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 Author Thread: It's getting serious...Should I ask for a pre-nup?
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 76 (view)
It's getting serious...Should I ask for a pre-nup?
Posted: 2/7/2012 2:23:57 AM

my parents were divorced in their 40's and both remarried successfully but they put unrevokable stipulations in their wills that provided equally for all of their surviving 6 children/stepchildren after the passing of the surviving spouse so that there would be no fighting amongst their parents.

Why not do what your parents did? Personally, I find pre-nups disheartening. However, you both should have a frank, financial discussion. If by marrying him, I would be responsible for his debts, I would want to know exactly how much he is in debt.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 48 (view)
Lack of emotion; sign of a problem?
Posted: 2/7/2012 12:31:17 AM

Most people dont enjoy getting told they suck, but the only time I'm so virulent is with people with ego problems

Is it possible that *you* are the one with ego problems? Sounds like no one is ever good enough for you.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 39 (view)
do rebounds heal hearts?
Posted: 1/17/2012 11:18:06 PM
Rebounds soothe the pain of a break-up but they can fuzzy out personal growth. Get into one too soon after a break-up and you are saved from paying attention to your own part in relationship failure, thus guaranteeing that you make the same mistakes again.

However, a good roll in the hay with an understanding new partner beats Prozac any day. It's a roll of the dice.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 115 (view)
says to me 'let's not exchange Christmas gifts this year, I don't have the money'
Posted: 1/6/2012 9:53:41 PM
I don't think he cherishes you that much nor does he have an imagination and I'd reconsider your future with him. One of my most fun Christmases was when my ex and I were broke. We gave eachother redeemable coupons - footrubs, home cooked dinners etc. Some of the coupons are not printable, but they sure were fun!
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 110 (view)
Apparently, I'm psycho
Posted: 1/6/2012 9:28:58 PM
You don't sound like a lot of fun to be with unless there's a midget around to kick the can at. My advice is to continue with therapy to find your heart.

Others shouldn't have to pay for your past issues. A keyword you might use in a search is "kindness". Even though it might have been with held from you, as an adult you might learn to extend it to others. Your profile is lean, mean and cutting.

And PS, on a long shot try reading "Lost in the Mirror".
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 142 (view)
Is it still expected that men pay for everything
Posted: 12/30/2011 8:16:02 PM
Mr. Gecko,

As a general rule, whomever does the asking does the paying.
You know, I've heard this theory often enough and I can't work my way around it.
Men do most of the asking. Normal social convention. I don't care how progressive women say they are getting in modern society, men do most of the asking.

You're right. The rule of "whoever does the asking pays" is skewed because in general most men do the asking.

However, keep in mind that most women take on the role of caregivers and will reward you (once that you are tagged as a keeper) with home-cooked meals that outshine your date dinners.

My last BF couldn't boil an egg. For six years, he took me out to dinner once a week and made me feel special. I made him feel special by cooking for him the rest of the week. It was a win/win situation.

I am saddened by the petty gripes from men (on this board) in the dating game. For first date/meets do something that is inexpensive. If she is someone who you want to court, court her and show that you are generous in love and in life. You will be rewarded.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 141 (view)
Is it still expected that men pay for everything
Posted: 12/30/2011 7:34:04 PM

When I say everything I mean everything on a date.

What do you mean by everything? Are we talking more than the bar bill or dinner bill?

I'm of the genre that is impressed by a man who pays for dates yet I'm not shy to pick up the bill. I would totally be turned off by a date who "tabulated" my share of our date.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
She is Always working
Posted: 12/13/2011 10:31:18 PM
I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it sounds that she is not as blown away by you, as you are by her.

Perhaps you can play the game. Lay off and let her come to you.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 61 (view)
Using POF as the easy way out
Posted: 12/13/2011 10:16:36 PM
I met my last beau online. We were together for five years and engaged. I loved him. To my dismay, I learned that he had on-line profiles on many dating sites and probably had them all along.

