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 Author Thread: I'll bite. What does the community think of my profile?
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 10 (view)
 
I'll bite. What does the community think of my profile?
Posted: 10/18/2018 6:35:51 PM
Been here for years? Should know by now that chances of any success are very slim. You are not average, you are overweight. Does not matter how many photos you load really...
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Person puts first name at end of email?
Posted: 10/18/2018 6:32:26 PM
exactly,... what is the big deal. Some people have an automated signature for emails.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Smoking while having sex?
Posted: 10/17/2018 5:18:56 PM
the woman is totally addicted to nicotine. It is sad really. Very offputting. Move on.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 15 (view)
 
My expectations - should I keep this or delete it?
Posted: 10/16/2018 6:15:50 PM
Just drinks somewhere is a good idea and you can make an excuse and leave. I also agree that you should not be expected to pay for someone who is a stranger and especially when they have deceived you. Why anyone would post old pics when they are planning to meet up in person amazes me. Men do it too. They lie about height and career...sometimes their status. It is part of the game of online dating . However that you actually get to meet up is more than most men get to do from dating sites like these. If a woman is in her forties for instance then you must expect her to look around that age....
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Date with someone your not into or go solo?
Posted: 10/16/2018 5:29:25 PM
some people are experimental and bi sexual. If a man is dating a woman he would have to be at least interested.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 125 (view)
 
Advice please?
Posted: 10/2/2018 5:53:56 PM
And you guy does not take precautions? How selfish if not....There are spermicides and other ways to prevent pregnancy. What you say about the symptoms of taking the Pill sound horrendous. I would be having a thorough check up.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Ok so I'm popular but can't get dates. Why??????????
Posted: 9/28/2018 10:47:53 PM
I agree that you need better pictures. Sunglasses are a waste of time and you need to have shots taken standing up.
However this is not the site for an educated genuine woman looking for a real relationship I would suggest.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 19 (view)
 
How many partners is too much?
Posted: 9/28/2018 10:29:04 PM
As I have said before women downplay the number and men exaggerate... No one tells the truth.. As for cheating you cant say who will and who wont. I would be checking there are no STD's. more to the point.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Best friend is also his ex fiance?
Posted: 9/27/2018 9:59:06 PM
I dont know how long you have known this guy but trust is paramount in a relationship and you need to listen to your intuition about this. Does this other woman have a significant other in her life? You can ask him why they decided not to go ahead and marry. You are a lovely looking woman and dont have to put up with feeling second best or being treated that way. He may still harbour feelings for her or her him. It is a situation I would not be comfortable with if I were in a significant relationship with the guy.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 258 (view)
 
'Younger' older women. Why?
Posted: 9/26/2018 5:36:04 PM
I have a sister 9 years younger and no one knows who is the elder. She has not taken care of her appearance at all
and never wears make up. Why? I dont know. I have been taking care of my skin since I was 12 and dont expose my skin to the sun more than I can help. Diet and exercise also help maintain what may be a genetic advantage.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Lack of effort/common sense in profiles
Posted: 9/26/2018 5:33:15 PM
why do you bother worrying about dating site profiles? They are so often just false....
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 21 (view)
 
What is with the women on this site? I miss OKCupid.
Posted: 9/26/2018 5:28:17 PM
maybe the women on the sites are not genuine. Just playing games and putting up false profiles. You dont have a high status job and women will just pass you by here. THey often have impossible wist lists. You smoke so that is another disadvantage.

You should know by now that only 1% get to have any sort of relationship that endures. You need to get out there in real life and connect with those that you can see what you are getting, at least up front.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Together for 10+ years and still no cohabitation...cause for concern?
Posted: 9/26/2018 5:26:19 PM
with the marriages of the wealthy the woman was often chosen to marry to provide the heir and brought some assets to the alliance and often not a love match at all. So lovers were taken by either or both partners. It was quite common and is....
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Together for 10+ years and still no cohabitation...cause for concern?
Posted: 9/26/2018 5:23:57 PM
I thought also that she is seeing other people. I think she has a whole other life going on....Does not want to commit to moving in with your father. She would become the domestic drudge possibly and soon taken for granted.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 67 (view)
 
Mens Cologne
Posted: 9/19/2018 10:17:04 PM
speaking for myself and most women I know an enticing scent alone wont drive us wild. only on the guy we fancy...
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Lack of sexual experience. It is a turn off?
Posted: 9/19/2018 10:01:25 PM
If a person is interested in experimenting sexually and finding mutual satisfaction then the fact that you may be inexperienced currently can certainly change with the right partner. The question of our past lovers is not anyone else's business. Women tend to downplay the number and men overplay lol!
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 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 197 (view)
 
