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 Author Thread: Are women who message first treated/viewed differently on here?
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Are women who message first treated/viewed differently on here?
Posted: 1/27/2013 6:55:45 PM
I don't make a distinction between the ones who contact me first and the ones that I contact first, so my answer is no. Its not desperate or forward to politely indicate a possible interest in someone.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
is it better to ignore or send an no thanks, reply?
Posted: 1/21/2013 6:34:22 AM
The best thing is to not answer if you are not interested. Don't be too invested in sparing people's feelings. I mean a lot of the messages are just the same message sent to a hundred people at a time. If someone becomes annoying or nasty, just instantly cease all communication and block them. Anyway, you have to haver the attitude that if someone's not interested in what I have to bring, I don't see that as a rejection of me. I mean, they have their own needs and desires. Its not all about me.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 142 (view)
 
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 1/21/2013 6:26:56 AM
a lot of guys are the traditional way. After returning from the pub on Saturday night, its two minutes of pushups with the lady underneath, while she counts the cracks in the ceiling, then rolling off and falling into a deep sleep. Seriously, though, women will generally appreciate a guy who takes his time, and thinks of her pleasure as well as his.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Being the bait vs. Being the fisherwoman
Posted: 1/16/2013 1:29:36 PM
Take heart, just because a man that you contact doesn't reply doesn't mean that he thinks there is something wrong with you. He may be pretty inactive, not checking his messages, or has little free time, or is just in an indecisive phase (note: Not all guys are highly motivated action man types). Also, the bewildering size and variety of POF is difficult for many people to sort out. Its like walking into a Baskin Robbins and finding out that there are 4,000 flavors of ice cream.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
How do I know???
Posted: 1/16/2013 1:18:06 PM
There is no problem with wanting the man to take the initiative and take the first move, but it would help if you made sure he noticed you and you should bat your eyelashes in his his direction and smile at him a bit, so he knows you are interested. Otherwise, he might not try at all, nor notice you.
I know that a lot of these things are easier said than done, but still once you get past really young ages (under 25), men like women would mostly like a solid relationship too.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
How soon should I wait?
Posted: 1/14/2013 11:26:31 PM
Any 100% formula of how long to wait before having sex won't work. It's OK for people to sleep together the first time they meet because sometimes the attraction is simply too strong to resist. On the other hand, if they do it because of alcohol or manipulation, its not so good.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
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American guys vs European guys.
Posted: 9/20/2012 7:42:07 PM
Also, life in Europe is less convenient- no drive-thru windows, less parking, and fewer escalators, so people have to walk more.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 53 (view)
 
men do you like it when women take control in bed?
Posted: 8/29/2012 4:04:38 PM
Well, sometimes, not all the time. The rest of the time, I appreciate a bit of response and involvement from the woman- More than just lying there not moving and counting ceiling tiles.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Do men really care if a woman has an orgasm????
Posted: 7/26/2012 8:43:23 AM
Yes. Yes. Yes
Sex is about both giving pleasure and receiving it. It is a shot in the arm to anyones esteem to know that they are hot enough and skilled enough to give their partner an orgasm.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
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Is it better to be the first person to have sex with her?
Posted: 7/19/2012 8:00:25 PM
The best relationship that I had in my life was with a woman whose virginity I took. All of the others were not virgins, in fact they all had a wide variety of men before I came on the scene. I'm going to be very politically incorrect and say that I would never dream of insisting on virginity, or even limited sexual experience in a woman. Partly because I tried to get as much sex as possible in my younger years. Still, some of the very solid marriages I know of are ones where the husband was the first man in his wife's life.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Question For Women- What kind of kinks are dealbreakers?
Posted: 7/10/2012 8:11:30 AM
Yes bestiality or nasty bodily fluids are not popular in POF, and rightly so. Though I have seen a few women in these forums express a liking for peeing on guys in the shower or vice-versa.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
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Question For Women- What kind of kinks are dealbreakers?
Posted: 7/10/2012 7:51:13 AM
Nowdays, women as well as men are able to explore the deviant side of the street, and explore everything from BDSM to exhibitionism. The question is when is it exciting and hot, and when is it head for the exits, get away from me time?
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 104 (view)
 
A guy who doesn't read books. Deal breaker?
Posted: 7/4/2012 3:47:56 PM
Throughout my life, 90% of the relatively few people I have come across who actually enjoy reading have been female.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Guys shouldn't be on the hook for child support in all cases [Thread Locked for Lack of Content]
Posted: 7/4/2012 3:46:00 PM
In my state, Massachusetts, all a guy has to do is live with a woman with children by one or more other men, for a brief time, and then a judge will find him liable to pay many years of child support if they break up. I think that the man should only have to pay child support in two cases- If they are his biological children, as documented by a paternity test, or if they were married for some period of time.


