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 Author Thread: Another cheap tipper
 sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
Msg: 94 (view)
 
Another cheap tipper
Posted: 5/29/2015 8:18:13 AM
He paid $12. You paid $5, and called him cheap.
 sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Buying a used car and how to determine value
Posted: 1/12/2015 11:49:50 PM
One tank of gas...how big was the tank? Was the tank on a trailer, by chance?

The $1,000 car that lasts a year isn't gone, you just will have a heck of a time finding it.
I have a '92 Mazda 323 that gets 34mpg, A/C works well (R-12), car runs great, 1 owner previous who maintained it well himself or at the same repair shop for the last 15 years or so, with full maintenance records, nearly new tires when purchased. I've had it a year, put about 22,000 miles on it, and just this week ticked over the 260,000 mile mark. I paid my coworker $900 for it.

I think it's hilarious to see recommendations to go to a dealership for a used car, especially in the $1000 price range.

A private seller is trying to sell their old car. $1,000 car for $1,000.
A dealership is also trying to sell an old car, but needs to make a profit. So...you get a $500 car for $1000.

Short answer- A car is worth exactly how much someone is willing to pay for it. Find someone you know that is looking to sell their old car, or someone that they know. I have to agree with 'Countryheart1967'- it's a crapshoot at that price.
 sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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The Last Mile, bottleneck?
Posted: 11/13/2014 6:08:56 PM
You have 10mb download currently. What they're selling isn't going to change that. They artificially throttle the download/upload speeds to be at what you've paid for. So...what are you going to pay $2/month for, exactly? They're still going to throttle the speed to 10mb.

Test your speed. Try Netflix, they're buffering is much better than YouTube, anyway.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
Msg: 55 (view)
 
The Wych's first picnic of the Year!!!...May 17th in Sim's Park, New Port Richey
Posted: 5/17/2009 7:18:51 AM
Post 93- beer is ok

im not really sure what to expect...

Good!
It's a picnic, so expect people, food, and maybe some picnic type games.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
New Port Richey Bowling & Dancing May 16 2009
Posted: 4/29/2009 7:01:14 PM
Planning to be there. Been looking forward to the next bowling event
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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The Wych's first picnic of the Year!!!...May 17th in Sim's Park, New Port Richey
Posted: 4/27/2009 5:50:29 PM
I'm requesting that day off...can't miss the first picnic of the year!
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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income eligible phone???
Posted: 4/21/2009 6:59:16 AM
Have you considered that the land-line phone companies are not willing to give away their service to low income people, probably with poor credit as well? Trac-Fone probably views this as a great deal for them- the government is paying them to distribute their product to millions of people that are basically already their target customer.

It would probably cost MORE for them to give away a basic land line.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
What is the difference between Gay Marriage and a Civil Union?
Posted: 4/20/2009 6:55:43 PM

Now, here in Canada, our system dictates that a couple of the opposite sex living together for 6 months or more is considered "married" whether or not those same two people recognize that status or not. This "enforced" marriage is against the Canada Marriage Act, therefore against the laws, but because it is a gov't decree, they can get away with it.

Wait, wait, wait...how does that make sense even?
So...what if a woman were to take in a male roommate to help with bills. Does the government consider them a couple, and therefore 'married' after 6 months? Whether they want to be or not? Or do they just say 'We're not a couple' and it doesn't apply?

Also...from reading the forums here, it's my understanding that Canada requires a 1 year 'cooling-off' period before a divorce is finalized. How does it make sense that a couple is forced to be 'married' after only 6 months, yet has to wait a year in order to un-do that marriage?
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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income eligible phone???
Posted: 4/20/2009 6:29:31 PM
You may be able to buy minutes with a food stamp card. That's between the government and the store. My point was, it's a pay-as-you-go phone, and the minutes are minimal, not a 1,000 minute/month plus nights and weekends plan. It's not the luxury it's being made out to be. As their only phone, it'll probably cost more than a normal phone.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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income eligible phone???
Posted: 4/20/2009 5:43:33 PM
Checking around a little online, I found an article about this happening in Tennessee. It is through Trac-Fone. And you get 68 minutes per year. That's just over an hour for a full year. Hardly even worth the effort even.

