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 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Block users
Posted: 9/19/2011 7:34:13 AM
I'd love the ability to block users so I can no longer see thier profile in search or thier name above the inbox bar. I've seen other sites do this; I'm sure it can't be too hard to implement?

I would say 3/4 users out there would love, appreciate and use this feature.

Cheers!
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
pof still LACKS
Posted: 3/9/2009 8:34:59 PM
POF has been awesome to me....
This is a great alternative to "Lets go to the club and dodge the drunk f*ckers looking for a punch on then trying to talk to a chick but you cant cos the music is too loud".

Found more success then failure on POF, when it doesn't work out that you are not what each other is looking for in a partner you make a ripper mate. Cant ask for anymore!

Recommended to sceptics and converted a good handful that internet dating is not full of obese middle aged men sweating behind a lap top with the lights off looking for a 14 year old.
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 184 (view)
 
Do guys with cats stay single forever?
Posted: 8/21/2008 7:40:29 AM
Even tho i have two small dogs (tiebetan terriers) and i have been told that its not very masculine (oh you should have a Rotti, somthing big, ect)... The first one i got with a partner back in march 07 and the second i've basically grown to have looking after him.
There is just something that seems SO feminine about a guy that goes and purchases a cat on his own.. in my opinion. From my own personal experience from people i know i tend to agree with you, men with cats that buy on his own are frequently single.
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 104 (view)
 
Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 8/21/2008 7:02:04 AM
Natural progression of the online dating game is
innitial contact
conversing online (emails, IM)
telephone contact
then the face to face meeting.
The duration of this happening can be anywhere from a few hours to max two weeks. I echo many of the other peoples opinions i really dont like waiting a long time to meet someone, as i have been dreadfully disappointed in the past! Although its a fairly unacceptable request for a guy to email his details and demand a meeting straight away... its not thier fault they jsut dont have the social skills to sell them self online. Some of them are really great people just inept online social skills.

I do however have an issue with women that after we have conversed for sevral hours over multiple days and you suggest progressing to the next stage; thier response is "but i dont know you"... This has a way of getting underneath my skin like you would not believe. So, you cant meet cos the person does not know you, but you cant know them because you can't meet...?!? illogical much? Screams to me "Attention whore"; obviously we have different intentions. NEXT!
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
How can you tell?
Posted: 7/22/2008 9:16:40 AM
I always doubt the validity of a post from a person who has no photo in their profile and lists themselves as seven foot plus.

Good luck Ms bald moose hunter that gives whale oil massages.
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
I know he's playing but why.
Posted: 7/22/2008 8:12:04 AM
The saying "once you got what you want you dont want it anymore" comes to mind.
Could be a bit of a power trip.
getting off manipulating the situation, and you.

Because the sex was "THE BEST EVERRRR" and he knows that; thats what gets him off. not the sex.

He'll do this till he's bored and disappear.
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Star sign attraction
Posted: 6/21/2008 1:36:47 AM
The idea that there are 12 different types of personality out there, along with "you are a X starsign therefor you MUST have these qualities"... i'm sorry but i gotta say... Not my way of sussing someone out.

I do like the psudo-psychology way of palm reading ect to attract women, but ultimately given my persona i just go with "i'm a rough bloke who works in the mines" as opposed to "i can read your palm and now we can be best friends that you will never be attracted to ect".
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
I dont like the club/pub scene therefor i'm pathetic (?!?)
Posted: 6/21/2008 1:31:38 AM
I was talking to a PoF user, and the topic of going to the clubs came up. I said not my thing as its usually violent and eh not fond of the atmosphere.
Her response was "haha thats slghtly pathetic.. but thats u so meh.."
I've never been fond of the club/pub scene as well you cant talk cos its too loud, and i really dont have much fun when i do go out. Give me a night at home with a hand full of friends, a grouse chick and a hard-drive full of mp3's anytime. No need to worry bout some drunk wanker picking a fight with you. Overly exorbatant liquer prices. Bullshit que's for taxi. I'm the man amongst friends but chuck me in a club and i feel like a new kid at high school again.

Ladies, is this just an individual thought or common by you chicka's?
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Drug Testing in the workplace
Posted: 6/20/2008 5:54:13 AM
i work in the mines and i say i like the rules.

but as for "sexybbw66" a majority of what she said is true.
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Melbourne meet
Posted: 6/20/2008 5:50:19 AM
i'd love to go to one of these.
Maybe a south-eastern one for us in the bush?
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Are country girls tough?
Posted: 6/20/2008 4:21:54 AM
in my opinion being that i grew up in the country and now use sites like these to get a decent gal (usually from the city) I have found because of the abundance of men and rarity of women in the country, Women are more ****y, lazier, not as nice ect round here. Here in la-trobe valley, for every 10 blokes theres 7 maybe 8 women. They have thier pick of the bunch round here, there for can afford to be ****y, overweight, ect.

