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Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
got a meet me email but can't find username?
Posted: 9/7/2015 6:00:07 AM
Truth is at one time POF used to display a list of those who want to "meet you", but the idea now is to push people into "upgrading", i.e. paying to have access to these "features".
C'est tout!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 44 (view)
Your Family and Relationships
Posted: 2/4/2012 9:30:51 PM
Situations like this where family disapproves with who we choose to have in our lives happen far too often.
I'm reminded of a quote I once read (wish I can remember the author – but he was a famous sociologist)

"Most of us live our lives believing in making others happy – as long as they're happy in ways that we approve."

I wish you well in finding happiness on your own terms!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
would moving out of the city help cope with heart break?
Posted: 6/30/2010 8:39:07 PM
60 – 70% of people move away after a break up??
I have strong doubts about that figure!
Anyhow, I can see the rationality of moving away if the break up ended a 20+ year marriage, and someone wanted to start their life over again.
But to move “just” for the sake of getting over someone seems extreme, even misguided.
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
would moving out of the city help cope with heart break?
Posted: 6/27/2010 8:02:57 PM
If your break up happened less than a few weeks ago I would suggest taking an extended vacation somewhere you've always wanted to go. But since this has been troubling you for over a year I'm not sure that would help. As someone suggested you might need to cure what's inside you first, otherwise the pain will follow you wherever you go. In my view a year is a long time to still feel so strongly over a breakup. Do you have other significant things/people you have in your life that you can shift your focus towards?
Your profile states you have a graduate degree so I'd hope you're fortunate enough to have the career you've always wanted.
32 is still very young, you have a long life ahead. Enjoy the things you have.
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
just a few thoughts
Posted: 7/26/2009 5:24:01 AM
People are entitled to show what ever they like within their profiles, within the POF rules of course!
If the profile truly reflects who they are then all the better.

The number of “favorites” on someone's list list has only as much meaning as you chose to give it.

Fish don't drink, they use osmosis. (more or less!)
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
Starting a family later in life.
Posted: 7/24/2009 9:44:53 PM

For men, to raise babies in their 50's, they may not live long enough to see their child go off to college...

And your point is???

Anything can happen to anyone at any time.
I doubt that many people who chose to have kids later in life
spend much time worrying about getting future dates, in case the marriage fails.
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
If You Love Someone and You Make Them Angry
Posted: 6/19/2009 8:49:42 PM
All you can do is be sincere and apologize.
If the offended party cannot forgive, you can only move on.
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 72 (view)
Cant stant doggs..
Posted: 5/29/2009 6:11:27 PM
The OP has vanished and I doubt this post was for real.
Still, I couldn't completely trust someone who dislikes pets.
It seems so, inhuman!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 95 (view)
Do you hesitate to contact someone with zero roses left?
Posted: 5/8/2009 12:47:18 AM
A rose by another name is still a....oh, wait, we're talking about pixels here!

I agree with the poster who reasoned those with sent roses likely already have their heart set on someone else.
Now, whether or not their target reciprocated is another matter!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
Not a relationship problem but I need some advice please.
Posted: 5/6/2009 12:50:13 AM
You seem very impatient, almost as if you'll lose this girl if you don't act immediately.
There's a song titled “You Can't Hurry Love” you could consider listening to.
If it is meant to be it will happen in time. Be patient!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
Is it childish secrets and combover
Posted: 4/29/2009 9:19:40 PM
I have my doubts about this post. But it's true, why should anyone be afraid to tell his family and friends he's getting married? It just seems so, morbid!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
Long distance relationship?
Posted: 4/29/2009 9:01:27 PM
The odds are always against them lasting since someone will eventually have to relocate.
Still, few things worth having are ever easy.
All the best!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 80 (view)
Online Humor Maybe Some People Can't Take a Joke!!!
Posted: 4/29/2009 8:34:06 PM
Almost everything typed in the forums (and e-mails) are interpreted based
on the reader's experiences, aka bias.
It's always been this way.
I myself am very leery of anyone who takes things too seriously.
Never trust a serious person!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
First and last impressions?
Posted: 4/26/2009 6:58:36 PM
Thanks LilyVee and "YouGoFirst"
Insightful suggestions!
vous êtes correct de la voiture
You are correct about the car!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
First and last impressions?
Posted: 4/26/2009 4:57:58 PM
Good suggestions, especially the headline improvement.
Thaks Mike,
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
First and last impressions?
Posted: 4/26/2009 4:02:44 PM
I was so impressed with the reviews given here, I decided to ask for one myself.
There is one vexing item in the “YES, NO, N/A” section that I know I need to and will change, but only when it becomes true! Can you guess what it is?
So, please let me know, what else can I do to improve my profile....anyone?
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
Seeing the Whole Person
Posted: 4/25/2009 9:54:06 AM
On the flip side, could there be a “turn-on” switch.
You may meet someone that you can take or leave, then discover some (non physical)
fact about them and * wham * you're suddenly interested.