The important thing I noticed is that it's through Trac-Fone, who then allows you to use their paid cards to add air time. It looks to be the normal rates, which as with any pay-as-you-go service, are not economically favorable. So it looks more like a way for Trac-Fone to get more customers, though I imagine the free hour of airtime might be useful if you're waiting for a call for a job interview, or something. And it's better than locking yourself into a $60+/month phone bill.

Basically...it can be seen as helpful, or another way to dig into the pockets of the poor, a little at a time. There's plenty of businesses that prey on low-income, low-credit consumers, and honestly, I think this is really just another one of them. I see them all the time, and shake my head, knowing that the short-term easy low payments they offer add up to more than a normal payment would be...but they can swing the lower payment, so they go with it.

They can't go over on their minutes though, because they have to buy time to add. Can they add minutes with food stamps? I hope not.

Edit: The next article I read states an hour per month, and the SafeLink website states 68 minutes per month (for FL at least). So I assume it is 68 minutes per MONTH, not per YEAR. Big difference, but...still not excessive.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
Msg: 168 (view)
 
The Wych and Diva at it again!! Luau Theme night at the Tahitian Resort in Holiday....April 11
Posted: 4/10/2009 7:01:01 PM
Hmm, I don't have a tacky Hawaiian shirt. Or a grass skirt.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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why don't guys give girls flowers anymore
Posted: 4/9/2009 2:28:11 PM

I know it was valentines day which is a while ago now, but the guy I was seeing didn't do anything, not a card, phone call, text, nothing. Just text the following day to say sorry he forgot. I never spoke to him again .... my choice

So...what did you do for him? Or is it a one-way only holiday?

And why are you posting about this almost 2 months later?
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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Curious miscellaneous tips...
Posted: 4/7/2009 7:02:23 PM
I think it's hilarious that Coca-Cola can be used as a rust remover. Gotta wonder what it does to a person's internal organs.

Coke is still less acidic than stomach acid.
Vinegar isn't a base, it's an acid.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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The Wych and Diva at it again!! Luau Theme night at the Tahitian Resort in Holiday....April 11
Posted: 4/6/2009 10:37:23 AM
Phoenix and Donna, as has been said, and deserves to be said, you two do a wonderful job organizing these events.

Even though this is, again, right down the road from me, I think I'll have to decline this time. I'll be working 12 hour shifts Saturday and Sunday both. I'll be looking for the next one though. Maybe bowling again, I missed out last time ):
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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Bootlegging cigarettes
Posted: 3/28/2009 6:15:35 PM
the Obama morons are already investigating taxing by "miles driven"

A quick Google search brings up an article from 2005 about taxing according to miles driven. It's not a new concept. But hey, there's an administration change, so blame anything you don't like on them.

BTW, another article further down states that Oregon tested a mileage tax in '04, and the idea that led to it was actually thought up by a Republican (Bruce Starr) after driving a fuel-cell vehicle in '99.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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Bootlegging cigarettes
Posted: 3/28/2009 1:44:40 PM

I sincerely hope all the smoke Nazis die in a fire. Idiots.

Some great irony right there.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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Helpful hints....whats yours?
Posted: 3/28/2009 1:42:28 PM

Frozen sprouts are cheaper than sweets and won't rot your kid's teeth.

And they have the same chance of actually making it into the kid's mouth as a bowling ball.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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Earth Hour
Posted: 3/28/2009 11:57:13 AM
I think it's silly. Lights have a purpose. Turning them off reduces safety. Minimizing their use year-round makes more long-term sense. Replacing with more efficient bulbs makes more long-term sense. Just turning them off for an hour doesn't do anything except for one hour say "I care." Then it'll be right back to normal.

How many Darwin Award candidates will be driving without their lights on in the dark, because of this?

Are we also not going to buy gas next Thursday?

