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 Author Thread: Holding Onto Your Virginity an Issue
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 134 (view)
 
Holding Onto Your Virginity an Issue
Posted: 11/29/2016 1:31:15 PM
Being asexual, I'd have no problem with a woman not wanting to have sex before marriage. But would she be okay with me not wanting to have sex after marriage?
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 51 (view)
 
The Worst Dating Advice Your Parents Have Given You
Posted: 12/22/2015 11:30:46 AM
My mother told me it wasn't like in Catcher in the Rye. As I wasn't the one who'd been reading Catcher in the Rye, that was particularly useless.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 137 (view)
 
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 7/10/2015 9:19:26 AM
I had a reverse midlife crisis, buying a house and moving in with a woman who had a preteen daughter. Big mistake.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 176 (view)
 
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 7/10/2015 9:12:42 AM
I wouldn't ask, but if the subject came up, I would tend to think that a woman with a large number of past lovers would be unsuited to me, given my own asexual nature.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 426 (view)
 
Do men really like submissive women?
Posted: 5/5/2015 4:32:02 PM
I'm a quiet, non-aggressive type myself, so I'd like someone who's also like that; someone who's too loud and aggressive would overwhelm me.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 68 (view)
 
Should polygamy be legal?
Posted: 4/23/2015 10:11:09 AM

LGBT marriage should be legal......... At least according to the crowd that preaches "tolerance". However, that very same crowd preaches "intolerance" when it comes to religions wanting to exercise their rights. So, while LGBT marriage becomes legal across the land, don't expect things like polygamy to follow suit. Tolerance is only supported where it supports the "special interests".


Polygamy strikes me as a much more complicated case than gay marriage. A gay marriage would work the same way as a heterosexual marriage, with a spouse having the same rights and privileges and responsibilities; you just need to change the law to stop unfairly discriminating against gay couples. For polygamy, however, you'd have to consider how every law relating to marriage is affected, from can one person add a new spouse or must all previous spouses agree, to how you handle death benefits, and everything in between.

So I wholeheartedly support gay marriage and would consider allowing polygamy as well, but I think polygamy needs a lot more defining before that consideration can be made.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 600 (view)
 
How do sexually conservative people survive in dating?
Posted: 3/9/2015 6:13:46 PM

You know, normally I'm a proponent of equality, but, tbh, I agree. Eventually, all men WILL badger for sex. What it comes down to, more or less, is who can hold out the longest.

And no one really wins in that kind of contest....(because, I mean, who doesn't like sex?)


I'm a man and wouldn't badger for sex, because I honestly have no interest in having sex with anyone.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Is there anybody that is really happy in their lives?
Posted: 3/2/2015 12:08:37 PM
I'm happy with my life. I retired from my job, and spend my time doing things I enjoy, although someone else to share them with would be a nice addition sometimes.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 48 (view)
 
No Hobbies listed = Not worth talking to.
Posted: 3/2/2015 12:05:17 PM
Hobbies are important to me. We can plan trips together if she likes photography and museums and science fiction conventions like I do, while we can't if she likes mountain climbing and kayaking. And I'd like to have books and movies and TV shows that we can share and discuss.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 500 (view)
 
Should men color the gray
Posted: 2/21/2015 10:37:43 AM
I don't bother doing it. Gray hair is a sign of getting older, but coloring it wouldn't make me any younger. It's like turning back the odometer on a car.
 tedjmill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Astrology, psychic's, guessing and just plain b.s.
Posted: 2/17/2015 2:06:01 PM
How many supposed psychics in New York City? 100s, 1000s?
Of those, how many were at the World Trade Center on 9/11, getting people out before the first plane hit? None.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Speed dating
Posted: 1/27/2015 7:09:47 PM
I've considered it, though in my case it may be too much time for each woman. I could ask "Are you okay with no sex, ever?", she'd say "No", and I'd say "Next!"
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Being friends with the opposite sex.
Posted: 1/16/2015 3:56:16 PM

You lost me at 'friends with the opposite sex'. Why?


