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 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 1794 (view)
 
Paying for a date
Posted: 12/30/2018 5:08:24 PM
Some will be thinking "Oh know... this thread is alive again!!!". I've been dating someone I met on POF for about 2 months. Our first date was at a restaurant. I paid. We then went down the street to see a band. She bought drinks. She offered to pay the next time we went out. I told her I'd take care of it. She could pay next time. And she did. It's just been a casual think. We usually alternate who pays. Sometimes we split things. A few days ago we went to race fast go-carts. She paid for that (about $75). Later that night I paid for dinner. It's all good!
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 67 (view)
 
Ladies. how many messages do you receive?
Posted: 12/28/2018 7:38:46 AM
Most of the messages I've received from women just said "hi". And every time I see that I think about how most women want the initial message to be longer than that. I don't mind. It's like talking to someone you're interested in IRL. The conversation usually starts with hi then goes from there.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Turning down the bed, and whoever was in it
Posted: 12/21/2018 1:22:34 PM

Generally speaking, if I get turned down when I desire sex with a particular man, after having expressed that desire, it erodes any bond we might be making. If I'm in a LTR relationship, there better be a good reason for turning me down, other wise I figure the whole thing is going sideways somehow and time to contemplate Plan B.

Men and women come together for many reasons---one of them sexual interactions. If that aint there, well, what the hell is the deal!?!


I tend to fall asleep easy. Especially if the person I'm with is massaging or running her nails all over me while laying in bed. Any of that can turn into a good night of sex or just good night (Zzzzzzzz.......). The woman I'm seeing stayed over last weekend. She was in the mood for sex but her hands put me to sleep in 5 minutes. I made it up to her for a few hours the next morning and again after breakfast. I asked if she minds if I fall asleep some nights. She told me no. We don't have to have sex every night we're together.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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She's great but... she doesn't like bacon!
Posted: 12/14/2018 2:45:40 PM

Some people won't eat it for religious reasons. Some people only eat fish and foul. Some people don't eat meat at all. If that is your only complaint I would say you found a keeper. Don't be nit picking at your new lady friend. That's not attractive at all.


Nope, not nit picking at all. She's been awesome! Reaches over to open my car door after she gets in and I close hers, pays for dinner once in awhile or covers drinks later if I pay, great to talk to and I could go on and on. It's very rare that I find someone who is this nice. She's so good that I wouldn't eat bacon when she's around if it bothers her!
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Turning down the bed, and whoever was in it
Posted: 12/14/2018 2:39:02 PM
Recently in the news -

A Florida woman wound up in jail after she reportedly "demanded" her boyfriend have sex with her and then allegedly threw a paint roller at him after he refused, authorities said. 

According to an arrest affidavit from the St. Lucie County Sheriff's office, Lorrie Anne Carroll, 42, of Port St. Lucie was arrested on charges of battery and three counts of resisting an officer without violence following the incident on Dec. 2. 

Sheriff's deputies were called out to Carroll's address at around 3 a.m. and were told by her boyfriend that they had been arguing all  night because Carroll wanted to having sex, but he didn't. 

The boyfriend told officers that Carroll "continuously tried to have sex with him even though he told her several times he wanted to be left alone," according to the arrest affidavit. He left to go to a bar to get away from Carroll, and when he returned, he said that his girlfriend began arguing about "having sex again." 

Carroll reportedly "demanded" that he start fooling around with her, but he refused, again telling her that he wasn't inthe mood. 

He says that's when Carroll hit him in the chest and groin and then tossed a paint roller at his head. 

In the affidavit, deputies reported that Carroll was "obviously intoxicated" and uncooperative with officers. The 41-year-old was arrested and taken to the St. Lucie Jail.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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She's great but... she doesn't like bacon!
Posted: 12/10/2018 7:49:55 PM
She's not vegan but bacon isn't her thing. She's the only person I know who doesn't like it. She has plenty of good qualities so I can let this slide.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Turning someone down for sex
Posted: 12/8/2018 12:30:59 PM
I wasn't stringing her along. As I mentioned, we weren't in a committed relationship. We'd do things together. Maybe a few times in a month and then there would be months when we didn't see each other at all. I didn't plan to not have sex with her on the trip. If that was the case I would have brought someone else. I just wasn't feeling it when we were there. It was no big deal for a few days then she started becoming more aggressive and got upset when she wanted to go back to the room to get some when it started to rain one day. I was very content sitting under a cover on a tropical island while we watched the shower move in from the ocean. As I told her, we can't do that at home. The tension from there became unattractive so I wanted to do it less as time went on.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Turning someone down for sex
Posted: 12/8/2018 11:47:03 AM
I almost didn't post that story because I know I was wrong (wrote it once then deleted). But I make mistakes once in awhile so I wanted to share it from the other side.


