and make out with people just for the sake of making out with people..and don't tell me it doesn't happen lol.


oh it happens alot.... i have met probably 50+ guys in the past 5 years and at least half of them just wanted to make out some even hoping it would go further and when it didnt... they tell me they had a good time but then the calls get fewer and fewer till they stop all together lol Very irritating and probably part of the reason i haven met anyone online in over 9 months dont want to put up with the crap lol
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/7/2007 9:17:58 AM
Are you talking about forcing the head down or just touching it a bit? It's hot to put a hand on the back of her head feeling her move up and down and stuff, and just touching her in general while its' happening.

I dont mind his hand beeing there playing with my hair cuz playing with my hair turns me on lol but when he actually pushes your head down hard while you do it is what bugs me and made me wonder why guys have to do that lol


I'm pretty sure that a few guys will agree with me on this, when we ACTUALLY ask, we get the response "Why do you always ask for that?"

I dont knw about other women but if Im dating a guy and we start kissng and touching eachother that usually happens anyway no need to ask lol


If once you are there it is not pushing but grabbing or stroking...well...your technique might be correct, but I'd have to check it...contact me!

LMAO


I agree you need to stop watching stupid television shows and thinking that's real life or how men act. Get some practical knowledge experience out in the real world, step away from your television and computer and start TALKING to the men you share this activity with--------you'll be surprised how much you can learn!!!

1. I love that show! and it does happen in real life or all you men wouldnt even know what i was talking about lol
2.I havent had sex in almost 3 years and havent done that in over 2 years so as for talking to the guys i do that with there isnt any lol
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 4:42:56 PM

I'm sorry guys are trying to choke you, but as someone said before, we aren't all pushing to the point of choking

they are not trying to choke i get that but some women cant put it in as far as others lol and some guys dont know when to stop pushing lol


It's not that we don't like it, it's just that sometimes you want it faster, sometimes you don't. I would expect the same if the situation was reversed.

If i want it slower or faster i tell him I would rather a guy tell me what to do then force me to do it lol I love hearing the guy moaning, growning hearing him tell me to go faster or whatever just like when having sex i tell him to go faster lol


"Okay, move up a bit in a rapid motion... no, not back and forth, up and down... that's too fast... you're on an angle, move forward... no, tilt your head, not at the neck..."

If a guy was telling me to do that much i would stop dong it cuz obviously for him i am doing it all wrong.

I dont mind him having his hand on my head or having a hold of my ponytail but let me do it the way I do it... I never had any complaints yet Then again its been a long long time ... but its like riding a bike you never forget how lol
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 2:16:15 PM
it seems pretty obvious as to why the hand is there. If he is pushing down, then he wants it harder/faster. If the hand is there, yes it's for guidance and control.

If he wants it harder or faster cant he just say so instead of trying to choke her? As for guidance and control if you dont like the way she does it why push her head down there in the first place?
Your second mistake is thinking that how men act on that show is how they act in real life.

Alot of the stuff on that show has happened to me or friends of mine so yes it does happen in real life lol
I mean think about it, if your significant other offered to give you a foot massage and then started using sandpaper, you'd correct them, right?

I would tell him not grab his hand and force him lol
but it gets to the point where I HAVE to grab something

thats what the headboards are for lol
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 1 (view)
 
very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 1:37:09 PM
I was watching sex and the city the other night and it made me wonder... what is with guys and the need to push the girls head down there I know its a signal that you want them to do that to you thats kinda obvious. why not just let things happen natually?
Once they are what is your reason behind holding their head or pulling her hair up and down ... is it a need for control? Are they not going fast enough for you? You cant think of whatelse to do with your hands? lol

I always wondered this then i saw the show again and thought maybe i shoud ask the guys on here lol
So I am curious why men do this?
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 86 (view)
 
thongs aren't for everyone...
Posted: 8/6/2007 1:04:42 PM
First i would probably laugh then be grossed out. Total turn off.... now those excersixe boxer shorts I think they are called by calvin cline they are cotton snug fittin boxers they are hot!!
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
ladies do u ever consider men that don't live near by?
Posted: 8/6/2007 12:55:41 PM
When i first started this online stuff i had met 3 different guys at different times of course who all lived in another country. Talked to months and months, they saying the whole time they want to come see me making plans as to what comes next if things went well. Then when it came time to actually make plans to come see me something always came up then we would slowly stop talking. I wonder how much time did I waste trying to get to know this guy when i could have been getting to know someone from my area.

