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 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
RE This is offensive
Posted: 1/21/2009 9:19:01 PM
Personally if someone wants to put up a "rubbish" profile, more power to them, they should have the freedom to do that and everyone will know that much more about them.
I'm a firm believer in giving people enough rope to hang themselves.
What's the point of giving someone enough rope to hang themselves if you then tie so many knots in the rope that they can't make their own noose?
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
RE This is offensive
Posted: 1/19/2009 11:21:40 PM

Actually it's HIDEOUSLY amusing.

[u](OMG ... ... Oh THIS IS SO amusing, they no longer allow strings of periods, but if you group them in groups of 3 or less ... ... ... ROFLMAO... ... ... total ADMIN control freak - BS - out of control)[/u]
sorry, just had a gut-wrenching laugh over Admin's ideas of trying to make things better, trying to FORCE us poor ignorant people to write better profiles.

I still can't sit up straight my sides hurt too much.

TY much for the awesome laughter ......... LOL.

oh, and other combination of meaningless strings are fine if you are willing to do anything but just hold down 1 Key.
I pity the poor schlep who was assigned the job (the more so if it was GOD/ADMIN himself).
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
If one of my photos is deleted by an admin, would I get a warning?
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:44:01 PM
Actually the review process doesn't happen if you don't have a check in the "Rate Image" box for that picture.
Pics can also be removed by admin/authorized people, and in most cases I've heard of there's no message or penalty. (of course none of the cases I've heard of were flagrant nudity)
mostly it was "not clear face" shot or "Toon":, I suspect the first time they just assume user ignorance/testing of the system and don't have the time to "slam" you as they are too busy moving on to the next little detail someone griped about (I highly suspect -as is the case in most enforcement situations - if no one gripes, admin hasn't got the time to deal with it, there are a lot of pics that have been there for months that CLEARLY don't meet the guidelines.)
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 107 (view)
High maintenance definitions
Posted: 1/17/2009 10:07:55 PM
there are lots of kinds of "high maintenance."
Financial (obvious)
Emotional (both constantly having to lend support and/or having to walk on egg shells)
social (having to keep up with a lot if info/styles/friends)
Physical (obvious)
Psychological (keeping up with mind games)
Time (being very demanding of how much time you spend together, and when/how)
Intellectual (constantly wanting to discuss DEEP matter)

How much is TOO MUCH is anyone's opinion, and varies by the person.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 186 (view)
Would you let someone you met on POF read all your messages to other people?
Posted: 1/17/2009 8:35:10 PM
QUID PRO QUO. (maybe)


Then I decide if she can read mine.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 41 (view)
Am I Gay?
Posted: 1/16/2009 7:17:25 PM
msg # 20:
It's the prostrate...


someone knows something about male "G" spots!!!!
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
Green Bay decent guys
Posted: 1/6/2009 1:01:30 AM
For the most part, mods don't bother with threads unless they're reported by someone.
They're too busy to go LOOKING for issues.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
Does Participation In The Forums Make Her More Appealing?
Posted: 1/3/2009 6:37:26 AM
More, or less appealing .....NOT.

The contents of the posts may do that, but not the choice to participate.

Of course if I had a choice of reading :
A) a profile.
B) a sequence of 25 posts read in context

before making a decision on whether to ask them out .......

not an easy choice, some people are much better at accurate profiles (maybe because they want to be?).

But I would probably go with B.

As to

if you came across a post from someone you were interested in (in one of the forums), would you be gentler on them (assuming you disagreed with their position)

DUH .... of course I'm not going to intentionally piss someone off that I'm interested in!!!
But their expression of a point of view I don't agree with would probably have a minor effect on my interest level.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
Trying to catch your man in a trap
Posted: 1/3/2009 3:33:51 AM
Psychological self defense takes many forms.

