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 Author Thread: Why be a Liar with your profile?
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Why be a Liar with your profile?
Posted: 2/26/2017 12:57:58 AM
Bars are just as good a place to meet as any. I think it's more honest to simply tell the woman (or man) beforehand that the first meet is going to be Dutch. If she or he objects, don't meet the person.


Under this circumstance its fine - and 99.9% everything will be fine, but there are dishonest people out there who actually -- lie. Again, avoid being for the first time in a place that's easy to run up a tab because if someone uses the old "I forgot my wallet" at a Starbucks at least you're out only $4-7 bucks. We are posting in a thread called "Why be a Liar with your profile?" so its not inappropriate to mention the types of scams SOME posters who lie in their profiles employ.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Why be a Liar with your profile?
Posted: 2/26/2017 12:55:45 AM

That's being a little paranoid, though -- if you're talking about a gal Running Up a tab ("Geez, how many shots you ordering, girl?!"). But to have a few drinks -- no, I don't see the issue. You can say that about ANY 1st date situation that's > a coffee shop. And just because they're not interested enough in seeing you again afterward, doesn't mean they used you for a free ride ("Ha! you fool, you fell for my trap!").


Project, much??? It something that does happen - although not a lot - and its stupid not to be at least aware the FIRST time seeing something. Again, this is being posted in a thread called "Why be a Liar with your profile?" It's a specific scam to be aware of and stop with the project for god sake
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 94 (view)
 
Racism is not sexy
Posted: 2/23/2017 7:55:40 PM

Agreed. As a black man, it's assumed I'm into BBWs and I'm not. I like girls with some thickness in the right places but not flab and this where the confusion between thickness and obese comes in.


A friend of mine who's Black and a bodybuilder told me that White BBWs were always approaching him because - in their words - "Black Men appreciate a 'real woman'". He was less than flattered by this
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Why be a Liar with your profile?
Posted: 2/23/2017 7:49:52 PM

well we met at a bar for drinks ....


It's somewhat dangerous meeting at a bar because the date maybe looking for some free - expensive - drinks on YOUR tab. If the date insist on meeting at a bar, get their early and tell the bartender you're waiting for someone and want SEPARATE TABS!!! Someone I know caught this unpleasant witch doing this; she was obnoxious the whole time and ordering expensive drinks and she was about to split with a smug attitude before being presented with HER BILL.

As to the original question, lots of good answers were given, but another could be that most of her dates were too polite to call her out on her lie. I've dated a few women who told me of experiences with guys who lied - almost always about height - and they didn't seem to question the dates directly about it ... although all said that the lie did spoil the date and there were no second dates.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Scammers
Posted: 2/15/2017 6:20:02 PM

I've had 3 women send me a message hoping I'll "pardon the intrusion"
and then give me a story


I hope someone can find out; my guess it's another way to contact potential victims; maybe too many people are wising up to these buttholes.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 48 (view)
 
Scammers
Posted: 2/15/2017 5:32:49 AM
My scammer sent me this - 4 days after the last PM:

"would you like to exchange emails or numbers as to communicate with each other better?"

No way am I going to have this jerk-off pester me, so I sent this back:

"I prefer jerking around with scammers using PM"

Oh, well, no more wasting this toad's time.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Racism is not sexy but it can get you elected
Posted: 2/11/2017 6:13:20 AM
There's nothing wrong with having a particular preference - for whatever reason - although it can be annoying when some people projection other traits that are unrelated to that particular preference.

As for ALL CAPS-NO BLACK WOMEN guy, the problem isn't with the preference, but the need to broadcast like that. It kind of comes off like the boss at work who views himself as so important that he/she doesn't want anyone under a certain pay-grade in their presence or he's working out some weird grudges - like how VikingHoosier keeps shoe-horning rants about liberals on issues where that completely unrelated.

