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 Author Thread: The three things that a man wants in a mate...
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 117 (view)
 
The three things that a man wants in a mate...
Posted: 8/6/2009 7:03:34 AM
Most men ( i'd say 99.9% that I know)........want a lady in public......( pretty, smart, manners.. ect)........and a slut in the bedroom..... ( aka the next porn star).....LOLOL


nothin wrong with that men.....to be honest.....most of us women want the same thing in a man.......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 150 (view)
 
Would you marry a porn star?
Posted: 5/9/2009 4:59:40 PM
Nope..........reason being.....when he gets up and showers to go to work....I really dont want him going off to screw a bunch of other women ..... I'm not generous enough to share a man......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 225 (view)
 
Does anyone like being alone better? Can you take or leave having a relationship?
Posted: 5/9/2009 4:54:12 PM
I think this feeling comes with age.....i've noticed the older I get.....I dont feel the need to be in a serious relationship or have to have someone around all the time....I think having someone to do things with and date and even spend some nights together is great.....but as others said.....after a few days its a relief when they go home and you can put on your footie pajamas and take the remote back and relax....

I just think if you have been on your own for awhile you get set in certain ways and then its hard to change that.....its almost like your space gets invaded.....

who knows!......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
How do you put aside your feelings when you're upset?
Posted: 5/7/2009 11:07:36 AM
Why dont you concentrate on your new job and not so much on someone who is interested in someone else........you are on this site so start fishin
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 57 (view)
 
If you found out he used an escort
Posted: 5/7/2009 11:03:06 AM
Just remember one thing.......everyone has a past......going out with an escort is like going out on a date and getting laid at the end......difference is.......the people that do the escort....were dumb enough to pay for it.....

no its not a deal breaker....the past should be left there....i'd worry about if he was doing it in the present.....thats another topic.......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Are we to demanding?
Posted: 5/7/2009 10:58:34 AM
Relationships are about compromise......you cant always take take take......you have to be able to give a little......I will admit that I am probably about as stubborn as they get and honestly I like getting my way about things......but......when you get older and grow up you realize that always wanting and never bending a little is never going to work and honestly its not fair to the other person......

of course there are a few things I wouldnt budge on and those are .... someone that would harm a child or animal.....or someone that uses excessive alcohol or does drugs or is abusive......those are normal things that I believe no one should tolerate......

but if you are not going to date someone because they like country music......then you have alot to learn..... thats JMO......and all I can say is.... good luck!
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
flirting by text message
Posted: 5/7/2009 10:48:06 AM
after a few messages back and forth....i'd say....if you want to talk to me then call.....and i'd stop responding......text messaging is what kids do.......adults should be able to communicate on the phone and in person........
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
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flirting by text message
Posted: 5/7/2009 10:21:09 AM
Honestly.......I believe that emails and text messages are very impersonal......if you are in a relationship already and sending a text to just say hi that you are thinking of them.....or to find out what time to meet after work and cant use the phone to call at that time thats one thing... but ...if you are just getting to know someone I believe you should pick up the phone and actually talk to them so they can hear your voice...I personally wouldnt want someone who I am just getting to know to flirt with me via text......i'd want him to call....but thats me JMO......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
should i say something to her
Posted: 5/7/2009 10:07:33 AM
you have nothing to lose and everything to gain........Go For It!
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Desire vs. Fetish
Posted: 5/7/2009 10:02:50 AM
A desire and a fetish are two different things IMO.......

When you desire something ( a person) you want to be with them because you are attracted for one reason or another......

When you have a fantasy for instance having your man stip in front of you.....thats sexual and desirable.....

