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Msg: 61 (view)
I can't get on with my grown up daughter BUT she still lives at home..
Posted: 4/4/2010 2:35:41 PM
I never washed my hands of my daughter at 14

I've no idea why you would think such a thing as its simply not true

She choose to live with her dad after the divorce simple as that really

Her choice

She has regreted that choice so many times since

But now she is happier not living with us and at almost 20, she is a grown up and able to vote with her feet

And we are all happier that she no loner lives with us

Everyones a winner

Washing my hands of her never happened, she washed her hands of us

a caring father and step father

caring nana and grandad

and of couse me a caring mum

Do I forgive her for causing me years of torment, not quite yet

But she is happier so there is no issue

Your kids may always be your children as long as you live, but they need to become responsible for themselves

They thank you for it in the end
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Msg: 31 (view)
What is a boyfriend?
Posted: 4/4/2010 1:14:56 PM
To me a boyfriend would be ONLY a man with me with a view to long term living together and marraige

But thats me

I loved being married and I miss it

Been single for a while, loved that too, but as I have no ties, I can do/go where I want for the righ relationship

I cant lie, I have used men just for sex but in no way where they ever boyfriend partner material

But we dont all want the same thing

I just don't feel that 2 people living in seperate homes, leading mostly seperate lives is really a boyfriend girlfriend relationship

Its purely convenience
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
Partner or child??
Posted: 4/4/2010 1:02:41 PM
I guess it probably makes far more sense to save mum

Hopefully she can and will have more shildren if they choose too

I have 3 children and we discussed this topic several times

Thanks god we never had to make the choice for real

I have every respect for anyone that has had too
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 59 (view)
I can't get on with my grown up daughter BUT she still lives at home..
Posted: 4/4/2010 10:20:31 AM
You do need to talk to her

Tell her what you want from her

And when you want it

If in say 6 weeks time, there is no change, then she must leave

She will learn to live with others that dont love her and wont put up with her foibles

Its the only way to keep you both sane

She has had it all her own way and you to herself for far too long

You can and will love her PLUS someone else

I had a similar thing happen when my now 19 yr old daughter went to live with her daddy aged 14, he threw her out 2 yrs later cos she was a bloomin nightmare to live with

She now lives in Spain with bf and family, quite blissful but few of her uk friends or family miss her

Email me anytime if you need to

I do wish parents thses days would STOP trying to be their kids best friends and forgiving of anything

Look what problems society has because of this ME ME ME generation
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
Is it wrong to ENJOY being SINGLE... until the right person come's along?
Posted: 4/4/2010 8:52:53 AM
I like being single far more than I thought I ever would

But I don't want to get to a certain age where I have a house full of cats and everything that is spoken of is in the past

I live alone

I dont like ALWAYS being on my own

Friends are all well and good

I socialise a bit but seems everone is younger prettier skinnier etc even though I have far less ties

Where does a women that doesn't overly like pubs or clubs go to meet ?
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Msg: 52 (view)
Sexiest User
Posted: 4/4/2010 8:49:16 AM
so anyone know what it all means then cos I have the same on mine

surely we are all sexy to ourselves?

Is it merely an attempt to flatter some cash out of us to upgrade?

please please please enlighten me
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 61 (view)
The new Doctor Who. What do you think?
Posted: 4/4/2010 8:31:17 AM
I loved the start to the new series

Matt Smith looks quirky enough while still appealing to the female fan base

The story was good, funny and very entertaining

1 that all the family can sit round and watch.

Cant wait for the next episode

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Msg: 64 (view)
When is too soon to stay over...?!
Posted: 3/14/2010 7:42:18 PM
hey after the date is fine with me

just be sure you dont sleep without the shot gun under the bed in case they turn out to be nutters

oh and lock up all your valuables



it has to be ok surely!
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
Men/Women in Leather...
Posted: 3/14/2010 7:38:43 PM
never worn leather in my life