Funny thing, is most of the "women" who contact most guys here are Black Males from Nigeria - so he's getting plenty of POC attention :-)
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Scammers
Posted: 2/10/2017 5:18:30 AM

This one is a little more specific than the ones I have messed with...you sure its a scam?


Nope, its a scammer - just one with a better grasp of the language and a little savvier, but it has all the tell-tails signs:
1) "Word salad": lots of words, but says little
2) Lack of contractions: the whole profile is filled with 'I am'. 'am I', etc, but no "I'm"
3) Infrequent communication: "she'll" go days without contacting me and offer no explanation

Also, I live in NYC, so its easy getting specifics ... here are a few other things "she" said:

Hello Mike how are you doing? I attend school in Manhattan, live in Queens what about yourself? BTW you've got a very nice smile........ (flattery noted)

Well Mike I'd like for you to tell me all about yourself in person too! Your right we should meet.... 8~) .......... (I keep insisting we meet and of course, she noting how much she want to hear me talk about - me. So the flattery is more subtle)

So right now I mentioned a specific bar - I'll let you guys know the excuse I'll hear on why she can't make it. This scammer just smoother, that's all.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Scammers
Posted: 2/1/2017 1:18:16 AM
I'm string along one scammer/scammer team right now ... I'm not going to give them anything useful - or material - but I do plan on wasting as much of THEIR time as I can.

Here's the last reply from them - soooo scripted:

Hi Mike after living in Manhattan off & on for most of my life I fully understand about loving to hangout in Manhattan, after all it's Manhattan lol!!! My favorite places are in Manhattan like McSorley's, BareBurger, Le Poison Rouge. Give me a place with good food, drinks, music, a nice person to share it with ( super big plus) & I'm a happy camper. So what about yourself Mike?
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 354 (view)
 
Do men think women women wearing glasses are sexy?
Posted: 7/8/2016 3:57:21 PM
Glasses on a woman sexy??? - YES!!! I also love the whole sunglasses resting on the head too
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Any other young guys enjoy sex with grannies?
Posted: 7/8/2016 3:54:13 PM

Oldest for me was 75. The best was a 70 year old who loved deep throating and being whipped with a belt.


Wow - I heard on porn sets the younger guys love that MILF/GILF action. Morgan Fairchild is one 70 year old I could go for.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Any other young guys enjoy sex with grannies?
Posted: 7/8/2016 3:45:21 PM

Come back when you're 60+ and let us know if you've moved on to necrophilia.


LOL of the week
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Having a hard finding a partner to be with in New York, so thinking of moving from NY to find love,
Posted: 7/8/2016 3:43:37 PM

I heard the ladies love Yanks.

At least that's what the servicemen said I was in the Navy.


That's not what the Village People said
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 96 (view)
 
Meet Me / Transgender??!!??
Posted: 7/3/2016 5:47:05 PM
I had never heard of this Cathy Brennan prior to this post, but when I googled her name this was the first thing to appear ... lol, wow: http://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Cathy_Brennan

Catherine "Cathy" Brennan is a lawyer[2][3] in the state of Maryland and a prominent trans-exclusionary radical feminist and fake goth. Her main accomplishment in this regard is coauthoring a letter to the United Nations, insisting that trans people's gender identity should not be legally recognized and protected.[4] She had also been a frequent columnist for Baltimore OUTloud's LGBTQ blog section, which she used to warn of the coming "lesbian annihilation" at the hands of "the queers" and trans people[5] and stridently argue against legislation protecting gender identity.

She justifies some of her actions, such as the outing of queer youth to their schools,[6] by pointing to the things some people have said in response to her attacks (trivialization of violence against women, e.g). However, she seems completely apathetic about similar behavior among her "intellectual" kin.[7]

To their credit, even the rest of the anti-trans feminist crowd are beginning to wise up to what an awful person she is.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Messaging Them and No Response
Posted: 7/3/2016 6:38:48 AM
Maybe just comment on their pics and over-look what's in the profile??? In another thread, a guy complained about sending 15 PMs a night and getting maybe 1 reply and I tired it and the only way I could have done it was my focusing on the pics.

