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 Author Thread: Too much attention to his grandkids?
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Too much attention to his grandkids?
Posted: 5/30/2017 2:21:08 PM
Sounds like a reasonable division of time to me considering he's still working. Don't really see what the problem is.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Dating in your 50's and 60's.
Posted: 3/4/2017 2:23:33 PM
Yeah, that sounds like lots of fun.
 Mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 203 (view)
 
Do you hide your political affiliation on dates?
Posted: 3/2/2017 4:43:44 PM
Your feelings for him may change over time if you are political opposites.
 Mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 122 (view)
 
Do people over sixty still think they can have a new life???
Posted: 2/27/2017 6:14:01 PM
Also, why is it preferable to be starting a new career as opposed to being ready for retirement and buying a camper at the same age?
 Mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Disagreements in relationships
Posted: 2/26/2017 9:17:39 AM
Been with a conservative 'Trumpster' myself a few years now. Luckily, he doesn't usually bring it up and we have plenty of solitude time. Not exactly paradise and it can be frustrating when the subject does come up, but at my age the thought of starting over online is not appealing. There's always going to be trade offs unless you really hit the jackpot. Good luck.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
As a Baby Boomer From the 60's Now IN His 60's...
Posted: 7/10/2016 4:25:43 PM
Aerosmith will be doing their farewell tour next year....Giving it up while they still have the chops. Will definitely be one to see, if you can afford it. I'm sure it'll be south of 100.00.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 179 (view)
 
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/6/2016 7:12:00 PM
^^^Agreed. Having had his name over 25 years divorced now, I felt it was no big deal really, just a name. And as a single parent I had the same last name as my daughter.

And I believe in engagement rings. I've given two back since said divorce, hopefully third will stick.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 80 (view)
 
Dating political opposites
Posted: 3/3/2016 3:08:37 PM
I made the mistake of calling Ted Cruse an 'extremist' to my conservative SO recently, to which he vehemently took issue. Must remember to tread lightly these next few months, he's getting a little rattled with his party, lol.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Dating political opposites
Posted: 1/19/2016 3:55:14 PM
As a semi-liberal now living with a conservative republican, I find it's bit of a balancing act. I watch the evening news alone as he no longer watches main stream news-which is fine with me. He usually doesn't bring issues up which helps but when I do, he gets pretty wound up. I try to find common ground such as federal spending being out of control and try to respect his opinions on gay marriage, gun control, etc.

I tell myself that the majority of guys in my area (midwest) are of similar values and well, I like living here in his house. So basically, if you can keep debates to a minimum, are not joined at the hip, it's not ideal but could work. Can't really do anything about a lot of it anyway.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 147 (view)
 
60-ish men with toddlers ...
Posted: 10/31/2015 1:07:03 PM
^^^Although you certainly have a right to communicate your preferences and he had no right unloading on you like that, (dodged a bullet there), I hope he doesn't take the constant rejection out on his daughter. It sounds like the resentment has been building. Maybe parents of little ones should put dating on hold for the most part.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 1015 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 10/30/2015 4:10:52 AM
Yes, and we have another exciting game on tonight to take your mind off your worries, GO ROYALS!!
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 88 (view)
 
Cant do this on POF....
Posted: 10/24/2015 2:39:23 PM
That sounds promising...More people should examine their role in a divorce and recalculate for the future.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 83 (view)
 
Cant do this on POF....
Posted: 10/24/2015 1:50:55 PM
Well, I've been engaged for almost a year after dating for 4 and I can say that although I'm happy (in a contented sort of way), I've not had the sort of connection you have found. Good luck and be careful!

