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 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 87 (view)
 
Person puts first name at end of email?
Posted: 10/27/2018 12:38:55 PM
I just read this in a profile - If I tell you my name, consider yourself special. Guys creep my social media, can’t pronounce it or find my apartment online.

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 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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A reply to an Unread Message?
Posted: 10/26/2018 3:57:10 PM
The Meet Me feature allows me to see people who might not come up as a match so I do both. I tend to read the profiles over just clicking yes.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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A reply to an Unread Message?
Posted: 10/24/2018 5:28:22 PM

Her upbeat message ends with "Hope to hear from you".

So I reply.

And I get an Unread Deleted.

WTH!


Yup... that's the world of online dating!

I'll receive a Meet Me message so I'll send the person a message then not hear from most of them. I wonder if some of those Meet Me messages are computer generated so make us feel wanted :)
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 134 (view)
 
as long as they are willing to do two jobs--blow and hand :)
Posted: 10/23/2018 6:24:58 AM
I was seeing a girl who's sister would sometimes come out with us. That was when I was 18. We'd occasional visit one of my friends at work and tried to set her up with him. She wasn't interested until she saw him driving a sports car one day. Her words were "Maybe he is kind of cute". They've been together for 30 years.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 132 (view)
 
as long as they are willing to do two jobs--blow and hand :)
Posted: 10/22/2018 5:02:19 PM

Many of the blue collar working men here have much better paying jobs than most white collar, college/university educated women


I believe it's not always about the job title. I've been in management and a business owner for over 20 years of my working life. You can have the nice title as manager but have employees under you making more money. I have a friend who has been the manager of a Dominos Pizza for many years. It's a nationally ranked store and he's paid pretty good for what he does. But... most of his drivers make more than he does. It's not uncommon for them to be making $20.00+ per hour. Some might look down at the driver because he's just a pizza guy. But he's doing pretty good.

I used to run a multi-million dollar internet company from an office in the back of my garage. My neighbors thought I was a drug dealer because I had a lot of very nice "toys" but they never saw me goto work. They later found out what I did as they got to know me. Some people might have looked at me as just playing on the computer to get by. But they wouldn't know the extent of it unless I told them.

Sometimes a person's profession isn't what it looks like from the outside.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Why does my search distance keep changing?
Posted: 10/20/2018 5:03:21 AM
Thanks! I should have thought of that and will take a look at those threads. My search is very basic. Pretty much looking for single women who are breathing in a 25 mile radius of me. I get a lot of pages of suggestions so it's not like there aren't many options. I also keep seeing the same people over and over and over. I see their profiles so much that I feel like we're friends. I try changing my settings a little to see different people but that doesn't help much. I find that I get a lot of different options if I search without being logged into the site.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Why does my search distance keep changing?
Posted: 10/19/2018 10:30:57 PM
This is the closest section I can find for a question like this. I'm trying to figure out why my max distance to search keeps changing. I'll have it set for 25 miles of my zip code but I keep getting results from 0-50+ miles away. So I'll check the search/advanced search criteria and find that it's in the 50-100 mile range. Tonight was 100. I can change it then save it but the next time will be the same thing. It's already hard enough to find a match. I don't want to keep seeing options that are further away than I want to travel.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 74 (view)
 
Smoking while having sex?
Posted: 10/19/2018 10:23:53 PM
I've dated less than a handful of women who smoke. That usually happened because they were "quitting". One was very attractive. She said she kind of quit but just had one once in awhile. One of those once in awhile times was with me in the car during the Winter. She just had her window open a little. I was all set with her. Another one wanted to have a cigarette while we were on our first date (didn't know she smoked). So I sat in the car while she stood outside for 5 minutes. No good night kiss for her! And the last was someone I met here. Her profile said she quit. I asked how long ago she quit while we were talking on our first date. She was like well..... Told me it was only once in awhile. She didn't smoke that night. Onto date number 2. We went to a casino. She got a cigarette from someone at the bar and I sensed she had one when she went to the bathroom before that. I ended up staying over her house that night. Between the smell and her big dog jumping on the bed, the end of night activities weren't pleasant. So I was all set. Fast forward a year. She contacted me to see how I was doing. I wasn't seeing anyone so we made plans to go out. She smoked once while we were out. I could still smell and taste it on her hours later. Not just her month. It was on her neck and everywhere I kissed. Nasty!!! She wanted to take the fun to the bedroom but I was ready to go home. Oh, and she had her big dog who kept jumping all over me. All that reminded me why we didn't continue dating before.

