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 Author Thread: I'll f**k you but I won't date you
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 37 (view)
I'll f**k you but I won't date you
Posted: 1/11/2012 1:10:28 AM
"Pretty annoying we live in a society nowadays where everyone agrees it's her fault the guys are manipulative lying horn dogs.

Now she is going to turn into the prude stuck up **** people write "had 4 dates and she won't give it up" threads about."

love, love, love this.
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 1 (view)
trying to role-play safe sex in advance
Posted: 10/21/2009 9:27:55 AM
i can never believe how many men are willing to have unprotected sex.
in my mind, this is never a good thing...but i never know how to deal with it in a good way.

in your experience,
what is the best way to get over this...
what can i practice saying or doing in advance so i am ready in the future to handle this type of awkward situation?
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 62 (view)
If she has the condoms is that a good thing?
Posted: 4/30/2009 7:52:51 AM
i think the OP is correct...she is probably too sexually active.
think about it -- if she has her own condoms, it is likely that she has had sex before,
and she might even like it!!!


i give kudos to any women that takes responsibility for her sexual pleasure and her health...i am always surprised at the number of men that still want to fool around without protection. DUH! I still follow the 'condoms for 6 months minimum' .
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 71 (view)
a genetic aversion
Posted: 4/26/2009 9:19:26 AM

a genetic aversion!!!???
to sitting next to lesbians???!!

hahhhhahhahah it contagious? please. this unjust and unreasonable vilification and hatred is more disgusting than anything gays and lesbians do.
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 59 (view)
Men wanting women only and not other men
Posted: 4/25/2009 7:46:19 AM
Hi Luv n theory...
just in case you think you are missing something...
i think your theory is totally correct...and i have heard / seen many of the same things.
lately most of the guys i hook up with are starting to ask me to penetrate them...if you know what i mean.

there is so much homo-phobia out my mind...sexuality is all a social construct anyway. geez, what difference could it possible make on which gender is giving pleasure?
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 62 (view)
would you date someone who is not capable of intercourse?
Posted: 11/18/2008 11:49:30 PM
i would date someone who is not capable of intercourse.
i even think i would prefer a partner that was not into sex. i cannot help but wonder where i could find a man like that. (wink)
am i the only one that thinks that sex tends to mess everything else up?
i have often wondered why sexual compatability always seems to be prioritized...when it is the other areas of compatibility that sustain a relationship past the initial lust phase. I figure if a man was not into sex with me, but still wanted to be with me...this would be a great way to know he was into me for more than just grreat sex.
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 10 (view)
Why do 40 yo guys hit on me?
Posted: 9/21/2008 10:13:38 PM
i saw the funniest response to this issue on 'Two and a Half Men"....
Charlie Sheen's character turns to try to pick up a cute younger woman, and she looks at him directly and says"not a chance. i don't have daddy issues" (rotfl)
i figure men hit on 18 year olds cause the odds are in their favour, for every 18 year with her life in order, there are probably 5 others who don't.
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 109 (view)
single mom body issues - not just stretch marks!
Posted: 9/16/2008 1:19:24 PM
surely there are other body issues that single moms have other than stretch marks? c'mon...anyone courageous enough to mention any other body issues arising from childbirth?
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 298 (view)
Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 9/16/2008 11:20:39 AM
There is such an obvious answer to this question:
'cause if you do not like me enough to go out with me at least three times,
i do not want to have sex with you. i can have meaningless sex with any one of my glorious magnificent vibrators. the whole reason i am in the dating world is cause i want more than that. (geez) (lol)
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 1 (view)
why does success not work the same for both genders?
Posted: 8/25/2008 5:41:07 PM
what do you think about the following observation that success does not attract men the same way as success attracts women? Anything we can do to help bring about a societal shift? Just wondering...and looking forward to hearing your answers....

Matthew Syed was writing about "Sex and the Olympics' and he noted the intriguing dichotomy between the sexes in respect of all this coupling. The chaps who win gold medals - even those as geeky as Michael Phelps - are the principal objects of desire for many female athletes. There is something about sporting success that makes a certain type of woman go crazy - smiling, flirting and sometimes even grabbing at the chaps who have done the business in the pool or on the track. An Olympic gold medal is not merely a route to fame and fortune; it is also a surefire ticket to writhe.

But - and this is the thing - success does not work both ways. Gold-medal winning female athletes are not looked upon by male athletes with any more desire than those who flunked out in the first round. It is sometimes even considered a defect, as if there is something downright unfeminine about all that striving, fist pumping and incontinent sweating. Sport, in this respect, is a reflection of wider society, where male success is a universal desirable whereas female success is sexually ambiguous. I do not condone this phenomenon, merely note it. Not all athletes are finely tuned specimens of perfect physical health, of course. A fair number are smokers, not prepared to give up despite the nagging of coaches and physiologists. At Barcelona, there was an area where the puffers would congregate near the transport mall. At the table tennis events in Beijing, a male player from Serbia and another from Greece have often been out catching a drag during breaks in play.
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 505 (view)
Expain the phrase My children are my top priority?
Posted: 7/7/2008 1:19:39 PM
I always translate the phrase to meaning "I have no ability to compromise".
why do people need to choose one or the other...I prefer those that try to make both the children and the partner happy.
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 13 (view)
Okay, serious question, Girlfriend wants to be my love slave tonight
Posted: 6/19/2008 5:25:12 PM
the best thing my former boyfriend would do is bring me those porn magazines with letters dedicated to whatever he wanted me to think about (i.e. domination)...he would give me enough time and space to let me read different approaches and come up with ideas and fantasies on my own. I think this is a great approach for women.,..because we tend to be more intellectually stimulated than visually stimulated. sooo...make sure you get the real porn...not the airbrushed ones.
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 17 (view)
why do most white guy, there open 2 race,but if your not white or latina then there not interested??
Posted: 6/16/2008 7:58:25 PM
personally, think it is cause they like to believe they are not racists...
cause we live in a society where we like to politely hide our racism...a society in which our racial biases have been so deeply embedded in our society that we do not even see them any more. but if you really think about -- in today's multicultural and plural society, there is simply no valid justification for selection practices based on ancestry / racism alone. however, i will concede that cultural practices do have a role for some people...but that is a whole other story for another time.
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 134 (view)
Men dating single mothers
Posted: 6/16/2008 5:23:37 PM
[Children do not need to see a parade of men wander through their lives. It only teaches them that men are transient and not to be depended upon.]

