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 Author Thread: simple question - do you believe in a god?
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 63 (view)
 
simple question - do you believe in a god?
Posted: 12/2/2008 11:27:57 PM
Yes, but I don't believe in man made religions.

Cheers, deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Rape
Posted: 11/23/2008 2:39:48 AM
People suffering from BPD usually have this disorder due to severe childhood sexual and or physical abuse. Another name for it is Chronic Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Someone with this disorder, without therapy cannot possible be expected to know how to react to an abuse situation in an 'appropriate' way, as they haven't experienced an 'appropriate' upbringing and their view of what is accepted as 'normal' behaviour is skewed, through no fault of their own.

This may explain the situation...??

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Indifference..
Posted: 11/23/2008 1:02:37 AM
Yes jayeff, I think that's another reason why I'm indifferent, the thought of actually getting to the point of letting someone into my home and having them upset my cosy routine turns me off too, I'm out most nights of the week and the nights I'm home I just like to chill in my comfys and play on the net or watch my favourite shows uninterrupted.

It would probably be unfair to meet anyone....

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Indifference..
Posted: 11/21/2008 10:05:04 PM
Hi aprilwhyapril,

I go to the gym, exercise on a regular basis, and I'm completing my Dive Master Certification at the momentas well as various other hobbies. I eat healthily, I love to study up on various topics that interest me, I keep busy with my family and friends, work and a great social life, and couldn't care less if I'm ever in a relationship again really.

Yes, I'm indifferent towards this aspect of my life, the reason I think is that I'm happier single than I have ever been while in a relationship. Maybe just have met the wrong guys, but the right one has never come along, but I'm far to busy having a great life to spend time pursuing anyone. Granted being on this site I'm keeping myself open to the possibility of the right one coming along one day but in the meantime I'm happy with my indifference.

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Suburbial Dating - does cheapness turn you away?
Posted: 11/8/2008 1:04:27 AM
I would never judge anyone on where they lived as I was born and grew up in a suburb with the worst reputation in the western suburbs of Sydney...and true to stereotype, lived in housing commission etc etc

Having decided to get out of the area, I have worked hard and moved my family to a beautiful coastal town on the far NSW South Coast, where my kids (and their kids) will escape the prejudice (and the awfullness of that area) for a beach lifestyle, and fresh country air.

Having said that, I would only reconsider entering into a relationship with someone from an area with a bad rep if he wanted me to undo what it has taken me a lifetime to do and move back to a place like I had escaped from.

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
You Might as well face it your Addicted to.....................Another !
Posted: 11/8/2008 12:52:50 AM
I agree that your parents relationship and how you were treated growing up affects how you behave in a relationship. At least to the point that you realise that a disfunctional upbring insn't 'normal' or 'healthy' and there is another way to be.

Unfortunately, alot of people, myself included have had co-dependant and abusive controlling relationships because this seems to be normal and just how relationships are, and then our eyes are opened and we have to do alot of healing to then be able to find and have a healthy relationship....here's hoping! lol

Childhood issues are at the core of most adult problems like low self esteem etc.

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
If it was possible, would you?
Posted: 11/2/2008 1:14:20 AM
I would given the chance, for sure.

But I'm learning to live mindfully, it's the next best thing.

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
End of night pick up?
Posted: 11/1/2008 3:22:34 AM
I'd have to agree with 89 sunshine, I think thats its probably the nice guys that would never approach a girl during the evening, and yes probably because they are shy.

That's a shame, and I'm sure probably causes the 'mexican standoff' as the shy, 'nice' girls aren't going to approach them either! lol

So us poor girls that don't want to participate in the end of night 'grab fest' will just have to continue to make a quick getaway!

And not everyone drinks, I don't, and it doesn't seem to bother the guys who stand blindly by the exit at closing time, lol, they're happy to have a go at anyone! Not real attractive!

Anyway, I've given up on any hope of meeting a decent guy on a night out, just happy to socialise and have a dance with the girlfriends.

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Status Anxiety
Posted: 10/6/2008 12:56:10 AM
Hi,

I've just finished reading the book 'Status Anxiety' by Alain De Botton, after watching the series a while ago.

