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 jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 373 (view)
 
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/19/2010 7:36:01 PM
I am 55 with ED and the meds do not work. So I had a penile implant and can be hard at will for as long as I like. It's like being 18 all over again. lol
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Married Men -To date or not to date?
Posted: 2/15/2009 9:57:09 AM
From a permanently sparated man's point of view let me throw my 2 cents in. My wife and I are sparated and are only married on paper so I can use her insurance. She has a profile on this site, mispace and one other one. I do too. I would not take my wife bak and she would not have me. But, it does mean I am married and I list myself as separated and explain it in my profile.

Does that mean I shouldn't date? She has, I have.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
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multiple positions during 1sex session, hows it possible
Posted: 2/1/2009 9:37:45 AM
Along with what the others have said is the fact that a lot of those 1 hr sex scenes are the same positions over and over. Replay so to speak. Yes, I have engaged in several positions in one session. You cjhooses one get close, stop choose a second get close. . .etc.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 110 (view)
 
I inform every potential date that sex will not happen anytime soon..
Posted: 1/26/2009 4:18:54 PM
My response would be it depends how you broach the subject. If it is approached with a hard line like,"Look bud, this ain't happenin" I would be put off. Not by the no sex but the method. If it came across genuine and sincere during a conversation, i.e. Look, I like you and would like to go out but I tend to be an old fashioned girl and I hope you can respect that. That would be fine with me. It's the manner not the standards.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
erasing past threads histories from my profile?
Posted: 1/19/2009 5:21:02 PM
Hey Casino,
If you posted what you believed then why would you want to erase it to impress a woman and make her think you are something you are not. Be yourself and find a woman that appreciates that. You are trying to present the image you think a woman wants. That is what a lot of the women complain about (and men) on this site, It is not worth it.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Is it important to classify what type of sex it was?
Posted: 1/18/2009 10:10:49 AM
In my opinion, they are equal but different. When I have had monkey-sex it wild abandon and lustful which sated me (temporarily LOL) and when I have had an intense lovemaking session with anintimate partner, it has been physically and mentally a one-of-a-kind experience. Deep, satisfying (temporarily) and a sense of closeness you do not get from wild, fvcking. Both are great just different.
Do I categorize, no, I don't have that kind of time.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Motives
Posted: 1/17/2009 12:32:54 PM
I agree with poster # 2. It varies from person to person and situation to situation. That being said, I am living in my upstairs aptarment while my sister lives downstairs. It is small and rustic. It would not impress anyone. But I am happy. For the first time in my life at age 54, I am happy. I am separated and currently have no partner, it's o.k. I do not have much but my spirit is healthy. When I find someone, she will compliment me, not fill a void. She will share as I will, not take. I no longer look for a partner to complete me but one where we complete each other.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 257 (view)
 
What words would you LEAST like to hear after sex?
Posted: 1/17/2009 10:53:40 AM
You ready to start yet. or Is that it. LOL
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Do you think your best is ...
Posted: 1/16/2009 2:08:54 PM
Good question.
I would say both behind me and ahead of me. In my youth I had qualities and traits that made me the best for that time. In my current years I have age, maturity, wisdom and peace. So I am at my best now for where I am.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Sneezing and sex?
Posted: 1/16/2009 2:00:14 PM
I have severe allergies and have sneezed 42 times without stopping. I also continually have sexual thoughts. Uh-oh I may kill myself by sneezing because I am thinking of the hot chick in the grocery store.
I have also heard of women who can have an orgasm from sneezing. Now I don't know if that would be a curse or a blessing if it happened to me.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Marriage and sex how did it effect you?
Posted: 1/15/2009 5:54:04 PM
The morning after our wedding we made love and when we were through, she looked at me and said,"Sex isn't as much fun now that it's legal". You can guess where it went from there.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 319 (view)
 
how would you react if your son /daughter told you they where gay
Posted: 1/13/2009 10:31:26 AM
My only wish gay or staright is that she find some who loves her. I had a discussion once with someone who was adament that a girl should marry a man. I replied, I would rather my daughter be in a loving relationship with a woman than an abusive one with a man. It's about love, not who.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
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When you see the same photo on here over and over again..
Posted: 10/31/2008 9:59:37 AM
What i do not understand is why people delete their profiles b/c a relationship might work. You do have the option of hiding it. I for one would not want to do my profile over again. I worked very hard on it.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Women with College Education and their dating patterns
Posted: 10/30/2008 11:46:13 AM
OP, i disagree with the statement that women with a degree do not marry. Both my wives were college educated. The point I think you might want to make is women with a college education can afford to be picky. They have a job, apt./ house, car, wardrobe, etc.
The days of a woman "needing" a man are over.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
 
