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 Author Thread: Nude beaches- thoughts and experiences
 beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Nude beaches- thoughts and experiences
Posted: 3/12/2018 8:09:11 PM

There's no nude beaches that I know of on the Canadian prairies.


The Canadian prairies are notoriously spacious, but if you're anywhere near Edmonton, you could look up Cottontail Corner (when the weather warms up).
 beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Riding a sybian
Posted: 3/12/2018 8:01:46 PM
You're all behind the times. The machine that makes 'em melt is the Womanizer.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Why not an Over 60 forum ?
Posted: 5/11/2017 1:18:20 PM

I don't like to be too conscious of my age (I'm 64), but I get the impression a lot of the women aren't interested in what they see as a clapped-out old git LOL.


Now that you've said that, I wish you had mentioned the age range of the women you're writing to. I wouldn't expect a woman in her 60s to think "clapped-out old git" about a man her age, but if you're chasing the young chicks, that might well be the response.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 328 (view)
 
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 5/11/2017 1:12:19 PM
I'm not single, but I look through here sometimes just for fun. And recently I did a "what if" look at single women in my area, and looked at age range 55-70 (I'm 65). It was interesting to see that there were a fair number of women in the lower part of that age range, from 55 to 59. But 60 and over, there were very few. It could be that women born pre-1957 aren't on the internet, or it could be that once people turn 60, they give up on online dating. Anyway, it does seem to bear out the title of this thread, that it's slim pickings over 60.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
It's all about the chemistry sunset clause !
Posted: 2/26/2017 9:13:47 AM

I don't feel that spark!


Or as the S&M people would say, "I don't feel that spank."
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Zombie tits (still sagging?)
Posted: 8/3/2016 10:28:15 PM
We'd all be happier if everyone followed my plan, and that is, I think they're all good. Big, small, high up or low down--no bad boobs. All lovely. Why would I ever complain?
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 237 (view)
 
Being unrealistic about temperature of potential dates?
Posted: 7/27/2016 6:40:06 AM
As good old Ben Franklin said, supposedly to a young man:

But if you persist in thinking a Commerce with the Sex inevitable, then I repeat my former Advice, that in all your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. You call this a Paradox, and demand my Reasons. They are these:

1. Because as they have more Knowledge of the World and their Minds are better stor'd with Observations, their Conversation is more improving and more lastingly agreable.

2. Because when Women cease to be handsome, they study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Men, they supply the Diminution of Beauty by an Augmentation of Utility. They learn to do a 1000 Services small and great, and are the most tender and useful of all Friends when you are sick. Thus they continue amiable. And hence there is hardly such a thing to be found as an old Woman who is not a good Woman.

3. Because there is no hazard of Children, which irregularly produc'd may be attended with much Inconvenience.

4. Because thro' more Experience, they are more prudent and discreet in conducting an Intrigue to prevent Suspicion. The Commerce with them is therefore safer with regard to your Reputation. And with regard to theirs, if the Affair should happen to be known, considerate People might be rather inclin'd to excuse an old Woman who would kindly take care of a young Man, form his Manners by her good Counsels, and prevent his ruining his Health and Fortune among mercenary Prostitutes.

5. Because in every Animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part: The Face first grows lank and wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower Parts continuing to the last as plump as ever: So that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding2 only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old from a young one. And as in the dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal, and frequently superior, every Knack being by Practice capable of Improvement.

6. Because the Sin is less. The debauching a Virgin may be her Ruin, and make her for Life unhappy.

7. Because the Compunction is less. The having made a young Girl miserable may give you frequent bitter Reflections; none of which can attend the making an old Woman happy.

8thly and Lastly They are so grateful!!
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 62 (view)
 
As a Baby Boomer From the 60's Now IN His 60's...
Posted: 7/27/2016 6:26:48 AM
They used to say "Die young and leave a good-looking corpse". Well, I never found that a very tempting idea, and now it's out of the question.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Bring Back Petticoats
Posted: 7/27/2016 6:16:18 AM
[Me:] I say bring back petticoats. And forget about panties.

