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 Author Thread: Watching your partner have sex with someone else
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 76 (view)
 
Watching your partner have sex with someone else
Posted: 12/22/2012 4:21:55 PM
Interesting subject area. It is often the theme in Penthouse Letters, with the husband watching the wife.

Seems like there are many negative responses from women, but I'm betting that some ladies who might be into this tend not to fess up in this forum.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Where do people hang out on the weekends
Posted: 8/26/2009 6:19:43 PM
I like Peppers in Greenwood on SR135. Maybe its because I can walk there from my apt.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 177 (view)
 
Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 6/24/2009 5:32:28 PM
I'd be OK if she were with just 2 men at the same time. More than that I'm not sure. It depends on whether she would let me watch in the future.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 165 (view)
 
bad pickuplines
Posted: 1/13/2008 9:05:44 PM
Walking past her, suddenly turns his head and says, "What?"
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 139 (view)
 
Are women scared off by harleys
Posted: 2/2/2007 12:58:40 AM
Well, I'm a dude, and I want nothing to do with bikes, period.

It has nothing to do with image. It has to do with, yeah, they're fun as hell, but the attraction can get you killed or maimed.

To each his own.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Question on inside Ejaculation
Posted: 12/6/2006 8:44:43 AM

I wish I were an adult in the 60s and 70s when the whole scare of dying from a deadly STD was not around. Yes, I know there were other STDs then but not the most dangerous and Tabboo one. I think there was a lot more inside ejaculation in those days.

YESSSS . . . there WAS!
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 105 (view)
 
do women want 2 men? would many men be willing???
Posted: 12/1/2006 6:37:54 AM
I realize that whatever ppl want to do is none of my business.... but let me ask you this: If a girl is banging two guys at once, how much discrimination is she really displaying? Not a whole shitload.


There you go again, playing the promiscuity card. Have you read the testimonies that say "with the right guys"? PAY ATTENTION!!!


theoretically, would you want a woman who are currently seeing to tell you about her escapades with multiple guys at the same time? Somehow i doubt it.


How is it that you're able to presume what I would want? I'm a forum poster whom you have never met.

I would LOVE to hear about my girl's escapades, assuming she were willing and actually would have any to talk about. I think that would be SO HOT!

Are you shocked? Do you fear that my soul will burn in hell, your holiness?


This is a major problem in this day and age... ppl seem to think that anything and everything is acceptable and fine and dandy. there are no boundaries or morals anymore. ... which are just more symptoms of the downward spiral of society.


Young man, there are numerous POF girls who have testified to either experiencing threesomes or fantasizing about them. You seem to be suggesting that each of them are promiscuous, indiscriminate whores who are not worthy of being loved? Would you tell that to their faces? How about it, girls, what do you think about this?

This is a thread that asks whether we would be interesting in participating in an MFM threesome. In response we have OPINIONS pro and con, and we have explained the rationale behind our takes.

But you've gone a step further. You've appointed yourself moral policeman of this thread. I vehemently resent your gratuitous assertions, and I'm offended by your condescending attitude. Get some more life experience & wisdom, and stop judging these wonderful POF ladies.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 90 (view)
 
do women want 2 men? would many men be willing???
Posted: 11/30/2006 3:21:03 PM
With all due respect, it's quite the opposite. The cultural brainwashing of which you speak has made people believe this type of thing is perfectly normal and acceptable (in other words, if men can 'slut around', then so can women). From a biological standpoint, this should not be the case (and i 'll back this up if you insist)... it's up to the woman to be 'selective with whom she chooses let into her body' and if she's letting every tom, di_ck and harry (and particularly 2 at once) have sex w/ her, then yes, she IS a ho, i'm sorry to say.

Again - don't get me wrong... I'm open to all kinds of things, but open to undiscriminating hoes is not one of them. (key word 'undiscriminating')


So you're saying:

BEING IN A THREESOME = LETTING EVERY TOM D!CK & HARRY HAVE SEX with her.

