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 Author Thread: 60-ish men with toddlers ...
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 53 (view)
 
60-ish men with toddlers ...
Posted: 9/15/2015 4:34:10 PM
You win, sunnygal ... I'm not discussing anything with a right-fighter.

I'll just agree to disagree with you and you can do the same.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 50 (view)
 
60-ish men with toddlers ...
Posted: 9/15/2015 1:51:29 PM
"the mean-spirited way this thread was contrived to poke fun at older men who had trophy wives and then lost them.."

Seriously? How do you come up with your special spin on this subject? YOU are the only person who thinks I was poking fun because you're overly-sensitive on this subject. I was merely commenting on the number of middle-aged men with toddlers I encounter, especially now that I've had to add that to my profile as a dealbreaker along with smokers and drunks. Quite frankly, I think these guys choose grandmothers like myself since we most likely have young grandchildren and might be more welcoming to someone with young kids because they know their chances at landing another younger woman is slim-to-none. Just my theory -- you don't have to like it or agree with me.

As most posters have stated, these men should know better and it should come as no surprise when the wife leaves them for someone more age appropriate. Water always finds it's own level.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Missing Teeth
Posted: 9/14/2015 11:29:19 AM
Teeth are mandatory. I don't care if they're dentures or natural teeth, but there has to be something there in that gaping yaw lol

I unknowingly met a man with no teeth years ago. None. No dentures -- nothing. I actually didn't realize it at first because he had a big wooly beard (didn't know this either -- he was clean-shaven in his picture). But I noticed he seemed to have a speech impediment when ordering his food. No big deal -- none of us is perfect. However, when the food came and I saw him gumming an ear of corn, that was when I realized he had no teeth. It was hard to watch.

He asked me out again, but I declined. I didn't say why.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 35 (view)
 
60-ish men with toddlers ...
Posted: 9/14/2015 5:00:05 AM
Look, sunnygal, I have no issue with you. My thread wasn't "mocking" any older person with young kids. But really, how chronic is the problem when I actually have to add that phrase to my profile?
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Mail order brides, take 2
Posted: 9/13/2015 8:40:03 AM
I've never gone the mail-order-groom route for the same reason I don't write to prisoners looking for love. If I can't find a guy here, I probably don't need one. And I certainly don't need one who's incarcerated.

I do, however, know two guys who got Russian mail-order brides. Both older men, one reasonably wealthy and both brides were much younger women. The rich guy's wife drained his bank account in no time, sending money to relatives in Russia and bankrolling her shopping. The other guy's wife left him within 6 months and went somewhere. He can't find her. So I guess they're still legally married until she surfaces.

I don't know why people would take this route, but whatever floats your boat. I know a lot of men see foreign women as more submissive than American women and maybe that's the attraction. The culture and/or language clash would be enough to dissuade me.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 27 (view)
 
60-ish men with toddlers ...
Posted: 9/13/2015 8:25:29 AM
Thanks for your input "passionatesunnygal" lol

I'll send all the old guys with toddlers your way.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 2 (view)
 
so phone numbers given out or not, that is the question ?
Posted: 9/11/2015 1:48:44 PM
I have a theory, based on my own similar experiences. Men like to collect numbers -- kind of like saving them for a dry spell, for lack of better explanation. They're really not that interested, but they might be at some point if no one better comes along. So they'll continue pursuing other women and when their dream girl doesn't pan out, they go back to the back-burner girls. Then, out of nowhere, you'll get a text that says "hey baby" ... and you'll have no idea who they are. Then they'll get mad because you don't remember them.

It's all part of some silly game I guess. Like I said, this is just my theory lol
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 118 (view)
 
Should Davis, the Court Clerk, Be in Jail
Posted: 9/11/2015 1:35:01 PM
That self-righteous busy-body had no business trying to force her personal beliefs on the public. And she went directly against a Supreme Court ruling.

She wasn't doing the job she was hired to do, so I think she should have been fired.

