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 Author Thread: do women really know inthe first 5 min. if they will have sex with a man
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 247 (view)
 
do women really know inthe first 5 min. if they will have sex with a man
Posted: 12/14/2008 6:02:47 PM

We know. Don't you men know who you will and won't have sex with?


I have to admit I know the potential is there at the very first touch. I'm very tactile and its very "electric"...


/hand buzzers are *not* funny!
//pop-out snakes on the other hand... funny (& irrelevant).
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
wierd emails from old girlfriend
Posted: 12/13/2008 7:25:07 PM
Step away from the mistletoe!


/but enjoy your visit...
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Changed Profile and Need Feedback Please
Posted: 12/13/2008 2:13:32 PM
Sorry folks - didnt mean to cause no trouble...


/mostly I just wanted to say "do me" and get away with it.
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Wanted: Un-biased opinions
Posted: 12/12/2008 2:17:54 PM
It is easier to find things wrong than it is to suggest things right (if that makes any sense). I just looked at your profile and other than the couple of things that were already suggested cannot pick anything out to 'fix'.

Having said that... whats that line about delineating between art & pornography? -- "I cant define it but I know what it is when I see it". I think your write-up could use more 'character' but I dont know how to suggest you do that.

/son scares me just because you said not to be scared
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Changed Profile and Need Feedback Please
Posted: 12/12/2008 2:08:40 PM
Thanks BluStarr!!

Those are great suggestions. Since it seems like it is too long now (from the feedback I've been getting) perhaps when I cut things out/down I should add what I'm looking for. The real problem there is that my tastes are sooo eclectic it is hard to state -- I think all people are good.

Which perhaps ties right into the 'sickos' part. I would like to get some more input about the children issue...

Did not offend at all, maybe even made me blush a little bit too.

/its not a *real* band though... (all in pic are 'kids')
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Lots of people look but no messages
Posted: 12/12/2008 1:56:12 PM
I think it looks good and I think it was a *great* idea to invite the women to email you. Don't know if it will work [well] but its a damn great idea.

Perhaps punctuation is different in the UK (not being a smarta$$ - its poss) but your apostrophe is in the wrong place in "wasn't".

Good luck sir!

/maybe 'wasnt' has a 'u' in it too?
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
A Story Unfinished, wanting opinions
Posted: 12/12/2008 1:36:54 PM
The McGuffin -- UNREAD/DELETED

OP- Its too short and cute to be grating. Its unique, refreshing, funny, and wonderful.
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Chunky Monkeys
Posted: 12/12/2008 12:26:45 PM
I suggest two things profile-wise:

1) be honest.
2) be honest.


/I'm just being honest.
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Changed Profile and Need Feedback Please
Posted: 12/12/2008 12:19:02 PM
Well I thought it was great...

(or course you had lightning on there so I was sold right there...)

I really like the part where you described a scene (the dancing esp) -- thats a great technique...


And the trees were funny too... the last line really did make me laugh.

I think you will have success with that.

On the pictures (and I am no expert- look at mine) I think you could replace a couple with either "closer-ups" or some kind of action/activity... (w/o looking again - the fence ones come to mind). I think the others (winery/sunset) are OK as 'extras'.

Ok now do me (so to speak)
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Sending 'not interested' response
Posted: 12/12/2008 12:07:36 PM
But we're in a politically correct society where we try to hold back our true feelings these days.


Tell that to the women are responding to OP! !

 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Women don't even read my messages???
Posted: 12/12/2008 12:04:51 PM
I dont understand how that can be your experience either. I have had that only happened a couple of times myself... a rarity. I have had several READ/DELETED and READ's without responses, but for the most part I have at least gotten some sort of response [thanks ladies] -- so I dont understand it when I read these sorts of complaints.
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Another Profile Review
Posted: 12/12/2008 11:37:34 AM
So ladies I suspect that my profile rambles on too much...

I am willing to take any constructive criticism so go ahead and take the gloves off.

Anything I should add or omit?