I've had the thought that 'Status Anxiety' might relate directly to those people who are afraid to commit, who cheat, have continuous short term relationships or who leave aging spouses, just as they would ditch any outmoded product or technology for the sake of their 'status'.

So this being the case, should we beware the person who must always have the 'biggest and the best', or who must always have the latest technology, car, house etc? Could this be a red flag that we too would someday be updated for something newer or in their perception 'better'?

It's got me thinking, what do you think??

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Are some of us destined not to meet the one ????
Posted: 10/5/2008 11:31:08 PM
I don't think that we should elevate 'the one' to some glowing individual with moonbeams shining out of their ass.

To me anyway, it means someone who I feel I have chemistry with, and more importantly, share the same morals and values, and am compatable with. And this all takes a bit of time to suss out.

Anyone put on a pedestal has to come down eventually, and it's very unkind to put someone there in the first place.

And lonliness is just a perspective, we can all get out of the house, join a club or start a hobby that interests us and make new friends, and then time alone is appreciated, and at the end of the day there's plenty of great books waiting to be read, and forums to read and respond to, lol etc etc......

Anyway, I'm not going to settle, I'm not going to hang around 'lonely' waiting for that magical 'the one', I'm going to get out and enjoy life and what happens, happens.

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Are some of us destined not to meet the one ????
Posted: 10/5/2008 2:27:54 AM
I used to worry about finding 'the one', but after getting into some pretty sad relationships, just for the sake of having someone, I can honestly say that now I don't mind being single, and in fact I love it, I have the freedom to be me and live my life exactly how I want to.

That's not to say that if 'the one' came along I would be adverse to exploring the possibilty of a long term relationship, but I'm not going to be actively pursuing anybody, I'm just enjoying my life to the fullest everyday that I'm blessed to have been given. And man am I having some fun!

So maybe some of us are destined to stay single, and if I happen to be one of them, that's fine by me.

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
What a deal!
Posted: 10/2/2008 3:18:50 AM
Yes, please email me the details too!

I do love a bargain!

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Pet names too soon, why?
Posted: 10/2/2008 3:15:40 AM
Hi,

Just wanted to add that not everyone has been on the site long enough to read all past threads, so this was the first time I have seen a thread on this topic.

I'd have to say I agree, I recently had a message that ended by calling me 'cher'....I responded back saying my name isn't cher and the guy relied that it was french for 'moi cherie' something or other, french for 'my dear'.

Needless to say I lost interest immediatley and deleted, better he look for a french lady who might appreciate the french endearment, lol.

Just my opinion, but a pet names and endearments from someone I don't know says player to me.

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
What have You accomplished this Year
Posted: 9/30/2008 4:22:45 AM
A big year for me!

Stopped drinking and smoking, so feel amazingly healthy, lol.

And completed the courses to achieve my Advanced Diver certification, and going to start on Dive Master certificate shortly. Yay!

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
canberra
Posted: 9/30/2008 4:17:39 AM
Hi,

Can people from the far south coast join in?

I'm from Batemans Bay, and there doesn't seem to be anyone on the forums from the far south coast....I started a thread asking a while back and no response.

Anyway, nice to know some neighbours are on the forums, lol,

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Top Gear Australia: Verdict?
Posted: 9/30/2008 4:07:02 AM
I love the British version so I was a bit dissappointed with the Australian version, but mainly because it felt like they were trying to copy the UK version, and were a bit awkward doing so, but I think with a bit of time they could relax into it and make the show their own, and then it could take off maybe.

I did like the moke shark cage though, lol.

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Run rabbit, run rabbit..... run, run, run.
Posted: 9/28/2008 3:50:34 AM
Just to be sure you understand, it's me who's not suffering any loss from a guy not pursuing me....I'm very happy as I am, that is, single, and if any guy wishes to pursue me, I will give him his due consideration....

