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 Author Thread: Men, Long Bathroom Visits...?
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Men, Long Bathroom Visits...?
Posted: 1/7/2011 8:51:30 PM
Had any unusual calls lately? Maybe they were etching your name and number on the stall door.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 1/7/2011 8:36:42 PM
Here's a scientific study: Put 50 guys and 50 women in a room....I'd be willing to wager there would be many, many more guys willing than the women.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Do most women love dating guys with lots of flaws, so they can fix them?
Posted: 11/7/2010 8:35:37 AM
I think everyone has some flaws to be fixed. But the one to be doing any fixing should be themselves. And thats only if they want to. The only thing any person can do is decide which flaws are deal breakers for them and which are not. Going into any relationship trying to control a person or outcome are just destine toward failure...imo.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
 
WHY DO MEN LIE TO GET A WOMAN TO FALL IN LOVE
Posted: 10/23/2010 5:51:00 PM
There will always be people who lie....maybe learn to be less gullible to their lies. To me, I'm wary of most peoples intentions until their trust is earned.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
On sharing the costs of dating
Posted: 9/10/2010 7:11:35 PM
There is more than one form of currency than just money in any relationship - someone's time, thoughtfulness, character, etc.. Money = value. As long as you bring some value to the relationship it will offset any money spent.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Advise on a friend who wants to persue a co-worker
Posted: 9/10/2010 6:41:42 PM
She already knows she wants to pursue this fella. Not likely going to matter what you say anyways. My advice, is to not give friends advice about love or money.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
How close to 'perfect' do you want them to be?
Posted: 8/14/2010 8:29:45 AM
Complete perfection is boring. Imperfection is what makes life more interesting. Think about past memories of people you have known, and I'd guess you would be more likely to remember their little quirks of imperfection more than what they were perfect at.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
why are people so busy?
Posted: 6/27/2010 7:34:51 PM
Blame the pursuit of the American dream to get more stuff. Pursuing stuff is the priority nowadays, not pursuing people. That's my take...
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
their last relationship was with someone who was married...deal breaker?
Posted: 6/23/2010 8:28:41 PM
Huge deal breaker, IMO. Shows lack respect for boundaries and poor judgement.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 52 (view)
 
The Men You Should Never Marry...
Posted: 6/18/2010 5:34:19 PM
IMO...never marry anyone who needs the advice of others as whom they should marry.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
600 emails to get 5 dates???
Posted: 6/5/2010 11:57:39 AM
That's why I stick to meeting in real life. People on-line are too fickle.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Thai Women and Money exchange
Posted: 5/23/2010 4:05:09 AM
He obviously thinks she is worth sending the money to. You stated your opinion to him and now just leave it at that. He's a big boy and can make his own choices - good or bad. And if your thinking of cutting off your friendship just because of something like this, IMO, he's better off without your friendship.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Have you ever asked out a guy? How often do you do that?
Posted: 5/17/2010 4:34:12 PM
From msg 47 -
I'm looking for someone who takes initiatives in life, is confident and knows what he wants. I'm looking for guts/action/balls/walking up to the plate kinda guy!


Just as some men like women with the same qualities (excluding balls though...lol.)
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Have you ever asked out a guy? How often do you do that?
Posted: 5/16/2010 9:22:42 AM

The male bird dances, the female watches and selects.


I would hope we have evolved to more than having bird brains...
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 46 (view)
 
how many is to many?
Posted: 5/13/2010 6:12:01 PM
I would want to know just because of the high disease factor possibility. That, and shows if someone has self-control. Poor self-control in one area of judgement also means a high probability of it happening in other decisions they make. JMO.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 39 (view)
 
'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 5/10/2010 6:31:04 PM
POF is more like a large aquarium and not the sea. Most come to just look at the fish but really have no intention of trying to catch one.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Users
Posted: 5/6/2010 7:43:33 PM

Everyone uses everybody for something. It's the whole of human relationships.