I know I'm not the only one who freezes up when it comes to describe oneself, and I have updated my profile a couple of times, but now it just seems to ramble and go on rabbit-trails to me.
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Involved with a woman who is recently separated
Posted: 12/6/2008 7:24:27 PM
OP - You have gotten a lot of excellent advice, and you should take it all - the pros and the cons - to heart.

In my experience, which is all one can draw from, You should be careful with your heart my friend. Divorce, even if the relationship was deemed 'over' a year ago, is a messy and heart-wrenching affair.

My advice to you is be a knight. Be a friend. Be a lover. Be a shoulder. Do all of these things and enjoy each other. But be careful. You may get hurt in the long run if you're not.

Everyone is different, and everything under the sun is possible. There are rules and there are exceptions to those rules.
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Girlfriends relationship with ex
Posted: 10/13/2008 11:27:56 PM
I have a couple of questions...

#1 - Does the mother know you? I mean if you have been together for two years then I would expect so. If there was some hanky-panky, she'd know. Not saying you should ask her but if you know her as well than you shoulda got some vibe from her if you cant trust what you read off the gf.

#2 - Do you know if they all stayed in a hotel together? (Did I miss that in the thread?)

#3 - Did you ask her why when the plans changed from orig. to motel she didn't apprise you?

#4 - If it "came out" while she was there the morning after she is either not very sneaky or didnt anticipate it being a problem because innocent people often dont think about consequences of innocent acts. So how did it "come out"?

I ask these things because...

Assuming you are really asking "what should I do?" because you don't know here is a little bit of information I could give you:

#1 - My daughter's mother is one of my best friends. Not only that, but we were great sexual partners. 4-6 times a year I drive down to Oregon to see them and we often stay in hotels and spend the weekend together. Not once in the last 2 years we have been doing this have we ever slept together. Sure it would be easy... the kids go to sleep... we know each other intimately.... we have a life-long bond... but we don't. She has been together with her current bf the entire time and... well, we just dont.

#2 - I remember when we were together there were times when she would go see old boyfriends and boy friends and I remember questioning myself on whether I was being stupid back then or just being uncausingly jealous. (I never voiced my 'concerns'). Turns out she was trust-worthy on this issue. We had other minor trust concerns but in the interim (since we broke up) if she had cheated she would have disclosed it. Not only that, her current behavior backs it up.

#3 - If you are "madly in love" and you are just letting this green sh*t get to you then you are making a mistake. 2 years is a long time, and if you are serious than you are not only part of each others lives but also of the little (girl was it?) and you could seriously be making a dumb mistake.... talk to her. And if she cant give you what you need than close the case. Don't torture everyone involved.


Finally...

OP stands for Original Poster. ( dont remember seeing anyone answer your question)

-Steve
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Define Normal
Posted: 9/25/2008 1:01:46 AM
I used to be on a quest to be normal... because I thought I was "terminally unique".

Then I figured out that I would never get there... and I really didn't want what was there anyway. Who wants to be asleep?

/funny.. I like oatmeal though
//and dancing and singing in the car -- just to annoy my daughter :)
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Girls Like Taking Things Slow...
Posted: 9/24/2008 12:06:49 AM
The last girl I was dating wanted to take things slow... and then fast for awhile... and then slow and easy again... and then fast! FAST! FAST!! and then slow way down... and then... she was done.


/of course I am talking about the relationship.
//no SERIOUSLY!
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 498 (view)
 
What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 9/23/2008 2:04:14 AM
In my last relationship I know what I did wrong.

I was with a girl who even though we weren't technically together it was just because we hadn't declared it. And that was because in the beginning she wanted to rush for that definition and I thought it was better that we not put a name on it so soon that way no matter what happenned no one could be betrayed. WHile we left it that way, we in all actuality became gf and bf. One night she went out one night with a girlfriend who was in town from out-of-state while I sat with her daughter and they ended up sleeping with some other guys from the bar.

She told me the next night, through tears, and expected it to be over - but couldnt stand feeling guilty. I told her I needed some time to think. I took a couple of days and I decided that I wanted what we had and since there wasn't any betrayal I could get over it as long as we both agreed that "we" were what we wanted.