I have a friend who feels the same way I do about women who smoke but... he finds it attractive when he seems an attractive women smoking. He likes the look but not everything that goes with it.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Person puts first name at end of email?
Posted: 10/19/2018 10:00:53 PM
I sometimes look up people on Facebook. I don't think that's a big deal. You have a good chance of seeing what they really look like on there.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Person puts first name at end of email?
Posted: 10/19/2018 6:27:06 AM
There isn't much that is formal when it comes to OLD. You can have a very deep conversation with someone who seems totally into you then POF... they are gone! Onto the next one or five. I sign my first name in POF messages as a way of showing I'm interested. I look at it as why tell them my name if it's not going to go anywhere. And even after that, one of us might stop replying.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 159 (view)
 
Would you date someone still living with their Ex?
Posted: 10/15/2018 3:46:46 PM

Please forgive me Endless, (Gee I think I have said that before) but have you ever thought to yourself, "Hmmmm I seem to want what I can't have. I'm attracted to a woman who is unavailable." Just food for thought!


The funny thing is... married women tend to be attracted to me. Usually female friends who don't have a good marriage. I also had a long term ex who I remained friends with. That ended up being more than friends when her marriage wasn't good. Her husband knew and didn't care.

I prefer to be with someone who's available but situations like this happen (I know, I sometimes go along with it).
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 151 (view)
 
Would you date someone still living with their Ex?
Posted: 10/14/2018 8:48:57 PM
That would be ex-husband. As for being separated, if I remember right (I was two long islands in and the music was loud) I asked if they are divorced. Her answer was either vague or I didn't hear it correctly. I also asked if I'd have to ask him to not hog the blankets if we end up at her place :) She said she doesn't bring people back to the house/around her kids. I might see her this week so I'll get more details if I do.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 148 (view)
 
Would you date someone still living with their Ex?
Posted: 10/14/2018 12:22:27 PM
I met someone at a party this weekend. We talked for hours then exchanged numbers and kissed at the end of the night. She's fun so I think we'll at least hang out a little. During our conversation she told me she lives with her ex (I thought of this thread when I heard that). She said it's financially convenient and works well with the kids. They sleep in the same bed and have had sex once in awhile. I believe they've been separated for a couple of years. I woke up this morning thinking it figures, I find someone who I connect with and she has a situation like this.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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I'm not shocked when people ignore real profiles.
Posted: 10/13/2018 1:40:59 PM
I see some very good looking women on here (not working girls) and think they won't be here long. Then I see they are still here months later and sometimes years later.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 10 (view)
 
My expectations - should I keep this or delete it?
Posted: 10/12/2018 8:07:06 PM
You're right, that was on me. And it's rare that it happened. One person was fun to hang out with and I tried to keep an open mind but I just didn't feel a physical attraction.

And yes, I know about the posting history.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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A Question For Guys Looking For Gals
Posted: 10/12/2018 7:54:14 AM
I'm okay if it's one or two pics but not everything. And on top of that, there are the pics that have filters to remove blemishes, wrinkles and every other thing that doesn't make them look perfect. A have a friend who always uses filters when she posts pics. I see her pics here and on FB and think "Damn, she looks good". Then I see how she really looks in person. Not bad but nowhere near as good as she does in her pic. False representation on a dating site.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 7 (view)
 
My expectations - should I keep this or delete it?
Posted: 10/12/2018 7:08:14 AM
I like the suggestion about having her send a current photos. Maybe request a selfie while we're texting. The texting part is something I usually do. If we connect here I suggest that we move over to texting so we don't have to keep signing into the app to send messages. That's the one main I do it. The other is both of us are constantly seeing other possible opportunities when we sign in. I rather just focus on getting to know one person. For the date I had recently, we split the bill. Even when my date doesn't look like her pics, it still ends up being an okay night. I can have good conversation and we're usually the last people in the restaurant if we go out to eat. For this one, I like the bill stay where the waitress put it and kept talking to the point where the people there probably wanted to go home. She went for her wallet when I went for mine and asked how much. That was nice on her part.