Now I hear she's comparing herself to Rosa Parks. Gimme a break.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 5 (view)
 
60-ish men with toddlers ...
Posted: 9/11/2015 12:41:52 PM
^^^We didn't get that far into the discussion. I suppose legally she would be required to pay child support, but I imagine most of these men are wealthy.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 1 (view)
 
60-ish men with toddlers ...
Posted: 9/11/2015 8:23:10 AM
I don't get too many messages, but in the past 48 hours I've received messages from two men my age with TODDLERS. One had twin 3-year-old boys (he's 61) and the other has a 2-year-old daughter (he's 59). Now, I love kids -- don't get me wrong. But these kids are younger than my grandkids. And I know these guys are just overwhelmed, exhausted and probably looking for help and/or support. The guy with the 3-year-old boys has custody as the mother left him for a guy her age. And she was in her 30's. Now, at 61, he's getting kids ready for daycare before he goes to work!

Trying to follow the train of thought here ... middle-aged man gets trophy wife. Trophy wife wants kids. He thinks trophy wife will stick around if they have said kid. Trophy wife bolts. Old guy gets stuck with kids and/or alimony and child support til he dies. How does this ever seem like a good idea?

I'm sure other people have experiences like this. And I really hate to have to tell these guys I'm not interested in raising small children, but I'm not. That's a job best left to the youngsters.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 10 (view)
 
What's your online flirting comfort zone?
Posted: 9/6/2015 6:14:48 AM
NJGirl, here's the conversation yesterday morning (we've emailed a couple of times before, but not met in person):

Him: Morning, sexy.
Me: Hi, happy Saturday. What's up today? (OK, I shouldn't have phrased it that way obviously.)
Him: Why don't you come over and check out my 8" of throbbing**** When's the last time you got any? (I'm thinking too much porn.)
Me: Hey look, I need to run. I can see this conversation is already in the proverbial gutter. I don't know you and am not discussing my sex life with a stranger.
Him: Lighten up and take the stick out of your ass -- I was just flirting.

Angry and horny is never a good combination. I hope he discovers that soon.

I might add that I did offer my phone number to him months ago when he seemed normal, and he declined due to the number of stalkers he'd encountered. I just laughed -- he's about as average as homemade soap ... stalkers pfffttttt lol
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 9 (view)
 
I am unable to respond to someone sending me messages. .. help
Posted: 9/5/2015 4:39:43 PM
I like motown's suggestion -- provided he goes back and re-reads your profile that would work.

There's a guy who messages me about once a week who blocked me a long time ago for reasons I am unaware. He keeps asking me why I won't respond -- am I mad?

Now, at this point, I gotta ask myself: Do I really want to talk to someone who has no idea he blocked me? And you can't do that accidentally, as we all know.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 6 (view)
 
What's your online flirting comfort zone?
Posted: 9/5/2015 4:28:38 PM
^^^You probably should stay completely away from any chick named "Delta of Venus" ;)
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 4 (view)
 
What's your online flirting comfort zone?
Posted: 9/5/2015 4:26:36 PM
AdventureJoe -- I agree with that. Flirting is vital for developing chemistry. I love flirting ... after I meet someone in person and feel we have that little spark. This guy just had no filter and apparently couldn't help himself -- he actually must have believed that was the way to do it. I wonder if there's a book called "flirting for dummies" lol
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 1 (view)
 
What's your online "flirting" comfort zone?
Posted: 9/5/2015 4:13:51 PM
I'm not talking about those messages all women get ... hey baby; hey sexy ... calling you sugar, sweetie, darlin or hun. What about the ones that are very sexually suggestive? And I'm talking about messages from people you've never met but maybe have had a little email contact. I'm not a prude, but a guy did this to me earlier and it made me really uncomfortable. I mentioned it to him and he told me to "get the stick outta my ass -- he was just flirting." Obviously, I lost all interest in him at that point. I wanted to tell him that most women won't respond favorably to that, but I just let it go -- he needs to find out on his own.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Violence and Women
Posted: 9/3/2015 10:54:15 AM
I'm very fortunate to have never been a victim of any sort of abuse or violence. I credit my mother, who is one of the strongest women I know, who taught me and my sisters to never allow anyone to treat us badly and that it was OK to tell if anything did ever happen.