My PMs were just one or two sentences - though honest - about their pics and what I liked about their looks and in 24 hours I did get 4 replies, which is more than I would have gotten by focusing on their profiles.

Also, never use more than 3 sentences in an introductory PM
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 93 (view)
 
finger in the dyke
Posted: 7/2/2016 11:04:59 AM
There's a lot to go through, but I'll just focus on some of the stuff BlasphemousBombshell bought up:


No amount of surgery actually changes sex.


-- I do agree with this; just like no amount of tanning lotion and hair kinking can change Rachel Dolezal into a Black woman ... however, I do believe that some "internal feelings" - lack of a better word - are more legitimate than others. When the fetus that was to became Caitlyn/Bruce Jenner, it could have developed into a female, but no way was the fetus that was to become Rachel Dolezal going to be Black.


To clarify: I'm not a conservative, I'm as liberal as they come. But I am also an academic, so I adhere to what words actually mean, rather than changing them to satiate "feelings".


-- Couldn't say this better myself. I'm as liberal too, but more in the George Carlin/Bill Maher mode and I can't stand the redefining of terms to fit the agenda of today's SJWs (Social Justice Warriors.)


Transgenders have a suicide attempt rate which mirrors only one group in human history: schizophrenics. And trial studies show that psychotropic drugs used for these serious issues do help with the compulsive behavior.


-- I would conclude that this group has a lot of acceptance and body issues (having sex organs I don't identify with would be a "body issue" with me,) so that likely explains the rate.


Because if being a woman isn't actually a physical reality, then what is it? Then its reduced to: emulating stereotypes, most importantly, emulating the conventional expectation of what a female should look like.


-- I think its more the desire to match the identity they have internally with their physical appearance. A lot of this depends on the commitment the person has in the process.


The fact is, men aren't women, they are anatomically different and in some cases, they do NOT belong with real women as a result of their advantage.


-- This too I agree with; a body bathe and trained in testosterone - even with estrogen treatments afterwards - will have an advantage over one that wasn't. The avg. male is about 10% to 15% stronger and faster than females; that difference is enough to kill someone


Studies show that men who transition, remain men in their behavior. Men who transition retain their criminality and violence rates, they do so because they never had to socialize in the world and deal with confrontation all their lives in a smaller defenseless body. They also act more demanding, like the males they were socialized to be. Its part of why people who trans get behavior coaches, they hire women to help them walk, talk, think, conduct body language and even interact as women.


-- I don't believe there are any internal traits exclusive to any one gender, but some traits do come to one gender more readily than others - such as humor and killing come easier to men, but when women focus on them they can be as good (Lucy Ball & Carol Burnett in humor) or as bad (Manson Girls, Aileen Wuornos in killing) as the men. Men are more confrontation and demanding because they are louder and bigger on avg. than women.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 92 (view)
 
finger in the dyke
Posted: 7/2/2016 9:51:50 AM

if you aren't interested in someone's body--due to weight or whatever other reason--there's a way to say no without being rude about it....


Violence - or just being rude - in these situations is never justified, but the thing is that insecure feelings could be tapped and then emotions run wild.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 90 (view)
 
Meet Me / Transgender??!!??
Posted: 7/2/2016 6:10:51 AM

I always appreciated their honesty.


This should always be applauded and while I'm never been PMed by a transgender, I did click on a couple of profic pics because I was completely fooled. And a guy who doesn't want to be with one should NEVER be rude to a transgender who's upfront with their situation because if the transgender feels they'll get blowback for being honest then it stands to reason they'll stop being honest.

However, there are a - small - number of transgenders who enjoy fooling straight guys ... I personally don't care what**** have been IN a date, but I do care about any**** that have been ATTACHED to a date - and that's a no-go for me.

There's a lot of interesting stuff in this thread, but I'm going to have to sift though it slowly.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Marriage is Pointless
Posted: 7/2/2016 5:13:45 AM

...Trust is a funny thing.People change....