Most of my photos are 1-2 years old. The current profile pic with Tom Arnold is from a few weeks ago. The picture of me driving the Vette is older. I put that one up with what I think is a funny caption because most guys have to have a pic with their motorcycle, car or a puppy. No shirtless pics in the bathroom for me. I thought the picture of me inside the car is pretty good. That was taken in the driveway. I notice I'm wearing sunglasses in at least half of my pictures. I think that's because I spend a lot of time outdoors and the light bothers my eye if it's bright out. I'll have to get some more indoor pics from when I'm out with friends. Those usually have friends in them though.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 4 (view)
 
My expectations - should I keep this or delete it?
Posted: 10/11/2018 8:07:21 PM
My eyes usually look red when a flash is used at night. This time they look white. I look possessed while Tom Arnold sometimes acts like he is :)

I'm looking for someone who I'm physically attracted to so that's high on the list. I've dated people who I wasn't attracted to. It's not as enjoyable. One got upset when I didn't want to have sex with her while we were on vacation. I know what you mean though.

I recently exchanged messages with someone for a little over a week. That was getting a little drawn out. A few days into the conversation I asked which of her photos is the most recently then I went on to say most recent is from last month. I didn't hear from her for two days and she totally skipped that question.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 1 (view)
 
My expectations - should I keep this or delete it?
Posted: 10/11/2018 7:24:53 PM
I'm kind of getting tired of meeting women who don't look like their pictures. I recently had one who looked pretty good here but the person I met looked like she could be her mom! I told myself "nope, that's not going to happen" before we made it to the door of the restaurant. So I added this to my profile -

Please have current photos. You can show me what you looked like 10 or 35 years ago if we have a connection but for now I rather know what you will look like when we meet. There is no guarantee the date will continue past "hi" if you don't look like your photos. The same goes for photo filters. A lot women use amazing filters that take away their blemishes and make their skin look like it's only been around for 18 years. That's great for Facebook but those changes don't carry over to real life. It's okay. None of us are perfect.

I prefer to make plans to meet a short time after we establish a connection. No reason to have endless messages that go nowhere.

If anything maybe this will eliminate most wasted nights and money to meet someone who looks different than I'm expecting. It's not worth either of our time unless she's just hoping to get a free meal. For the woman I mentioned at the beginning of this post, I keep it to just an app and drink. We split the check.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Is it better to build comfort with multiple replies before getting their number?
Posted: 10/6/2018 6:29:13 AM
Most of the time I never talk to someone on the phone before we meet. We message here then exchange numbers at some point. That will lead to texting but rarely do I actually talk to someone. I kind of like the mystery. Recently I talked to a couple of women before we met. I liked that because we could get to know more about each other than our fingers could type in a short amount of time.

I wouldn't want to wait through weeks of texting, phone conversation and video chats before I met someone. Women have men messaging them constantly so they have their pick of opportunity. I rather establish a connection then plan to meet to see if we have a connection before someone else scoops her up.

My shortest time from first message to meeting was less than 2 hours. I was sitting on a rock by the water at the end of the day. Of course I took out my phone then saw a message here. I sent a reply then she did too. 20 minutes of messages turned into her suggesting we meet for a drink. I said okay then drove home to shower and change. Drinks and apps at one location, dessert at another. We dated for about a year and a half. That's how I like it to happen.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 29 (view)
 
It isn't ghosting.
Posted: 10/6/2018 6:11:10 AM
She's already helping you wet sand a truck? You got a good one there! I'm glad this worked out for you.

I had one about a week ago. I've looked at her profile a few times but didn't think she was my type. She sent me a message about really liking my profile and wanting to get to know me. I figured I'd see what she's about so I agreed. She then wanted me to call her. I was really busy that night and didn't have time for a 2 hour long first call. And even if we said 15 minutes, it would still be 2 hours. So I said we could try to talk the next day. I got home late the following evening and still didn't have time for a 2 hour call. She was very friendly with tons of compliments and persistant about me giving her a call. It's times like this when texting comes in handy. I told her I'd definitely make time to call her the next day. Which I did later in the morning. I felt it better to block my number when I did that. The call went to voicemail so I left her a message. I also sent her a message here. Nothing... nothing at all! Went from 100 - 0. I can see that she read the message. My thoughts are either she was looking for attention and felt rewarded when she received a phone call, maybe she's a "working girl" (a lot of them on the site) or she was hoping my phone number would come up. I found this one amusing.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 83 (view)
 
How many partners is too much?
Posted: 10/4/2018 7:57:38 PM
Is it kegel exercises that help tighten things down there?
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 387 (view)
 
Do nice guys finish last?
Posted: 10/4/2018 7:54:56 PM

Everyone has a different idea of what a "nice guy" is. Is he someone that would stop to help someone change a tire or is he a pushover that lets people walk all over him? There's nothing negative about being nice. It's a positive quality. I think people are misusing the term when they're trying to talk about someone that's overly agreeable.


