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 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
New guy
Posted: 12/4/2009 9:44:31 PM
Two years of dating and your girl is spending so much time with another man and spending Thanksgiving with him and not you..That's a pretty big deal. So sorry,sounds like she's moved on...you should too. Take the high road and end things before she does more to hurt you.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Thanksgiving leftovers.. what to do?
Posted: 11/28/2009 10:43:25 PM
TV DINNERS:

I take the left over food from Thanksgiving and make TV Dinners.

Last year on a sturdy paper plate, like Chinet,

I placed Turkey,mashed potatoes,yams, My veg, and stuffing on a plate...made an indentation in the mashed potatoes and stuffing and poured in some gravy and placed a roll on the plate as well..(not advisable to use cranberry sauce.)

I vacuum sealed the plates and tossed them in my freezer.

When ready to eat,just cut open, Remove the whole frozen dinner from the sealer bags and place on dinner plate and microwave. Or just cook on paper plate,but remove the roll after a few minutes as it takes a shorter time to heat up.

It's wonderful to have a nice Thanksgiving meal any time of year, especially when you just don't feel like cooking.

Enjoy
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Motivation And Great Advice For Male and Female!
Posted: 11/28/2009 9:55:42 PM
OP.Thank you for sharing. great advice. I live by those same principles. Nice to see positive affirmations on here....Cassa..I do not think one MUST post here in a question form and I hope this doesn't go "bye bye."
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 164 (view)
 
how come ladies don't like men who play videogames??
Posted: 11/27/2009 8:29:36 PM
Because they want them to be "plugged in" to them..and not into a monitor day and night.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Current girlfriend keep insisting on meeting my ex...Drama Drama Drama!!!
Posted: 11/17/2009 10:23:36 AM
OP..It seems to me that the only reason your ex wants to meet your current girlfriend is to cause trouble. Why invite that? She sounds like an angry racist. Perhaps tell her that if she can grow up and behave like an adult,you would consider it..in a public place and by all means do not let their first meeting be in front of your children.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 277 (view)
 
Do women cook anymore??
Posted: 11/16/2009 10:23:43 AM
I love to cook for the man in my life and loved ones. I'm Italian and I guess I "love "people with food. I owned my own resturant and really enjoyed creating dishes for others. Now I cook for friends and family all the time.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 41 (view)
 
You can quote me on that ...
Posted: 11/16/2009 12:38:24 AM
"We never touch people so lightly that we do not leave a trace."
ALSO.....
"The stronger the breeze.the stronger the trees."


I forgot where I heard these..but they did leave an impression on me.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Opposite gender roomate
Posted: 11/16/2009 12:28:54 AM
OP..The situation only becomes strange if you let it. Keep lines of communication open with her. If you have a written lease with her,go over it with her and discuss the "what ifs" now rather than betting on them later should matters of the heart get in the way.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
how to get over it!
Posted: 11/15/2009 2:09:38 AM
The best way to get over a man..is to get under another. :)

Seriously... Don't let the immature behavior of the e-mailing ex and his gf get to you..Obviously they aren't focusing on each other if they feel the need to focus on you.

The best revenge on them both will be to see you happy.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
bf has bad time management
Posted: 11/15/2009 12:10:50 AM
Why not quietly tell him you've had enough of his disrespectful behavior. I'm sure he will hear that a lot more. If he truly cares about you,he will change..if not,time to stop yelling and move on.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
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Cantrell mushrooms
Posted: 11/14/2009 8:50:51 PM
OP...The mushrooms you are speaking of are most commonly called Chanterelles. They are great. Many grow here on my property where my Fir trees are.. I have made mushroom soup with them and sauteed them for steak and included diced ones in stuffing,but there are thousands of recipes online. Google "Chanterelle mushroom recipes" and you should get some great ideas. Happy Cooking!
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
I m still confused with my ex's decision
Posted: 10/30/2009 3:17:29 PM
(((Lifeisgoing)))
He is lost...

You will survive this.
You are better off.
You are beautiful.