Dood, there's a LOT of room between the two.

Do whatever you want. What other people do is none of your business.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 74 (view)
 
do women want 2 men? would many men be willing???
Posted: 11/29/2006 5:59:18 PM

This has been coming up over and over yet it does seem ok to bash a man for wanting two women.... cultural brainwashing?... I say, to each their own.

I never said that. What's your point?
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
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Question on inside Ejaculation
Posted: 11/29/2006 5:52:18 PM
I just LOVE this thread, love to hear girls talk about how good it feels. To me that's what it's all about, making her happy.

And as a result of some googling, I've learned that vasectomies are relatively cheap and simple surgeries, and are often covered by insurance. Time to call my doc!
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 64 (view)
 
do women want 2 men? would many men be willing???
Posted: 11/29/2006 11:17:13 AM

I can sort of understand if women fantasize about having two men, but if she were to actually do it, there would be nothing to curb my notion that she is a complete ho-bag from there on in.

No offense intended, but that mindset is the result of cultural brainwashing.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....?
Posted: 9/7/2006 9:32:23 AM
I see a lot of sour grapes and whiney bytching in these posts.

You've got to have thick skin to play this game.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Have you learned anything from watching porn?
Posted: 9/6/2006 5:20:17 PM
I've learned that my favorite type of scene is a rear view of her riding him.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Have you learned anything from watching porn?
Posted: 9/6/2006 5:17:25 PM

There is nothing cornie about porn.

Unless anal sex is involved!
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 66 (view)
 
What is your biggest turn on
Posted: 9/6/2006 5:09:18 PM
BadGirl4U2NV wrote:

Guys that can be aggressive!! I like it fast, hard and lasts for hours!! Hair pulling, soft bites, some 4-play, a hard a$$, and some decent sized arms to hold on too!! Nothing funner then getting your head barried in a pillow..LOL!! AND KISSING OF COURSE...that's the best part!!

Damn! I want to party with this gurl!
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 84 (view)
 
Dating more than one person!?
Posted: 9/6/2006 4:39:37 PM
sweety70 wrote:

Why does everyone here bash on sex when dating multiple people .That its a taboo to have sex with many but dating many with no sex is ok ,, Sex is wonderful as long as you protect your self use condoms its ok to me , besides you need to test the product before you buy it....thts my opinion ...

Good for you, sweety. What you do is between you and your partners, it's nobody else's business.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 83 (view)
 
Dating more than one person!?
Posted: 9/6/2006 4:34:06 PM
mustbeup2nogood wrote:

I am currently dating several attractive women .. we have had sex ... numerous times ... it is good Fun .. Healthy ... and currently non commital ...

Careful, dude. The morals police are gonna getcha. They don't want you to have too much fun.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Why do ED med commercials always say "Does not protect against HIV etc"?
Posted: 8/2/2006 8:28:41 PM
Do they think people are that freaking stupid?
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 25 (view)
 
is it wrong to have mutiple sex partners while your single?
Posted: 8/2/2006 7:44:53 PM

(from luckyone38) No but gross as hell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And if you slept with 5 different guys in a month and they slept with 5 different women and so on thats a whole lot of screwing people you dont even know. I would never date a woman EVER if she had multiple sex partners! Just shows how little she really thinks of her self.

zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz . . .
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
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how do you know if they met someone else
Posted: 7/6/2006 11:10:33 AM
All of a sudden, she's "busy" when you want to see her.

Then when you do see her and try to get in her pants, she says, "I can't do it with just 'anybody'."

 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 583 (view)
 
Porn in a relationship
Posted: 6/26/2006 5:16:20 PM

i wouldn't want my man to watch porn if he were with me, I'd feel that I'm not doin my job to FULLY satisfy him if he still felt the need to watch porn. I would be offended, especially if he did it all the time.

If ya don't like porn then ya don't like porn, no problem.