In my case, anyway, for the same reason I have friends of the same sex: to discuss books, play assorted games, etc. I'm not going to give up virtually all of my Meetup groups just because they include female members. And any girlfriend who wanted me to give them up is too paranoid or too religiously strict or whatever for me to date.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 89 (view)
 
Ever love someone, but could not live with or plan a future with him or her?
Posted: 1/16/2015 3:46:07 PM
I had a girlfriend who I'd say I loved, and it was very nice getting together a couple of times a week. But when we got a place together, I felt like I'd given up my life.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Sex and Astrological Signs
Posted: 12/14/2014 12:01:01 PM
I don't believe in either of those.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 79 (view)
 
Dating rate
Posted: 12/9/2014 1:20:22 PM
Five in a year was my highest, one or two a year was more typical, and zero a year quite common.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Social Life
Posted: 12/9/2014 1:16:06 PM

I'm a Meet Up addict.


Meet Up is my main social life; I've got a variety of book discussion groups and gaming groups that I go to.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 135 (view)
 
How should Xmas and New Year be spent in your eyes?
Posted: 12/9/2014 1:11:59 PM
In my my case, since I'm Jewish and a party vegetable, both are basically stay home and watch television.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Would you agree that dating gets harder as you get older?
Posted: 12/4/2014 1:49:04 PM
Dating was always hard for me, so it's not really harder as I'm older.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Do you care about a womans number ?
Posted: 8/26/2013 4:21:49 PM
I'd care, since a woman with a larger number might not be compatible with my own lack of interest in sex.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 15 (view)
 
random funnies
Posted: 8/12/2013 4:02:08 PM

Why do jockeys ride horses?


Because it would look silly the other way around.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 80 (view)
 
Red flag or honest mistake?
Posted: 6/19/2013 11:18:19 AM

tell him you like cuddling, but you would have to go on at least 10 dates with someone before you'd sleep with him. That will get him to stop writing.


Not me, though; I'd be pleased with that response.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Do orgasms get rid of headaches
Posted: 6/19/2013 11:13:53 AM

So whats with the "not tonite honey I have a headache stuff"?


It should be "Not tonight, I DON'T have a headache."
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Childfree life
Posted: 4/24/2013 1:24:06 PM
I don't want kids of my own; I like being an uncle better. My brother and sister both have children, so I can visit, spend time with the kids, buy them presents, tell people the latest about my nieces and nephews, etc. But afterward I can go home and have my time to myself, without the responsibility.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Jury duty
Posted: 4/21/2013 3:31:03 PM
I've been on jury duty a few times, but never managed a complete trial; I'd be rejected in voir dire, or the defendant would decide to settle or plea bargain partway. I just retired from my job recently, so now I'd like to be called for jury duty.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 472 (view)
 
The Kinky Test
Posted: 4/14/2013 3:32:27 PM
Would you believe 45?
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Which Big Bang Theory character are you?
Posted: 4/9/2013 5:44:45 PM
I tried a quiz and got Leonard.
Though in reality I have aspects of all four of the guys.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 140 (view)
 
Have you become so Jaded that you think you will never marry?
Posted: 4/7/2013 6:05:37 PM
I wouldn't say jaded, but I know what I want and don't want now. I'm not interested in sex, and I wouldn't want someone to live with all the time, just someone to get together once or twice a week; marriage wouldn't work for me.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
A woman's revenge...
Posted: 4/1/2013 8:56:30 AM
Though it's cleverer if she can come up with a third wish which is good for her but bad for him.
How about "I wish that no matter what I eat, I will always be the perfect weight for my height"?
So she can eat whatever she wants and never have to diet, while her ex is morbidly obese and can't lose it by dieting.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Your last glass of wine
Posted: 3/28/2013 1:17:05 PM
I had Kedem grape juice instead of wine at the Passover seder.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Anime Fans?
Posted: 3/6/2013 7:43:37 AM
I'm a fan of anime, and go to anime conventions regularly. My favorite series include Azumanga Daioh, Death Note, Tenchi Muyo, and Ranma 1/2.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 167 (view)
 
Common 'run for the hills' lines you hear
Posted: 2/26/2013 12:46:28 PM

"I won't have sex until marriage"


I didn't have a problem when a woman told me that; we had several dates after that.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 173 (view)
 
What is your Bail?
Posted: 2/20/2013 6:44:40 AM
I'm still under a hundred at $95.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 105 (view)
 
Common 'run for the hills' lines you hear
Posted: 2/20/2013 6:40:01 AM

"I voted for Obama."