Tattoos or No Tattoos?
Posted: 9/19/2018 9:58:52 PM
I find heavy tattooing quite offputting. Reminds me of rough bikers but of course that is a generalisation.
However a discreet little picture here or there is fine.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 18 (view)
 
only accepts messages from upgraded users
Posted: 9/17/2018 8:58:08 PM
upgrades are a waste of money and dont ensure a better class of poster. Why anyone would only want people that have that, I dont know..
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Are there any real people on here?
Posted: 9/9/2018 11:33:48 PM
seems to be the case especially if you are older and are perceived to have assets worth taking. From what i hear this site and others has deteriorated with the huge membership that is not vetted. So get a percentage of scammers yes. Some people fall for their schemes..
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 91 (view)
 
Middle-aged Tardy Dates
Posted: 9/9/2018 9:54:11 PM
these days it is easy just to text if you are going to be late. It happens. But habitual,,, forget it. It is usually a power play to see what you will put up with.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Being upfront with the opposite sex
Posted: 9/9/2018 9:52:39 PM
He wanted quick sex and you were not up for it. No loss... Whether the story about the ex is true who knows? Just not meant to be.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 212 (view)
 
Any expectations of who would be attracted to you?
Posted: 9/9/2018 9:50:48 PM
I agree. As for dipping a toe in the water either plunge in or forget it.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Profile review
Posted: 8/31/2018 8:25:50 PM
you are tall, nice looking and young so why are you here? One thing, being evasive about your work is not a good sign. It seems that you are not earning a living of any sort?? that alone will cause most gals to pass on by. However genuine, sane girls with it all going on are not here. They are too busy out in the world having success.

Your profile is well written but the emphasis on volunteering can be made more concise..... Expect nothing and you wont be disappointed.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Opinions please, and advice if you can.
Posted: 8/31/2018 8:23:14 PM
siennabear

very well said.... unfortunately so many relationships are not healthy....
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 362 (view)
 
SEX AND WOMEN OVER 40 OR 50?????
Posted: 8/30/2018 7:20:34 PM
certainly not for your language skills lol!
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Should the first few dates be like job interview?
Posted: 8/30/2018 7:18:25 PM
you have dated 500 women? or more? wow!! Something is amiss. You are probably too probing and clinical about the whole date thing. Naturally we have dealbreakers and wishlists if we are going to do the online dating thing.. For me gambling, smoking and excessive drinkers are no nos right away.... If a guy does not have his own transport is another. However the chemistry is the thing that would induce me to see a guy again....

The last question does not make sense.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 107 (view)
 
One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 8/30/2018 7:02:42 PM
A one night stand is just that. One night and no more... Why would you ask if the guy will call? I hope you used protection.. If he has not called within a week forget it. He may want another casual night though so up to you to deal with that.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Age limits on messaging
Posted: 8/30/2018 7:00:08 PM
whether you are 59 is debatable but yes I cant believe a woman of 79 would be on dating sites lol!
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 174 (view)
 
why woman like eating a pussy more than sex
Posted: 8/29/2018 9:45:07 PM
bhhawks I agree.

Perhaps some women are scared of pregnancy and/or STDs.. But most of us like it all.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Nasty messages
Posted: 8/29/2018 9:42:35 PM
You say you know why people send nasty messages so why post here? You also responded to one of these so why do that? There are all sorts on sites like this. You dont have to get involved.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Boyfriend threw jewelry box in yard
Posted: 8/28/2018 11:25:50 PM
I agree that it would be a dealbreaker and if he is capable of doing what he did over a lost wallet then he would be much worse with what he sees as a really unforgiveable act.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 221 (view)
 
When's the last time you met someone in real life to date?
Posted: 8/24/2018 12:25:21 AM
blonde angel

This is so true and I was shut down for many years and not wanting to risk a relationship with a guy for all sorts of reasons. Now it is too late and I am often feeling I am missing something.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Tear my profile to bits please
Posted: 8/20/2018 6:17:00 PM
diabetes and other ailments can be kept until you actually meet up with a real person. Keep the profile short and upbeat.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 94 (view)
 
Do people Not have Morals anymore?
Posted: 8/20/2018 6:14:54 PM
siisaa

well said...
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 120 (view)
 
Never been married suddenly at 50 you wanna marry someone REALLY
Posted: 8/19/2018 8:14:40 PM
Some men have more temptations and opportunities than others and some are loyal and dont want to hurt others with their cheating. Some dont have the opportunity to stray.. There is no one formula.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 119 (view)
 