Unfortunately my heart could not follow my minds logic, and I pulled-back emotionally. I didnt beat her up with it or anything, I just couldn't give my all. I was living in fear rather than cherishing what we had. The handwriting was on the wall. It only took about 2 months before the relationship fell apart. The spark and excitement just wasnt there anymore and she found that somewhere else. To give credit where credit's due -- she broke it off before cheating on me.

Moral of the story: I feel that had I been able to not be afraid of being hurt again and really cherished her, it could have worked. I made a conscios though-out decision but didnt follow thru; wasting both of our time. I mean I'm not an idiot.... she had as much or more to blame than I in the end, but that is what *I* did wrong.

/and I left the toilet-seat up
//shame on me!!
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Now Im In A Rut.
Posted: 9/23/2008 12:55:07 AM
I am not going to get in the way of the flames on this one- enjoy!

In my experience- real girl friends dont keep secrets from each other... for very long. (perhaps they too are just "associates" though, as you mention in your profile). So keep that in mind. (<------ insert joke here).

/what should I do???
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
One Nighters and Relationships
Posted: 9/23/2008 12:31:33 AM
Kickin' : I dunno, just seemed old-fashioned, but I stuck with it because it has the specific meaning I was looking for.

OP: I have come to realize this simple tidbit of wisdom: "Perception is reality". The only real reality is how each of us an individuals perceive the outside world and our interactions in it. Culture's values and norms are often conflicted with our own personal v&n's; and when they do we feel... umm... icky; because most of us want to be accepted and appreciated by the world at large.

That was alot of psycho-babble for this: if you want to get past it and get on with it-- get over it. And help get her over it too. And go forth, and prosper. Nanoo nanoo.

/I will respect you in the morning... even more if you can make eggs w/o breaking the yolks!
//why cant i ever do that?
///why dont i just like scrambled?
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
very curious and very openminded. Need few pointers/advice
Posted: 9/23/2008 12:09:42 AM

cousin??!?!?


I see what you did there.


OP - I spent a lot of time working in restaurants and that stuff is catchy! I catch myself saying "hun" and "babe" all the time when its not really necessarily appropriate. Not to say that its nothing in your case, but I wouldnt use that as an indication.

/I'm a corporate human resources nightmare suga!
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
hey ladies what do you think about waiting for sex in a new relationship?
Posted: 9/23/2008 12:01:03 AM

And just because you wait, do ya think you're STD home free or something??? And again, just cause you wait, does that negate who was there before you?


Doesnt that just give the damn little bugs more time to incubate?


Some will tell you wait for the new moon over the summer that's blue


That wasnt the moon that turned blue!

OP- in my opinion there is no time that is "right", but there is a right time. And you both should know. If it feels right upstairs and no one is exerting pressure and no one is feeling pressured (except the... "moon") then the time might be right, whenever that is.

/in my case, pathetically enough, its before the money changes hands.
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
One Nighters and Relationships
Posted: 9/22/2008 11:48:22 PM
Man that is up to you!

Many people think that there is "loss of respect" involved but I think that is not necessarily true.

I think what is lost is anticipation and motivation. You cant get the anticipation back but it sounds like you are still motivated. So if you think that she has all of this negative BS wrapped up with it (such as guilt/shame like Kickin'Back alluded to) then it is your job to help her overcome that if you want to pursue her further.

There is nothing.... NOTHING... that is hard & fast (except me in the sack - the girls hate that about me) about this, except our own attitudes about it and how that can effect a blossoming relationship. If you want her, chase her with every ounce of your SELF that you would had you not already been intimate. Make her feel pursued and desired. Woo her like you mean it!

/nobody says "woo" anymore do they?
//gawd I'm old and corny.
///Hi Kickin!
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
How to kill the follow through?
Posted: 9/22/2008 11:36:28 PM
You know I have often tried to figure out what makes a conversation tick. I have never figured out how it is so easy to get on with some people and so difficult with others. And how it is that some people are just so good at making small-talk with just about anyone.