When you have a fetish.... ( cross dressing for instance)......you want to see your man wearing your bra and underwear.......thats weird!

desires and fantasies are part of relationships ....

fetish's are a bit over the top for me......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Is this true among women?
Posted: 5/7/2009 9:42:57 AM
I would never do something like that to a good friend.......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
blunt
Posted: 5/7/2009 9:38:41 AM
Actually I think it means dont fk with me or i'll be more then happy to tell you about it......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Stay at home moms, am I being fair?
Posted: 5/7/2009 9:37:19 AM
If things are so bad there are a number of things you can do.......one.....talk to your wife and try and work things out together and if that dosent work.......get some marriage counceling.....and if that dosent work......get a divorce......going out and having an affair will not fix your problems.....

I hate to say it but its guys like you that make things hard for the nice guys out there who are honestly looking for someone........
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Does Fun always have to = Partying and Drinking?
Posted: 5/7/2009 9:31:22 AM
There comes a time in everyones life its time to grow up......if you get to my age 44 and your life is still about going out every weekend and getting plastered.....I believe you need some sort of treatment......there are alot of women that go out on occasion and have fun but dont have the need to do it all the time......you just arent looking in the right places......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Love vs in love
Posted: 5/7/2009 9:22:48 AM
This sounds to me like a relationship of great friends.......its fine if you choose to live more as roommates ......but to be exclusive with this type of relationship in my opinion will never make anyone truely happy.....its just settling.....I personally.....dont ever want to settle..... JMO
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Did you ever date someone with foot odor?
Posted: 5/7/2009 9:07:31 AM
I believe it would be better having someone with stinky feet as opposed to other stinky parts......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
What would your gut tell you about this?
Posted: 5/7/2009 9:03:44 AM
I believe it would be a little strange going back.....but the only reason I would understand you not wanting to go is if your ex still lived there and you didnt want to run into him......otherwise whats the big deal.....if someone acted like that I would believe they have issues they need to work out and i'd say call me when you have......

its just a building !
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Somebody Normal
Posted: 5/7/2009 8:56:01 AM
Alot of people on these dating sites ( I did say alot not all)......I believe are looking for sex......so honestly.......they dont care if someone is normal or not.......in fact they are probably more interested in freaky....


finding " the normal one" on these sites I believe is like finding a needle in a haystack!

possible....but rare......JMO
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Joint Bank Accounts Good or Bad Idea
Posted: 5/6/2009 8:02:57 PM
I think the only thing a joint bank account is good for are the bills......each person should contribute to the household funds and the rest is yours to do with as you wish.......saves alot of trouble over money issues in the long run......

alot will disagree and thats ok but ive done it both ways .....and having a separate account worked best for me......JMO
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
I need some advice. How do I encourage a response better?
Posted: 5/6/2009 6:08:23 AM
Its simple.......if you have written several letters which you know she has read and not responded too.........shes not interested......if she had time to read them she would of had time to respond.........go back to fishing.......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Money money money
Posted: 5/6/2009 6:00:26 AM
Just email them.....you wont know anything until you start to communicate and find out what they are really looking for.......if they want security in the sense of having a good relationship and the fact that they dont want to have to take care of a man......thats the norm I believe......but if they want someone t hats going to have to work like a dog so they can stay home or hang out at the spa or the mall all day spending all the money........then you need to run not walk......


you'll never know until you ask......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
What's Wrong With Women's Necks?
Posted: 5/4/2009 3:51:38 PM
Mine is just plain heavy from trying to absorb all these foolish questions that ( some ) of you men ask.........
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 98 (view)
 
Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 5/4/2009 3:45:02 PM
I would never make a good serial dater........My personal belief is that if you meet someone and there is good conversation and possibly a small spark then you have to go on several dates to see if there is a possibility of anything further.......and in order to give someone a fair chance how can you date a bunch of others at the same time.....
when you do that you have to remember what this one said.....what this one likes......where you took that one.....to me thats to much....If you cant pull yourself away for a few dates with just one person then there is something wrong....
If you dont honestly give someone a chance to get to know them then you are never going to find a good relationship......and isnt that what everyone says they want????





JMO
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Leaving occupation blank.
Posted: 5/4/2009 3:38:15 PM
I dont care what someones occupation is..........as long as they earn their own income and are not lazy and looking for a sugarmama.......because if they are....i'm not her.....