New Profile Field.
Posted: 10/29/2008 6:35:47 PM
Sounds like the same things I see in 90% of profiles I read. LOL
Let's just give them numbers.
outgoing =1
life of the party =2
shy=3
etc.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 66 (view)
 
girls with high sex drive
Posted: 10/29/2008 10:41:29 AM
My second wife (and my first for that matter) had high sex drives while we were dating. Amazing sex. My second wife slowed way down after marriage and said that after she became a mom she didn't see herself as sexual. EGAD !
I would love a woman with a high sex drive, considering I am a multiple commer.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
boys are invasive
Posted: 10/29/2008 10:37:17 AM
First off, i prefer men to boys but that is minor.
I read women's profiles all the time that say, "ask me anything" or I'll answer any question just ask". I laugh to myself b/c yeah I would love to ask those private details but I am cognizent of the fact that she does not mean that.
That is for much later on. I would say that men use that as an excuse to get cybersex and that is disgusting( not cybersex, but so early on).
A man that doesn't have the common sense or decency to understand that are the men that give the good men bad reps.
I actually have in my profile that I do not send dic pics, ask for your ph. # early on, expect sex early in the relationship or think you want me b/c you contacted me first. It's asame I have to put that in there, but I did.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 562 (view)
 
does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 10/29/2008 10:29:51 AM
It's a dealbreaker for me. i have never dated a smoker nor will i ever.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
My date actually asked me What is Chivalry?
Posted: 10/28/2008 7:52:29 PM
i was. I am 53. There are customs that most people today do not even know about. When a gentleman and a lady are walking down a sidewalk, i.e. downtown. It was customary for the gentleman to walk on the outside. This was for 2 reasons. 1. To protect her from any car or carriage that may get out of control and 2. Roads were not often paved and there were mud puddles so when a car or carriage went by and the wheels hit the puddle the man would take the brunt of the spals. Find someone in their twenties that knows that.
My dad instilled in me manners. I was to open the car door for my SISTER, EGAD ! and pull her chair out in the restaurant. I was to satnd when a lady left the table or came into a room. I was also taught that No meant "NO" there was no further discussion.
I say chivalry is on life support, it isn't dead but it is on life support.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 43 (view)
 
how can you tell when you've had good sex ?
Posted: 10/28/2008 2:37:15 PM
If I cum it's good. If I don't it's bad. I have had sex where eventually I just stopped I was no closer to cumming than when I started. Just moving it in and out and around and grinding but nada in the cum dept.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 56 (view)
 
I always date the same man...
Posted: 10/28/2008 9:57:15 AM
There is an adage that you eithe pick someone like your parent or exactly the opposite. When I married the second time, I thought I had met someone exactly the opposite of my mother.I consciously sought that out. It turned out that she turne into my mother and we are no longer together.
Counseling could help, IDK.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Is it really that hard?
Posted: 10/28/2008 9:48:53 AM
Well, you never said what you were looking for. But if it was the same, then no. f you want a true long term committed relationship with someone who wants to know you and become part of a family(not marriage) then yes you did the right thing. meeting family is not a big deal.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
once trust is lost can it be won back?
Posted: 10/28/2008 9:44:34 AM
I left my email logged in and my second wife (now ex, sort of) saw it and though, repeat thought I was planning, repeat, planning to cheat.
I did not blame her, I kicked myself in the a$$ for being so stupid. To quote Shakespeare, "I think thou dost protest too much".
It's your computer, he left it thee, he has no right to privacy.
The bad news is tere is probably more to the story than you saw. Run, Girl, run.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Political Views in a Relationship
Posted: 10/28/2008 9:40:40 AM
I would love to be able to give the etherial answer that as long as you vote, that is what is important.
However, for me the past 8 years of dictatatorship have eaten away at me to a point I can no longer understand why there are any republicans left. I am a raving liberal and have been a precinct leader for the democratic party.I have worked voter registration booths, something the republicans do not do, have signs in my yard and a bumpersticker that says," LOVE MY COUNTRY, FEAR MY GOVERNMENT" I have been pulled over for "random" liscence check b/c of that one. Free country my a$$.
To avoid any confusion I have in my profile that politically I am a raving liberal and then I have Obama/Biden '08.
This is hopefully a signal that if you are conservative we won't get along.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 60 (view)
 