Edit-Maybe it's because I'm a girl, but I don't see how you could have zero expectations after flying so high lately.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 95 (view)
 
Home ownership a dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/21/2015 6:16:26 PM
Per message 74- Maleman: As to who moves in with whom in a committed relationship, I'm sure it varies depending on individual circumstances but, as I stated in another thread, in my case I will be moving in with him as he has the nicer house that is paid off. I am selling mine and will be relieved to be rid of the mortgage, yard work, and maintenance.
Time will tell if it will feel like 'my' house, but I doubt I will feel like a mere tenant. Especially after we are married.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 1037 (view)
 
gosh, its always gotta be some ping with these people
Posted: 9/13/2015 7:33:06 AM
Some people date in order to have sex in a short period of time, only to find out there is no long term compatibility, resulting in a 'string' of mini relationships over a long period of time. Sad way to look back on one's life, IMO.

Edit: As for having 'game' with women, my advice is to simply and genuinely show some interest in her as a person and you may be surprised at the results.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
60-ish men with toddlers ...
Posted: 9/12/2015 6:06:27 AM
I agree, Walts. Kids shouldn't be thought of as people having to be "stuck" with. If I were in the market, I wouldn't mind dating a single parent of a young one, as long as he is financially able to care for him/her...

But it is individual preference, wouldn't want to be a kid who is "stuck" with someone who is resentful of me.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
 
It's silly I know, but I'm sad
Posted: 9/10/2015 3:55:43 PM
^^^Call it an inherent, involuntary response, call it learned morality, the concept obviously escapes some.

Edit: I realize a FWB is not a ONS, Blue eyes, AND there's no contract...Geesh... regardless, meeting one online wanting a FWB rather than a friendship evolving into one is suspect. IMO, lol.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
It's silly I know, but I'm sad
Posted: 9/10/2015 2:47:17 PM
Apparently there are those (ahem, not mentioning any gender here) that do not feel remorse or a sense of emptiness after a ONS. ...Good for you OP for coming to your senses. You'll probably realize you did the right thing soon. Your only mistake was agreeing to it at all ...If you had met, you may not have been attracted to him anyway.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 133 (view)
 
Are men genuinely 'actively seeking a relationship'?
Posted: 9/8/2015 7:36:52 PM
Mature people of high moral standards generally do not mislead someone into a physical relationship knowing they have no interest in anything long term with that person. Such a person could be considered desperate, among other adjectives.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Unsolicited beauty advice ...
Posted: 8/27/2015 4:04:44 PM
^^^Some people have their favs on here, don'tcha know? Isn't that right Blue?

Men may not get the beauty criticisms women do, but can they stand from sitting on the floor with arms folded as well?
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 554 (view)
 
Over 60, what do you men think about marriage?
Posted: 8/26/2015 5:40:04 PM
Don't despair Becky. There are some men still willing to take the plunge. In our case, he is content being single but doesn't relish the idea of spending his golden years in the dating scene. He understands I'm not willing to uproot my life without the benefit of marriage (after a period of adjustment). And as he has the better house that's paid off, it's the logical choice.-No, maybe he doesn't have THAT level of trust to start all over with OUR house, but that's ok.

And with us being of similar age and good health, it's a toss up as to who will take care of who....Not gonna look that far ahead.


























 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 49 (view)
 
TRYING TO BE SLICK
Posted: 8/26/2015 3:12:06 PM
I have never felt the need to conduct background checks on a date. It is far more common to be a player/loser type than being a rapist or worse. And to find that out you just have to be smart, meet in public, take your time, and pay attention to the signs...And I would never ask personal info of anyone I have yet to meet.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 53 (view)
 
No Games..
Posted: 8/25/2015 2:46:09 PM
Message 39 and 51-You may want to omit that part from your profile then.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 142 (view)
 
Good enough to sleep with but not good enough to be with
Posted: 8/24/2015 7:26:49 PM
Yeah, be the dog...I don't think so. I wouldn't want to end up like some of these cold hearted people who would never be open to a fulfilling relationship. -And wear that as some sort of badge of honor. Life's short. Be smart, take your time, but be brave enough to take a chance, with the right type. They do seem few and far between anymore.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 573 (view)
 
