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 Author Thread: Religion and sex....
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Religion and sex....
Posted: 8/21/2012 5:41:46 PM

All of these rules and regulations are based on Christianity and the Bible.

Yes honey I agree but sometimes ones upbringing is hard to shake off - dont think there is a right and wrong - just individuals opinions which should be respected.
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Religion and sex....
Posted: 8/21/2012 5:28:35 PM
you have to do whats best for you and whatever you feel comfortable with. I was born catholic and as a teenager was terrified of being burned in hell lol!! but after a 27 year marriage (and separated) i am in a relationship of over 3 years and i am still unscathed :)
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 47 (view)
 
ahould i be alrmed if he needs to take a shower at my house before our first date?!
Posted: 8/21/2012 5:22:52 PM
oh yes you should!! thats just way too familiar - i met with a guy from here in march 09 and it was 2 months before i invited him to my house - now he showers here a lot cause he works in construction and it would mean he would get here 2 hours later if he had to go home first - but hey - sometimes i get to join him :)
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 119 (view)
 
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 8/21/2012 5:18:15 PM
definitely no - but just as bad is your best friend and your ex also being really good friends - known my friend for 40 yrs and my ex for 34 - been separated 5 years but they are still almost like best friends - tbh me and my ex get on ok - we see each other 2/3 times a week as we are raising our granddaughter together and he's a nice guy - we just drifted apart - but its real annoying cause when he gets on my nerves i cant have a rant with my best friend cause sometimes she defends him - has real affected our relationship though i dont think she realises it - its my biggest worry that they could get together though i dont think so cause he gets on her nerves sometimes too lol
 Wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Getting stood up multiple times...by the same person.
Posted: 8/20/2012 2:51:48 PM
Ive been stood up lots of times by the guy I have been seeing for the last 3 and a half years - I know he really needs to work and he is supporting his ex and 5 kids but just for once it would be real nice to come before work. Tonight he was coming over and texted around teatime that as the weather was nice he was gonna work on till daylight ended which meant he couldnt come over as I we live 90mins apart. thing is - this is a regular occurance - am I being too soft - he's a nice guy and we do have fun together and although we both werent looking to settle down or stuff like that I think i deserve a bit better !! and yes before anyone says it - its my fault too for letting him away with it so often!!
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Physical Attraction.
Posted: 8/15/2012 1:31:06 PM
I joined pof sept 2008 and chatted by mail to a few guys - one kinda stood out for me - he had no photo up but after we first made contact in jan 2009 we mailed several times a day - after about a month he gave me his telephone number and when i eventually got up the courage to call him we chatted most nights for a few weeks then arranged to meet mid march - i dont know what it was but when we met - on the beach mid afternoon - we got on so well it was near midnight when we parted - there was definitely a physical attraction and we were both looking for a relationship but not long term - well its been 3 and a half years and the physical attraction is still there but our interests differ and maybe its run its course. The thing is - looking a a photo of him does nothing for me and i wonder if he had had a photo up would i have wanted to meet him in the first place. and his reason for no photo is he's not great with technology and didnt know how! lol
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Acceptable to hate instantly, but unacceptable to love instantly. Why?
Posted: 3/16/2009 8:01:24 PM
well i cant speak for others - but i dont judge instantly - if you dont know someone - how can you love or hate them? however instant attraction (or not) is something else - and thats just down to chemistry - so you have to trust your feelings

and why should it be acceptable to hate - thats just not right
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
1st date, to Kiss or Not to Kiss, Thats the Question
Posted: 3/16/2009 7:44:56 PM

people feeling comfortable with each other just go naturally with the flow.


well said buzz
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Til Death Do Us Part completely unreasonable?
Posted: 3/4/2009 6:02:28 PM
no its not - if you really mean it at the time - i just came out of a 28 year marriage - i have no regrets - we didnt cheat on each other - we have 2 wonderful kids and a granddaughter - but we drifted apart - and although we still care about each other - we are not in love anymore - and we decided to separate and move on .
I have great admiration for couples who really grow old together - but sometimes it doesnt work out.
accept that and move on
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 347 (view)
 
Would you date someone who is separated?
Posted: 3/4/2009 3:37:02 PM
well I live in ireland and its not quite so simple - to get a divorce here you have to have been living apart for 4 out of the 5 years previous to the date of application. We hadnt shared a room since 2004 and he moved out in may 07 - then because of finances - back in (spare room again of course) and out for good in July 08. We still talk cause we are raising our granddaughter but we will never get back together. So why pay money we cant afford for a separation till we can apply for a divorce as it is amicable at the moment. i had a brief relationship last year which didnt work out because of distance but i know i am most definitely 'emotionally divorced' and am ready to move on - a piece of paper is no guarantee for anything. As long as both parties are honest then there should be no problem - we all have baggage - and should I stay alone for 4/5 years just because of a piece of paper?
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 82 (view)
 
Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/26/2009 4:26:20 PM
well i was instantly attracted to my husband when we first met - and we separted 29 years later - 25 of which were good - then we drifted apart - so you know - nothing in this life is guaranteed.
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
went on a date - need some advice on follow up
Posted: 2/12/2009 8:17:23 AM

hey guys and girls, thanks heaps for the advice... however, this fish isnt ready to be thrown back into the sea just yet. she just messaged me on msn, turns out she became sick shortly after the date (not related to the date). She's on the mend now, incase you were wondering. so we'll see how it goes from here


nice to hear good news for a change ... wishing you luck!
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Flowers: Requirement? Luxury? What's the standard?
Posted: 2/12/2009 8:05:43 AM
I'm not saying I dont like getting flowers - but I wouldnt expect them in a relationship. However - the times I have really enjoyed receiving flowers were as a thank you from friends - and sometimes strangers - that I have helped out along the way - even though I didnt think I was doing anything other than what a normal caring person would do - but its nice to be appreciated.

and also - my mum loves flowers - so I send her some every 2 months cause she lives far away - they can make people happy too.
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
How do you get an ex to leave you alone???
Posted: 2/12/2009 7:54:23 AM
yeah - this could possibly escalate into violence - she needs to stop him now before its too late!
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Flowers: Requirement? Luxury? What's the standard?
Posted: 2/12/2009 4:05:34 AM
no - i do know of friends who still get flowers on birthdays etc - but some guys just arent like that - my ex wasnt that romantic or tactile and I accepted him that way - its probably more an individual thing. And if flowers /gifts etc are your thing - then please let the poor guy know because he may not be phsycic! lol
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Only In The Movies ?
Posted: 2/12/2009 3:10:39 AM
Yes - only in the movies!
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Flowers: Requirement? Luxury? What's the standard?
Posted: 2/12/2009 3:08:57 AM
Well ...... I was married for over 27 years and i only remember getting flowers in the early days on special occasions - birthday / anniversary etc and I only ever once got red roses when my first child was born. Personnally I think flowers / chocolates are overrated - time spent with someone is much more important and I rather have a good hug over gifts anyday. If a guy was buying me something id prefer something small which was important to me - like an owl for my collection and even a book I wanted.

But thats just me x
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 105 (view)
 
Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated
Posted: 1/25/2009 5:54:22 PM
well - i was on sick leave with a bad back (May 07) - and i got up to find my husband carrying boxes out the back door - i asked what he was doing and he said he was moving out! As it happens - he moved back in a few weeks later due to finances (spare room of course) and actually moved out in June 08. We have no plans to divorce at the moment. I would most definitely not have him back. So what is the difference between a couple who live together for 15 or more years and split up - and a couple who are married for 15 or more years and separate? As long as you are honest with new people you meet then that should be fine. relationships can go wrong anyway - nothing to to with the separated/divorced issue. I am still on friendly terms with my ex - we just stopped loving each other and now want to move on.
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Has something changed, have we lost the ability to put in hard work into a relationship?
Posted: 1/22/2009 5:10:47 PM
well I have to admit - I am separated now after a marriage of 27 years - no third party involved - did we just drift apart - or did we just stop trying - who knows - but I have learned that you really have to always work at any relationship - and these days its not that people are splitting up after a short time cause of not trying - its because marriage is not taken seriously and rushed into!

just my thoughts

Wombat x
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Double dipping...is this really OK?
Posted: 1/20/2009 4:34:49 PM
well if i had never tasted what my date was eating - i would ask him if i could have a small bit - i would never just take something off someone elses plate!
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 78 (view)
 
Appropriate behaviour before & during a date
Posted: 1/20/2009 4:19:16 PM

When a man is so immature, that he must tell you about his little head before you even meet him deserves to be stood up. That's why he texted you again the next morning, because his woody was standing on its head.