Here's an example of something that happened to me tonight. My kids were with me for a few hours today (the divorced dad's just get a little bit of time thing). Anyway, I take them to swim class after dinner. My ex met us there so she could bring them home. It was our first time doing this. I kind of get along with my her even though I got hammered in the divorce (her attorney is a good liar) and I don't get to see the kids as much as I want to. We have some differences but we're civil. She picks up our daughter's school bag as we are leaving the pool area. It has to weigh at least 20-25lbs. I reach over as we're walking and take the bag off her shoulder. Then I hold the door open for her. After all the stuff I've been through with her, I still do that. And as I held the door I thought "I'm to nice".
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 81 (view)
 
How many partners is too much?
Posted: 10/4/2018 7:25:27 PM
I dated a woman who thought it was disgusting if a man slept with more than 10 woman in his life (she's in her mid-40s). Some people might have only had a few sexual partners. A few friends have only been with 1-3 people. It's different when you're single. Especially for awhile. Some people have sex on the first, second or third date. Some wait for months. I think that's rare. Say a person is dating for awhile. Maybe they only sleep with one person per month. That's 12 in a year. That number can keep going up. Most woman should be able to get at least 1-2 dates per week if she wants to. Maybe not their ideal person but it's a date. Some will do it just for dinner and entertainment. That's a different topic.

My first was a virgin (so was I). We were 18 and went out for 5 months before we had sex. I still know the date that happened! We were together for a little over 5 years. I had another LTR. That was just over 13 years. Have been single off and on for the last 10 years. I couldn't guess my number.

As for the women with the truly valuable vaginas.who turn their sex into millions and millions of dollars. They know they have a money making machine. I've heard stories of some that get $500+ per hour. They'll travel around the country while making hundreds of thousands per year. Guys line up like it's a deli!
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Date with someone your not into or go solo?
Posted: 10/4/2018 7:03:52 PM

I wasn't implying a female friend. I referred to the friend as a buddy you go out with, then go to said party once the dancing's started (skipping the dinner). Although with some female friends you could still do that, but most don't do it right. You'd have to have it down pat to not come across as a couple. If your (coupled) friends are there, guys can talk with guys much of the time, girls with girls... you just don't pair together, but also help each other playing Wing. More thought has to go into that process when you're male-female winging it like that.


I wouldn't mind going solo f I was going to an event like a NYE party at a restaurant and there was other friends there. We'd all hang out. Some of my male friends don't dance much. I do. So I'm usually dancing with their wives/girlfriends while they sit and drink. If I was going to goto a place like that without friends there. I'd skip dinner and be there for the music. At that point most people are having a good time on the dance floor. Actually, I did do that once. My now ex-wive and I were dating. She didn't want to go out that night. I remember being miserable while we were grocery shopping at 7pm. Went back to her house for a little while then I went home. I still miserable while working in my office at 10:30. So I broke out some good clothes then headed to the NYE party at a restaurant 5 minutes from me. I had a GREAT time! I rather go with someone (a real date or female friend) but I can still have a good time solo.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Date with someone your not into or go solo?
Posted: 9/26/2018 6:51:50 AM
The NYE/Holiday parties that I goto are at local restaurants. Some tables for two. Mostly tables for 10 people. Buffet dinner then dacning later. For myself, I usually have a good numbers of date options. Even if it's a married friend whos husband doesn't want to go out that night. But once in awhile the options are slim.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Date with someone your not into or go solo?
Posted: 9/25/2018 8:11:40 AM
I'm looking at it like you have something you want to goto and it's usually better to have a date. No friends are available that night. You could take someone from POF or another dating site who is into you but you don't find them attractive and are not interested in them but they would be a person to hang out with that night. Or, you go solo. Which do you pick?

As I think about my own question more and what I usually do, it depends on the situation. I mentioned I like to see bands in the area. I rather do that solo if I'm not with someone I'm attracted to. There could be opportunity there. And if I did go with a female friend, depending on my "relationship" with her (FWB?), I could still be open to that opportunity. For other things like a comedy club, open holiday party where I might not know anyone else there or NYE, going with someone I'm not really into is better than sitting next to an empty seat. For other things, solo can be fine. Like a wedding. There are usually a lot of friendly, single people at weddings.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Date with someone your not into or go solo?
Posted: 9/23/2018 6:53:17 PM

Where are you going OP where it's all couples and there would be an empty chair across from you?
Not sure what you're getting at. Do you have a woman friend who is single and would enjoy a free meal/ entertainment? A sister you could pretend is in town for a visit? Any other singles going to be there? Need details.