I have a friend who met someone from another country and talked for 6 months or more then he finally came to see her things went awesome for them then a week after he went back home told her it wasnt going to work. She was alot more hurt cuz she me him had sex etc. and they where making plans for he to go there to see him and then that happenes... I will never put myself in that situation.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Getting past your barriers
Posted: 8/6/2007 12:43:07 PM
I am totaly aware that i have walls up. When i see a guy come towards me to talk or a guy messages me on here or wherever I do give him the benifit of the doubt but there is always part of me that says dont count on it. Just a way to protect ourselves from getting hurt.
Only way to get them down is to show us you can be trusted, that your honest, or your not one of the jerks that made us put it up in the first place lol

When i start talking to a guy i let him know it. Been hurt way to many times to just let any guy in. If he dont like it he can leave. If he wants to be with me he will be pateint and understanding till they come down. It will be worth it in the end.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 5 (view)
 
ladies do u ever consider men that don't live near by?
Posted: 8/6/2007 12:32:52 PM
It might be but i would rather that then really start liking someone who lives far away, then meet after months and months of talking and nothing there or worse never meeting them at all. That has happened a few times to me. Said they wanted to come meet me but never actually did. Just a waste of both of our time and getting your heart broken.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Are you REALLY that tall?
Posted: 8/6/2007 12:27:27 PM
To me height isnt really a hge factor since i only 5'2 he has to be taler then me thatsall lol It is harder for me when hes over 6' ... i had few bf's who where over 6' and i had the worse neck cramps from kissing him while were standing up lol So he has to be good at massages if hes that tall lol
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
ladies do u ever consider men that don't live near by?
Posted: 8/6/2007 12:24:28 PM
Nope... been there didnt work so no more. Been threw to much that i even hesitate to date guys who live more then an hour away from me. So if i guy messages me from outside of my general area i just consider them friends.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 23 (view)
 
have you ever withheld sex
Posted: 8/6/2007 12:21:04 PM
Since you didnt say if you where in a realtion ship or just dating i will give you 2 answers lol

If i am in a relationship usually not unless im sick or something. I never said im not havigng sex untill you do whatever first lol

As far as withholdng sex when you first start seeing someone yes I have done that. I have had guys wanting it the first time we met but we didnt... some of them I never heard from again some of them where there for the right reasons and stuck around. My last bf wanted sex but I waited for 3 weeks before we had sex cuz i wanted to know he was in it for me not just the sex. It only lasted little over 3 months but i was glad we waited just made it that more exciting.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 16 (view)
 
is this really true?
Posted: 8/6/2007 12:11:45 PM
I think it depends when the sex happens... if its the first time you meet her and have sex then there prolly isnt any emotions involved its just sex. Unless she is hoping for more then just sex so you need to make sure she is aware this is just a sex thing, or one time thing etc.

For me i wont have sex with someone unless I really like him already and i plan on having sex with him more then once. Then there is already emotions involved and sex may make the emotions stronger.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 8/6/2007 11:49:50 AM
TJ75 .....WOW!!
I know its not me your talking to but maybe you should state who you are talking too since there are alot of women who posted on this thread.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 8/6/2007 8:58:44 AM
Johne Do you even talk to any single moms before you give them the axe. There are single moms who know who thier childs father is....not every single mom is looking for a father for thier child or for a guy to support them. If that is your only reason not to date single moms its a pretty lame excuse Im sorry. If you dont date them cuz they cant be as spontanious as you want them to be cuz they have to find sitters etc thats one thing but this?

I am a single mother... i was married, I had a child, now im divorced. My ex husband is a great father he sees our daughter all the time and i get child support from him. I dont need someone elses money. I dont need a father for my daughter she has one. I dont date for that reason I date for companionship. So are single moms supposted to stay single till their child is 18 and no longer needs support?

I have no problem dating a single father yes it can be a struggle to be alone sometimes but if you really like someone you find ways to get around it. I would never say no to someone just cuz they are a single father.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
creative ways?
Posted: 8/5/2007 10:58:12 PM
forget what i said about leaving when she wasnt watching..... it worked for a friend of mine and it worked for me when i had to work and my daughter would scream her head off if she saw me leave the house. I am not bad parent quite the opposite.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
creative ways?
Posted: 8/5/2007 2:39:25 PM
sounds to me like there is something else going on .... have a talk to your ex make sure hes not talking bad around her about you cuz maybe she thinks she wont be coming back or maybe there is smething at his place she dont like and thats why she dont want to go.