Be happy
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Cooking with Saffron...any good recipes???
Posted: 10/30/2009 12:02:30 AM
Sure thing...going to cook all the recipes given this coming weekend...Got the pears ready. :)
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Men over 45 who dye their hair
Posted: 10/29/2009 10:35:54 AM
I have seen those jet black dye jobs on men...it looks plain awful and actually makes a man look older. The sharp contrast with hair line and skin looks anything but natural.

I have seen men who have had it done professionally..combed in color..leaving some gray and it looks a little better.

I prefer a natural man....grey where maturity placed it.

No hair..no grey....bald....very sexy :)
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
dating a drug (ecstasy) user
Posted: 10/29/2009 12:00:46 AM
OP...10 years on ecstasy is serious.At this point you are not dealing with the person..but the drug itself. Any "caring" person would not pull you into such a disaster. Sure he is crying out for help. Refer him to rehab.. but keep your distance and only see him again as a friend after he's done his time in rehab. Tell him you must make this healthy choice for yourself.It's not selfish..it's wise. If he truly does care about you and if he can see beyond the warm and fuzzy's of ecstasy,he will understand. Best of luck to you both.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/27/2009 10:16:38 PM
OP..it sounds like your gf is extremely insecure about herself to be jealous of you looking at other women...in a magazine no less..My ex bf was in the hospital after surgery and I took him flowers, a Maxim magazine and a cheeseburger...:)
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Cooking with Saffron...any good recipes???
Posted: 10/27/2009 12:36:53 PM
Lol..I lose the strangest things in the strangest places too,but keeping the saffron in the tin it came in high up on my cupboard. :) Friendly,,,thank you for the pear recipe..I have a few trees and the pears are ripe and falling off now. Your recipe sounds very tasty.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Should I stay or should I go...
Posted: 10/27/2009 11:48:48 AM
OP as the saying goes..."you teach people how to treat you." So true,,and by allowing him to remain in your life with all that you had stated, you are teaching him that this behavior is something you will tolerate..so why should he try harder?

Don't sell yourself short anymore. You are obviously hurt and have trust issues.

Not a good foundation for a new relationship.

If this man is truly in love with you..he should go out of his way to not disappoint you....

Demand better..and you will get better...
Best of luck to you. :)
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Cooking with Saffron...any good recipes???
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:27:13 PM
Thank you again SS..you are a wealth of information. All those recipes sound great. I'm going to make all of them. I'd like a bowl of the soup right now. :)
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Cooking with Saffron...any good recipes???
Posted: 10/25/2009 3:44:29 PM
Smiling Salmon, Wonderful, thank you!
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Cooking with Saffron...any good recipes???
Posted: 10/25/2009 12:54:52 PM
I recently was given a very nice gift of Saffron from friends who have family in Iran. 2 ounces (that's a lot!) of the most expensive spice in the world..only problem is..I don't have a clue as to how to cook with it.

Can anyone share some of their saffron recipes with me?

Thank you!
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Curry lovers..a special breed?
Posted: 10/24/2009 8:21:10 PM
For a nice variation to deviled eggs...add curry to the egg yolk/mayo filling...very tasty.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Chicken and Broccoli Casserole with Curry
Posted: 10/24/2009 5:40:44 PM
Justbunky.....You could leave the mayo out...I have before, and it tasted fine..just not as "sinful." :)
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Chicken and Broccoli Casserole with Curry
Posted: 10/24/2009 2:13:24 PM
I forgot to add...when making first layer of casserole..use 1/2 of the chicken...then proceed with the rest of the recipe....
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Chicken and Broccoli Casserole with Curry
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:58:51 PM
1 Whole Chicken or 6 breasts
1 Lg. can of Cream of Chicken Soup (or 3 small)
1 Cup Mayo
1/8 Cup of Curry powder or a few Tb spoons to taste..(I like lots)
1 1/2 Cup shredded cheddar cheese
2 bunches of Broccoli , (I use just the crowns)
Panko or Bread crumbs



-Place chicken in boiling water and boil for 45 min...(30 min if using breasts)

Meanwhile- Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

-Boil water,add broccoli cook till just barely under done, Rinse under cold water and set aside.