I always thought it was far too hot and sweaty

and people just look like they're from that matrix movie

which is clearly ridiculous

the movie

not folk wearing it
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Msg: 28 (view)
'older' women having babies
Posted: 3/14/2010 7:34:30 PM
I think really older mums are a wee bit selfish

well a lot really

And I know that sometimes its not a choice to become pregnant

But I also think that accidental pregancies in this day and age are far too ridiculous when there is so much info and free contraception

But If a guy wanted NO KIDS or NO MORE KIDS

I would consider myself lucky

Who really wants someone elses baggage
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
cold hearted
Posted: 3/14/2010 7:25:29 PM
I dont think tht they are cold hearted

Just think that maybe they have found other/better things to do with their time and that to THEM means not talking to you

If we spent out time worrying too much about what others think then we would never get a wink of sleep

Maybe this person has found a fabulous new lover that they love to spend all their free time with and just didn't tell you purely on a "need to know" basis.
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
Posted: 2/21/2010 9:36:05 AM
I came across a seemingly sweet honest man on here

He offered to take me to the theatre, any event, any day, my choice

So we chatted on msn......but

And here's the but


He lives with his parents in his house

His choice to do so as 75% of the time he works away, no problem there then if its true and what a nice man.....


He won't EVER take calls whilst he is in HIS OWN HOME!!!

Married and lying springs to mind, or am I just toooo tooo cynical?
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 165 (view)
Apart from metal
Posted: 2/20/2010 10:26:46 AM
I have loved metal from the 70's such as sabbath, saxon, del leppard, cooper, and lots and lots more.

Never worn leather or denim and definately never trainers so I do often stand out in my MnS suit and pearls but hey, I like what I like

I still go to the big concerts really, not a gig person. I like a seat now I am getting old.
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Msg: 36 (view)
Do women forgive cheating men too easily in this country?
Posted: 2/16/2010 7:16:23 AM
I don't like a cheat of any sex

Once a cheat and a liar always a cheat and a liar in my book.

If you took him off another women, some other woman will/can take him from you easily enough.

Do we forgive cheats too easily in this country?

No we don't, look at the divorce figures and the reasons why.

I would rip a mans bollix off if he cheated on me and I found out.
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
Have dating sites become socially acceptable
Posted: 2/4/2010 5:47:26 AM
I've been dating online for almost 8 yrs off and on

Yes my friends know, but they do worry

I think many people on them are not serious about dating however, maybe its just me
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
support for single dads
Posted: 2/4/2010 5:13:24 AM
I have total respect for single dads

I've been a single mum so I know how difficult it can be doing everything that is essential

But I choose not to date guys with school age children as mine have grown and flown and I do not want to wait at home while you babysit yours

Been there, got the tshirt springs to mind
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 48 (view)
working kids paying board...
Posted: 2/4/2010 5:08:55 AM
It depends on what they earn for a start

But if its a full time job and there are 3 wage earners, then a third of every bill that comes in is about right I think
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
Katie Price: married in vegas, divorced.... when?
Posted: 2/4/2010 5:01:55 AM
now don't get me wrong
I don't wish her any harm

I hope she finds true happiness with Alex, I fancy him too, hes so lovely

But if he fancies her, he's less of a man in my eyes.

He can do better

Shes a user, he maybe is too, so maybe he will be with her while his stardom rises and then take her for every penny, who knows.

Maybe he does love her, I hope he does, Pete did and hes a real sweety.

I would hate to be Petes new lady and have to go pick up those kids from Katie, I bet she would be a right nasty cow about her
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 149 (view)
have you got an irrational hate ?
Posted: 2/4/2010 4:50:33 AM
people that say aks not ask

People that spell tongue as tounge or something equally stupid

People that say all my friends think I am great, well they would, they're YOUR FRIENDS doh!

People that say I am best friends with my wrong on every level
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 76 (view)
Posted: 2/4/2010 4:47:01 AM
I would never put such a statement on my profile

Thats for others to decide not me

It feels rather conceited and arrogant and not something I would be happy to say I am
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
Favourite nights out/places to go
Posted: 2/4/2010 4:43:28 AM
I totally adore a meal out and a night at the theatre, cinema, concert venue

I have never ever been one for drinking in town and trawling bars and don't intend to start now at the grand old age of 45.