I personally think that there is an ease and addiction to online "upgrading".
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
Is it OK for a wife to kiss and hug all her male friends.
Posted: 12/13/2011 10:03:04 PM
Yes, you are over reacting. Hugging and kissing on the cheek are friendly overtures, not sexual ones. In fact, in my family background, even the males kiss on the cheek...twice!

Instead of "testing her out", how about figuring out how *you* can make things better in your relationship? The results might surprise you.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 65 (view)
Should I tell ex I'm pregnant?
Posted: 12/13/2011 9:48:56 PM

Ok, here's some practical advice. You said he has kids already. Why dont' you try to talk to their mom (moms?). Ask her out to lunch, and ask her frankly what kind of father he has been.

Good advice.
Do you think this baby will be enriched from the inclusion of his/her father? Keep in mind that it is difficult, but not impossible to raise wonderful kids as a single parent.

My children's father left when they were 10 and 12 years old. I was distraught that they would grow up in a "broken home". A couple years later, they each confided on separate occasions, of how much better things were since Dad left. What a relief!

They did chase a relationship with him that only brought heartache. They are now in their twenties, successful and beautiful in every way imaginable. Everybody that meets them is impressed. They no longer have anything to do with their father, as also does his daughter from a previous marriage. He's sick. I'm thinking NPD.

Not every parent will have a positive influence. You have a hard decision ahead of you.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
Ex wife takes my last name....10 years after the divorce?
Posted: 12/13/2011 9:17:32 PM
What is she currently doing for a job? Maybe your last name is cooler? Believe it or not, there is a lot of prejudice based on names.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
cholesterol/HDL ratio
Posted: 12/3/2011 8:04:25 PM
Thank you all for your replies. I still don't quite understand cholesteral or my doctor's concern but I'm going to plug along as I always have and not obsess.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
cholesterol/HDL ratio
Posted: 12/2/2011 9:00:42 PM
There are a few health gurus on this board and I am requesting your knowledge. Doctor just told me my cholesterol was too high and I should adjust my lifestyle and intake of fats.

I got photocopies of my bloodtests. LDL is slightly high. HDL is double the reference range. The cholesterol/HDL ratio is 3.5.

From what I could glean from online research, my ratio is quite acceptable, but maybe I'm wrong??? Should I start sweating over lowering my cholesterol?

Relative to the people I know, my diet is fairly good, but there is always room for improvement. However, I'd rather not become obsessive dietary-wise, if you know what I mean.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 47 (view)
Do I tell or not tell the man?
Posted: 11/30/2011 2:20:41 PM
Why do you feel compelled to share such personal info with someone you are dating? I doubt your children would appreciate you broadcasting that they were molested by their father. Such information should only be shared once there is strong sense of trust and that is way beyond "dating".

My advice is to get psychological counselling. Surely you will be told that there are boundaries regarding exposing your childrens' experiences. It seems that your dating lifestyle takes priority over your childrens' sense of privacy.

AND, if you keep on exposing this detail of your childrens' lives, the date who may well find it satisfactory is another child abuser.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 133 (view)
Replying To Messages When Not Romantically Interested
Posted: 11/16/2011 7:23:26 PM
Like you, I replied to all messages (unless they were downright gross) to be polite. Eventually, after some rude experiences, I stopped replying if I wasn't interested.

Some men responded with verbal abuse when "rejected" and it was upsetting. What was most upsetting was that these men were gentle in the come-on and monsters after the turn down, showing their true colours. It pricked my sense of distrust.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
Relationship/marriage questions for men.
Posted: 11/16/2011 6:43:36 PM
There's something politically stilted in your questions. Reminds me of phone surveys that design the questions for obvious answers and obvious poll outcome.

