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 Author Thread: When it comes to dating what best describes your intent?
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 71 (view)
When it comes to dating what best describes your intent?
Posted: 6/10/2010 9:13:37 AM
I was forced to choose in order to see any mail I had in my box.. Bad Idea, very bad.
as others have stated, this seems to change every now and then..

guess I can do what I deem is necessary on this site. Which at the moment I am contemplating just deleting, as I am forced to choose between things that are actually N/A at the moment.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
Do you ever take a perverse delight in your own disgustingness to younger generations?
Posted: 5/24/2010 9:18:52 PM
Yep I do it to my kids, and they are all over 18, well with the exception of my step daughter.
But they also like to think that they can out wit me at times, so it comes naturally to just one up them.

Even my nieces will attempt to out wit me.. lol

Have to remind them that "its not my first rodeo".
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
55th Annual Warm-Up Trail Ride / Oct 17-19 (Columbus, Tx)
Posted: 6/17/2009 1:41:35 PM
If I had a way to get there and a horse to ride, I would love to go.
Maybe one day in the future I will be able to join in on the horse rides.
Have not been riding in about 5 yrs..
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
POF words of wisdom....seriously!
Posted: 3/28/2009 12:51:48 AM
"I don't forgive people because I am weak,
I forgive them because I am strong enough
to know people make mistakes"

"You can't scare me, I have kids"
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 200 (view)
What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 3/26/2009 4:36:49 PM

What makes a woman over 40 sexy is wishful thinking.

I think this is where we're supposed to say bite me :)

Or you can say..
Kiss my what.. hmmmmm yea and on my birthday to.
Well you have about X amount of months to practice.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
POF words of wisdom....seriously!
Posted: 3/26/2009 7:48:36 AM
Another one I saw a lot to the kids when they say ... "I want to...."
I ask them.
How big is your want to?

I get the puzzled looks until I explain it to them.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
How often are you having sex and considering yourself to be single ?
Posted: 3/19/2009 1:15:53 AM
I do have it posted on my profile,
Ask me any question you want, I shall answer, may not be the answer you are looking for,
but I shall answer.

Lets see.. in the past 5 yrs.. hmmm slept with 2 men. neither one worked out.
When I am single like now. I forgo the sex until I am very comfortable with whom I am
getting to know and/or dating.
Went from January 2008 until September 2008 with out sex.
From Sept til Jan. I didn't consider myself single.
Last time I had sex with a man, was in January this year.

Now BOB is another story, he gets a work out about 3 times a week sometimes more, sometimes less..
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
POF words of wisdom....seriously!
Posted: 3/18/2009 10:56:07 PM
Thanks ZenBeth.

the graphic is here, I have the words in a note pad on my desktop.
I should get the graphic and put it with all the others in photobucket.. lol
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
POF words of wisdom....seriously!
Posted: 3/18/2009 10:23:09 PM
"Prepare for the worst and hope for the best" Author Unknown.

When doing this I find that my hope for the best always happened.
But should the worst happen I am prepared to handle it.

The forums have helped me alot, these last few months.

Girls are like apples on trees.
The best ones are at the top of the tree.
The boys don't want to reach for
the good ones because they are afraid
of falling and getting hurt.
Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground
that aren't as good, but easy.
So the apples at the top think something is wrong with
them, when in reality, they're amazing.
They just have to wait for the right
boy to come along, the one
who's brave enough
to climb
all the way
to the top
of the tree.

I have seen this a few places as well.

And my all time favorite has been
"We Come to Love Not by Finding the Perfect Person, but by
Learning to see an Imperfect Person Perfectly"
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
Teenagers and cell phone pics
Posted: 3/15/2009 3:13:03 PM
Mine is based on pure speculation and not to much over reaction.

But suppose it does go that far?

Now I so hope all that does happen is that the kids got the sh!t scared out of them,
they own up that they did wrong, they are suspended from school and grounded by their parents.

I do agree that it does raise awareness that IS needed.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
Teenagers and cell phone pics
Posted: 3/15/2009 2:00:46 PM

Or do you think a school suspension for the violation, meeting with parents where the possible ramifications are discussed would suffice.

Thank you, this is what should have happened in the first place.

Now the children face prosecution, not only by the courts, but by all of civilization.