Some forms are more hostile and antagonistic than others.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
I am lost...there is no place like home...
Posted: 1/3/2009 2:58:07 AM
well some topics are worth revisiting if you found it by searching for a topic you want to discuss, it's better to continue a thread, than start a new one.

Depending on what method I use to find a thread, I usually check date of last post before posting, (and you can put the OP on your faves list to see when they last logged in. --- that's prob one of the reasons you see a lot of gripes from people about being put in faves, and immediately removed, someone's just checking when was your last log in, I don't know any other way to see how long it's been since someone logged in.)

Anyway sometimes it's still a topic worth revisiting, then go on :), who cares if the OP's not around anymore if it's a topic oriented post.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
I am lost...there is no place like home...
Posted: 1/2/2009 2:00:06 AM
to: GG

She ain't logged in since "6/30/2006" your comment is JUST A BIT TARDY.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
important message deleted after only 20 days???
Posted: 1/2/2009 12:20:30 AM
AH, and I'm not sure why it took me so long to notice the change in the last 1/2 of this:
From the bottom of message reading pages:

If a user requests money on this site it's a scam, and you should report it here along with any other type of scam/spam. We delete messages older than 20 days because they take up too much space.

It would have been nice of ADMIN to alert us the change was coming as I was of the habit of going through messages about to expire and deciding at that time if I still wanted to keep track of the sender : ( ............................ Oh well .....
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
important message deleted after only 20 days???
Posted: 12/28/2008 11:43:40 PM
Did you lose ALL your messages back before 20 days?

AH finally, it seems someone else is posting re the same problem I have just started having?

since 12/22(I think) my in box and sent msg have only go back 20 days instead of 30+(it used to be pretty consistently 31-32 days).

I'm curious how many others have the same problem.

I have positive confirmation from 3 others so far. (as of now only messages back to 12-8)

However I also have definite answers from 2 people I trust that they seem unaffected.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
deleting account!!
Posted: 12/28/2008 11:35:00 PM
There's nothing that prevents you from changing the name, setting all fields to N/A or "tell u later", and deleting all content.
I've never tried feeding it an invalid email address to send stuff to but at most difficult you could create a temporary Yahoo, hot mail, or Gmail and point it there, then delete that email address.
Make an email like: random numbers & letters) and don't record the name anywhere. Once you've deleted the email you can't remember a random string name to recreate it.
and if you set the POF password to a long string of gibberish you paste into both fields you can't be tempted to look at the account again as you can't get in and the email for resetting the password is also non-recoverable.

A bit convoluted, but to You effectively the same.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
Fish Virus
Posted: 12/28/2008 11:20:28 PM
I'd be very curious why you think POF is the source of the problem you had.

and I'm wondering why you're "downloading" user profiles instead of just looking at them?

you make a pretty serious allegation with NO supporting evidence
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
Posted: 12/27/2008 8:29:48 PM
do a search in forums for "banned words"

or just dig around in FAQs for a bit

lots of useful information there.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
How Many Messages Does My In Box Hold?
Posted: 12/26/2008 11:25:02 AM
unless the server "glitches" and loses a bunch.

as of yesterday mine are gone (in & out) from before 12/6

anyone else had this problem? so far only 1 friend has replied and they had the same thing.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
Page navigation in sent mail folder gone?
Posted: 12/25/2008 3:39:46 PM
I doubt the feature is "gone" I suspect it's a "glitch", I was fine 4 days ago, now I'm the same, only the most recent page instead of going back 30 days like they say it's supposed to (like the In-Box)
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
Dumped by SMS on my birthday
Posted: 12/11/2008 8:06:26 AM
Some people just HAVE NO F-ing CLUE about nonconfrontational personalities.

It doesn't have a damned thing to do with "respect" it has to do with the SEVERELY uncomfortable situation and a significant psychological paranoia that it will get NASTY if it's done in person.

If a relatively passive person is going to break up with an aggressive confrontational person, GUARANTIED it won't be in person, and respect has nothing to do with it.