Know this. Men are not all the same, particularly in this day and age. We are all free to design our relationships in a way that pleases us rather than what pleases the dictates of culture.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 65 (view)
honest feedback about sex within the first couple dates
Posted: 11/16/2011 6:28:07 PM

It seems a lot of guys still have that "whore" mentality for someone who actually caves to physical pleasure too soon in a new relationship.

Do you really want a LTR with a man who has this double standard? I hope not.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
rules of attraction
Posted: 11/15/2011 7:41:00 PM

The problem is that I think I could be with a much more attractive girl.

You're far from Adonis. You are pudgy, prematurely balding and have a weird forehead. Why do you think you deserve a more attractive woman? It can't be that you are model gorgeous (because you are not), so what is the reason for your entitlement?

She's expressed interest in being more than "friends" but every time we try to hang out, she blows me off.

Grow up! You're 28, too old to be "hanging out" with a woman. Be a man and take her out on a date. Romance her. Treat her better than a f*ck buddy.

Yes, you should feel shallow for the simple reason that you are shallow.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 66 (view)
Would you snoop if you felt like you were being lied to?
Posted: 11/15/2011 7:16:21 PM
Yes, I would snoop if I felt I was being lied to (but not before) and I have done it twice. Once was with a daughter when she was in highschool and I found out that yes, she was lying and she and all her friends were dabbling in drugs. I'm glad I did because today she is a responsible young woman with a great job and future.

The other time was with my last BF. So many suspicious things were happening. When I tried to discuss them, he dismissed me. Turns out he was a serial cheater. I'm glad I snooped. Otherwise, I would have sold my home and married him.

Only a fool would ignore suspicious circumstances without investigating. And only a fool would condemn someone on suspicion without proof.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 89 (view)
Beliefs (Abortion and/or Gun Rights)
Posted: 11/15/2011 6:57:48 PM
If it was only one issue (and a big one at that) in an otherwise good relationship, I'd elect to agree to disagree and never broach the subject between us.

Polar bear hunting comes to mind. My ex was from Newfoundland and supported the hunt while it horrified me. We had a few bitter arguements over the issue until I realised that his stance would never change nor would mine. We abandoned further discussions and found peace.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 54 (view)
Could my new boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 11/11/2011 10:30:37 PM
No matter what anyone says, listen to your gut. Next time he's drunk and lisping, ask him straight out and *watch* his answer.

To the last sentence of your post, a man can be a wicked lover yet still be gay.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 101 (view)
Shall I pay $100 to him?
Posted: 11/10/2011 9:14:17 PM
Was there a written and signed contract with a witness?

Even if there was, don't pay. Let him take you to court (find a legal aid lawyer) and let him embarass himself in front of his peers. He won't do it. And are you sure he is a bonafide lawyer????

Here's another thought: petition "Judge Judy" to take your case.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
Posted: 11/10/2011 8:13:29 PM

When do you come to the realization that you are probably wasting your time? You should give up.

About a year ago. The majority of my emails were unacceptable - semi-illiterate men, semi-horndogs or kids young enough to be my sons claiming to be into older women. It was one reason why I hid my profile.

I can still participate in the forums, a unique feature of this dating site (which I believe should be further exploited and pushed by the owner) and I can be contacted by men who use the forums, which, IMO, is a higher class than the general membership.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
Would you tell someone if they were dating a Violent person
Posted: 11/2/2011 9:44:55 PM

My ex - a violent man, is dating someone for a few months. I have not meet this gal, should I tell her his past history or let her find out in due time.

Do you intend to keep track of your ex and inform every woman he dates of his violence? On the surface, it sounds "caring" on your part. However, the truth is that you are still enmeshed with your abusive ex, which is not healthy for you.

For one, you shouldn't be following his Face Book account. His account should be blocked from your viewing to avoid the temptation to sneak a peak. As a former victim of abuse, you may still have some healing and some learning to do.

He's your ex. The woman he is dating is a stranger to you. Stop paying attention to them and focus on your own life moving forward.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
I like her (a lot), but I'm a ways away
Posted: 10/30/2011 9:30:32 PM
Just focus on being yourself. Ultimately, you want a woman to like you for who you are, right?