Re: Mr. Sullen's post:

...surely it is clear by now that men ARE transient and should NOT be depended upon. that is generally why we ended up as single parents! geez.
the movie VOLVER with Penelope Cruz captures this theme so well...i highly recommend it for any trying to vision a more consistent view of life, a vision that is based upon the solidarity of women.

ms. single parent ( who just happens to be over-educated, make a lot of cash, works a great job with lots of benefits, and still has a lot of realistic dreams.)
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 29 (view)
Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/29/2008 12:05:19 AM

i find the crazy ones are always better in bed....
they are just messed up about everything else!
so...find some nice crazy guy and let loose...
and don't limit yourself to some outdated notion that only girls in relationships are allowed to have sex.
avoid the compartmentalization of good girl versus slut..and then ENJOY yourself!!
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 1 (view)
making oral sex taste better
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:39:45 AM
I was reading 'Le Divorce', about the American who goes to France after her divorce and meets an older man who teaches her a lot sexually. At one point, he instructed her to drink peach essences to maximize her sweetness. i also vaguely remember hearing that if men eat celery and drink apple juice, it tastes the best.
Makes me wonder...what do YOU recommend for men or women to eat or drink to help oral sex taste the best...i.e. the sweetest (women) or smoothiest (men). what have you heard that works?
(and do not even try to tell me that what you eat does not affect how you taste -- cause it does!)
(and please do not delete if this is a repetitive thread...cause even tho i am pretty sure it has been covered before, i really do want to know)
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
How open about sexual preferences on first dates?
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:13:08 AM
seriously flawed logic...
if most women are bi...then why would it make a difference or not if they admitted it?
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 93 (view)
How to ask g/f to shave/trim her public hairs
Posted: 9/8/2007 1:26:54 AM
you could also ask for her opinion on it...
then, once you find out why she doesn't do it...
figure out the appropriate response.
i.e. it makes me nervous...i will come to the salon with you.
i am too much of a feminist to let the porn industry influence me...give up completely.
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 22 (view)
Betrayal of Your loved one with your sister
Posted: 3/17/2007 1:50:04 PM
i had the same thing happen to me 2X...
with 2 different sisters and 2 different partners.

the best advice i heard from a counselor was to not take on their stupidity and inadequacies as my own --
let them live their own lives and make their own mistakes..
just cause they are idiots without loyalty, should not change how i live my life.

(oh yeah...what goes around, comes around...they will get karma one day)
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 10 (view)
all in the way you view your place in the world
Posted: 3/17/2007 6:11:01 AM
your questions relates to how you see your place in the world, and in your relationships with significant others.
my advice -- stop taking on other people's issues as your own --
give him another chance...if you want to (which is probably why you are still asking the question)
but do not invest so much of yourself in it.
the hardest things about a relationship is that you can only control and be responsible for your actions...
if he messes up or decides he does not want the is not you, it is him.
so....stop being the passive recipient of everyone's crap.
and start figuring out and then living for your own needs and desires.
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 206 (view)
Posted: 2/15/2007 9:07:36 AM
isn't it just slightly ironic that you are dissing Rosie for dissing Anna...
Like the rest of us, they are both doing the best they can...and I think they should both be left in peace.
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 23 (view)
what causes men and women to be cruel?
Posted: 11/17/2006 9:20:20 PM
This poem was amazing and inspirational.
Thanks so much!!!
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 21 (view)
When will it ever stop
Posted: 11/17/2006 9:17:33 PM
the thing to remember is that the marriage was ending long before for your x -- the one that ended it...that is most likely why she can move onto someone else while you are not ready for this yet. Marriages do not end over night...when they do...the person that makes the choice has been thinking about it for a long time.

You have got to move on...focus on other your life and let her live hers. Stop the judgement. The world will not end if the kids see their mother / your x kiss someone else. Finally -- figure out the root cause of the work addiction -- there was something you were running from or running to...spend this time figuring out why you took this path of work addiction instead of being a family addict -- once you have figured this out, you will be in a much better position to deal with the true issues, not the superficial / surface issues.
 anna freedom
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 21 (view)
how do u move on when a wife finds out
Posted: 6/20/2006 8:04:33 AM
Just to be clear, the problem with these xtra marital affairs is the dishonesty and deceit involved. Many married people come to a cross-roads in their sex life -- it is how you deal with it -- if you cannot handle talking to your spouse about it, then you must find your answers without the dishonesty and deceit.
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