Oh no no no! What is more delightfull than her treasures tightly wrapped in white (or near white)? ….. Oooooo!


What's more delightful is her treasures open to the air, covered only with a hanging skirt (plus petticoat, maybe) that's so easily lifted... But we each have our own Oooooos.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Bring Back Petticoats
Posted: 7/25/2016 7:18:44 AM
I say bring back petticoats. And forget about panties. Oh for the good old days when every lady went about with a bare crotch!
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 157 (view)
 
Nymphomania.
Posted: 7/4/2016 8:42:58 AM
So many of us want pork, but we have to settle for beef jerky.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 126 (view)
 
MEN What's up with the dick pics??!!
Posted: 7/4/2016 8:40:40 AM
It's an effort by guys who want to prop up their hopes that they can dominate women. They send of an image of their genitals and have the idea that it makes a woman react somehow, which in the man's mind means that he has power over the woman. It doesn't matter much if she loves the picture or hates it, the belief for him is that he's used his sexuality to influence her.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Body Odor...can it be a turn on for you?
Posted: 4/8/2014 4:16:24 PM
Wow, here's a blast from the past--I just skimmed through postings on the most recent page, and there was one of mine from 3/10/2009 1:35:05 PM, over 5 years ago. And I wouldn't change a single word.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 302 (view)
 
For The Guys- Would you seriously date an ex-prostitute?
Posted: 4/18/2013 5:56:04 AM
I think it's a question of how long ago, and what she thinks about it now. As a middle-aged person, there's a lot of past life to look over, and maybe a few mistakes or things that "happened back then". If I met a woman now, who had been a prostitute years ago--whether she says "I must have been crazy" or "Awful awful awful experience, never again" or "It wasn't as bad as you might think, but I'm out of that game now"--I'm sure I wouldn't walk out on her.

I'm not sure if I'd want to hear her stories, or prefer it if she pretended to have forgotten everything! One thing I'm certain of, a prostitute gets to see men at their worst. So would she despise all men forever, or know what she's looking for?
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 48 (view)
 
Going on a date with NO intention of having sex
Posted: 3/21/2013 10:20:30 AM
It seems a lot of people here live on a different planet from me. If I went on a date with someone I didn't already know well, I'd expect her to think I was very rude if I tried to have sex with her when we'd hardly met. And if she made it clear that sex was what she expected, I'd think she was pretty rude too, and thinking the same about me. Basically I see sex as too intimate to do with a person you don't know much about. It's also dangerous--there are various things you can do to have "safe sex" but the first step is doing it with someone you trust. And how can that be a stranger?
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 162 (view)
 
Fear of getting naked?
Posted: 3/15/2013 2:51:45 PM

One thing I'll say, remembering this is the over-45 section, is you're not likely to be seeing perfection, and you're not likely to be offering it either. On the other hand, you can offer what you have, and accept what someone else has, and agree that it's all freely shared. Approach it like that, and nobody needs to be afraid.



Wow. My favorite response thus far.

My favorite response as well !


Har har. You see how to get the girls, fellas?
Good luck to you ladies.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 41 (view)
 
How does a woman successfully teach a man how she likes to be touched?
Posted: 3/15/2013 2:40:16 PM
OK, here's an idea. Say, "It looks like you want to have sex with me, and I want to have sex with you. And I'll do it at [maybe 20 minutes in the future?] IF you keep your hands on me till then." And make it clear that you'll keep your hands on him too. Maybe the demand should be "stay in physical contact" really, and it could be either one's hands or both, but some period of touching is the deal. It might help him if you make it clear that there will be sex, but if he knows how long he has to hold off, he may be more able to live through it. But if 10 minutes go be and he says, "I'm bored" then you might have to face the fact that he's not a keeper.

Great profile for intellectuals. I say you deserve to find one.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 146 (view)
 
Fear of getting naked?
Posted: 3/12/2013 4:54:58 PM

OP .. try this: When you are with the guy at his home or yours, wear a sexy 'corset' , some thigh high stockings and heels and bikini panties. He won't have any idea that you are not 'flawless' and he won't care when he sees you. Have some sultry music going on in the background, turn down the lights and light strategically placed candles. Act seductive. Mission accomplished. He goes home (if he goes home) .. a very happy man, and YOU had a very wonderful erotic evening.