Never been married suddenly at 50 you wanna marry someone REALLY
Posted: 8/19/2018 8:13:04 PM
What is wrong with a man wanting to settle down at 50? However you can speculate all you like but until you actually meet up I wouldnt be wasting time wondering.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Is she fake
Posted: 8/19/2018 8:09:38 PM
get her to Skype and if she makes excuses, pass on by or better yet get on the phone and hear a voice!! If her pictures are really hot you can bet you wont get to see her.
I dont find the fact that she likes kissing a lot desperate. However you dont know who you are dealing with until you see her in the flesh. I wouldnt be waiting around and continue to try to make other connections. You have been here 6 years?? You are certainly persistent.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 91 (view)
 
Do people Not have Morals anymore?
Posted: 8/19/2018 5:45:44 PM
you swim in these murky waters you get bottom feeders. People do have morals but you are looking in the wrong place here lol!
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Two profiles - same pics - same style of intro - fakes?
Posted: 8/14/2018 6:36:59 PM
what business is it of yours? Just move on...naming and shaming is not on.. plenty of fakes and flakes on this dating site and others..... men and women...
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Please could you review this profile?
Posted: 8/14/2018 6:32:44 PM
You look attractive to me and have it all going on but being "separated" is a stumbling block and many women will pass on by. Most women wont go there if you have not been separated for a few years.....I would wait until the divorce is through and then you may have more luck....you also need to talk about your children and how often you see them etc... without being too specific of course......
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Do you care what a person does for work?
Posted: 8/14/2018 6:30:49 PM
Really as I am financially independent I dont care what a guy may do for work as long as it is honourable and
pays a decent wage so that he can take care of his own needs.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Why Finding a Life Partner Isn’t That Simple
Posted: 8/14/2018 6:29:14 PM
I for one, am glad you have found love in your later years, gives us baby boomers hope lol!! The madly in love wont last but lets hope a realistic and long lasting love develops once the rose coloured glasses have fallen off...
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 94 (view)
 
Is dating harder for men or women?
Posted: 8/13/2018 7:59:58 PM
Henry attracts younger women? Not my impression. He would have to be spending money and dancing attendance for sure..
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 47 (view)
 
How Long Should You Date Someone Before Moving In Together?
Posted: 8/13/2018 7:56:23 PM
I agree that two years would be sensible but those I know dont wait that long before co-habiting. Mostly it is for financial reasons.
Living together day by day soon takes the romance out of it all and is a real test for moving to a mature more realistic love which often falters....
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 373 (view)
 
Women making the first move...
Posted: 8/12/2018 9:56:25 PM
down through the ages women have given signals to a man that she is interested. If he does not pick those up and act on them, bad luck to him. Why men approach women who have shown no interest always puzzles me. Men not as adept at body language as women????
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 126 (view)
 
Do nice guys finish last?
Posted: 8/12/2018 9:33:17 PM
Being a nice person does not mean you are weak or broken. Being used and allowing yourself to be abused for fear of losing someone however is unhealthy. I would not want anyone who was not kind and nice. Some men are nice as they have an agenda and women soon pick up on that..
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 90 (view)
 
My senior citizen aged boyfriend has slept with 150 women; Why do I feel put off?
Posted: 8/10/2018 6:41:43 PM
whether he slept with all those women or just bragging you dont know. Why are you bothering with the man who is older and obviously not the faithful kind. Any man who will comment on another woman in front of me more than once, would soon be gone. He wants someone now to be his servant and ultimately carer I would say. How is he in bed. Can he perform? I would at the least make sure he has no STD's.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Safe Dating
Posted: 8/9/2018 9:39:49 PM
the story of the woman who dated a guy four times... he stalked her for 13 years and ruined her reputation with false websites etc....
She had gone on to marry and had a child. Madness knows no bounds!!!!!. Another one who told the guy it was not working out after a few dates. He was walking past her house, broke in and killed her in front of her child..... Another who invited a guy into her house although she was not interested but felt sorry for him. He tried to kill her after being rejected for sex.... Women do take foolish risks
and need always to be wary no matter how nice a guy may be. The most charming attractive man can be a psychopath.


I dont know any woman in my life who has dated who has not been pressured or even forced for sex she was not ready for. Online dating is more risky because you dont always know their background, their friends or family at the outset. Men who have it going on dont have to lurk in these murky waters and I would not bother with sites like these.
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 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 11 (view)
 
My ex boyfriend is spreading nasty rumours about me .. how can I handle this??
Posted: 8/9/2018 9:31:15 PM
Ignore it all. Dont react. Your true friends will know the truth. People soon move on to something else and it will soon be forgotten. I dont know how old you are but I would not let these lies and rumours impact your life.
 letitialegrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 193 (view)
 
When did asking your bra size become socially acceptable?
Posted: 8/8/2018 4:53:42 PM
wildlifelover
I call bullshit on that, we do care about appearances, and men do want to know if we are employed, our activities and so on if they are half way decent and intelligent...You are talking about yourself.
 
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