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 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Turning someone down for sex
Posted: 12/8/2018 11:02:17 AM
I know I was wrong and should have said something. We weren't in a committed relationship. Each of us were still on the hunt but we hadn't found someone and we enjoyed each other's company.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Turning someone down for sex
Posted: 12/8/2018 10:24:55 AM
I dated someone off and on for a little over a year. We started messaging here then met a couple hours later. Great personality, fun to be with, adventurous, great career and outstanding Mom. She was a little shorter and heavier than I'd usually go for but the rest carried her past that. She could look good when we went out and sex was good but I wasn't physically attracted to her. No feeling of I can't keep my hands off her. She got kind of upset when we went on vacation and I didn't want to have sex. Yes we did it before but I just wasn't feeling it. That was for the first couple days. Then it went from her hinting to becoming more aggressive/nagging which was less attractive. We weren't in a relationship but we did a lot together. That put it over the edge. We didn't go out anymore after the trip. And yes, I can see what she'd be upset. I didn't want to hurt her feelings buy saying I wasn't attracted to her.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Line is getting blurry between friends and dating
Posted: 12/7/2018 8:33:39 PM

I do know that it's annoying when someone you thought was a good friend hits on you. Others opinions will vary.



This has happened to me a few times. And it felt like the rankest kind of betrayal. I never wanted anything to do with those particular guys again.

;-(.


Ladies, can you explain this? I think it's one of the reasons why men sometimes don't approach women they are interested in. They sometimes get weird when they know a guy is romantically interested then they don't want anything to do with him.

I've had a couple female friends who I was interested in but they didn't feel the same way. We talked about it. No big deal. Life went on. There might have been one or two who distanced themselves after they found I looked at them as more than a friend. I've also had it the other way a few times. One female friend was interested in me. She kissed me as we were leaving a club one night. I told her I didn't feel the same way. Did that with a smile and no tension. Another one was into me years ago. I knew it wouldn't work out as a relationship but we stayed close friends and intimate once in awhile.

I think it's a compliment when a female friend finds me attractive and thinks highly enough of me to want to be in a relationship. We should be able to go with our feelings as friends or take it to the next level if we are mutually interested.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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She's great but... she doesn't like bacon!
Posted: 12/7/2018 4:29:06 PM
I met someone from here a month ago today. She looked like her pictures, has great personality, fun to be with, great sex but... she doesn't like bacon. I never thought someone would say those words. Doesn't like the taste and doesn't want to smell it.

This seems to be the only issue so far. I can work with it! :)
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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What are things you see in dating profiles that will make you sadly skip past them?
Posted: 12/7/2018 5:46:44 AM
One of my interests is cars so I've owned a number of high end vehicles. Plus I was in the racing industry for many years so I kicked things up a few levels when it came to modifications. A customer took a pic as I was driving through a park one day. I included that in my profile. Not to impress or to inflate the size of my manhood but because a lot of people think guys do it for those reasons (some do). Kind of like a guy sitting on a motorcycle while wearing a tight t-shirt, probably flexing as he holds a puppy. All that happening in front of a mansion :)

I'm attracted to a woman who is into cars. I met my ex-wife at a local hangout where people raced (including her). So a profile that has a woman in or next to a nice car will get my attention as long as it's not something random on the side of the road. I've only found a couple of woman like that on here. Good looking, successful woman who had pics with her Corvette. We had some conversation but no connection. I took her attitude to be along the lines of something I read in profiles that will have me hitting the back button - what do you bring to the table? I'm more about two people having a connection and good time. Then we go from there. Not looking for a business connection.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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What are things you see in dating profiles that will make you sadly skip past them?
Posted: 12/5/2018 5:11:01 PM
Something else that makes me skip over someone - they have the "Don't contact me if..." list. And I've seen some long lists.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 101 (view)
 
If looks do matter.
Posted: 12/5/2018 5:05:15 PM

. when you meet in person after setting a date from online, you need attraction to exist ahead of time because your specifically meeting for the purpose of dating .