-In bowl mix soup and curry and mayo together

Remove,cool and bone the chicken into lg. bite size pieces.


-In 9x13 in. casserole dish, layer chicken,1/2 broccoli,spoon on and spread soup/mayo/curry mixture, sprinkle on 1/2 cheddar cheese. Repeat with chicken,broccoli,soup/mayo/curry mixture, ending with cheddar cheese...top off casserole with sprinkle of panko or bread crumbs.

Bake at 350 degrees for 45 min.

Enjoy!
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
My gut
Posted: 10/22/2009 4:45:52 PM
OP..so she's telling you that any girl you will find will be extremely happy with you and she cannot take you back? This simply means she is not interested in you. As painful as that is to wrap your mind around. Move on and don't give her any more of your time. Best of luck to you.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/3/2009 8:48:14 PM
I say go for it if you find that you have a lot in common. Some younger men have old souls and can be very mature. I know, I dated a 29 year old when I was 43. We were very happy and we were inseparable for 10 months. We stopped seeing each other, mainly because he wanted a child and I was done with that. but we are still friends.

Follow your heart. Take things slow and have fun.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Food for 400!
Posted: 8/29/2009 3:42:39 PM
I too have cooked for large festivals.....And one of my favs is mango sticky rice with coconut milk......or curried cous cous with yellow raisins..
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Lump-free gravy!
Posted: 12/5/2008 12:43:27 AM
Fast and easy lump free gravy....

Put COLD milk,,,water..broth...whatever you use in a jar.....add your flour..corn starch (even spices if you wish) etc..... screw on lid..shake with vigor...pour into your pan drippings....voila!
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Spinach Salad
Posted: 9/17/2008 12:08:13 AM
Here is my favorite salad to make. I got this recipe from a friend who is a caterer and it always receives raves.

Spinach Salad

1 to 1 1/2 bunch of Spinach...rinse and shake water off leaves
1/2 lb of bacon........cooked "fairly" crisp and cut into small chunks
10 mushrooms..... sliced..(not thinly)
1 or 2 small cans of mandarin oranges (after drained).
1, 1/2 avocado, cut into bite size chunks.

Toss all in bowl and top with following dressing:

1/2 cup olive oil
1/2 cup white vinegar
3 T sugar
1/2 tsp.salt
1/2 tsp. dry mustard
1/2 tsp. paprika
1/3 tsp pepper
1/4 tsp. celery salt
1/4 cup finely chopped red onion

Note:
...Best to make dressing 1 day before for flavors to blend.
....Dress and lightly toss salad just before serving.
....You will have extra dressing left for other salads.

Enjoy
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Stuffed cheese burgers!
Posted: 9/16/2008 12:43:06 AM
Fun and Simple Stuffed cheese burgers for kids to make.

Have them peel red wax off of those Baby Bell cheese rounds .

Poke hole with finger into side of pattie to center.

Pop in the cheese to center

Press meat to seal hole.

Cook per your recipe.

 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
wicked meals from the garden anyone..
Posted: 9/16/2008 12:26:08 AM
On the potatoe planting....I plant them in old/clean tires. Add soil,hay,compost and potatoes and stack more tires as they grow. Since it's well drained taste not affected.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Potatoe Salad
Posted: 9/15/2008 11:26:27 PM
I love making the traditional tater salad. A nice variation is to add a light amount of fresh dill to it.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
The PORK CHOP thread
Posted: 9/7/2008 10:28:11 PM
I love stuffing them. My favorite thing to add to the various stuffing mixes, cornbread etc.... is chopped apples and raisins. Craisins are good too...(dried cranberries)
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
what are the worst cities you've driven in?
Posted: 9/7/2008 6:27:40 PM
Kingston Jamaica.

It's crazy there. The locals drive so fast. They speed up behind you,, pass you forcing you to brake, hit or be hit,pass you on blind turns and there are alot of them on the island.
Narrow roads are packed.
They honk constantly to let you know they are speeding at you in your lane and you have no where to go most of the time. Their laws are so much different than ours in the states when it comes to safety. I was almost hit from two directions at once. I actually thought I was going to die right then and there,but by some miracle and quick action and intense breaking and great control of the car from my friend we missed what would have been a horrible accident.