I learned years later that she was speaking from her own experiences as a child being molested and abused by her stepfather. She wasn't about to let that happen to any of her daughters.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Another chance?
Posted: 9/1/2015 2:06:00 PM
I'm generally a few minutes early wherever I go so chronic lateness annoys me a bit, but I do realize 90% of the people in the world run late to everything so I'd let it slide for a while. However, planning to meet at noon and getting a couple of "running late" texts due to being with other friends and wanting to postpone further, well, that could be a dealbreaker. Depends on how much you like him -- maybe you could have a little come to Jesus talk to discuss the lateness?
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 10 (view)
 
I need to block a user from seeing me, very important. How?
Posted: 9/1/2015 11:29:31 AM
I have a guy who adds me constantly. Never has messaged me. I guess he just like to know when I'm on line. That's a little creepy.

I just continuously delete him. Of course he adds himself back and I delete him again. It's become some sort of sick game lol

Try that with your stalker ex-boyfriend. He'll get tired of it after a while. Or, like someone else said, keep changing your screen name.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 19 (view)
 
When a coworker finds your profile
Posted: 9/1/2015 8:03:22 AM
No big surprise, OP. You're a cute young girl -- you're middle-aged crazy's wet dream lol I understand how uncomfortable that makes you though. My daughter is close to your age and when someone old enough to be her dad hits on her, she tells them she already has a dad. When someone my dad's age hits on me, I tell them my mom is single and they'd probably have more in common with her lol
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 602 (view)
 
Caitlyn Jenner wants to be Bruce again
Posted: 8/31/2015 11:22:50 AM
I hate to admit this, but I was bored the other night and watched "I am Cait". Lo and behold, it was just as awful as I suspected. Bruce is all confused about how he's supposed to act. Well, duh -- he's a guy. And near as I can tell, he's had literally no psychiatric counseling nor do I believe he lived as a woman for a year or whatever amount of time is required before the official switcheroo.

I agree that he's having serious doubts about what he's done which is why he hasn't gone through with the genital surgery.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Is there any rational reasoning behind this?
Posted: 8/30/2015 4:05:00 PM
Whew, that's a lotta drama first off. Second, her ex just destroyed her emotionally so NOW she thinks she wants to give it a go with you after 10 years of yanking each other's chains? I'd pass on that, but that's just me. Unfortunately, to some people, the known evil seems more inviting than the unknown evil.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Are men genuinely 'actively seeking a relationship'?
Posted: 8/29/2015 2:10:22 PM
No, no, no lol -- y'all missed my point with the "good sex" disclaimer. I meant, once again, they're baiting you with what they think you want to hear; i.e.; give it up, if it's good, we might lock down. If not, I still got laid!

See how that works?
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Deleted User?
Posted: 8/29/2015 11:52:46 AM
Did he also provide a personal email because "he's rarely on this site?"

If so, he's probably a troll and you dodged a bullet. His next email would have contained a sob story about how his kid was run over by a truck in Ghana and he needs to get him to the U.S. to a good hospital and a request for money lol
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Are men genuinely 'actively seeking a relationship'?
Posted: 8/29/2015 11:45:52 AM
I realized a long time ago that men and woman use whatever bait necessary in their profiles to attract what they think the opposite sex is interested in. No man in his right mind is going to write he's just looking for sex. Instead, he writes he's seeking a relationship. He doesn't look like a dirtbag, seems sincere to women and they fall for it. Obviously, that ruse is discovered by the end of the first date.