And regardless of the fact it should be expunged from their files when they turn 18,
by the time it gets to court, the 17 yr old will more then likely be 18 and be tried as an

And it may just still be on their records for a long time afterwards, as some posters have
pointed out by their own files still being viewable at this time for something that happened
when they were in their teens.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 52 (view)
Teenage Shooting Sprees
Posted: 3/15/2009 10:16:17 AM

Get rid of the guns or have them security locked to remove them from temptation - I and many/most of my friends have never even set eyes on a 'real' gun in our day to day lives - why would you possibly want to own one - I just don't get it.................

Some of us use guns to hunt during hunting seasons. It puts food on our tables.
I do agree that guns when not in use should be locked up. But also People should be taught how to properly take care of guns. I grew up around them. None of us kids( and there are 6 of us) would even have thought to touch dad or mom's rifles or hand guns.
We had a healthy respect not only for the rifle and hand guns that helped put food on our tables, but also for our parents. Besides we would have gotten a good whippin if we had done so without an adult's permission and supervision.

Its not guns that kill people, its the person behind the gun that pulls the trigger that kill people.

I raised my daughter around guns, bow and arrow, and taught her how to use and respect them correctly. Not all kids are taught that. Just us country folks that depend on them to help put food on the table, and to defend ourselves against those who have no respect for anothers life.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
Teenagers and cell phone pics
Posted: 3/14/2009 12:59:49 AM

Am I the only one thinking they were very likely to be having sex?

No you are not, but that still does not justify them taking nude pictures, and sending them to their boyfriends, and the guy looking/showing them off during class hours.
When the rules of the school state, "No cell phones allowed to be turned on in class."

The lawyers may "win" this one, and stiffer laws will more then likely come out about "child pornography" since it is a felony, and may include how minors are handled in these situations.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
Teenagers and cell phone pics
Posted: 3/13/2009 3:27:53 PM
Sad but true footballmom77.

Its up to the parents now and the attorneys to involve the minors in what is going on and each step that is taken.

The minors need to be involved, each step of the way. They need to be educated as most adults do. In what their rights are. And they need to know why it was very wrong for the ladies to be taking nude pictures of themselves.

But what if any of these 6 individuals are 17 when they enter college, and now can't get into the dorms due to the sex offender status? Until they correct those laws to distinguish and exclude situations such as this and two high school seniors getting caught in the car where one is 18 and the other 17, it's simply overkill.

One of the students is 17. The laws do need to be changed, they need to establish boundaries to include minors.
They have on some of the felonies but not all of them.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
Teenagers and cell phone pics
Posted: 3/13/2009 2:51:27 PM

This is why (now were talking law and justice) search warrants have to be so very specific. Guess what happens when you find a bong in the corner of a garage when you have a search warrant to look for illegal weapons in the house? Anybody?

By law if a police officer, detective, or crime scene investigator come across a bong laying IN PLAIN VIEW in the corner of the garage, they have the right to confiscate it.
Its the Plain View doctrine. In most cases the garage is connected to the house.
So is actually a part of the house.
Besides I don't know many warrants looking for weapons in the house that would not include the garage area, and known vehicles on the premises.
I may be wrong and it would not be the first time.

Once a warrant is issued, police can search only the place specified for the items specified. However, if in the course of the search, police officers come across contraband or evidence of a crime not listed in the warrant, they can lawfully seize the unlisted items. A warrant is not always legally necessary, and a police officer may have information that allows the officer to make a warrantless entry.
Page 3 in this book .

Crime Scene Documentation:
A Realistic Approach to Investigating Crime Scenes
Criminal Investigations Series
Jean Goodall, Ph.D., Caral Hawks, B.S. 2004

As for cell phones in the school. It was confiscated by the teacher, turned over to the principle, who then went through the phone, found the photo, called the cops, who then went to the prosecutors, who are pressing charges.

Now I know that most cell phones, are flip phones, is someone going to tell me that the phone was left open through all those exchanges, with the photo sitting right there on top. umm I would assume the student closed the phone, therefore the principle had to open it, and then go through it, in order to find the photos.
To me that is a violation of the students 4th amendment rights.

The prosecutors maybe charging the students in order to bring the offense to all parents attention that this is going on. So that parents and students are more aware of what maybe happening in the schools. And to possible get the laws changed to include juveniles who break the child pornography law.

Now that parents are aware of it. What are the parents going to do to change their parenting strategies?
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
Happy single parent?
Posted: 3/13/2009 7:44:48 AM

What the heck is DIY?

DIY is Do It Yourself.

Like others have said, in time they will stop asking that particular question.