After pursuing a few losers in my past and realising they definately were not worth the effort, I refuse to ever do that to myself again, which I believe would mean I now have a healthy self-esteem, from now on I'm enjoying life without the 'need' to have a man, but still open to the man I 'want' to have in my life to come along.

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
meet the parents
Posted: 9/26/2008 5:12:28 AM
Another one I've heard is if you like a guy, see how he treats his mother, cause eventually that's how he'll treat you.

And of course if he's a mummy's boy, you'll never measure up etc etc.

Any truth in that boys? lol

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Run rabbit, run rabbit..... run, run, run.
Posted: 9/26/2008 5:06:56 AM
To be fair I should respond to the posters question.

I don't pursue men. If they are interested they can approach me, and if not no loss, I'm having a heap of fun....

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Run rabbit, run rabbit..... run, run, run.
Posted: 9/26/2008 5:04:59 AM
I just love watching this guy put his foot in his mouth, seems he just can't help it!

Let's all watch and see who he offends this time! He's got it down to a fine art, lol

Cheers, much younger than you, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
a womans touch
Posted: 9/24/2008 4:33:59 AM
I'm always impressed with a guy who has good taste with his furnishings, not necessarily expensive, but coordinated....and neat and tidy is good, but not to the point that it gets creepy, lol.

Fresh fruit and veges is another good sign, and a nice smelling home...incense etc is great.

A clean bathroom is a must.

And I like fish, so a fishtank that is clean would be very attractive to me.

Hope this helps!

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Which Australian man, and Australian woman, would you like to invite to dinner ?
Posted: 9/24/2008 3:44:35 AM
I'd invite Adam Hills from Spicks & Specks, funny and cute!

And Rebel Wilson, I think she's a crack up, it would be the funniest dinner party!!!

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Profiles with 'skin' pics
Posted: 9/24/2008 3:37:09 AM
I'm not fussed on guys with shirtless pics on their profile, it makes me think they are just wanting an intimate encounter...

Just my opinion, but I'd prefer to meet a guy who's not into flashing it to the whole world.

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
PerFECT picnics
Posted: 9/24/2008 3:25:58 AM
I'm going to a family picnic day at our local botanic gardens on Sunday, and we're going to take lot's of yummy food, can't wait, yay!

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Alcohol ~ how much is too much??
Posted: 9/24/2008 3:21:54 AM
I don't drink, used to but I'm happier without it, and no more wasted weekends with a hangover.

Don't worry if other people do, as I don't miss it, but it's funny to watch everyone around you get drunker and drunker, always makes me happy I'm sober!

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Three things you look for in a partner
Posted: 9/24/2008 3:15:26 AM
1. Chemistry

2. Compatability

3. Cooks

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Could he be sexually incapacitated or gay?
Posted: 9/24/2008 2:53:34 AM
Hi,

Maybe he really likes and respects you, and is hoping for something long term?

I hope that guys like that still exist, it would be nice to meet someone that just didn't want to get into my pants, but just enjoyed my company, and acted like a gentleman.

Wish I could meet someone like that!

Cheers,

Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
at what stage should you believe what people say in their profiles
Posted: 9/22/2008 2:45:04 AM
Flatmate, didn't you already start a thread asking people opinions on how long you should be separated before dating?

And I hope that you never message me, because I would hate to put in the position of having to prove what my profile says is true....If you choose not to trust anyone on here, and think we are all liars, why bother with us?

We're probably just lying to you now...

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Finding ‘the right one’ …
Posted: 9/22/2008 2:26:39 AM
LOL, this guy just keeps digging himself deeper!!!!

Can't wait to see him try and get outta this one!

What a guy, LOL....

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
End of night pick up?
Posted: 9/22/2008 2:19:26 AM
Um, I hope I haven't given the wrong impression here, but I don't go out to get 'picked up', myself and a couple of girlfriends go to the local club badge draw, where they will have music, and the club is totally lit up, it's not a pub, although sometimes we will go to the pub if a bands on, and it's always in the beer garden and plenty of lighting, no problem seeing anyone, and it's a small town so no problem with overcrowding, lol.