I love Jamaica and the Jamaicans,,but driving there....Big problem mon!
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Craving....
Posted: 9/4/2008 1:21:11 PM
Every now and then I crave Fried Chicken (homemade) and mashed potatoes and gravy.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
What would you have your own personal chef cook for you?
Posted: 9/4/2008 12:53:39 AM
Super healthy meals and the occasional comfort foods.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
 
What's your favorite secret ingredient?
Posted: 9/3/2008 11:59:24 PM
Deviled Eggs.....

Certainly not a gourmet meal,but I just made this and served these at a party last week with my two secret ingredients and everyone loved them.

I add curry and some honey along with the normal mayo etc mix....

Very tasty.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Am i important to him?
Posted: 9/3/2008 11:41:01 PM
Angelica,

I really feel for you. I have been there where I have felt that angst in my gut when I felt that I had met "the one" for me. Dates went great. He said all the right things..Swept me off my feet and then calls didn't come as I had wished and I was right were you were, wondering and waiting. He had excuse after excuse for his inability to call. Hell, how long does it take to call or text to say, "I'm thinking of you."

Later I realized he wasn't the right guy for me. I'm not saying this one isn't. Just for your own sanity do as the saying goes...Don't make someone a priority in your life if you are just an option in theirs.

It could be that this guy really digs you,,,but don't you think that having the "commitment" talk with him after just 4 dates was a bit soon? Perhaps he was taken off guard and felt on the spot to answer "no there's only you."

My suggestion is to keep yourself busy. Don't call him. If he truly wants to talk to you, He will call. You are a beautiful,don't waste your time waiting,,accept other date offers and when you give your time to those who want to call and be with you,the wait won't his call won't consume you.

My best wishes to you.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
gone of sex
Posted: 9/2/2008 3:14:56 PM
Correction=

Have (you )been on any medications.....

not have (to) been on medications.. :)
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
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gone of sex
Posted: 9/2/2008 3:13:05 PM
Yes OP,,,,

It could very well be a hormonal imbalance. Do check with your ob/gyn.
Also..have to been on any medications that could cause this? Certain anti-depressants and other meds can cause a total lack of desire for sex. Another thing to discuss with your doc.

Best of luck to you.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
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Does it matter I had cancer in the past?
Posted: 9/1/2008 9:29:40 PM
Ebony,
I had a very rare and agressive form of breast cancer. Having gone through surgeries,chemo and radiation, I am proud of my scar. Now single, it has never detoured anyone who I date. You may not be able to see it in my photo,but it is there. Yours may lighten through the years or it may not. I tell everyone from the beginning that I am survivor. Of course all of us have a chance of getting it back,but we can all be hit by a bus tomorrow too. As you know life is short. If a man truly loves you he will accept everything about you. Hold your head up high and your confidence and strong spirit will show and be more visable than any scars.

Blessings to you

The stronger the breeze..The stronger the trees.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 43 (view)
 
How do I handle this? Help!
Posted: 9/1/2008 4:11:23 PM
I have not read all your responses so this may have been said before.

Your husband sounds like a good guy. He's assuring you he loves you and doesn't want anything to do with the intended homewrecker. He is also not having anything to do with his family drama.

It sounds like his family is just jealous of you, your relationship with your husband,(hence telling you someone else is interested in him), and it sounds like they have no life.

The best way to combat such weeds is to just show them how happy you are with your man and tell them you feel sorry for them. They are getting something out of upsetting you,,they will get no fuel for their actions if you show them otherwise.

Best of luck.
 oceaneyess
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Do i delete my exs number?
Posted: 8/26/2008 8:51:11 PM
A man broke my heart. I couldn't bring myself to delete his number. I somehow felt that just seeing his name there meant he was still in my life.
My advise to you is put a small band aid on the phone. If you have the urge to call her, look at that band aid and remember how insensitive she was to your feelings and that YOU deserve better. Delete it when you are ready....that time will come. Hopefully,buy the time that band-aid falls off.
 
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