This sums up the whole rational for prenups - if two people feel strongly enough about each other and are close enough emotionally to get married, its also conceivable they COULD at some point feel strongly enough to ruin the other person if things go bad.

I've never been really close to a marriage situation, but from the divorce rates, what's written in this thread and what I've seen on watch - too much - Investigation Discovery TV; things can change for the worst, fast.

However, I'll be enjoying the 4th with a visit with an old friend who doesn't view 'marriage as pointless' as she's been happily apart of that institution for 12 years with two beautiful daughters.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 123 (view)
 
MEN What's up with the dick pics??!!
Posted: 6/29/2016 2:42:58 AM
Maybe women should just send a (bigger) d!ck pic back with the note: "this is how mine's looks!!!"
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Marriage is Pointless
Posted: 6/29/2016 2:38:41 AM

...Otherwise, why are girls given dolls and toy tea sets to play with, and boys are given G.I. Joe's and plastic monsters that must be killed to save the world?


Because girls overwhelmingly prefer to play with dolls and toy tea sets naturally and boys overwhelmingly prefer to play with G.I. Joes and plastic monsters that must be killed to save the world naturally
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 429 (view)
 
Anybody get frustrated with not getting responses?
Posted: 6/27/2016 3:20:06 AM

I have to message 15 women to maybe get one response sometimes...


I'm wondering if this is the problem; I was somewhat intrigued with the idea of sending this many PMs in a night - so I did it. It was really hard - for me - and I know the quality of the PMs weren't that good (and to even do this I ignored the profiles themselves and just said something complimentary about the photos)

In 12-hours I've gotten two responses; so maybe its the quality of the PMs being sent or you're doing as well as excepted (some of the PMs I sent were to profiles I suspect are scammers anyway, so excluding them maybe your response rate is pretty good)
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 180 (view)
 
Strap-on
Posted: 6/27/2016 3:04:56 AM

Apparently some people fetishize 1950s dynamics. They dress kinda rockabilly, the guys have pompadores, etc. They use the lingo of "daddy" too because they are recreating the romances they seen their grandparents have. I didn't know this until I met a man who had this lifestyle. I suspected he was a weirdo at first, but nope, musician who lives, breathes and eats everything retro, including the language...


Wouldn't the term be "Daddy-O" as the slang of that day? Kind of funny in a thread about strap-ons its being called 'daddy' that's the hang-up
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Attracting scammers
Posted: 6/27/2016 2:57:00 AM

---Do a photo check. Save a copy of their profile picture. Use Google image search.


This is good advice, but it should be noted that pictures on some of the more popular social media sites like facebook don't always show up.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Marriage is Pointless
Posted: 6/26/2016 5:11:48 AM

Then....why on earth would you want to get married? You would be investing / forfeiting all of your positive traits into a contract, that rides roughshod over all of those traits, should the other party decide to do so, which they would not be able to do otherwise. Essentially you release your positive traits and personal responsibility into a contract that you are not solely responsible for. You are then not responsible for, or "under the law" of your own personal responsibility.


This sounds like something out of a (terrible) Ayn Rand book. I can imagine most guys thinking this being in the Fred G. Stanford mode in the 70's 'Stanford & Son' show talking about his junk yard as an "empire".

At my age and 'net worth' marriage isn't a bad idea; my criteria would basically be:
1) can she paid half the rent & bills?
2) can I bang her twice a week? (at least - more times would be welcomed)
3) is she OK with going out at night on Sat.? (at least - additional nights are fine.)

Of course, she would have to be someone I would want to do these things with; afterall, I do have standards.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Why do I get more reponses when I just say Hi?
Posted: 6/25/2016 3:40:25 PM
Anything over three sentences is a waste in an introductory PM
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Why are guys online so biased against black women
Posted: 6/25/2016 5:47:31 AM

I just got a message this morning from a white guy who said, "I just find black woman's more attractive and I like the attitude and of course the physical relationships are way better."