But it has NOTHING to do with how well you're doin you're job satisfying him.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/26/2006 4:14:38 PM


The only reason women get involved in sex is to make the man they are with happy. If they are in a relationship with that man, it is about love. If they are not in a relationship with that man, they are hoping that by sex, that man will end up in a relationship with them eventually.


^^^Where did you come up with this? Sorry I think you're a little off base. Some women may be like that I know some, and it's sad, but most, at least 80% of women I know like sex for them not just for the man. And though a relationship helps to liberate one a little more, it's not necessary.

I couldn't agree more. This comes from hundreds of years of cultural conditioning, starting with the church-run states of the middle ages.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 125 (view)
 
What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 6/26/2006 3:58:18 PM
Anyone who doesn't want to live on after being dumped by their lover defines their self-worth by their love life. That's totally unhealthy. It's a train wreck waiting to happen.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
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NSA-No strings attached
Posted: 6/26/2006 3:53:10 PM

NSA doesn't necessarily mean one night stand.

It means the two of you can hook up whenever it's mutually agreeable, do whatever, then get together again, or not, without anyone's feelings being hurt.

I think NSA can also mean, "You're the best I can do for right now, and you'll do until I get bored or someone better comes along."

Sounds cold, I know, but I'm betting that can apply to many people, M & F, at least on a subconscious level.

Further, suppose someone says they're looking for NSA, but then they get lucky and hook up with the ideal love of their dreams. Y'think NSA is dumped out the window at that point?
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 20 (view)
 
hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/26/2006 3:44:20 PM
Raised a family, am now divorced.

At my age I can't be too picky if I want to hook up, but at this stage in my life, I don't need a significant-other to make me feel complete. So for hookup purposes, I be lookin for a hottie, at least my version as seen through my eyes.

I know, it's just the package, but that's a good place to start.

Unless she puts a spell on me, I'd just as soon stay unattached. If she & I are with each other only because we're the best either of us can do at the moment, we're both wasting our time.

And by the way, "hottie" is age exclusive. An attractive girl in her 40's, 50's or higher who has experienced life - now that's hot!
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Do men not understand that they have the ability to hurt people?
Posted: 5/24/2006 7:28:42 AM
This reminds me of the movie, "The Sweetest Thing."
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 78 (view)
 
At what point in the date did you realize you were going to get laid?
Posted: 5/21/2006 5:14:24 PM
Please bear with me on this one.

Way back before I got married I shared a house with my two younger brothers who played in a rock band. This one Friday night I took a date to watch the band play. We left early, I took her back to her place, and I got lucky.

Coming home around 2am and thinking I was done for the night, saw our street lined with cars. My brothers had brought half the bar over for a party, and I was pissed. I went in the house looking for them. Ended up on the back deck where the pool was. I ran into one of my brothers' friends, who introduced me as the owner of the house to this girl. She asked me if I wanted to go swimming. I said yes. Without another word she pulled off her clothes and jumped in.

AT THAT POINT I KNEW. But it gets better.

She had her legs wrapped around me at the far end of the pool. All of a sudden my dumbass brother comes out onto the upper deck and starts to shine a flashlight on us. After much cursing and hollering from my end, he decided he'd had his fun and turned off the light. Then the girl and I try to get down to business, but I'm having trouble connecting because she's cold and shivering uncontrollibly. The big goosebums on her ass told me she wasn't kidding.

So we proceded to my bedroom. She kept me awake most of the night. She wanted more after the first time, and the second time, and the third time . . . after that I lost count. She was INCREDIBLY good at getting what she wanted. I never experienced anything like her before or since.

The next morning I have a 9am haircut appt. at this girl's house who I had known for awhile. I had been thinking about asking her out . . . but I was so exhausted and drained that I let it go for the time being.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 76 (view)
 
At what point in the date did you realize you were going to get laid?
Posted: 5/21/2006 4:50:02 PM
She excuses herself to use the bathroom, and when she returns she's completely naked.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 67 (view)
 
Friends with benefits...how many at one time is too many?
Posted: 5/18/2006 11:03:01 AM
WOMEN certainly have more FWB opportunities than men - agree?