This is why people who post old (better looking) pictures of themselves have a lot of first dates. I've met women who looked great in their photos then found they were much older in person so the date started with disappointment. And then there was a women who just had a couple of pictures from the chin up. Cute face. I late found she weighted about 200 pounds... more than me.

You're right about developing an attraction to someone after being around them. I've dated women who wouldn't have got my attention here but they were great people and fun to be around. I think a lot of us set our standards higher when we are looking online.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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What are things you see in dating profiles that will make you sadly skip past them?
Posted: 12/5/2018 4:41:51 PM
Women who smoke. That can be cigarettes or 420. Not my thing.

I've dated when my kids were young but over time I found that it was best for me to not date women with young kids. My Dads get stuck with the every other weekend schedule and one night during the week so the Mom would most likely have her kids when I don't have mine then she'd be free to go out when my kids are with me.

To much traveling is a good one. I like to travel but wouldn't be able to get away once a month so I've stared away from some that have pictures in a different location every month.

Women with big dogs. To many experiences with them jumping on me, wanting to be the center of attention and entering the bedroom at the wrong time.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Do you feel you have run out of fish in your area?
Posted: 12/4/2018 8:54:27 PM
I met someone from here a month ago. We each hid our profiles so we're not in the pond. But when I was, I saw the same profiles so much that I felt like I was friends with those people. I could see the face and know her screen name or real name because we talked or went out. There were times when I saw multiple women I dated on the same page. I changed my pictures and rewrote my profile to try to match with others but in the end, my interests are the same.

One thing that seems to work is to search without logging in. Or if you see a profile from someone in your area while you're in here. That will usually lead to other profiles in your area. I've found a lot I've never seen before when I did that.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 24 (view)
 
How to Know If Your Partner Is Financially ‘Cheating’ in Your Relationship
Posted: 12/4/2018 8:40:10 PM
I have a friend who has to ask his wife before he makes purchases. Even things like Christmas lights or beer. I could never do that. I didn't have any joint accounts when I was married. Bank accounts and credit cards were separate. I made a lot more than her so I covered the mortgage and utilities along with my cars and "toys". She paid for food, child care and her car. I paid when we traveled and most of the time we went went out. She bought what she wanted with her money and I bought what I wanted with mine.

I wouldn't mind having a joint house account. Something for each person to contribute to for normal living expenses and each would have their own personal accounts.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Person puts first name at end of email?
Posted: 10/27/2018 12:38:55 PM
I just read this in a profile - If I tell you my name, consider yourself special. Guys creep my social media, can’t pronounce it or find my apartment online.

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 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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A reply to an Unread Message?
Posted: 10/26/2018 3:57:10 PM
The Meet Me feature allows me to see people who might not come up as a match so I do both. I tend to read the profiles over just clicking yes.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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A reply to an Unread Message?
Posted: 10/24/2018 5:28:22 PM

Her upbeat message ends with "Hope to hear from you".

So I reply.

And I get an Unread Deleted.

WTH!


Yup... that's the world of online dating!

I'll receive a Meet Me message so I'll send the person a message then not hear from most of them. I wonder if some of those Meet Me messages are computer generated so make us feel wanted :)
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 134 (view)
 
as long as they are willing to do two jobs--blow and hand :)
Posted: 10/23/2018 6:24:58 AM
I was seeing a girl who's sister would sometimes come out with us. That was when I was 18. We'd occasional visit one of my friends at work and tried to set her up with him. She wasn't interested until she saw him driving a sports car one day. Her words were "Maybe he is kind of cute". They've been together for 30 years.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 132 (view)
 
as long as they are willing to do two jobs--blow and hand :)
Posted: 10/22/2018 5:02:19 PM

Many of the blue collar working men here have much better paying jobs than most white collar, college/university educated women


I believe it's not always about the job title. I've been in management and a business owner for over 20 years of my working life. You can have the nice title as manager but have employees under you making more money. I have a friend who has been the manager of a Dominos Pizza for many years. It's a nationally ranked store and he's paid pretty good for what he does. But... most of his drivers make more than he does. It's not uncommon for them to be making $20.00+ per hour. Some might look down at the driver because he's just a pizza guy. But he's doing pretty good.