Having said that, some of the things that women are attracted to are
confidence (which you seem to be lacking)
an easy smile and an easy laugh
good hygiene
intelligence without arrogance

Let us know how it went.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 83 (view)
Different countries
Posted: 10/30/2011 1:31:28 PM

We pay monthly premiums in BC. I was paying 54 bucks a month at one point. This is for MSP, Medical Services Plan. That' s health care.

I live in British Columbia. My sister lives in Nova Scotia, in Dartmouth. I'll phone her up and ask her, "Do I pay premiums here? A nice lady told me I didn't."

Apologies to sweetness-one.
So, bodypro
Would you not be covered for any health insurance if you didn't pay $54.00/month? I have heard that BC is itching for private medical insurance. My oldest daughter was involved in a hospital study regarding health insurance. She was hired by the private sector and confided that it was disgusting.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 81 (view)
Different countries
Posted: 10/30/2011 1:13:18 PM
sweetness-one posts

<div class="quote">First, even for Canadian citizens, unless they make less than $16,500 per year (at least, that's what I believe it was last I heard, which was a few years ago) then no, healthcare insurance isn't free. Under that amount, no income tax is taken and yes, healthcare is free. But, that's less than poverty level in Canada. Over that amount, monthly insurance premiums are based on one's income, if their employer doesn't provide medical insurance as a benefit.
OMG! Where do you get your information? Health insurance in Canada is free irregardless of income. Some companies have a private health insurance plan that covers things not covered by the government such as dental, chiropractic, massage, ambulance, single room in hospital and private psychology, none of which is based on income.

What is based on income (which I think you've confused for medical care) is unemployment insurance benefits. They are deducted from your paycheck scaled on your income.

Sheesh! Some people.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 65 (view)
A boyfriend and we haven't even met??? Huh???
Posted: 10/27/2011 9:23:25 PM
Has anyone had any experience that turned out well from someone jumping the gun like this???

YES!!! Not good. If he is already fantasizing about you being a "couple' before he even *knows* you, I will tell you, from my experience that at best, he is emotionally immature and at worst, personality disordered. Been there, done that.
on edit: appears that the point is moot since the OP appears to have deleted her profile.
Weird no? I wonder if it was the lack of validation?

Actually, there was a lot of validation in this thread for her discomfort. Perhaps she met him and he became her "boyfriend", but I'll wager that he became a nuisance and a POF stalker and she removed her profile.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
Different countries
Posted: 10/27/2011 9:10:18 PM
Forum Filly
Your post is so flavoured by American attitude that I can't comment on all your points but I do want you to learn something:

Prolonged austerity and the state-controlled economy's inefficiency in providing adequate goods and services have created conditions for a flourishing informal economy in Cuba

Economic hardship in Cuba has been imposed by the United State's embargo of trade with that country (and also the decline of the USSR which was a major trade partner). The US also insists that any country that wants to trade with them must also honour the embargo against Cuba. There were some tense international moments when Canada told the US to go fly a kite - we (Canada) still traded and travelled to Cuba.

America has a reputation of a dirty hand in foreign affairs. It has exhalted some of the worst regimes and destroyed others (read Communist/Socialist).
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 48 (view)
Different countries
Posted: 10/27/2011 8:50:23 PM

What if he has no US income?

As I understand it, the US is going to charge taxes on *any* income a US citizen makes. So, if your son returns to Canada and earns a wage, he will pay income tax to the Canadian government (rightfully) but also to the US government as well (based on his Canadian income). It's a money grab for the high debt that the US has incurred.

To the OP -
I have to travel more than half an hour for groceries. I wouldn't complain if there was a lover included in my milk and butter purchases.