Some of the things that I like to do where it's better to bring a date are -

New Years Eve - It's usually a place where it's dinner and dancing. Either mostly couples or groups of friends go. Most of what I see is couples.

Holiday parties. - Pretty much the same as NYE but without the ball falling at midnight.

Comedy Clubs - Could be groups of friends (I've done that) but mostly couples.

For the above, it's much better to go with a date. A lot of times the tables seat 10. So without a date the person would be sitting by themselves.

I like music, local bands and places that have a DJ (some call them clubs :) ) . Those are other places where it's better to go with someone. I've gone solo. Last week was a good example. There was a band in the area that I wanted to see so I went. There were a lot of couples and groups. The larger groups were from a boat show that was in town and a gathering of people in the mortgage business. I'm friendly and the dance floor is there for a reason so I just join in and make friends for the night. It's better and easier to go with someone but it's not the end of the world.

I do have some single and married female friends that I go out with. Sometimes they aren't available or they might not be interested in something I want to do. I had one year when I was single on NYE and none of my female friends were available to go out. I went solo. Just not to a place that had a sit down meal. I had a great time and kissed more women than I would have if I brought someone.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Date with someone your not into or go solo?
Posted: 9/23/2018 9:42:05 AM
Would you go on a date with someone your not into so the seat across from you isn't empty or just go solo and be surrounded by other couples? Not going isn't an option. Life is to short for that! And when I say not into, they aren't a bad person. Just not your first, second or third option.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Heavy petting in semi-public places, LOL
Posted: 9/23/2018 8:18:54 AM
I have a long list of places. One was on the side of the Extraterrestrial Highway on the way to get close to Area 51. There was nothing and nobody around that we could see. I've never experienced quiet like that outside. We took some pictures under the sign as we got onto that long highway to nowhere. She flashed her boobs there. Later on I suggested we take some topless pics of her walking down the highway (2 lane road where you can see for many miles). She started off topless then in her panties then totally nude. Shortly after that her screams of pleasure broke the silence in that area. That was an interesting experience. It was more interesting when we got to close later and ended up on the Area 51 security log but that's another story.

Another time was on the side of the road in Hawaii. I was standing behind her while looking at the ocean. I lifted her short skirt up enough to gain access then slowly went at it for a few minutes as cars drove by behind us.

The car was the place to do it most of the time when I was in my late teens/early 20s. The girls I was dating could get some great positions. One of my favorites was the backseat of my girlfriend's Mom's '76 Monte Carlo. All of my cars have had tinted windows so that gave enough privacy to do it while parked on the side of the road. Especially at night. There were a number of times getting caught by the police while parked in rest areas. We referred to the officers as Mr Hollywood because they were walk up to the car with the spot light on behind them. Most of the time we were kind of able to be dressed by the time they got to the car. I remember one time the officer said "Ma'am. Do you want to be with him?". They always told us to find a better place. I'd be worried about ending up on the news if I did that now. Teens can get away with it.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
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Why does this section keep disappearing?
Posted: 9/23/2018 7:49:28 AM
I find this section keep disappearing from the list of forums. It will be here then gone then appear again a few days later. It happen so much that I saved a link to one of the threads. I was able to access it that way but it still wasn't in the main list of forums when I looked. Is it just me or are others experiencing this?
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 299 (view)
 
A man and his car...
Posted: 9/19/2018 9:16:48 PM

Ok Honestly this is a simple question with a very simple answer. Since I been in he auto industry for iver 20 years and I see what kind of cars attract what people here is my answer. When a guy has a fancy car, clean and well maintain and within in ten years old that should not be a problem. Keeping a vehicle clean and well maintain tell alot good about the person.


For some people, a car is a way to get from point A to point B. For other people, it's a reason to do it!