Stranger things have happened ...
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
date someone with the same first name?
Posted: 4/15/2009 9:59:42 PM
That probably couldn't happen with my first name, but, I did once meet a girl
who's last name was identical to my first name.
-Except it was prefixed by “Mc”
I thought it had a nice ring to it...
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 61 (view)
the list on your profile
Posted: 2/8/2009 5:41:38 PM
People can put anything they wand in their profile, it's their alone. If it manages to paint
an accurate picture of what they are (more or less) all about, that's a good thing is it not?

With this in mind though, it's still true that finding someone (here) that meets the few “perquisites”
is no guarantee of a successful relationship.
You still have to get to know them in person before you can tell if there's potential.
That's one thing that no list can ever change.
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 37 (view)
Is it selfish/unrealistic to never have been married & want the same?
Posted: 1/15/2009 6:48:29 PM
I haven't read all the replies so this might have been mentioned before.
It's never selfish to want what you want, but it will limit your choices – if marrying
someone who has always been single is your only preference.
I'd say it becomes more “unrealistic” as we age.
Still, it's a brand new year!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
can a friend turn into more
Posted: 1/1/2009 5:25:32 PM
I don't know. I suppose it is possible, but after all this time it might be wise to move some of your eggs out of this basket!
If the chemistry isn't there it isn't there. You can't make someone fall for you.

All the best for 2009!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
I'm I being lied to?
Posted: 12/31/2008 6:40:17 PM
OP, people will only treat you the way you allow them to.
If this is the type of behavior you allow then be prepared to be
treated like an expendable commodity.

From message 12:

...don't you think he deserves the benefit of the doubt?

You're kidding right?
What is there to doubt?
His “lunch time” text message said it all!

Anyone who valued themselves wouldn't allow someone to treat them like trash – twice.
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
My woman reads my text messages
Posted: 12/27/2008 5:25:11 PM
All these figures just don't add up.
A 52 year old man complaining about his "ex" snooping around viewing his text messages while he sleeps...
OP, your post is full of fertilizer, among other things!

Happy New Year!

Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
Does how you were raised dictate who you are attracted to?
Posted: 12/16/2008 7:23:06 PM
I suspect "yes" can be the only answer to this question.

"Obviously" anyone who's only attracted to a specific type of person has to be the product of his/her upbringing and life experience. What else is there to influence this personal preference (or bias?)

On the other hand someone who has no particular preference "must have" have been raised/influenced by more liberal views while growing up.

Yes, "no" simply cannot be an answer to this post!

Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
Does career/position in life play a role?
Posted: 12/9/2008 5:41:38 PM
This is another case of “those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind”.
Who you are as a person ultimately plays the most important role.
If you like, or don't like, the person, the thing they do for a living almost becomes irrelevant.
I say almost cause we know everything has exceptions!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
Why is everyone always picking the Greener Pastures & not fertalizing the one they have??
Posted: 12/7/2008 6:23:51 PM

* I, on the other hand, put up a fence around my garden to keep the varmint out.

That wouldn't be an electric fence would it?

I don't know about going back to horse and buggy days, but it is true that today
cheating and all that seems to be glorified in film and on TV.