 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
should i stay trying to get local or try for ?
Posted: 5/4/2009 3:21:02 PM
If you have the cash to travel to Russia for your meetings then I say go for it......otherwise.....you might want to stay local....
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Finally got the girl... Now dont know what to do, please help.
Posted: 5/4/2009 3:19:27 PM
I believe there is always a chance.......especially if she didnt push you away when you tried to kiss her.....maybe shes just not ready for a relationship yet ......so if you are really interested just respect her wishes and remain friends for now.......if it works ok and if you meet someone else then move on.......but I would not push......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Single question
Posted: 5/4/2009 3:14:48 PM
Well sometimes lack of communication translates as not interested especially if you have just begun to go out and all the sudden you are going days with no contact......i'll be happy to give you some advice to say that ( most women) do love attention and there are ways to give it without seeming needy, controlling or just a pain in the as s...


and just a little fyi......men do the exact same thing......I believe being there are so many other men and women on here available its hard to pin one person down for an actual relationship.......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
do any women really want to meet someone?
Posted: 5/4/2009 3:10:11 PM
Me personally......I send some sort of reply to an email ....even if i'm not interested.......just common courtesy IMO.......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Long Hair
Posted: 5/4/2009 3:05:32 PM
Long hair on a man......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 61 (view)
 
4 months on and still pining
Posted: 5/4/2009 2:55:48 PM
He wanted you when things were fun and then someone else came along that was a little more fun then you were so he jumped off your boat and onto hers.......and after her boat sank he wanted to jump back on yours.......its called being immature and not knowing what you want so you play games with whoever will let you......

sorry to say.......you let him then and apparently you are about to start all over again.......if you get hurt again.......you have no one to blame but yourself.....

remember no one can do anything to you that you dont allow them to.......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 55 (view)
 
I just dont understand females of any age
Posted: 5/4/2009 2:47:04 PM
You dont really think any of them were interested.......women like to have fun when they go out as much as men do......maybe they were just havin fun on vacation and bar hopping and each taking a turn to see who could score first......and you just happened to be easy prey.......sounds bad but probably true.......better luck next time.....
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Why am I Having Irrational Thoughts?
Posted: 4/28/2009 7:03:05 AM
People always want things they cant have........

just like if you diet.......normally you might not like icecream much.....but try and lose 10 lbs once and I bet the first thing you crave is a banana split!!!!!
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
a wtf question
Posted: 4/28/2009 7:00:09 AM
You are looking at things the right way.......

she knew exactly what kind of attention the shirt was going to bring thats why she wore it.......and regardless of how she acted.......she loved every minute of that attention regardless of what she said.....

women dont wear things just at random......when we put something like that on......we know men will look......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
What's in a name?
Posted: 4/28/2009 6:42:18 AM
Dating is like feeling the water before you jump in.......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 131 (view)
 
What are we doing?
Posted: 4/28/2009 6:28:47 AM
I think after we get a certain age first off we grow up and with doing that we look at someone as more of a potential partner instead of just a piece of as s...........
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Do more men respond than ladies?
Posted: 4/28/2009 6:10:59 AM
who cares who responds more.......I worry about myself...as everyone should...if I would be interested in someone i'd email them......if they respond.....great.....and if they dont.......I sure dont take it as a rejection.....I take it as......thanks for letting me know up front so I dont waste my time.....and you move onto the next person........
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Why am I always just the friend?
Posted: 4/28/2009 6:02:45 AM
I believe what happens alot of times are that guys just get to comfortable to quick......

You believe that you have found someone and there is some sort of relationship starting so you dont have to put forth as much effort as you did to get the girl......