Why not push to stop people from driving with their headlights on during the day? That'd save more fossil fuel than 1 hour of no lights on.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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chinese drywall.....
Posted: 3/19/2009 1:56:12 PM

I don't understand why we can't just keep our products safer by making them here in the states

Cheap labor.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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What happened to sidewalks? Share the road?
Posted: 3/18/2009 8:27:19 PM
You're supposed to ride bikes on the road, not the sidewalk. Walking in the street instead of on the sidewalk, however is pretty much asking to get hit.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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Helping each other out ... barter or funds.
Posted: 3/18/2009 12:57:04 PM

the government hasn't found a way to tax it.

It's taxable, but there's no way to enforce it.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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Right to Use Vehicle?
Posted: 3/17/2009 1:43:24 PM
The title matters, not the money. If she has the title, it's her car. If you have the title, it's your car. Get it registered in your name, then do whatever you want.

In my opinion, she lied to convince you to let her use the car, and is instead going to the casino. Likely with the money from selling the car. She may be trying to get the car AND the money. You may never see her or the car again. Heck, if you don't have the title, she might be selling it to someone else, THEN what would you do?

Waste no time in getting it registered.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Credit cards lowering limits, raising payments
Posted: 3/15/2009 6:06:44 PM
I honestly think that after all this, you still don't understand how credit cards and interest work.

If your minimum went from 1% to 3%, and your minimum payment went from $300 to $1200 per month, then your balance was $30,000. You were carrying THIRTY THOUSAND DOLLARS of debt.

4% of my income went towards payments,are you saying I was being reckless in extreme spending at 4%.

What would you call it, if not reckless?
You owed 35% of your income, and were paying 4%.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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Credit cards lowering limits, raising payments
Posted: 3/15/2009 3:47:15 PM
I own a home, and I don't get cards sent to me, I get OFFERS. Last I knew, what you're describing is illegal, so I'm assuming you're meaning some time in the distant past, as opposed to recent. Still, you made the decision to keep and use those cards. Nobody forced you.

Your niece has a card under her father's account. She is an authorized user- under 18 you can't get a card in your own name, because you can't legally sign a contract.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Credit cards lowering limits, raising payments
Posted: 3/15/2009 1:44:20 PM
Calling everything 'stupid' isn't very convincing.

I had 11 cards once upon a time

I get credit card offers in the mail. They get shredded. You applied for 11 cards, they weren't forced on you.

business got lean so I did the min. payment

Minimum payments will take forever to pay down the debt. However, how could you have bought what you bought, with cash alone? Sounds like you liked the arrangement, until you realized you weren't making enough to pay for what you bought.

It is probably the most stupid thing a parent could do by getting their child his first credit card

Last I knew, you had to be 18 to get a credit card. That is no longer a child. I learned money management with cash, and that skill carried over to my credit card.

its as stupid as a variable mortgage rate

My variable rate started out lower than the fixed rate. Right now, it is lower than the fixed rate available to me at the time. It adjusted up for a few years, but it is back down again. I knew it could do that, and budget accordingly.

Its a numbers game more decades your here the more recessions,stock market crashes,wars,and such you will have to endure

What about the times when the economy is booming? Have you so quickly forgotten the good times?

I hope you haven't been buying your Whopper on a credit card because you were to lazy to reach into your pocket for cash.You are exactly the one that's most likely to eventually get hurt.

As stated...I buy everything with my credit card. I leave my money in the bank to gain interest, while my payment is delayed ~20-30 days. On top of that, they give me 1%-2% back on what I've spent.

With a credit card I get:
Deferred payment for 20-30 days
1%-2% back (in the form of a check)
Security that if I lose my card, I don't have to pay
I don't need to carry much cash on me
I can track where my money goes, rather than just $100 ATM withdrawals

What do you get with cash?
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
Msg: 46 (view)
 
The Wych is celebrating St. Patrick's Day at Fatty N Mabel's.....March 14th
Posted: 3/13/2009 9:06:18 PM
Hopefully not Nyquil with acetaminophen in it, Mike.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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can a person search for someone on here using their real name?
Posted: 3/13/2009 2:17:29 PM
No way I know of. Might be nice, but there's no guarantee that people would use their real name anyway.