-Not that I blame Hollywood for the mess some people choose to make of their lives.
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
Feeling a numb feeling after a break up
Posted: 11/30/2008 5:53:18 PM
Numbness is one of many feelings that accompany a breakup, but yes, it can make everything in your life seem hopeless.

The way I coped is by first accepting that there will be a time of pain, it's perfectly normal.

The bright side is knowing that the pain will fade, I promise!
If it didn't the world would be filed with nothing but numb, broken hearted people : )

I would suggest you plan something extra special for yourself.
It could be a get-away to someplace you've never been (actually that's what I once did, clear
across the country, but it helped!)

In any case don't worry that your chances of finding “true love” will be ruined by today's heartache.
You're young, and tomorrow is a brand new day!

Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 45 (view)
privacy within a relationship
Posted: 11/23/2008 1:25:24 PM
A little bitter there , 10 of 6?
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 43 (view)
privacy within a relationship
Posted: 11/23/2008 1:12:22 PM
Great post, OP.

But for one adult to deny another competent adult some degree of privacy and autonomy is tantamount to saying, "I OWN you."
Very well put.

Anyone who expects to know EVERYTHING their partner does would likely wish to record and scrutinize their dreams as they sleep – if a machine capable of doing that existed.

Needing to know absolutely every little thing your partner is just plain unhealthy.
I'm sure psychology has a term for it!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
What sign goes good with an Aries?
Posted: 11/22/2008 4:55:16 PM
A very tough question.
The only people who can answer that are probably the members of the “Flat Earth” society...
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
Academics dating over 30
Posted: 11/8/2008 9:06:33 PM

" women are pretty intimidating all the way around.

Just where did you get that idea??

With regards to the OP, I think your (lack of) luck has more to do with who you are rather than what you do.
Is there more to you than just “academia”?
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
Does music matter
Posted: 10/26/2008 3:57:59 PM
I could learn to appreciate the musical tastes of a S.O.
I appreciate many more styles of music now than when I was younger so it's rare that I hear
something I don't (or cannot learn to) like.
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
Posted: 10/23/2008 7:45:48 PM
Waits patiently to see what ails my profile.
I already know of one issue!
Thanks for your help!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
is anyone able to interpret relationship-related dreams
Posted: 10/23/2008 7:21:29 PM
I wouldn't be too concerned about what happens in a dream. As some have said it's mostly our brains/minds sorting out and morphing together the mess of events we've experience – in both recent and distant memories. Now and then dream that I'm living in my childhood home, except people I know now that weren't around then would show up.
Should I worry about it?
No! - Cause it doesn't make any sense!
I once had a dream where I arrived at work wearing no pants.
Does it trouble me?
No! - Cause it will never happen!
I also fly a lot in my dreams.
Am I hopeful that I'll one day be able soar like an albatross?
No! - Of course not!...but it would be nice...
..not sure if that's a good or bad thought..
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
What price a broken heart?
Posted: 10/15/2008 1:04:39 AM

...a joke gone horribly wrong...

I like that : )

Anyhow, few rewards come without risk.

...I did once take a spontaneous mini to vacation to BC,
so the cost for me were travel expenses, but it worked!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
A fascinating Concept that keeps me intrigued
Posted: 10/12/2008 2:38:49 PM
A very interesting post, with interesting replies.
To avoid repeating things that have already been said, I'll just say
I liked the replies in messages 8, 17, and 18, as well as a few others
but those stand out.

Happy Thanksgiving! ( To all Canadians of curse :-)
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
He's a closed book
Posted: 9/30/2008 8:23:01 PM
I think you need to first stop convincing yourself you can't speak to him.
There's a quote that says “weather you think you can or think you can't, you're right”.
There's so much truth to that.
The next time you see each other, just smile at him, walk over and say “hi, I'm..............”
The rest should be easy after that.
You know you can do it!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 770 (view)
Is Intelligence A Curse In Relationships?
Posted: 9/26/2008 7:45:51 PM
Intelligence can never be overrated!
I also find it makes a person that much more attractive.
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
ladies choice
Posted: 9/23/2008 9:04:59 PM

Search like a woman and you'll get much more responses!