I disagree. Some people can actually give to others unconditionally and not always expect something in return.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
tired of the bar scene?
Posted: 5/2/2010 8:38:53 AM
Bars can be great entertainment for watching others making imbeciles out of themselves. Finding a mate, not so much. But on occasion you can find a "diamond in the rough". But I would rather stick to venues that require more intelligence.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Man is not contacting as often...what gives?
Posted: 5/2/2010 8:30:55 AM
Geez....why the all the pressure and thinking everything has to fall perfectly into place after just one meet? What, are all your dates on some strict timeline? Stop being so obsessive and controlling about it and just go with the flow. Things will either happen, or they won't. Really no biggie for very little time invested. Your post does come off as being somewhat desperate and needy for attention. Guys pickup on that, and usually will disappear quickly.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
I'd like for us to be friends...
Posted: 5/1/2010 3:52:00 AM
I believe it's difficult for men (or women) to be friends with people you're attracted to, or have dated. Usually, there is always one that wants it to be more (even though they say they don't) and it makes things awkward. However, it may be possible to be friends with women you're not attracted to. But they'll likely want it to be more with you. I'd say stick with making some male friends to hang out with. JMO.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
You have 30 Minutes To Impress Me!
Posted: 4/20/2010 3:20:05 PM
I'd would have said: "Really no need to meet, as it took you only 30 seconds to not impress me."
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Portion Distortion
Posted: 4/18/2010 4:58:50 PM
I think most American's in general (men and women) have portion distortion.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Culture/Social class/Upbringing is a contributable factor to infidelity
Posted: 4/18/2010 11:19:21 AM
I believe the major contribute-able factor is common stupidity.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 65 (view)
 
no guys left wanting a partner? or even dates!!
Posted: 4/17/2010 6:19:30 AM
I'd say it all depends on where you live. If you live in a smaller city the more likely you will have to travel farther to meet people you're interested in. But I'd think if you can't at least find a few people in a city of 100,000, or more, the problem is likely you. Way too picky? Or aren't realistic in your options.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Can having a bigot mother hurt your dating/social life?
Posted: 3/28/2010 6:46:03 PM
Their not dating your mother. So, it can only hurt your dating/social life if you're allowing it to.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 76 (view)
 
My 8 year must accept you before I do.
Posted: 3/24/2010 8:38:52 PM
sounds like she really shouldn't be dating until she learns how to be a proper parent. she should only be concerned that her prospective partner will treat her children well.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
when guys are just not into you
Posted: 3/24/2010 8:25:43 PM
^^^ maybe you're just picking immature men.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
when guys are just not into you
Posted: 3/24/2010 8:14:58 PM
also, why not just be up front with the men you meet that you're okay being told so they don't have to guess what your reaction will be.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
when guys are just not into you
Posted: 3/24/2010 8:07:56 PM
like others have said....mostly because they're just not into the drama some will display when the truth be told.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Dead fish syndrome
Posted: 3/13/2010 6:38:15 AM
It's really bad when they bloat up and start to smell.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Why are 2nd marriages even more doomed to failure than the 1st
Posted: 3/13/2010 6:33:07 AM
I believe some that leave a 1st marriage have learned to be so co-dependant that they rush into something new right away as they can't stand to live alone. Bad idea. I think you need at least a good year after divorce to let the emotions settle and allow yourself to reflect on it and choosing well the next time.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 93 (view)
 
Never married & no kids
Posted: 2/26/2010 7:22:58 PM
I assume they're very intelligent.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 61 (view)
 
High Maintenance versus Being Realistic
Posted: 2/26/2010 7:20:13 PM
Sounds like an Oxymoron to me.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Do We Attract Our Parents?
Posted: 2/26/2010 7:16:47 PM
Good God I hope not.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Jaded!!!
Posted: 2/26/2010 7:12:57 PM
My view of these kind of people...