Don't give up on dating, just rude and immature guys.


ditto!
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
About the Friendship First
Posted: 1/19/2009 5:02:16 PM
well i havent gone on a date yet or met anyone from this site - but I do have to say - in this day and age a woman should pay her way - if she doesnt even offer and gives in to the guys refusal - she is using you - thats what i think - move on and learn from this experience!

and remember - dont let it put you off - not all woman are like that!
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 84 (view)
 
Dirty talk......
Posted: 1/18/2009 6:08:44 PM
havent done it - but it sounds interesting!
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Hug or a Hand Shake?
Posted: 1/15/2009 2:09:13 PM
Hug definitely - I'm a big fan of hugs!!!
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Would you actually fill one out?
Posted: 1/15/2009 2:05:36 PM
that is soooo weird!
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Body Shapers, Pushup Bras, Tummy Tammers - Lying or looking good?
Posted: 1/15/2009 1:42:15 PM
I once bought a pair of control pants to flatten my tummy - and when i put it on all i got was a spare tyre - believe me - you push it in one place - its gonna come out somewhere else! Now - I'm almost comfortable with my body after losing 2 stone and ive still got my 'baby' tummy - but hey - it's who I am!
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Whats the #1 reason that you bother dating at all?
Posted: 1/15/2009 7:18:40 AM
companionship ....... hugs ............. more hugs lol
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 487 (view)
 
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/15/2009 7:16:48 AM
I think only babes have the answer to that one!
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 167 (view)
 
Should a woman buy a man a drink on the first date?
Posted: 1/15/2009 7:12:31 AM
yes - i think so - i would even expect to pay my share of dinner too - but I would be a bit put off by him suggesting it before i had the chance to offer

Wombat
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Can Physical Attraction Grow?
Posted: 1/15/2009 7:09:18 AM
I really dont know - I've been separated for about 15 months after a 29 year relationship - I was instantly attracted the first time I saw him - then last August I was home for a visit - not looking for romance or anything - didnt think I was ready - when I was in a bar and this guy smiled at me - well - I smiled back an we ended up in a casino talking to 6am - we have met a few times here and back home but like someone said earlier - we never see each other cause we live too far apart - its sad cause i was in the zone where I really thought I would never have another relationship and well - it has given me some confidence but I really dont see it happening again - but who knows? We still chat on the phone but realise a relationship wont work. Now after writing this I see that I do expect to be instantly attracted - but for me it would be a genuine smile - I think thats a good start!
sorry for rambling

Wombat
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 2:04:41 PM
don't know - have only exchanged a few mails so far - but its interesting to read the views of others
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 119 (view)
 
Giving or Asking for soneone's phone number...
Posted: 1/12/2009 12:41:56 PM
why dont you use Skype - you can talk skype to skype to anyone in the world for free - and you dont have to give out personal info - just your user name - its very good for starting off with and you can block anyone you have given your user name to if need be
its free to anyone to download.
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 209 (view)
 
Do men realy think that blonds are more attractive?
Posted: 1/5/2009 11:20:09 AM
when i was younger i preferred dark haired men .. but now a genuine smile wins every time
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 361 (view)
 
Whats the Best Accent you've hear that you love... and why
Posted: 1/5/2009 11:00:21 AM
got to be scottish ........... I still chat on the phone to the last guy I dated ........ couldnt work cause i live in ireland ........ when I call him and he says 'Hi' ......... I still melt
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 108 (view)
 
Does anyone else here pay attention to the backgrounds of the profile pics?
Posted: 1/5/2009 10:56:16 AM
wel i havent before .... but I sure will now lol
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Is seeking my soulmate in a profile a turnoff for you?
Posted: 1/5/2009 9:34:19 AM
I would say so - I think its something only a few of us ever find so you may as well seek the Holy Grail. and I say this as someone who married their first love at 21 and although he was my best friend, lover, partner, for nearly 30 years - the word 'soulmate' never arose. we finally split 6 months ago after a year of will we / wont we. so who knows.......
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
No Concrete Plans for Second Date...?
Posted: 1/5/2009 9:24:09 AM
if you suggest a nuetral place to meet that costs little and he still doesnt make a date - I think you have to ask him whats stopping him - he may be a little insecure because of his circumstances but if you assure him that it doesnt matter to you then maybe he will come around
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Language Barrier
Posted: 1/5/2009 9:12:00 AM
as a scottish gal who moved to ireland 14 years ago - i found that some people here couldnt understand me because i spoke too fast - so i had to make an effort to speak slowly at times - sometimes we all have to adapt
 wombat59
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Opinion needed!!!
Posted: 1/5/2009 9:05:34 AM
yeah I would trust your instinct pet and tell him you are not ready for a meet - you've got nothing to lose by waiting a while
 
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