Ahh, so that's what I've been doing wrong!

Just kidding.

I do agree with an earlier post though.
This site is just a tool that may or (perhaps more likely?) may not
help us make a connection.
Do send honest and thoughtful messages, but don't take the non-responses too seriously.
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
Was this guy jealous or bitter?
Posted: 9/22/2008 5:12:35 PM
“Or maybe he was being lighthearted. We'll never know, but I am not going to think about it for years!”

Naa, as I said earlier I haven't been thinking about this for ½ my life.
It was one of those obscure memories that seemed just worthy enough to
meet the weird and wonderful criteria for a POF post.

“Does it subtly impact how you think and feel about women, pursuing them and being married?”
“That, Watson is the real issue at hand!”

It had no impact on me then, subtly or otherwise, so it can't be an issue today!

One issue I have right now figuring out the proper way to use the quote feature.

I think the Prof. has dry humor and you..........don't.

Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
Just something I you?
Posted: 9/21/2008 8:23:07 PM
Sammy 101001 said it best.
You and only you are responsible for your happiness.
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 492 (view)
Would you Canadians move to the U.S,Would you Americans move to Canada if you met someone on here?
Posted: 9/21/2008 9:04:14 AM
Years ago I considered moving from Canada to the US, I had an incentive, but now it's not so practical.

From message 830:
We have high taxes cause Canada's a large country with a relatively small population.
It costs $$$ to maintain that infrastructure. Canada's not owned as part of the British Commonwealth...
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
Was this guy jealous or bitter?
Posted: 9/20/2008 5:52:15 PM
“And you've wondered about this all these years.......why?????”

Actually, no, I haven't been.
I was thinking of something to write for a forum (my first post on POF yay!)
with a subject that hadn't already been done a thousand times over.
That's when this little memory surfaced...

Message 5:

Oh, the comments he made has nothing to do with why I am where I am today!
Life just happens to us weather we want it to or not!
Thanks for the kind words though : )
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
Was this guy jealous or bitter?
Posted: 9/20/2008 5:35:23 PM
Oh, this was in a cafeteria, so there was nothing to pay attention to.

Hmm, he might have been joking, I can't tell. This was such a long time ago!
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
Was this guy jealous or bitter?
Posted: 9/20/2008 5:20:46 PM
Years ago while in university I was sitting beside two female friends, having a casual conversation when one of my instructors approached.
This was the second time that week he'd interrupted while I was with these ladies.
He seemed displeased as he looked at me and said “Do you know what will happen to you if you keep chasing women?”
He shows me the wedding ring on his finger and says:
“...And you'll be trapped for the rest of your life!”

He walks away without saying another word.

Clearly he was unhappy with his marriage, but what did that have to do with me?
I think he was jealous of seeing young people free to socialize as they please, and for some sinister reason wanted to let me know I would end up just like him!
I'd wonder what his wife thought of their marriage...
Anyhow, do you think this guy was jealous, bitter, or maybe a bit of both and other things?
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 103 (view)
Why would anyone want to date you?
Posted: 9/19/2008 8:33:43 PM
See what everyone else has said...
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
Any advice???
Posted: 9/15/2008 6:28:16 PM
We all have to compromise from time to time.
I think message 18 had the best suggestion -
Go to the party, but only for a day.
This way neither side should harbor any sour feelings...
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
Dating my Son's school Principal???
Posted: 9/14/2008 6:44:07 PM
As the saying goes, there's no time like the present.
Act on your feelings now.
One of the worst things to do is let an opportunity turn into a "what could have been".
I do agree with the suggestion of informing your son first though.
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
I would think alot of women r senstive about their weight/age? What about men?
Posted: 9/14/2008 8:45:03 AM
"I don't know why men are so sensitive about "performance." I mean, it's pretty much just an in-and-out procedure. You know?"

I think you're talking about a flu vaccine!

For the post,
I try not to worry about things I can't change, and I work to change the things I can.
So in the end I have nothing to worry me.
More or less!
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