There was a time when my daughter was about 2 and she woud cry everytime i had to go to work i would just leave when she wasnt watching me. She woud cry for a bit once she noticed i wasnt there but it would stop after a bit.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
explaning divorce to kids, especially a toddler
Posted: 8/5/2007 2:32:36 PM
My daughter was 3 when me and my ex split up and i never really had to explain anything to her didnt seem to bother her much. I just told her that we were selling the house and mommy and her were going to stay with grandma for a bit and not to worry that daddy loves her bunches and she will see daddy lots. Not till she was about 5 when she asked why we dont live togeher anymore. She has no problems with it now shes 7 she loves the idea or 2 xmases, birthdays etc lol
Just dont make a big deal about it cuz if she sees you upset she will more then likely get upset about it as well. Act like its a new fun adventure.

Good luck
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
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creative ways?
Posted: 8/5/2007 2:24:20 PM
How old is our child? I never really had this problem with my daughter but a girl i know did . What she did was to go to the fathers house and visit. get them playing together and then try to sneak out of the room without being noticed then leave. The child is preocupied playing by the time they noticed she was gone. It might be a bit harder on your ex cuz if the child notices you not there might cry and he will have deal with it but you wont have to get your heart broken listening to it everytime. Same thing goes if he picked up the child he would come in and play then the mother would leave the room once the child got comfy with the dad again he would ask if she wanted to go for a car ride or go for ice cream etc. then take her back to his place.

Not sure if this will work cuz im not sure how old your child is but its worth a shot.
good luck.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
quick questions about ex's
Posted: 8/5/2007 2:13:23 PM
Wow I applaud you guys for being there for your kids. I have a few friends whos exs are not aound or they are around when they feel like it. I am a divorced mom of 1 daughter and i really lucked out with my ex cuz i have never really had a problem with him when it comes to seeing our daughter. I have no problem switching weekends or taking her for an extra one if he needs me too as long as he gives me some notice so i dont already make plans but my mom is pretty good at taking her for the night if i do have plans. My ex sometimes sound like hes not impressed if i even ask him to take her for a extra weekend but im glad his parents are petty good they will take her if hes busy.

As for your ex.... to me she sounds like she just wants her alone time so she can go out, party and/or sleep in. Yes you need to have a social life when your a single parent but your kids do come first. An its not like you didnt want your kids so you can go out the night before...you just thought it woud be easier for them and you if they wherent with you while you went to get your car. I dont think you did anything wrong and definatly not selfish. As for being too nice maybe she needs a reality check sometime tell her no even if you would love to see your kids she needs to know you are not at her beckon call seems like she takes you for granted to me.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
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Backburner Girl
Posted: 8/5/2007 1:39:30 PM
Been there to many times to count lol Things seem to be going good and then out of the blue they stop calling. I had one guy i was seeing for a couple months stop calling and i knew something was up cuz we talked on the phone everyday. I called one day and he said he would call me back didnt hear fom him for over 6 months. Then out of the blue he calls wanting to meet up. Or online you chat to someone things seem good then they stop months or years later they message you asking if you want to meet... If i didnt meet you when we talked before i sure am not meeting you now lol They never ask if i am single still they just assume I am lol
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
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What do y'all think of...
Posted: 8/4/2007 11:27:07 PM
In my opinion.... most "not all" women who show pics like that are either teasing and looking for attention or they are looking for sex. For me I have had times where i am talking to someone and they send me a naked shot of "mr big" lol thats when i say sorry not interested.Cuz in my experience those men are just looking for sex . I assume prolly goes for most of the women who do that as well. I dont want to see pics of it and i dont want to show him pics like that of me unless we are dating then its a fun way to tease eachother till you see eachother again.
Just my opinion.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 27 (view)
 
birthday Blu's
Posted: 8/4/2007 10:45:35 PM
I am going threw the same thing.. I will be 34 in sept and i am not looking forward to it. I dont feel 34 and i dont think I look it...so thats the good part lol I dont know if its the age thats bothering me or the fact that i havent had a bf or sex for that matter since i was 31
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 18 (view)
 
