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 Author Thread: Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 211 (view)
 
Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 10/17/2008 4:28:41 AM
Its amazing so many hateful women there are in this forum towards their Ex. Have you ever thought that might be the reason why he found somebody else???

Im amazed how many women here wants the worst for their partner. Sorry, but it tells about your character....I mean he might be a **stard...if you act same way...then you are NO BETTER!

I can also see that so many of you women havent DEALT with your past...if you have this spirit of revenge...then you're NOT over your past.
I forgave my Ex...we are friends today. I could never hurt her because guys "I loved her at one point"....how could I want to hurt somebody (even I was hurt by that person)?

Come on life goes on and I just realized we never should have been married. Its that simple! Today Im happy it went the way it did as it was hell when we were married.
So GET OVER YOUR PAST! - if he/she did something very wrong - you should rather feel sorry for him/her. They lost you...and your special!

Now, I do not condone doing cheating in this way - finding another woman before you have tried anything possible to save the relationship. But sometimes I can understand why some Men/Women does this even its the wrong way to do it.

One mentioned it was stolen from her...well that's bull...who paid for it? He can do with it whatever he chooses to do. Him being cheap or not...it could also be you who are greedy materialistic and self-absorbed ;)

So move on with life and dont get lost in the past...it will only pull you down to a level where nobody who really cares about you will ever choose you.
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Would you wait till marriage to have sex?
Posted: 10/12/2008 5:03:11 AM
The way I see it you may not have been able to do a full blown test drive going full throttle down the freeway but if you can sit in the car, rev the engine etc and talk through the other logistics you'll know if it's a fit and you'll still have saved something for later when/if you buy the car


I tend to agree with you Naala...Im NOT into one night stands...but it have to be enjoyed btw 2 people who are totally committed to each other. Its also a lot safer...remember condoms are not 100% safe. So if you partner have HIV...you cannot be 100% safe that you'll not get it if you sleep around with many guys whos character you really do not know.

So btw 2 totally commited I have no problem. Its just an excuse the guys use "trying the car first" for getting into her pants.

I believe by talking about sex together before having sex...you can get a very good idea of your partner if he/she 'are good in bed' :) ...if he/she are only focusing on their own pleasure rather than their partners.

Just some thoughts of mine...
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Bisexuality in men is more common than in women
Posted: 10/12/2008 4:36:27 AM
Totally disagree...I think women are more inclined to it...one of the reason because many stupid men only think about their own pleasure rather that her pleasure!
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 422 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/12/2008 4:27:42 AM
Wow....this was a HOT subject :)

Well, I would say like some guys. BJ's are not the world. Ive gotten some, but its NOT something I like more than the actual intercourse. To me that's much more exciting because I'm giving pleasure to my partner. I actually get excited when I see my partner enjoying me giving her pleasure.

About anal sex one guys said instead of BJs...to me its disgusting. Guys...think about what comes out there...ew...its not natural. I believe these BJ and anal are some guys who have become so fix'ed or obsessed on one or two particular things.
If any guy demand BJs og analsex then if I was a woman - I would tell him go take a HIKE.

You have to mutually enjoy sex and explore together BUT no limits of any partners should be crossed that he/she does not want.

So much for my few cents
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Guys/Ladies have you ever hired an escort?
Posted: 9/14/2008 12:05:39 PM
Nope...and I NEVER would even consider...I find myself too valuable for lowering me for this ;)

As you can see I have very poor self-esteem
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
I would think alot of women r senstive about their weight/age? What about men?
Posted: 9/14/2008 11:53:08 AM
"Funny..." wow....

I do like to look nice...but I definitely do not worry about anything...

I do try to keep my slim line...and Im fairly good at it...smile....but as you said...when I hid the early forties...something happend :)

But its not like I think a lot of it at all...but I do think a little more about my eating habits...thats all. Try to eat more healthy...
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
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Sad, but clitoris has been removed...Now what?
Posted: 9/14/2008 11:47:06 AM
Any religion or non-religion person who claims justify to kill or mutilate the body cannot be enough warned off!
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
 
High maintenance definitions
Posted: 9/11/2008 1:22:35 PM
"Sara..."
I know its the same for men...I actually asked that as my second question I think it was (a little further down in this thread...smile

Agree men can be the exact same...its only me who is perfect....
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 41 (view)
 
High maintenance definitions
Posted: 9/11/2008 1:19:32 PM
"Smil..."
cause high maintenance simply means the woman lives above what really needed for her. Its not that your in another so called 'league' - its her lack of ability to reason about her spending or emotional demand.