I used to run a multi-million dollar internet company from an office in the back of my garage. My neighbors thought I was a drug dealer because I had a lot of very nice "toys" but they never saw me goto work. They later found out what I did as they got to know me. Some people might have looked at me as just playing on the computer to get by. But they wouldn't know the extent of it unless I told them.

Sometimes a person's profession isn't what it looks like from the outside.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Why does my search distance keep changing?
Posted: 10/20/2018 5:03:21 AM
Thanks! I should have thought of that and will take a look at those threads. My search is very basic. Pretty much looking for single women who are breathing in a 25 mile radius of me. I get a lot of pages of suggestions so it's not like there aren't many options. I also keep seeing the same people over and over and over. I see their profiles so much that I feel like we're friends. I try changing my settings a little to see different people but that doesn't help much. I find that I get a lot of different options if I search without being logged into the site.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Why does my search distance keep changing?
Posted: 10/19/2018 10:30:57 PM
This is the closest section I can find for a question like this. I'm trying to figure out why my max distance to search keeps changing. I'll have it set for 25 miles of my zip code but I keep getting results from 0-50+ miles away. So I'll check the search/advanced search criteria and find that it's in the 50-100 mile range. Tonight was 100. I can change it then save it but the next time will be the same thing. It's already hard enough to find a match. I don't want to keep seeing options that are further away than I want to travel.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Smoking while having sex?
Posted: 10/19/2018 10:23:53 PM
I've dated less than a handful of women who smoke. That usually happened because they were "quitting". One was very attractive. She said she kind of quit but just had one once in awhile. One of those once in awhile times was with me in the car during the Winter. She just had her window open a little. I was all set with her. Another one wanted to have a cigarette while we were on our first date (didn't know she smoked). So I sat in the car while she stood outside for 5 minutes. No good night kiss for her! And the last was someone I met here. Her profile said she quit. I asked how long ago she quit while we were talking on our first date. She was like well..... Told me it was only once in awhile. She didn't smoke that night. Onto date number 2. We went to a casino. She got a cigarette from someone at the bar and I sensed she had one when she went to the bathroom before that. I ended up staying over her house that night. Between the smell and her big dog jumping on the bed, the end of night activities weren't pleasant. So I was all set. Fast forward a year. She contacted me to see how I was doing. I wasn't seeing anyone so we made plans to go out. She smoked once while we were out. I could still smell and taste it on her hours later. Not just her month. It was on her neck and everywhere I kissed. Nasty!!! She wanted to take the fun to the bedroom but I was ready to go home. Oh, and she had her big dog who kept jumping all over me. All that reminded me why we didn't continue dating before.

I have a friend who feels the same way I do about women who smoke but... he finds it attractive when he seems an attractive women smoking. He likes the look but not everything that goes with it.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Person puts first name at end of email?
Posted: 10/19/2018 10:00:53 PM
I sometimes look up people on Facebook. I don't think that's a big deal. You have a good chance of seeing what they really look like on there.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Person puts first name at end of email?
Posted: 10/19/2018 6:27:06 AM
There isn't much that is formal when it comes to OLD. You can have a very deep conversation with someone who seems totally into you then POF... they are gone! Onto the next one or five. I sign my first name in POF messages as a way of showing I'm interested. I look at it as why tell them my name if it's not going to go anywhere. And even after that, one of us might stop replying.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 154 (view)
 
Would you date someone still living with their Ex?
Posted: 10/15/2018 3:46:46 PM

Please forgive me Endless, (Gee I think I have said that before) but have you ever thought to yourself, "Hmmmm I seem to want what I can't have. I'm attracted to a woman who is unavailable." Just food for thought!