Don't post such misinformation and half truths again, just to stir things up. If you're going to post stuff like this post facts and reference the relevant statutes and regulations. You're doing nothing but trying to start a gender bashing thread and if you don't know better, you should.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 145 (view)
 
Do women like men who like Feet?
Posted: 7/4/2012 3:09:25 PM
Do Women like men who like feet? No, No, and again No.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 55 (view)
 
How Young is Too Young in a Mate?
Posted: 6/28/2012 6:03:53 PM
Most of the women I've had have been close to my age. Still, there's a woman at my work who's dropping pretty broad hints about wanting me, and she's 27 to my 54. I'm tempted to take her up on it, even though it might be unwise, since not only is she a co-worker, she is my subordinate.
Still, I'm tempted. After all, as I look back on my life up to now, I'm impressed by the number of times that I did something reckless and managed to talk my way out of getting in trouble. I must be just persuasive enough to stay one step ahead of the law.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Mens toys
Posted: 6/28/2012 4:51:01 PM
Where I live, its sort of a paradise for the higher-paid blue-collar worker. Lately, however, I've been seeing a lot more of those snowmobiles, boats, motorbikes with a for sale sign on them. No doubt its the economy. Maybe we'll go back to being like England in the 1930s when most people went around by bus, train, or bicycle, with the slightly better-off being able to afford a very minmal motorbike of the moped variety. Cars? Only for the well-off
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Why risk losing EVERYTHING?
Posted: 3/21/2010 10:43:52 AM
The reason why famous men cheat a lot is that they have a lot more opportunities. Many women are turned on by fame and throw themselves at a celebrity. It is not hard to imagine that after they get woman after woman giving them phone, numbers, room keys etc., that they can give way to temptation.
What has changed today, is that the press no longer covers up for cheaters the way they used to.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 214 (view)
 
What does voluptuous mean to you?
Posted: 2/7/2010 8:17:01 PM
Lots of curves- shaped like a woman, not an 11-year-old boy.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 306 (view)
 
What words would you LEAST like to hear after sex?
Posted: 2/6/2010 5:41:05 AM
I've noticed that the ceiling needs re-painting.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 136 (view)
 
Is porn ruining real live sex?
Posted: 2/6/2010 5:38:03 AM
I would say that with certain guys, porn spoils their enjoyment of actual, real women, since the women of porn are so unreal. Where do they find all of those long-legged blond babes with perky tits and firm asses? Most of them are Eastern European, especially from Russia and the Ukraine, and porn is their ticket to a better income. Me, I grew up in the suburbs surrounded by tall blond cheerleader types, so that look bores me mostly.
I do think that there is a side of most men that can relate to quick, anonymous, no-strings attached sex. I mean, any man who does anything violent or glamorous- the rock stars, Navy Seals, professional athletes, and organized crime etc, gets surrounded by willing groupies. You don't hear those men complaining.
The internet has revolutionized porn, that's for sure.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 96 (view)
 
Hooked on having a FWB?
Posted: 2/6/2010 5:23:40 AM
A lot of it is supply and demand. Given that with single women, about 60% of them are chasing the top 30% of men, those men can have all the FWBs they want. I think women are more geared to looking for romance, but maybe while they are looking for their 6 foot 3 windsurfing stockbroker, they can maybe settle for a FWB arrangement.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 3206 (view)
 
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/15/2010 9:31:10 AM
I guess long-term dating without sex is possible for some people, and it no doubt exists, but I don't know anyone who practises that, and its not for me.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Why is there a rush to meet people from online chat and e-mails?
Posted: 1/15/2010 9:28:47 AM
I would say that three weeks or so is plenty of time to check someone out. Be honest with yourself. Often when you met someone in person and were horrified by him, there were numerous red flags already evident- obvious lies, aggrssiveness, whining etc.
If you don't like what you see, just detach yourself. After all, a few e-mails does not commit you to anything.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
 
