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 .:katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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The Maturing Sex Drive
Posted: 6/9/2007 6:44:53 AM

Katelynn... Perhaps if you and your partner started with the toys it would seem less threatening to him... then it is part of foreplay and not "battery back up" when he has run out of steam.


Umm... damn.. I didn't think of it that way... I suppose anyone would be insulted if they had been replaced by a vibrator/toy/video of any sort eh?

I dunno.. lately I just haven't initiated anything... If he want's sex he know's where I am...

I do have some time to myself while my daughter is at school and my husband is at work to try and take care of things myself after all... but it's not as enjoyable as when I'm with my husband... there is an emotional satisfaction I need as well...
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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The Maturing Sex Drive
Posted: 5/18/2007 6:48:51 PM
Thanks Dan... I do have a vibrator... but the last time I tried to use it on myself because he got too tired he took offense to it...

A womans gotta get hers too.. how do I do that if he's too tired his sex drive has slowed down and mine has picked up, but he doesn't want me insulting him by pulling out my toy... Mine is supposedly going to pick up more if these women are right... while his "peak" was years ago...

Perhaps I will give him the vibrator... you think it was challenging his masculinity for me to please myself?
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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The Maturing Sex Drive
Posted: 5/16/2007 9:41:05 AM

What do you do when one person wants sex more then the other does?
give it to them (if you love them). they'll be eternally grateful.

Ummm... I'm the one with the higher sex drive... if my husband is 10 years older then I am.... I'm wondering about what I do when I become too much for him... what a good compromise may be...
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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The Maturing Sex Drive
Posted: 5/11/2007 6:31:44 PM
I've always loved sex, that has never been an issue for me. When I was in my teens though I went on a celebate kick for 3 1/2 years with no problems or urges at all.

I read everywhere that the sex drive peak of a man is in his teens and twenties.
I also read that a womans sex drive is at it's best in thier thirties and fourties

I'm only 25 and my sex drive is making some major changes lately... every once in a while... I'll go on this constant sex kick.... sometimes for two weeks straight it's all I can think of... I feel like this isn't normal somehow... if my sex drive is picking up so much these days now what will it be like when I finally get to the age of 30+?

I'm almost worried that I'm gonna end up killing my husband of sexual exaustion because he's a few years older then me and his sexual peak was around 10 years ago or so...

Obviously my husband is on top of the world right now.. but seriously

Ladies... is it common for a womans sex drive to pick up drastically in their mid-twenties when thier "Peak" is in thier thirties/fourties?

Men... Would you feel intimidated if you all of a sudden couldn't keep up with your wifes/girlfriends sex drive?

What do you do when one person wants sex more then the other does?
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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i cant cum!
Posted: 5/10/2007 11:31:50 AM
If you can masterbate and cum then do it... While he's at work get ready... masterbate until you've had a couple of orgasms and he'll come over and help you out when he gets home from his shift at work.

Already being sexually charged ahead of time should make it easier for you to have an orgasm while having sex with him. Be it by clitoral stimulation or the ever illusive vaginal stimulation.
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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OMG...I couldn't make up stuff like this...Vibrator Ban!
Posted: 5/10/2007 9:36:34 AM
Love Bug 2 Got it... I'll make sure to only use it here at home with my husband
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Penis Pride
Posted: 5/10/2007 9:34:28 AM
Men that talk about thier penis being big and thier sex being good are insecure about themselves... the saying goes... Those who can DO, those who can't TEACH... the men who can't talk and talk the men who can just do... Real men don't talk about what they are like in bed.


I'd like to know this... how come men do this? Why do men talk about how big their penis is and how good they know how to use it when the fact always remains that once a woman gets a hold of it it's always way smaller than he let on... and the next fact is that he doesn't know very much about how to use it? The last guy I was dating did this, and now all I think about is how full of sh*t he is... So why does a guy do this when he knows once the woman see's it she'll know he's a liar
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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guys who don't like blowjobs
Posted: 5/10/2007 9:32:12 AM
Woo! I'm a reciever! There need to be more men like him!