If I go to a pub, I like a seat, friends round, a nice pint of chilled cider or glass of wine and fresh food made on the premises.

And if on an economy drive, a bag of chips to share by the river, el plonko for 2, and lots of snogging
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 147 (view)
Has a film ever effected you in any way..
Posted: 2/4/2010 4:36:59 AM
The Acused with Jodie Foster

Never have I left a cinema where there was total silence as folk departed the building.

Such a powerful movie
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 61 (view)
The names we give our children
Posted: 2/4/2010 4:30:56 AM
I hate it when nick names end it a z or za

daz or dazza

baz or bazza

tez or tezza

sooooo comon and puts me right off, oh and yes I like being a snob, it suits me
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
Katie Price: married in vegas, divorced.... when?
Posted: 2/4/2010 4:14:46 AM
I like true movie star celebs but thats because I am a movie fan

Katie/Jordan/mum of the year/slapper of the year/auther (yea rite!)

She is an abomintaion and always was and I fear always will be

She is a total user.
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
Does anyone actually LIKE being called well fit?
Posted: 2/4/2010 4:11:11 AM
If a guy called me well fit in an email, I would smile

But I would rightly or wrongly assume he might sound like 50cent or some other crass rapper type fellow and that in itself would put me off slightly.

But I would feel flattered or course, besides I AM WELL FIT


Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
Does anyone actually LIKE being called well fit?
Posted: 2/4/2010 3:40:09 AM
If I got an email saying I was well fit I would smile maybe

But be unlikely to date and assume he would probably talk like 50cent and THAT would really put me off!
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 56 (view)
The names we give our children
Posted: 2/3/2010 4:10:08 PM
I gave my daughters bible names

2000 yrs of history wont go out of fashion

I hate modern made up names

Oh and all those kylies and such, so yuck
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 53 (view)
I don't understand the rules of internet dating.
Posted: 2/3/2010 3:20:38 PM
If they put "my kids come first", run a mile

You come last below

His 3 kids

His mum

His ex wife

Her mum

His boss

His dog

His darts night

His football team

ad infinitum
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
what would you do?
Posted: 2/3/2010 3:17:00 PM
I did exactly what you did once years ago

Put myself in between them and him

I was a women mind and they did not hit me

I screamed the place down and they legged it

You did the right thing
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
gay son or not?
Posted: 2/3/2010 3:10:19 PM
no its not bad to have a gay son, confess as in confess if he has issues he wants to talk over just like any other issue

And I take issue with the guy above that states no one wants to have a gay son

What a daft thing to say!
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
Kids playing parents off against each other...
Posted: 2/3/2010 5:15:13 AM
I would not invite her over at all for a few weeks

Let her know what she is missing

She is windin you all up and you all let her

Show her who is boss and its not HER!
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 55 (view)
Should there be a minimum price for Alcohol?
Posted: 2/3/2010 5:12:07 AM
I agree

Its nothing to do with cost

Its to do with imaturity

I drink, mostly at home, can afford it, NEVER been drunk in a city street nor in the back of an ambulance or police car throwing my guts up.

Nor ever shall be.

Leave them on the streets I say, let them choke if they're daft enough

The world does not need these fools
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
gay son or not?
Posted: 2/3/2010 5:07:25 AM
Ask him if he has any relationship worries?

Has he thought about dating for valentines day?

Ideal opportunity to ask a question.

If he doesn't confess, then you and he have lost nothing.
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 34 (view)
Children or adults - when are children responsible for their actions?
Posted: 2/3/2010 5:03:38 AM
children from 5 know its wrong to beat up on their friends

They know pain when they bet bashed in return

They are responsible once they start making choices at around 5 I think
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
how has the recession affected you
Posted: 2/3/2010 4:57:44 AM
It forced me to start working for myself

And I get more work every week that the last week

Its made me spend less cos I earn less and I have helped a few friends out with cash flow issues
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
Is shift work killing your social life..?
Posted: 2/3/2010 4:51:59 AM
Shift work is known to effect health, social life and family relationships

I would struggle with a guy that worked odd shifts as I have a huge social life that I would want him to be invloved in
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
Can respect be restored to British society?
Posted: 2/3/2010 4:49:32 AM
Only if people get dressed to go to Tescos

Plus if parents stop letting their kids roam the streets till all hours

Anyone under 16 should be home by 9, unless there is a party or special occasion
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 72 (view)
Is Supermarket right to ban Pyjama wearing shoppers?
Posted: 2/3/2010 4:46:19 AM
Are we still debating people who are simply too lazy to get dressed to go out?