Let's suppose . . . I have just ONE very hot FWB, but she has 2 or 3.

Some of you guys would have a problem with this. Me? NO PROBLEMO!

In fact, I'd ask her to graphically narrate to me her experiences with her other boyfriends. Or maybe even watch her in action. That is, if she and her other partners were into it as well. STROKE MATERIAL! Win-win!

Jealousy sucks.

Now, what if she were my "soul mate" and not just my FWB? Very good question . . .
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Friends with benefits...how many at one time is too many?
Posted: 5/18/2006 9:36:10 AM

More than one friend means you just want sex with anyone that will give it to you.

NO - that's not necessarily true.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 13 (view)
 
When it comes to relationships I think most people are ruined by freedom.
Posted: 5/16/2006 5:37:42 PM

I think most people really cannot handle freedom and probably would prefer to just have their slot in life laid out for them. There is a safety and simplicity in that.

And utter boredom!
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Casual Dating and Pregnancy
Posted: 5/16/2006 5:27:59 PM
Becky B Wrote:
Ok here is the scoop, me and my girlfriend were discussing this. What happens if you get pregnant even if you have been careful as possible?

You no longer speak to the guy in question, does he have the right to know if:

a) you decide to keep the baby

b) you plan on not keeping it, either by abortion or adoption

Does it make a difference who ended it?

Guys what is your opinion on this, would you want to know? Would you want to have a say in the matter?

Ladies? What do you think?

I think I want a vasectomy.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 829 (view)
 
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/16/2006 3:59:03 PM
tristanandisolt wrote:
Incidentally I believe the greatest tool in having good sex is a giant....................................................................................................
sense of humour and sense of play ;)

The mind is the largest sex organ.

So, Dude, you're into Wagner?
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 828 (view)
 
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/16/2006 3:54:47 PM
marriedfarmboy wrote:

Who made up that rule anyway? I really mean WHO decided it is bad to have sex before marriage? Does anybody REALLY know whos rule that is?

Various ancient power-grabbing authority figures, such as the Roman Emperor Constantine's Council of Nicea, which distorted Christianity forever.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 805 (view)
 
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/15/2006 4:54:17 PM
IN RESPONSE TO POST #797: Dude, who put a burr up your ass?

You certainly have a right to your opinion, but just because someone has a differing view does not necessarily mean that they:

- Are selfish and greedy

- Disrespect women

- Need to reorder their priorities

If you really want to bash someone, how about the neanderthals who beat their women?

Otherwise, express your opinion and leave it at that.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Sex and anti-depressants
Posted: 5/15/2006 12:17:01 PM
ZOLOFT - Has a very strong sexual side effect, but a GOOD one. My doctor told me to expect it, and he was right!

I'm talking about the most intense orgasms EVER, lasting a minute-and-a-half or more, making you want to groan involuntarily when you never did before. Seriously!

Now that's an anti-depressant for you!
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 781 (view)
 
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 5/4/2006 4:51:50 PM
If she has to wait, she's not my type. Her choice . . . my choice.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 149 (view)
 
Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 4/28/2006 7:04:35 AM
A thread is overdone when the views expressed become hopelessly redundant. But when fresh views can be offered, might continued dialog be worthwhile?

That said, I agree with the general consensus. Ongoing observable behavior is much more relevant than ancient history.

However, is the subject at hand limited to negative concerns about a lover’s past? Yesterday I expressed an alternative view. Are there others who associate erotic stimulation with an experienced lover? Is it possible to draw a distinction between indiscriminate promiscuity vis-à-vis enjoying a variety of desirable sexual partners?

Could this be a discussion for another thread? Too kinky for this forum?
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 145 (view)
 
Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?!
Posted: 4/27/2006 12:41:40 PM
Firestone, my take on this subject is a bit different.