The funny thing is... married women tend to be attracted to me. Usually female friends who don't have a good marriage. I also had a long term ex who I remained friends with. That ended up being more than friends when her marriage wasn't good. Her husband knew and didn't care.

I prefer to be with someone who's available but situations like this happen (I know, I sometimes go along with it).
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 146 (view)
 
Would you date someone still living with their Ex?
Posted: 10/14/2018 8:48:57 PM
That would be ex-husband. As for being separated, if I remember right (I was two long islands in and the music was loud) I asked if they are divorced. Her answer was either vague or I didn't hear it correctly. I also asked if I'd have to ask him to not hog the blankets if we end up at her place :) She said she doesn't bring people back to the house/around her kids. I might see her this week so I'll get more details if I do.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 143 (view)
 
Would you date someone still living with their Ex?
Posted: 10/14/2018 12:22:27 PM
I met someone at a party this weekend. We talked for hours then exchanged numbers and kissed at the end of the night. She's fun so I think we'll at least hang out a little. During our conversation she told me she lives with her ex (I thought of this thread when I heard that). She said it's financially convenient and works well with the kids. They sleep in the same bed and have had sex once in awhile. I believe they've been separated for a couple of years. I woke up this morning thinking it figures, I find someone who I connect with and she has a situation like this.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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I'm not shocked when people ignore real profiles.
Posted: 10/13/2018 1:40:59 PM
I see some very good looking women on here (not working girls) and think they won't be here long. Then I see they are still here months later and sometimes years later.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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My expectations - should I keep this or delete it?
Posted: 10/12/2018 8:07:06 PM
You're right, that was on me. And it's rare that it happened. One person was fun to hang out with and I tried to keep an open mind but I just didn't feel a physical attraction.

And yes, I know about the posting history.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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A Question For Guys Looking For Gals
Posted: 10/12/2018 7:54:14 AM
I'm okay if it's one or two pics but not everything. And on top of that, there are the pics that have filters to remove blemishes, wrinkles and every other thing that doesn't make them look perfect. A have a friend who always uses filters when she posts pics. I see her pics here and on FB and think "Damn, she looks good". Then I see how she really looks in person. Not bad but nowhere near as good as she does in her pic. False representation on a dating site.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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My expectations - should I keep this or delete it?
Posted: 10/12/2018 7:08:14 AM
I like the suggestion about having her send a current photos. Maybe request a selfie while we're texting. The texting part is something I usually do. If we connect here I suggest that we move over to texting so we don't have to keep signing into the app to send messages. That's the one main I do it. The other is both of us are constantly seeing other possible opportunities when we sign in. I rather just focus on getting to know one person. For the date I had recently, we split the bill. Even when my date doesn't look like her pics, it still ends up being an okay night. I can have good conversation and we're usually the last people in the restaurant if we go out to eat. For this one, I like the bill stay where the waitress put it and kept talking to the point where the people there probably wanted to go home. She went for her wallet when I went for mine and asked how much. That was nice on her part.

Most of my photos are 1-2 years old. The current profile pic with Tom Arnold is from a few weeks ago. The picture of me driving the Vette is older. I put that one up with what I think is a funny caption because most guys have to have a pic with their motorcycle, car or a puppy. No shirtless pics in the bathroom for me. I thought the picture of me inside the car is pretty good. That was taken in the driveway. I notice I'm wearing sunglasses in at least half of my pictures. I think that's because I spend a lot of time outdoors and the light bothers my eye if it's bright out. I'll have to get some more indoor pics from when I'm out with friends. Those usually have friends in them though.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 4 (view)
 
My expectations - should I keep this or delete it?
Posted: 10/11/2018 8:07:21 PM
My eyes usually look red when a flash is used at night. This time they look white. I look possessed while Tom Arnold sometimes acts like he is :)

I'm looking for someone who I'm physically attracted to so that's high on the list. I've dated people who I wasn't attracted to. It's not as enjoyable. One got upset when I didn't want to have sex with her while we were on vacation. I know what you mean though.