It works !


What a turn-off that would be for me. I'd feel as if I were being manipulated with every stale cliche in existence. Shouldn't it be black underwear, too?

No, just regular underwear for a regular body. Say "I think we're ready for bed" and when you get there, take off your clothes, or each other's. That's all you have to do.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Advice Needed?
Posted: 3/9/2013 12:28:26 PM
I think you should just tell her...You're obviously a person who avoids superficial fads, and for me they're a fetish. We plainly have no future together.

Then heave a deep sigh, and depart never to return.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 129 (view)
 
Fear of getting naked?
Posted: 3/9/2013 11:49:16 AM
One thing I'll say, remembering this is the over-45 section, is you're not likely to be seeing perfection, and you're not likely to be offering it either. On the other hand, you can offer what you have, and accept what someone else has, and agree that it's all freely shared. Approach it like that, and nobody needs to be afraid.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Is there such thing as too many sex partners?
Posted: 3/9/2013 11:35:54 AM
Maybe a person who was really spreading it around when they were young would have regrets about it a couple of decades later, but more likely they'd just shrug and say, "That's what I did back then. Call me crazy. Maybe I was."

Now that I'm middle aged (and admitting it!) I wouldn't hassle anyone over what they did in their wild young days, even if mine were pretty tame. The issue would be how are you living right now, and are you ready to settle down? Perhaps I'd be willing to say let's see how things go for a while, and if it doesn't work out, then you're free to go back to prowling, but it's got to be an exclusive thing as long as we're together. No moral judgments, but let's be clear about what we want.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 214 (view)
 
No bras and nipples
Posted: 3/7/2013 5:24:14 PM
It's always nice to see a woman's natural breasts and part of that is the thought that she's not shy or ashamed of her body. Not that I'd ever do more than take a discreet peep, because I wouldn't want to embarrass her--let her have a good experience and keep doing it, not go home muttering "OMG never again, must wear the damn thing from now on".

I think I must be an ol' hippie from way back, because I don't think low-hanging breasts are unattractive at all. It really does a lot of harm that we've got this idea that a woman's body has to be some particular way and if it's not, then it's awful and disgusting and has to be strapped up into some shape that's socially approved. Ladies, just let them be, and if I'm smiling a little then maybe it's because I just saw something I liked.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Bring back the bush
Posted: 2/19/2013 12:39:07 PM

IF anyone has any tricks or products that keep you from getting ingrown hairs please share.


Sure. Leave the hair to grow the way it wants.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 59 (view)
 
women: orgasms during intercourse?
Posted: 10/16/2012 6:19:34 AM
Maybe this is too intrusive when you're first starting to have sex together. And in some cases (lucky ladies!) she'll be having orgasms just because it's sex. But after the first time, I feel free to ask: What's the best way to help you have orgasms? OK, now you coach me through the first time or two, and we'll see how it goes. And maybe, if you show you're willing to do what she likes, you can try whatever it is that you think is your great gift to women, and perhaps that'll work too. But I always start by being willing to listen, and do it her way.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 46 (view)
 
LOOKING FOR MR. GOODBAR
Posted: 8/6/2012 5:07:22 PM
When I saw this thread with a recent date I was thinking "Someone must have made the connection with 50 Shades of Grey" but evidently not. (That's just a book at this point, but I'm sure the movie is being made at this very moment.) And what puzzles me is why these horrible stories appeal to women? I'm not saying women are generally wanting to be in sado-masochistic relationships, but it seems as if there's some kind of fantasy out there that has an appeal. I'm just a guy and it seems bizarre to me.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 150 (view)
 
Natural and hairy women?
Posted: 8/6/2012 4:57:18 PM
O what a difference between SpittyKitty's July 1 posting and her August 5 posting! Sadder but wiser.