Sometimes I think these people cant spell self respect let alone KNOW what it is!
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
I don't understand the rules of internet dating.
Posted: 2/3/2010 4:23:56 AM
I have to say that my experiences have been different

If I like a profile and what a guy says to me in the initial email, he often will have my number by email 2, 3, or 4.

But I have had 8 NO SHOWS since september.

What chat to me then not show up?

Its beyond comprehension.

Why waste each others time?

I hate months and months of emailing, I want my number 1 man and I want him NOW!!!

Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 59 (view)
Blocked by someone after no msg?
Posted: 2/3/2010 4:15:18 AM
I have come across profiles that I dislike for one reason or another and I block them before any message is sent.

Smokers for example

People that have 6 children under 12

etc etc

I know there is not point in even talking, so its saves us both potentially wasting each others time
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 54 (view)
Should John Terry step down as captain of England?
Posted: 2/2/2010 6:17:49 PM
Its not JUST about the affair

He is clearly not man to be trusted in any way shape or form.

He lies to his nearest and dearest, and best friend, he will lie to anyone about anything.

Just because men OR women can and DO have affairs, it doesn't mean they should be expected to just he has a job in the public eye where women fall over themselves chasing him.

If he could not say no to them, he should never have got married, remained single and been a player in more ways than one.

Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 48 (view)
Dating and the Confident Woman
Posted: 2/2/2010 6:12:37 PM
A man is not a wimp just because he lets a woman take control in the bedroom.

On the contrary, he is MORE of a man than most.

He will appreciate that if she is satisfied, so shall he be, always.

Hes a surrendered man thats all, but wimp he most certainly is not.

Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 44 (view)
Dating and the Confident Woman
Posted: 2/2/2010 8:42:39 AM

you asked so I shall comment

I like a man by day, opens doors, shows respect, confident and happy in himself

BUT sexually I call ALL the shots

Are men scared of me?

Your damn right they are and they should be.

But the sex is awesome hahaha
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 41 (view)
Should John Terry step down as captain of England?
Posted: 2/2/2010 8:38:05 AM
Yes of course he should

Its not essentially about the affair but the lies.

How can anyone have any respect for him, they will all wonder where the next lie is.

A man that lies to the women he has promised to love and respect will lie to ANYONE AND EVERYONE ABOUT ANYTHING.

He deserves all he gets for the pain he has inflicted on innocent people that loved him.
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 51 (view)
Please enter your income
Posted: 1/30/2010 8:20:36 AM
I have no intension of tellinag anyone what I earn

Its no ones business but mine

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Msg: 114 (view)
Waiting 'too long' for sex - what is 'too long'?
Posted: 1/29/2010 12:30:37 PM
I dont wait for sex

I have sex when I want

where I want

with who I want

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Msg: 64 (view)
Consideration for your neighbours
Posted: 1/29/2010 12:27:48 PM
I am very considerate to my neightbour

I never have a gangbang here until after shes had her tea and before she goes to bed

I try to wait till its pension day and she goes off to vounteeer in the charity shop, bless her
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
Should Van driver fined £60 for blowing his nose pay his penalty?!
Posted: 1/29/2010 12:23:51 PM
no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no

no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no

Besides which

I wipe my arse while I'm driving, it's a real skill
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
Is Supermarket right to ban Pyjama wearing shoppers?
Posted: 1/29/2010 12:19:07 PM

We have enough chavs in the uk without us having to bump into them undressed whilst shopping

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Msg: 41 (view)
Posted: 1/17/2010 9:53:19 PM
I think its a great idea, all I need is a guy to go diving for me

I use freecycle also and its a wonderful community based site
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