OP: sorry to hear that, "just friends" can be "just fine" as long as you aren't maintaining the "Just friends" status with the expectation that it will change in the future. THAT is a recipe for LONG TERM PAIN.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 58 (view)
Why do people ask about other's ethnicity?
Posted: 12/11/2008 12:58:18 AM
Because some people are dumb enough to care what color your skin is.

Simple as that.

All philosophical and sociological B.S. Aside, yes there are some core differences in how each different culture raises it's own. But for the most part people are people.

One thing all people wish for is the ability to deal in simple terms.

The simple mind says:
You're (insert ethnicity here), I don't want you.
You're (insert other ethnicity here) I do.
End of story, the simple mind is on it's way, and doesn't give a crap what you think, or that they may have just "passed" on someone who is a perfect match.

We all have our predisposed likes and dislikes, it's how our minds keep things from getting too complex to manage.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 51 (view)
has anybody found that you have used up pof
Posted: 12/9/2008 12:18:32 AM
LOL ....... well over 10 mill acts....... adding 100,000+ weekly???

(ok, prob 1/2 are now gone, or bogus) .......still

Where the hell are you Antarctica?

or are you limited to "in walking distance"?

as to "looked interesting" YIKES, DO NOT judge a person by their profile .....

some of the coolest people have average profiles.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 44 (view)
She doesn't want to be exclusive yet wants me to refrain from dating others
Posted: 12/2/2008 9:44:28 PM
Maybe the other guy has a bigger schlong but you're more fun to talk to, so she wants sex with him and chit chat with you.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 89 (view)
Plentyoffish Paid Virtual Gifts.
Posted: 11/28/2008 4:41:42 AM
The idea's OK, but

To make it totally clear I DO APROVE OF THE IDEA. But in it's current form it's unacceptable.


1) the ability to block/remove the option form one's own individual profile.

2) and the ability to refuse a gift, and for refused gifts to be refunded to the card at least in part. (a minimal service fee would not be out of line here).

It is totally unfair for one person to be able to spend money on another without their consent or the ability to say "no thanks".
And if the refusal cannot be accompanied by a refund of the charge then the situation is still the same, the recipient is still in a position of having been the object of another's expense, and is hence obligated to them at least in some small way. At least it is very difficult for most people to not view it that way.

2) note: The second option should come with the ability to add a note of explanation, ie,
"Nice thought, I do like you, but I don't see that we're far along enough in this relationship that I feel comfortable with you spending $30 on me yet"

or "GAWD PUT AWAY THE F-ing C.C. and listen to me just once!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
or "go away DOUCHBAG!!
I do hope the motive for profit will not out weigh the sense of common courtesy for which, in my opinion, to this point this site has truly been AWESOME.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
Is he interested or not?
Posted: 11/16/2008 12:28:01 AM
Only he can tell you girl, and he might not even know.

A lot of people seem "interesting" when you meet the first time, and you just want to get to know them better and see where it might or might not go.

Don't push it, kick back and enjoy the company, get to know him a bit better, only time and proximity can clear up questions like this
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
The clinically undateable
Posted: 11/16/2008 12:22:49 AM
Ah, Ha!!!!

so knowing what you're looking for is the key to Nirvana?
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
Constant Contact
Posted: 11/11/2008 6:59:52 AM

Ok, I had the same issue with me and my girl.

some people need to READ the OP's post a little more carefully before replying.

Some people are just that way, some love receiving the attention, others feel smothered,
and others simply look at the logical side and can handle either way.
But it is a SURE deal breaker for some one way or the other so bettter get it sorted out early in the relationship.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
A hearts dilemma
Posted: 11/11/2008 4:52:10 AM
Be honest and up front about it, lots of people in the same boat.

Just watch for signs "He" is getting too serious (Or you are) and be prepared to back off and explain why.