And since you do things DIY, they may start asking you how to do things.
Hence they will be asking different types of questions.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 220 (view)
DeadBeat Mothers
Posted: 3/13/2009 3:54:47 AM

Hey rock man. I thought since you're throwing personal insults maybe I ought to point out that this "wack job" has kids on the honor roll an you, a proclaimed single father, are a grandpa at 39. Hate to point out the obvious but who is doing their job as a parent? People who live in glass houses should not throw stones.

Quit your union job, go to school, get a real college education and learn how to think like a logical adult. Nobody on here is more "whiney" than you!

Ummm Daisy, I was a Grandmother at the age of 39, and I did a damn good job of raising my child. I guess that puts me right there with the other parents, who are now grandparents.

I also will be a grandmother this year also to my second grandchild.

Honestly all I have read is about the bitterness and hatred, I don't assume you or anyone talks about about the NCP in front of the children, I know that some folks just need a venting place and the forums for the most part is just that. A venting place.
Whether we all agree or not, or just agree to disagree.

Just be the best you can be, be safe, be well, and teach your children nothing but love, honor, respect, trust, honesty, and you shall be blessed with so much more as they grow up to be adults.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 199 (view)
Strip clubs and relationships
Posted: 3/12/2009 7:48:25 PM

The irony I see in this thread is that many of the women who are so self assured, progressive thinking, and liberal in their views that their guy going to a nudie joint doesn't bother them, won't accept communication from anyone who has messaged for an intimate encounter.

You hafta admit, that's kind of funny. It's okay for a guy to look at nubile, naked young women performing faux sex acts with inanimate objects, and rubbing themselves on a man's leg, but Lord help the poor guy who might actually have had the nerve to look for the real deal.

lol, usually the ones looking for intimate encounters, are usually either married, or dating someone...

And I am sorry but I do not do intimate encounters with married men or if they happen to be dating someone, and I sure do not want anything they may have from someone else they may have had. Even a condom does not prevent all STD's
And I do not have one night stands, ok not since I was in my late 20's
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 189 (view)
Strip clubs and relationships
Posted: 3/12/2009 6:48:52 PM

Its the women who meekly let men go and be aroused by other womens bodies, who lie to themselves that they dont mind that, who even accompany them, that are the truly insecure ones here. they are so terrified of doing anything or saying anything, that might make their man leave.

so verrrrry wrong about this statement.

Believe me when I say, I am so very NOT insecure about my sexuality.
I can give you my ex's phone number, he will be the first to tell you I have a habit of allowing my alligator mouth overload my parakeet a$$.
I am not afraid to live out on my own, may not like it, but I sure as hell am not afraid to do it.

hmmmm I still have yet to learn how to pole dance. Maybe that will be my next hobby to take up.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 66 (view)
Do you wish the worst for your ex?
Posted: 3/12/2009 8:33:36 AM
No I don't wish no ill will on my ex's.

Matter of fact when my first husband got remarried I was happy for him.
and when he almost lost his wife and new child, when the baby was born. I cried,
I would not wish that on anyone.

Each time I am told that my second husband might have found a new g/f, I wish them the

Even my last LTR, when I was told that he had a new G/F, I was happy for him also.

Live each day well, live each day to the fullest, be better then you were yesterday.

Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 115 (view)
Strip clubs and relationships
Posted: 3/12/2009 7:37:28 AM
I had a good laugh at some of the comments on here. Thank You all.

I'm fairly open minded about such things.

It did not bother me a bit if my SO/ Husband went .

And still would not bother me a bit even today. Men generally speaking will be looking
at every good looking lady out on the street, in a bar, on the computer,
or even at a strip club.

And I have no insecurities in the bedroom area.

My second husband used to go when the company he worked with, worked out of town.
So that might be once a month or even once every three months.

He didn't have a problem calling me and letting me know what the guys were doing,
but his boss sure did have problems when he got home.

And the only problem I did have was that the boss's wife would call me all drunk and
yelling and biatching about it for hours at a time.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 46 (view)
Advice on a sudden overdriven libido
Posted: 3/6/2009 7:49:41 AM
Boy I am glad I found this thread. Thanks for all the information. It was very
enlightening for one that is about to turn 43, I hit the increased libido about 3 yrs ago.

and yea its still going strong.

I think it is also one of the reasons I've now got insomnia (sp?).
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 92 (view)
Pictures of Young Children On Website
Posted: 3/5/2009 11:47:03 PM

If a parent feels posting photos of their children in their profiles is a suitable way of communication on POF, would they allow their children to then read postings in the forums the parent may have taken part in?

Since my ladies are all over 18 yes I would let them read here on the forum.
And yes my profile states I have 3 beautiful young ladies, also that I am a grandmother.