I need some advice from survivors of childhood abuse for better relationship with guys
Posted: 10/15/2009 3:45:02 PM
First advice to abuse survivors is to be up front about it, so that way there are surprises before you start a relationship with a guy.
Second, don't overreact to any new guy. While only a small percent of men are outright abusers, most men can yell or have bad moods or be controlling at least occasionally. Don't expect perfection, and don't run at the first sign of any problem. While you should absolutely not tolerate any abuse, all relationships run into at least minor problems.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 93 (view)
 
Men help me with Fellatio?? tips???
Posted: 9/17/2009 10:41:47 PM
You are thinking too much like a woman. Forget about the idea that you need to have a perfect technique for the guy to enjoy having sex. Remember, men usually enjoy sex. They can take for granted the fact that they will enjoy it. Their focus is on getting it in the first place. Because of women's generally weaker sex drive, they are able to say no to sex and be picky, so men have to work harder to get sex (unless they are Mick Jagger or Brad Pitt). and it takes more work for women to actually enjoy it.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Is the internet a good way to meet new people?
Posted: 7/13/2009 8:19:55 PM
There are some losers on the internet, but then again, there are plenty out there in the real, non-internet world.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Is the internet a good way to meet new people?
Posted: 7/13/2009 6:58:06 PM
I think it is a good way to meet people. It probably works better for the women, since they get more replies/e-mails than the guys. Also, the internet gives people total control over how much of themselves they reveal. This works especially well for the women, since they can filter out the perverts and weirdos. In a way though, its almost like there are too many choices, so its too easy for someone to be too picky or too indecisive.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
how would you react if your son /daughter told you they where gay 2
Posted: 6/1/2009 4:33:12 PM
If I found out that my son or daughter was gay, I would feel sorry for them, since their life will be harder. I used to disapprove of homosexuality, but when I saw the radical muslims killing them, such as the Taliban in Afghanistan, I became more sympathetic to them. Plus. I realize that they do not choose their orientation.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
why do i keep wanting to go back?
Posted: 6/1/2009 4:29:04 PM
Its possible to find yourself hooked on someone who is wrong for you, so I don't want to judge. Make a conscious effort to avoid thinking about him, and try hard to find a new guy.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Brother or Sister
Posted: 5/29/2009 10:36:16 PM
As a child, I remember my sister when she was about 10, prancing around in a short skirt with no panties on. She was all naively excited that people could catch a glimpse of her coochie.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/6/2009 10:38:04 AM
The guys that are heavily into one-night stands often succeed. They are aggressive and focussed, and in getting sex, just like selling door-to-door, aggressiveness, persistence, and single-mindedness pay off. Also, knocking on more doors helps. Of course, they would probably be better off in a long-term relationship with a woman, but they don't see it that way.
In a very young man, bedding huge numbers of women gets them admired. In an older man, it starts to look undignified and silly, as if they are trying to stay a kid forever.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Religion and sex in dating
Posted: 5/6/2009 10:30:37 AM
I always get depressed when I see how narrow, blinkered, and self-defeating these religion posts are. They always degenerate into people who were raised as Christians whining about how oppressive Christianity is. In the meantime, an actual real-life religion, Islam is slaughtering and opressing Christians and Jews in huge numbers, but the responses of too many people is the sort of vague, bored, and perfunctory attitude that well all religions are equally bad, didn't we have the crusades centuries ago. They don't get it.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
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Think there's hope here?
Posted: 11/17/2008 9:07:55 PM
No. sounds like its still worth gettung back together
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
He used to be a drug dealer...
Posted: 11/12/2008 10:34:28 PM
He will always be vulnerable to returning to that life, though age will slow him down and make him more cautious. I would say only continue with him if he has really dropped the drugs for a long time, and you're sure of it.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Could you get past this.....
Posted: 11/12/2008 10:27:16 PM
If you want to continue this friendship, I would tell her that I had no idea that you felt this way, you should have communicated it, that you can't read minds. Say that if I had heard this earlier, I might have acted differently. Now, the ball is in her court, and if she wants to continue the friendship, it is up to her to make some statement to patch things up. If she doesn't want to, move on. People change, and quite possibly she isn't the same person now that she was a few years ago.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Good Places to eat, and good places to take a date
Posted: 11/12/2008 8:55:08 PM
In the North Shore, Victoria Station in downtown Salem, MA. Low-key, relaxed atmosphere, decent view of the harbor. Good but unexciting food and drink.
 RossMc
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 62 (view)
 
30 and never married?
Posted: 11/4/2008 10:06:10 PM
If you're over 30 and have never been married, you're too picky.
 
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