I believe the key is the question. Try and ask questions that require more than a yes or no response. Practice doing that in situations where you are not motivated or pressured to invoke a conversation but do it anyways.

And dont be afraid of the silence. It is not just your job to fill the void.


/Is there anything that I wrote that you think might help? (<--- example)
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
lol now I'm scared to write this :)
Posted: 9/18/2008 2:53:08 AM
Victoria-

Recently a friend of mine discovered that her 7 yr old was molested by her childhood best friend's husband of 11 years. I was trying to be supportive, so I did some research on the issue. I don't know if it is any different in Canada than down here, but from what I found is that 1 out of every 4 girls are victimized, in some manner, between the ages of 7 and 13. If I remember correctly the numbers are like 1 in 13 for boys. Only 10% of those incidents are from "strangers". That means that 90% of all perpetrators are someone that you allow into your child's life. That is scary, sick, and wrong.

But that doesn't mean that you would be doing your child any good to keep them in a bubble or to teach them directly or indirectly to be afraid of living life. What it does mean is that you have to be diligent about whom you trust and learn to listen to your vibe-o-meter.

When my daughter was very young I instilled into her not fear but made sure that she understood that her body was hers and hers alone and she had an invisible boundary that if she every felt was crossed she should do whatever it took to make it stop... from screaming "fire" to demonstrating intelligence/awareness of what was potentially being perpetrated... meaning letting the perp know that she was no patsy.

My daughter is 10 and frankly she has a better social life than I do. Before she is allowed to sleep or spend time at a friends house I meet the parents, siblings, etc. I don't interrogate the family but she knows that I want to know who all lives there and I want to meet them all so everyone is aware that she has an obvious caring and attentive father (I'm sure some of the mom's know what I am doing). All this just goes to lessening the 'attractiveness' of her as a potential victim. Sort of like putting an alarm on your house. No alarm is fool proof, but having one makes the house down the street w/o one a more attractive target. Not only that but it reinforces my daughter's understanding that she must be diligent... but at the same time not live in fear of the bogeyman.

Hope this helps. Bottom line: Do not live in fear... live in empowerment. Start early.
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 282 (view)
 
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/17/2008 12:24:36 PM

I laugh when people immediately assume that bisexuals are more likely to cheat/"switch sides" as if it's something that can be put on and off like a jacket....


I suppose it goes to the whole adage that people fear what they don't understand.

I can totally see that just a person's orientation doesn't make them automatically a nymph. I mean I like women, and if I am with a woman, I can get through my "unexplored relations" with other women... why would it be different?

But I stand by what I said earlier about long term. You wouldn't think it was a good idea if your husband stayed the night or went out drinking with another woman right? Now would it matter if said woman friend was confirmed lesbian? Me? I say "maybe"... In essence, in this context she would be no different than one of my husbands male friends.

Now I have a wife who's bisexual. I probably dont feel comfortable with any wife being in situations that could be potentially troublesome with the opposite sex... problem is, with her, everyone is the "opposite sex". I am not a jealous/possesive person by nature, and I wouldnt want my lovely wife to not "have a life" but I also wouldnt want to have that personal discomfort of that "potential" lurking around all-the-time, I mean we are talking LTR/marriage.

I cant figure out how to express this w/o infringing on "trust". I know what trust is. And I wouldnt say that a bi person is less trustworthy. What I am saying is that unless you really have an "open" relationship (I wouldnt/couldnt) you just wouldnt want to live a life where your partner was constantly in those situations as described above with your hypothetical husband.

/clear as mud huh?
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 231 (view)
 
Dating a Religious Zealot is a challenge
Posted: 9/17/2008 12:05:01 PM
TigerWoods-

That has got to be the most well thought-out and well written address to the topic that I've seen. Excellent work sir!

Right now I am trying to figure out the best way to make myself a note to remind me to get a hold of that book. Thank you for your input.
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 109 (view)
 
Would you wear lifts?
Posted: 9/17/2008 4:05:15 AM

So basically it didnt clear up anything for me as nothing was left to be clarified...except of course why your single with that sparkling personality of yours sweetie...(You'll notice I answered the other thread about sayin stuff to be condescending..damn I'm efficient )


That was awesome. Well worth reading all through the previous post.