I do not have their photos posted on here.

You aren't bringing them with you when you meet are you???

Believe me when I say if they lived closer to me and I was out on a date, they more then likely would show up with or without an invitation if it was at someplace like I Hop or the local coffee shop. With the excuse " Hey Mom, I was in the neighborhood, and but I didn't realize you were at this particular coffee shop. But since I saw you thought to stop and say Hi." Yes this really did happen one day.

Just to make sure I was ok in person. And to check out the gentleman I am with.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
Playing Like Puppies... Do YOU know how to play?
Posted: 3/5/2009 12:35:11 PM

Toys in the store? Oh yeah, especially if they make noise. They need to "talk" to each other at once, even if they all say the same thing. How fast can we start them all before the first one stops?
The bouncy balls begging to be picked up and dribbled through the store or quickly tossed to your significant other.
The "try me" toys that insist upon being wound up or started with the on button so they can take a walk down the isle to visit the other toys

Oh yea I love to do this. the last LTR got to where he didn't want to take me out to the store because of it, which was kinda sad.
But I still to do this especially if I take the kids with me, they join in.

Food fights with my family, sisters new house, first holiday was Thanksgiving, hmm
Had most of the family over including my grandmother, and Uncles, guess what happen.
Yep food fight, the house was initiated with a good old fashion food fight.

Oh and who ever says someone in their 80's doesn't know how to have fun,
has not met my Grandmother yet. She has an arm on her.
Hit me with right in the butt with a big old yam, that was all gooey with the sauce.
Always remember to take spare clothes with me when I go to one of the family get togethers. and warn who ever happens to go with me. ( or maybe not)
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 1251 (view)
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 3/4/2009 8:48:02 AM

Your arguement is very good. You are right it can work out.

But I had a couple of these relationships. Everything was great until eventually the issue of having kids comes along.

At 42, I'm thinking I am pretty much done. At 32, he has lots of time to change his mind (even thought he may think otherwise at the time).

That is the main reason I want someone within my own age group. My youngest is 19, its been that long since I have been able to have kids.
And one of the reason the last relationship didn't work out.

I'm 42 now will be 43 in June. Would like to have someone that is between 39 and 49 maybe even 50. Anyone actually any older then that is getting to close to my mothers age, who will be 63 this month.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
Sucking during and after sex?
Posted: 3/3/2009 3:50:33 PM
Guess I am a rarity then..

But then again the last time I did that.. I didn't hear from him for while.

So its in my little box of surprises that will only happen if I am with a man for a few months,
along with a few others.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 353 (view)
The Kinky Test
Posted: 3/3/2009 10:25:08 AM
419 is my score.. lol.

401 to 500 You are definitely a kinky player.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
Would You Go Back To A Partner After They Emotionally and Physically Abused You?
Posted: 3/3/2009 7:05:34 AM
Mine was emotional abuse took me 4 years before I left him.
it is a long story one I will not get into on here. Its been 17 yrs since the last time I saw him.

And I do not have the inclination to see him. But I also have forgiven him for what he did to me. I know that when I make my next trip to Iowa to see my daughters and my soon to be new granddaughter I more then likely will see him again.

And even now I have some things that still bother me, at times I still have low self esteem and low self confidence. And to this day I am still working on over coming that part of me which was lost so long ago.

I have come a long ways since 1991. But like some others when out and about something is said or done, and it reverts back. But I am bouncing back quicker each time ...
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
One person clothed, another naked?
Posted: 3/3/2009 6:31:45 AM
Just remember ladies can run faster with dress up then man can with pants down.

In my last ltr I used to wait for him to get home, in nothing but my stockings, heels, and a short summer dress. He got a few surprises when that happened.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 122 (view)
Posted: 2/28/2009 10:04:04 PM
I happen to agree.. I love the feel of my stockings on my legs.

whether or not anyone else knows I have them on or not.
But that is all I wear.

I gave up pantyhose about 14 yrs ago.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
Would You Go Back To A Partner After They Emotionally and Physically Abused You?
Posted: 2/28/2009 5:26:34 PM
NO. I would not even consider it.
Alright so I did consider it with my first marriage.
But declined because I knew he would not be changing.

I have seen my mother abused so much by her alcoholic husbands,
that all it would take is for a man to hit me like that.
I would be gone, and they would be in the hospital or in the morgue.