I'm sure if I sent that message to 100 Black women - with better grammar - at least one would say 'yes', but I would hate the idea of the other 99 thinking I'm a PoS
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Why are guys online so biased against black women
Posted: 6/25/2016 5:42:39 AM

^^^^ Some men see black women, and some men see women that happens to be black.

I see them both ways. But I find women that happen to be black far more interesting.

The latter is preferable.


I have a friend who would be classified as Chocolate Fetish Stereotype Guy - although he pulls his obnoxious antics with all type of women - and I mentioned to him that he shouldn't include the word 'Black' when he tells a Black woman he finds attractive to her ("You are a beautiful Black Woman!!!") because while some Black women are fine with that, others aren't ("So I'm beautiful ... for a Black woman!!!") So I just advised him to say to just say they're beautiful/pretty/attractive and leave it at that if he's going to approach them that way.

Of course, he insisted that Black women needed "more flavor" in being complimented - so I gave up.

One thing I do notice about non-Black men who evaluate Black women on looks is that the 'types' they like are a bit narrower and less broad than how they evaluate other women
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Were different races sexual organs made for the other?
Posted: 6/19/2016 3:15:09 PM
Most of these stuff is in people's heads - if you believe someone of a different race has something unusual you'll react that way.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 114 (view)
 
craigslist casual encounters- any real or all scams?
Posted: 6/19/2016 3:11:00 PM
I met one great woman on CL, but she was leaving for Chicago ... I did make some really good purchases (computers, tapes, etc) on that site though
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 173 (view)
 
Strap-on
Posted: 6/19/2016 2:47:14 PM

Ok peeps, quick question! What do you think of a guy that has a strap-on and wants you to use it on him...not just do him with it, but he wants to suck on it, and call you daddy while you do him? Im a little weirded out right now, is it just me?


Holy crap, talk about a potentially awkward 'Meet The Parents' moment ... I have to admit I would OK if a woman were interested in "pegging" me, but no way on the rest of it
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 5 (view)
 
24 years old in a couple months, still a dateless, kissless virgin.
Posted: 6/19/2016 2:39:35 PM
If you just want to get these two things out of the way, there's nothing wrong with renting love if you can't find it
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 83 (view)
 
Etiquette for adding a person to favorites list
Posted: 6/19/2016 2:37:34 PM
It maybe different for the ladies, but scammers use favorites as bookmarks, so if you're a guy I would just delete them
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Spotting a fake profile???
Posted: 6/14/2016 5:41:45 PM
Also, if anyone has "favorite" you - delete it. It took me a while to figure it out, but scammers pretty much use that function as a bookmark. Scam PMs dropped when I deleted them.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Spotting a fake profile???
Posted: 6/13/2016 1:57:14 AM
I noticed in the last year or so that scammers have smarten up about using professional model-like photos and started using more "regular" looking people and fewer of those "pro pics" (although a few months, a Latina with a profile of slick looking photos looked at my profile and when I did a photo search it turned out to be the images of a professional model and when I contacted her FB to tell her that someone is likely using her pics to 'catfish' people, she emailed me that the POF profile was her, so sometimes something too good to be true actually is)

But anyway, a few things I noticed about scammers and time-wasters:
Profiles with lots of "I"s (I like swimming, climbing, etc - I do this and I do that) ... grade-school level writing is filled with "I ..." sentences. Also, be leery if a there is a lack of contraction (like I've, I'm, don't, etc.) I suspect language translations avoid them

Profiles with "stiff" language. It appears that many scammers will come up with a generic profile in their language and then translate it to English and usually it will be checked by someone with decent English language skills who will fix the glaring grammar problems, but it will retain the clumsy tone to it. Recently, I read a perfect example of this, but the scammer changed the text AFTER sending me a PM intended for someone else - in which I replied continuing the conversation ... amazing, I just happen to get a PM from another user who used the same language (and I continuing the conversation as if nothing changed)

A couple of times I would get contacted by real people, but who were just interested in playing text-games ... nothing you can do in advance since they're doing everything right until they text an excuse not to meet. The one who like to string along people are the ones after cancelling their texts get more 'loving and emotional" - I never got emotionally invested in this type of 'texting relationship' so in the end it ends up being practice for my texting skills.