Is it right to assume that you are a student with a vehicle and he is working with no vehicle? That troubles me more than 1/2 hour cross border distance. Do you think he will eventually be capable of buying a car? How does he get up to see you?
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 47 (view)
Help - I am stumped
Posted: 10/23/2011 10:03:09 PM
LOL! Reply! You can have so much fun with this. I'd love to see his expression when girl you #2 walks in the door.

Keep in mind that you aren't "a couple" after one date. He's free to date others (even if they're both you). He must genuinely like your profile.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 40 (view)
He canceled the 2nd date 2 hours before!!! What gives?
Posted: 10/23/2011 9:52:05 PM

If you are really interested in him, agree to another meeting, but not on a Wednesday. Tell him you are busy that day, suggest the following Saturday and see how it goes.

This is exactly what I was going to suggest. If he can't make it that day, he's just not that "into" you.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 71 (view)
Soul mate found but there is a problem
Posted: 10/21/2011 8:20:40 PM

So what you all think should i go chasing her at the other towns bars?

The short answer is that, no, you should not go chasing her. From your story, I don't think she was that interested and I don't think she had the same life goal as you. She is not your soul mate.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 55 (view)
Is she lying or am I overanalyzing
Posted: 10/21/2011 7:57:15 PM
I dont know, maybe me sleeping with her on first date has skewed my judgement a bit.

Meh. Man-sluts. That they will have sex with a woman on the first date indicates that they are cheap, immoral men and not to be trusted. Get it?
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 782 (view)
would you marry for money?
Posted: 10/20/2011 2:15:07 AM
Oh God, no!
My Mother had some horrible sayings/teachings. One of them was that "It is just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as it is to fall in love with a poor man".

However, in your propostion, there is no mention of love. Why are you asking this? Are you about to marry a rich man for whom you have no feelings?
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
Do you donate blood? Registered organ donor?
Posted: 10/20/2011 1:57:58 AM
I'm listed as an organ donor on my driver's license. Didn't know you needed more than that (Canada). I don't/can't donate blood which is sad since I've received blood transfusions.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
I keep getting messages from WAY older guys!! :(
Posted: 10/20/2011 1:44:43 AM
Boondock, you dirty old man!
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
Wasted/Blown opportunities and what to do in situations that present themselves?
Posted: 10/20/2011 1:39:32 AM
What's the worst that could have happened?

The girl could have turned you down and you'd be in the same place as if you had never asked - no date...with maybe a bit of a bruised ego. Develop a hard shell and take your chances.

However, wisdom says, don't ask a girl out just because you think she might be interested in you. Ask her out if you're interested in her. Get the difference? The latter is more genuine.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 39 (view)
Odd First Date - Should I Contact Him?
Posted: 10/20/2011 1:15:58 AM
If he's *really* interested in you, he'll pursue you, phone or text.

If you're *really* interested in him, you'll call or text. How interested are you in seeing him again?

Let me point out that you are attractive and young and that there are a lot of young men out there. You do not have to settle for lukewarm, half-way to-the-car guys.

And like you, I got all hung up on paying my share of dates because of the angry man threads on POF. It back-fired. It created an atmosphere of discomfort.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 132 (view)
what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/20/2011 12:04:53 AM
What instantly comes to mind are
Going out...and not being alone
Cooking a beautiful meal and sharing it...with an appreciative other
Sunday morning sleep-ins together
Reading to eachother
The simple bedtime routine and cuddles
Watching TV on the couch together
Mutual footrubs
Commenting on newspaper articles
A reason to dress up and primp
Someone else on the other end of the two by four

There's probably a hundred more things I could list. I really miss the simple, wonderful companionship. sigh
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 63 (view)
Women in heels...
Posted: 10/19/2011 9:14:27 PM

Why do some women torture themselves to try to LOOK taller and walk funny?

That funny walk is provocative that even the woman herself feels. The high heel extends the leg and emphasizes the calf muscle making it shapely. The raised heel makes the hips move sensuously. For such a high IQ guy, I thought you'd know this stuff.