As for giving... only if I wanna have some sex and feel like making him want sex right fast... the game is fun but if I wanna skip the warm up and get straight to the hair pulling butt smacking animalistic jungle sex fun, I know how to get that started.
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Rubbish in bed
Posted: 5/7/2007 7:48:20 AM
Have you ever heard the saying Good sex is equal to 10% of a relationship Bad sex is equal to 90% of a relationship? Sex is an important part of any relationship there is no such thing as a woman that will say "The sex is terrible but he gets me coffee in the morning so it's okay"

Think about it this way.. what if she was to blue ball you time after time after time? blueballs are frustrating and they hurt right? Women get this too the only difference is that women don't literally turn blue and we feel it in our lower abdomin... Buy toys, try new positions and focus on her for the first half an hour before you go diving in for your own orgasm...

Being bad in bed is selfish... a woman does kegals everyday to tighten herself to please her man... they dress sexy and act flirty they bend over backwards to satisfy men... it wouldn't kill a man to do half of what a woman does...



If she loves you, this will be a secondary thing and she will even work with you to get better.

If not, you are better off without her.
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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I inform every potential date that sex will not happen anytime soon..
Posted: 5/7/2007 7:27:03 AM
By all means beat it into thier head that it's just not going to happen.... I tell men all the time that I'm married and not interested and my profile is the definition of B!tch...

Yet men as stupid enough to try and write anyway... I am not here that often so I don't get letters from others.

But on another site I'm on... says Married Not Interested In Anything Other Then Friends & Blogs... Men don't get it without it being Beaten into their minds... well... most men... there are a few nice guys out there.... I married one of them..


I like to be up front and honest with guys. I lay down the rules before we even go out on a date.
#1. I don't kiss on the first date, not even a peck on the lips. NO!

#2.Not only do I not have sex on a first date,I'm not gonna have sex with you at all unless we're at least exclusive and in a monogomous relationship.
I don't want to waste my time or his so I explain this to potential dates in detail before a date is even arranged.

Empty sex just doesn't feel good, not to mention the feelings of emptiness after the fact.That is actually the worst part of sex with someone I don't care about.
It's like kissing and sex are the new handshake at the end of a date.("thank you have a good night. Here let me give you a tongue kiss and a f uck goodnight!")lol WOW!

My question is am I being too abrassive in HOW and When I'm getting this point across to men?I don't feel that it's right to not let men know this up front and I make it a point to stress this a thourghly as possible to the point where some people I know say that I'm too abrassive. I have to admit, yes I DO try and beat it into their heads before hand but again,that way nobody's time gets wasted. Do I need a different approach?
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Boobs... what are they good for ?
Posted: 5/2/2007 1:38:47 PM
I'm not hung up on my breasts.. thier kinda hung on me.

I love curves they are more asthetically pleasing to the eye. Even men want to be curvy. You see them with thier bellies bulging and man boobs flapping in the wind and you sigh to yourself because you know they'll never be as beautiful as a womans curve.

Okay the men that work out constantly try to be curvy like a woman too. Have you seen the oversized pecs on some men? Sure some people thing that is good looking but compared to a woman, it could never match up. I like womens boobs better then mens, but I'm not what others would consider "hung up" on them.


I recently read a study that said 76% of men are primarily attracted to butt and legs first.

Since I've never really been a boob man myself I often found it interesting that women themselves are the ones that go to such great lengths to flaunt and enhance their breast.

So ladies I ask you this question:

Do you feel that you are conscious about your breasts more because you think more men will be attracted to you OR is it like us guys and our penis size, were it's really a gender jealousy issue?

All comments welcome.
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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kissing after oral sex
Posted: 4/9/2007 4:37:47 PM
This seems like a redundent thread.. but it's a valid one none the less I suppose.

I say be a man and suck it up... sure you think it's hot watching in on your little dumpster porn when a woman goes down on another woman and they kiss.. but heaven forbid your woman does that with you...