Me, I'd find "I'm a conservative Republican" a dealbreaker line.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 187 (view)
 
Over 45 & never married...............
Posted: 2/19/2013 10:09:34 AM

How many here feel like they're from another planet for never being married by now?


Never being married is just one of the reasons I feel like I'm from another planet.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 82 (view)
 
Valentine's day for singles..
Posted: 2/15/2013 10:19:17 AM
I went out to dinner by myself, with a book to read. The place was a kosher deli, so it didn't really attract crowds of romantic couples.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Typos in news headlines
Posted: 2/14/2013 11:31:37 AM
Not a typo, but an interesting alternate interpretation:
"Howl's Moving Castle" Breaks Box Office in Korea
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 834 (view)
 
would you marry for money?
Posted: 2/13/2013 7:54:02 AM
No. I'm actually going to be retiring from my job soon, and I have enough money for a reasonable lifestyle. Having to be married to someone would be too much work, particularly since I don't care about having a fancier lifestyle.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 147 (view)
 
ASKING FOR A KISS?
Posted: 2/7/2013 8:06:37 AM
After 4 dates with one woman, I was considering asking "Should we be kissing good night by now?", but she cancelled the 5th date and never re-scheduled, so I didn't get a chance.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Calling 3 months after first date?
Posted: 2/7/2013 7:15:52 AM
I dated one woman once or twice, and nothing came of it then. Nearly a year later she called me to get together, and we had 4 dates in a 3-week period. Judging by her emphasizing that she didn't believe in sex before marriage, my guess is that during the intervening time she'd dated men who were too sexually aggressive for her, and she called me because I hadn't been like that.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 16 (view)
 
She says sex isn't important. What does that mean?
Posted: 2/3/2013 5:50:21 PM

A woman has told me before that sex isn't that important. She even said she could do without! To the world; Do you feel anyone can really go without sex? How important is sex to you and would you ever consider doing without???


There's me. I'm a 54-year-old male virgin, and I've never been interested in having sex with anybody, including when I lived with a girlfriend and shared a bed.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Would you date a woman who makes 1/4 of what you do?
Posted: 1/28/2013 12:25:13 PM
I was involved with a woman who made a lot less than me, and it didn't work well; I had to pay for everything, and felt like she was taking advantage of me. I mean, we were on vacation, I'd paid for the trip, and it turns out she didn't bother bringing along any cash or credit cards at all to pay for a single meal or souvenir.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Using humor in profiles
Posted: 1/28/2013 12:15:42 PM
I wouldn't find your profile very useful, since it's ONLY humor, with nothing actually about you.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Do you find virginity attractive or annoying?
Posted: 1/24/2013 6:51:45 AM
As I'm a virgin, her being a virgin as well might be an indication of compatibility.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 48 (view)
 
Number of Sexual Partners......and Regrets???
Posted: 1/8/2013 6:57:35 AM
My "slut year" was the one I had first dates with five women; my typical year is one or two first dates.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Talking and asking questions during sex!!!
Posted: 1/2/2013 2:11:01 PM
Did anyone else read the title and imagine asking questions like "So where did you go to school?" or "Read any good books lately?" during sex?
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 17 (view)
 
happy ending massages
Posted: 1/2/2013 2:06:52 PM
How about a "happy ending" sundae at Friendly's? Is that cheating on your diet?
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 286 (view)
 
Can you forgive a one time cheater?
Posted: 1/2/2013 1:57:45 PM
The situation's never actually come up, but hypothetically, yes I could. My reaction would be more that it's an indication we need to discuss our relationship, rather than being angry.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Why dont guys like girls who like football?
Posted: 12/30/2012 9:16:35 AM
In my case it would be because I'm a guy who doesn't like football.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 54 (view)
 
dating the old way better than internet?
Posted: 12/28/2012 6:36:27 AM
I find that on-line dating gives me a lot MORE information than encountering someone in person. I suck at reading people and body language and all that; I'd have no idea whether a person I see in some real-life situation is someone I might be interested in or who might be interested in me. Whereas on-line there's a profile, with interests and goals and what the person is looking for; that at least gives me an idea whether she's worth a shot or not.
 
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