Spitty, if I were single I would be thinking there's a woman who knows the value of staying natural. But I'm sure I'm not the only guy in the world who feels that way.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
voracious appetite
Posted: 7/31/2012 12:20:39 PM
Someone who misquotes Shakespeare--what a turnoff.

The problem here is partly that when we're in a new relationship, we're all horny as hell. The crunch comes after a year or two, when we're used to being together and we're tired or there are too many mundane things we have to deal with and we're totally familiar with what the other person is like. Do we still want to jump the partner's bones on a daily basis?
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 81 (view)
 
silly fantacies
Posted: 7/18/2012 10:23:13 PM
Oooh, a babe who can spell, and uses punctuation properly, and even puts capital letters where they belong--man, I'd be hers in a heartbeat.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Why [b]DO[/b] men send unsolicited pics of their penis?
Posted: 6/4/2012 7:41:48 AM

...and his Penis has left the building.


A few seconds before the rest of him, maybe. But goodbye.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Ladies, do you even like...
Posted: 5/23/2012 11:26:22 AM

Some men LIKE having their balls handled roughly.


Yes. Well, up to a point. It's definitely a question of trust!
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 88 (view)
 
Natural and hairy women?
Posted: 5/23/2012 9:14:11 AM
Yes, let's be clear that the people with the fetish are the ones who can't tolerate seeing or having a natural crotch! Even if that's a hell of a lot of people nowadays, especially young ones.

And porn, yeah. If someone is being presented as "sexy" they think it's vital to get rid of the fur. You sure have to see a lot of baldies to get a sight of a bush.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
ok am i a lesbian because of this?
Posted: 5/23/2012 9:00:19 AM
Sounds to me like you aren't going to get involved with a guy unless you're convinced he actually likes women. That's not the same as a guy who's simply heterosexual! And seeing what goes on in the world, it's a reasonable thing to worry about. You can hold out for an old-fashioned romance, though you won't get as much sex as people who aren't fussy. But then, maybe the wrong kind of sex is worse than none.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Stretch Marks!!!!
Posted: 5/23/2012 8:52:54 AM
This is absolutely nothing to worry about. You could even ask "Want stretch marks? I got 'em!" like the guy's in for a special treat. But I'd bet most wouldn't notice.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Ladies, do you even like...
Posted: 5/23/2012 8:42:42 AM
Someone said "They slap the clit when you're doing it from behind" and that seems to be a theme in pornography, but it's never been that way for me, or "my balls slapping her ass" if I'm on top. They pull up small and tight when I'm having sex. But then when I come, they relax along with the all the other parts, and they'd appreciate a little hugging and stroking. Which most women don't seem to think of giving. That's a pity.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 76 (view)
 
Natural and hairy women?
Posted: 5/14/2012 10:22:21 AM
"keep the garden inside the fence "? No way, not if it has the tendency to spread. Some fur that peeks out says that there's something powerful in there that just can't be kept back. Rowrrrr!
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Camping Sex
Posted: 9/6/2011 7:35:18 AM
Oh that Saturday afternoon at the foot of the White Mountains with the stream gurgling, and Janet's face above me with her hair hanging down and past her the birch leaves and past that the blue sky and it was going to be like that always and forever after

There were mosquitoes. But we agreed it was worth it.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Sex and facination
Posted: 8/4/2011 5:22:04 PM
Sex and fascination?

Here we all are in the sex forum at PlentyofFish, there must be something we get out of it, eh.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Woman that Has Condoms in Bedroom
Posted: 7/20/2011 4:58:22 PM
A lady with a stock of condoms? Must have been in the Girl Scouts. I'll have a taste of those cookies, yes ma'am.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 233 (view)
 
small breast appreciation
Posted: 7/20/2011 4:56:35 PM
Call me natureboy, but I like 'em all, just because I like women. It's a real turnoff, though, to think that a woman might have assistance from a chemical company and a surgeon in that lovely area. They really are all good, just the way they're made.