Hmmm you wouldn't happen to be the other half of:

(JK) but the potential resemblance is striking.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 46 (view)
Ok I have no idea what happend
Posted: 11/11/2008 4:45:19 AM
What can you do?

kick back, relax, batten down the hatches.

but mostly a brief "how ya doin" every couple of days, let her know you're still thinking of her, but not being smothering.

Emotionally prepare to move on .....SUX.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 68 (view)
Share Your Broken Heart Poetry
Posted: 11/11/2008 4:26:39 AM
I feel you want me to move on
please correct me if I am wrong
it has not been nearly so long
I wish t'had been a longer song

I cannot say “I love you dear”
for truth is I did not get so near
that I can say how I felt here
but as time will, t'is unclear

It seems like now you pass me off
onto another's care on poff
we two'll not be an item hence
forth with t'is time to recommence
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
I was thinking of changing profile any advice?
Posted: 10/27/2008 2:22:44 AM
CB & OS You guys are ALL OVER this (darn I can't find a smiley smoking a cigar )
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
Help please
Posted: 10/27/2008 2:15:12 AM
Those who do not spend time reading the FAQs

to need to read them later

I'll admit, I have often been guilty
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 851 (view)
People who just write how are you
Posted: 10/26/2008 9:21:16 PM

I don't want a woman who can't respond politely to a basic courteous message, so read/deleting could be doing me a favor and I have weeded out a section of the populace by doing so.

 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
How are you liking the new 'ages' under peoples little pictures?
Posted: 10/24/2008 2:09:11 PM
[ quote ] .... I thought it was the size of their... [ /quote ]

Well, now if THAT increased by 1 each year as we got older .........

The numbers were OK, but age is very relative.

I've known some 30 year olds that seemed older than some 40 year olds. (and more mature too)

most people here seemed to like it, but do you really think the people who didn't would post here?

10-1 says admin caught a LOT of FLACK eMail.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
Username under pics in Viewed Me section
Posted: 10/24/2008 12:17:04 PM
I thought I saw city names under people's pics at some point recently.

I thought that would be useful. distance is a big factor.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 49 (view)
Is It Those We Date That Are The Problem...Or Is It US?
Posted: 10/23/2008 12:20:49 PM
WOW in my current context my last message seems so .........................
Detached / naive / a little callous.........................

An extended version of the following may well end up in "Old Souls......only"
But I think it fits here, almost too well. Especially in light of my last post (Msg: #53)
so totally at the other end of the spectrum...................

Life is a long and winding road that we all walk together
whether we like it or not.
It is a very wide road and it is possible
to walk apart from others.
But the natural tenancy for most of us
is to wish for company.
And yet oft times our efforts fail.

Perhaps sometimes it is because
we are so wrapped up in our own pain
as we are walking along
that we fail to see someone else's
till we carelessly bump into them
and see them double over in reaction.

Then, the damage done, how to recover .......................

Do you dare reach out again?
With no clue if touching them
may just cause more pain,
possibly for you both.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
Favs list, viewed me, sent msg, do we really need em
Posted: 10/19/2008 12:15:12 PM
TOTALLY NEED. Favs & sent; "viewed me" ? maybe not so much?
"Favs,"? WTF would I do without it .... nuf said.

"sent messages" without it you can't know when a message was filtered out.
Unless you're strategy is to fire off 200 messages /day and ignore all profiles that don't respond.
I specifically send messsages intending to get a response and once in a while something in the system makes them "evaporate".
If you put any effort into a message it's nice to know it
1)actually arrives to destination
2)it's "read"/"unread" status
3) it's "deleted" or not status),
As there is no feature to return mail not reaching it's destination the sent messages is essential if you have any interest in trying to follow through.