I recently exchanged messages with someone for a little over a week. That was getting a little drawn out. A few days into the conversation I asked which of her photos is the most recently then I went on to say most recent is from last month. I didn't hear from her for two days and she totally skipped that question.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 1 (view)
 
My expectations - should I keep this or delete it?
Posted: 10/11/2018 7:24:53 PM
I'm kind of getting tired of meeting women who don't look like their pictures. I recently had one who looked pretty good here but the person I met looked like she could be her mom! I told myself "nope, that's not going to happen" before we made it to the door of the restaurant. So I added this to my profile -

Please have current photos. You can show me what you looked like 10 or 35 years ago if we have a connection but for now I rather know what you will look like when we meet. There is no guarantee the date will continue past "hi" if you don't look like your photos. The same goes for photo filters. A lot women use amazing filters that take away their blemishes and make their skin look like it's only been around for 18 years. That's great for Facebook but those changes don't carry over to real life. It's okay. None of us are perfect.

I prefer to make plans to meet a short time after we establish a connection. No reason to have endless messages that go nowhere.

If anything maybe this will eliminate most wasted nights and money to meet someone who looks different than I'm expecting. It's not worth either of our time unless she's just hoping to get a free meal. For the woman I mentioned at the beginning of this post, I keep it to just an app and drink. We split the check.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Is it better to build comfort with multiple replies before getting their number?
Posted: 10/6/2018 6:29:13 AM
Most of the time I never talk to someone on the phone before we meet. We message here then exchange numbers at some point. That will lead to texting but rarely do I actually talk to someone. I kind of like the mystery. Recently I talked to a couple of women before we met. I liked that because we could get to know more about each other than our fingers could type in a short amount of time.

I wouldn't want to wait through weeks of texting, phone conversation and video chats before I met someone. Women have men messaging them constantly so they have their pick of opportunity. I rather establish a connection then plan to meet to see if we have a connection before someone else scoops her up.

My shortest time from first message to meeting was less than 2 hours. I was sitting on a rock by the water at the end of the day. Of course I took out my phone then saw a message here. I sent a reply then she did too. 20 minutes of messages turned into her suggesting we meet for a drink. I said okay then drove home to shower and change. Drinks and apps at one location, dessert at another. We dated for about a year and a half. That's how I like it to happen.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 29 (view)
 
It isn't ghosting.
Posted: 10/6/2018 6:11:10 AM
She's already helping you wet sand a truck? You got a good one there! I'm glad this worked out for you.

I had one about a week ago. I've looked at her profile a few times but didn't think she was my type. She sent me a message about really liking my profile and wanting to get to know me. I figured I'd see what she's about so I agreed. She then wanted me to call her. I was really busy that night and didn't have time for a 2 hour long first call. And even if we said 15 minutes, it would still be 2 hours. So I said we could try to talk the next day. I got home late the following evening and still didn't have time for a 2 hour call. She was very friendly with tons of compliments and persistant about me giving her a call. It's times like this when texting comes in handy. I told her I'd definitely make time to call her the next day. Which I did later in the morning. I felt it better to block my number when I did that. The call went to voicemail so I left her a message. I also sent her a message here. Nothing... nothing at all! Went from 100 - 0. I can see that she read the message. My thoughts are either she was looking for attention and felt rewarded when she received a phone call, maybe she's a "working girl" (a lot of them on the site) or she was hoping my phone number would come up. I found this one amusing.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 83 (view)
 
How many partners is too much?
Posted: 10/4/2018 7:57:38 PM
Is it kegel exercises that help tighten things down there?
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 387 (view)
 
Do nice guys finish last?
Posted: 10/4/2018 7:54:56 PM

Everyone has a different idea of what a "nice guy" is. Is he someone that would stop to help someone change a tire or is he a pushover that lets people walk all over him? There's nothing negative about being nice. It's a positive quality. I think people are misusing the term when they're trying to talk about someone that's overly agreeable.