There's lots of sites out there she could have joined. Just because she may have mentioned this one, doesn't mean she didn't go to one of the others. You would be better off confronting her, rather than just blindly searching on here.

Anything you can do? Well, yes and no. You can do whatever YOU think it will take to not lose her. But in the end, no, there is nothing you can do to avoid losing someone that wants to be lost, understand what I mean?
 Sortin
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The Wych is celebrating St. Patrick's Day at Fatty N Mabel's.....March 14th
Posted: 3/13/2009 1:18:10 PM
Been looking forward to this for a while. I was so bored last weekend without one of your parties to go to!
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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You and your box
Posted: 3/8/2009 7:12:58 PM

Anyone else out there get funky with the numbers to justify a hardware purchase?

I bought a 24" widescreen monitor last year for $220 including shipping. It's like night and day compared to the 19" CRT I had before.

But, it has a problem. And I discovered it the first day I used it. But, the screen is just so nice otherwise, that I had no intention of sending it back.

It can never be shut off. You see...if it turns off, or even goes into power save mode, there is a very good chance that it won't come back out of power save mode when it's turned back on. It's some malfunction, some defect. So it stays on 24/7, with only the computer having a screen-saver running, not the monitor going into power-save mode.

IF it malfunctions, it goes blank, like a permanent power save mode that it won't come out of. To get it back to normal, I have to plug and unplug the power and video plug from it, and eventually it comes back on.

But, that size screen has only recently come down to that price, a year later. And with no dead pixels, I'm not risking getting a inferior screen. I'll just leave it on. Forever.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Credit cards lowering limits, raising payments
Posted: 3/8/2009 11:37:25 AM
TradurGurl, I have 2 credit cards, actually. The one I use for purchases has the rewards. But I still have the first one I got out of high school. I keep it active by putting one charge a year on it, my AAA membership. It hasn't been cancelled, so you should be fine.

Oh and the $118 check I deposited last month says that I DO get paid to use it. It's not a lot, but it's still free money.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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Does YOUR ride say anything about you?
Posted: 3/8/2009 11:15:54 AM
I bought my car for the price. But, after owning it for a year, I've discovered that I can fit my bike in the back with the front wheel off (my last car, I had to remove BOTH wheels for it to fit!), it's good on gas and has been reliable. All that and it's about to turn over 185,000 miles.

So yeah, I'd buy another one.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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long distance relationship
Posted: 3/7/2009 11:07:58 PM
Doesn't sound to me like he 'just wanted to get laid.' Why the proposal? Because he knew she'd decline? I hardly think that is it.

When you told him he would have to commit to marry you, he followed it up by proposing. You then declined. Do you see how that could confuse a guy? Perhaps there was more in your statement to him, but it doesn't sound like you told him that now is too soon to be talking marriage. You gave him a condition to meet, so he met it. But, you then confused him by declining.

You have been arranging your visits around your work schedule. I think that yes, you need to be the one to continue choosing the timing, I think that's what he is expecting, since that's been how it's been done so far.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
GM threatens to pull the bankruptcy trigger if it doesn't get more money.
Posted: 3/7/2009 2:27:52 PM
There wouldn't be inflated prices, they'd be deflated prices.
Who wants to buy a brand new car with no viable warranty, and no service department to take it to for repairs? Nobody.

I don't care where the money goes. Why do people always think that matters to the consumer? I don't buy a car to drive the economy, or to help the car company, or put the car dealer's kids through school. I buy a car, to get a car. ME. The consumer. That's my ONLY concern.

That is a free market. I can buy from any company. It's up to them to entice me by a combination of price, quality, and service. GM has failed to meet those expectations.
 Sortin
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GM threatens to pull the bankruptcy trigger if it doesn't get more money.
Posted: 3/7/2009 1:06:48 PM
I think everyone that has any form of retirement needs to remind themselves that it is dependent on the success of the company they work for. A warranty is only good as long as there is a company to honor that warranty. When you buy stock in a company, there is the chance that the value will go down, or be eliminated altogether. It's called risk. Some accept it, others whine to the government when things don't go their way.