"viewed me"? it does draw my attention to profiles I haven't seen in searches, and I definitely think it contributes to additional communication. (of course evidence in th e forums suggests it also contributes to a LOT of confusion :(
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
Can't Believe My Eyes
Posted: 10/12/2008 3:03:25 AM
OP: If the sight was any of the PAID" sights which advertise "Sexually Explicit" I'd guess it's 50/50 he wasn't joking. Particularly if he had a PAID membership.
I was gonna post a rant here but did a search for “dating sites” and it seems there's plenty of better places for it.
If you're interested in some detailed info on several singles sites I'll have it posted later after I find an appropriate nook for it.

Re LTR here on POF, well unfortunately there's an I.E. Filter.
It's a real nice idea, BUT once people figure it out, the more devious individuals start using other settings to avoid the consequence of severely limiting their ability to contact people.
Oh, well, as long as you're aware and wary, makes it that much more " FUN"
** that last line is DRIPPING sarcasm like a REALLY bad runny nose**
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 45 (view)
Other Dating Sites/ Scams ?
Posted: 10/12/2008 2:28:30 AM
In the interests of protecting the guilty any apparent similarities between names used herein and any names you may know in the real world are purely coincidental. Also any familiar looking acronyms refer to something else than what you might think. ('')

Well I haven't been around the singles sights very long yet but I tend to figure things out pretty quick. ('')
So a bit of info re several sights for anyone who may find it useful:
I lump “UnTrue”, American Swindles, & Armature March in with the more obviously sleazy ones (ArFF, TurdFling etc.) because either they have system bots sending enticing mails, or a lot of Spammers doing it, and little or no actual filter control (though they have a page where you can supposedly set filters)
On "UnTrue"(I'm probably most upset with them as that was the first site I put a fair amount of time into before I figured it out)The interface really SUX and there are a ton pf pages/sub pages so it takes a while to figure out for sure that you can't read/do anything without giving them a CC#(supposedly for ID purposes)
I signed up for the free act. quick, and every line in my profile read "Bla,bla,bla,Bla,bla,blaBla,bla,bla Bla,bla,bla" ( Lucky I was in a hurry to fill things in as it was late and I was tired, had planned to clean it up later).
Next morning I already had 14 messages!!!!!! THAT made me suspicious, so I changed the first line of my intro to "If you are a real person be sure to have "XYZ" at the beginning of any coms. Of course I can't read anything incoming so I don't know for sure what's up.
Anyway, at that point I decide to set ALL filters to kill any incoming messages (similar to killing all contact options here) and still got 6-10 emails a day saying you have messages from people wanting to "chat, meet, whatever"
Well, who really knows right? Maybe there really are that many 100 year old “androgynous” individuals out there who are interested in my profile ..... YIKESSS!!!!!!!!!
So they are definitely on the bottom of my "Maybe, during the last week before Armageddon list"
Oh, American Swindles appears to be equally useless for the same reasons but by the time I set up my free act with them I was down to about 1/4 hour of effort.
1) BEGIN: create yahoo mail act (make sure you aren't planning to use it for anything but a Spam magnet ('') )
2) create a "free act with site “A”, be sure to find the filters and set them all to incommunicado(ie don't accept messages from either M, or F, age>=99,no smokers, drugs, etc .....yadda, yadda)
3) check your eMail a week later (see 90+ messages, and 500+ in the spam folder)
4)END [singles site "A" test program ]
5)kill yahoo act(we wouldn't want the bloody Spammers to profit from a live address, now would we )

I don't even remember the name of the site where I got hit with 3 IMs before I was ½ through signing up.
The first one said: “Hi My name is Judy what's your's?” I was suspicious so I just typed a single letter and hit enter, and got the same line 5 times LOL ...... can you say “BOT”