Here's an example of something that happened to me tonight. My kids were with me for a few hours today (the divorced dad's just get a little bit of time thing). Anyway, I take them to swim class after dinner. My ex met us there so she could bring them home. It was our first time doing this. I kind of get along with my her even though I got hammered in the divorce (her attorney is a good liar) and I don't get to see the kids as much as I want to. We have some differences but we're civil. She picks up our daughter's school bag as we are leaving the pool area. It has to weigh at least 20-25lbs. I reach over as we're walking and take the bag off her shoulder. Then I hold the door open for her. After all the stuff I've been through with her, I still do that. And as I held the door I thought "I'm to nice".
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 81 (view)
 
How many partners is too much?
Posted: 10/4/2018 7:25:27 PM
I dated a woman who thought it was disgusting if a man slept with more than 10 woman in his life (she's in her mid-40s). Some people might have only had a few sexual partners. A few friends have only been with 1-3 people. It's different when you're single. Especially for awhile. Some people have sex on the first, second or third date. Some wait for months. I think that's rare. Say a person is dating for awhile. Maybe they only sleep with one person per month. That's 12 in a year. That number can keep going up. Most woman should be able to get at least 1-2 dates per week if she wants to. Maybe not their ideal person but it's a date. Some will do it just for dinner and entertainment. That's a different topic.

My first was a virgin (so was I). We were 18 and went out for 5 months before we had sex. I still know the date that happened! We were together for a little over 5 years. I had another LTR. That was just over 13 years. Have been single off and on for the last 10 years. I couldn't guess my number.

As for the women with the truly valuable vaginas.who turn their sex into millions and millions of dollars. They know they have a money making machine. I've heard stories of some that get $500+ per hour. They'll travel around the country while making hundreds of thousands per year. Guys line up like it's a deli!
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Date with someone your not into or go solo?
Posted: 10/4/2018 7:03:52 PM

I wasn't implying a female friend. I referred to the friend as a buddy you go out with, then go to said party once the dancing's started (skipping the dinner). Although with some female friends you could still do that, but most don't do it right. You'd have to have it down pat to not come across as a couple. If your (coupled) friends are there, guys can talk with guys much of the time, girls with girls... you just don't pair together, but also help each other playing Wing. More thought has to go into that process when you're male-female winging it like that.


I wouldn't mind going solo f I was going to an event like a NYE party at a restaurant and there was other friends there. We'd all hang out. Some of my male friends don't dance much. I do. So I'm usually dancing with their wives/girlfriends while they sit and drink. If I was going to goto a place like that without friends there. I'd skip dinner and be there for the music. At that point most people are having a good time on the dance floor. Actually, I did do that once. My now ex-wive and I were dating. She didn't want to go out that night. I remember being miserable while we were grocery shopping at 7pm. Went back to her house for a little while then I went home. I still miserable while working in my office at 10:30. So I broke out some good clothes then headed to the NYE party at a restaurant 5 minutes from me. I had a GREAT time! I rather go with someone (a real date or female friend) but I can still have a good time solo.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Date with someone your not into or go solo?
Posted: 9/26/2018 6:51:50 AM
The NYE/Holiday parties that I goto are at local restaurants. Some tables for two. Mostly tables for 10 people. Buffet dinner then dacning later. For myself, I usually have a good numbers of date options. Even if it's a married friend whos husband doesn't want to go out that night. But once in awhile the options are slim.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Date with someone your not into or go solo?
Posted: 9/25/2018 8:11:40 AM
I'm looking at it like you have something you want to goto and it's usually better to have a date. No friends are available that night. You could take someone from POF or another dating site who is into you but you don't find them attractive and are not interested in them but they would be a person to hang out with that night. Or, you go solo. Which do you pick?

As I think about my own question more and what I usually do, it depends on the situation. I mentioned I like to see bands in the area. I rather do that solo if I'm not with someone I'm attracted to. There could be opportunity there. And if I did go with a female friend, depending on my "relationship" with her (FWB?), I could still be open to that opportunity. For other things like a comedy club, open holiday party where I might not know anyone else there or NYE, going with someone I'm not really into is better than sitting next to an empty seat. For other things, solo can be fine. Like a wedding. There are usually a lot of friendly, single people at weddings.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Date with someone your not into or go solo?
Posted: 9/23/2018 6:53:17 PM

Where are you going OP where it's all couples and there would be an empty chair across from you?
Not sure what you're getting at. Do you have a woman friend who is single and would enjoy a free meal/ entertainment? A sister you could pretend is in town for a visit? Any other singles going to be there? Need details.