On the dance floor
Posted: 8/2/2007 11:25:57 PM
I agree with the ladies that said make eye contact and smile. Then either make the come here gesture or if she smiles back go over to her say hi and just start dancing. You will know i shes interested by theway shes dancing with you.. if shes facing you she wants to dance with you or if shes facing her friends shes prolly not interested in dancing one on one.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 166 (view)
 
dating an overweight person?
Posted: 8/2/2007 11:15:23 PM
When i met my ex husband i was thin.... gained weight over the 10 years we were together... my weight was part of the reason we ended up divorced he said he wasnt atracted to me anymore. I cant wait till the day lose the weight I want and he sees me thin again ha ha. I have had guys i met not be interested and I assume some of the reasons was my weight ... Part of me hopes that when i lose it I will come across them again so i can show them what they could have had lol
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Are Women Really Attracted to Sissie Boys?
Posted: 8/2/2007 10:37:05 PM
I once had a guy say to me he wasnt my type cuz i like the sissie type guys and i dont think that at all... Yes i prefer a guy who has nice hair, clean shaven and dresses well but i dont concider that to be a sissie guy. He just takes pride in his appearance. I find other men attractve too but its the clean cut shaven ones that get my attetion first. lol
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Freckles
Posted: 8/2/2007 10:25:39 PM
I have em and most guys i meet say they like them .... i have alot on my arms cuz f sunburns but my face they dont look to bad... even though i dont really like them ...my daughter on the other hand looks so cute with her freckles lol
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Do you contact them if they stop contacting you?
Posted: 8/2/2007 10:19:14 PM
I have had that happen more then a few times lol. I am learning to read the signs. When i meet for the first time if things go well i will message/call a few times and if they dont reply or call back I take it as a sign. If i havent heard from him in a while i will message him and just say Hey havent talked to you in a while how ya been? and leave it at that. If I dont hear back then i figure hes not interested after all and thats it.

It does drive me crazy too... if your not inerested just say so... how hard is that? lol
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 15 (view)
 
what are your thought on the compatability ratings?
Posted: 5/28/2007 11:17:51 AM
I just took the test today and most of it is me but some of it dont even sound like me so it is hard to say if this will actually help in finding someone on here.

The thing i find funny is that when you go to look at the people who are compatible it says this

If you said you didn't want to get married, then users who want to get married now won't show.

I never said i dont want to get married the question was marrage in the near future not if you ever wanted too lol

I dont know if i will even read any of them unless i am interestd in the guy. It will give you something to talk / laugh about though lol
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Why is it that after guys see your picture they quit talking
Posted: 5/28/2007 11:02:24 AM
ctrycutie- I know where you are coming from. When i first started going on date sites I didnt post a pic cuz i wanted to guys to get to know me for me first. But when it came time to show a pic some, not all stoped talking to me or they wouldnt talk to me as much as they did before. So i knew something was up. It might have been that they thought i was ugly or maybe i just wasnt thier "type" So i decided to post pics in my profile so i wouldnt have to deal with that anymore and waste my time talking and getting to know someone or even worse become interested in someone that might change thier mind about me once they see my pics. You just have to get a thicker skin when on sites like this. I know its hard and it takes time. I am at the point now where if someone messages me great if not oh well thier loss not mine cuz i wouldnt want to be with someone like that anyways lol

I do get guys who dont respond when i am the first one to send them a message so i try not to send messages first unless there is something about them that really really catches my eye. I just figure they are not interested, it might be my looks or something i said in my profile... you never know unless they message you back and tell you.

I hope this helps some and just know you are not alone.
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
What was I to do?
Posted: 12/19/2006 9:47:27 PM
Heavensent... yes i been on and off here for a while and i wasnt judging him by his pics... he is the one who assumed that. Just cuz i didnt say anything dont mean i was judging him. His attitude is what made me judge him.

I told a few friends about him and they all agree either he has some issues or he was having a really bad day lol
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 5 (view)
 
What was I to do?
Posted: 12/18/2006 10:04:33 PM
Thx for the feedback ... glad im not the only one who thought this guy was overreacting lol

MustangSally Yeah I hate being blocked expecally when i was going to do it first but forgot

Deepbluesguy....yeah i miss him lots!!!! actually after the third message it got pretty entertaining me and my friend couldnt stop laughing lol As far as me being too kind I have that problem...might be why im still single lol


 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 1 (view)
 
What was I to do?
Posted: 12/18/2006 10:19:05 AM
I need to know if other girls on this site have had this happen to you or men have women done this to you?