So many speeders out there
Posted: 8/14/2015 4:56:09 PM
Ok, here's mine...prudish, mid western girl. Thirty some years ago my ex and I were in the parking lot of favorite bar. He wanted to go outside to smoke his 'doobie'. Cop pulls up, yanks him out of the car and in the fray, ex scattered the weed on the ground. Cop roughs him up some more, even though he wasn't resisting, and I reached over and touched his arm. He looks at me, another officer and yells, cuff her! We rode downtown and remember one officer saying the other had 'issues'. Anyway, while I was in the holding cell, I got tired of waiting and worked my way out of the cuffs. Walked out into the hallway and asked 'what's taking so long?' They just looked at me, disbelieving.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Are you a Cyber Bully?
Posted: 7/30/2015 7:35:44 PM
^^^I think that's the closest we're gonna get to an answer to this question from this poster.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Asking out coworker
Posted: 7/30/2015 5:25:30 PM
Ahhh, the nostalgia of meeting (and missed opportunities), IRL. OLD doesn't quite compare...OP, if you don't have the time to chat one on one at work to forge a casual bond, then you could slip her your # if the eye contacts continue and vibe seems right. Good luck.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 77 (view)
 
6 Degrees of POF messages
Posted: 7/28/2015 4:27:50 PM
Ok, guess I missed the 'moron' comment. Uncalled for. And yes, I do realize the granny comment was said in jest.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 73 (view)
 
6 Degrees of POF messages
Posted: 7/28/2015 3:58:31 PM
Refreshing like a 'granny on crack' and the like seems a little panicky to me.... Oh, did she exaggerate a little you say? Hmmm, so sorry CC, maybe I did too. And for getting knickers in a twist, twasn't me but some get a little defensive by others feeling left out with the 'oh thanks for thinking of me' blah blah.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 63 (view)
 
6 Degrees of POF messages
Posted: 7/28/2015 3:02:50 PM
Wow, jr high all over again...Yeah organic, nobody contacted me either. Of course I don't log in normally, as my profile is hidden. But the panic is a little comical if you think about it.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 1437 (view)
 
Are 21st century, western womsungen intimidating?
Posted: 7/23/2015 4:00:09 PM
^^^Well after 61 pages I guess it veered off track a little, imagine that. But thanks for your expertise on the matter. Why didn't you post it 60 pages ago?
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 117 (view)
 
It looks like POF has already made some changes.
Posted: 7/23/2015 4:12:41 AM
Most all the violent crimes I hear about are committed by the male species. Another recent local story: Man kills female roommate when she tried to evict him out of her house. She was a very popular restaurant owner/artist. Community was shocked.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 1434 (view)
 
Are 21st century, western womsungen intimidating?
Posted: 7/22/2015 6:43:42 PM
Ok, you remember it your way, but I did not expect him to support them, just be 'supportive'. And no, I didn't catch that you disagreed with BA's outlandish claim about my appearance. And, as you may know, hard feelings don't turn on a dime, but life goes on and these are all just words on a page. I have no alliances or 'forum friends' I conspire with.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 1432 (view)
 
Are 21st century, western womsungen intimidating?
Posted: 7/22/2015 5:24:41 PM
^^^Didn't mention 'way back' meaning my naively seeking advice to which the bullying occurred full scale, 'nobody with no kids and financially secure would marry the likes of you, blah, blah.'
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 70 (view)
 
It looks like POF has already made some changes.
Posted: 7/21/2015 2:43:11 PM
Hey, if Rearguard wants to admit to being just as scared in a dark alley alone as an attractive woman then let him.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 1423 (view)
 
Are 21st century, western womsungen intimidating?
Posted: 7/19/2015 5:45:45 PM
I think you got it right the first time. Songsung, Bluemoon, Welsh, any way you cut it, one of the bullies of which we speak...Why on earth would she come and go if not forced off?
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 415 (view)
 
Women and Fake Beauty
Posted: 7/19/2015 5:31:04 PM
^^^I think there was an episode of "Everybody Loves Raymond" like that...Myself, a little makeup daily, and maybe a little more going out on the weekend, nothing garish.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 83 (view)
 
Suggestions on home gym equipment
Posted: 7/19/2015 4:39:07 PM
Haven't read all the differing replies but I use an exercise trampoline for cardio (fairly inexpensive), and a couple of 8 lb. free weights for toning my arms. Try to alternate daily. Don't worry about trying to find a close parking spot, walking is good.
I agree that diet is more important for weight control. I gave up soda pop and switched to wheat bread, seems to have helped. And I try not to junk snack between meals. Pretty simple changes for aging metabolism.