I have a preferance for city chicka's. In my experience they put more effort in, are nicer, so on so forth. Just my opinion so dont shoot me!
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Anyone else have trouble with condons?
Posted: 6/19/2008 6:13:42 AM

wish i was uncut. i cant feel anything on the head of my penis unless its blunt trauma


i know i'm going to draw some critism but thank god for that **** dirty piece of skin cut off my****not long after birth. If not using condoMs this can help reduce STI's, STD's (they are the same thing tho? eh.) and HIV by a certain percentile that i read up somewhere, around 30%+.
That and it looks bloody repulsive. When i see a chick give felatio to a forskinned****on porn i feel ill. Just my opinion and no offence meant.

I echo others opinions, try a multitude of condoMs. Also, do alot of forplay so you are real hard before you roll it on. then kiss her again. Dont make it so mechanical. Alot of spanking the monkey with it on will give you practice and you will know what to expect.
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 46 (view)
 
hitch hiker
Posted: 6/13/2008 7:45:19 AM
I pick up hitch hikers, a pair of aboriginals gave me 10 bucks for doing it and it wasnt even out of my way.
i just think i was a hitcher as a young pup so i guess i'm just returning the favour.
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 67 (view)
 
oral sex on women
Posted: 6/12/2008 9:03:41 PM
Alot of young girls dont give head, so i dont go down.

nuff said.
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Tattoos?
Posted: 6/12/2008 8:08:36 PM
I personally don't like tattoo's on chicks. They make them look cheap and sometimes slutty.
How about a star, butterfly, rose or celtic pattern is what most guys like to call the "slut tatt". Take heed women, dont get branded as a slut so early in life.

Also i steer clear of women that are attracted to men with tattoos. These are the type that get with the "bad boy" then winge to all thier girlfriends when they cheat on them, hit them, dont give tehm money ect.

I'm a real man and I dont feel the need to put some ink under my skin to proove i can take pain, am masculine, ect.
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 494 (view)
 
Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 6/11/2008 8:04:09 PM

Blimey - you lot still here, and the kids still telling their stories how they have been mentally damaged by their mothers.

Well it all goes to show, that if the parents had kept the kids out of it, then the kids would be alright now, instead of writing about their painful experiences to a load of OLD singles on a singles dating site, which of course these youngsters are on too!!! Shock Horror GASP.


Really i think what i'm getting at is if my mother was removed from my life much earlier on we would all be infinitly better off. Finding my mum done the dirty on me dad would have to be in the lower spectrum of things she done.
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 488 (view)
 
Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 12:53:01 PM
add my 2 cents worth.
I am not reading 27 pages worth of forum. A majority of people here are verbally bashing this poor man to death. Obviously they have not been in a situation as unfortunate as this, or maybe the cause.

I have been through something very similar. My mum has had a drinking problem for 15+ years. At 17 i remember over hearing mum had started just wondering off, and she ended up wondering off and doing the dirty on my dad. I remember feeling utter disgust for weeks when she entered my vision. My father was always a good provider to us 6 kids, exellent parent, was pleasant to my mother when she done the most irrational of things; pretty much gave her anything she wanted and is basically a top gentleman.

I was blamed for most of the family issues since the age of 10, and when 2 weeks after my 18th birthday my drunken mother tried assalting me with a chainsaw inside the house (No, i'm not joking) to which I OBVIOUSLY defended myself, Dad kicked me out of the house. 4 Years later when mum was doing the same thing to all of my other siblings for the sake of the "kids" Dad bought mum a house out of town, and fully furnished it for her. With in about 3 months she was done for drink driving. Mum complained about this to Dad so he got her a rental joint in town, close by to where my Dad resides so he can help her.

2 Years later (present day) all of us kids are doing pretty well in life (most of the time!). I work in construction, doing fly in/fly out work in mines and other remote areas, my brother below me has still yet to find his feet but has studied areas of psychology - currently working in the snow fields. My sister is studying linguistics and is in her second year i think, and my brother just under that is a second year apprentice electrician and experiments with hydrogen technology with a hope to build some sort of commercialised business in the future (has his car running on part hydrogen at the moment, his own design and at 19!); the other 2 are still at high school. But we are all plauged by something or other that Mum has done to us in the past. I know a few of you out there will say "oh yes and your mother was a contributer to that upbringing" but no, you will be sadly wrong. Waking up at 5 in the morning to fill her glass of wine, watching T.V all day, being argumentitive at any opportunity she had and doing some things that i daren't speak of ever (yes worse then a chain saw). Come around 15 she didnt even cook dinner (the one task she only had to do) and on sunday mornings the whole family (par mum - she was in the "adults lounge" drinking wine and watching telly) would clean the house... All i can say is that she provided a "negative role model" a being on which to look at and say "this is what you can turn out like".