You start complaining you get no more blowjobs...
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Men Shaved???
Posted: 4/9/2007 4:32:09 PM
When I go down on a man.. I am not looking for floss...
It's shave or go without period...
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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socks on or off?
Posted: 4/9/2007 4:26:03 PM
That is ridiculous.. Socks are such a turn off... males in porn females in porn.. any way you look at it.. I couldn't get off knowing he couldn't even take his own socks off...
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Men Shaved???
Posted: 4/9/2007 4:19:16 PM
A Shaved Man Looks Bigger Then A Hairy One...
Correct Me If I'm Wrong, But Don't Most Men Like To Think Of Themselves As Big?
Well.. It Looks Bigger Bald... And In My Opinion.. That Is Freaking HOT
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Pictures Say Everything
Posted: 11/17/2006 6:32:15 PM
The funniest thing I have seen was when I would look at a profile of someone who wrote me a letter and see that it says they do not smoke and thier pictures show them smoking a cigarette...

Sure they don't smoke....

But what can you really do other then laugh about it? seriously... online stuff even though can work out at times... is really more for comfort & companionship without commitment then anything
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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~ Mind your own Business!! ~
Posted: 11/17/2006 11:07:06 AM
Okay... this woman has issues.... that is disgusting...

But hilarious!

At least you weren't throwing plastic or styrofoam out the window.. you threw something that would be totally disintergrated by the next rainfall and car to drive over it...

Seriously... and you aren't chopping down trees and starting bonfires... it's a snotrag...

I agree with "sweetsuzie" about the cigarette thing in the summertime... the 5 alarm fire in the BC Okanogen a few years back that they had firefighters from all across canada was because of one douch bag that thought that kind of stuff was safe and that others were just being overly cautious...

Back on topic... how she could react like you were dumping nuclear waste is beyond me.. but thanks for the read... she should have minded her own business... and once again.. it was hilarious
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Movies not to watch!!!
Posted: 11/17/2006 10:49:29 AM
Dark water...


Stupid Stupid stupid stupid....



Dumbest Movie Ever
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 36 (view)
 
The things you miss
Posted: 11/17/2006 10:45:30 AM
I miss the days when my worst worry in the world was what I was going to wear to school.
I miss the smell of the ocean...
I miss eatting chocolate whenever I wanted...
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Should I stop being on POF if I am talking to a lady?
Posted: 9/2/2006 10:08:40 AM
Talking is fine.. I see nothing wrong with talking... I met someone and I still have a profile here... I'm never around mind you.. and I changed my profile to looking for women only.. just for friends... so people are clear on what I'm looking for... my man knows I love him.. so there is nothing to worry about..
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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What would make u throw up if u ate??
Posted: 6/3/2006 12:17:07 PM
Mushrooms.. eww.. disgusting... I can't stand the thought of putting fungus that is aware of it's surroundings and is grown from Cow Dung in my mouth and actually chewing and swallowing.. :::Shudders:::
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Who Realistically would travel long distences to meet a new person
Posted: 1/6/2006 10:20:12 PM
And I wouldn't change a thing about it... I love my man
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Male G-Spot or P-Spot????
Posted: 1/6/2006 10:17:32 PM
It's called the A Spot and yes it exists... I've seen the reactions myself of hitting the A Spot... only as an observer tho... I wouldn't get turned on finding it myself..
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Who Realistically would travel long distences to meet a new person
Posted: 1/6/2006 10:16:02 PM
I moved across the country for my man...
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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what is the nicest or sweetest thing someone has ever said or done for you?
Posted: 1/6/2006 10:14:03 PM
Asked me if I wanted to watch some f/f pron while he gave me oral
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Anger fuels sexual drive, particularly in women
Posted: 1/6/2006 10:12:54 PM
There is nothing wrong with having rough sex once in a while... it's not always supposed to be slow and easy.. although that can be fun too
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Swallowed for others ... but not for me.
Posted: 1/6/2006 10:10:16 PM
You know.. they say that Pineapple gets rid of that taste.... and peaches cover it up a little... although I don't know from experience.....
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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if a guy walked up to you and wanted to give you oral....
Posted: 1/6/2006 10:07:46 PM
You tell em Tams..
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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if a guy walked up to you and wanted to give you oral....
Posted: 1/6/2006 10:03:48 PM
"im here!!! im HERE!!!
let the bells ring out and the banners fly...

hello!"