GM is either in the final stages before it goes under, or they're exaggerating how badly they need bailed out. Either way, they should not get any more money. It's time for the genius executives that get paid so handsomely to earn their pay by figuring out how to survive.

I don't think threatening bankruptcy is going to make investors any more confident in them. If that's their strategy, it's time to start thinking...

What Would Sparta Do?
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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GM threatens to pull the bankruptcy trigger if it doesn't get more money.
Posted: 3/7/2009 12:26:47 PM
I have assumed already that because of their actions, GM WILL FAIL. Now, with that assumption in mind, what can be done to help? Help the supply companies. Give THEM loans to assist them with re-tooling for other production. Don't keep handing money to a failing company. When GM stops producing cars, there will be a SHIFT in demand. The demand won't disappear. Other car companies will make the cars to fill the demand. Give assistance to the suppliers to catch on with supplying the other companies.

There are other ways to avoid the lost jobs. The easiest short-term solution is to keep handing GM money, so they can keep making cars that people don't want. The long-term solution is to let GM go under. Sell off the assets to the other car companies. Let the GM employees live off of their retirement.
 Sortin
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GM threatens to pull the bankruptcy trigger if it doesn't get more money.
Posted: 3/7/2009 11:20:39 AM
SAGuy...that's the only argument against cutting them off that I've heard. The supply companies will suffer.

But how?

The cars GM is making, people aren't buying, correct? So those companies are getting by based on supplying for a demand that really, doesn't exist.
The supply companies will have to find other companies to supply. If they can't, then there is not a demand for their business, and they should cease to exist. That's capitalism.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
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Credit cards lowering limits, raising payments
Posted: 3/7/2009 10:15:11 AM
I use my credit card for everything I possibly can. I buy drinks from the machine at work with it. I buy my lunch at work with it when I can. I buy gas and groceries with it. I pay my electric, phone, and internet bills with it. I pay my car insurance with it. When I buy car parts, or pay someone else to work on my car, I use my card. When I had surgery, I put it on my card. I put EVERYTHING on my card.

Because I get 1-2% cash back. They're paying ME to use it. I pay it off monthly, without paying interest.

Why would you NOT use a credit card? It defers payment for almost a month. YOU get to make interest on that money sitting in the bank.
 Sortin
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Need stock buying advice...
Posted: 3/7/2009 10:09:54 AM
Surely you can get better investment advice from somewhere (or someone) dedicated to that area.
 Sortin
Joined: 2/17/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
GM threatens to pull the bankruptcy trigger if it doesn't get more money.
Posted: 3/7/2009 10:02:51 AM
Agreed. GM is digging a deeper hole for themselves, and they deserve what is coming to them. By threatening to declare bankruptcy, how much confidence do you have in their warranty, as compared to...Ford? Nissan? Honda? Hyundai?

If GM isn't making cars, someone else will.
 Sortin
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Msg: 2 (view)
 
T.F.S.As Tax Free Saving Accounts
Posted: 3/6/2009 7:53:13 PM
What does money sitting in the bank do to help the economy? I understand it gives banks money to lend, but it does nothing for the individual with the account, does it? Sure, it's saving...but that isn't driving the economy.

When people are struggling, it doesn't make any sense to put and keep $500 or $5000 a year into a savings account. If you owe $10,000 on a credit card, and are 3 months behind on your mortgage, you don't put $5000 a year into a savings account, you put it towards your debt.

And lastly...what good is a tax free savings account anyway? What is tax free, the interest income? There was no mention of it being an interest-bearing account, and interest is income, so it gets taxed. Do you get taxed on your savings in Canada?
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This I just do not understand!!!!
Posted: 3/6/2009 11:42:39 AM
Much better. Same picture, but closer. Good job
 Sortin
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This is my story...
Posted: 3/6/2009 6:56:39 AM
A lot of pessimism here.

You like him, he likes you, and you both know it.

The obvious answer is, ask him directly if you could ever be more than a good friend.
But it sounds like you already have that answer, the problem is, it involves waiting, which it sounds like it is not on your agenda. It also involves moving, which neither of you may be willing to do.