And is one of the reasons I don't drink.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
When down and out who are your true friends?
Posted: 2/28/2009 4:48:25 PM
I have about 3 true friends, that I can call at anytime if I have a problem, and they call me.
We don't pull no punches with each other.

2 are male and 1 is female.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 33 (view)
What was your biggest food/meal disaster?
Posted: 2/27/2009 1:21:03 PM
Was when I was learning to bake biscuits from scratch..

We wound up using them for skeet practice..
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
Any other guys out there who do this.....
Posted: 2/26/2009 8:20:39 PM
I usually ask if there is anything the man may want during or after sex. Tall glass of ice water is usually what is setting next to the bed for him when we are done.

Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
Yours, His, Her's Trademark or Signature Lovemaking Move?
Posted: 2/26/2009 8:19:02 PM
Knowing how to ride.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
Do any of you in your 40s ever feel like a fish out of water in the dating scene?
Posted: 2/25/2009 4:45:37 PM
lol.. whats a date.. the last one I was on was a walk through a park..
good times last year.

So I am just hanging around.. Go for walks by myself now, which is alright.
But would be better if someone else wanted to walk with me. Either way its all good.

I think I scared the last one off..
actually all he wanted was an FWB and I didn't .
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 214 (view)
Sexiest occupation (job profession)
Posted: 2/25/2009 2:09:05 PM
Ranchers, farmers, horsemen, cowmen, along with construction workers.

Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 121 (view)
Posted: 2/23/2009 12:10:52 PM
I will mark my calendar and keep an eye on the forum..
But no guarantees as to if I can go yet, that will have to wait until it gets closer to July.

And its also posted in the events area of the mail page under Local events.
Found it last night.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 102 (view)
A fun game I got off another site
Posted: 2/23/2009 1:15:44 AM
"Black Widow Woman" during sex

"Why Don't You Stay" during sex.

Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
Do I tell Mom? I think it's my daughter's place here...
Posted: 1/26/2009 12:39:30 AM
My eldest became sexually active at 13, I was shocked to beat all hell when it happened.
My second husband told her, "come home pregnant and your out of here"
I told him" YOU will be out of here before she is"
therefore I started doing this which is in quotes.
She never came home pregnant. She is now 26 yrs old, has a 3 yr old little boy, and is in
a stable relationship with my grandsons father. They have been together for about 7 yrs.

Now I raised a young lady that I am very proud of. I also have 2 other daughters that were raised by their father. My middle daughter just turned 21 and is pregnant.
My youngest I am hoping will wait a few more years before she decides to get pregnant.
She is 19.

This was back in the 90's, when I started doing this.

Here is something that no parent wants to think about. lol I sure didn't. KIDS will have sex.

Keep a box of condoms around preferably in your bathroom. WANT know how to embarrass a young man. On your way out of the room, Ask him for the old condom in his wallet, and when you get back take the old one, give him a new one. Tell him that it DOES NOT give him permission to sleep with your Daughter but just in case it does happen at least you know that they are both protected. And if needed keep some in the guest bathroom, let them know where they are at. You would be surprised at the new respect you will gain from them.

AM I bad or what.. hehehehe. Embarrassed more then one young man doing that and Dawn use to complain that I was no good with her love life..Made me smile..

I also kept a rusty old steak knife above the sink.. One day a young man
asked me why.. Told him.. "Touch my daughter, without her permission .. I do know how to turn a bull into a cow. "
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
how much imperfection can you take?
Posted: 1/25/2009 7:46:21 PM
One of my favorite quotes

"We come not to love a perfect person, but to Love an imperfect person perfectly"
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
Dating people from different cultural backgrounds
Posted: 1/19/2009 9:20:19 PM
Unfortunately when folks do see a gentlemen or young lady from India, out with someone
else from another cultural back ground.. Some still have Sept 11th, in the back of their

But no I for one do not see anything wrong with you dating or seeing this young man from
India. Their customs are really different, and very unique. A great learning experience.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
Hope during these tough times
Posted: 1/8/2009 2:02:51 PM
Only reason it would hurt the porn industry,
is because people are not "paying" for the magazines as much or
"paying" for the porn websites..

Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 100 (view)
How many times a day can you handle havin sex??!!!
Posted: 1/6/2009 5:41:47 PM
lol.. ummm from 11pm till about 3am... 4 to 5 times..

yes it was a great night..
And we both slept like babies afterwards.. all cuddled up against each other.