I was talking about my actual fiancee
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 76 (view)
 
Do women enjoyed anal sex?
Posted: 1/6/2006 10:02:22 PM
"Do women enjoyed anal sex?"

I don't enjoyed it... I do enjoy it tho...
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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if a guy walked up to you and wanted to give you oral....
Posted: 1/6/2006 10:00:24 PM
I'd say it's about damn time hubby to be.. I've been waiting 2 mins now...
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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When should you sleep with someone????
Posted: 1/6/2006 9:47:10 PM
When they are no good at sex
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 172 (view)
 
Do women ever wear garters and stockings anymore?
Posted: 1/6/2006 9:46:13 PM
The Movie Chicago!
That is a great way to convice a woman to wear garters and such
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Foreplay or Intercourse
Posted: 1/6/2006 9:40:56 PM
Both or I masterbate
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Missed opportunities.....
Posted: 12/25/2005 9:02:52 PM
Hey.. Buddy...it's called a missed opportunity cause you missed it... get over it.. get over yourself...

Don't you have Voicemail?
It couldn't have been too much of an opportunity if you couldn't use it..
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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What do you do when the sex gets quicker and shorter?
Posted: 12/21/2005 11:09:36 AM
More foreplay... or less sex.... DONE
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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The appeal of steroids
Posted: 12/21/2005 11:08:14 AM
Steroids are stupid....
I don't believe in chemical enhancement...
and I think anyone that does... should do their research on steroids...
it does more harm then good
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Why women always saying I didnt get mine
Posted: 12/21/2005 11:06:24 AM
damn.... if I had a man that didn't give me an orgasm.. I push him off grab my vibrator and do it my god damn self...

It's called foreplay... try it sometime... it works wonders.. and is more fun then being told to do it yourself because she has to...
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Sex between friends
Posted: 12/21/2005 11:03:35 AM
I actually lost my virginity to my then best friend...
I'm glad it was with him because my on again off again BF was a jerk...
I don't really do the casual sex thing... I'm more into relationships then that...
but it's something that I don't regret
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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scars on men
Posted: 12/21/2005 10:54:39 AM
Scars fade.... and aren't really that important to me in a physical aspect...
they are marks of a life lived... I have a few scars myself and see nothing wrong with them
I prefur to see past the cover of the book...
in some cases.. I like scars... it's always fun to lightly drag my fingertip across my mans scars and know that there is a story behind everyone of them
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Have you ever been embrassed by a screamer?
Posted: 12/21/2005 10:51:09 AM
lol... I am the screamer that others are embarassed by...
My man had to stop and tell me to try and be quiet... we have neighbours, my daughter was sleeping.. and the window was open...
Opps....
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Cheating or Not?
Posted: 12/21/2005 10:44:56 AM
I agree with you Ms Picky....
You see one...

But in her position... I would never do that... I'd say...
look I have a man and if you are gonna try that on me... then I won't talk to you anymore
I love my man and don't need you to pull stupid stunts like that...

Some people are happy in a relationship like this one.. others aren't.. I suppose I am one of the Others...
Because I would never be happy if my man accepted nude shots from women...

I'd stranglize him...
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Cheating or Not?
Posted: 12/21/2005 10:36:45 AM
lol... okay so this is not cheating.. but what is she doing accepting pics like that in the first place?
If you are loyal to your SO... then don't assosiate yourself with people like that..
What she is doing isn't majorly wrong.. but she should know better.
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 125 (view)
 
Who gets you all hot and bothered??
Posted: 11/8/2005 7:57:01 PM
NorthEast Gets me all hot and bothered..
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 75 (view)
 
WHATS THE BEST THING SANTA CAN BRING YOU THIS YEAR...
Posted: 11/8/2005 7:56:22 PM
For me of course... lol... Shoot...
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Sex Habits
Posted: 10/17/2005 11:08:17 AM

Making sure my hair isnt under my back when Im getting banged.....Hurts like hell and gets me in the position of being helpless..........


Suddenly I miss my long hair... I recently cut all mine off......
I'm more of a Domme then a sub tho.....
 .:Katelynn:.
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 199 (view)
 
what is your opinion on phone sex
Posted: 10/12/2005 2:48:14 PM
how about yes please...
 
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