Of course this also counts for the men :)
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/11/2008 1:12:19 PM
"Boston.."

many factors will influence our choices I think. I have dated younger girls of that simple reason that there is more action in them :) ...I mean Im a very active person...hiking, biking, rollerblading, sailing (well I used to - sold my boat :(

I like to go do stuff...my life is never boring and never have been. That makes like so wonderful that you feel there are so many things you like to do but you simply do not have time for them all I feel.

I say that our real age is really more about how 'old' we are thought wise. A young person can be 'old' because he/she acts like 'old people'. In my case its the opposite...I might be a little older but act fairly young activity wise...smile.

I love to visit museums, especially our national museum here. History are very interesting to me.

Anyway...how is MA these days? Its getting colder, right? ;) ...Ive spend one winter in ME and that was terrible cold...me living in Denmark have NEVER experienced this cold temperatures even Denmark actually are more north of ME :)
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Would you have an affair with a female boss for a job promotion?
Posted: 9/11/2008 12:19:56 PM
"Steve"

sounds like you could use to preaching to...

Well, no...I do not need preaching...that's your business...your choice in life. I do not care what you choose...I have principles I go by...know it might be a 'foreign' word in your vocabulary

Cheers
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Would you have an affair with a female boss for a job promotion?
Posted: 9/10/2008 1:55:08 PM
Im sorry guys...im disgusted by those of you who would accept an offer like this.

Do you not have any control of yourself??? - as soon as you see a posibility of sex...you'll imediately jump on her if given an opportunity. You should be glad Im not a girl because if we had been dating - I would have kicked you into the space and say...One guy less I have to worry about. Hehe...there would hardly be any guys left on earth...LOL

You men think with what you have btw your legs!!
I sure think with it too...but that's when my emotions are involved and I totally in love with my partner ;) - love making starts much way before the actual physical part. Its by holding hand in public, a little note now and then for her, flowers but very likely most important "quality time".

I do not have the need to conquer more than one...my wife. The grass is NOT greener on the other side!!

If you put any effort into your relationship...you'll have so much more fun...I talk from experience!
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Would you have an affair with a female boss for a job promotion?
Posted: 9/10/2008 12:22:15 PM
"Boston..."



Would you have an affair with her to get a promotion? Would you depend on how attractive she is?


No and No. I do not give my body to anybody except for if I'm in love with the person.

I would sue her for harrasment if she made such an offer

Well, I do have some decency in me...its possible to find it sometimes believe or not...
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/10/2008 12:15:38 PM
"Boston..."

then I agree with you. Society tells us what is acceptable...I do not think always society is right

Control might be an issue also. I would think that its a very small number of women who actually would do it for the control.

Do you not think its mostly about them reliving their youth and feeling flattered by this young guy feeling attracted to her??? She can in some way control him I guess but thats maybe because she is so much more experienced sexually and she really feeling non-attractive as years pass by? Maybe having experienced their men leaving them for a younger model...then by dating or marrying young men they feel that when a young guy can be attracted to them...then they have their self-esteem boosted

What do you think????
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Sad, but clitoris has been removed...Now what?
Posted: 9/10/2008 12:04:41 PM
TheStef:
sorry mister but that is retarded if your religion tells you have to remove clitoris on women.

God created the Woman with all the parts she needed. If God saw it was not needed - He would not have created women with a clitoris!!!

Stop listening to priests or imams who manipulate with your brains on this particular subject.

Any religion who does not respect others are retarded!!!

You actually think her sexuality is retarded...hmm...you are a brainwashed individual who do not think yourself but somebody else is thinking for you...the imams or whoever authority who tells you its OK to mutilate women this way!
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Sad, but clitoris has been removed...Now what?
Posted: 9/10/2008 11:52:21 AM
Snob:
I agree with you totally.

Islam believes this:

<div class="quote">"Muslims believe that Allah (God) created the heavens and the earth in perfect harmony and balance, and that He continues to reign over His creation."