Going a little off topic i know, I'm just reflecting on my own experience and it seems similar to mine. For all its worth, i wish i could turn back time, unite with my siblings and pack my mothers belongs for my dad (always traditional, till death do us part ect didnt have the balls to do it) and give her the arse. Please, take pity on the OP, he is reaching out for someone at the moment, anyone that will care. The "children" involved are adults and have chosen to stick by thier fathers side instead of running off and sinking into a life of crime and drugs.
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Having sex too early...
Posted: 6/8/2008 9:41:49 AM
Another thing thats irritating to hear chicks winge about is when they hold off sex (Manipulative) and push the guy to his limits (because she can), and because she's been holding out for so long when it finally comes down to it the guy lasts 10 pumps before finishing and the chick then goes "oh is that it" or something (she couldnt remember what she done but the way she told me it implied something of that nature) while the guy gets a complex cos he shot the bolt too quick.

You usually find out that she's been coping d1ck from the junkie/loser ex b/f all along anyway. I pity these guys I really do then i thank the way i am; that i did not turn out the same as these poor fellas.
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Having sex too early...
Posted: 6/8/2008 9:27:50 AM
I'm 24.
Young and you may say inexperienced (you will be wrong)

Its totally weighed up on the two individuals involved. I was in a relationship with a woman for 2 and a half years of whom we knew each other for about 2 hours before we got randy (full way).
Yet this one (and only) time i waited for like 3-4 months for this girl and it didnt work.
I am not, nor do i see religious people - in australia its not a big thing. So thats a factor thats removed.

I have an issue with people who believe that there is some sort of magical "formula" to a relationship, which involves manipulating a guy and with holding sex for a certain amount period of time before "giving it up". This is supposed to make a guy want you more or some rubbish. Trust me girls, all it does is piss us guys off when we hear "Oh i'm so horny and i really want to but i'm not doing it on X date"... "Er, ok, why's that?"..."just cos i dont". It doesnt work and its stupid. All it does is legit guys like me look at that and say "fark this I aint stickin around a chick who thinks she can manipulate me with sex".

If i'm not sexually compatible with a chick, i can gaurantee its not goin to work. This is a good thing, cos then you can go back to looking and find some1 more suitably matched to you. How often do you hear of a guy complaining his GF doesn't want him in the sack... They are just not compatible. yes there can be some other factors into play but if they are not compatible one is going to be unhappy, want to stray, ect. I personally like to shag early in the relationship so i can stop thinking with the****and start thinking with the top head and talk along with the person instead of constantly thinking "i want to root you... i want to root you".

I remind y'all that i say the things that people thing but never say due to potential lash-back.

So, summing up on things its all up to the decision made between two consenting partners without any bloody manipulation or outside pressures. The duration, no matter how long or short, is highly irrelevant.
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Bootycall that may have turned into a good thing? lol
Posted: 6/8/2008 2:02:08 AM
You, my dear, is what i like to call the common "headfark" type of shiela.
What ever happened to being honest? sigh. People like this are the exact reason why guys all over (incuding me) are gaurded with thier emotions.
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 105 (view)
 
Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 6/3/2008 7:13:37 PM
I gotta say that after alot of stuffing around and what 8 years of proper dating, the first thing i think of when considering a chick for a long term thing is weather or not she is fit and healthy. Then comes the cute face. Not model cute, just what >I< would consider cute.
After that i consider kindness, motorvation, honesty, general fun-ness of the person.

And no, i'm not shallow, just blatantly honest. We all do it, no one says it.
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
this happens with EVERY guy i meet? WHY?! or is it just me?
Posted: 6/3/2008 5:29:49 AM
Unlike the other blokes here that are just blowing wind out of thier ar$e just so they can get a shag out of you, i'm going to tell you how it is. If you create sexual tension early in the relationship but dont go through, I'm suprised any guy would hang around for 2 months with out any action.

From what you tell me, you give me the impression that you hang out with a guy, watch a movie and everything is going fairly ok. Then you start kissing for like 20 minutes. Most likely some close body grinding action. ANY guy at this stage would have wood and be wanting some action yeah? The guy NATURALLY wants to root; but i suspect YOU then push him back and make him feel like a****ead while saying "what are you doing i'm not THAT kind of girl"

Lads, what do you think?
 j4ym4n
Joined: 5/30/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
How do you just stop loving someone ??
Posted: 6/3/2008 1:03:30 AM
I think your story is probably a bit biased to be honest.
In agreeance with a majority of what JamesP166 has said....
Although i am only 24, in my experience i have found that women are GREAT story tellers, and in affect they convince themselves to BELIEVE thier own stories. Another relevant point is that women also tend to leave out the full story in thier favour, to tell the story in a more favourable mannor.

Some men just sit there copping the little comments and tantrum behaviour that some women never grow out of and it chips away at them like a chisel to a stone. All of a sudden that stone cracks and they have had enough. This may be the case in the grocery store.

I refuse to comment anymore on this particular story with out seeing the "other side of the coin" and a third person perspective. It would be VERY interesting to what the son would say.
 
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