What about this you can't date anyone else once you meet me?
Posted: 10/28/2008 9:32:05 AM
I don't know about a rule but for me I am not a jugler.If I am in contact with a potential relationship, I do not actively look. This is for several reasons. 1. dating costs money and for a man to date 3 or 4 women is far different from a woman being taken on a date by 3 or 4 men. 2. If I am communicating with several women it would be very easy for me to confuse screen names or profile info, which is the internet equivalent of yelling
the wrong name in bed. .3. i feel I can learn more about 1 person than I can about 3 women simultaneously.
When I am communicating with a woman, and I think she is having a lot of communication with other men, it is ego deflating. It is not wrong for them to do that but that is JMO.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 161 (view)
 
she has been diagnosed with bipolarism
Posted: 10/28/2008 9:18:44 AM
First off you said,"but i know from experience of dating someone that was bipolar that the medication does not make change them it reduces their mood swings and their outbursts but they are still the same person " that is not true.
Bi-polar by itself is a chemical imbalance in the brain. It is easily treatable and can be managed well through medications.
I am bi-polar and very stable.
The fact is most bi-polar people feel "well" when they are on their meds and then get the notion they no longer needed them. This happened to me after 3 years of faithfully taking my meds. My wife ( at the time), outed me to my psychiatrist.
Schizophrenia is almost a complete disconnect with reality. Hearing voices, thinking everyone is out to get you, etc. These people spend their lives in and out of hospitals.
Your dad's fiancee may be unchecked bi-polar but i suspect there issomething more severe going on. A personality disorder of some sort.
The bad news is she doesn't see her behavior as outrageous, mean, controlling. To her it is normal and therefore she will probably never get treatment.
I have a bachelor's degree in psychology.
Bi-polar people are not crazy.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 157 (view)
 
have you ever tasted breastmilk?
Posted: 10/28/2008 9:00:39 AM
I tried it. What is funny is my wife was a 44HH and didn't produce enough to breast feed. But one night i latched on and got a sip, very bland. She thought is was kinky but then she was with me after all.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Make it Quick, Are you almost done ???
Posted: 10/27/2008 12:18:43 PM
I was a sixty minute man with both my wives. The first loved it, she was multi-orgamic. the second one loved it at first but into our marriage she would always say, let's make it a quickie. We are not together anymore. I need to spread the love.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Premature Ejaculation
Posted: 10/27/2008 12:10:03 PM
It's long been a theory of mine that men (early on) train themselves to cum fast. When you are in your early teens, you are afraid of being caught so you do it as quickly as you can.
I used to be a premature ejaculator and I used this to overcome it.Either have him beat off, slowly or you beat him off until he is about to cum, stop, let that urge go away and start again, repeat this until he is begging for release. It will be a turn on to you because of the control you have ove his orgasm.
Do this as often as possible and he will becom a sixty minute man like myself.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 41 (view)
 
What's your biggest challenge in relationship to dating? Is it something you can overcome?
Posted: 10/26/2008 12:55:33 PM
Well,one obstacle is what I call the checklist or the "I won't settle" syndrome. This does not apply to me but so many men and women say I am not willing to settle. To me that implies if I do not see everything I want and none of the things I do not want, then o.k. That is fantasy. I run when i read a profile that says I won't settle,. That individual has a standard set so high, they will likely be single for a long, long time.
Now as for me. This is a great question.
I have 2 barriers that can not be overcome. 1. I am in the process of being approved for disability, which means a meager income. And I am the healthiest sick person you will ever meet.
2. I am a very stable bi-polar and so many people think that means crazy, schizophrenic, unstable, etc. If not on meds the moods can kick in. But there are many wondwerful meds. out there. bi-polar is a chemical imbalance in the brain that is easily treatable and we are not crazy, insane(Things I have been called) or schizophrenic.
Schizophrenia is a completely different disorder which involves hearing voices and be dillusional. I am neither of those.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Who filed?
Posted: 10/25/2008 5:44:55 PM
My theoy which I developed after my second wife moved out over a year ago is this. Men are labeled commitment phobic. But women are the first to run when things do not go their way. Once a man does "commit" he is more invested than the woman. JMHO.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
My love is schizophrenic
Posted: 10/23/2008 10:36:26 AM
schizophrenia is a very serious illness and most spend their lives in and out of hopital psych wards. I am Bi-polar and as another responder said, When they are on their meds, they can be almost normal and like Bi-polar when on their meds they feel fine and do not think they need them. This actually happened to me about 5 yrs. ago my wife at the time scheduled an appointment for her, my psychiatrist and myself. She outed me and told him I wasn't taking my meds. I said I don't see any difference whe I am on them or not. She said something very poignent, "You may not see a difference but everyone around you does, and it is not good. Since then I have taken my meds religiously and seen my counselor and pyschiatris at all sceduled appointments. She still left me but it was for other issues.
I am quite stable but schizophrenics are more serious and the prognosis is not good. I also have a bachelor's degree in psychology so I have studied the DSM-IV, revised which is the index of abnormal conditions.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
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is anyone able to interpret relationship-related dreams
Posted: 10/23/2008 10:25:01 AM
This is jst off the top of my head.
The hotel represents unfamiliarity as in your new relationship.
The attractive faceless stranger represents temptation conscious or otherwise.
The garden could be the "Eden" or perfect place where you long to be.
The kiss is the forbidden fruit.
Your mother is the external guilt factor to make you realize what you did.
And the legless boyfriend, when you kissed the faceless stranger, he lost a part of himself that he will never get back no matter how much love you show.
The hugging represents the fear of losing him so you are holding on tight to keep him from leaving you.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
How Do You Deal With Stubborn?
Posted: 10/23/2008 10:17:43 AM
I would guess that people do what they think is punishment because they would hate that to be done to the. Silent treatment him back. I went silent on my wife (now ex) for 3 days once until she came to me and said this is ridiculous. I got a surprised look and said, Oh, are we talking now. She never did it again.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 119 (view)
 