OT: I would be willing to wear lifts if that were a concern of mine. I have read that height often plays a part in business as well as dating. Subconsciously apparently we attribute power and leadership to height.

I'm just about 6' now but I wonder if I tried them would I be able to discern a difference in the way people interacted with me. Where to you get these stilts? Clown stores?

/she really just wants a pony
//my apologies to the clowns.... (and ponies)
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Care to attend the Soul Harvesting BBQ?
Posted: 9/17/2008 12:59:34 AM
Any man that doesnt realize that:





Imagine...ladies of POF, rolling around in jello, whipped cream OR chocolate pudding! Then one of us "accidentally" rips the other's bra off...and...well....you know the rest.


...is a trap.

Did I read that right? pudding? I love pudding! Its like.... mud! {ahh crap!} *snip*

/it can happen to the best of us...
//I am not "the best of us"

EDIT: I just got done channeling with sweetjem who wants us all to know that she is excited. She can hear us from her timeout corner and wants you girls to save some souls and whipcream for her return.

that is all. {changes channel}


EDIT2: That poor guy got in before I could hit send. (channeling takes time)
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 75 (view)
 
That guy who outkicks his coverage
Posted: 9/16/2008 12:44:27 AM

I predict ForumSaurusRex and alooooohaha will be a couple before the end of the year.


Can we check their picture ratings somehow now and see how it correlates?
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
How to approach when she gives obvious signals?
Posted: 9/16/2008 12:36:08 AM

Put the Rikki-Tikki-Tavvi on that thang!


I am almost ashamed to admit how funny that is! Just obscure enough to be hilarious. Sir, may I have your permission to use that somewhere/sometime?
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 273 (view)
 
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/15/2008 11:44:01 PM

Are all bi-sexuals considered meat eaters?


Made me laugh!

/made me think too.
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 89 (view)
 
What kind of things put you off when reading mens' profiles?
Posted: 9/15/2008 11:39:18 PM
ladies, ladies, ladies.... {stalling for time}

In my defense, i happen to know that sweetjem owns a twister game. And nothing is better at a BBQ then entertainment. And nothing is more entertaining than a fool. Am I right? I'd be willing to bet that you ladies could get [enchant] these fish-toting half-naked drama hating ob-gyn's-in-training to enjoy their own game of Jello Twister before dinner. {ok I just gave myself a visualization accidentally - must learn to be more careful with these things} Consider this: they're SELF-BASTING [and I halped!]

Riddle-me-this Oh wise ones: {managing to maintain a straight face thru this}

Doesn't darwinism dictate that these shenanigans work (somehow) somewhere?? I mean there's just no possible way that ALL of these men have gotten no success nowhere along the line. It boggles my {puny soft hardly worth harvesting} mind!


/is it safe to come out yet?
//sweetjem's missing this (she's grounded but unrepentant)
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Choosing Love
Posted: 9/14/2008 11:40:18 PM

"Whosoever God has put together, let no man cast asunder."


but what if....

"thou art God"??

I'm just puttin' it out there...

/if you grok?
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 267 (view)
 
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/14/2008 9:33:01 PM
So here's the thing...

I have historically always had more women than men friends. When I get into a relationship with a woman this can sometimes cause trouble. One of the first things I do is introduce them: because I have great appreciation for woman's intuition and I want my potential to see[feel] for themselves that they are truly friends and non-threatening. Usually I will back-off my friendships a little... I dont give them up, but I dont stay all night and sleep on their couch anymore either... and I guess I back-off a little emotionally as well. I suppose this isnt so much intentional but just occurs naturally as the emotional and time bond increases with the SO.

So I don't have any problem with my SO having a boyfriend(s). On the other hand, I'm not sure if I would be ok with her staying the night over at his house after going out for drinks. But if it were after a night out with the girls - "yeah, don't drive home" . Now what if she's bi? I know that doesn't mean her friend is bi, etc... I'm just sayin' that a LTR/Marriage could have lots of complications or potential rough-spots.