J-ealous
A-rrogant
D-isturbed
E-gotistical
D-umbasses

JMO
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Alrighty, This seems to be quite the trend these days...
Posted: 2/24/2010 4:51:01 PM
If I was to guess, it is they likely found you boring and dull. Girls your age want to have fun and look for guys that keep things interesting. What do you do when you meetup with them? Make sure it's something adventurous and different than just hanging out.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
 
People Who Can't Be Punctual
Posted: 2/22/2010 4:26:28 PM
thats why I set my watch 10 mins early.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Something smells fishy
Posted: 2/22/2010 4:12:02 PM
thats why you should focus most of your attention to meeting people in real life. pretty unlikely you're gonna find anyone here, too much deception and disillusion. but use it as just one other option for meeting people and you could be one of the lucky lottery-of-love winners on here. just don't get your hopes up and get out from behind the keyboard once in a while.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
why would you bother?
Posted: 2/21/2010 7:22:11 PM
Cuz some people feel they have to mean to offset their own insecurities. Don't let it bother you and just block him. By not retorting makes you the better person.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Never Been In Love and problems with confidence...
Posted: 2/21/2010 2:50:11 PM
Like others have said, focus on getting yourself and your son somewhere better in life. Work towards getting a real career and some stability. That will attract quailty men to you more than anything else. Confidence in your own abilities to make it in life. Good luck to you and your baby.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Completely and utterly confused, Help!!
Posted: 2/21/2010 11:43:09 AM
What a self-absorbed putz. He just needs to be a man and live up to his obligations of his vows. Pathetic.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Loseing Interest
Posted: 2/21/2010 11:15:27 AM
Don't just sit and ignore the problems and think they are going to change for the better. You both need to sit down and talk and negotiate some common ground on what you what from each other in the relationship. Work out a plan on how to get there. Sometimes it helps to write it out. The best thing you can so is encourage him in what you want from him and not nag him about it. That will just put him on the defensive. However, after a few times of trying and he is still totally unwilling to even meet you half way you may just need to leave. If you can afford it, get a few counseling sessions together to help you work through it. Good luck.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 49 (view)
 
I'm A Booty Call....HELP!
Posted: 2/12/2010 7:50:54 PM
People treat you they way you allow them to. Stop allowing yourself to be a booty call. You're not a victim....you're an accomplice.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 44 (view)
 
She wants this lifestyle, but i cant handle it...
Posted: 2/12/2010 7:08:59 PM
Your "comfort" should be knowing you're out of that disastrous situation. Don't ever try to justify changing your own morals and values for someone else's sake.
 SwimminWithTheFishies
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
How long should I wait to ask my guy friend if he wants to be exclusive?
Posted: 2/12/2010 6:41:43 PM
You'll know when he starts introducing you to others as his "girlfriend".
 2EquallyYoked
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Staying Single On Purpose
Posted: 2/10/2010 4:38:25 PM

The present day dalai lama seems to be in good mental health and I am pretty sure he has been single all his life.


As is the Pope, and most Catholic priests and nuns.

Yeah, there are a few bad eggs that have made the news, but thats just a very few. Just as you would find in population as a whole anyways.
 2equallyyoked
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
How N-O-T to become friends with a girl you really like!!! [advice]
Posted: 2/9/2010 6:57:44 PM
^^^^ yeah, right!

Just be yourself OP, and not be desperate and clingy. Be confident in what you have to offer. If it's meant to be it will work out. If not, keep looking.
 2equallyyoked
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Staying Single On Purpose
Posted: 2/9/2010 6:45:02 PM
Seeing all the damage and destruction relationships has caused my family and friends has kept me single.

Seriously, though, I'd get married if I felt it was right. But I'd honestly rather be single all my life than even one day married wishing I was. But I also purposefully did not date much in my early life, as I was focused more on my career and getting stable before even thinking of taking the plunge of marriage and kids. Didn't want to drown. However, thinking kids aren't much of possibility anymore after a few more years.
 2equallyyoked
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
How N-O-T to become friends with a girl you really like!!! [advice]
Posted: 2/9/2010 6:14:33 PM
Treat her more like you would one of your guy friends. Just go out and have fun and tease around a bit. Treat her more as an equal than putting her on a pedestal. Putting her on a pedestal will make you come off as desperate. Keep some mystery in where you stand with her. Don't get so caught up in that things have to work out. You may find you want to put her in the friend zone. :)
 2equallyyoked
Joined: 6/29/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Should I Tell Her Friend That She Needs Therapy
Posted: 2/9/2010 5:52:26 PM
Op, why do you care if you don't plan on being long-term friends with her. I'm sure her close friends are perfectly aware of any problems that she may be dealing with. You'll likely just come of as an asshat telling them. Why put yourself in that position.
 
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