As far as the scammers looking for money, I also claim to have already have sent them the Western Union and I give them a fake Western Union Control Number (MTCN) - its a 10 digit number - and what I'll do is say "I just sent out the $1,000 Western Union for that emergency. The control number is ... I want you to get that money ASAP! With love" - the best case is that the greedy jackasses with spend all day going from WU to WU looking for the phantom money and the worst case is that they check the number and know its fake - either way, the scammers will know that you are screwing with them
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Any help in improving my profile
Posted: 2/15/2016 6:31:21 PM

Why would you not travel to NJ from Manhattan, to meet somebody worthwhile? The trip has to be fun? Of course it will when you meet an interesting person?


The "fun" part was a little sarcasm, but travel is difficult because I would be enslaved to the schedules of NYC Subway system, NJ PATH and NJ Transit and as mundane as the excuse sounds, this type of inconvenience can be a deal-breaker in trying to development something with someone. Also, I'm not sure I want to be in the situation where I would say "for you I would travel and for you I don't" - I thought maybe a blanket policy would be best.

I'll think about changing that though.

Thanks to you three only again.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Any help in improving my profile
Posted: 2/15/2016 6:21:41 PM

Not much of a Header. The Main looks somewhat strained, and then why have up a picture ( punched in the gut) you know isn't flattering?
I agree the last paragraph can go. Not sure about listing your fav boooks - besides it all seems very in the past including the movies.
First date is the first meet - do you really want to dine with a stranger you might not be able to stand? Pick something easier like gelato or coffee.


The header was my lack of effort and the main part I was catering a bit since I would see specifics in a lot of ladies profile, so I thought it would be good to match. I kind of went with what popped into my head - and honestly most new films/music/books - frankly - sucks, but maybe I should keep that opinion out of the profile.

I actually do have hundreds of beta tapes - stuff taped off TV in the 1970's-80's with commercials and all - so I do spend a little too much watching them than current TV.

I was aware the 'gut' pic wasn't that good, but the idea was that I wasn't afraid to post a pic less than 'perfect' ... probably a concept that's more philosophical than practical on this site :-)

I'll dump that last paragraph - I hate on-line scammers and they got the best of me there.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Any help in improving my profile
Posted: 2/15/2016 6:03:14 PM

Believe it or not, you put more effort into it than 90% of the guys (and probably 99% of the girls) on this site.

For me, the flags were:

- Intent - nothing serious implies booty calls, hookups, drivebys, whatever you want to call it. If you're truly not looking for just one great lady, leave it. Otherwise, unless you're 21, you'll get passed over by most of your viewer who - at your age - are looking for something a bit more 'serious'. Doesn't mean you have to propose on the 3rd date, just be clear on your ultimate purpose for being here.

- no need to warn off viewers from New Jersey. Unless you are swamped with incoming messages from women from that area, just don't write to any there.

- the last paragraph can go. Instead, why not add a (positively-phrased) couple of lines about the type of person you'd like to meet? Keeping in mine whatever your real intent is. If you are truly not looking for anything serious, you've written WAY too much and photos become critical.

Decent effort, though.


Thanks for the kind words and I'll follow up on them - I was trying to keep things a little open-end, but you've given me some insight on how it could be interpreted by a potential date.
 ThisPasswordIsAlreadTaken
Joined: 6/1/2014
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Any help in improving my profile
Posted: 2/14/2016 5:36:52 PM
Let me know what I could do to improve it - I get a decent number of looks and 'Meet Me' request, but that in itself doesn't mean a whole lot. I do have to admit to not putting as much effort as I could into it: http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=75615114

Thanks
 
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