Personally I would be leery.

/ thinks its a good idea though!
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 63 (view)
 
What kind of things put you off when reading mens' profiles?
Posted: 9/14/2008 6:39:35 PM


But the one line that causes nausea each and everytime "Long walks on the beach" - aaaaahhhhhhh! I figure MILLIONS of people should be milling around on the beach looking for a potential mate



Thank you for that hilarious visualization... like a zombie movie but with romantic sunset lighting... busting up still!
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 62 (view)
 
What kind of things put you off when reading mens' profiles?
Posted: 9/14/2008 6:30:07 PM

Ummmm that's all for now as I think everything else has been touched on. Gotta go get ready for a BBQ and some jello!



Dont forget to take your Twister game!
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Would you wear lifts?
Posted: 9/14/2008 12:31:35 AM

Chances are I would be hopping off my 4 inch stillettos - so who would notice?


-that made the cucumber move!

/{email inbox receives: sevans: ORBITZ.COM your reservation is confirmed!
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Computer consultants?
Posted: 9/14/2008 12:25:04 AM
I think "consultant" at least emphasizes the people part of it and minimalizes the techno-geek aspect of the job.

/would you like to play a game of chess? (my best pick-up line)
//home on Sat nite
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Saying things you don't mean
Posted: 9/14/2008 12:19:39 AM


GPSweetheart, you are a sweetheart. And you should be very proud. I won't write it all out on here but please believe me when I say I understand exactly where your coming from and you are an inspiration to me. I don't always keep my mouth shut and walk away, but I am so far better then the way I used to be.

You have grace and dignity and what a victory that is. Sorry for what the person did to you, but I hope you know that you are so far above that. My ex was like that only much deeper and what I finally realized is that he had such a selfhatred that he had to hurt others and get them to engage in the battle in order to justify his behavior and feel better about himself. I pity him, and though some things still sting I don't hate him or wish him harm. He will continue to be miserable for life probably and that's his choice. I choose to better myself and rise above it. Of course I am a work in progress but it's going well considering.

Thanks so much for sharing that. I am encouraged by you, and any man that grabs your heart will be one lucky man.


[B]PREDICTION MATERIALIZED

I totally agree with sweetjem - and I have already mapquested the route from WA to IN "just in case". I also "come from" that crap but my coping mechanism was always to "shut down" rather than fight back. Not that one is better than the other.

In any event, I love your demeanor. You "rock" in my book!

/its more of a pamphlet really...
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Listed myself as seperated being honest bad here?
Posted: 9/14/2008 12:06:01 AM

Choosing to list yourself as separated is being honest. To ask if that's a bad thing around here could only be asked by someone who thinks size doesn't matter either. And we ladies know better than that.


Ahh hell... there goes my next question... {shrinks away}

/monster trucks rule!!
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Would you wear lifts?
Posted: 9/13/2008 11:54:16 PM

i think tuckerjos profile is fake and irl shes a short man...."she" seems really defensive about this subject.


-I'd still hit it!!

/{wonders}can I purchase my 1-way ticket to hell on Orbitz?
//no disrespect intended... 'little lady'
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 159 (view)
 
Dating a Religious Zealot is a challenge
Posted: 9/13/2008 11:41:00 PM
tuckerjo - very nice... I am sitting here impressed (and not in a condescending type of way either.)

/would[/wont] heaven be considered "atheist hell"? Gotta love the irony in that!
//see: Pascal's wager.
///note to self: Must look-up 'snarky'...
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 158 (view)
 
Dating a Religious Zealot is a challenge
Posted: 9/13/2008 11:34:01 PM

Christians are warned not to date non-believers. It just doesn't work out.


somethin' like: "If the yoke don't fit....dont wear it"

/its so hard to find a good pair of yokes these days... {sigh}
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Should my ex come back to me¿?
Posted: 9/13/2008 11:26:47 PM
/warm and fuzzy feeling returns.
//no souls harvested here.
///provocation never hurt anyone... right sweetjem? {now running for cover}
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
 
What do you do with this??
Posted: 9/13/2008 11:21:22 PM

I say revenge is a dish best served cold...