Likewise, women say they love football or something else guy-related hobby, and when they find their rabid football fan, they complain about him watching football. I guess the moral of that story is to be careful what you ask for.

I'm sure there are men out there who genuinely desire a relationship and are willing to lay the proper groundwork to reach that, but by and large, people are just lazy when it comes to relationships -- they want what they want when they want it -- by any means necessary.

I've noticed most men in my age group "want to date but nothing serious" -- which translates to "hoping to get laid" to me. A lot of them also add disclaimers that allude to the fact they "might" be interested in a long-term relationship -- probably if the sex is good lol
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 45 (view)
 
What's the worst question you've been asked?
Posted: 8/28/2015 12:56:42 PM
^^^I actually asked him how deep his pockets were lol

In other words, if there's enough money involved ...
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 43 (view)
 
What's the worst question you've been asked?
Posted: 8/28/2015 12:51:57 PM
The worst question, bar none, I've ever been asked (I feel like this needs to be preceded by a drum roll lol):

"How are your deep-throating skills?"
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Unsolicited beauty advice ...
Posted: 8/27/2015 9:05:44 AM
Thank you all for your input. Hopefully that person has seen this post and won't offer up any more advice to anyone else. I'll admit I was a little hurt when I first read that message because I was so appalled that anyone would do such a thing, then I just got mad lol
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Unsolicited beauty advice ...
Posted: 8/26/2015 10:36:38 AM
I’m still baffled about what I’m about to tell y’all but here goes ... I recently got an email from a regular forum poster who took it upon herself to scrutinize my picture and told me in no uncertain terms how much I could improve my appearance and my life in general by getting a facelift! She even told me about all the procedures she’d had – and there were a bunch -- now “everyone” is fawning over her, telling her how amazing she looks – even has random doctors admiring her “work” ... because all men want the “pretty girls.” I’m apparently not a member of that exclusive club, but maybe I could be with a little work lol

I’ve had no prior conflict or disagreement with this person via a forum post, nor have we had any previous email communication. I didn’t ask for a profile or picture review. We are not “friends” – cyber or otherwise. But while I was pondering that message, I could hear Carly Simon singing “You’re So Vain.”

The reason I was so taken aback by this unwanted advice is because she knows nothing about me or my life. She’s completely unaware that I almost died after a liver transplant in 2004 and after being hospitalized many, many times pre-transplant and being in the ICU for 6 months post-transplant, a hospital is the last place on earth I’d voluntarily re-enter – not even for a free facelift. A second chance at life isn't granted to most people. I’m just happy and grateful to be alive. And it’s the kind of happiness a gallon of botox or a facelift can’t buy – it comes from within.

Quite frankly, the thought of allowing someone to slice on my face with a sharp instrument makes me nauseous. Somehow a “frozen” smile and expressionless eyes isn’t what I want to see when I look in the mirror. I decided a long time ago I was going to age gracefully or ungracefully, whatever God had planned for me. I’m certainly not opposed to plastic surgery to those of you who choose that route. That’s a personal decision. But why would a total stranger would feel impelled to impart such “advice” to another total stranger? I’m sure she thought she was helping and honestly, I’m kind of sad for anyone who has their self-esteem so wrapped up in their appearance and the approval of strangers.

Has anyone else received unsolicited beauty advice from a random stranger and how did you handle it?
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Good enough to sleep with but not good enough to be with
Posted: 8/20/2015 12:20:04 PM
This:

"Sex is just a lot better if the two people actually like and care about each other - you can't get that after only 8 non consecutive hours in each other's company."

If only we could get everyone to agree to it.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 33 (view)
 
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/20/2015 11:22:10 AM
"The real clincher for me and a big reason for this post/gripe, is a young lady and I were emailing each other and have/had interest... I had a birthday and now neither one of us is able to communicate with the other... I call BULL SHIT !"