Some of the things that I like to do where it's better to bring a date are -

New Years Eve - It's usually a place where it's dinner and dancing. Either mostly couples or groups of friends go. Most of what I see is couples.

Holiday parties. - Pretty much the same as NYE but without the ball falling at midnight.

Comedy Clubs - Could be groups of friends (I've done that) but mostly couples.

For the above, it's much better to go with a date. A lot of times the tables seat 10. So without a date the person would be sitting by themselves.

I like music, local bands and places that have a DJ (some call them clubs :) ) . Those are other places where it's better to go with someone. I've gone solo. Last week was a good example. There was a band in the area that I wanted to see so I went. There were a lot of couples and groups. The larger groups were from a boat show that was in town and a gathering of people in the mortgage business. I'm friendly and the dance floor is there for a reason so I just join in and make friends for the night. It's better and easier to go with someone but it's not the end of the world.

I do have some single and married female friends that I go out with. Sometimes they aren't available or they might not be interested in something I want to do. I had one year when I was single on NYE and none of my female friends were available to go out. I went solo. Just not to a place that had a sit down meal. I had a great time and kissed more women than I would have if I brought someone.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Date with someone your not into or go solo?
Posted: 9/23/2018 9:42:05 AM
Would you go on a date with someone your not into so the seat across from you isn't empty or just go solo and be surrounded by other couples? Not going isn't an option. Life is to short for that! And when I say not into, they aren't a bad person. Just not your first, second or third option.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Heavy petting in semi-public places, LOL
Posted: 9/23/2018 8:18:54 AM
I have a long list of places. One was on the side of the Extraterrestrial Highway on the way to get close to Area 51. There was nothing and nobody around that we could see. I've never experienced quiet like that outside. We took some pictures under the sign as we got onto that long highway to nowhere. She flashed her boobs there. Later on I suggested we take some topless pics of her walking down the highway (2 lane road where you can see for many miles). She started off topless then in her panties then totally nude. Shortly after that her screams of pleasure broke the silence in that area. That was an interesting experience. It was more interesting when we got to close later and ended up on the Area 51 security log but that's another story.

Another time was on the side of the road in Hawaii. I was standing behind her while looking at the ocean. I lifted her short skirt up enough to gain access then slowly went at it for a few minutes as cars drove by behind us.

The car was the place to do it most of the time when I was in my late teens/early 20s. The girls I was dating could get some great positions. One of my favorites was the backseat of my girlfriend's Mom's '76 Monte Carlo. All of my cars have had tinted windows so that gave enough privacy to do it while parked on the side of the road. Especially at night. There were a number of times getting caught by the police while parked in rest areas. We referred to the officers as Mr Hollywood because they were walk up to the car with the spot light on behind them. Most of the time we were kind of able to be dressed by the time they got to the car. I remember one time the officer said "Ma'am. Do you want to be with him?". They always told us to find a better place. I'd be worried about ending up on the news if I did that now. Teens can get away with it.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Why does this section keep disappearing?
Posted: 9/23/2018 7:49:28 AM
I find this section keep disappearing from the list of forums. It will be here then gone then appear again a few days later. It happen so much that I saved a link to one of the threads. I was able to access it that way but it still wasn't in the main list of forums when I looked. Is it just me or are others experiencing this?
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 298 (view)
 
A man and his car...
Posted: 9/19/2018 9:16:48 PM

Ok Honestly this is a simple question with a very simple answer. Since I been in he auto industry for iver 20 years and I see what kind of cars attract what people here is my answer. When a guy has a fancy car, clean and well maintain and within in ten years old that should not be a problem. Keeping a vehicle clean and well maintain tell alot good about the person.


For some people, a car is a way to get from point A to point B. For other people, it's a reason to do it!

Years ago I had someone come to my house to look at a car I was selling. He looked at it, we went for a ride, then he asked if he could use my bathroom when we got back. He did that then we talked for a few minutes before completing the transaction. Towards the end he told me he really didn't have to goto the bathroom earlier. I was like "huh". He then said that he wanted to see what the inside of my house looked like. There would be a good chance I took care of the car if the house was taken care of. Good point! I've seen some cars that looked like dumpsters with a steering wheel. I'd hate to see what their houses look like.
 
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