Like responding back with things like.........'hell, if you had had sex that bad for fifteen years, you'd probably start considering sucking dyck too."


That would probably be funnier to me if my daughter's mother hadn't 'turned' lesbian. I'm a pretty open-minded guy yet there was still a part of me that was bothered by it. Worse, as a guy, I had hoped for a silver lining (I'm an idiot), something my imagination could use for future reference (sort of a consolation prize)... but then I met her SO and it wasn't like in the movies at all... she looked just like a boy. (drats!)

/new silver lining found! - they're happy, I'm happy, ex (still friends with) has a whole new set of problems relating to... um... [opposite] sex -- now acknowledges problems were NOT all my fault after all. (what lengths wont I go to for validation)
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Should my ex come back to me¿?
Posted: 9/13/2008 11:07:52 PM

I'm one of those guys who just decides to leave without any apparent reason...


I'm assuming that statement was meant to be self-deprecating, otherwise it just doesn't jive with the rest of your post. Meaning that you seem to be well-intentioned and caring about not only yourself and your needs but hers as well.

I would just like to 1) thank you for your service. 2) offer prayers for your recovery 3) re-iterate that your best bet is to ask your therapist. 4) encourage the "her" to do her own research into PTSD and that way she can make an educated decision.

/new statement of true love = moving from Florida to Montana
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
What do you do with this??
Posted: 9/13/2008 3:42:58 PM
OP- I say run with it. Back in Arizona I had a friend that was openly gay and he was able to meet/befriend women almost like magic. Why not use this to your advantage? I mean don't lie, just don't address it. You might have to dress a little bit nicer though... Do you like wine?

I love small towns! They are a hoot!
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Listed myself as seperated being honest bad here?
Posted: 9/13/2008 3:20:31 PM
OP - I think the overall consensus is to be honest. That is such a great quality... speaking of quality, are you looking for quantity or quality... perhaps that could be your guide.

Me+2 - I was swayed by your argument as far as how you had yourself listed and then qualified it in your profile. I think perhaps it goes to intent. You know where you are emotionally - and you chose what best fit giving limited choices.

Cowboy - damn... I guess I should change my "single" to "divorced" too. Once upon a time, in a land far-far away, I was married (it was a high school thing)... I guess since its been so long I just naturally shrugged off using/checking divorced on forms etc. I suppose I should still wear my badge.

Bullie - of all the things I've lost before... I miss you the most... well, ok, I miss you more than I miss my virginity anyway... Now lets see what else "they're buyin'"...

/For Sale: Holy water (blessed it personally). Will consider trade.
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Saying things you don't mean
Posted: 9/13/2008 1:17:36 PM

I like what you are saying and appreciate sharing it. There is a strong difference between going for the jugular and expressing things in frustration. A strong difference between verbal and mental abuse and getting things off your chest. And coming from the background we have, it's a hard issue. I have definitely not always handled it well in the past but have made great strides in that area.


prediction materializing....


For me I have to work on finding the balance between stuffing things till I explode or letting other's push my buttons. I do pretty well for the most part but there are moments and when they arise I try to fix them


Of all the people I know, sweetjem definitely works the hardest at dealing with "her side of the street" -- reminds me of the old neighbor lady from when I was a kid who was outside every morning sweeping her driveway. {now attempting to climbing out of hole} It takes a very humble and honest person to look at their own actions and reactions and be willing to immediately admit their part in something without excuse.
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Saying things you don't mean
Posted: 9/13/2008 12:47:30 PM
Two wrongs don't make a right


...just gave me a flashback! Dear ol' mom's favorite saying....

what was the other one?? Oh yea - "Shut the door I'm not payin' to heat the outside!"

/global warming is all my fault (sorry folks)


Side Note: I predict that GPS and sweetjem will have great conversation exchanges.

 
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