Sorry if it's a lot of that spew, it was a fun little rant/vent and I haven't seen a place where it might be somewhat appropriate till now. I do hope it was mildly entertaining and a bit informative.
Vive le POF !!!
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
Why do women have to be ignorant? Plz someone review my profile
Posted: 10/11/2008 11:10:58 AM
If you are serious about making things work, buckle in for the long haul. All the info I've seen on stats etc. indicates online dating is a hard/tough row to hoe.
Speaking from experience, put all your posts, profile ideas in a text on the desktop, let them simmer for 24 hr.s before posting. Above all NEVER post or change your profile while you're in a down/negative mood, it will show and the impression will be that YOU ARE ALWAYS that way. (OH, I wish I'd followed THAT advice in the past)
Beyond that I won't comment on your profile as I'm probably the last person who'd have any useful advise for you.

good luck.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
Should I go back?
Posted: 10/11/2008 8:53:20 AM
re message #3
WOW "God" is now posting in the forums!!!('')
(sorry"god", couldn't resist, hope this isn't the umpteenth time you've seen that.)

OP: definitely with psssst on getting "out".

If you can't find the motivation, hop on line & read up on the effects of hormones & attraction at an early age.
The 4 years is a VERY telling number.
If you're still killing time and need a mental exercise to clarify things, try this:
Make 2 lists
1) reasons I was with him.
2) reasons I left.
Behind each reason put a score of 1-10 on how strongly you feel about that particular reason.
Add up the numbers to see where you really stand.
If you can do this reasonably objectively I think you will see things much more clearly.

Be sure to have at least 5, preferably more than 10 items on each list, if you don't you are certainly missing some things, there SHOULD be at least a few trivial things if you are thinking objectively. (some people's lists get out to 30+, that's probably a bit more than is useful)
Good luck, best wishes, ...

I was going to end it here, but I did a search for:
"follow your heart for direction, but let your mind chose the path"
hoping to find a useful quote ...... what I actually found was AMAZING!!!
I was crying by the end .......... and truly amazingly it fits this thread to a "T".
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 764 (view)
People who just write how are you
Posted: 10/10/2008 11:24:53 AM
On the other hand when you spend 1/2 an our thinking, tie it in to 3-5 points in their profile, and throw in some humor, and a couple tag lines...................... and get not even a "thanks but not interested" ....... BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, IT SUX.

These days I toss a couple lines at them to let them know I may be interested.

I keep my profile mediocre,but at least accurate. (sorry I just DON'T buy "sales pitching")

And I figure if they're too arrogant to start chatting with someone with a mediocre profile, I'm lucky they passed me by.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
Is It Those We Date That Are The Problem...Or Is It US?
Posted: 10/10/2008 11:12:42 AM
I don't see what's so hard. ('') ('')

I think you just walk up to the person you're meeting for the first time and look closely & DEEPLY into their eyes (the windows to the soul) and you'll instantly know if you're soul mates.

 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 58 (view)
Met this guy on POF - Tell me if I'm right....
Posted: 10/10/2008 10:21:16 AM
Some people are just always late, if you can't deal with that obviously he's not the guy 4u.

The phone call seems strange, but if it was an emergency with his kid ... or

If you were just parked in the car behind him and didn't get out, he might just have been talking while he thought he was waiting for you to finish whatever you were doing and get out of the car and walk up and say "Lets get walking"

Probably a bit of a stretch but I've seen / been in many situations where lack of communication resulted in situations which when viewed from one side looked all wrong, that weren't.

Years ago in High School I asked a girl if I could walk her home after play practice. She said yes and I was on cloud 9 (and I had the impression she was too) for the approximately 1.5 Miles. I lived a couple miles further but no biggy I jogged it and added the distance to my running club miles.
The next 3 nights after play practice I sat out on the front steps waiting to walk her home,(she usually stayed late, & helped with putting away props etc.) she no-showed all 3 nights. I went on to assume that she just wasn't interested and for the rest of high school we were polite but nothing more. For us the end of high school meant going to opposite ends of the country. I've never been inclined to bring it up, BUT:
A thought occurred to me years later when I learned that her normal way home had been out the back door to catch a ride with one of the departing teachers. There are no windows in the front of the building. To this day I cannot remember if I ever let her know I'd be waiting for her out front, except that first night ....................................................
For all I know I'm the ASS that never bothered to show any interest in her after I walked her home that night.
So any time I hear of someone not talking to someone else because of some assumptions they have in their heads ...........
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
What is your Bail?
Posted: 10/10/2008 4:46:14 AM
Hen, hen, well no one else has said that yet so ...