I'll tell you from my point of view.....most women want and love the attention a man gives......so when you are giving your all in the beginning thats part of what the attraction is......and then if you start to think that you can get lazy and maybe not call so much.....or not get together so much.....or just sit on the couch instead of going out and doing something so much ( things you did in the beginning).....they start to become less attracted and move on........

one thing I have learned in my years.......dont ever take anyone or anything for granted........you might turn around someday and they are gone........

just my opinion good luck!
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
General friend rules...
Posted: 4/28/2009 5:54:59 AM
You should be mad at yourself for taking a friend along to meet a girl you are interested in........if she was that afraid to meet you alone then she probably wasnt the girl for you.........ok she obviously wasnt because sounds like shes with your best friend now.......
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
 
High Maintenance versus Being Realistic
Posted: 4/28/2009 5:48:07 AM
I dont believe its material things that makes someone sexy........I believe its all in how you come across to people........If you are confident ( not arrogant).....have a great personality.....know what personal hygine means...basically if you like yourself......then I dont believe it matters if you have one pair of shoes or a million and I dont believe it matters if you are in a little black dress or a pair of jeans and a ball cap you will feel sexy and come across that way.......but thats JMO....


most times I believe less is more!
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Dating Older Woman But Cannot Figure Her Out
Posted: 4/26/2009 2:01:27 PM
Why dont you do the obvious and ask her about not responding to your text messages ????? You said on your dates you have great communication.... we can give you all the advice under the sun but i'm sure we dont have the whole story and you do.......so if you dont want to talk to her and find out what shes feeling then maybe you should move on........

" Communication"
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
How to get the message across nicely and effectively?
Posted: 4/25/2009 4:27:54 PM
Block him.......then you wont have to worry about getting anything across.....if he obviously dosent want to be just friends then whats the point in receiving or sending messages to him????
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
skittish about callng
Posted: 4/25/2009 4:24:45 PM
If I have talked to someone and they were friendly emails and the person seemed to have a sense of humor and asked to talk on the phone......why not call???? there is no harm in a phone call......use your cell and block your number if you arent comfortable with him having yours......you can get a better sense of someone from hearing their voice then reading emails.....JMO
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 114 (view)
 
Impatient To Meet?
Posted: 4/25/2009 4:21:06 PM
I think after you talk to them a few times then you should talk on the phone to see if you can pick up on some of their personality and if they seem cool to you then meet for coffee.....why drag it out.....if there is no chemistry after the meeting you just wasted alot of time...... I know alot of women do it for the safety factor they believe they can know the person better but frankly....if the person is a wacko hes probably a manipulator too so just make sure its a safe public place and other people know where you are......really all you can do.....
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Am I delusional?
Posted: 4/25/2009 3:48:48 PM
Try smiling and acting positive.......

I dont know anything about you but just from reading the thread its coming across as a downer.......

Most women would attract faster to a warm smile and a cheerful profile or post!!

good luck!
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 48 (view)
 
A question for the ladies
Posted: 4/25/2009 3:40:25 PM
Take her to see a dr..... her hormones could be going out of wack......that will cause mood swings and less desire for sex.....and if it has nothing to do with that......then you have bigger issues to deal with.......good luck!
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Smoking....In the House?
Posted: 4/25/2009 3:34:03 PM
Its not like you are asking her to do something you are not willing to do also......if she has a problem with it........tell her to stay in her garage apt........
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 67 (view)
 
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 4/24/2009 5:27:07 PM
Its perfect if you want to end a relationship
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Get her to understand?
Posted: 4/24/2009 5:18:14 PM
see a marriage counselor
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Piercings and Tattoo's!
Posted: 4/24/2009 5:13:42 PM
If a man has a tattoo or two that isnt overkill and it can be covered up then I really dont care.......but guys that are covered with them......I'm definitely not into that...

and piercings on a man.....definitely NO!.....
 cogie36
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
OK, New here: How long do you wait until you decide.....
Posted: 4/24/2009 5:06:33 PM
I'm not miss patient because like everyone else I have things to do......so if i'm agreeing to meet someone I expect them to be on time just as they should expect me to be on time........there are circumstances that happen and if you are running late there is a phone and there is no excuse not to make the call......if it were 15 mins and no call.......i'd leave.....because IMO....thats just rude.....
 
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