I'm quite comfy in Crocs but have a wonderful selection of heels for those times that I want to strut. My legs are one of my best physical assets. All of my high heels are comfortable.

To the OP, wear high heels if it makes you feel sexy. Look at all the celebrities who have women who tower above them. They obviously are not emasculated by women taller than them.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
healing with macrobiotics
Posted: 10/18/2011 1:13:50 AM
My friend's brother, Mark, was diagnosed with cancer and only given months to live. He travelled to California (from East Coast Canada) to study macrobiotics at some institution. After going on the diet, his doctors were stunned to find that his tumour had shrunk considerably. He lived for another ten years before finally succumbing to cancer.

On the opposite side, I have a good friend who went on a macrobiotic diet in the 70's and she claims that she almost died on it.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 62 (view)
Have you ever psychoanalyzed your partner or been with one who psychoanalyzed you?
Posted: 10/18/2011 12:32:27 AM
Short answer is yah.

I've accumulated what I think is quite a treasure trove of insights and knowledge, and during the infrequent conversations I've had with my ex I've ached to share some of those insights with her. Particularly those which seem to have her name stamped in bold letters on them.

So, I assume that it was all about her and had nothing to do with you? This could possibly be true. Maybe you fell in love with an extraordinary woman who was a nutter underneath it all. But consider that you were part of the equation. As much as you want to recapture whatever you lost, you cannot psychoanalyze your past partner into revelation and change. Only she can do that.

Use your newfound information for your next relationship and bid this last one good-bye.

BTW, do your insights have anything to do with BPD?
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
Ex husband coming to visit
Posted: 10/18/2011 12:19:20 AM
I have no intention of playing house while he is here and am busy making plans to be gone as much as possible. Any suggestions about making this easier to deal with?

For how long is he visiting? Is there any desire on his part, or more especially, your children's part, that you re-unite? Not uncommon for kids from divorced families.

I suggest that you spend a couple "getting along" dinners together as a family but find lodgings elsewhere with a friend or relative during his stay. No need to play house for him. It could be a mini holiday for you. Let him and the kids bond and do wonderful things together. Let him get them off to school, feed them and tuck them in.

Make your mantra "It's for my children. It's for my children."
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 109 (view)
Posted: 10/15/2011 7:55:36 PM
1) how did you get STD in the first place? ......says it all.
Im thinking sex

Duh. Your remark smacks of judgement.
Your facile answer does not say it all! More in depth:
A cheating partner who brought it home???
Multiple partners, no protection.
One time sex, no protection.
Blood transfusion.
"Dirty" needle.
Bad medical practise. At the moment, NS is informing clients of a certain clinic from which they may have been infected with HIV.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
Asking a Father's Permission to Propose
Posted: 10/15/2011 2:27:56 PM
There is a compromise that respects tradition yet acknowledges the bride-to-be's autonomy. Ask, preferably both parents, for their blessing.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
f-buddies vs serious relationship
Posted: 10/14/2011 2:29:54 PM
Do you ever take her out on a date? Romance her? Real couples do more than just have sex with eachother. I'll bet there are things you could change in your own behaviour that would change her attitude towards you.

Yeah, as others say, drop the f-buddy title especially if you want her to be more than one.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
Athletes Heart / left ventricular hypertrophy
Posted: 10/13/2011 7:50:05 PM

but still I absolutely *loved* pushing myself to that extreme.

So, here's the dilemma that only you can solve.
Do you live the life that you love but risk it being shorter than
a safe life that doesn't challenge you?

We all die in the end. If given a choice, I'd vote for the life I loved rather than a prolonged, safe life.
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 179 (view)
Do women like men with long or short hair?
Posted: 10/13/2011 7:23:35 PM
Moi, child of the sixties am turned on by men with longish hair even if it is bald on top. However, any hairstyle is fine if it is accompanied by a good soul.
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