I'm in too much of a hurry at the moment to add it all up
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
A loves depression
Posted: 10/10/2008 4:20:51 AM
Whatever you do do not post any more under this profile, if she may look at your profile.
I'm surprised they're not already.
usualy after 5-8 posts the links show up and CANNOT be removed.
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
Frustrating girl problem.
Posted: 10/10/2008 3:34:29 AM
DreamDancer44 must be amazingly psychic to get such a pat answer from so little information.
She may be right if you two only went on 1 date and she's been dodging you since.
But the way I read it you two have hung out together fairly regularly? Or is that me sensing your wishful thinking?
Don't let yourself get too serious about her until you know she feels similarly about you.

BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, you definitely don't wan t to go there.

Ha, Ha, what are the bets I just DOOMED you to follow that path. ('')
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
What do yo do when a guy tell you that he's not stringing you along?
Posted: 9/28/2008 12:09:26 AM
There's only one thing I haven't seen mentioned (probably 'cuz it's not an issue) and that is distance. If you're less than 15 min away from each other I'd agree with everyone's input. If you're 3 hours apart? might be a different story.
I think I've dropped this quote a half dozen times by now (still haven't found out who it's from) but it seem to apply in a great many situations similar to this where people are asking for input:
"Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option"
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 76 (view)
What was the point of this?
Posted: 9/24/2008 4:57:34 PM
Anyway OP just remember:
one person's "cheap" = another person's "thrifty"
One person's "controlling" = another person's "train stays on the tracks"
One person's "flaky" = another person's "butterfly"
One person's "B_ _ _ " = another person's "Honey Buns!!! "

OOOOh, that should go in creative writing (NOT)

Hey "Thunderstorms62" Love your headline, been hanging out in HollyRollerVille too much? (great song, see imeem loading hints to get more than 30 secs of it though, Oh you been here a lot longer that I, please forget I mention it)
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 74 (view)
What was the point of this?
Posted: 9/24/2008 3:13:39 PM
well as long as we're doing it I'm going to get in on the name calling:
I apologies in advance to anyone who might find this offensive.
But at least I'm trying to be creative here.

In this particular thread there sure doe seem to be a lot of name calling from a bunch of of Hot Headed, Dimwitted , Oversensitive/insensitive, Sulfur Breath Flaming Buggernauts from Hades. (NOT acceptable ('')on my part - BWTH everyone's doing it (''), OK not everyone just a few ... (''))

AHH yes, venting ... so fun :)

to a more serious note. Personal attacks in the forums are, I believe frowned upon/forbidden?

There is a HUGE difference In saying:

"He thinks you are flaky"
( acceptable) ('')

Oh and you are flakey in case I didn't mention it.
(NOT acceptable) ('')

Even something like:
"As I see it you came cross like a really CHEAP, overly reactive(flaky?), individual"
though borderline hostile/argumentative, is still clearly a statement of opinion about an incident in the past(not a personal attack on OP) therefor tolerable.

Feel free to correct me any where I'm wrong (BOY AM I ASKING FOR IT HERE, YIKESSS!~@%!$#@! (in advance ) ('')

Wow "ironcharger" I'll look good posting below you !!! YAYAYA ('')
FYI you just baited 1/2 the trolls in this dungeon.
(yes I'm a gamer, and I can see the GM smiling now, (that is NOT a good thing)
 Rambling Nose
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
Needed....a bigger bum!
Posted: 9/24/2008 12:52:57 PM
~~BP~~ I guess I didn't quite word it right.

What I should have said is the worst thing you can do is give up on making positive changes.
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