Oh, and during the week, I only have a banana, cereal, or granola bar for breakfast.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 785 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 7/19/2015 2:12:58 PM
Yay, happy for ya Joe! Something to be positive about, and it's a biggie!

Now, try not to disparage the ex too much with the kids.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Lack of interest or lack of conversational skills?
Posted: 7/19/2015 12:19:13 PM
I think it's best to have a pic posted because if you're asked to send one, and there's no further interest, it's tricky to explain why, or no further response. Why would you want that?
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 352 (view)
 
What do you think your odds are? Why? Are you o.k. about it?
Posted: 7/15/2015 3:25:00 PM
I think generally there's a difference between being young and naive and being taken advantage of, and being in your sixties, with a lifetime of experience to go off of. Probably the pain is lesser, as you can tend to see it coming to an end easier.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 297 (view)
 
What do you think your odds are? Why? Are you o.k. about it?
Posted: 7/13/2015 5:38:50 PM
I wouldn't worry too much about Henry. I see he's still flirting with the ladies on the other threads.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 289 (view)
 
What do you think your odds are? Why? Are you o.k. about it?
Posted: 7/13/2015 2:40:37 PM
^^^You're really opening up a can of worms now, DB!
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 246 (view)
 
What do you think your odds are? Why? Are you o.k. about it?
Posted: 7/12/2015 7:00:27 AM
Pig must have really gotten jerked around in the past. Puts a lot of pressure on someone to date someone like that.

Hopefully Henry's experienced enough to know the risks having been married so long.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 220 (view)
 
What do you think your odds are? Why? Are you o.k. about it?
Posted: 7/11/2015 12:19:43 PM
Pig, I didn't read that she intentionally 'f*cked' with his emotions. She indicated that she thought it was going too fast, maybe he was coming on a little strong, hence not replying to every text/e-mail.

Don't think Henry was looking for approval, and no, not everybody would handle things the same way. No need to criticize.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
people who come and go in our lives
Posted: 7/11/2015 12:04:07 PM
Travis Tritt:
It's been fifteen years since I left home
Said good luck to every seed I'd sown
Gave it my best and then I left it alone,
Oh, I hope they're doin' alright.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 212 (view)
 
What do you think your odds are? Why? Are you o.k. about it?
Posted: 7/11/2015 10:15:45 AM
I totally understand Henry's perspective. Has nobody ever mistakenly let someone go only to have second thoughts? How is that some great sin? I imagine Henry must be better to handle it emotionally if things go south than others.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 103 (view)
 
What do you think your odds are? Why? Are you o.k. about it?
Posted: 7/7/2015 3:03:36 PM
Wow, kind of surprised at all the pessimism on here. I wonder why, if frequent posters are really resigned to being alone the rest of their days, do they spend so much time in the forums where romantic relationships are the main topic?

In any event, it makes me glad my SO and I have made the decision to co-habit and most likely marry after being single for many years. Even though probably neither one of us feel the intense emotions that were more common in earlier life. There's a lot to be said for attraction, companionship, and contentment as we age. It helps also that I know he doesn't need a caretaker, he wants to continue to do his own laundry!
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 54 (view)
 
I am to chicken to even date, is anyone else having this problem?
Posted: 6/11/2015 2:46:17 PM
Aggers, am I reading your post right that you wouldn't consider a woman who contacted you first? Wow, that is beyond old-fashioned. Sounds downright sexist. I'm glad my guy didn't feel that way, and I consider myself fairly old-fashioned.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
RIP *cowboy*
Posted: 6/9/2015 6:08:26 PM
Sad news indeed. I wondered about him as well. Last I recall, he was looking forward to a LD meet. God bless.
 
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