Years ago I had someone come to my house to look at a car I was selling. He looked at it, we went for a ride, then he asked if he could use my bathroom when we got back. He did that then we talked for a few minutes before completing the transaction. Towards the end he told me he really didn't have to goto the bathroom earlier. I was like "huh". He then said that he wanted to see what the inside of my house looked like. There would be a good chance I took care of the car if the house was taken care of. Good point! I've seen some cars that looked like dumpsters with a steering wheel. I'd hate to see what their houses look like.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 298 (view)
 
A man and his car...
Posted: 9/19/2018 9:10:05 PM
I've been into cars since I was a kid. I had a long career in the high performance/racing industry so I had a lot of very nice cars and trucks. Some were featured in magazines. My standard of clean tends to be different than others. My kids will comment on how clean my car is and I'll be thinking it needs to be detailed. When it comes to dating, most of the time I'll clean the car a little more before I meet someone. I've been doing that since I was a teen. Reminds me of a song from DJ Jazzy Jeff in '91 -

Then six o'clock rolls around
You just finished wiping your car down
It's time to cruise so you head to the summertime hangout
It looks like a car show

Yup... used to clean the car on Friday nights then head out to the local cruising areas in the Summer. Those were good times. I miss that!
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 304 (view)
 
Do nice guys finish last?
Posted: 9/19/2018 8:59:32 PM

Yes, I have always considered myself a nice guy. Good morals, good manners, considerate of others, hard working, etc. Always have looked for that "soulmate", which I now believe may not exist. In looking for that special one, I have been way to selective and probably missed out on some perfectly good women. So maybe alot of us nice guys are responsible for finishing last.


I've been down that road. I've dated some women who were really nice but I just wasn't physically attracted to them. They would have been a perfect package if they had the look that I go for. And they don't have to look like a super model (I wouldn't mind though). They just have to be attractive to me.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Women Don't Know What They Want
Posted: 9/2/2018 7:34:46 AM
I think it's common to talk about our exes because the experiences with them helped us become who we are today (good or bad). Especially if it was a long relationship and if there are kids involved. Part of getting to know someone is telling "your story". I get tired of telling my story sometimes. I think I should write a book about my life then give it to potential dates. Give them a few days then see if they've left the country :)

I don't think it's good if the entire first meeting conversation is about exes. Maybe touch on a few things but there is a lot more to talk about.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 13 (view)
 
vroom vroom - life as a car
Posted: 9/1/2018 9:41:47 PM
I'd like to find a low mileage model that isn't high-maintenance, doesn't smoke and hasn't been in a major accident. Options like a removable top and pop-up headlights will be nice! Oh, has to have a clear title too. No mechanic's liens or other issues with ownership!

Message me to schedule a test drive!
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 145 (view)
 
Do nice guys finish last?
Posted: 8/17/2018 7:47:53 AM

You are correct. One of the reasons we won't, is that we don't want to annoy you excessively. Some of those little clever cues you women use that make you hard to get, we take as you being not interested. We then say," Bye, have a nice life" and go about our way.

Once is enough for me. I won't make the return trip, so don't expect it. You can be your own worst enemy, sometimes.


I'm like that to a point. I like to see local bands play so it's mostly if I'm at a place where they play. I'll see a woman I'm attracted to and sometimes don't approach her because I feel she gets hit on all the time. Especially in a place like that. I think she'll think of me as just another guy trying to get laid. Granted at that point I only see her physical features so I'll be thinking about that. But she could be a person who is girlfriend material.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Does being single stop you from doing what you want?
Posted: 8/16/2018 3:02:56 PM

Well hotels in Aus cost atleast 400 a night, excluding food and drink.
Best cruise deals for good cruise liners is around 150 a night for balcony and that includes free buffet for all meals and free dining and some free drinks and free cafe food. Best deals for non balcony is about 80- 100 per night. Should be cheaper for quad share.
I basically assumed Japan would be atleast 3000-4000 for 10 nights.

About living though, Aus is pretty expensive to live in. Rent is pretty high. Eg my place is 2200 a month. The minimum for rent is basically 1800 a month. Just most are atleast 450 a week for decent houses and 350 minimum a week but the place may be a dump and that isn't even in the city either.


What is minimum wage there and maybe the average income to put it in perspective. Apartment rentals in a city that's about 10 miles from me are in the $800-$1200 range. Houses in my area rent from $1200-$2000+. The average house price is in the mid-to upper $200K range with some much higher. A house that's worth about $275K here is close to $100K less in some other parts of the country like Florida or maybe North Carolina. It can cost $100s of thousands more in a place like Los Angeles.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Does being single stop you from doing what you want?
Posted: 8/16/2018 5:57:14 AM

Endless, I bet you would get takers with that offer. Splitting costs is normal when people live together.