Also, I go out to enjoy social aspect of a night out with the girls, chat, have dinner, and have a dance, and being single, meeting a nice guy that could be relationship material would be a bonus....

Could be where we're going wrong!

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Long hair verses short hair
Posted: 9/22/2008 2:04:12 AM
Lol,

I like my hair long, and do get the odd compliment, so until it gets crappy looking I think I'll keep it long.

And I like some men with long hair, if it suits them, but NEVER bald on top with long hair, there's a guy in my town with that do, and I'm so temped to tell him, but don't think he'd appreciate it though, lol

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Finding ‘the right one’ …
Posted: 9/22/2008 1:57:06 AM
I stand corrected, you did say only some of us 40 somethings look old....

but then you included me in your 'oldies' comment! ummm, I'm 42, your 56, sorry, that makes you old, not me...

You just get more alluring by the minute!

Wishing you even more luck with that, LOL

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Celibacy,,,,, is it over rated??????
Posted: 9/22/2008 1:44:29 AM
I guess I'm celibate, hadn't really thought of it that way, but it's been about a year and a half since I've done the deed, and that's by choice as I haven't wanted to have a FWB type relationship set up, and I don't like one night stands....

So I guess until I find the guy I would like to be in a relationship with there'll be no sex for me!

But I don't stress about it, I'm having a fantastic time in life, so very happy to wait for the 'right' one, then God help him, lol.

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Finding ‘the right one’ …
Posted: 9/22/2008 1:26:06 AM
What a charmer!

First you lie on your profile, then you try and justify it....and then you go on to say how 'OLD' all us 40 somethings look!

LOL, Good luck with that!!!!

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
The 3rd date... and other unwritten rules.
Posted: 9/22/2008 1:16:48 AM
I think toldyouso made up these rules and slipped in the one about sex on the 3rd date hoping that someone might believe it and he might get a bit on the 3rd date!

LOL,

Cheers Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
End of night pick up?
Posted: 9/22/2008 1:05:53 AM
Thanks all, some very enlightening responses!

All I can say in my defense for not approaching guys is that I don't want to be seen as too forward, desperate, or up for it! lol, maybe not a good excuse, but I've always let the guy approach me if he's interested, and I do give the 'I'm approachable' signal to a guy I would like to meet, eg, making eye contact, smiling, etc.....

But from now on I won't just automatically assume that a guy that approaches me at the end of the night is just after a bit, he might just be shy as some of you have said.

And I might even bite the bullet and approach a cute guy myself, lol, will let you know if it works!

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
End of night pick up?
Posted: 9/20/2008 7:56:32 AM
Hi all,

I've just got home from a great night out with the girls at the club, we danced and smiled at cute guys tried our best to look friendly and approachable etc with no interest....

Then as the night is coming to an end, we start getting approached by guys?! It happens every time we go out....

Just wondering if anyone can explain why guys at a nightclub will ignore you all night, and then as you're walking out the door to go home they decide to hit on you.

Wouldn't it make more sense to at least start chatting to the object of their desire earlier in the night, or are we correct in our assumption they are just after a root?

And does it work for guys, cause I actually feel a bit offended by it, but just my opinion, what do you all think?

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 60 (view)
 
How Was Your Day, Darling?
Posted: 9/16/2008 4:23:16 AM
LOL, great thread, hilarious!

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Where did they disappear?
Posted: 9/16/2008 4:18:17 AM
I'm just dumbfounded that someone would start this thread!

Stop over analysing, they just don't like you very much! LOL!

Instead of trying to come up with conspiracy theories to explain their dissappearance, shrug your shoulders, look nonchalant, get some dignity and move on knowing that one day the right person will appear, and until she does you're having a fantastic life, and then you'll have a fantstic life to share with her!

And who knows, that may be even more attractive than the attitude you're displaying at the moment!

Best of Luck,

Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
No Country For Bald Men
Posted: 9/16/2008 3:57:26 AM
Just tell potential dates it's a solar panel for a sex machine, it might help, lol

I'm neutural, it depends on the guy, some are really hot bald, and some are just bald...