If you were already communicating with someone POF wouldn't stop that communication. Maybe she blocked you?
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 98 (view)
 
No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 8/19/2015 11:13:55 AM
Dating spreadsheet = way too much time on your hands.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Reporting Forum Users??
Posted: 8/14/2015 1:34:43 PM
I don't think there's a way to report anyone since the moderators are gone. I saw an email address that I guess goes to the great and powerful Oz, but I doubt that would ever get answered.

But you're right about the profile reviews. The advice is basically be anyone but who you really are.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 8/13/2015 12:24:12 PM
I don't really like people touching me on the first date, but again, it always depends on the level of attraction. I'm normally very affectionate -- after I get to know someone.

My last date kept grabbing my hands across the table, calling me "hun" and then wanted me to sit on the same side of the booth as him ... not happenin'.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Annoying sounds and/or behavior?
Posted: 8/13/2015 10:18:42 AM
Really, the two things that annoy me are people blocking the aisles at the grocery store, standing there chatting or texting -- completely oblivious to people trying to get around them.

And the music at the Ross Stores. It's so freakin loud I can't even go in there anymore. It probably wouldn't be so bad if it was classic rock, but it generally goes hand-in-hand with whichever ethnic group is working on a particular day.

Oh,and hijacking my threads LOL
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Sending new contact MSGs?
Posted: 8/12/2015 2:33:49 PM
I haven't initiated a message in over 5 years.

I never got a response, so I figured the guys wanted to hunt, so they can have at it.

And I agree with the "dominant male" statement. I want the man to be the man in the relationship.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 94 (view)
 
Sarcastic or being Judgmental ??
Posted: 8/11/2015 11:35:06 AM
Unfortunately, sarcasm never translates well in text unless it's with someone who knows you really well, which would eliminate anyone you message on here.

You might have been better off if you'd replied "I've got the money, honey since you got the time."

Just a thought.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 32 (view)
 
do we need Nasa?
Posted: 8/11/2015 6:22:52 AM
When all the homelessness, starving children, disease, etc. is wiped out, then whatever is left they can use for space exploration. We've got too many problems here on Earth to worry about what's going on in space.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Is it just me, or is asking for more pics right off a turn off?
Posted: 8/10/2015 12:00:46 PM
OP, I got basically that same message this morning ... he asked me nothing about my interests or anything I said in my profile but right off the bat wanted more pictures so he could decide if we were a "match". And I might add, he certainly didn't walk out of a GQ photoshoot. I didn't even respond.

And like you, I've dated all kinds of guys as far as short, tall, chubby, thin. Basically, I'm looking for someone who I'm compatible with on all levels. Attraction is obviously important, but there is so much more to life. Kindness is very important to me also.

I believe I can say with 100% certainty that I've never asked a guy for more pictures. Ever.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Hijacking threads ...
Posted: 8/10/2015 10:11:39 AM
Do you ever click on a thread you think might be interesting only to find it's been hijacked 3-4 times and it's now a totally different topic?

My thread on the weird questions from my date somehow turned into a gun debate. Not quite sure where that went off the tracks.

Anyway, it's just annoying. How hard is it to start a new topic thread? Or is it because you already have a captive audience?
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 337 (view)
 
Whats the most TERRIBLE date you ever been on?
Posted: 8/9/2015 6:46:33 AM
Refer to my thread on "weird questions" ... weirdest/worst date ever. There was so much more I didn't post.

Long story short, he was looking for a very submissive woman who would fawn over him. Pretty sure that ain't me, babe lol
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Can I take a raincheck?
Posted: 8/6/2015 2:03:26 PM
Just asking for a raincheck without offering an alternate date is probably equal to they're just not into you.

But there's always the option to leave it open-ended and just say sure, whenever. But having said that, if you don't hear back from her within 2-3 days, I'd say she's not interested.

Of course, you could direct her here and we could put a good word in for you ;)
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 2 (view)
 
What are men in their 40's looking for
Posted: 8/6/2015 8:05:32 AM
The eternal question ... I don't know the answer. Wish I did.