I simply do not understand this. Is it not obvious they believe that God has created us as human beings. Why in the world would God create the women with a clitoris except for He wanted the woman to feel the pleasure???? God wanted the woman to also enjoy the pleasure and NOT only the man. If God did not want woman to enjoy pleasure He would not have created women with a clitoris...

How can then some lame male individuals/priests decide that women should have their clit removed??? ...they are disrespecting the creation that God made originally!!!

What do you guys think????
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 145 (view)
 
Men who avoid attractive women??
Posted: 9/10/2008 11:38:22 AM
Comeer:
You are so right about personality. Personality means everything. But I do ask myself if I would exclude a much heavier person when it comes to choosing a partner for me. I'll be honest and say YES I do...

I NEVER though look down on them or treat them disrespectful. Me being slim I have a hard time picturing myself with someone who is extremely obese. And again I really feel sorry for those who are obese. I'm sure many of them would be the most wonderful person to live with if I gave them a chance, BUT because of my preference or attraction I do not give them a chance when it comes to a relationship. I would offer them my friendship and I'm NOT afraid of being see out in town with them as I do NOT care what other people think about me. Actually Im friends with one who actually are very big, Ive taken her out to museums, etc. - done stuff with her that she really appreciates. Yes, she likes me very much I know...she knows that I appreciate her as a friend and that's all I can give her. I'm 100% sure the guy who will marry her one day will find her to be the greatest partner.

Attraction is important its only my preference that keeps me from marrying her. I'm a very active guy loves hiking, etc. I would be limited in the things I love to do if I married one like her or with a similar health problem.

BUT you know what - I'm kind of ashamed of myself to some extend for feeling so. But what do you do??? I've decided to be open and honest about it...so is that good for anything :)

Let me hear your comments on it!!!
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
High maintenance definitions
Posted: 9/10/2008 11:09:54 AM
Ok, here is my few cents of an opinion :)

Women:
I would say it is usually used in connection with a woman either spending more money than she brings in herself or she demands so much of your time that she hardly have a life outside your relationship.
That she uses a lot of time to look nice I have no problem with as long as she is on time...or close to ;) ...I like when she looks nice...remember there is a difference btw nice and cheap :)

Men:
Well, I would actually say its the same for the man. When he spends more than he brings in himself or that he demands so much of your time that he hardly live a life outside your relationship.

That's basically how I perceive the words "High Maintenance". I do NOT use the word in connection with anything else. Lets take the example of shoes...a woman who has tons of shoes - much more than she actually needs. But she keeps spending on buying new shoes anyway...that's waste of means which could have been used for traveling together with your partner creating special time together.

Also if the man spend more on carstuff, computerstuff, etc. than he really needs or uses. Again he takes means out without thinking about you both as a couple. Men, how happy does it make you spending a lot on materialistic things rather than you could have a much greater emotional input in your life from your wife. You would actually be happier in the end...that I can assure you!

One who's emotional demands go way beyond whats normal I would not call "HM" but simply emotionally imballanced. Not mature enough...and this counts for both men and women with these abnormal behaviors.
The same can be said regarding men or women who have control issues. I would not call them "HM" but simply imballanced emotionally and/or have low selfesteem.

What do you guys think???
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 113 (view)
 
Men who avoid attractive women??
Posted: 9/8/2008 2:01:59 PM

most attractive women are shallow and are attracted to losers and dirtbags who treat them like crap they mostly look for bad boys because they like the badboy image.
i dont mean to be rude but thats the truth


What do you think pretty gals? Could that ½ truth maybe? Im not totally sure thats the only reason but the more I think about it I believe there might be something about it.
Ill write more tomorrow...I actually have a story now I think about it...something that comes to my mind. BUT tomorrow as it nite nite time here...Have a great evening....

Until then...peace and love to each one of you
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/8/2008 1:55:09 PM
"bostonsportsgal..." do you not think its the same with women??? ...maybe they do not look for sex only but have other motives...

What do you think?
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
High maintenance definitions
Posted: 9/8/2008 1:48:04 PM
Ok gals, now....how do you girls define a High maintenance GUY.....

same way as the girl living/demanding more than she gives herself. So it would be a guy who takes more either emotionally or financially than he gives???