You could ask him (directly) what it would take for the distance to no longer be an issue.
Are you willing to move? If not, are you willing to ask him to?
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Terrell Owens cut by the Cowboys
Posted: 3/5/2009 4:42:33 PM
You know, I was just thinking that the Lions are just one decent receiver away from 1-15. T.O. could very well be the player that puts them over that hump.
 Sortin
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This I just do not understand!!!!
Posted: 3/4/2009 4:07:12 PM
Your main picture is supposed to have a *clear* picture of your face. Yours doesn't have a clear picture of your face, so it was probably deleted because of that. As a picture, it's fine. As a *main picture* it's really not. I'm not surprised that it was deleted. If it's a higher resolution photo, trim down the edges to get a clearer view of your face, and maybe then it'd be ok for a main picture.
 Sortin
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Do I need a manicure?
Posted: 3/4/2009 3:36:37 PM
I file mine, and keep them clean. If you do less to maintain your nails than I do, they're probably pretty bad. Paint, gloss, etc isn't necessary.
 Sortin
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Msg: 70 (view)
 
The Wych is partyin' at R Beach in Hernando Beach---Feb. 28
Posted: 2/28/2009 1:35:18 PM

this one is a tad too far for me to drive drink , dance party, drink some more then drive home

Then don't drink, problem solved!
 Sortin
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Msg: 76 (view)
 
Why do men want to meet after a 3 minute conversation?
Posted: 2/27/2009 12:10:27 PM

I guess they think that they will get into the friend zone, which is not true.

Not true for you, but unfortunately, true for many others. Some women have never been treated with respect, so when they do, they think "friend."

As to your question-
Getting to know someone online is about like reading the lyrics to a song. The basic elements are there, but it's just not the same. Your text is no different from the text of a billion other people. The words are different, but there's no voice behind it. There's no body language. No laughter. No energy. Spontaneous responses have to be typed, and sometimes things are lost in translation to text.

I prefer to think of this site as a source of potential people to meet, not people to write back and forth with. I don't look at a profile and think "I wonder if they'd be interesting as a pen pal?" I think..."How might our daily lives be together?" "Would this person join a softball team with me?" "Could we spend a day together doing nothing at all, and not be bored?"

So, the sooner I meet the person, the better.

Breaking up with someone by email/text is impersonal. Why would you want to start a relationship out through those methods alone?
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Msg: 4 (view)
 
Has the down turn in the economy hurt you, at all ?
Posted: 2/25/2009 7:56:32 PM
No, I haven't felt any immediate impact from it.
My stocks are worth less. My 401k is worth less. But I'm confident they will recover. In fact, buying stocks at a lower price now will be a benefit because I can sell them for a bigger profit later.
I have a mortgage, but my house is modest.

Start foreclosing on homes, maybe then people will not make the same mistake in the future. Otherwise, no consequences, no lesson learned.
 Sortin
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Msg: 16 (view)
 
When does a girl cross the line and become desperate?
Posted: 2/25/2009 7:11:31 PM
Hmm...I'd like to see someone try to scare me off with 'too much interest.' I'm not sure it could really be done. Scare a Leo off with attention? NEVER!
 Sortin
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What's really up with this guy..?
Posted: 2/25/2009 6:31:27 PM
The right time to apologize is when you think of it, not a month later.

What don't you get? What are you wanting out of it? YOU describe yourselves as best friends...maybe he thinks that is where you expect it to stay. Maybe due to the distance, or whatever else. He's not married...maybe he doesn't ever intend to get married? Maybe he's seeing someone and doesn't want to fully disclose that to you, because he thinks you'll pull away, which by your reaction so far, I would agree.

Give him a call, apologize, and tell him how frustrating for you it is that you live so far apart, which is why you snapped. All the two of you have now are your phone conversations, and when he won't open up any more of his life to you over the phone, you don't feel like you know him as well as you wish you did. The past is in the past...there's only so much you can talk about it, before it gets redundant.
 
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