I'd have to give it a lot of thought before I lived with someone. I have 3 kids. My oldest is on her own and I've very protective of my 12 year old twins. Besides me being into a woman I'm seeing, she also has to be someone that I'd feel comfortable having the kids around. And if it was going to go long term, I'd have to be VERY comfortable with them being alone with her. Plus it has to be a serious relationship before they know her as my girlfriend. That rarely happens. I don't want them to keep seeing new people. Taking this to the level of moving in with each other, this might sound selfish but she would have to move in with me. I've seen and heard of to much over the years so I need the security of knowing I won't lose my place if something happens. Especially with my girls. Or maybe I just haven't found the right person to let down my guard and consider moving in with her if the situation was right. I just don't see that happening.

mahwahgirl - I like that! :)
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Does being single stop you from doing what you want?
Posted: 8/15/2018 7:32:41 PM

It costs a lot less to cohabitate. Think about the cost of rent or a mortgage. A rent being about $1,200+, you can save as a minimum $600 a month, $7,200 a year, $36,000 for 5 years.


I should change my profile headline to something like "Who needs love when we can save each other money!" :)
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Does being single stop you from doing what you want?
Posted: 8/15/2018 7:06:57 PM

From reading this thread, it appears that most like being single or don't mind. What seems to be lacking is either enough single friends to enjoy things with, rather than doing them by one's self, or that money is the limiting factor. It makes me wonder if people get into romantic relationships as a trade off of sorts because they lack enough single friends and money. I don't think that's entirely surprising, given both the divorce rate and the revolving door of dating.


A group of friends and I used to do a lot together. See bands, karaoke, hang at the marina etc... That was about 5-10 years ago. Some of us were in relationships and some were single. We started hanging out less and less as more people in the group found someone and it became serious. We went from getting together 1-2 nights some weeks to maybe seeing each other 1-2 times each year. Even some of my close friends. We get together once in awhile but it's not like before. I can usually get a "date" if I need one. By that I mean a single or sometimes married female friend. Just someone to goto dinner with or maybe a comedy club.

As for living alone, I think I mentioned I don't mind living alone in my original post. I kind of prefer it. But... I hear life can be cheaper when there are two people contributing. I've never really experienced that. I carried most of the bills when I was married (mortgage, utilities, insurance, paid for all the cars etc...). She paid for child care and food. I made much more and she worked for me so I guess I didn't pay her enough :) I think it can be easier with fairly equal pays and each person contributing to the normal living expenses.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Do you care what a person does for work?
Posted: 8/13/2018 6:17:30 PM

I've had many women look down their noses at my line of work. I've been a building contractor all of my life. Most, I believe, think that I spend a lot of my time looking for work. Yup, I must have spent, Ohh, perhaps 20 days in my working life not having another job to start after I've finished my last job. Most, however do not know of all of my talents.

Anything you have sitting under the peak of your house, I can build or fix. This includes most of your major appliances. (Short of Refrigeration) May as well add into that mix, your car, mower, or anything with a gas engine. I've built a number of grain handling, and mixing equipment operations from the ground up. Most farm equipment. I can fabricate most anything out of steel. I can repair any swimming pool, or spa tub. I know how to run any piece of heavy equipment. I can drive anything, including semi tractors. I can operate most machine shop equipment. I know how to pull water wells, or fix any plumbing issue. Electric, all, including some three phase industrial. Until the digital age came along, I could even fix analog. Heating, well, if it's got a standing pilot light, I can repair it.

I can even miss vacations on a regular basis. Mainly because people will swamp me with work- quite often. I'm a first call on most household disasters, because people know I can bail them out of many situations.

Yes, I'm one of those nasty folks that does "Dirty Jobs". My days are never dull. How many can say," I went to work on a roof, but instead, I got an old flat head Ford V-8 started, tuned, and installed in a '52 Ford ratrod- And got paid to do it".

Sometimes, life can be more interesting than a date.


Good post!!!
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Do you care what a person does for work?
Posted: 8/13/2018 4:41:12 PM

FYI I would not want a male dancer, or mortician.


People are dying to see a mortician once!
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Do you care what a person does for work?
Posted: 8/13/2018 3:02:10 PM
I find that the most popular professional for woman here is something in the medical field. I see that in at least half of the profiles that I look at.

Ladies - is there a profession that is common for men?
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Do you care what a person does for work?
Posted: 8/12/2018 5:52:36 PM
Some people have a laundry list of requirements in their profile. I've seen a few that say "Tell me what you bring to the table". It sounds like a business transaction. I don't care if someone is a CEO or cashier at Target. It's about who they are and how we connect. It's nice to be with someone who isn't struggling financially and can hold their own but none of our lives are perfect.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Does being single stop you from doing what you want?
Posted: 8/11/2018 5:39:37 PM

I've gone on vacation by myself. However, it's just not as enjoyable as traveling with other people. I find a lot of activities are just more enjoyable with another person than by yourself.