Promiscuity isn't necessarily about numbers, or even casual sex. The question is, are you selective? Do you only sleep with men you are genuinely attracted to, and do you have the self-control to avoid undue health risk? For example, judging from your pic, you have more opportunities that most, meaning you have the luxury of being selective.

That said, I like knowing the numbers AND the details that go with them. I must confess to a fetish for the attractive woman with the HIGHER numbers. That tells me she has an appetite for sex and a healthy disregard for society's taboos. WHOO-HOO. I would be even more titilated by a lover wants to have sex with other men while she's dating me, or would enjoy threesomes and/or being watched.

Don't take this to mean that I'm looking for an excuse to fool around myself. My focus would be on my lover. I would find it very erotic on my part to know that she experiences the pleasure of sexual liberation.

Some will be put off by my comments for sure. To each his or her own. Right now this is a fantasy for me, I've not actually been in such a relationship, nor would I insist on it were I to become involved with someone. I had my own numbers as a single in my youth, then I was married and monogamous for 22 years while raising a family. Been there done that. Now I'm divorced and free to be honest about what I want. We'll see.

For those who are curious, I certainly don't condone cheating. Anything that has the enthusiastic consent of all affected parties is not cheating.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Do you want a hot female?
Posted: 1/5/2006 5:38:57 PM
HELL YES I want to be with a hot woman! For one thing, that means she dresses sexy when we go out, not cartoonish slutty but in a nice short skirt and heels that does indeed cause other men to undress her with their eyes. I also like it when she teases me a bit and keeps me on edge. That's just me, I'm definitely not the jealous type.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 93 (view)
 
The one thing that is an instant turn-off, ends the conversation........
Posted: 1/5/2006 5:27:32 PM
She says:

1) "What are you thinking about?"

2) "Do you think I'm an airhead?"

3) "Do you still respect me?"
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 1906 (view)
 
Let ME analyze your profile for you
Posted: 1/5/2006 7:52:17 AM
I'm game, I would definitely appreciate your candid review.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 55 (view)
 
is porn getting more offensive?
Posted: 1/3/2006 8:19:26 PM
Most porn is offensive because it is very poorly done, it's just bad, period! They follow the same old scripts, they use the same foreplay followed by the same intercourse and ending with the same money shot. When plots are used, they are totally contrived. If money can made producing trash, what is the incentive to produce something that is truly artistic and tasteful?
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 28 (view)
 
what do guys think about girls that talk about sex on the forums all the time?
Posted: 1/3/2006 8:10:15 PM
It's like Chris Rock says, "Ya gots ta talk!"
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 48 (view)
 
Height and Femininity
Posted: 1/3/2006 7:04:20 PM
Privatenites, I really respect your view on this subject. Although I've had relationships with petite women, on balance I've always found tall women to be a turn-on, especially when they're wearing heels and a skirt. I like being able to look a woman in the eye, and when we smooch I don't have to bend over. Long legs that seem to go on forever are nice also.
 2betterdays
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 24 (view)
 
what makes a women cheat more.
Posted: 10/20/2005 6:40:53 PM
Good point. In fact, here's a question for the women - and by that I mean the open-minded women who don't accept the notion that if someone cheats, the relationship MUST end or even worse, that you'll die a horrible freaking death and burn in hell forever! (If you feel like sex and morality are inseparable, fine, the point is that this question isn't directed to you.)

Here's the question: If given the freedom, do women like the idea of being able to have sex with different men. (This is not applicable to men - they don't have nearly as many opportunities.) For example, suppose you find out that your man is like one of those guys in Penthouse letters who WANTS his woman to sleep with other men because it turns him on. Technically it is not cheating, because you have permission. Suppose further that he tells you not to do it just for him, do it only because you want to. Assume all proper precautions are taken. Would this have strong appeal for you, or would you interpret this as your man not really caring about you? In other words, can sex just for fun be fun for a woman? Must sex and love always go hand-in-hand? Would having that freedom be too stressful?
 
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