Bras, now, I can live without. I wish it were socially acceptable for women to go around with their natural breasts, natural.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 212 (view)
 
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 3/5/2011 11:30:01 PM
All this fuss over expensive underwear--how about NO underwear.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Why do men think just because a women does not like perverted
Posted: 3/5/2011 11:23:46 PM
A pervert is someone who wants to do something sexual that I don't want to do.

A prude is someone who doesn't want to do--well, you can guess.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Fondling
Posted: 2/16/2011 11:58:22 AM
I see two ladies there who deserve to keep their men.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
oral stimulation and his balls
Posted: 2/10/2011 12:30:08 PM
Also see that other thread, Fondling.

Women sometimes aren't very quick to think about sexual stimulation for a male partner. Maybe because we're all so conscious of women's need for foreplay! But some attention to the male parts is welcome too. And is there a little bit of fear involved, knowing that she could hurt him, but won't (as long as he keeps her happy)?
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Fondling
Posted: 2/8/2011 2:38:16 PM
My lady has many lovable qualities, but an urge to fondle my crotch isn't one of them. I've mentioned it, and dropped any number of hints, but she just doesn't have the instinct for it. I'd enjoy it if she wanted to do it, especially drifting off to sleep with her hand around my balls after we've had sex, but it's not what she likes to do. As people have said, I think she has the instinct that it's intruding on my body.

Now me, if we're not having sex when we get into bed I like to tweak her nipple, or reach down to grab her pubic hair (all natural in this house, folks) and just get my fingertips into her vulva, so we both know that we enjoy that stuff. And she does enjoy it--but it only goes one way. How nice if she'd tickle her man's balls and say "Let's get some action tomorrow, OK?" But no, not her style. Sigh.

You girls, get your hand around your guy's furry parts often, even if all that's happening is the two of you falling asleep. It reminds you both what you're interested in!
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 383 (view)
 
Do women ever wear garters and stockings anymore?
Posted: 1/5/2011 11:19:33 PM
Men like women in stockings and garters because it combines gadgets and sex.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Watching Men Pee
Posted: 1/5/2011 5:50:32 AM
Human sexuality is convoluted! It just...is.

It can be fun to share a pee, just to show that you aren't squeamish about the body, and actually call attention to the, uh, parts you pee out of. I wouldn't care to go any further than that, as in peeing on each other, but maybe some people do. I've had two girlfriends who both thought showing and watching was great fun, and actually mentioned it first (or just went ahead and let it go). Neither of them got as far as writing her name with it, but why not? Never done that, not sure if my bladder would be uninhibited enough!
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 338 (view)
 
Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 1/5/2011 5:28:44 AM
It's simple. If you've had more partners than I have, you've been promiscuous. If you haven't had as many, you haven't had any fun in life.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 74 (view)
 
He wants to see me pee...
Posted: 12/22/2010 6:49:57 AM
When I said "seeing each other pee" I meant the individual women and me, not the two together! But who's to know.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 73 (view)
 
He wants to see me pee...
Posted: 12/22/2010 6:48:30 AM
It can be fun to share a pee, just to show that you aren't squeamish about the body, and actually call attention to the, uh, parts you pee out of. I wouldn't care to go any further than that, as in peeing on each other, but maybe some people do. If I were with a lady who wanted to try writing her name with it, why not? Never done that, not sure if my bladder would be uninhibited enough!

I've had two girlfriends who both thought seeing each other pee was great fun, and actually mentioned it first (or just went ahead and let it go). So I wouldn't say it's necessarily just men trying to get women to do it.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
 
I hate bras, am I wrong?
Posted: 12/16/2010 1:19:35 PM

Unless you have had a boob job, NOBODY wants to see a 60 year old woman going around bra-less.

And if you did have one, seriously, is there ANYTHING more pathetic that a 60 year old woman with fake boobs?


Agree with the second part, in fact fake boobs at any age is pretty sad. As for what NOBODY wants to see, I can't say that I'd be going oooh and aaah over that lady, but if it were her choice to stay natural, it would be fine with me. What's the harm in it, if one woman out of millions doesn't go around with her boobs jutting out?
 
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