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 39 (view)
 
The parts of Australia that must be seen.
Posted: 9/16/2008 2:18:57 AM
The far south coast NSW, Batemans Bay down to Eden..the best!

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Should I move on?
Posted: 9/16/2008 1:40:28 AM
I don't know if he is married, but you do know he has lied to you, not a good start....

And I did the same thing, met a guy online, I'm wondering if it's the same guy, but this was a couple of years ago and not on this site, but he had had an accident and couldn't speak either, so while it sounds suss it really does happen.

It didn't work out though as he was very frustrated by not being able to speak, he could kind of speak but only in a hoarse whisper that you couldn't really hear or understand, and as a result he was angry and moody, didn't like to socialise at all, and it was hard to be with someone that you couldn't converse with, all of which I found to be too much too take on.

I would suggest you move on, he has alot of issues, whatever they are, and is making it very clear he is not what you should want for yourself, or that you need.

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Was a Refund being Unrealistic ??
Posted: 9/10/2008 1:32:46 AM
I think you should have got a refund, especially as you were overcharged in the first place!

A little trick I have used in the past, was when I was refused a perfectly legit refund, and it was legit, I said no worries, but I will be telling everyone I see in the next couple of weeks what happened and the terrible service/ product I was sold, and the way you have handled my complaint.

It worked for me and I was very quickly given my refund! Word of mouth is a powerful tool, and the best, or in this case, the worst advertisment a business can get!

And I'm not a princess either, just won't sit back and let myself be ripped off.

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Not single...not looking
Posted: 9/8/2008 3:34:49 AM
LOL, he's just stirring the pot....

Welcome, and good thing about the broad mind, you will need it! and the fun bit will come in handy as will a sense of humor...

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
STRANGER DANGER oops....i meant SERIAL DATER.
Posted: 9/8/2008 3:30:14 AM
I would say more than 1, maybe 2 dates?

No worries here, haven't had 1 yet!

But I still have my Special K, aaahhhh.....

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
A Change can do you Good ????
Posted: 9/6/2008 4:34:24 AM
I believe people can change unwanted behaviours if they decide they want to.

If they work on being aware of what they want to change and the thoughts that are behind the emotions that lead to the behaviour, and keep working at it, and do whatever is necessary, and practice, practice, practice.

Eventually that person will make new neural pathways in their brain and the new behaviour will become second nature, and the old behaviour pattern pathways will die off from non use.

The whole point is that they have to want it so badly they are willing to work hard at it and not give up.

But alot of people don't care or know any better, so are happy to be unhappy the way they are.

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
 
What is your 'Im outta here' relationship circuit breaker ?
Posted: 9/6/2008 3:42:22 AM
As soon as a guy says "I'm a good man, you won't find better than me', or "Trust me, would I lie to you?", or "I don't take shit from anyone", or any variation on these themes, I'm outta there!

And a guy that runs down his ex, never a turn on...

There would be more, but these are the main ones...

Cheers, Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
 
How do I handle this? Help!
Posted: 9/2/2008 3:46:19 AM
I just think it is so sad that all this crap and drama is going on after 25 years of marriage. I would hope after that amount of time you would have your sh*t together and would have worked out any crap.

Yay to being single! lol
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Where are the women who will let a man be a woman also
Posted: 9/2/2008 2:05:54 AM
I agree with the poster who say that this should be on your profile, much better to date someone who knows this upfront and can decide whether they want to go ahead with a date than spring it on them at the date..... it could save you and them being uncomfortable.

I don't wear mens clothes, though I'm sure some women do, just as some men like to wear womens clothes, but I think this would be the minority in either case, ( I'm not talking about unisex clothing) and not the majority as it seems you think it is.

And yes, there would be sites that cater to your fetish, why not check them out?

Good luck and all the best!

Deepy
 deepsea66
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
 
How much would you do it for?
Posted: 9/1/2008 4:13:42 AM
Isn't it funny that alot of us would do it for free, even when it means we'll end up feeling used and rejected, but balk if money's involved!

On that note, enough to buy me a nice beach house would do nicely, lol

Cheers, Deepy
 
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