Breast Reduction?
Posted: 10/17/2008 7:35:11 AM
When I married my second wife she was a 42 DD over time she grew into a 44 HH.
She had severe neck and back pain. She wanted reduction surgery and I was 100% supportive. they looked great, she went to a C cup.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
 
If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/16/2008 11:37:50 AM
r. phil (my mentor) always tells women we are clueless but we are trainable. If women would take the time to be specific in what they need, want and expect, most (not all) men would adapt.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
A love affair with substance
Posted: 10/13/2008 5:51:05 PM
yes, and as a person who has been clean and sober 3 & 1/2 yrs. I was more interested in my next high than ANYTHING else. I stayed in the bedroom with the door closed. I did not see it at the time bt in rehab, I saw what had been. I was in love with the drug and you are right nothing else is even a close second.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
 
What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/13/2008 5:48:10 PM
i ended it when she told me she was moving out. She was my wife and we were together 15 yrs.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
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Give him a chance = Or Am I being a Banana to Wait
Posted: 10/13/2008 2:40:29 PM
A second chance is o.k. Maybe he was bitten, I am highly allergic to bees and the last time i almost ened up in the hospital.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
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Wish you were younger? Read the other forums!
Posted: 10/13/2008 2:13:47 PM
What kills me is the 22 somethings that say I'll never find the right guy. C'mon your 22 for pete sake.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Motives
Posted: 10/13/2008 2:02:44 PM
i would say that it does not have to do with need or lack of. It has to do with the emotiobnal scarring of past hurt. Each time we get hurt we add a few bricks to the wall. A happily married woman who is now a widow, would probably be more open than a woman who has had a couple of divorces and relationships that ended badly. JMO
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 53 (view)
 
If Your Partner was doing things with an Ex that they refused to do with you. What would you do?
Posted: 10/13/2008 11:18:09 AM
Gee, the guy talks about the violation of his girl, but has no compunction to stealing the tape and watching it. He is as gulty as the other parties and got what he deserved. That was a private piece of property and he had no business watching it.
He made this bed, now he has to lie in it.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Sex-Positive or Sex-Negative?
Posted: 10/13/2008 11:14:32 AM
The Bible says," Go forth and multiply". nuff said.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
If I deny his fantasy will he fulfill it elsewhere?
Posted: 10/13/2008 11:10:23 AM
I applaud you on your diligence. You are indeed correct. Whether he'll fulfill it on his own, probably not. I only have 1 question. You said you tried to end it and he wouldn't let you. HUH? if you end it it's ended. The other person can't stop you from ending it, unless it was a test, in which case actually weakened your position, you ended it and stayed with him, now he thinks he controls what happens.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 124 (view)
 
My Weight and My Boyfriend
Posted: 10/13/2008 10:52:50 AM
Yo can't intimidate someone into losing weight. That causes stress which leads to comfort eating.
If you decide to lose weight do it for yourself only. It won't work if you are doing it for someone else.
He should be encouraging, understanding and supportive. He is not, time to go.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
what do guys like in a girl?
Posted: 10/12/2008 5:47:29 PM
I love a woman with a pulse.
No, seriously, I am a sucker for sparkling eyes and a radient smile.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 554 (view)
 
Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 10/12/2008 5:25:12 PM
i am 53, divorced once, permanently separated now and my dating range is 40 -54 and I say flexible on both sides. I would not date a 20,30 something, nor wold they date me. but over 40 and up is fine with me.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 278 (view)
 
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 10/12/2008 4:31:56 PM
No. plain and simple No.
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
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After one date...should you go online?
Posted: 10/12/2008 4:30:45 PM
First, completely inappropriate.
second, it always amazes me that people immediately go to the delete mode when there is a hidden option. I would not want to try to re-do my profile. (I have really worked on it) but I would hide it if in a "committed relationship".
 Jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
definitions of cheating
Posted: 10/12/2008 4:24:37 PM
If yo aren't willing to do it in front of her or tell her about it, you are cheating. I feel for your situation, but yes you are cheating.
 
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