I can tell you with almost 100% certainty that men my age are NOT looking for women my age.

Other than that, I'm all out of answers.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Adopting a dog ...
Posted: 8/4/2015 2:16:15 PM
^^^Msg. 6....Wow, someone is cranky.

I'm not discriminating or perpetuating hate for any breed. I merely said I prefer other breeds.

If you can't contribute something positive without being hateful, please don't reply to anything I post. Thanks.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Adopting a dog ...
Posted: 8/4/2015 12:00:49 PM
What if you want to adopt a dog and you have a friend who works for a pit bull rescue and she wants you to adopt a pit bull and you have no interest in a pit bull but she won't let it go? She keeps telling me they're safe, etc. And I'm sure 90% of them are perfectly sweet dogs. However, I just can't take that chance -- I have a very small Yorkie and I have grandkids. Maybe if I adopted it as a puppy, but I don't want to mess with a puppy so I'm looking for an older dog.

That's my predicament. Nothing personal. I just don't like pit bulls. I generally go for a fluffy, cuddly breed. I don't want to hurt my friend's feelings and honestly, I've never expressed to her any desire to adopt a pit bull so I don't know why she won't give it up. I know there are tons of them in shelters and I have my suspicions as to why there are so many of them. I hate to think of any of them being euthanized and I feel really bad about the whole thing.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 83 (view)
 
Weird questions
Posted: 8/4/2015 11:37:42 AM
Hey, I've got a great idea ... why don't y'all start a gun control thread? Thanks ;)
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Has a profile review ever worked for anyone?
Posted: 8/4/2015 7:45:01 AM
I had a review years ago and it didn't help at all. All of the suggestions were for me to change my basic personality, which is a little sarcastic. Sorry, at this stage of the game, what you see is what you get.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Weird questions
Posted: 8/4/2015 7:27:55 AM
^^^It's like "People of Wal-Mart" ... you just have to be in the wrong place at the right time.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Weird questions
Posted: 8/4/2015 6:41:54 AM
Well, here's the final nail in the wierd, inappropriate question coffin. I hadn't heard from him in a couple of days so I was hoping he just went back to fishing. But he called and I answered and he acted like none of that weirdness had even happened. He even called me "babe" and told me he was so glad he finally had a girlfriend -- umm, what?

So he gets right to the point and asks me if I can deep-throat ... WTF? Did I just hear that? I told him no and that I had a very strong gag reflex. So he proceeds to tell me it just takes a lot of practice to get those muscles to relax. And I emphasize he said "a lot of practice" about 10 times. So, I'm totally grossed out and completely weirded out at this point ... mostly at the fact that he has zero clue as to how inappropriate this conversation is since we'd only been out twice. I even tried to explain to him how inappropriate it was but he wasn't having any of that.

I just ended up cutting him off -- I was quite sick of hearing about how much practice it was going to take lol I told him we weren't a good match and he proceeded to tell me what a catch he was and I was going to be sorry I didn't snag him when I had the chance.

It takes all kinds I suppose.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Being deceive of where they live quistion.
Posted: 8/3/2015 10:20:05 AM
OP, you're WAY overthinking the whole process. You can't tell anything about a future date, unless you're a mind reader. Nor do you have any way of knowing who's a fake, who's married or who's homeless wanting to use you for a flophouse.

You seem extremely paranoid, so maybe on-line dating (or dating in real life) isn't for you.
 MissScawlett
Joined: 3/26/2015
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Tell me something good ...
Posted: 8/3/2015 8:58:35 AM
I helped a lady in a wheelchair reach something off the shelf at Wal-Mart after I saw several other people ignoring her, reaching around her and never offering to help. She told me her husband had recently passed away and he used to do all the shopping. It takes so little effort to be nice. I don't know why it's so hard for people. After all, I could be that lady in the wheelchair one of these days. Something to think about.
 
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