Told him if he woke up again to just take it..
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 48 (view)
I don't think anyone has enjoyed the 69 position since 1969.
Posted: 1/5/2009 9:14:41 PM
I enjoy doing the 69 position..
it has its gives and takes on who forgets the most about what they are suppose to be doing

its all about taking our time and pleasuring each others bodies.. hmmm oh yea..
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 34 (view)
question about no sex desire- honest and realistic answers only
Posted: 1/3/2009 12:04:37 PM
I'm posting this without reading all the responses..

my Aunt and Uncle had this going on.. they love each other dearly, but the physical side
she has had no interest in for over 30 yrs.. Are they still married Yes..
Now we are not expecting my aunt to live much longer, although she is a fighter..
She is now in a nursing home..
They have had separate bedrooms for as long as I can remember.

Now I do tease him, about chasing the nurses around when he goes to visit her..
he is in his 70's I do believe.. But he told me a long time ago, that yes he had not stopped
his sexual exploits, he cheated, not proud of it, but it was a solution to him at the time.

He didn't want to leave her, the mother of his children, just because she no longer wanted
to have sex. They have stood by each other through thick and thin..
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 85 (view)
When someone points out that you're old..
Posted: 1/3/2009 11:34:16 AM

When someone points out that you're old..

Thats usually when I call them a " Young whipper snapper" or a "young puppy"

been there done that.. lol
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Msg: 183 (view)
Do You Believe In Ghosts?
Posted: 1/1/2009 6:25:56 PM
Yep I do believe in ghost..
His name is George.. Anytime something happens and I can not find a good explanation
for it happening.. well "George did it"

But seriously Yes I do believe in ghosts.
And I also have a few Guardian Angels looking after me.
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 106 (view)
DeadBeat Mothers
Posted: 12/30/2008 9:56:47 AM
Kudos to all the men..

I guess I would be considered a dead beat mom, but under different circumstances..
When I left my first husband, I took all 3 of my girls, and a puppy dog at 3 am in the morning. It was an abusive situation for me and my eldest daughter. They were always
putting us down, and we could never do anything right. Mental abuse..

Drove from Iowa to Colorado. Well guess who followed with his mother and one of his
brothers.. Lied to me, and my folks. Took his daughters back to Iowa.
Called me 4 days later telling me that if my eldest had been home he would have taken
her to. She happen to be in school already.
I saw them again the following year, for Valentines day. BUT the only way I could see them
was if I signed some papers.. In other words he used my daughters to get what he wanted.
He knew those girls are my life.
So I signed them, my fault for not reading all of it, but he got custody of our daughters,
at the time I did not have to pay child support, I was barely working in a bar at the time.

So Had little money. and very few re sources. I sent them presents, and called on occassion for 2 yrs.. I got told by his mom and his self, to leave well enough alone, that the only way I
was going to see my girls was on their terms.. The only way I was going to talk to my girls was on their terms..
So for 17 yrs I cried more times then not for missing them... Luckily I had my oldest child to also take care of.. I finally got to talk to them for the first time last year and met
my youngest daughter.
You can call my anything you like, but let me tell you, its not anything I haven't called myself over the years..
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 60 (view)
Would Single Moms Do it over Again?
Posted: 12/30/2008 9:30:44 AM
That would depend on the circumstances.. See and Sun..

Here is the scenario.. I went out looking for my brother one night. I met up with 3 of his
so called friends, that said they knew where he was at. So I got into their car. Needless to say
we never found my brother, but I was raped by all 3 of them.

That was the year I turned 16. So at that point I was 15 yrs old..
I found out I was pregnant when I was 3.5 months along, I had no morning sickness, or
any of the other signs... How did I find out, I fell off my Uncles Horse.

after I turned 16, that was in 1982. I'm the eldest of 6 kids, so I already knew what was
involved in having a child. And on Jan 4th, 1983 I had a 7.5 lb baby girl, who was 21 inches long..

Everyone is right, without the family and friends supporting you and your decision,
It will be even more tougher, and yet just as rewarding.

My mother told me it was my choice on whether I had an abortion. I just couldn't do it.
It was not the childs fault that she was growing inside of me.
Did I ever blame her, NO that is stupid.. I have had a few people tell me I sound as if I
was proud of being raped, I said NO I was not proud of that.. I was damn proud of my daughter. Just because I never knew who her father was, yea I was called all kinds of things..
I only had about a week maybe two to decide. She is now 25 yrs old, and has a 2 yr old of her own.. Would I do it all over again.. You bet your sweet bottom I would.. She is my life and my anchor.

I have 2 other daughters by my 1st marriage.
I would not change that either. They are 21 and 19 now. I love all 3 of my girls.
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