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 Author Thread: A friend in need?
 UncoolNegated
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
A friend in need?
Posted: 9/2/2008 11:44:17 PM
the one by leafslady
 UncoolNegated
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
A friend in need?
Posted: 9/2/2008 11:43:50 PM
this is the only dumb comment
thanks everyone
 UncoolNegated
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
What do you think about tip jars?
Posted: 8/27/2008 1:01:55 AM
Yeah I don't like tip jars either, except for maybe on bar counters and stuff. I hate the way that a lot of workers outside of hospitality now want tips for good customer service. Donut shops, like you mention, don't really do anything to deserve a tip. They hand you your food over the counter. Are you telling me that service wasn't covered by their wage?

I hate buffet restaurants wanting tips as well. I mean you go get your own food and drink for crying out loud. I was in Cancun at a buffet and I had no problems walking out without tipping.
 UncoolNegated
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
A friend in need?
Posted: 8/27/2008 12:57:34 AM
A good friend of 20 years was in his hour of need. He had taken a big risk: he'd moved to a big city to try and market his degree for a job. However, after a month with no leads he started going broke. His phone got cut off and he needed money, not only for that, but to buy a software program so that he could make a portfolio so that he could market his work as he wanted to work as a graphic artist.

I made the minimum payment to get his phone reconnected and I bought him the software, altogether totalling $200. Beforehand I indicated that he would not have to pay me back until he got his second paycheque at his new job. I didn't want to seem like I was worried about it.

That was two years ago and he never paid me back though we talked about it and I asked for the money. To be congenial I said he could pay me back in four $50 installments. He never confirmed or denied that he would pay me.

About a year and a bit ago I quit asking for the money but I know he has a lot of it now. His facebook photos include Vegas vacations and nice hotel rooms. I decided to delete him as a friend because, in my view, friends DO LEND friends money. In fact, I would go so far as to say that this is something that a friend MUST DO if the situation calls for it.

But friends also pay friends back and if he can stiff me for $200 then was he my friend? No, he was my exploiter.

Did I mention we were friends for 20 years? Literally, grade four.

He messaged me and asked why he couldn't view my profile any more. I told him exactly why.

He then called me shallow for basing our friendship on money and used the fact that I ended our friendship as a justifiable reason NOT to pay me back. I told him when I lent him the money, it was not about the money: it was about his needs at the time. Also, I pointed out that he agreed to pay me back and therefore could no longer be trusted.
 UncoolNegated
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 796 (view)
 
Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 8/27/2008 12:45:24 AM
women are often attracted to confidence

sometimes they mistake being a sweetheart for being weak and timid
 UncoolNegated
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 217 (view)
 
what is everyones opin on tattoos?
Posted: 8/27/2008 12:38:31 AM
hude turnoff
deal breaker
i say it explicitly in my profile
 UncoolNegated
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Is reading someone's diary _ever_ justified?
Posted: 8/27/2008 12:10:59 AM
the main problem was you were with the wrong person or at least in the wrong situation

one time somebody stayed at a bed and breakfast and then checked out but forgot their diary in the drawer

i was the next guest and i used the clues in the diary to find out who the person was, then was i was certain i mailed it back to the person with my email and she was happy
 UncoolNegated
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Why Can't Men Be Friends First??
Posted: 8/26/2008 10:06:18 PM
I can be friends first, no problem. But if the person I am being friends with is super good looking, then this thing called biology clicks in and then just being friends gets a little....if you'll pardon the pun....harder.
 
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