He messaged me and he had no pic, he said if I wanted he can send a pic so i said sure send me one. He sends me 5 and he asked me how pof is treating me, so i answered him telling him that i come on to make friends and see where things go and when im bored i come on for the forums but i didnt comment on his pics so he messages me back with this "I guess you are bored then or my pics aren't worth your time" So i message him telling him that i never said that that he must be missreading something and he tells me for the record he is not missreading anything. saying that he just figured i was like all the other women on here who wanted pics before talking to someone and then when i didnt say anything that ment i wasnt interested. lol his pics where ok but not really my type but since i am on here to meet friends as well i didnt see any harm in still chatting but then he got this attitude. I told him sorry you got things wrong but good luck and merry christmas and he messaged me back with more attitude and i told him if you think that just stop messaging me and he messaged me back telling me to stop messaging him then lol He just had to have the last word, me and my gf's where having a blast with this. We couldnt belive what this guy was saying it was just too funny. I was going to block him but i got into talking with my friend and i forget and i came on today with a message from him telling me my attitude sucks and he blocked me.

I have had guys give me attitude before for not mentioning the pics what i am to do say sorry your not cute or your not my type but we can still be friends?? I have had guys not mention my pics and i just figure im not thier type but i still talk to them and i dont cop an attitude.

So what do you think? What would you have done? Has this ever happened to you?
 Angel_73
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Abstinence
Posted: 12/17/2006 12:07:25 AM
I am right there with you Kap... its been 2 years for me and alot of guys dont beleive me when i tell them. I have had a few one time things but after my last bf i decided enough was enough. I am going to wait till i meet someone who really catched my attention and someone who i think might be sticking around for a while.
Some days I am ready to say forget this the next guy who wants it is going to get it lol but then at the same time i dont want to do it on a one time thing. I would hate myself afterwards. but damn its getting boring doing all by myself after 2 years
 Angel_32
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
How do Single Mothers Date again
Posted: 11/18/2006 12:27:40 PM
ottawawestend.... wow

First I am a single mother but iw as married before and thats when i had my daughter....and it wasnt my fault my marriage ended so i wouldnt call that a mistake.

2. if you are dating a single mother you should know when she has or doesnt have her child so you can make plans. If you really like the girl and she likes you, you can always time to get away.

3. just cuz she has kids dont mean you are not an important part of her life. of course her child would come first and if you expect any less she shouldnt be with you anyways. When i have a man he is right up there in my list. I try to include him in everything. He never feels second best. Also when you have a child your gf or wife will be second for you as well as you to her. So you will have to get used to it.

4. as far as a father for her child... the only ones that are looking for that are women whos kids dont have a father around. My daughters father is very active in her life and i am in no way looking for a father for her cuz she already has one. I am looking for myself not for her.

5. who says you cant go to the virgin islands with your single mother "friend" and why is it a friend and not a gf? I dont go away on vacation with my male friends and if its just a friend this whole thing shouldnt matter to you anyways. If she wants to go to the virgin islands with you there is always away. The child can be with the father, grandparents, aunt etc.

6. Thats just crazy! Single mothers have alot to offer and if a guy is just looking for a single mother cuz he cant find anyone else he should just stay home with his hand cuz we single mothers dont like to be chosen cuz theres nothing better out there. Also that just tell us single mothers how immature some men can be.
B. If you are dating a single mother why can you be with them on the weekends they have thier kid? If you dont want to be around the kid she wont want you anyways.


I am sure there are alot of women who agree with me.
 Angel_32
Joined: 7/4/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
How do Single Mothers Date again
Posted: 11/18/2006 11:59:22 AM
I been there many times. I have had guys stop talking to me after they find out i have a child, some of them they think that they have to be a father to your child or that you are looking for someone to take care of you and your kid. Which for me is soo not the case but it does scare alot of guys off. Also some think that you wont have time for them so they dont even try. You have to be upfront and honest let them know what it is you are looking for. for me i just miss having a guy around the touch of a man etc. I dont need a guy to pay my bills take care of me or my daughter i am doing a great job of that on my own just miss the male compainionship.
Its hard and it takes a while to get used to. Its been 4 years since me and my ex husband split and it took me along time to figure it all out but now i say if you dont want to date me cuz i have a kid thats up to you but you dont know what you are missing out on. There is alot more to a single mother then men realize.

Good luck
 
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