Its bedtime for me now...live in beautiful Scandinavia...so Im off for tonight...see ya tomorrow ;)
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Sad, but clitoris has been removed...Now what?
Posted: 9/8/2008 10:45:15 AM
Well, I feel that any religion which in some way demands mutilation of the body should warned of.

Its manipulation of people demanding such thing. If any type of God demands this there is something wrong with that religion.

Same is those religions which demands people to torture themselves in order to satisfy their God. I could NEVER join any of these religions. Im an educated and intelligent being who are able to see through these 'schemes' ...

Sorry it sounds maybe very judgemental...but I really feel strongly about this. How in the world can a religion demand you remove a part that their God created????
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
High maintenance definitions
Posted: 9/8/2008 10:00:14 AM
Just read this some time ago...cant remember the website.

Quote:
[B]What I think is wrong is when a woman demands these things from someone when she isn’t capable of providing them for herself. Or when she forces a man to go into debt just to maintain a facade, which isn’t affordable for either of them. A man complying with such demands need to reassess his involvement with this type of woman and bid her farewell.[/B]
Quote END:

What do you guys think about this definition?
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
High maintenance definitions
Posted: 9/8/2008 9:46:56 AM

never seem to be satisfied albeit emtionally or materially


I agree with your statement about those 2, emotional and material demands. If you can leave your creditcard to your woman and she has both legs on the ground and do not overspend but have a healthy outlook on what really makes you happy - then I as a man totally relax. A woman who does not make impulse shopping but who have good financial knowledge. Good finances gives you freedom to do stuff together...like traveling much more. In my life Ive traveled extensively and Ive only been able to do this because I have healthy financial understanding.
I think the materially spender is one of every mans nightmare. For a woman any man who does not spend quality time with her must be a nightmare to the woman.

Emotional demands can be killing if she thinks you have to do all things together. Emotional addicts I call them :) - they feel they need to have close to 100% of their partners time.
Being "one" does NOT mean you have to give up ALL your interests. It only means you choose certain things to do together...or at least you create new interests together.
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/8/2008 7:33:14 AM
Its the experience of the woman have. She knows what to do and what not to do. Many younger women have no clue

To me its the experience but mostly important is intellect...plus more experienced women seem to be more open to dressing sexy I think
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Reaction to a guy out of breathe after sex.
Posted: 9/8/2008 7:18:18 AM
Hehe...I like your thought...as long as it was not dangerous...
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
High maintenance definitions
Posted: 9/8/2008 6:54:01 AM
This thought came to me after reading one of the other Threads...

How do you as a MAN define "high maintenance" in a gal?
How do you as a WOMAN define "high maintenance" in a gal?

Wonder if men an women have different view of it...
 enjoytoday
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 110 (view)
 
Men who avoid attractive women??
Posted: 9/8/2008 1:55:23 AM
First - a woman can be attractive even when she does not look like Paris Hilton. Attractiveness is a relative perception.

To me a girl becomes attractive if she is intelligent. If she behaves nicely and do not bad talk other people. If she does not gossip. If she does not think the whole world owe her everything. If she can be down to earth then a very pretty girl becomes actually very attractive to me.
Do I go for looks? Absolute not...looks fade over time. Only a great personality is really what makes your family life/relationship great. Ill admit Im influenced by looks, but Im not solely focused on this. To me its PERSONALITY that really counts.

My Ex were a very attractive girl - but she had no clue about how to communicate on the deeper level. Control freaks and jealousy is killing a relationship. It only shows lack of trust. Unless Im able to trust my partner 100% - I would never date or marry her no matter how hot/attractive she looks.

Love takes time to develop - does not happend over night. You need to date at least a year before considering marriage if you are serious as his/her weeker sides does usually not show up until after 1 year - maybe even 2. It depends on how good you are at evaluating your partner.

Anyway, Ive learned my lesson in life...the hard way. Today I know exactly what I want in life and Im not going for less. There is no perfect partner in this world. We ALL have flaws so the question is only if you can forgive your partner with his/her flaws.

I want a living vibrant fun life with my future partner full of passion and love. A relationship with mutual accept of each other differences. You can actually learn to appreciate the differences in your partner.

Have a great day!
 
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