Death Valley... It's the one place that I tell people I went to solo then they look at me funny before asking if I'm crazy. It was only 133 degrees that day. And that's why I went, to experience the extremely high temps. A friend told me she'd go but I knew she would have been miserable so that wouldn't have been a good experience for me. I wish I would have went with someone who would have appreciated it but I still had a good time.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Does being single stop you from doing what you want?
Posted: 8/11/2018 5:33:45 PM

It kind of does. I wait until I travel (which I do solo) to go out and about and enjoy myself. For example, I love going to live music in pubs and I do all the time when I travel, but would never do it here. I don't here because I work with hundreds of people and they all know me, or at least know who I am (because of the position I hold), and I know enough of them well enough to know they would gossip. The friendships I make at work are limited, again because of position. And we keep our friendships pretty private (they are at level or in higher positions) because we know there would be so many who would gossip and try to create drama that wasn't there. I don't mind going to a matinee or something by myself but I'm careful not to go to some other places. Endless, NY would be wonderful but if I were lucky enough to find someone to kiss, I guarantee it would be all over FB the next day.


I also like live music. There are a few local bands that I like to see. I sometimes go with friends or if I'm dating someone I'll go with her. Not as much fun going along. I don't have a problem talking to people but I find a lot of single women in those places have their guards up so they sometimes aren't as friendly. It's more fun if I bring someone. But... I've also had good experiences going solo.

As for NYE, you could find a masquerade party so you can get that midnight kiss without anyone knowing who you are :)


for camping trips, afternoon drives or weekend getaways, yes, not much fun without a partner but for home life, single has its upsides. my free time is actually mine! if my work schedule is heavy and want to be lazy when I get home, that's what I do. if I want to go to my garage or remodel the house, I just do it.


For home life, I don't mind being single. There are times when I don't want to talk to anyone or I just want to do my own thing. That could be laying on the couch watching TV, things around the house, going for a bike ride or do some drone photography. I'm perfectly find being single at home. The only negative I can think of about that is if something happens to me (especially when I get older). I could be laying on the floor for a long time before someone finds me.


I know many women that won't even go to a restaurant by themselves...let alone go on vacation!!
I used to work "on the road"...so got used to eating out and traveling by myself...
so when I became single....it wasn't unnatural to me.


Restaurants... I forgot about them. My phone is my "date" if I go solo. I spend most of my time staring at my phone if it's just me. Unless I'm at a nice place by the water that has a great view.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 14 (view)
 
How many good second dates have you gone on in the past 5 years?
Posted: 8/11/2018 2:18:14 PM
5 years? I can't even tell you how many I've had in the last 2 years. There are a few that stand out. Probably because we dated for awhile. I had two woman who I dated off and on for over a year. We had a good time together but no love connection (at least on my side). I think it's easy to make it to a second date, maybe harder to get to a third. Things are starting to look good for a relationship if it gets to 4-7 dates. At least that's how it usually works for me. 3-4 dates is usually when the other person and I consider ourselves a couple unless it's just going to be dating with no commitment.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Does being single stop you from doing what you want?
Posted: 8/11/2018 1:55:15 PM
I know of people that hardly go anywhere become they are single. They feel that they have to be with someone to do something. I'm the opposite. I go places and do things when I want to. Doesn't matter if I'm with someone or not. It's nice to share experiences with someone but I'm not going to just sit home if I'm single. I've traveled around the country solo (Key West, Sedona, Vegas and Hollywood to name a few). I've gone to those and other places by myself but usually make friends while I'm there so I end up having someone to spend time with if I want to. Other times I enjoy doing my own thing. I like to go out for NYE. A couple of years ago was a rare time when I wasn't dating someone and my single female friends didn't want to go out so I went out by myself. I found that being the single guy in the room can work out pretty good when it comes time to kiss at midnight. Needless to say I had a great time!

It's not all perfect but much better than letting life pass me by when I'm not with someone. Our days on earth are short. I try not to waste them.
 Endless_Summer_Nights
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 121 (view)
 
Do nice guys finish last?
Posted: 8/11/2018 7:00:19 AM
Thanks for the info! I've wondered why I see that in some posts.
 
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